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@MuzzaFitness

9 күн бұрын

Seems you forgot 😢

@KLOWNZILLAA

9 күн бұрын

I have no Friends only Associates. The closer you allow someone to get, the more they feel compelled to take a dump on you. I was a good friend to a lot of people they are no were to be found now I was a kind of dude. That would take a shirt off of his back and hand it to you. Not anymore. People are liars, thieves, betrayers deceivers. And only care about their own self-interest. At the cost of your loss their Gane People are to not be trusted. The majority of people are the Borg Sheep And we'll follow anybody blindly off of a cliff. To top it off women are the worst with that va double x They have completely destroyed their bloodlines and lineage. I couldn't even have kids with women Without thinking about that. And I Have stopped addiction myself. I did not Attend. NA or AA So that's all rubbish. A person will stop when they're ready and if they're not, they won't. Go to jail and see just how many friends you have. 0 And then get out and see how many friends you have.0 People are Trash Hot Garbage No principles. No civics. No morals. No ethics.

@india-skyecharlton9314

9 күн бұрын

How do you see messages on KZread? Thanks

@r3ma1n

9 күн бұрын

❤

@Metso-ateco

9 күн бұрын

I have strong legs due to cycling alot👍

When my wife and I were in our twenties, we had lots of friends . In the last 2 decades, things have changed drastically. Many of our friends stopped returning our calls, or cancelled events at the last minute. “Too busy”. “Not feeling good/sick”. Etc. Today people are plenty entertained with their smartphones and apps, and don’t feel the need to connect with others as much. As a social species, we are not headed in the right direction.

@JM-rs2nt

8 күн бұрын

Same experience. I do have to say most of the social interaction was arranged by women in regard to couples socializing. What I found was that as we approached late 30’s, many couples started divorcing. Those who have 4 or more kids, as we did, stayed together and just got consumed in investing our time in our family & work.

@x2oChannel

7 күн бұрын

@@JM-rs2ntWe also lost some friends after they divorced. Relationship dynamics just aren’t the same when you see these people alone, or with a new partner. Thank god, I am fortunate to have a partner who also happens to be my best friend.

@Bunny11344

7 күн бұрын

I’m one of those people who don’t put in the effort with friends anymore cause at the end of my day the last thing I want to do is talk to anyone unless it’s my bf and even then I could go days without talking to him we just text. You gotta consider people have to deal with other people at work on a daily basis and perhaps they’re just not interested in engagement. Downtime to one self is just as important if so more.

@hmh3808

6 күн бұрын

@@Bunny11344ppl have ALWAYS had to deal w ppl at work! Lol. Moreso in the past! Now u can work from home… friendship takes investment like all relationships, before social media u had to do it in person…and I do notice a lot of ppl under 45-50 may not have built the in-person history w their friends that keeps the bond alive. DOING Stuff together. Ppl u just text etc. I would call acquaintances.

@CaroLMilo-yz7fk

6 күн бұрын

With your testimonies in mind, the problem doesnt gravitate around technology, and reasonable parents certainly arent canceling on you/me because of screens. Why are we so busy? My feeling is that we procreate without receiving group support. The act has become a personal enterprise. Mind you, white people we stop living after we multiply - here in Ontario parks are essentially for children and for parents who supervise them - while Punjabi Indian grown ups are EVERYWHERE GATHERING IN PARKS DAILY. Not the women. The men. That opens up an entire topic on feminism and what it takes to maintain social integrity beyond procreation. It takes servants perhaps. But the existence of such a concept, where we gather naturally without a reason, gives me wings. It is humanely possible to invest in something else.

I am a strong believer in friendship, but I also had my life ruined by 3 friends in succession. Be careful who you call a friend.

My favourite part of this episode is Simon flipping the script and asking what you are struggling with Stephen. Please do this every time you have him on even if it is uncomfortable. That part was pure gold and so relatable. Also please don’t neglect each other for 3 years. If you don’t water your plants daily they wither away and die. Relationships are like compound interest ❤

@meilesverse

15 сағат бұрын

it made me question why he's in the relationship in the first place... also made me question my own life choices. i loved that part.

If you have 1 friend, you’re blessed, 2 you’re lucky, 3, hardly possible!

@OfficialShiPaladin

2 күн бұрын

blessed > lucky

@eurowerx4267

Күн бұрын

I just need 1 rock solid friend. One that tells you what you need to hear not what you want to hear! Their hard to find

The guy asking how to make friends probably helped a lot of the others to understand they're not the only ones struggling to make friends. A really brave question imo.

@kimsherlock8969

9 күн бұрын

Yeah I thought the same Seems a true individual mindset that directly asks a question of importance Does make a difference 🤔

@EUCvibes

9 күн бұрын

I struggle to be left alone

@CibitiPro

6 күн бұрын

Absolutely, the courage to voice such a personal struggle is commendable and likely resonated with many others. It's a powerful reminder that we all face similar challenges, and discussing them openly can foster a sense of solidarity and understanding. This kind of vulnerability can be a catalyst for deeper, more genuine connections.

At 53 I joined a community choir of 100 women and it's one of the best things I ever did. I have friends anyway but the sense of community and unity is just so lovely. Plus I love singing and never got the chance in my schools.

@lcclark1307

9 күн бұрын

That is a beautiful idea! Thank you!!!! I love to sing too!

@thejoyofsingingcanada

8 күн бұрын

As a singing teacher I totally love this comment!!

@theeggtimertictic1136

8 күн бұрын

@@thejoyofsingingcanada Our teacher moved to our town about 11 years ago but never really made any friends. She eventually joined a small book club of 4 people and they got talking. She tried to join a choir herself earlier but they were full ... so, long story short she decided to start her own choir and ... voila ... here we are!

@CibitiPro

6 күн бұрын

That's wonderful! Joining a community choir not only fulfills a passion for singing but also creates a sense of belonging and shared joy. It's a beautiful example of how engaging in community activities can enhance our social connections and enrich our lives, proving it's never too late to pursue new interests and form meaningful relationships.

I started doing the hard "I love you" with my relatives, all women, but even so, it's tough for them. The reward of hearing it from my Grandma was so great.

A friend with pure hearts will either be used or being taken for granted .

@F8Friend

Күн бұрын

Are you suggesting that anyone with a friend or friends has an impure heart? Well, you are probably right. It isn't about finding a perfect human being to be friends with. That person doesn't exist. It is about having a RELATIONSHIP where you practice being a good friend, good person, practice setting boundaries, practice being honest and vulnerable, test how helpful you can be, invest time in learning about the other person, giving them time to reveal themselves and what's important to them; and giving them gentle support and feedback and yes, a few laughs.

@user-hj9lg6le7b

14 сағат бұрын

@@F8Friend thus powerful insight thanks so much

When I was young, I had dozens of friends. We skateboarded in large groups. Fast forward to getting married, having 4 kids, and quitting skating because I simply can’t do it. Now I have virtually no friends. Just acquaintances. Family has become my new “friend”. I think this is common for people who take the family route in life. Everyone they once knew, falls away into oblivion. It is what it is.

@josiahamaze

9 күн бұрын

Didn't take the family route still ain't got deep friends. I think its just adulthood.

@NikolaTeslaEE

9 күн бұрын

@@josiahamaze that’s part of it for sure. #Adulting

@serendipidus8482

9 күн бұрын

Indeed if your friendships are based on skating then they were probably aquaintances too. I assume hes talking about young people. Older people dont have that many friends but they have many aquaintences at their various events and they make connections with people they meet but dont need to keep going back to that person. Like as older people i might meet an amazing couple on holiday and we get on great but im not going to call them when my holiday is over. I might go to a bar and have a great night with some neighbours but im not calling them the next day ...when you're a kid you go dkating every weekend so you see the same people. You have a common interest. If you played racket ball now youd see your racket ball buddies every week too. Or however often you did racket ball.

@christoferrage

9 күн бұрын

It’s a choice and sacrifice. You could have kept skating and maintained friendships but you or your friends chose not to at some point.

@NikolaTeslaEE

9 күн бұрын

@@christoferrage that’s an oversimplification of it. People grow up, people move away, and people become very different politically and religiously. People with no wife no kids live a completely different lifestyle than ones with. I physically could never skate again, so I picked up other sports and activities. But it was mostly distance, lifestyles and values that drove us all apart. As an adult, I’ve come to realize that I don’t need friends as much as I need my family.

😂. It’s not because we can’t make friends. It’s because people don’t know how to be friends.

@annieaviles4760

9 күн бұрын

Which he speaks on “we lost the ability to serve each other”

@AnnaAtl

9 күн бұрын

Truth.

@davidmwilliams7052

9 күн бұрын

people don't know what true friendship is for one friend's keep you safe from yourself and others true friends don't go the wrong way with you RAISE YAH

@ninilustig

9 күн бұрын

Agreed, I wish you all good luck to find the right friends, friends is like what, contact list long, or a call they are always there for you…or opposite, but I don’t need friends, …I have my issues but I don’t feel lonely, that’s how he feels, not mine…

@JohnRoberts-uq6hn

9 күн бұрын

I don't want more friends. I don't like people.

Simon is incredible - literally, everything he says is so connecting, life-affirming and reassuring. SERVICE IS EVERYTHING!!! He is so right - that feeling of purpose, connection and getting out of our own head/self-pity/first-world problems. And friendship is service - this is it!

@CibitiPro

6 күн бұрын

Simon’s insights truly resonate. Service to others is a profound way to find purpose and forge meaningful connections. By shifting our focus from self-centered concerns to acts of kindness and empathy, we not only enrich our own lives but also build a stronger, more supportive community. Friendship, rooted in service, embodies this beautifully.

@gThomasHagg

3 күн бұрын

Individualism is, among other things, your ability to choose your own truly meaningful social connections. Individualism does not create loneliness or illnesses. It is a fundamental part of the solution.

Thank you for choosing me! That voucher was a life saver. I will forever be grateful to you and the team😁

@Marysservant

6 күн бұрын

Congratulations! Happy for you! 😊

@evka24

5 күн бұрын

Congratulations 🎉

I am finding this heart wrenching to watch. My daughter is kind, funny, autistic, intelligent, creative & socially isolated. Her best friend is her brother- who is her only friend. She is 26 but socially about 14-16 years old (by 1980’s standards not 2020’s). It’s hard to find facilities, resources & to activate her motivation in seeking out spaces where she could meet potential friends

@dh12.

9 күн бұрын

Get her a dog that likes long walks

@reneezaia

9 күн бұрын

I feel for you. My sister (now in spirit) had an intellectual disability. She didn’t have many friends. Not everyone could see her magic but I used to take her with me to a lot of social functions with my friends who loved her. There are great people out there. Sending best wishes to your daughter for the most amazing and wonderful friendships. ❤

@calista1280

9 күн бұрын

Have you tried sitting in the park and letting her play, possibly with the other kids? If she likes dancing, pottery classes etc or Tai Chi, which is very calming and restful, try checking out what classes are available at your local community center, classes are usually for 6 wks... Local church communities also have activities available and can be very uplifting and helpful for guidance on where else to find resources. Local parks and trails have adventure hikes, for birds, butterflies, Flora and fauna too! Short hikes or outdoor activities can really inspire her to try for more and are great social meeting places! Best to you and family 🤗🥰

@dawnchristine

9 күн бұрын

The real challenge is not to over protect her and thereby add to her isolation. Maybe volunteer work would be good for her self esteem rather than you seeking out resources which could have the opposite effect…I say this as someone who has been through it.

@zillashahzad4969

9 күн бұрын

I have a teenager who has autism and she really struggles with friendship. I take her out with me to visit family and friends all the time so she can get used to people of all ages. Having friends of all ages does help. But flow I think is very important. If she sees you actively socializing, she hopefully will get acclimatized and will start. Hope this helps.

Part of friendship is the ability to make small talk and spend long hours together. I rarely see people willing to invest these resources in another person. Friendships are not about convenience. They are sometimes about sacrifice of valuable time and effort.

@Msnaima85

9 күн бұрын

It’s easier to make excuses for not wanting to make an effort.

@daustin14441

6 күн бұрын

This sooo true. Love /friendship is an action not just a feeling. It is time consuming, inconvenient and deeply satisfying😊

@violetviolet888

3 күн бұрын

@user-og2wt3le4j: A friendship is not about sacrifice, it's about making time because you want to, not because you have to.

@stevenschuster

2 күн бұрын

100% legit. Friendships require work. Its not for this age of convenience.

I have never commented on any of these amazing podcasts but this one has really hit me. I love the whole concept of the twelve step approach. Volunteering and giving back to others has literally been a life saver for me. So much to unpack with this, it resonated so much with me. Truly grateful.

@TheDiaryOfACEO

2 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing. Really happy this one resonated with you. Team DOAC 🙏

@peter-cj5fo

Күн бұрын

12 step approach is conditional on being completely abstinent from all substances. I can't share be sponsored working a program or sponsor anyone if I use cannabis LSD MDMA etc even though I may be sober from alcohol for decades..... It's bonkers.

I love that he questioned Steve - it’s refreshing to hear Steve speak more so from a personal level

It’s because we’ve become selfish. Friendship has become about how I can benefit instead of appreciating life that is shared for the sake of it in it’s simplest, no hidden agenda form.

@user-og2wt3le4j

9 күн бұрын

I agree. Real friendship has become a problem. I was told a man is lucky if he has two close friends at the end of life. Women will have more, maybe 5-6. Selfishness has become a hurdle to maintaining long-terms friendships.

@ganymeade5151

9 күн бұрын

We live in an age of narcissism, elitism, self-promotion, and competition that causes many people to use others badly.

@rumi885

9 күн бұрын

So true! So sad! What a shallow society we have become

@r34ct4

9 күн бұрын

@@ganymeade5151 This

@JohnStockton7459

9 күн бұрын

And why did we become selfish?

Real friendship involves more than just keeping in touch. It requires that you and your friend display love, empathy, patience, and forgiveness. Those qualities ultimately make a friendship rewarding.

@evka24

5 күн бұрын

Exactly and many people don’t see that

@deb.m.7458

4 күн бұрын

I agree. Lots of conversations where one person does all the talking about themselves. People are socially awkward and it’s all about me. We’ve lost the art of making friends.

He makes an excellent point around 15:30. There are fewer friends to go to when things are going great. That is painfully true. 95% of friends don't like it when you upgrade your life. They are not supportive. They are jealous of that success because you are moving up while they stay in the same place, stagnating.

@violetviolet888

3 күн бұрын

@Internal.Inferno: This just means they were never good "friends" to begin with.

@noramaddy4409

Күн бұрын

I think almost all acquaintances and friends are supporting, but some might wirhdraw from your contact because they conclude that you will slowly withdraw from them as a matter of fact due to the fact you will have less time for them in the future. People and circumstances change, and that is ok.

Hey man, this is probably the best episode yet. I listen to these while driving, this one felt like 2 mates on a road trip, just talking shit out. I felt part of the conversation. Simon is one of my favorite motivators, he has helped me better myself both privately and in my roll as a project manager in construction. Well done DOAC. Please keep putting these out.

@Bunny11344

7 күн бұрын

Idk man it just makes me feel like the DOAC seems superficial asf. He interviews all these people who give great genuine advice but he can’t even take them. He seems difficult to deal with

@instructormutts

5 күн бұрын

All good to have an opinion and I don't knock you for having that at all. If I could ask a question back to you, do you listen to these pod cast to watch the growth in Steven, or to take advice for you own betterment?

Before you can be a friend to anyone else, you must like yourself.

@NBnNC

5 күн бұрын

I think a whole podcast episode needs to be dedicated to what u just said…. I think it might be the root of the issue

@JoeBrown-bt4qg

4 күн бұрын

well, it is difficult to like yourself if your mind sees that nobody likes you

@eurowerx4267

Күн бұрын

@@JoeBrown-bt4qgif youre the common denominator, it’s time to look at yourself!! Their likely seeing something you don’t or are refusing to see!!

@nevalans9524

14 сағат бұрын

That’s a lifetime process

@youtuber-cc8sx

9 сағат бұрын

No. Remove “must” from your internal dialogue entirely.

A friend of mine once told me a friendship is like a savings account where both parties add to. However, you add what you can. So if you only have a coin or a cent to give which equate to a phone call or a pop over for 5 minutes. Thats what you give. But the rule is you always have to add even if its a little. And no one takes out if they are not putting in. Changed my perspective on friendship

@Toccup1

6 күн бұрын

Yes and the key word is BOTH !

@evka24

5 күн бұрын

You should say no one should be allowed to take if they don’t put in.

Just turned 30 yesterday.. dont have a single friend. It hurts my soul to the core

@Sufferfish

9 күн бұрын

I hope you find a friend I hope I do too. It is so sad yo have work acquaintances but can't connect with them as proper friends. I see old men and women with strong friends and even large friendship groups and I'm so envious because I'm in my 30s too and it's just crazy. Best time of my life was 14 to 20 when I had a great friendship group and a best friend I miss it so much

@Starfish2145

9 күн бұрын

So sorry young person …sending you a virtual hug.

@Brooklynbaby47

9 күн бұрын

😢😢 happy belated birthday, I hope you make a new friend soon.

@brittanydavis4546

8 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that. Happy birthday 🎉

@Soni-bl7tz

8 күн бұрын

Happy Belated. I hope you can make a strong connection soon

I have been disappointed by long standing friends last year while I had cancer. I had always been there for them and they were not there for me. One of the things I have learned is that several of the friends I have parted from, have disappointed me because I have outgrown them and my old patterns and they did not grow with me. A good friend is someone who is there for you rain or shine and who you can have a hard talk with and will do whatever it takes for the relationship to make it, meaning also doing the work and growing. A good friend will never use your vulnerability to hurt you. Not everyone has the necessary emotional maturity it takes to be good friends through thick and thin. Advise that applies to romantic relationships apply to friendships. Simple.

@yasser.internet

4 күн бұрын

Sorry for what you went through. I couldn't agree more. If someone can be a great friend, they'd make a great partner too. And only time tells you how trustworthy someone is or isn't. Only a few folks are as compassionate or considerate as they ought to be.

@juliearaujo1

Күн бұрын

One thing that may happen (and it has happened to me) is as one very good friend of mine started being "more sucessful" i just started not liking anymore her new persona. It is not that you outgrow people.... sometimes people were happy with who you were and now they do not enjoy this new version of you. My childhood friend became more money driven, more superficial, values money related things and people...wants a lifestyle that I dont like, with people I dont like.... if you question her, maybe she will say that she outgrew me, and the truth is that I just dont like her anymore.

@aquarius1986

Күн бұрын

My mom also had that experience during her cancer. One of our oldest and best family friends just never called and completely disappeared. When finally she talked to him she said “you know I have cancer, right?” And he said “yes” and that was that. Only one of her friends helped or brought her anything and she has many good friends unlike me. I grew up around my parents’ friends and thinking I will also have great friends when I grow up. The internet has ruined my generation and Gen Z, no one wants to be or have friends now. A disagreement or argument leads to the end of the friendship. It’s all selfishness.

Growing up, I was always impressed by the way my late father managed to keep his highly stressful jobs from spilling into our family time about 85% of the time. Yes, I would occasionally tag along to events that were tangentially related to his work, but they were events I enjoyed anyway, so I didn't complain. But he showed us, in words and deeds, that he valued his family just as much, if not more, as he did his work.

A way I battle depression, is to be of service. When I volunteer, I feel infinitely better. I will say, finding a good church and community has helped a ton as well. Remote working has been such a blessing to me. Being with my children more, taking them and picking them up from school, making them a real dinner, not commuting 90 minutes a day, etc has changed my life for the better. I still feel connected to people at work but honestly, they’re my work friends and I’d much rather spend time with my family.

@jac1161

9 күн бұрын

working remotely when you don't have a family, is quite the opposite, or falling disabled from medical neglect, as an extrovert.... I agree with the serve thing, m\y career as a nurse ..that's all I did, off and on shift....but we also need balance and while I see the good from your view, it's not every ones' view :(

@yvetteowo5318

8 күн бұрын

@jac1161 - you described what I've been dealing with. It's hard for others to get it.

@anusha2465

3 күн бұрын

​@@jac1161it has been a blessing for majority. I do agree about the minority though.

Remote work is the best! It gives me 2 hours back in my life and helps save the planet from air pollution and other pollution.

@edwhite2255

4 күн бұрын

WFH lets me play tennis with friends right after work vs sitting in traffic commuting

@Kellycreator

19 сағат бұрын

I completely agree! Unpaid travel time, that actually costs you! I’ve worked from home for sixteen years as I wanted to be there for my boys after school and during the holidays. I’d start before 6am and finish by midday. By the time they got up, I’d almost finished work!

Wow. Simon Sinek truly understands human relations. His insights and answers are spot-on, providing profound perspectives that resonate deeply. Implementing even one of his recommendations would elevate my soul to a higher level ❤

My thighs are super strong because I am so lonely lol. Im a late diagnosed autistic woman and i have few friends or family. Instead i hike for miles and miles alone with my dog in the forest.

@willbalkovec2631

9 күн бұрын

Correction: You hike for miles and miles with your best friend in the forest. Lost my pup a year and a half ago - miss him every single day.

@sportysbusiness

9 күн бұрын

I have 2 dogs and I'm not lonely, they ARE my best friends and family.

@Starfish2145

9 күн бұрын

I hear you sister. I’m not autistic. I’m a mom with a son in college but I’m divorced 13 years. All I do is work and walk my dog

@ebhs2202

9 күн бұрын

I would bet there are numerous people who would love to hike with you or be introduced to hiking.

@mjbogdanov

9 күн бұрын

Same here. Maybe sometimes visit the dog park. It's a start with others you already have something in common with. Good Luck, friend!!

It’s not the amount of friends, it’s that they’re all superficial.

@out_spocken

9 күн бұрын

I've got probably 2.5 legit friends. People I both want to hang out with because I enjoy their company and who they are and that I could ask for help and I'd know they would drop everything for me. Have always valued developing a few strong relationships over many lesser ones.

@guestmarga9701

9 күн бұрын

@@out_spockenwhat happend to the other 0.5 of your friend

@TheMemoryPolice

9 күн бұрын

or Alcoholics

@eli-yk7lx

Күн бұрын

🎯

I adore Simon! I had to look up his bio because I noticed his accent would flip from American to English and had to know more. He is so insightful with a mix of compassion and directness. Always inspirational!

@lulubelle53

8 күн бұрын

I thought Bostonian accent

@sarahfisher3457

7 күн бұрын

@@lulubelle53 that could be too!

@susanlee8023

7 күн бұрын

This is the comment I was looking for 🙏🏽

@gigifreefreed501

6 күн бұрын

I did the exact same thing! Totally agree.

@alenas6140

3 күн бұрын

Same! I'm glad someone else noticed it too!

Simon's voice sounds different to me now. I appreciate how angered passionate he got talking about friendships. I love how he said he didn't care that he left millions on the table. It is exactly what I thought during the "wtf" pause after Steven's statement. Simon, you values speak to me!

Every time Simon is on this podcast he has wonderful things to say, I'm excited to hear that he's writing a book about friendship and can't wait for it to be done. The only point of disagreement is attendance in the office. I have very few things in common with the people I work with, I twisted and contorted myself to contribute to a better workplace and be a good colleague, as a result, I was bullied and told I was a problem. The requirement to spend my time in person with people who are committed to criticising and excluding others is traumatic and reduced my capacity to engage in friendships with people who I could have meaningful connections with which resulted in loneliness. Work shouldn't be the centre of our connections.

@angelachouinard4581

9 күн бұрын

If you find a workplace with congenial and compatible people you are blessed. For the most part though the purpose of the workplace is the welfare of the company not the people and an extremely toxic competitiveness is the norm. In all my years I made only one lifelong friend at work. Some were fine but after changing jobs the relationship faded. I always told people not to count on work for friends.

@lcclark1307

9 күн бұрын

Agree 100 percent to invest energy in friends outside of work. It’s rare when we can have true friends in the workplace, but it can happen. We have friends for a reason, a season or a lifetime. (Iyanla)

@Kellycreator

17 сағат бұрын

That doesn’t sound much fun and perhaps your expectations of others in the workplace is too much. You’re there to work, to make money for you, your life. It’s great to get on with work colleagues but I always make a rule not to count them as friends. That way there’s no disappointment and if you change jobs, you’ll still have your true friends. Try going to a local activity in your area. Volunteer on litter picking days, involve yourself with the local church, dog shelter, zoos also have volunteer programs. There’s so much out there. Step out of your comfort zone and give it a go! 😊

I love remote. I am an introvert and all the trash talk in the office was hard to handle. I work much better when i have a quite Environment. Now we have open office space with 40 people desk to desk so that we "connect" more but the opposite happend. Everyone is afraid to talk to anybody because they feel watched and people hear their conversations. There is more frustration because you have to be careful what you do and what you say. You can't complain because your Boss is sitting next to you. So everybody pretends to be happy and put a fake smile on their faces.

@elizabethbaxter54

9 күн бұрын

i am an extrovert and prefer remote. office friendships certainly have value, but in my experience they tend to be too managed, and dare i say transactional most times. I prefer spending the “extra” time nurturing the relationships that genuinely enrich my life.

@janeEriley

9 күн бұрын

At least you are around other people and can communicate if you would like to. People who live alone, and work alone; that is no good at all.

@elizabethbaxter54

8 күн бұрын

@@janeErileyi agree with you. there is no one-size-fits-all solution.

@rayzerot

8 күн бұрын

​@@janeEriley"At least you are around other people" You missed the point. That's a big negative for them. It would be a good fit for you. I feel bad that you aren't in a situation that helps you thrive. They are in a situation that keeps them from thriving too though. It ceates stress and actively harms them. So it's not "At least you are around other people" for them

@SimpleModernWoman

8 күн бұрын

Introvert here. Extroverts in my office were more vocal and set the standard for office culture. Lots of vapid, disruptive talking. I live alone and work remote. I'm much more productive. I have friends outside work.

Simon! So excited to hear you're writing a book on Friendship! More Friendship is so needed in this modern world. People just don't realize what they are missing.

So appreciate the realness of Simon and the vulnerability of the host in this discourse and how the conversation opened up. Subscribed.

At this point in life after being betrayed by the friends I did have I'll be my own friend. I was always there for everyone, now I'm alone and no one wants to be bothered by the hard time I'm going through.

@AnnaAtl

9 күн бұрын

Yeah I feel this. For me, I think I've given more than I should have. I'm definitely a people pleaser and should I set clear boundaries in many situations.

@PaulaW-wq1kh

9 күн бұрын

I totally relate to every word. It's so disappointing and sad.

@debrawade9882

9 күн бұрын

@@AnnaAtl I've always been a people pleaser, I don't have a lot left to give. Now taking care of my elderly parents. I'm in a loveless marriage. I'm exhausted. Learning how to live without connection to people.

@debrawade9882

9 күн бұрын

@@PaulaW-wq1kh It is sad and feeling alone is hard, especially when you've always been there for everyone. Love your self ❤

@miguelitomarques8

9 күн бұрын

I'm living through this right now.

Our addiction to productivity is something that honestly needs to be addressed. Especially people between 45 and 30. We have a problem. Great conversation! And glad to hear you’ve bought a place in our beautiful country 🇿🇦

There are so many coaches and trainers on the international level. Hardly cannot take them seriously. Simon Sink, him I am able to appreciate, as he has the right mixture of I-values and We-values. Soooo refreshing

A couple times I’ve struck conversation with people in public places, like the salad bar in the grocery store and at storytime in the library, then the people I’ve talked with ended up trying to sell me something. It was so crushing.

I love Simon, could listen to him all day. When I moved in to my house after a very sociable life in the yachting industry, I went to volunteer at a local dog and donkey sanctuary and those people became like family. When I had my first child and my husband was at sea, I was surrounded by them and felt completely supported and safe. It could have been completely differently especially as I’m surrounded by fields rather than other houses 😅

For me this episode has been the most impactful of all your podcasts. I am extremely grateful for my friends who have supported me through the highs and lows of life. It is because of them that I have had a fulfilling life. Also it is so important to have friends in work places. They listen to my rants and vents, pat my back and push me onwards. Most importantly they don't give up on me even when I doubt myself. Even though several areas of my life are not sorted, I am truly grateful to this life for my band of sisters.

This is my single favourite podcast of the channel. Amazing real conversation.

On the work at home topic, i work at home but my community changed from my coworkers to family! Which oh mi gosh, i LOVE! I do believe there can be a better balance. The commuting is not only time consuming, its expensive and dangerous. I do hope we can all work to find a better balance, but im so very grateful for this privilege (working from home is absolutely a privilege!!!)❤🎉

The fear of being disliked, being criticized, not validate make people not dare to be who they are .. so they are all trying to fit in in a trend. Also the wake of all is good nothing is really bad.. leads to NO Values

@rbmindful

9 күн бұрын

Whatever else we are, we are social primates. The drive to establish and maintain social pecking order is powerful in us and that is frequently a less than pretty process. We are aggressive, competitive, and often downright mean.

@Jay-oz5zo

9 күн бұрын

"When everything is beautiful, nothing is beautiful" - stanley kubrick

@jac1161

9 күн бұрын

anti-social media and "smart"tech did this.Period. Rather, people who use them. I don't use it, so I'm not part of the problem.Anti-social media.

@kilaheem4486

8 күн бұрын

I appreciate this comment. There are people in my community I cannot stand but do I respect them for their authenticity, absolutely.

@dishang1526

8 күн бұрын

Simon is indeed right about friend!But why big corporation and hospitality industry don't want us to make friends with our colleagues..

This was such a brilliant interview! I love how Simon turned things around and started questioning Steven, and I could feel how Steven was getting uncomfortable with some obvious cuts! 😅 It made the episode more interesting. As a listener I appreciate when you don't shy off of being honest and vulnerable. Absolutely love Simon and his work. So interesting he talked about friendships, and while listening I paused and organised a lunch with a friend who‌ I know is struggling. Thank you both for all the wisdom you share with us. ❤️

I v spent my life time looking for my tribe. I finally feel like I have found them. It's a mix of different groups of people. Some from my childhood. Some are new, moms that I have met because of my child. And my man, who is turning into my best friend. This combination of people, have me loving my life. I am grateful for them, and we do a swell job of taking care of each other. I would've made it this far in my life without them.❤

It sounds like that 25 year old wanted a friendship group vs an employer. I've worked in places that had great social activities, and one where everyone was a shark, looking solely after themselves. I could do my job equally well in both environments. But when I left the more social company we had a big party. When I left the shark tank, my boss brought me for an expensive lunch, and then I left without writing a goodbye email to everyone, without there being a send off, and without even organising a going-away drink. I'm still good friends with the social company colleagues. I haven't spoken to anyone from the shark tank since I left.

Be your own best friend.

What helped me to feel connected in a likeminded community is beeing member of a citizen theatre ... being co-creative AND individual ... helping each other expressing their potential... celebrating success ... finding solution in crisis ... helping us "behind the curtain during the show" ... expressing deep feelings 🍀🎭🎉

... and then Simon turns the table and becomes Steven's coach in terms of relationship. Priceless. Simon you are amazing. ❤🎉

"You're the average of the 5 people around you." I met most of my closest friends during my worst times and shaped me to be who I am now. I also met my wife and married recently, she is also a very close friend and thanks to Steven we had the courage to start a KZread channel together to share knowledge! :)

@82lostsoul

9 күн бұрын

I’m screwed then, I only have three people I would call friends, everyone else proved over time they’re only here for what they can get or were never really friends in the first place…

@BrainiousPodcast

9 күн бұрын

@@82lostsoul Quality over quantity. It was one of Steve's guests who said that when people are asked how many people they could rely on, the avarage response was 0 which is very sad. We'll also consider to make KZread videos on friendships, we mentioned it's importance already in our Couple of Health Series.

@King311___

9 күн бұрын

Lies

@BrainiousPodcast

9 күн бұрын

​@@82lostsoul quality is more important than how many you have in numerical terms :)

@joycedropoog575

9 күн бұрын

@@82lostsoulat least you have 3. It can always be worse

For Steven: “How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.” Elizabeth Lesser, Broken Open The years go quickly. You have enough fish, Steven.

@imapersonnotanumber8940

8 күн бұрын

not necessarily for autistic people who need on the whole, routine and stability. change for them is very difficult/traumatic, and we should not speak on their behalf, we should try asking them how they feel, what is good for them, this is entirely missed on this.

best quote and insight in this clip/entire of my life: "You cannot have service without developing some sort of love You can't make friends until you learn how to serve because friendship is fundamentally service Friendship is an act of service"

Glad I’m old! I have friends. And I’m married to my best friend. When we were first married, we made friends through our dog at the dog park and then through our kids at school. Go to church. Also, the oldest advice is still the best: to have a friend, be a friend. Throw out the first ball and invite someone to coffee, etc. I also don’t diminish the upside of social media: connections to old friends.

My german shepherd is my best friend he looks out for me no matter what

I watch EVERY episode & I talk about this pod more than normal. I love the wide variety of guests that are leaders in their industry or have interesting life stories. I’ve learned so much over the years & am SO glad seeing this continue to grow. SO beyond well deserved!!!💜🥳

@memory648

8 күн бұрын

Me too. Its like my book of life.

1:12:05 thru 1:18 :47 is gold. What brings you joy, you give attention. What you water...grows.

I love this man. Simon Sinek speaks my heart and articulates what I have always seen as problematic in our societies… and I never understood why I was the only person who seemed to see that. I felt crazy to prioritize my relationships over my career or GETTING stuff… this man has integrity and he is COHERENT and CONSISTENT. You do INSPIRE Simon. Thank you.

I love that my kids school makes him do 40 hours of community service before he graduate high school. I think it’s a great blueprint for young people. Thank you so much for these podcasts. I love that you do you’ve got me hooked plus you seem like a really down-to-earth kind person. Thank you to you and your team.

@limerickman8512

6 күн бұрын

I had to do 4 weeks work experience, preferably close to the field I want to study the year before I leave secondary (High) school. It helped me focus on what I wanted to study for.

The part you discussed about the topic of giving or taking it made me think about an interesting fact. I live in Japan and the customer service experience here is so good. And it is because in their culture they give 100% with out expecting anything in exchange. To the point they don’t accept tips because it is expected already that they will give their best service and that it’s part of their job.

Wow! It’s a pleasure to listen to two intelligent, emotionally mature people who are passionate about making a difference in the world.

As a Catholic, I'd just like to say that since the Vatican II, in the 1960s, mass is celebrated in the local vernacular.

When you thought you had lost faith in humanity... you get Simon 🎉 The best podcast of this channel so far ❤ Two hours that flew away without being aware at all. Gratitude from Alsace, France 🇲🇫

@elizabethshedd1017

8 күн бұрын

I was a student in Strasbourg and *love* Alsace! Have some tarte flambee for me!

I've been a loner all my life,never had relationships,friends,and I'm as happy as can be. 0 drama,arguments,trust issues, or anything that disturbs my peace

@neftalemfikre8122

4 күн бұрын

mmm

@yasser.internet

4 күн бұрын

Umm. Friends are supposed to bring meaning, joy, and peace. If they don't/didn't, they're not friends in the first place.

@Spizort

Күн бұрын

I’m not saying you’re selfish but back up and see how selfish your words sounds. What are you giving?

@Pault3788

Күн бұрын

@@Spizort nothing

True real friends are always there and will ”remember ” you and ”willing” to spend time be with you during the bad days and great days ! You call your friends when you are in trouble or need help at the same time you should call your friends and celebrate when you are in your prime also. 😊

This has got to be one of the best podcasts I have ever watched, not only the best from your channel. Keep it going!

I'm good at making and keeping loyal friends!! How? Be the friend u need!

@deleted01

9 күн бұрын

If only it was that simple

@calista1280

9 күн бұрын

​@deleted01 I know your mind is blown! 🤯 BUT, IT REALLY IS THAT SIMPLE! 🤯 You can do something very rewarding and nurturing by volunteering at an animal shelter... Just sitting with, and if possible petting and holding a very scared, depressed dog or cat does wonders for them and YOU! If you can play in the yard or walk them a bit, even better! You'll be saving lives by helping them be more social and adoptable, because they're no longer feeling hopeless or depressed... While at the same time helping yourself feel useful and LOVED! 😍 🥰 💕 PS: Watch Rocky Kanaka videos where he's "Sitting with Dogs" to see how it's done... Find Hope, Love & Salvation. By giving of yourself, you will get back what you need, a thousand times over! 🎉 🥰🤗😘🎉🎁🎇

@GreenManGrowing

9 күн бұрын

Get your squats in.

@Catradora1987

9 күн бұрын

But the problem is, if you are a good friend, someone who likes to help and to give, you attract people who only like to take

@user-og2wt3le4j

9 күн бұрын

@@Catradora1987 Yes. There are the takers, the people who will bleed you dry. But there are others not in that boat. You need friends who are givers.

The reason I don't have friends is because I was attracting people who wanted to take from me but not give and as a giver I got drained so had to cut off everyone and start over it's been over two years in another country and I've met lots of people but I still struggle with keeping a friend and I believe alot of people are dealing with their own demons and I am someone who overcame the demons and I have healthy coping mechanisms. I don't abuse my body and I make sure I live in the moment with new people I meet even though they don't last. I believe God is gonna align me with the right people. A beautiful Woman like me is alone and that's how bad it is out here.

@kirstiedonaldson3686

9 күн бұрын

My story is similar, thanks for posting. I have been 7yrs in another country and I only have two good friends here, I spend a lot of time alone. As you have experienced, I seem to attract people who drain me and then give nothing back, and/or are irritated by my ability to cope and thrive. Don't even get me started on finding a love partner, that is pretty much the same story! xx

@secureboundaries

9 күн бұрын

@@kirstiedonaldson3686 Yes I am single and can't seem to find healthy man who can love me properly. I date but unfortunately they drain me and wanna control my life. Like you said they can't stand the fact that we can thrive and overcome instead of working and inspiring one another they would rather take me down and I just walked away from a man who I have been with for the last 4 months but as I visited him in his country which I regret because he treated me like an option and tried to mentally break me with abusive behaviour so I feel sad because I trusted him and I don't understand why people keep trying to take me down. I am learning to be happy on my own and not worry about who stays or leave. Just because I am learning to love myself and doin self care. They said I'm spoiled,. selfish and high maintenance. It's like we're not allowed to have healthy coping mechanisms. They would rather see me suffering. I believe this is why is better to be ok with being alone until the right people come because lots of people are mentally ill and they don't wanna get help because of their ego

This was the first time a guest questioned the host. This is how to be a friend. That interaction was nothing short of wonderful.

I think the work you are doing is such a service! People like me wouldn’t have access to the knowledge of the people you share and your reflections without your service. I hope you find your answers but please know I’m thankful for what you and your team have been doing.

Friendship is a lost art that will be the key to solving and preventing many problems.

I have admired Simon Sinek for close to ten years now, so glad you had him on! I will say as an American Evangelical his summary of Hillsong is hilarious (and a bit bittersweet). Being "relevant" can go a bit too far and people can smell the desperation of coffee bars and smoke and lights and pastors throwing in Gen Z lingo from a mile away. Churches should 1) Preach the Gospel (Gospel means "good news", btw) 2) Have radical love towards each other 3)show love and realness to the community they are in. If they genuinely enjoy and certain kind of music or "vibe" go for it, but make the Gospel the center... If all the "extra stuff" is the reason you go to church then when people like Kayne or church leaders from Hillsong "fall' you don't become so disenchanted that your whole faith system falls down with them.

@sonnyecho9195

6 күн бұрын

Truth. SMH at the dilution of the beauty and severity of the Gospel not being conveyed with people pleasing churches…got to get praying about that more for a radical passionate authentic and rational zeal renewed in the Gospel loving church. Revival. Good comment btw. Peace-

This is a conversation I will return to again and again. Not just the words of wisdom, but the interaction itself spoke volumes. Thank you for what you do. ❤

A true friend is someone who sees you as spiritually part of them. (ChatGPT said that was beautiful. I wonder if an LLM can really appreciate beauty or if it remember someone saying that.)

Gives that line from The Smashing Pumpkins song a whole deeper meaning . . . "Despite all my rage, I am still just a rat in a cage . . . "

Once you have a child you have a purpose and responsibility to your dying day and I think that's wonderful. No greater challenge than raising a child.

@akhilnasim336

9 күн бұрын

Dear friend, If that is your reason for having kids, so that you have a purpose till you die, then please don't have a kid. A kid is not a prop to fill up your purposeless life. It's a whole different living being with it's own thoughts and emotions. You would probably traumatize that kid of this is your mindset . Please have kids for the right reasons or don't have Kids at all. That would be ideal.

@lynne2774

9 күн бұрын

@@akhilnasim336 I think you have entirely missed my meaning, to devote yourself to the welfare of a child is a responsibility you choose as I did 3 decades ago. If you meant well in your comment you will have a clear conscience and be pleased to know a happy healthy adult is the result of having love and support. If you are a troll shame on you.

@eleanor5585

8 күн бұрын

@@akhilnasim336and you are exactly the example of where society goes wrong! The comment suggests that when you have a child, it becomes your purpose to give them the best! And it's true, I've my beautiful son and to my dying day giving him the best start and ensuring I always there for him. My life purpose has changed and this is not a bad thing! There's nothing wrong with this.

@rayzerot

8 күн бұрын

​"Devoting yourself to the welfare of your child" is NOT the same as "giving them the best" or spoiling the child. You're reading what you're looking for. The better interpretation of the words that they used is that they're taking full responsibility for the growth and development of the child into a healthy, functioning adult. The "welfare of the child" that comes from devotion and responsibility If I'm comprehending what they meant, they're actually what's right in society. The polar opposite of a dead-beat dad

@spudbono5747

7 күн бұрын

This thread is a great example of why people choose to not make friends. You say the most innocuous thing and someone decides to "correct" you. People are exhausting.

1h24 to 1h27 is pure gold. Speaking to get or speaking to give. A lot of people doing their job to get, not to give.

The unfortunate reality, especially in today’s economy, is that we put off commitments to friends when “work things” come up because our friends don’t pay our bills-the money we make from working does.

Amazing! If it's business, we take care of the work problem immediately, but problems regarding family and friends get deferred. Intensity over consistency. The countless little things build family & friend relationships. Truly one of the best interviews up here to recalibrate your thought process. You don't realize how we make things important that are completely irrelevant to our inner happiness.

I am so excited seeing that Simon Sinek is back on this show. I really understand why he is on a forth time!! His insights, honesty, passion, wisdom is extremely valuable!! It is such an interesting dialogue they have, each time!! Can not wait to get started!

@DignifiedKnight

9 күн бұрын

Facts I agree 100 percent. Steven and Simon have great chemistry together; I love how honest and vulnerable he is: and their conversations are so insightful and fascinating. I love Simon

For those wondering about the guest who kept mentioning their book, I believe it's the Tracy Cox episode. It certainly felt like that to me. Love the DOAC content! Very informative, insightful conversations, great guests 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

This was so profound. The amount of times I have let go of an idea or goal just because it didn't feel right and I had no idea it was not because it wasn't the right goal but rather not the right person.....

This is totally true. I've been living with almost no friends (just acquaintances) for a long time. About 2 years ago I started raiding in vanilla WoW, and there I found a guy who often invites me to Discord almost every time I log in. And while sometimes I become irritated from it (especially when I have nothing to discuss), overall his actions are very wholesome. And I've noticed that I hadn't had even an understanding that such communication can make me feel better. I had been living with emptiness inside and thought that it's okay and it's impossible to totally get rid of it.

I cry, I smile while hearing this podcast ....

Stephen I am so impressed at how openly you can talk about your own life and listen and learn. This is the best podcast ever, so many of us feel similarly about our own lives and it’s really helpful.

I'm the friend who did exactly that, calling my friend to hear her cry on the phone day after day when she lost her dad, but none of my friends have even checked on me after being in the hospital, etc. I'm someone who makes my friends a priority if they want to hang out or go somewhere, talk. I feel like I have love to give, and I just end up used. People forget about me, or prefer other people and I don't get invited to things. I know that's life, and I'm incredibly lucky to have my best friend (my husband, but sometimes I get so very, very lonely. I dont expect me out of people, but one day I just hope for a best friend that's not my husband.

I think this depends if you are an extrovert (your guest) or an introvert (myself). I love my own company and am aloof in crowded areas. I am at my happiest in nature on my own feeling totally self sufficient. I am 6ft 5 and 275 lbs and have very strong thighs thank you.

@AprilSunshine

9 күн бұрын

1:49:55 guest is an introvert.

@KJ99otis

5 күн бұрын

Introvert and neurodivergent who despises superficiality so the forest is my favorite place.

The key skill we've lost in 2024 is the art of conversation. That includes making small talk. Younger people definitely have lost this skill. I used to have training sessions at work to teach Gen-Z how to talk to clients. They had zero conversation skills with strangers. Millennials were also guilty, but to a lesser extent.

I overuse the word friend, but I have tried to be more mindful and use words like "work friend", "church friend", "biking friend". I'm pretty social, but I do have close friends. But I think he's spot on about the service aspect. That service creates a tie that's much deeper.

I wish there were more people with such values, priorities and self awareness like Simon, especially men, they are soooooooooo rareeeee 😢

Yes, there is something distinctly different between "I love you", and just "love you".

Service is definitely becoming part of something larger than themselves. Creates unity. Creates identification with your nation. Bonding in a joint project will create better citizens.

I'm grateful to have the chance to learn and raise the importance of friendship, friendship and nurturing human connections. The hunger in our hearts can only be fulfilled by raising ourselves to a new level of consciousness, one which understands that our survival depends on the quality of our good connections. Thank you sooo much ❤ I need this so badly 🙏🏼

One of my favorite episodes of late. Simon is unmatched in his expression of ideas and making them hit home. Thank you!

I have just finished his interview which was posted in 2023 and now I started to watch this🎉🎉🎉

So funny because I can’t count how many time I’ve talked about how beneficial a 12 step program would be for all peoples lives. Step 12-helping the addict who still suffers gets you out of self. When you’re looking at the world through the paradigm of helping others it’s selfless versus selfish but in reality it helps you just as much as it helps the other person(s). It’s also the community & shared goal of those programs that helps in & of itself. There’s a reason it’s not only been around as long as it has but it worldwide with SO many mtngs using the same premise but, all different types where of you look a little you’re likely to find a group w/ ppl you’re drawn to. This is SUCH an important topic & he’s right, one that gets overlooked compared to diet, sleep, purpose, etc. friendship & community is vital. Human connection is something that’s fizzled out with social media & lack of 3rd spaces, among other things but definitely something we can get back to starting tomorrow if we’re all a bit more intentional. 🥰

When Simon said we need friends, I was tempted to comment right away that we need God first. But not even 30 mins in and he confirmed what Jesus said. Simon said "The true skill we've lost is Service".. Amazing

I love my own company. When I spend time with people I get texts, cards, gifts, thank yous. Wow people are so nice to me. My sister said it is because I am fully present and interested in people when I am with them. But in the long run I enjoy my alone time so much more.