Hello beautiful people! I hope you enjoyed this casual conversation ❤️ I can’t wait to see you again back in Moonland! Don’t forget to adjust that video quality where necessary ❤️ If I missed any tips please leave them in the comments! Let’s share as much info as possible.

@lewisjake4691

2 жыл бұрын

you all prolly dont give a shit but does anybody know of a trick to log back into an Instagram account..? I was stupid lost the account password. I would love any tricks you can give me.

@reidjerry8432

2 жыл бұрын

@Lewis Jake Instablaster ;)

The last tipyou gave was probably the most important one. I think that when people think about being a lolita lifestyler, they assume that it means exclusively wearing lolita, 24/7, 365 days a year. And for some people that work - but assuming exclusivity of style ignores the complexity of human beings. People are capable of liking more than one thing, people are capable of having more than one interest or quality. Beating yourself up that you're not "lolita enough" or not "enough of a lifestyler" because sometimes you want to wear something else for whatever reason is not the way. However, because the majority of images that we have available to us of lifestyle lolitas only show them as wearing lolita, people end up putting undue pressure on themselves.

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

PREACH! I think it’s so important to look at yourself and say “I’m a Lolita and a...” because we are more than just frilly dresses and bows. We are entire thinking, moving, breathing, and changing human beings. Putting pressure on yourself to conform 100% to one ideal will only cause frustration and undue disappointment. Who you are as a Lolita and a person should be seamlessly matched.

Solid color dresses are some of my favorite investments for being a lifestyler, I find I’m a lot better able to convert into office wear, I always find putting matching blazers over a blouse and skirt coord helps it look more professional! I took inspiration from corporate goth.

Being a lifestyle lolita sounds fun, but I love other types of clothes just as much as I love lolita fashion. I guess I can just do lifestyle lolita things in my other clothes, drinking tea and embroidering is a bit lifestyle lolita even if I am wearing a less frilly dress :)

Something important: you're not less of a lolita than anyone else if you choose not to be a lifestyler. The reason why the concept of "lifestyle lolita" was dead for so long is because in many cases it IS unrealistic and often very hard to achieve; it takes LOTS of time, LOTS of money, commitment, and is often just not realistic for the average person and that's TOTALLY OKAY. If you just wear lolita to meetups and events that's totally fine. You're still a lolita and you're no less of a lolita than a lifestyler is. A lifestyler is just someone who has the time, money, commitment, or other skills to be able to take it to the next "level"--and it's important to remember that it is NEVER A REQUIREMENT. You don't become The Highest Level Lolita by being a lifestyler. It's not like beating Pokemon and leveling your team to level 100, it's not the final level. It's just something some people choose to do because they really want to, and often because it already coincides with how their lifestyle is. So if you don't want to be a lifestyler, that's totally fine and doesn't mean you're less experienced or less credible. Similarly, if you want to be a lifestyler but can't for whatever reason (ie time, money, doesn't fit into your practical life, etc.) there are still lots of other ways to incorporate it into your life while you wait for your lifestyle to change so you can get to that place in the future. Participating in your local community, attending and hosting irl and virtual events, participating in online communities, having lolita-specific social media, these are all things that can really help you on your way to becoming a lifestyler. ^^ TLDR:; being a lifestyler lolita is fun but can also be unrealistic and expensive, and it is never a requirement of being a TRUE lolita so don't ever let someone make you feel bad for not being a lifestyler or something. Everybody participates in the fashion differently and that is A-OK. Signed, -Another lifestyle lolita lol (I love this video Asami this was all fantastic advice ❤️❤️❤️)

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Very well said 👍🏾👍🏾

I thought about being a lifestyler, But I have way too many fashion interests!

I also recommend getting bloomers or at least some nice comfy shorts, a lot of lolitas skips on a bloomers and they totally can it's their choice but if you want to wear lolita for a whole day they can be a life savior. For me they make wearing petticoat more comfortable because organza touching your skin or stockings is not a good feeling but they also protects you from creeps that you can sadly meet on a streets or even wind or cold.

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Very good point! I’ve experienced a Marilyn Monroe moment or two walking on grates on the sidewalk 🤣

When you were talking about learning how to do repairs and alterations, I realized that one thing I really appreciate about the lolita community is the value of used items. I like how people will put an effort into maintaining and restoring older pieces, and how people still buy and sell them years after they originally released. It's a refreshing change from the disposable fashion you see everywhere else. Looking forward to seeing some Asami Moon original dresses someday!

@itsrey5475

3 жыл бұрын

I've thought about this too!! It's so nice that the lolita community borderline doesn't allow items to be thrown out. So refreshing

I have watched 2 or 3 of your videos and I LOVE HOW YOU OFFER US TEA! You're so kind and thoughtful. Thank you for your knowledge.

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

🥰

This is such a good resource!

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

🤗❤️

that moment when asami hands you some tea c:

I'm not a Lolita (gyaru represent, woohoo!) but I really enjoy watching your videos and I feel like your tips can also carry across to other Japanese substyles! 💖 Thanks so much for these tips!

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

❤️ I hope you find them helpful ❤️

Thank you very much. I've been wearing this fashion for a long time now and after the lock down in my country ended last year, I decided to do so as a lifestyler. This tipps show me, that I'm on the right track to where I want to go. They are all cosistent advise, that is not only aplicable to Lolita, and some are very good to be reminded of every now and then. This video reasured me a lot. The only thing I can add ( and that is not adding at all): Listen to this 10 simple points, no matter what your style is, no matter if you are a livestyler at all or not. This is solid advise for every day life, especially the last two.

OMG!!! You're a real life Ms. Frizzle with the coordinates at school! I love that so much!

An incredible video as always 👏 Thank you for sharing your tips with us! Your cage skirt suggestion and comfortable shoes and tops has already helped me so much! Both the technical tips, as well as the reminders that we shouldn't measure our lifestyles to others. I always thought a lifestyle lolita needed to be like Momoko, so it wouldn't be something I could identify with ♡ Thanks so much for sharing my tutorial, too! (P.S. I think we may be cape twins!)

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Cape twins! 🥰 Thanks again for making that tutorial, it was very much appreciated and needed.

@magicalgirlme

3 жыл бұрын

@@asamimoon5789 I'm very glad it was helpful! I can't WAIT to do the other steps you shared in this video

Hello I love your video when you describe your experiences as a black lolita I am recently blossoming into a sweet lolita and I just want to thank you for giving me some confidence not to worry about what people think of my clothes I love them and hope to join a tea party soon thanks and keep the beautiful looks coming they're beautiful!

I can wear lolita at work. But at the same time...I lift a lot of heavy boxes from time to time and the boxes are/can be dusty 😢 dont want to put any of that on my dresses. Also I havent the funds to get more clothes 😭 how sad! I'm just so glad that there's cheaper options available now 😌

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed! When I discovered I could wear something other than angelic pretty my whole world changed 😭 when I first started out I thought the only options that existed were Baby, AP, and Bodyline 😐

My job doesn't let me were lolita but on my days off I do. I don't think I would have time otherwise. Love your tips.

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I’m fortunate that I’m able to wear it to work when I want. At my last job it definitely would have been a no-go besides on holidays maybe.

That notebook gives me life.

I wear lolita pretty much everytime I have the chance, whenever I meet with my friends, but I don't use it on university unless I'm going to meet my friends later as I just don't wanna put effort on my appereance when I will spend 4 hours half asleep lol. 🤣 And I could'nt agree more with cage skirts! I just got one that is width AND length ajustable so I can wear it with anything. I love how mine haves detailed organza and cotton lace on each layer so I can leave the crinolette (cage skirt/hoop skirt same thing lol) long and use it as a underskirt. If you guys wanna search it I bought it on Aliexpress, my favourite shop Loligals sells it. 😘 I just think they are much more comfortables especially to go to the loo as you don't have to lift a bunch of petticoat layers. 🤫

About what you said around 9:40 with finding Lolita blouses at a thrift store and using resources around you, I found two blouses for Lolita at a thrift store and posted them online to ask people about them and while one person said it may work for casual Lolita another said that it wont work automatically because they said any Lolita blouse will have a lot more detail. The blouse i found i felt was detailed enough and really nice and fancy to me, but idk. I guess everyone has a different opinion on certain things in the Lolita community

I know this is an old video but I love watching your videos! So much great information and insight

Thank you so much for doing the top 10 tips for Lolita it was very positive an inspiring it's always wonderful to see you I have missed you thank you❤❤👍🏽👍🏽

I'm still looking for a cage skirt that will go over my hips for summer uses. I do prefer the petticoats since I live in a colder state that tends to be that way for a good chunk of the year. But these tips do come in handy so I can slowly find ways to wear Lolita pieces more instead of just special occasions.

Im glad to see you in these youtube streets. I enjoy your content.Your makeup is always so beautiful. Would you ever consider doing a makeup tutorial. Your foundation base is flawless.

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I have been thinking about doing a video as I apply my makeup. I’ll add an actual everyday makeup tutorial on my list ❤️

Altering bodyline blouses is a godsend if you have a large bust

I missed your videos so much! I am happy that you're back! I hope you're doing well!

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I’m doing much better thank you ❤️ I’m happy to be back!

I'm a lifestyler who got rid of most of my normie clothes when I decided to do lolita full-time and I deadass had to go to the gym in btssb my first time bc I didn't have any gym clothes... (to be fair even when I had a normie wardrobe I don't think I had pants? It was mostly skirts and t shirts)

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

After I did 24 hours traveling in Lolita going to different events I knew I had to make a change 🤣.

Thanks for the tea! I love your take on the lifestyle aspect ❤️ really usefull tips

Thanks for this video when I first started I was only interested in wearing gothic lolita but it became boring pretty quickly and I have since branched out into many different styles but I still think each clothing item I wear reflects certain elements of myself if that makes sense...

Thank you for explaining this!

Very fun! Great info!

This is my first time watching one of your videos, and getting offered a cup of tea immediately made my day!

Thank you very much for your videos. I look forward to future content

When your not a Lolita yet but already collecting data on how to become one😍

Thank you so much for this video!

omg you are literally the cutest

I glad you doing well

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Bless 🙏🏽

Welcome back

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

🤗

So let me tell you how I came down this rabbit hole and found you.... My friends and I we love the cosplay celebrate pop culture, comments, music and movies. I have been wondering if it is possible to take cosplay as a career. So I got to googling to find if there is a cosplay magazine. And there is. But then I Google is there a black-owned cosplay magazine. Low and behold there is an article (I will leave the link) That gives you a list of professional cosplayers who are people of color. One of the terms that they used I didn't understand which was "Lolita". Didn't know what that meant so back to Google I went and it was a KZreadr who showcased your video. I passed her video and then search for you and Google.....aye s/o to Google because I've been on there all day. And here I am now watching another one of your videos. New subscriber basically. Love your work. Much love from Detroit.

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

This is the best thing I’ve read all day 😭❤️

Awesome video! ^°^ 💖

I don't necessarily want to be a lifestyler (sometimes i just want to wear sweatpants even in public or I want to dress up in other ways), but I do want to wear my lolita more frequently than just for events, so I've started incorporating more of my lolita into my weekends and random days when I feel like dressing up, I sometimes wish I felt more put together when I left the house when it comes to my outfit, so maybe dressing up in lolita more often would make me feel more confident about that despite worrying what people think of my unusual clothing

lmao how perfect is it that you work with young kids, i love that for you cuz i et they really appreciate those dresses!

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr! So perfect

@caitlyntravelingcircusvtg938

3 жыл бұрын

@@asamimoon5789 i just saw your post on insta about the videos you made reading fairtyles and I MUST WITNESS THIS WHOLESOMENESS

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

XD i think I did 10 stories or so and some teaching videos. It was very fun doing them from my “famous closet”.

i did a similar shift as i age and stay in lolita. i started out classic and been gothic since like....2015.......2014???

Your BACK OMG HHHBDHDBHBDU I MISS YOU YOU WAS MY LIFE YOU MADE ME HAPPY WHEN I FIND YOU I ASK MY MON I WANT TO DO LOLITA SHE SAID I WAS TRYING TO BE A KID BUT YOU MADE ME KNOW THAT I COULD DO ANYTHING I WANT SO I'M GOING TO BECOME A LOLITA IF SHE LIKES IT OR NOT

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I am in love with your energy 🥰🥰🥰 Live your frilly life! My mother didn’t like it either at first.

@AinaraPardo0808

3 жыл бұрын

Texto original Yeah! Go for it! My mom progibited me to wear lolita at first because "I would look like a clown" but I told her that it makes me happy and I'm not wearing anything offensive so she slowly got used to the idea and now she buys me dresses for Christmas and birthdays!

How do you handle weddings and funerals? I've always wanted to be a lifestyle lolita but I always worry about events like that. Would it be better to have normie clothes set aside for these events? or just find certain prints that are toned down? Also I'm so happy to see you making more content! :D your videos are always so sweet and informative!

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I do have one very casual black chiffon Lolita dress that is appropriate for funerals but I usually don’t wear Lolita to funerals. For wedding, I ask the people getting married for permission. I don’t want to outshine them with my outfit of course or draw undue attention to myself on someone else’s special day so I usually send a picture of what I plan to wear and ask if it’s cool.

Hello!

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Hi! :D

aw i hope you doing ok !

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I’m doing 100% times better than 2 months ago ❤️ I hope you’re doing ok too! 🤗

@justmonika9943

3 жыл бұрын

@@asamimoon5789 aww ty but sadly not really but it my personal life but its life ill get thought it

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

@@justmonika9943 sending you strength ❤️ I know these are trying times. I hope things settle down soon.

@justmonika9943

3 жыл бұрын

@@asamimoon5789 ty soo much !!!

What kind of a job do you have?

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I teach

SallieMae....rhe loan people lol

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

I had been watching Dave Ramsey student loan videos all morning 🤣

Boooo stop inspiring me; today was supposed to be a lazy day....

@asamimoon5789

3 жыл бұрын

Be lazy today, get inspired tomorrow 🤣