I think a big thing with people who come from poorer backgrounds (like myself) it’s really hard to not feel guilty spending money on something frivolous even if you can afford to and want to. It’s raised in guilt thing. I still gotta stop myself from the urge to sell my dresses just because I actually feel bad having brand because it’s like how can I have something so frivolous that costs so much? So sometimes I think the girls complaining about prices are fighting that mentality. Meanwhile people who grow up comfortably are used to having hobbies that are pricy or buying expensive stuff or fashion be it normie designer or cosplays so they can make the leap mentally munch easier let alone they have the money to spend off the bat.

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Super interesting point. Thank you for your insight!! This is definitely something I didn't really consider, so thank you for sharing your story

@Morgantritherion

3 жыл бұрын

Raised poor, but my mom prioritized my appearance over other things she could spend on. She made it clear to me that, if the bills were paid and food was on the table, there was no reason to feel guilty for spending money on things that last. It's about what you chose to prioritize. I'm likely the exception to the rule. I just wanted to point out that it's not all about how economically privileged you were growing up, but about the family culture you grew up in.

@Nostalgiafairy

3 жыл бұрын

@@Morgantritherion yeah I know in working class families like mine you are shamed for buying frivolous stuff. It’s a common class thing in my area but I think it might be a locational thing too. I was always raised to where if something wasn’t cheap it was a bad deal, even if it was regular Oreos vs off brand. So when I was like thirteen and learned expensive fashion beyond the basement of jc pennys existed I was like lol wut a stupid waste of money and now I’m over here like actually this 200 dollar dress was a steal!

@MochiFrapucino

2 жыл бұрын

yea, i had the privallage to come from a good income family (my dad was born into a good income family and became a teacher and my mom wasnt but she became a nurse so yea) so i already have 100 usd ( i live in indonesia so thats 1,450,000 idr and im 11 turning 12) so yea thats a big point to consider edit : yes i do still feel guilty for spending money bc i always think abt my collage and university funds and bills and also my adult hood and taxes and rent and bills etc. bc my mom always told me to think abt the future but not too much, i overthink alot so now this is my life

I told my mom about lolita fashion (but not that I wanted to wear it) and she said it looked odd. I already placed an order on Glitzy Wonderland... uhmmm... at least I don't live at home I guess lmao

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Do what's going to make you happy. I'm so proud of you for exploring your own interests and not letting anyone stop you

As a college student who ADMIRES the gothic lolita style, I will have to say literally... Thank you so much. Now I will strive to grow my gothic lolita closet while maintaining my grades omg.

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad I could help a fellow college kid out on this one!

“Straight to wish, Amazon, and eBay” I feel targeted 😩

I just learned to make it myself, headpieces, wrist cuffs, necklaces. Small kawaii charms are very affordable compared to new stuff.

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

That is so awesome you have the skills and talent to make your own accessories and items! Do you have a favorite piece that you've made?

@kiaraparsons2335

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam it's a little embarrassing to show my work cuz I've been called Ita for my "garish" neon colours and patterns. 😳 more so a mixture of scenecore and lolita if that makes sense

Something that's helped me a lot, not just in buying lolita but for regular clothes too, is to think about the labor that goes into your clothes and how the price reflects that. The reason that the fast fashion sort of stuff most of us in the west wear every day is priced the way it is because the people making it aren't being paid enough to survive. I haven't done a ton of research into labor and manufacturing practices in lolita clothing, but considering the sort of detail and craft that goes into good dresses, yeah it's gonna cost a bit! Considering that, I've been changing my shopping habits in and out of lolita so that even though I'm buying fewer things, the things I do buy are better quality and more special to me because of that.

these are really great tips! I find a lot of "expensive" things can be manageable if you do your research and break it down. Buying yourself one small item a month is a good idea - over time it will add up to a nice stash!

“Straight to amazon” I feel attacked. 😂🤣😂🤣

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

IM SO SORRY IN MY DEFENSE, I FILMED THIS LONG BEFORE OUR COLLAB VIDEO

@SpikyBrandee

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam lolol I’m just joshin ya! ❤️❤️❤️😉

I've been wanting to wear lolita for the longest time, at first my parents didn't allow me. I've been trying to find affordable sites to get my dresses and shoes etc lol. Lolita fashion isn't very common here in Singapore. You can barely see anyone on the streets wearing lolita. Also I want to thank you for this video!

@annaviedoux9028

2 жыл бұрын

Hi! I wore my first Lolita dress in public many months back and I felt so happy to finally embrace my true self. I'd say wear whatever you want. You only live once after all and you're not harming anyone. It's too bad that Lolita dresses are hard to purchase or find in Malaysia. Most of my Lolita dresses either come from Lazada or Shopee, but the cheaper ones aren't really good quality.

@12kingdomstourism

2 жыл бұрын

Hello ヤスミン, I'm from Singapore myself. Did you manage to buy any clothes so far? The cheapest ones you can get in Singapore are from Carousell. As for people dressing up in lolita in public, usually it's at anime and game conventions (which haven't been happening ever since Covid happened). Or you can look for people like me, I guess, and go out together, haha. I'm an old lolita though.

@yachinno

2 жыл бұрын

@@12kingdomstourism so far I hvn't bought any clothes so far tho I do hv some on my wish list!

I LOVE My Lolita Dress. I have had issues with getting the wrong items, but they always listen and make it right by either shipping me the right thing or giving me credit. I get a ton from them.

Probably no one cares but I wanted to tell someone this but.. I think my mom is gonna get me a lolita dress for my birthday! I’ll edit my comment on my birthday for edits. My birthday is November 28th so if I don’t edit by then remind me :)

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

That is so exciting!!!! Congrats!!! Do you know what print you're getting?? I am so excited for you! And happy early birthday!!!!!

@anjasvorcan613

3 жыл бұрын

How did it go?Did she buy you the dress?

@SADIE_Maybe_SADISTIC

3 жыл бұрын

Did you get it?!😊

@ieatkids2345

3 жыл бұрын

Hola soy Dora how did it go?

@courtneycherry5582

3 жыл бұрын

Did you get the dress?

My biggest flex is that I actually bought my first dress from taobao🤪

@candy_crave8580

2 жыл бұрын

Damn how did you get thought that I didn't understand the language

@Purpleduckbleu

2 жыл бұрын

@@candy_crave8580 There are shopping services + a lot of tutorials on youtube! And you can never go wrong with google translate lol

I still wouldn’t mind seeing a rant video. I do so love rants 🤣

Hey you're back! I love this fashion!🌌🖤

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

I never went anywhere haha, but thank you!

I’m very excited to get into this fashion! At first my mom found it strange but now she loves it too!

I’m 12 and I love Lolita fashion I’m really good at sewing so I might crochet a head piece and sew a dress and add ribbons to the back of a pair of knee high socks and slowly become a lolita (sorry if I spelt something wrong my keyboard is being weird today)

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

That's a great idea! It's always smart to start with smaller projects and accessories and work your way up slowly to bigger pieces. I think you're tackling this in a very smart way :)

@AiYa.Ya15

2 жыл бұрын

Im 12 as well and really interested in casual lolita, sadly I cant sew anymore. You're luck to have such a good talent :).

@dartaficial3480

Жыл бұрын

I'm 13 and i'm really into lolita. I have enough money to actually get atlest 1 dress myself, but i'm too scared to wear it. I live in a small post-soviet country and i'm telling you there's LACK of any alt people.I'd be stared at and probably called slurs lol.

I just got my first Lolita dress today! Definitely getting more 😌

This is a really good and informative videa, particularly for new lolitas! For bargains on second hand brand I'd also recommend browsing yahoo auctions and using a shopping service~♡ 👌🏻

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

omg I completely forgot about Yahoo auctions

When I told my family and friends I want to dress lollita(it was yesterday) they were really supportive:)

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

I love that so much!!! When are you going to start wearing the fashion? I'm so excited for you!

@ayay8062

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam I need to sell and throw out some clothes I don't wear anymore then I can buy tons of new ones!:D

I got a lot of money so I'm excited and doing a lot of research

I’m a child, (12) 😪 I need tips, 1: how to tell my parents I want to dress like this, and 2: this video can’t really fit me because I’m a child- and don’t have a job 🥲 so what’s some good tips maybe to save up/earn money.

@miaow0706

3 жыл бұрын

We share the same issues. My mom promised me that if I get a 4 on at least 1 of my exams she'd buy me a dress. So now I'm trying to both find a cheap/affordable/trustworthy website, and study for my exam

@vanilla_216

2 жыл бұрын

@@miaow0706 how did it go? did she buy you a dress? 🥰

@miaow0706

2 жыл бұрын

@@vanilla_216 she said she would but sadly, I have other more urgent things that need to be bought for school (like my performance attire) which is a couple hundred dollars, so I told my mom she didn't need to buy me the dress and that I'd get it on a different date.

Do you have any tips on keeping dresses and wigs in good condition

I managed to get a full coord for about 60 dollars. I did sew the whole thing myself though

This is the video I needed to see :)

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad it could help!

@True_Dat

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam since the comment, I've budgeted for one dress, and made a routine to spend time with my mom on weekends and we've finished sewing one simple lolita dress :D

Hii! So I’m starting on sweet lolita fashion and I will probably get my first jsk soon! If you haven’t, could you make tips for beginners?

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

I actually already filmed one a while ago, and I’m in the editing stages for it ❤️

@insertacooluserhere_8829

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam thanks

yassss 1st comment 💞💞💞🔥🔥🔥🔥

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats! Thank you for being first

Hello love the video only problem I bought a mermaid tears dress in black in Souffle Song it was a custom made item. I ordered it on 2 months ago and it's December now and should have received this month. And since they don't do refunds on custom made items and I have messaged the company twice! And the dress is still stuck in the airline since November any advice? Plus I needed the dress for wedding to look elegant and yeah I have the worse luck in lolita. Can someone please recommend me a reliable and affordable brand. 😮‍💨😖😢

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my god that sounds so stressful, I'm so sorry for your bad experience with them. I've heard some rumors recently about Souffle Song not being the most reliable and highest of quality, but I personally don't own any pieces from them, so I can't confirm or deny. I would definitely mention this in the Big Sisters of Lolita Fashion Facebook page. They are WAYYYY more knowledgable than I am, and I'm sure someone has been in a similar situation and offer you advice. Keep us updated on what happens, please! I hope it arrives in time for the wedding

What is the name of the tip jar app that you use? 🖤

Most of the listed places are really nice, however even if i find a cheap dress the shipping ends up being 70€ . + I'm underage, so i can't have a paypal account yet and many sites that do sell from europe are only limited to being paid by paypal.

100 per dress is still pretty expensive for me ….

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Bodyline sells dresses for $10 :)

@LKelz

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam i just ordered bodyline yesterday . The dress says $25 in US currency. i can not read Japanese currency until I checked my bank and realize I got charged for $51 :(

would it be offensive to the lolita community if I were to wear (for example) a dress that is considered lolita, but I don't think of myself as lolita and I just like the dress? I am so sorry if what I said is offensive in any way, this is only a genuine question that I have had for a while because there is this dress that i have had my eye on and I would like to get it simply because I like the way it looks, and I imagine that I would feel very myself and happy when wearing it. I want to wear what makes me feel happy and comfortable without degrading any sub styles. thankyou in advanced if you responded :)

Everything I own that’s Lolita is literally everything I’ve made or altered myself I borrow my friends otome no sewing book, And sew almost everything myself Sewing makes Lolita accessible and that’s how I was able to get into it I hope to afford a brand dress one day lol

I don't have anything against lor; I know a lot of lolitas don't like her because of her affiliation to devil inspired. But I think it is very wrong that she made a video slandering her sponsors biggest competitor. Even if that was her experience; even if she didn't directly name them. I know people have had problems with mld, but I've heard just as much from devil inspired. She's painting a very crooked picture in my opinion.

@neo.5014

3 жыл бұрын

whats wrong with devil inspired 🗿 i’m new to lolita fashion, idk whats going on-

@Ilsezwarts

3 жыл бұрын

@@neo.5014 its a reseller, and it hikes up the prices A LOT. (Among other things, taking long to get to people, ect, or that's what I've heard) You're way better of using a shipping service like 42agent. Personally, i have nothing against resellers, I've used them myself in the past and I understand that Lor talks about them because its her sponsor. The thing is that taobao really isn't that hard to navigate as these resellers make it seem. My personal problem is that she made a lolita horror story talking bad about a competitor of her sponsor, which isn't really a good look imo

I would love to spend money on lolita fashion because I am working but I can't get myself to spend more then 350€ on a one piece like I'm not broke but whenever I go on the website and find a classic lolita cord that I actually like I won't be able to go under 500€ unless it's used and I somehow expect new clothes at such a price range because that feels just crazy

Oh God, I just bought a dress from wish, its a alice in wonderland one, I have no idea of what brand is the original. The reviews were good, and the fabric looks great, is it ok?

Watching from London UK❤

@BeguruTeam

Жыл бұрын

Aw yay! That's so cool! I used to live in London when I did a study abroad :)

I live in England and you can imagine that NO ONE here will be caught wearing things like these, but I guess I’m just gonna be that one exception-apart from my parents thinking that Lolita is sexualised (have no idea where they got that stereotype from tho) 🤷🏼‍♀️

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

Hmmm lolita isn't super common anywhere. I've liked in 3 countries now (England included) and I wouldn't say it's anymore common or less common in any place in particular. It's a pretty unknown and niche fashion, so it makes sense not a lot of people wear lolita, or even alternative fashion.

@jinphany.

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam that makes sense. When I think of Lolita (though Japanese) I don’t really see it being a main fashion trend anywhere.

@thundersky7457

2 жыл бұрын

I wear lolita out and about in public a fair bit, I live in the US, in Seattle, WA. I am a performer, and people have asked a few times if I am performing in a play, but this is not the typical thing said to me. I've been in England one day, but wasn't wearing lolita. I did go to the Edinburgh Fringe, and wore my regular lolita attire as someone who was not performing, and people were asking me right and left if I was a performer. It was super weird. I was surprised that the Edinburgh Fringe didn't seem that out there to me, it seems like it is only that out there compared to the overall culture. I didn't understand how it would be 65F outside (which is cold for a summer for a lot of the world, but perfectly tolerable for me from a climate that is wet and cool September to June), and every single person is still wearing a black raincoat outside, and I just left my home where it is 80F, and I am doing fine in a flowery or lacey dress. I saw advertisements in the stores telling you to buy a dress to wear on holiday somewhere warmer. What! People could have summer dresses in slightly warmer fabrics appropriate for the local climate, and still get to wear beautiful colors come summer. From the few days I was in the UK, it seems like you need more people wearing lolita and other similar fashions.

@moppupaws

Жыл бұрын

@@SugaryRoyaltea its heavily sexualized by bigoted men who think its about ABDL or DDLG.

I tried lace Market but you need to have a PayPal and the hard part about a lot of these things they want you to have PayPal and I have a friend who doesn't have PayPal because they don't get it in their country people like them can't actually use lace Market so how did they get it the pretty Lolita

hi lanie! i just found your channel now and im abt to sub right away! i have something to say and i rlly rlly need help! im 10 years old, i really really like lolita fashion! i love it its so cute, but im a middle eastern im not gonna mention my country, and theres really no lolita dress here its so hard for me to find it! my mom and dad would have no problem with me liking lolita fashion cause im literally 10 its how im supposed to be dressing... is there any app or site that delievers to iraq??

I really wanna dress Lolita pastel goth however I’m 19 and live with my parents and haven’t finished college yet. I have 4 years left, might move out 2 years in. Im gonna start doing this, but im scared to order because of the way my body is. I’m not over weight or anything m, I’m just self conscious of my shoulders to waist comparison. Built like a 💡and so I wear a lot of sleeved outfits or laces chests/sleeve tops to hid

I wanted to buy a Lolita Alice in wonderland dress but 💸💀

Ok but can someone please explain how the payment process works..? I'm from USA and I don't understand if I need to buy Japanese Yen, or If it will just convert to it automatically while I pay online. I'm just confused, sorry if this doesn't make sense- aaahhh

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

What are you using to buy? If you're buying off of Taobao or Fril or something similar, you need to use a shopping service. My friend MoriMademoiselle has a fantastic tutorial on YT. Otherwise, if you're buying off of a reseller like Clobba or Lolita Wardrobe or etc, you don't need one and can purchase normally like you would a regular website. Same goes for Bodyline or Lace Market (Second hand)

@rinkuuu5520

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam I’m using lace market mainly bc I’m broke but I’m new to this fashion and too scared to buy anything, because of the conversion price thingy. But yeah I’ll take a look at that video, thank you for telling me about it. There’s like no information I can find on paying Japanese websites from USD so this helps me out a ton! :>

Hey! This isn't meant to sound malicious so I'm sorry if it does! But in your video you mention how it's considered ''taboo'' to buy lolita dresses on amazon, but on your wishlist there are a few lolita dresses/items. Is this because they're being sold by the original designer and aren't ripoffs?

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

Great question! The ones I have on my wishlist are from Soufflé Song’s Amazon store front. They’re not replicas, they’re by the actual brand Soufflé Song! This is the only actual brand I’ve been able to find on Amazon, apart from Antaina and a couple other non-dress-selling brands. Amazon mainly is all replicas, so I definitely advise staying away from it. It’s super hard to find any real pieces on Amazon, and I only found Soufflé Song’s storefront because I stumbled across it from a different lolitas review

@wolfydrawsdoodles6766

2 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam Thank you so much for the quick and thorough answer!

Commenting for engagement since you said you pay for college using ad revenue

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Ahh thank you so much

I haven’t watched the whole vid, but if you’re good at sewing you can make simple accessories.

Why people hate “my Lolita dress”? I’ve just bought a dress from there and now I’m quite scared

When do you think is a good age to start lolita?, I am in year 7!, so I would love to know!!!🤗😅😊

@seijancarter9143

3 жыл бұрын

i think you can be lolita as long as you understand the sub style, and know enough information on it that you know where you want to start. I am not quite sure if this is true but i am not an expert myself.

@SADIE_Maybe_SADISTIC

3 жыл бұрын

@@seijancarter9143 Thank you so much!!!🥺😊😸

@pixie5810

3 жыл бұрын

I'm moving onto year seven and I've been wanting it since I was in year 4

@SADIE_Maybe_SADISTIC

3 жыл бұрын

@@pixie5810 That’s cool! lets hope we can both start soon!:D!

@pixie5810

3 жыл бұрын

@@SADIE_Maybe_SADISTIC :D

I only have 24 pounds to spend and it's hard to find a website that takes pounds instead of dollars or euros

@debleb166

3 жыл бұрын

You can use calculators online to translate the price into pounds! Just look up however many dollars, euro, yen etc to pounds and it should show you roughly how much your purchase will cost. Most credit/debit cards and other methods of paying online should be able to pay for stuff even if the price is in a different currency.

I’m a size x small and can’t find many Lolita dresses that fit me

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

When in doubt, size up. It’s good to have extra room in dresses since a lot of lolita dresses don’t account for busts. Plus, most have waist ties so it really doesn’t matter much. Not to mention you need the room for layering if you prefer JSKs (and even for OPs, it’s good to have that extra arm room). And if it does bother you, it’s always easier to take something in than it is to let it out. Just be sure to check the sizing chart, too, since sizing like Small, Medium, Large isn’t a standard and can change store to store and country to country. I have some items that are an XS from one shop and others that are XXL that have the exact same fit, so it’s crucial to check your measurements against the size guides

@ms.pirate

3 жыл бұрын

Same problem for me, except I'm a USA X large and barely any lolita and goth clothes are in my size

Me who has no interest in Lolita fashion: mmm interesting

ahh we have the same name lol!!

@BeguruTeam

2 жыл бұрын

Omggggg hello!!!

It is expensive.. had it not been for pro wrestling as well as my reserve pay from the navy, I wouldn't be able to afford it for my daughter..

no one : me crying bc i am a child that spent all my allowance on 10 choclate bars.

I would like to buy dresses on devil inspired (I think it's a bad idea lol) but 20 € for a JSK!? I feel like it is so pretty to be true.. And idk much about the shipping price.. Does someone has a website who does French language, cheap price (around 25€) and with free shipping? Or at least they tell you the price of the shipping? Ik it's sound impossible lol

pls i only have access to amazon 😰

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

I would try to avoid Amazon at basically all costs. They are not a good resource for lolita and you won't be able to find petticoats and dresses and shoes that are legitimate and not replicas. If it is your only, only option, then Souffle Song does have a legit store on there. Just be mindful that Souffle Song has quality issues. They also use cotton from labor camps, so a lot of lolitas are trying to avoid purchasing from then until their materials are ethically sourced. I'm not really sure what other legit stores are on Amazon since I don't personally use it, but generally, I would just save yourself the hassle and overpaying.

you are very cute !

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Ahh thank you so much

I bought my first dress from ebay 💀💀 im sorry lmao

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

Did you buy THE dress tho??? (Aka the notorious replica dress lol)

just search up cheap lolita dress

@BeguruTeam

3 жыл бұрын

I would absolutely not recommend this. If you search "cheap lolita dress", a whole bunch of known scam sites like Milanoo and Lolitain pop up. I don't want anyone to be scammed out of their money, so it's important to do you research and know what sites are reliable!! Let me know if you need a list of reliable brands and/or sites, and I can draw one up

@icon_kayla

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam do you mind making a list of them?

@liz8986

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeguruTeam Hi, i just started this lolita fashion. And i don't know where to get these lolita dresses, accesories. I come from malaysia so everything is pretty expensive. Could you recommend a reliable shop?

@liz8986

2 жыл бұрын

@@12kingdomstourism I see, thank you

One thing that worked for me is that when I asked for a budget for a homecoming dress my mom surprisingly said 200 dollars!! So I got a dress off a good site for about 120$, but since I didn’t have much time nor other money I bought accessories off Amazon although it still looked super cute. Yes Amazon isn’t the best but homecoming but I doubt there would be any other Lolita’s there.I’ve been trying to seriously get into the fashion for years and although it is hard, I’ve done my research and yes I’ve found plenty of cheaper websites to buy from, yet my issue was time 🥲