Came to find out what’s wrong with society, found out what’s wrong with me. Touché, Betty.

@bettyht3

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. That's incredible, Steven. Thank you!

Nothing is a teachable moment for either if you cancel

@philiplathrop9250

3 жыл бұрын

I always say, "The worst thing you can do for a lost soul, is abandon them"

I am concerned about cancel culture, but am also aware of confusion around unhealthy abusive, relationships where people stay connected because they believe it is compassionate. Brene Brown talks about the importance of boundaries in remaining compassionate. The relationships Betty describes are founded in mutual respect. I want to make the distinction between cancelling somone and distancing from toxicity, as the latter is self compassion.

@elenagonzalez8652

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👌👍👊

@Mahealaniandback

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more with your statement and I’m so grateful to have stumbled upon it. Thank you for sharing that

@boyffb

3 жыл бұрын

That was my biggest concern, especially in my case I have given so many chances for people to be better and tried communication and actually now that I think about it they Cancelled me first 😅 I just didn't let them back into my life because of the abuse. Some times you need space and time away from some people who hurt you to become your true authentic self so they can't hurt you no more before attempting to reconnect 😥😐. I mean a lot of my abuse steams from ignorance and inability to listen to me 🙄. So Cancel no but boundaries yes! Don't get them confused 😁☺️.

@Lilhajxjk274

3 жыл бұрын

That's not a Issue with Cancell culture. That's a issue with the person.

@Ethan_Coble

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed... If the indifference is harmful to you mentally or physically, then it's best to walk away... It, most of the time, has to be a two way street.

compassion is the most beautiful thing in the world

@jinasugata4869

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, indeed!!! 🙏

@TimeKiller.Channel

3 жыл бұрын

Yea for weak people

@davidmendizabal9892

3 жыл бұрын

Is not

@davidmendizabal9892

3 жыл бұрын

Personal responsability is

@acemarvel1564

3 жыл бұрын

It works on some more than others

god ive been saying this to friends for the longest time, only to be met with hesitation or absolute rejection. love and compassion should always come first.

This was so eloquent!! If we can change than we need to extend the same grace towards others and understand that they can change too

Well, i also disagre with my grandpa on fundamental things, but if i lived in his time and had his expiriences, i would probably think the same way.

@hashimeid8892

3 жыл бұрын

yes you are right but every thing is changable ,and this is the problem with old people who had a a differnt experience that doesnt compare with today thoughts

There was a couple at my Church where the husband was a conservative Republican and the wife was a liberal Democrat, yet they not only managed to live together, but they raised four children to adulthood and still lived each other. Sadly the wife passed away from cancer last year, but it just goes to show that political differences may not be as important as the things you share in common.

@thequestingbard4836

2 жыл бұрын

No truer words.

@quartzy_jane2153

2 жыл бұрын

Me and my best friend are just like that! Though we have totally different political and religious opinions (she's conservative Evangelical, I'm Labour voting and non-religious) she's like a sister to me. Being able to disagree respectfully is such an underrated and underused skill especially now. We CAN coexist - look beyond the ideas and slogans to see the humanity underneath :)

It is noble that someone has the courage to be reasonable about the issue with the canceling culture, risking herself being cancelled in the process. Kudos to you! We desperately need more people like you. =)

@florentinamcleod4159

3 жыл бұрын

This is about her ego, her last victim died, scapegoating is her mission

@binhonz

3 жыл бұрын

@@florentinamcleod4159 so, if she's has made a mistake she is not allowed to fix it? I don't follow...

@florentinamcleod4159

3 жыл бұрын

@@binhonz she said that some cancel culture is ok. Ppl can rectify mistakes, but if u really listen, like really listen you can heard Satan, this is about her ego, she will still cancel ppl. Like destroy ppl lifes if they don't completely agree with her

@binhonz

3 жыл бұрын

@@florentinamcleod4159, you could be right and she's has an ego to please but, unfortunately, you lost me on Satan. That's something that is not part of my reality and I prefer to think she has good intentions in what she's saying...

This video is a breath of fresh air

Agreeing to disagree and moving on can work wonders. Suffering sounds so self absorbed. The idea that you can be wrong about most anything, can bring down many walls. Putting up boundaries with abusive people is one thing, but jumping ship for minor infractions is another. The bridgebuilders are the true saints in this world. Is it worth taking that hill? I've found the vast majority of the time it's not. We all have problems and giving each other grace for being human relieves a lot of stress.

@shubhadas4072

3 жыл бұрын

The bridge builders are true saints in this world... love the line

@davidrubio7991

2 жыл бұрын

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Compassion Culture. Not an easy path to take, but really there is no easy path when it comes to relationships. The path of compassion is one that can increase our chances that we will thrive as individuals and as a community. Thank you, Betty.

Finally, someone who understands.

Thank you for sharing this. It's so easy for us to forget that there's a human being on the other side of our righteousness, who deserves to be heard and seen too.

I have always thought Betty was a rockstar, and this solidified it for me. Find common ground, agree to disagree, but still hold true to your beliefs. I do it every damn day. Love you, Betty! Thank you.

People just have to learn to think for themselves. Be critical and seek answers to questions that you have and never let another person speak for you. Because if you do that, then you are already lost because you have no voice in this life, so you have chosen death.

Your dad was right you are beautiful and that beauty is way more than skin deep. You made me cry you gave me hope and encouraged me to share this incredibly wise message with my friends.

After canceling the cancel culture, can we please cancel the naming things culture? Pretty please with a cherry on top...

@TarwTarw

3 жыл бұрын

We must start a Not Naming Things Culture Culture!

@Elec.Balloon

3 жыл бұрын

Hypocrisy Culture got it xD

@goofybutserious4807

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr Like stop calling men misogynists just because they don't want to pay more taxes than women.

@goofybutserious4807

3 жыл бұрын

@Cynthia May I figured you'd say that. Dense people are so predictable

@superfluityme

3 жыл бұрын

@@TarwTarw The naming things culture is something we will have to go through as it brings to attention our differences and this will allow people to see them rather than not see them and therefore not consider those differences and once we have gone through that and understanding has occurred it will disappear. Then there will be the next thing we have to learn.

This is so powerful and so much needed now days. Got me emotional 😢

Your voice! ❤️😍 the way she delivers this! My word!!! I could listen to an audiobook with your voice.

This title is so satisfying to read

@Elec.Balloon

3 жыл бұрын

Glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way.

@twenty1sixer216

3 жыл бұрын

They love their CC's

@alliinwonder9675

3 жыл бұрын

It’s called alliteration

lol imagine if discussing your ideas instead of canceling people was such a foreign concept that required an 11 minute ted talk.

@exampleexample8017

3 жыл бұрын

Current society screaming dont talking

@btothec4650

3 жыл бұрын

Nice but accurate observation no stress

@Iburn247

3 жыл бұрын

It's the current social situation so yes I believe it. The left is ruining the country with cultural marxism/hegemony

@Iburn247

3 жыл бұрын

@Ura Koren I agree with most if not all of that. Not sure if China is behind it or not but there is something going on behind the scenes. Say what you will but the country almost flipped overnight during the Obama administration. Critical race theory introduced into our govt. Sliced and diced into tribes and intersectional groups. His generation is the first. Those our most of our radical professors in colleges. Unfortunately we are now on a second generation who's been taught this ideology. As they say it takes 3 generations to brainwash a nation. We are dangerously close to finding out who is doing it and why it's happening. America has a hard road ahead of her and this is going to be the hardest battle in our history. A psychological war who's roots have been given decades to grow and can't be forced out with all the guns in the country.

@danjason8774

3 жыл бұрын

What a ridiculous concept, right...

I love her public speaking skills :)

@florentinamcleod4159

3 жыл бұрын

She is about her ego

@michaelmurphy7670

Жыл бұрын

i was thinking. the same thing shes a powerful speaker.

What an amazing speech! Thank you 🙏🏽 I do not believe in cancel culture and I think it itself should be CANCELED! I like compassion culture way better 💯

if only this was the way more people thought. Like she said we appear to be at a cancel culture apex.

Compassion is great!

@Elec.Balloon

3 жыл бұрын

Yes it is and I wish everyone here (including me because my krud I don't know how that feels) can get more compassion in their daily life :D

@JonkoJointson

3 жыл бұрын

@@Elec.Balloon respect bro

Yes,today we need this culture instead of cancel relationships. I'm crying when she talked about her father and started a new journey.❤️❤️❤️🌹 Much regards 🙏

Generosity and love are the best CULTURE. We do it sharing with others love🙏🏿🙏🏿

@Exodus26.13Pi

3 жыл бұрын

You can never go wrong with love.

@theclavers

3 жыл бұрын

@@Exodus26.13Pi that is true Hayden. Thank you. Hope you support our program too

God we need more people like this woman. She actually has so e intellect and sees where she went wrong

Wow!!! This was very deep. I loved this. Very powerful and deep and emotional. This is something that we can all reflect on.

Wonderful presentation!! I didn't have to attend therapy to realise what's wrong with me. She inspired me to check myself. I'm so sorry to all the people I cancelled online and offline! :( And I currently have some family issues which made me realise we're all not here forever. I NEED to make up with my family! :(

@moshemanegapesenyatsi5757

Жыл бұрын

Much 💘 to you!!!

The thing I never understood about cancel culture. Why not just block the person your “canceling” instead of commenting on everything they post saying about how they should be canceled.

@rominn2184

3 жыл бұрын

^ Surely you can see that blocking is a form of cancelling. There is no need to block anyone on social media unless they are a direct threat to your safety and security or they will not stop harassing you and won't leave you alone.

A necessary message 💕

Just SO inspiring. Thank you ❤️

In order for compassion to work mutual respect and love has to be there. Also sometimes you can't endure through toxic behavior. Compassion should always come first before "canceling" someone but there is a line.

Thank you so much for the seed you planted in my mind. Greatly appreciated!

What a powerful message! Made me tear up🙏💖 thank you for this beautiful message 💯

She is very right, but remember there is a line here. There are people who will continually hurt you, bot physically as emotionally and it is absolutely okay and ( sometimes) necessary to cut people like that out of your life or atleast put them on a back-burner even if it is close family

Great presentation Betty. I like that you don't pace all over the stage, and this draws us into your realm.

What a beautiful woman ❣️Beautiful message ❣️I’m so happy she got a chance to be with her father ❣️🥂❤️🇨🇦

You say everything l think and feel except more articulately and with much more poise than I ever could. Thank you so much for this!

This is so encouraging to see. One of my best friends since my teenage years is a conservative Evangelical Christian and I am a completely non-religious liberal woman, it's been that way all the time we've known each other. I see no reason to constantly try to convert each other and fight when we can just have fun and share the same welcoming attitude towards other people too. We have more in common than what divides us :)

Your relationship and deep connection with your dad is so similar to my own connection with my dad too. We're both daddy's girl.

Practicing this type of compassion for others helps us hold this compassion for ourselves. We don’t always have to be right to be deserving of compassion.

The best way to fight cancel culture is proper education. Learning to see and be able to accept different point of views. Talking to people that take part in cancel culture is exhausting because its very clear that they dont want to listen or understand. They just want to hate and because there is a large group that does the same they think, they are right.

Wow. This Ted Talk was absolutely amazing. Much love to Betty :D

Beautiful and courageous.

Betty, you are such a beautiful human being. You have changed my hard heartedness to one of compassion and humility. You are truly an inspiration. I do not know of your faith but you truly have Jesus Christ our Savior in your heart. He was compassionate, humble, service oriented, meek, kind, loving, good, merciful, and peaceful. He was sacrificial as He died on the cross for us. He laid His life down for us because He wanted us to be free from the wickedness of the world and be transformed to be more like Him. The Gospel was about Him and by what He has done on the cross. He suffered an excruciating death for us. The Gospel is about a life of suffering for one another in the name of Christ. And the rewards are tremendous because we will have eternal life with our Savior. We must suffer and love one another. Hallelujah!! You are truly a child of God because your message truly sends that vibe, my beautiful sister. Thank you Betty for your inspiring message!! Praise the Lord for such a beautiful child in this world!

I was mad at my father for decades for him not being there when I was growing up. I was even more mad when we had our daughter. I remember thinking how important I am in this little girls life and he ghosted me. My dad died in January 2021. I am glad that I forgave him 11 years before his death. I am glad that he had a relationship with his granddaughter. I didn't know that he and my daughter used to sneak out for donuts every so often. My father was the sum of his experiences. He wasn't a bad or abusive guy. He was born in 1938 and was never loved by his own father. He treated me similar to the way he was treated. I am proud to say that I changed that tradition in my family.

Beautiful Betty. You have the warmest of hearts. This was a beautiful speech that people, including me, needed to hear. I miss you, old friend. BTW, you're even more gorgeous bald.

Thank you, very helpful video for society

Always nice to hear some good sense-making going on. Thank you for sharing.

I was just thinking about this myself last week. And I still think about it now.

A wonderful speech.🍀 I would never participate in cancel culture, because that would mean I would consider myself intellectuel and in terms of moral superior to my "enemies". But I know that I am flawed, I can be wrong with my knowledge and opinion. I also changed my view sometimes. And it proved for me as very beneficial being open minded and allowing others to openly state their views and opinions...

This is an incredible clip. Thank you!!💚

Very interesting and captivating speech

The term of cancel culture is, to me (more or less), about socially ostricizing that which is harmful or toxic. Not just disposing of those with a hot take on something. The latter is petty - the former is sometimes necessary to survive.

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

3 жыл бұрын

IGNORING is one thing but DESTROYING them or their sympathizers is another.

@honorcure2004

3 жыл бұрын

Socially ostracising that which is harmful or toxic... interesting. So what is considered harmful or toxic? Who decides what is and what isn’t? Isn’t socially ostracising toxic and harmful in itself? Could it not lead to someone’s suicide for making just one mistake? Or losing their job and becoming homeless for saying one insensitive thing? Or losing all friends and even family members for their past errors that are brought to light by the lynching mob... it is not up to anyone to play god like that, decide what is wrong and what is wrong. People can politely disagree, education one another, or just cut each other out. If something is that harmless that something needs to be done about it, that’s what the police are there for. And courts of law

@stephanieszabo3616

3 жыл бұрын

@@honorcure2004 Your points are valid, but in context. Some people need to be "cancelled:" Kevin Spacey, Matt Lowry, R Kelly, Bill Cosby, etc. The people that have been above the law commiting heinous acts with no consequences. There's a difference between cancelling people like the aforementioned and cancelling grandpa. I'm not condoning cancel culture as a whole, just pointing out serial rapists and abusers should no longer be allowed to act, produce records, read the news, or hold any position of power. Decades of abuse of human rights and decency should result in being "cancelled."

@karimchahine4883

3 жыл бұрын

@@stephanieszabo3616 It is not the people's role to cancel anyone. The ones who commited crimes should face a trial and a judge will do his job, judge. That's it. People should complain about the justice system and reinforce that, not take matters in their hands becuase the people are absolutely out of control, and they have proved that many times.

I stumbled upon this video, while looking for a tool to enhance my intercultural studies class. I saw the name Betty Hart, and thought, that name is familiar. To verify, I pursued accessing the video. Wow, I am so proud to see this important talk. ❤

Humans are all different and unique. It’s a natural part of life. If we continue to try to hate those different than us and refuse to respect one another, hate will just continue to spread and we won’t solve the countless other issues in society. We need unity in order to create a positive and loving society that creates solutions to the problems that face us all. We all have problems, we shouldn’t add our differences to those.

Thank you for these deep and beautiful words.

Tolerance, diversity (please don't mistake this for ethnicity) and freedom of thought - these are the important things and are incompatible with 'cancel culture'. Doesn't that, in itself, justify its removal from our society.

Meanwhile in CA, Abraham Lincoln High School is being renamed lol

@alnthevalley1

3 жыл бұрын

@An A more than likely some liberal was offended

@goofybutserious4807

3 жыл бұрын

@@alnthevalley1 ironic considering Abraham Lincoln was against slavery. So this just makes not sense to get offended over 🙄

@achilles1373

3 жыл бұрын

Democrats like to quote Abe, but want everyone to forget their party faught to keep slaves. There was a no party swap.

@TimeAce

3 жыл бұрын

@@achilles1373 there was though. Look up barry Goldwater az senator

@hectichive889

3 жыл бұрын

I’m not debating you Chris specifically but jeez did everyone else here just already forget the TedTalk?

I have been waiting for a Ted talk on this topic!!!

what a beautiful and refreshing talk.

Compassion culture 🙏❤ is best. Always remember you are also a human . You have what they have with just little bit of difference...less or more

Thank you Betty and Ted Talks for sharing this view

it was really wonderful speech i wish more to learn and hear from you

So timely! Thank you, Betty Hart❣

I hope more young people hear you. This is how it should be and it is our only hope as a nation.

So powerful!

WELL SAID!!!! Thank you

Thank You! ✨😃

Amen,well said!!

Listen, everyone is praising Betty for this but I think it comes from a pretty privileged mindset. I dont know the differences between her and her father but I dont speak to my father or that side of my family to keep MY peace, and I'm a much better person than I was when I did talk to them. I'm healthier in every sense of the world. The hurt they caused me will never go away. They will never acknowledge what they did hurt me, or apologize FOR hurting me. So I choose to keep them away from me. If they did, maybe things would change. I tried everything to make our relationship work and in the end, it didn't matter. The most important part of life is keeping your peace because at the end of the day, unconditional compassion for others, compassion that is taken advantage of, an attempt of understanding each other is trampled over and over again, it's not worth it. Do what's best for YOU, because at the end of the day, no one is going to take care of you like you. Everyday you have to get up and look yourself in the mirror. You do what you've gotta do to take care of you first and foremost. Have compassion but don't suffer for others or with others. You shouldn't have to suffer a relationship, especially if you suffer more than them. We can all learn and grow but it's important to recognize when that can happen and if you feel you're capable of dealing with whatever these sorts of people can, like she could with her father, I'm happy for you, do what you want. But for people like me? I've made my peace with "canceling" my relatives, and I'm content. If you've read this far, thanks for coming to MY Tedtalk lmao.

Thank you for your lesson

Betty...You are awesome...awesome inside out..

Betty is the best!

Powerful word.

Great Video, I can't believe that in 2020 these concepts are considered rarity under siege.

I ve been on the receiving end of cancel culture ,and I can tell you it is not nice.

Inspiring! I believe it needs someone who is sincere to start for. It might work if there is a mutualism (the sincerity of both), if not then it will not be that easy. But also believe that no one knows before trying, moreover for our family, ref to topic in this talk. Thanks

Thank you ^^

Muito bom! Perfeita a fala dela.

Amen!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ love this so much!

You really changed my views thank you ♥️

This speaks volumes for 2020

So beautiful. Thank you.

Thank you.

به به چه زیبا و ژرف و تاثیرگذار ♥️♥️ How beautiful ، deep and effective 💐💐

Good on you

Have a love so deep so wide so strong that it can surpass differences!

Thank you

Thank You.

Really good talk!

HECK YEAH! COMPASSION FTW!!

Beautiful.

What an important message.

This is what the world needs more of…especially right now.

Very nice, Betty!

Atta girl, Betty Hart!