Did I say Carl Jung wrong when I recorded and had to re-record? I did! But THAT is what it means to be elegant. I know I'm not perfect! What do you think? Can you be yourself and elegant? Also thank you to Lilysilk for sponsoring todays video!

@Azonitopgadgets1

Ай бұрын

I always watch your videos you are my favorite KZreadr

@techguy943

Ай бұрын

You are once again hitting the nail on the head with the real talk NOBODY IS PERFECT People are going to criticize my caps lock on the part where I said "NOBODY IS PERFECT" but IHDC (I Honestly DON'T Care) Also FYI the one montage where you said to "imagine a world where everyone just did what they wanted and was driven by their impulses" that world happened in the US on one embarrassing day in 2021

@All-purposefacts

Ай бұрын

Anna plz can you make more vedios on how to socialize in elite circles

@BeingButterfly

Ай бұрын

You pronounced Carl Jung's name right.

@malihagarden7062

Ай бұрын

I loved today’s mature and intelligent video content.

Anna is just simply trying to teach us how to be a decent human being in a more elevated way. And most importantly teaching us self respect, thing that is missing in a lot of people’s growing journeys. I’m super greatful for your lessons

I've always attributed elegance to being a lady! We were poor growing up, but my mama was always a lady, and she instilled those values into me.

@mhtammi

Ай бұрын

My mom grew up poor and her mom raised her and her eight siblings telling them that poverty is no excuse for bad manners. My mom and her brothers and sister did quite well in life, and I think a large part of it was because they were raised right😊

@BIBLE-a-s-m-r

Ай бұрын

❤ my mom too! She currently lives in a trailer park, but her unit is beautiful. The rest are just so bad but she has flowers, a fence, and inside it’s so elegant. She has her mother’s fine china set up on a white farmhouse table, and there’s beautiful gemstones hanging from the curtain rods, she even made a separate room to put “extra stuff” so there’s never clutter. Here I am in a house and it’s a journey getting there. ❤ She isa writer, has lived like a nun the past ten years, not knowing where her rent would come from but God always provides for her.

@Retrosenescent

Ай бұрын

Isn't compliance with your parents' wishes the polar opposite of authenticity?

@mhtammi

Ай бұрын

@@Retrosenescent I guess it depends on what you think the role of a parent should be.

@Aire1168

Ай бұрын

@Retrosenescent not at all! I did not say my mama forced her will on me, she led by EXAMPLE! If she was NOT a lady and MADE me act like one, THAT would have taken away the "authenticity" of BEING a lady!

Jealous people. I’m a ranchers wife and I’m not rude and dress dirty to do my chores. My daughter is marrying a grain farmer and she acts lovely, kind and dresses beautifully when she is on the farm. We went to a family church and a lady said it is so nice to see your daughter doing her garden looking like a postcard from the past. You channel made us be more Real because I loved to dress up fancy and be polite as a child in my backyard so now we just do it in the field. Thank you❤

@MissAnn-xu9oo

18 күн бұрын

Thank you Anna. We need some compliance training out here.

When I was a teenager I had other girls hate on me because I was too "uptight"... I was by far not, I just never liked vulgarity! My mom gave me a strict education and good manners, but in my surroundings elegance was seen as something negative. With the years I leveled up my life by removing myself from environments where I was not valued and I could be myself "always overdressed"😊

@lunatikaartist

Ай бұрын

Pourtant tu fais bien vulgaire...

@spacebar9733

Ай бұрын

I’m the same way but I never had anyone hate on me.

@Alex_Schoenknecht

Ай бұрын

💯💯

@Sonia-rn1zz

Ай бұрын

I always get told I'm "overdressed". Sorry you're intimidated by my authenticity and personal standards being higher than yours 🙄

@carolinaquintero404

Ай бұрын

@@spacebar9733 that's really nice! In the culture around me if you were in a group and you didn't behave like the rest it would make you a target.

I’ve had strangers completely over share and tell me some of the most unhinged things. I find it extremely uncomfortable when people don’t have boundaries when it comes to conversations. To be elegant and classy, it’s imperative to have social awareness, emotional intelligence and cultural sensitivity while still showing your authentic self to the world! Edit: Also some people I have literally just met will use such vulgar language and talk about the most taboo/inappropriate topics. This has also occurred with co-workers who simply cannot stop over sharing 😮‍💨. Much love Anna ❤️

@shivi5669

Ай бұрын

Exactly I also don't over sharing, if we aren't best friends, especially something very unhinged, I always try to inform the other person that I am not comfortable in such conversation but they always ignore it.

@bebeface9822

Ай бұрын

@@shivi5669 Yes! I have to remind myself that if a conversation makes me uncomfortable then I don’t have to partake in it with awkward laughter but rather just ignore them and go on about my day if they’re strangers. If they’re a coworker/friend/family then I would tell them that the conversation makes me uncomfortable and to please be mindful of awkward topics when in my presence

@ayushikumari7368

Ай бұрын

When comming to oversharing things, during my early age I was not much experienced and matured at that time and I have shared few things with few of my closest friends. Later after few years due to circumstances that friendship did not continued and even one of them became my enemy. That was a life lesson for me that I will never forget to make sure not share things that can be critical for us.

@m.a.p.g.

Ай бұрын

You can excuse yourself politely and still allow the person to be who they are without judgement, however distasteful it may feel to you. Some people are extroverts. What you describe as uncomfortable is normal to them. Being gracious is authentic. They may think unfavourably of you as well. Who are we to judge anyone when none of us are perfect? What a person like that needs is a gentle guiding hand. They may not know that a bit of mystery is a good thing.

@s.a.4358

Ай бұрын

Years ago I got some friends together for my birthday, including my childhood best friend and a school friend - we are in our mid-20s by then. The two friends go along and because they were both newly single and sporty, decided to be running buddies. A few weeks after best childhood friend told me that she was really uncomfortable because the other friend was constantly talking about very private things including her sexual history, her problems with mental illness, her religion (which sounded a bit like a sect) and traumas . Childhood friend thought they were meeting up to be running accountability partners, but she felt that she was being used as a therapist and was super uncomfortable considering they really didn’t know each other well. Especially if somebody is talking about trauma and heavy topics, it can be really a lot for the other person, and may even get triggered about issues they are themselves dealing with. Even if someone is your close friend or your partner, they are not your therapist.

I’ve been using elegance as a tool to apply stoicism. Meaning not reacting emotionally but responding properly. I associate being a lady with someone who exerciases with healthy boundaries without being vulgar.

You can be your self and elegant. Yourself, just better. We should always work on being a better version of ourselves.

Consider or compare rather the learning of Elegance to learning a language. Some people grow up with more than one language in their home from childhood and speaking that other language is easy - some people learn another language outside that home setting and at first it is hard, and awkward, but with dedication it can become second nature and no one will notice that it wasn’t an original part of you. The same thing with Elegance, some people grow up with an elegant family, and these things come automatically to them. Others have to learn and practice on their own. Whatever the situation no one should ever feel bad for being elegant. ❤

@s.a.4358

Ай бұрын

I like that comparison. It’s also possible to speak different behaviour languages at different moments depending on the environment.

@maudline

19 күн бұрын

That was a great example!

Who you are changes over time. When I was younger, I dressed for my career...well-tailored clothes, designer accessories, fine jewelry. Then I changed jobs and wore a uniform every day. When I retired in 2020, I sold my entire wardrobe and now wear casual clothes from the thrift store. I stopped wearing jewelry and makeup. It's not that I've let myself go but I'd rather save my money for a comfortable retirement. Being able to support myself and pay the bills is far more important than what other people think of me.

@user-br3xs6hz2b

Ай бұрын

You can find sophisticated looking clothes at goodwill. That’s what I do.

@nonnieTerri

Ай бұрын

Thinking of the future is classy. Good for you!

Occasionally I see videos of elegant ladies. It starts with the clothing for me. Believe it. There is an elegant way of presenting yourself to the world.

@aeiou0123

Ай бұрын

Clothing, speech and manners :)

This is spot on. I've been a Jung student for years & noticed that the persona or "mask" gets a bad wrap, but it's not something that needs to be destroyed in the name of 'authenticity.' I have often been critiqued for not being open enough, but with strangers/people I don't know well, why would I NOT operate from the persona? It is our spokesperson that we send out in the world because the world isn't always safe or appropriate for the real self. Behaving with elegance isn't the stuffy patriarchal rule that many assume it is.

I love this video. People are multidimensional, and we are not exactly the same all of the time. Your personality, your behavior, and who you really are on the inside are three completely different things. It’s so unfortunate when people use “being themselves” as an excuse to engage in bad behavior/habits. When you do that you are doing yourself a disservice.

Anna, I believe this is your best talk yet! It is my true, authentic nature to not swear & have certain social standards. People are often surprised to learn that's who I am! They are welcome to swear, etc around me, as that's their authenticity.

@Alex_Schoenknecht

Ай бұрын

💯💯

I’ve always believed being elegant means being authentic, nobody likes people that fake it and try to be someone they’re not 💁🏻‍♀️ a true lady shines speaking her truth

Thank you, Anna, for this brilliant break down! In my eyes, the bigger problem is not that elegance is identified with fake, but rather that what people call 'real and authentic' is actually what ellegant people call vulgar, having no manners, being untactful, crude, rude, egotistical - just like you have said, a person who have dropped all inhibitions and forgotten that we are civilized.

I believe people can have a private side to themselves, and yet be courteous, respectful, and considerate of others.

To me elegance is graciousness .. it comes from within the heart ❤️ being honest, respectful and having manners 🙏

I think we can interchange “authenticity” with “integrity”! To have integrity means to be true to the values that you have regardless of the circumstances. If you believe in honesty you will not lie for money, position, or being popular! The problem with today’s culture is that anything and everything goes! At the end of the day having (learning) knowledge will help to figure out what is authenticity or integrity especially if we didn’t grow up in a learning environment! Manners, kindness, generosity, and forgiveness are some of the things we learn from infancy! That’s why educating our young women is so important! They are the future mothers! 😊🥰🥰

@spacebar9733

Ай бұрын

Yes I agree. Many people don’t have integrity anymore.

Ah, a return to the elegance content, I love it! With the direction of the content and Anna's personal journey, I am glad to see the strong union of elegance and authenticity, it shows true growth of mindset - wisdom comes in many forms.

Your videos get better and better. Love you. ❤

I love the turn your videos took, i really really appreciated this one especially when you say that you can follow channels which talk about elegance and levelling up just taking what resonate with you, and leaving what is not, so on point ❤

1. Only one thing I disagree with is the vulnerability part. Unless you can explain YOUR definition of the word. 2. I would ask them, if you can't be who you truly are, then who are you trying to be? Why? Are we THAT insecure that we have to be someone else? This is spot on. Thanks, Anna. It's refreshing to see someone else thinking as I do... elegantly.

@s.a.4358

Ай бұрын

Why do you agree with the vulnerability part?

@BIBLE-a-s-m-r

Ай бұрын

Exactly- people that believe their best is fake? That’s sad.

Grateful to Anna for her elegance, and because of her I had the courage to sell most of my fast-fashion clothes. Slowly upgrading my wardrobe (better fabric and style) ❤🥹

Because true elegance is an art. A lot of people now days do just do it for aesthetics or to seem superior to others. I’ve just got rid of my old clothes & revamped my wardrobe. Im so happy all my clothes feel so good on the skin by following your cheat sheet 😊

Thats so true people thinking that being yourself is beinge silly or not giving a freak abt it

Love that shirt ❤❤❤can’t take my eyes off it!!!

@maddscientist3170

Ай бұрын

it is a dress from "LilySilk"$279.00USD ; the shirt in that same stripe is $169.00 USD

Values. This what it is all about, not necessarily one's wardrobe and choice of restaurants. Being kind, holding the door for anyone struggling, yielding the right-of-way when you don't have to, contributing to your community: these are all marks of elegance, IMO. Yes, I sometimes wear pearls. Yes, sometimes I laugh too loud and talk too much (I'm a retired writer and don't get out much). It all comes from a good place, though.

@s.a.4358

Ай бұрын

Maybe you have a loud voice or you are really amused 😀 I tend to get loud when I get excited, I don’t even know I am doing it. If someone (usually my partner) points it out, I will adjust. I think that is the important part, not to be perfect but to be willing to adjust with feedback and be considerate of others.

Thank you for validating what authenticity means. I am not quiet or reserved in personality, yet I consider myself to be elegant in my dress, manners and the way I related to others.

I love your goofiness in the thumbnail 😂

@brooksiedoodle5087

Ай бұрын

Bummer, you changed it 😕

The striped dress looks good on you Anna❤

elegance, as all attributes of a being, is something that MUST be natural and from inside, which means "authentic"...and the ones that try to fake elegance not being themselves will never be truly elegant

So according to some people good manners and dressing appropriate means being inauthentic. Swearing and being rude and sloppy and dressing inappropriate means being the real person? Those people think being elegant and having class means being stiff. They just missed the whole point on it.

@Karen-ve6ds

Ай бұрын

I agree. Authenticity is one thing but having manners, consideration and respect for others are merely tools that human beings use, or should use, to navigate a civilised society. I don’t know what that has to do with being authentic/inauthentic or elegant.

Anna, I love all your videos but your sense of humor today topped it!!❤ You are so authentic in your videos! Thanks for all you do, it is much appreciated!♥️

Love the tone here, Anna. This is reminding me of the tone in your Elite Woman course, and I’ve not heard it from you on this channel in a while. Glad your compassionate yet tough love elegance coach is back in the driver’s seat.

You can be authentic without being vulgar. It’s important in life for us to set standards for ourselves.

Anna, how dare you bring “Keeping up with Appearances” into this! Mrs Bucket (Bouquet) would never! 😂😂😂 Love that show.

An eye opening episode for me in so, so many levels. Anna, this is perhaps one of the most important episodes that you have made. Atleast for me. The part of how we adopt negative behaviour hit me like a train. I now understand when I am me and when I am reflecting someone else from my past who affected me very, very negativly. I am not that bad, afterall. I just have to be more aware when this person is showing and shed it off. Thank you❤

Not the forest people 😂

I’m loving this new Anna , well done.

Anna Thank You So Much for being a positive influence! Your videos have helped me so much over the years. Not coming from a family where I could learn these things has made life difficult in some sense, but looking to women like you has really impacted my life for the good ❤

I don’t know that it would be healthy to always be vulnerable, however, I think it is possible to always be authentic. Being authentic is very different than being vulnerable. I am wondering if these two words were some how aligned with each other. I am going to say that I am vulnerable around people when I know it’s safe to do that. For example, I am not going to be open and vulnerable when I am considering a major purchase. However I still can be my authentic self and still make sure my needs are well represented. Good manners and possessing good etiquette skills is invaluable. It allows me to always be genuine. Even if I am being disrespected by others, I know how to maintain self respect and dignity.

Hi Anna! I realized something listening to your video. The older I get the more authentic I feel i can be. I think I'm evolving in "my" right path. ❤

Carl Jung also talked about individuation - becoming the best and purest version of oneself, or "how one is meant to be" - the True authenticity, which we usually have to unfold gradually through lengthy work, self-reflection, acquirement of wisdom and personal growth. To "just be who you are" (embrace all your flaws, accept all your bad personality traits etc.), as preached by our society, is often rather a stark contrast to this true authenticity acquired through the challenging process of life-long individuation.

“Why is authenticity always portrayed like this”? Haha, so true. 🧙‍♂️🧙‍♂️🌈🧙‍♂️🧙‍♂️

Thank you Anna, for all these high-quality videos that you make for us. I've been following you for years and taken courses with you, they are all so worth it when you are serious about levelling up, and straight to the point while very precise and with lots of content to work on. I've subscribed to your new channel ❤

I agree with our past shaping us. After so many ingrained years of behaving and thinking a certain way, it does feel fake to me in my core. I can easily stop swearing.

Im a guy watching this I find your videos so funny lol last video I watched was the car one I almost fell off the treadmill at the gym 😂

Agreed. I am a psychotherapist; an IFS Therapist that works with inner parts; which conceptualizes that if you get programmed or take on someone else's idea of who you should be... that is a part. Then we dialogue with those parts to strengthen and find the true self. The inner work is really important. Many times with clients, it comes down to their own gut knowing parts and their own inner authority parts, that they had to bury and stop using ... to be acceptable to someone else. When they find those parts again, we strengthen those, and that is when the person can come to find who they really are. It is a gut knowing based on clarity of values, and then it takes practice taking actions and living from those authentic values. And when they do that, they step into their own authenticity. I support you in elegance being your authentic values system. It shows! Many Blessings to you and your channel. Patti Bee, M.S., LPC, LMHC, Madison, Wisconsin, USA

Being graceful and sophisticated, kind and sincere is VERY elegant.

You are VERY classy not to show user names. Love that about you.

I love this and I'm so glad you used Iris Apfel in the thumbnail. Elegance comes in all shapes and sizes. I call Iris a fashionista. Some might call her eccentric. But always elegant. If your only association with elegance is people on instagram and how they dress, that's not the whole picture. I show respect and have manners. How can that be inauthentic? Thank you Anna!

Class and elegance is innate. These are things we learned from childhood and it takes a lifetime to get the class and elegance act in our system for it to come naturally. Grew up in an all girl school and after went to a finishing school and I couldn't be more grateful for it ...

I love you, Anna Bey!

Elegance is a state of mind. You can acquire the most expensive wardrobe and furnishings and have no elegance. You can also be elegant without being wealthy.

Hi Anna! Could you please do a video on classy workout clothes for the gym? Love your videos ❤

My wife is vegan and likes clothiers that don’t hurt animals including skincare and makeup. Maybe you could do a vegan video That would be nice. Also it’s hard for plus size women to be able to dress according to their body type. So while they work out until they get to a more healthy weight it would be nice to do a video for the plus size ladies ❤

Thanks Anna, all of your contents are much needed nowadays. ❤

I really applaud that Anna is questioning her views and reflecting about fashion in a deeper way

Thank you so much for your deep reflections on authenticity. Very wise and realistic.

Perfectionism is toxic. While I stopped being perfect and started to be my true self my life became positive,it changed,everything is amazing now!❤❤❤

I genuinely agree with you, thank you for sharing 👏

I love this video! One of the best so far. ❤

This is timely for me. I am here because I found I have been overexplaining who I am to people because I am not outwardly projecting who I am with my style and look. I want my outside to match my inside.

Thanks Gorgeous Anna for the loads of Essence from this video you shared. Well-said indeed. Will find tune for Self-Authenticity. Love you 😘

I've been longing for this. Thank you Anna. From Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹

I LOVE this type of content from you.

Remember when Phoebe on Friends met Mike's parents? That's what is called authenticity fighting with inauthenticity. Lol worth watching. Anna this was brilliant! Thank you.

The editing in this video is fantastic!

You are getting wiser and wiser Anna ❤

Great video, Anna!Wow❤

Thank you for this ❤ really appreciate it

"Setting boundaries communicates respect not only to your surroundings but also to yourself, and that actually leads to you showing yourself that you have high standards and there's nothing inauthentic about that. That is the key to elegance."

Such a great video. While you've talked about being authentic through the years in your elegance videos, I think that you've never approached this issue in such a thorough way. And it is very cool to see how you've grown and changed and embraced said change. You've put the information out there; now let's hope people understand it. 🤭

I love your videos ❤

Love it sooo much❤Thank you.İ have taken many good insights for myself.Keep it up.

you're so right

I try to explain to people that elegance really just means being the best of who you are. Being true to your values, showing your personality, and polishing one's presentation do not have to be in conflict. If one is truly elegant, they are being authentic. Otherwise it's just an act, and people can often tell the difference rather quickly. When polishing one's self authenticity is crucial for real elegance.

I love this convo

Authentically elegant with gold teeth right here 🖐🏾

Great video, Anna. I'm using this with my children. We were just having this conversation!

Very well analysed, and presented Anna! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

What if elegant IS who you truly are? What if a person is "themselves" and then people start talking about "have some class"? People are never happy.

coaching looks good on you ! keep doing these vids!

I was bought up middle class and good etiquette and how to be elegant I too had a lot of jealousy with people that wasn't classy family and foes but I don't care I'm going to be elegant and classy and thanks Anna for the great advice

Thank you so much for your wisdom, also I love your blue-and-white striped clothes.

Many nuggets of wisdom in this video❤So good❤

Hi Anna your right on target. I have always love elegance like you and has been wonderful in attracting rich men nice men amen. Happy you are guiding these young ladies 🥰🌟🌟🌟

It’s not right or fair that we are made to feel bad for wanting to present polished. Love this medium length hair, Anna.✨🌸✨

I always watch your videos you are my favorite KZreadr

Love this

I love the philosophical content recently x

It's a super elegance to be authentic and adopt a simple fashion

So glad you introduced me to Lily silk and provided a community for women like me.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

Ай бұрын

Love Lilysilk! Their clothes are truly of such good quality and fabrics! 🥰

I love iris aprel I am flamboyant but I am totally into being gracious to others

Excellent movie, really like it, great story, great acting, love it

Great video.

Excellent video subject!

I also don't understand with some people sentiments. if being rowdy you're authentic, but if you're being elegant you're fake 🤨 it's all about how you were brought up. some people were taught to behave certain way. and if you think your behaviour is somehow inappropriate, you can certainly change and improve. that's not fake

I can’t believe some people think the best version of them is fake… so sad!! Also Anna I wish you chose to share more colorful pieces because to me, a closet full of neutrals isn’t me.