Wow it's crazy how Ben still thinks of himself as a fat person, whereas when I look at him all I see is a tall skinny man. Damn body dysmorphic tendencies really are a thing :/

@TheForestFamily

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah fr, I was a chubby middle schooler who dressed to let everyone know I watched anime and was nerdy. Now, I’m 22 and I still look in the mirror and see myself like that.

@annieadelina3766

4 жыл бұрын

I was skinny growing up but thought i was fat. The mind is crazy

@sophiayamagughi

4 жыл бұрын

like daidus said, once a fat kid, always a fat kid. I agree 100% cos I'm the same

@KatsMeyow

4 жыл бұрын

Yep, even after losing 160lbs over the past 5 years, I still assume I am the biggest person in the room and head to the end of a clothes rack to look for the largest size available.

@song5361

4 жыл бұрын

I shedded half of my body weight and I feel like a whale every day. Everyone says I look so amazing and I can’t shake it. I make sure I eat healthy in both not eating too little and eating too much while making sure I exercise but not too much because I don’t want to fall into an unhealthy cycle because I’m so worried it’s not enough.

I love how delicate cris is asking him those questions. The respect in the relationship is amazing.

@lollsazz

4 жыл бұрын

Not really... She is very straightforward... What do you even mean with "delicate"? E.g. she just asks "was it because you ate too much or was inactive"? And Ben says, actually, the underlying reason was poor mental health.

@desireeknox2094

4 жыл бұрын

🤨🤨🤨 she thinks about what she asks before she asks him. Not the question but how the question is worded her tone is delicate and from her body language and presence you can tell that if she notices him get uncomfortable or unwilling to answer a question she will stop that line of conversation. Yes it's something that should happen in every relationship but it doesnt. And her behavior is something people should note as the way they should be treated and the way to treat others

@erican3244

4 жыл бұрын

@@lollsazz Maybe she asked that way to make the point that people aren't only overweight just because they're "lazy" or eat too much.

@willdavis6714

3 жыл бұрын

When you said Cris I thought you meant Chris. And I’m like “his name is Ben”

@JNMKlover

3 жыл бұрын

@@erican3244 some of us literally were given poor genes and the fact that we r thousands of years from perfection, it is not surprising that most of US and other countries have obesity. And then add in the cost of food and food deserts, we have to be kind.

I find it really cute that when Ben met Cristine, he felt like he had something to live for

@ginao6810

4 жыл бұрын

Nabiha Khan letting someone love you for exactly who you are can make you be much kinder to yourself ♥️

@eriley7809

3 жыл бұрын

Mmm... yeah but it’s not healthy for either sides. Relying one person... for motivation to live that is

@soldiercells

3 жыл бұрын

@@eriley7809 You're right but i don't think he meant it in the "im relying on you and putting my life in your hands" way, I think Cristine just gave him hope for a nicer future and a better life. Now I'm sure he has a lot to live for and he's very happy, there are just moments where you just need a bit of a push and that, for Ben, was Cristine.

You can see the anxiety ben has talking about this, and i love how serious cristine is just listening and asking just the right quesitions not an ounce of humor or awkwardness She’s known for, because She’s not awkward talking with the man she loves about something that scared him, this is an awesome place in a relationship i just love you Guys not because you are a KZread Couple is because you teach us how a healthy relationship looks like.

@squidney6680

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly thank you :)

@toomuchiridium

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree with this! I appreciate the sensitivity and honesty between Cristine and Ben. I’m so happy they talked about this!

"It's impossible to have a conversation about physical health without talking about mental health too". AMEN! Also, this vid is a good example of not just a healthy relationship, but what a "real man" is: honest, open, confident enough in his "masculinity" that he has no problem sharing his feelings, or his lilac polka dot socks.

Awww, I feel this was hard for him to talk about. He seemed a bit shy about it. We're here for you Ben.

@danielleking262

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

@ezridx11

3 жыл бұрын

You can even hear it in his breathing. Sad Ben breaks my heart a little bit 💔

I love how Christine is asking the exact questions we wanna know ☺

@pinkutora3777

4 жыл бұрын

CRİSTİNE*****

I clicked on this already annoyed thinking “oh this KZreadr is going to tell me their harrowing journey of losing twenty pounds to get from my ideal weight to theirs.” And honestly it felt really good to hear from someone who was in the near exact shape as me (minus some weight related health conditions I’m fighting) and came out the other side healthy and happy. I appreciate that he mentions walking and I’ve been watching some other weight loss content and I’ve learned that I need to stop listening to the weight loss gurus that tell me to do intensive work outs for three hours a day bc it makes me feel weak, essentially compared to how strong I once was, and makes me quit before I’ve truly started. Long story long I appreciate this video

@ysucae

4 жыл бұрын

yes, if you have competent health professionals helping you, the most basics things will mostly be 1. eat at regular times with proteins and fibers 2. hydrate and 3. try walking 15 min everyday. they want you to start small and feel proud of the little things. last thing they want at first is for you to diet or train like an athlete because you will only hurt yourself. i hope we overcome this. good luck my dude

@gabrielleelizabeth465

4 жыл бұрын

Em You too!

@KelseyDrummer

4 жыл бұрын

Hang in there Gabe. One step at a time. ❤

@yarn_chicken

4 жыл бұрын

I’m rooting for you! Don’t let some “gurus” bring you down and do what feels right for your body.

@tracyyu2578

3 жыл бұрын

hope you are keeping up!

Ben is such a national treasure, I swear. The fact that he started to care more about his health once he met Cristine is so sweet! Way to go Ben, I had no idea he’d lived through these types of issues, not in the slightest... it’s so hard to recover from it, and it seems that Ben has, I’m so happy for him

at this point ben needs his own channel. i think his content would be really interesting (unless he makes videos about taxes lol)

@angelloodleoul4217

4 жыл бұрын

Even if it was about taxes, It would still be entertaining as hell

@vari1827

4 жыл бұрын

He has his own Chanel is called bentendo I think

@jmaddstuff

4 жыл бұрын

Valerie Rojas omg i didn’t know that! thanks!

@MsJeanneMarie

4 жыл бұрын

I’d watch Ben do taxes. lol maybe Christine would bring him the tea. lol That would be wild.

@emmiemae8220

4 жыл бұрын

He's done a video where he played Mario and they mentioned taxes haha

Wow didnt know this channel exists! YES FOR HIGHLIGHTS!

@sarahelizavoldy

4 жыл бұрын

It's so much easier for me to digest in this format.

@johannamueller9061

3 жыл бұрын

@I'm good at cooking. how do you know?

I was overweight in high school and the prospect of the "Freshman 15" terrified me so much that I actually ended up doing, what I coined, the "Freshman -15". My fear manifested into an eating disorder and I lost 15 lbs in my first year of university. That eating disorder continued for almost 6 years.

@fuckerwhopings9110

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you are doing better now

@kaitlyncoughlin1860

3 жыл бұрын

Same, I was overweight in the beginning of high school and had only just recently got to a healthy weight at the end of high school so the possibility of losing all that progress when college came around terrified me! Especially since my older sister had gained 20 pounds her freshman year but luckily for her she had been severely underweight going into college. So I ended up developing an eating disorder and lost that “Freshman -15” in the first 6 months of college and its still something I struggle with to this day

@colorbar.s

3 жыл бұрын

fuck bodyshaming and fuck diet culture

What really stuck with me about this highlight, is Ben saying that even though he’s lost all this weight, he thinks he need to lose more; and that he still see himself a a fat person. Because I know exactly where he’s coming from. When I was my fittest in high school, I was at my smaller of like 155 but I had 150 as my goal weight; I hated looking in the mirror back then, because I thought I was so fat still. Unfortunately, to no ones fault but my own, I gained A LOT of weight after high school and I still remember thinking that way in highs cool. goes without saying that I hate my body even more now, then I did back then.

@Tallie602

4 жыл бұрын

I was always overweight but looking back at HS pictures, I wish I was that “fat” lol. I think to myself now, I wish I could appreciate myself more then. But then again, why can’t I appreciate myself now and take care of myself?

@ilikeitimnotgonnacrack9307

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, the both of you, I hope you're both having a great day or night ahead! You're all wonderful, my guys

@Sarah-cb6cb

3 жыл бұрын

This happened to me too! I was convinced I was so fat in high school but looking back, I would gladly go back to being that small!

@ZakBaganslover4ever9

3 жыл бұрын

This is probably going to make someone mad, but numbers lie. Im by no means skinny, but I'm skinnier than I've probably ever been, fitting into some middle school clothes. I fit small tshirts. But I still weigh in the 160s and I'm 4'11". I don't need anyone else to tell me about my health, but it could also be muscle. The "muscle weighs more than fat" saying.

Wow, I always thought been was taller, like over 6ft. Crazy what the camera does. He looks great regardless

@allyjay7395

4 жыл бұрын

I thought so too but i remember Cristine saying she is only 5'4" so maybe Ben just looks much taller at 5'11" in comparison

@beaniepq

3 жыл бұрын

@@allyjay7395 5'11 is still pretty tall, just one inch away from being 6ft.

As a person that has been heavy my whole life, I have always struggled with how I see myself. Even when I lost 100 pounds I looked in the mirror and saw a much heavier me. I would love to see more content about how you guys got healthier, you are so inspirational. Watching Cristine lifting weights makes me want to find a gym and do the same, maybe a video about how to safely lift so you don't break a nail would be interesting too. I love you guys.

@hannahwalmer1124

4 жыл бұрын

same~ i lost 40 and still saw myself as big even though I wasn't. I've gained quite a bit of the weight back, and looking back at the photos I'm like...?? wasn't even close to big t'f

@krazykrazy14100

4 жыл бұрын

@@hannahwalmer1124 Yes! I remember loosing 40 pounds as well and still seing myself so fat and kept comparing myself to cousins or something. Recently due to many stresses and honestly some lazyness I've gained a lot of the weight back and look at those old pictures... I looke great! At least the best I've ever har d and couldn't believe I felt fatter then than what I feel now. Though recently that feeling of "you are looking to fat" are coming back and I want to tackle them in a healthy way because it can become a dangerous territory way to fast 😩

I was bullied for being overweight in middle school, which led to eating disorders such as bulimia and then to binge eating. The kids used to call me nicknames, referring to me as a ball. Looking back at the pictures of myself then, I cannot understand how I believed that I was fat. I was healthy, active and happy, and then I became unhealthy. I was starving myself all day. I limited myself to one meal a day in order to maintain a certain weight and to feel better about what I looked like. Eventually I started over eating to try and fill the emptiness I felt inside, which led to obesity. Now my struggle and aim is to work on healing myself emotionally, mentally and physically. This has helped me, hearing about someone else's journey in such a transparent manner. Thank you

@totomimi88

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry you had to go through all this.. hope you are better now ❤️

oooof when you realize you’re in young ben’s exact situation lol

@marylotrx3661

3 жыл бұрын

How are you doing today, if you don't mind me asking?

Cris sounds like a legit therapist

Damn them talking about people around their 20's having identity crises hit a little close to home hahah I'm relieved though that it is common and that I'm not the only one going through that.

@alexisrossi9427

3 жыл бұрын

yes since graduating college I’ve felt this. My identity has been a student my entire life basically so it’s just weird trying to grow out of that. You are definitely not alone!

So I was chatting with an Australian Olympic Swimmer sometime last year and she talked about "getting put out to pasture" as an athlete. She had a major injury and was put into the hospital with a very limited diet, so she got out of it ok. But her colleagues that stopped being professionals had a really hard time balancing their huge hunger (from doing all the exercise and sports) with their lessened amount of workouts. So a lot of them kind of ballooned after stopping competition.

@Pepa14pig

4 жыл бұрын

I played handball professionaly for 13years and everyone told me “you’ll get fat when you stop playing” 3 years later, I weight the same as the day I stopped playing. And no, I don’t workout on daily basis. So I would say it’s possible, but not a rule. I know just one person that gained weight after quitting...

@victoriarees4540

3 жыл бұрын

Hmm.. I feel this on a spiritual level. Volleyball, 10 years then injuries started kicking in so +50lbs, -30lbs, +40, etc for the next decade

@janecampbell4662

3 жыл бұрын

That’s what happened to me in high school. I went from playing five sports at once to nothing when I broke my leg and permanently damaged my knee. I was so used to eating a certain way that fit my muscle needs that the rebound from stopping all exercise made me gain huge amounts of weight all at once which then gave me an eating disorder as I tried to push myself to lose it all as fast as possible despite my injuries.

@YukisTwin

3 жыл бұрын

As a retired dancer I’ve definitely struggled with this. The weight gain hasn’t been extreme but I was “heavier” to begin with even though I looked super skinny. I looked 140 but I weighed 165. I weigh a lot more now but it was gradual, going to college, hip injury, having a baby. I’m at 200 but I really don’t look it. But when I compare to old photos I definitely see I got slightly heavier. I’m a big time foodie too and it’s a constant battle with my body to tell it “hey, we’re not dancing full time now, we need to chill out with the hunger”

WHY CANT I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS CRISTINE IS SO DELICATE WHEN ASKING THESE QUESTIONS 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

This is my favorite segment of SimplyPodLogical so far. I really like seeing Christine as an interviewer. I feel like she has a good sensibility as an interviewer and I like seeing her "own" the mic. Maybe when quarantine is over she can bring in guests and interview them, I'd love to see that!

THIS. Male body image is something so overlooked today and it’s important to address.

I really appreciate Ben’s willingness to share his experience. Good on ya Ben!

I honestly didn’t know that about Ben, and I truly appreciate him for sharing his story on such a relatable topic for people like me in our early 20s who are having a rough time with college, work, family, and our social lives. As someone who has gained weight these last few years in college I know it’s hard to get into a healthy routine, but it is not impossible. Thank you for sharing!!!! 💜

Cristine’s a good interviewer.

I feel Ben when he talked about how happy high school was and how college is not as happy. I thought it was just me but it’s nice to hear how college may be not so good as everyone else say.

I’m watching this while eating a yummy strawberry salad 🥗 I lost 8 pounds recently, I’m 5ft and weighed a month ago 172 pounds... I’m proud of myself, I’ve been more active with my son too ^-^

@emilymerckx9620

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats! That's a big deal, I'm happy for you!

@me0wcifer

3 жыл бұрын

Great job momma 💛✨

@crabcakes7784

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you! Keep it up ☺️

@abbyrusso5076

3 жыл бұрын

congrats! your doing great!

I’ve never really had a healthy relationship with food. I either heavily restricted and developed an eating disorder, or when the polar opposite and was close to a binge eating disorder as I ate my feelings and mental illness away. Right now I’m still in the latter. Please know you sharing your story has really helped Ben. After watching this I realized I never thought of the long term health problems or struggles. I’ve developed kidney problems from my restrictive diet, and am at high risk due to the binging- and having body dysmorphia from both. This episode is a game changer for me.

The identity crisis and the dark time in that age that you mentioned was so reassuring. I thought I was alone or weird for feeling so confused right now, I’m just so overwhelmed

@carolinequinzada8924

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Ever since I started University I not only started struggling mentally, but also gaining a lot of weight. Add to that the existencial crisis of not being sure I picked the right career path and you get a very confused, unhappy 20 year old. It was very reassuring listening that I am not alone in this situation and that it does eventually kinda get better(? Idk but watching someone I genuinely respect and admire talking about this gave me a lot reassurance too.

Appreciate Ben being so open and honest about this

It is also important to note that some people (like me) can be as unhealthy as they want at an early age without gaining weight, but as soon as you reach adulthood (for me around the age of 24) the way your body handles your diet and activity level changes. I gained 5 or 6 kilos in around a year, which is a very rapid change for me, so I suddenly had to change the way I was living dramatically to stop becoming overweight.

@dramalawlight

3 жыл бұрын

Now I’m scared, oh no

Thank you, Ben, for opening up about your previous overweight. I kinda experienced something similar while going from high school to university and I could never really gasped what happened in this period of my life before I saw this video. I'm now a guy in the middle of my 20's and still heavily overweight with some minor health issues and in the last couple of days, I was wondering, what the next years of my life should look like. And when I think about those years, I want to be healthy or at least healthier. So I'll try to get back on track to lose weight. But enough of my rambling, great podcast as always from both of you!

Ben has convinced himself that losing 20 more lbs will make him healthier, and that’s sad. If a doctor hasn’t told him he needs to, he shouldn’t assume. I’m proud of Christine for questioning him on that point; cuz take it from a person who lost 100 lbs during cancer treatment. No doctor alive wanted my formerly obese butt to lose that weight! They stuck a feeding tube in my stomach to force me to get more calories after I dropped 20 in one week... then replaced that thing six months later when I was still dropping weight. The only people who congratulated me on the weight loss were people who think “skinny” equals “healthy.” And the reason I haven’t wasted away to nothing is because of the doctors and loved ones who shut those people up!

Wow this story hits home. I just realized that i was unhappy and i ate to make myself feel good. It’s so true that i kinda didn’t care if i live a long life or not. (Like it doesn’t matter anyway). But the end of last year my mom got some problems with her knees, and doctor said that she need to some lose weight, 20 kg to be exact. So I decided to lose weight with her. Starting from 21 Jan, i am now 10 kg lighter than last year and boy! does that give me some kind of self-esteem back 😊 another 10 kg to lose tho. Wish me luck

I have gained so much weight and have just now realized how out of control this is and that i need to work on myself. Hearing Ben talk about this is encouraging me because it shows that health is possible.

it makes me cry when ben says his inspiration to lose weight and become the man he wanted to be came from meeting christine and becoming familiar with the woman who she wanted to be. so beautiful

It's so weird isn't it? I've lost. . .oh probably 70 pounds or so and when I look in the mirror I still see myself at that heavier weight. I see pictures and things and I KNOW I'm not, but it's still always what I see. I can relate, Ben.

If Ben and Cristine can healther than I can! This gave motivation to do so :)

Wow, thank you, Ben! I was in a similar situation. I was in a dark place and used food as comfort. Now that I'm in a better place, I feel and look so much better. I have never heard of anyone have the same issue as me. Thank you for sharing and showing me that it gets better.

As someone who struggles with body image and always sees myself as being overweight no matter when I look in the mirror, I appreciate this a lot. It’s really scary to not be able to trust my own eyes and I didn’t know that anyone else went through that. Thank you for sharing!

I'm only a few years younger then ben and christine and they are such role models. Like they are responsible with their money, health, reasonable, etc I admire them so much

When he was talking about being an undergrad and being unhappy and eating bad food and staying at home and mental health and all I’m like fuuuuuckkk That’s me now LMAO

Man, I relate to Ben more than I thought. The statement of the circle of highschool gone and you start to spiral...

You can see his anxiety when talking about this.. Ben, we appreciate you and your willingness to talk to us about these difficult subjects!! ❤

"Your self concept never comes back" Truth truth truth

Ben was Dean from Gilmore Girls working at the grocery store hahaha

I appreciate these personal podcasts so much. Thank you both so much.

Thank you for sharing this story Ben, I appreciate it. I just graduated undergrad in December 2019 and have a very similar situation.

Oh my gosh he was a milkman?! That’s adorable!! I want pictures

Thanks for sharing your story, as a person in their early 20s I relate to a lot to what you went through and this kinda gives me hope that it's not that unusual to be the way that I am and it makes me feel that things will be alright

It’s great that Ben feels safe to talk about this. Thank you for feeling safe with telling your fans about this!

You've come so far! We will love you either way and so will Cristine.

I appreciate that Ben is able to talk about this stuff because it helps me realize that the way I feel is more common than I realize and that there is hope

Ben you are an inspiration!!! Thank you for being so vulnerable and real with such a personal topic. You look GREAT

Love the respect you two have for each other, it's really quite touching. :)

This actually created a lot of clarity for me. I feel like Ben was able to put into words what I'm going through right now with my relationship with my health and my body.

Love how Cristine is asking questions and their love they share together

I want to find someone who can communicate like this. These kinds of conversations mean so much to me.

It fells good to know that other people feel the same way. Ben mentioned just not caring or thinking about physical health when you're depressed, and that's exactly where I am

honestly the respect they have for each other is amazing that is something to work towards in a relationship.

Christine is so right. Knowing this about him makes him so much more relatable & likable

My partner is in this exact same situation and I didn’t know how to support them, thanks for sharing your experience Ben, this has helped me understand the situation better!

Love this. Thanks for posting and talking about this

It's so empowering for others to hear about your story and know that if you've lost weight, they can do it too. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for sharing! I am overweight in my early twenties (just out of college) and I'm working to make changes now too. It's reassuring to know there can be rewards in the long run

It must be tough vocalising those thoughts and feelings from back in that bad place so thank you Ben for sharing. You don't need us to tell you, you have done really well and keep it up, but you have and I'm happy that you are healthier.

Ben you look great now! Your hard work definitely paid off ❤️

This was so interesting to watch. It's amazing to see Ben being so open and vulnerable about this, and Cristine being so thoughtful in her questions. I also really appreciate them making points (in this and other videos) about eg BMI being an unhelpful measure, mental health being a huge part of overall health, crash weight loss being unhealthy and unsustainable, aesthetics not being the primary reason they both lost weight, etc. All that said, just for anyone reading this who is heavier than Ben or Cristine - please know that that doesn't mean you're unhealthy or unattractive or that you have to be unhappy! Ben's body type changed, and he slowly changed it back by returning to a level of activity and eating which feels good to him. Your set point weight may be higher, your body type may be different, but that doesn't mean you're any less healthy or, you know, worthwhile as a person! Health promoting behaviours such as moderate exercise have well-proven links with overall longevity, even if they result in you losing no weight at all. Tl;dr Ben's story around weight is only his story. You can't tell someone's health just by looking at their weight. Every body is worthy of respect.

I applaud Ben for talking about this and I applaud Cristine for asking these questions so delicately and respectfully. you can see there's a lot of love between them and that's always nice to see 💕 thank you for sharing!

Awwwwwww look at chubby little Ben🥺 so cuuuuuuute

Good for you! Best health to you young man!

omg, it's like ben is in my head.... that's exactly how I feel and my condition is at this point. only that I still in a way don't care about myself but am a little by little starting to. nice to see a success story, as cristene said

Awe Benana great job!! You two are my fave couple ❤️🥰 Cris you are my spirit animal!

This made me feel so much better about myself. I've gained a lot of weight since leaving my last job and I've feel so shitty about myself. Thank you Ben for being open about this and putting yourself out there. 👍

I really appreciate you talking about this because I've always struggled with weight - and you guys are exactly right. It's never one thing. It's just something where you fix one part of your life or mental or physical health and everything is fine, it's a whole picture kind of deal, and it's definitely still a work in progress for me.

This story makes me sad because how much I relate to this. Currently dealing with being overweight, and this pandemic isn't helping things. Luckily I have supportive people around me that are helping me get healthy and stay healthy If you are struggling with weight issues, be it over- or underweight, I just want you to know that you matter, you are an amazing person, and you deserve to be healthy and happy, even if doesn't feel that way right now. And if you are on the road to recovery, I want you to know that you are strong, but don't feel like you have to do it alone. You got this 💜💜💜

Ben seems like such a lovely, genuine person

Thanks for sharing your story, Ben. I’m a mid twenties human and I’ve gained a lot of weight this past year. I wasn’t thin to begin with, and now I’m much bigger. With my medication changes, bipolar diagnosis, and overall state of the world, I’ve let my physical health be put on the back burner. I never knew Ben was once bigger, and hearing your experience definitely makes me feel less alone. I respect Ben and Cristine so much. It’s really neat to know that someone that I respect has gone through the same things as me and can approach the topic in a really truthful, logical way. Thanks

I really appreciate you guys being real and sharing your stories with a realistic perspective. Your guy's honesty is very refreshing and I love how much you both support each other. I have been overweight my entire life and mostly due to mental health issues that fed into comfort eating. I have tried off and on several times to loose weight and I have only recently ended a job that caused tons of stress and sucked out all ability to care about anything. Hoping to find a new job soon that doesn't do that to me and allows me to be happy in it. Trying again and I think what I'm going to try is to have a mentality of "I am doing what I can in the moment and my ultimate goal is made up of moments. It's ok if in a moment I mess up and don't eat well because there will be more moments that I will eat well." When I can, I'm gonna get a treadmill so I can walk in the comfort of my home at any hour and just be judgment free. I hate exercising in public as I have an extremely heightened sense of fear of being judged by other people when exercising.

Cristine also lost weight right? Compared to the 4 year ago videos I see some different

@danielleking262

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, both of them have been eating healthier and working out, so she lost weight too. I don't think we really saw Ben much on camera and he already lost his weight.

Thank you for sharing this with us Ben.

Ben's sock game 👌 How Ben spoke about his mental state during his early days of undergrad was maybe the most eloquent description of my own undergrad experience. I felt really alone when I was younger in feeling like I wasn't "adjusting" well to the transition between high school and university (which obviously isn't true, so many struggle with this). Thank you for sharing Ben, much love to the Simplys 😊

Can relate to the early twenties mental health and weight gain. 😔❤️

Its like he took the thoughts right out of my head

Lmao, bens lilac polka dot socks are beautiful!

Good job getting healthy Beyyyyn! I also went to my doc and was told to lose 50lbs or there would be consequences. Down 20lb, 30 to yo!

If I don't have this kind of dynamic with my significant other, then I dont want it. You two are so sweet together

I can SOOOO relate to you ben! My mental and physical health feed off of eachother too.

I love how y’all’s relationship is One day I’ll find love like this

I gained a lot of weight in middle school due to depression and never really lost it/grew out of it until high school. Even now as I start college I’m still a bit heavy, but my relationship with food has improved drastically. I did crash diets and worked out during high school, and I had a lot of disordered eating where I would obsess over the calories and carbs I ate. Now, I just eat and when I’m full I stop! It sounds simple but it’s so easy for me to overeat. I feel a lot better and I get to eat what I want. Seeing/hearing Ben’s story and understanding how he feels when he says he could stand to lose a few more pounds makes me feel like I’m not alone in this journey. Thank you for opening up!

So many things I love about this clip. The cat cam, Ben dismantling the patriarchy one pink polka-dotted sock at a time, but most importantly, the openness and honesty you are sharing with us. Love!

Thank you, Ben, for sharing this

Thank you Ben for your insight. I've always struggled to maintain a healthy weight because I always think I'm fat, or I could lose more and never seem satisfied with where I'm at. While it's hard to hear those thoughts may never go away, there is comfort in knowing that I'm not alone in feeling that way. ❤️

this story really struck a chord with me, because watching this video I realise that I'm currently going through the same thing now that Ben went through in college and *its not going good at all*, and this video (which was randomly recommended to me, but thank God for it) has motivated me to start trying to get healthier and lose weight

I’m very impressed with you both. I think you are smart and good examples for your younger audience. Your work ethic is admirable and I appreciate your authenticity. I have started listening to these podcasts you have put out and find them very worthwhile. I just have one thing that I find a bit distracting in the podcast and that is the vocal fry, especially Beyn. Maybe it’s just because I’m older? Keep up the great work. Love my Holo Taco!

I'm late to this video but I've only seen Ben as he has been since the first time I'd seen him in a video and he looks great. I would have never known about his health until now. He has achieved a lot for himself. I'm happy for him.

When I was in high school, I ate food, especially chocolate, to make me feel better too, and at one point I just stopped eating sweets altoghether and limiting my food intake to one plate per meal, which helped a lot and mad eme lose weight thankfully. When I talk to my friends about bodyimage and stuff, sometimes they tell me I'm not fat, but I do still think of myself that way, and especially now when walking and physical activity is hard to maintain... The start of it was basically the fear of becoming as overweight as the rest of my family. All of my close family are overweight, especially my father. Me and my mum speculate that he started being unsatisfied with his life bc of his job, so he ate his frustrations away. Also, she thinks that he never learned how to pace himself and dose his food intake because in his childhood his mother might have made more accurate protions, it's always all or nothing with him. In general, I think the food we made at home wasn't really unhealthy, when you eat 3 plates of it, anything with substance will make you put on weight. When I started making less food though it was already too late and he was used to eating a lot and would find something else to eat. my brother is a little bit of the same, although he is aware that his eating habits are unhealthy, but still isn't really willing to compromise... and my mother recently got diagnosed with diabetes, most likely inherited, although she has problems regarding her weight too, so that is also a scare-point of putting on more weight.

Thank you for talking about this, ben!

I couldn't even recognize Ben on his picture! He's doing good work and has a really great body now!! 😘😘