They do come back. I even chased mine for a couple weeks, and even got blocked. She came back after almost 3 months apologizing. It sucks and makes you think all sorts of crazy stuff, but once you understand them and where it comes from, you can see the signs and back off a little.

@vladsciencedrums

20 күн бұрын

Were you the anxious ? I got broken up with 🥲 I was anxious towards the end and needy and she just shut me out. 1 month strong

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story!

@veng4nce767

17 күн бұрын

Hello how did it happen? Mine said she will keep me blocked untill she erases her feelings for me,she said she wanted to be friends later on but i know shes also missing me

@veng4nce767

17 күн бұрын

its my third day after break up and i will start trying no contact i guess

@Apbt-rv7zw

16 күн бұрын

Was she Avoidant?

Once you’ve identified this personality “disorder” in a partner, stay the F away! They will destroy your life!

700+ days into no contact and I'm starting to think it's over...

@ScorpioKay1027

16 күн бұрын

Starting? Day 500 should tell you to make it be over. ❤ 6 months of no communication IS communication. Bold communication, in fact.

@schmohawk5512

16 күн бұрын

@@ScorpioKay1027 Have you heard of humor?

@alanrodriguez210

14 күн бұрын

​@@ScorpioKay1027 Your math kind of sucks. A year is 365 days. 6 months are half that

@BradBrowning

14 күн бұрын

lol well, the path towards trying to get your ex back and moving on follows the same old road. It's what you do after that matters. If your ex and/or relationship was worth it, you can try reaching out to test the waters. Otherwise I hate to disappoint you but it may really be over. See her in the next life, perhaps? :-) Take care!

@Z-gg3fc

12 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning😂😂😂

Weird way to describe avoidants socially. Every avoidant I know has a lot of connections and friends. They struggle with love and commitment in romantic relationships.

@salemhighschoolvolleyball957

15 күн бұрын

Agreed. This is what makes them so hard to identify early on. I also disagree saying that someone might have to reach out first. If theres hope of change, part of it HAS to be them recognizing their mistakes and patterns, identifying your value to them, and swallowing their ego . If they cant do this... they will not see the value in changing for you.

@ScottWebb27

14 күн бұрын

This is interesting. Im trying to think of ppl that could have3 been avoidants butwho knows. One had legit one friend...outside of work friends. The other, has a few friends and work friends of course. The difficulty here in the 'dating' aspect is 'guy friends'.... and they're guys that have expressed interest in her at times when she appears 'single' - just potential relationships on backburners til they are 'missed' or 'needed?' Especially if she also cant commit to something with you? As an 'anxious' type, I'm learning to rewire around this all and give less 'fucks.' It helps as i become more secure in myself and in my faith though. It sucks to sit in that anxiousness all day but I reframe it as being shown something in the times of waiting. Shown something about me, about her, about life. It's a move towards non-attachment and just showing consideration and care for myself and for them.

@stilmesamejamese1

14 күн бұрын

True, my son’s mom appears very social and has tons of connections with people and casual friends that keep conversations to a shallow, superficial level but getting below the surface, true connection and communication is basically non existent. It’s heart breaking

@shandi4868

13 күн бұрын

It depends. I know one avoidant who is also avoidant with his family and friends.

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

They struggle in relationships because they mostly struggle in finding someone who truly understands and accepts them.

Coming back to these videos about a year after being addicted to them. Your ex isn’t coming back. I really thought mine would, we haven’t spoken since May 2023. However I just began dating a girl who I find more attractive than my ex, and does more for me than my ex. I finally moved on about 9 months after the breakup. It gets better and you will be able to feel for someone again.

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route and here's how to tell you're doing it correctly: kzread.info/dash/bejne/mGuu17qkXda8o6w.html Anyways it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.

Hurt people hurt people. These people usually have severe narcissistic traumas, and will hurt and hurt and hurt. Move on and find and healthy human. ❤

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Right. In addition to that, be sure that you're also healthy yourself so you won't be carrying unnecessary baggage or trauma into your new relationship.

@nannaschultz8444

8 күн бұрын

I agree

Avoid the avoidant. They're just going to run away again, unless they have received some serious rounds of Therapy. They need to come to you, and eventually they most likely will. I' used to chase my avoidant ex, but finally said enough after this cycle kept repeating. I've gone rounds of 4 months, and 47 days, and currently 32 days of No Contact. She reached out the last two times, but honestly at this point I'm good in my life if she returns or not. Her loss if she doesn't.

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Wow all that trouble for only a few months' relationship eh? In this case you may be better off dating other people.

@westcedar

18 күн бұрын

Same ! We're in this breakup/get back together cycle and it's been so stressful. We (she) broke up again 7 weeks ago and I've had so much peace and am sleeping better. I have always chased her back but this time I need to stay away for my mental and physical health. I've finally realized, it's not worth it despite her and I having a great connection. She just has to run away. It's too bad that she does no work on herself.

@Rankutubuki88

13 күн бұрын

Wish i could have that mindset😢

@susannahpearethcan5ing

4 күн бұрын

Unfortunately I can’t stick to it for longer than a few months because I have adhd

@madika555

3 күн бұрын

​@@westcedar is she back?

What he is leaving out they always leave again after coming back. Think about that if that is what you want, it is exhausting and not good for you.

@andymorin9163

16 күн бұрын

if I get her back I'm gonna need her to see a therapist or maybe see one together

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Based on clients I've coached in the past, some do, but not always. Some tie the knot and have been happier while others become miserable. It really depends how you handle it, guys!

@Apbt-rv7zw

12 күн бұрын

@andymorin9163 Avoidants don't change , yes unless they get serious help and this change is very gradual and takes a long time. They are emotionally stunted and have difficulty self reflecting. This takes them a long time to develop and you have to be super patient. Good luck hope it goes well.

I say (ofcourse who am i).If you are lucky enough to be dumped by an avoidant count yourself lucky and acknowledge that the trash has taken itself out.Imagine living like this for the rest of your life.The person you truly love doesnt want anything to do with you occasionally.What the hell is that.If yiu are not an avoidant leave the avoidant and give them space to go find another avoidant.That way they can be with someone who really understands them and can cater for them the best way.That they beat themselves because they are unable to fully connect is not a valid excuse. If it bothers them so much why dont the seek help?Avoidants are horrible in relationships and you really have no business wanting thrm back if the dynamics in your life do not force you to be with them..Go love yourself better and be with a person whi actually values human connection.

@BradBrowning

16 күн бұрын

Good point! However, avoidant attachers are people you can learn to understand and love as much as anyone else... if the person is worth it. Granted it's definitely not everyone's cup of tea and will only click with certain attachment styles.

It so sad that society these days seems to accept it as 'normal' to reward bad behavour. No better example than how an avoidant behaves destroying their partners and happily moves on assuming that it's all OK. Been on the recieving end of one. Survived. Never ever again. Narcissistic holograms... looks real... but there is actually nothing there.

@BradBrowning

10 күн бұрын

I'm sure you have your own reasons, especially if you've dealt with an avoidant ex. That reward goes both ways as you're also giving yourself the necessary time to think and re-assess the relationship as well as re-assess what you need and want from one. After understanding how they operate in relationships, is this something you're willing to put up with? And is your ex open to getting therapy? These are stuff you ought to consider when dealing with one and yes, it's tough. I can see it's definitely not worth it to you anymore so yes, moving on is always a good option. Take care!

@susannahpearethcan5ing

3 күн бұрын

Yes!!! I’m getting sick and tired of being told “just be patient give him time and space” It’s like WHAT ABOUT ME!? My mental health is down the toilet it’s been 7 months since the BU and it still feels like it’s only been a week to me!!

@susannahpearethcan5ing

3 күн бұрын

Yes!!! I’m getting sick and tired of being told “just be patient give him time and space” It’s like WHAT ABOUT ME!? My mental health is down the toilet it’s been 7 months since the BU and it still feels like it’s only been a week to me!!

@susannahpearethcan5ing

3 күн бұрын

Plus- why why why do we need to tiptoe around them!? I would do anything for this guy- he’s important to me and he thanked me for perservering and I have a mental health crisis and he can’t deal!!! 😢

@susannahpearethcan5ing

3 күн бұрын

Plus- why why why do we need to tiptoe around them!? I would do anything for this guy- he’s important to me and he thanked me for perservering and I have a mental health crisis and he can’t deal!!! 😢

This sounds extremely traumatizing to the normal healthy functioning person. Asking a person to sacrifice and give up half their life or even more to stay with someone who has so many psychological issues is not fair! This will slowly break a soul. Get away from these people.

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

The ironic thing is you won't likely notice they have an avoidant attachment style until one or both of you is already attached. So my advice, if you can't handle someone with this attachment style, especially if you have an anxious attachment style, is to take things slow and not rush into a relationship. Avoidants best go well with someone with secure attachment style though.

Trust me you don’t want them back.

@BradBrowning

4 күн бұрын

As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.

I’ve had about 10 break-ups. This last one is it. First of all, he didn’t reach out for my birthday yesterday. But he started a fight, saying I wanted a break up. What? It took this for me to realize that he is a monster. He’s insecure, jealous, petty and childish. I want a man. Over it. Happy birthday to me.

@dig-in8bo

14 күн бұрын

I wouldn't call my ex avoidant a monster. She has complex PTSD, ADHD, emotional childhood neglect, in addition to being a FA. I think I'm missing something... oh yes. Neurodivergence that makes her have a hard time speaking on the phone unless she recently did ketamine therapy. She has a major core wounds and I loved her to the moon and back, but at the end of the day aside from therapy she also needs to do attachment coaching. She missed my 50th birthday, even though she spoke to me 4 days before that. Then 2 weeks after my big birthday I held space for her just listening and not asking for anything in return. I still wanted closure talk and also needed to get my things back... which she kept delayed for 3 months. Super frustrating and painful. Yes, avoid the avoidants. I'm going to guess mine was on the far end of the spectrum for avoidants with all her core wounds.

@CorvidLove

13 күн бұрын

I hope you had a happy birthday anyway. I just had the fifth breakup. I want a woman that is not afraid to express feelings. That wants to be close to me. 24/7.

@davidgoldman1452

13 күн бұрын

I totally get you because the same happened to me. My birthday was last Thursday, and she reached out after many days only to ask me if that day was indeed my birthday. When I answered, she disappeared, not even seeing my reply, leaving the chat unopened forever, I guess.

@CorvidLove

13 күн бұрын

@@davidgoldman1452 that is sad :( my (now ex )gf almost forgot, but she called me around lunch. Something i didn't like because she was online at 6AM. Avoidants are afraid of emotional closeness. They avoid it. Thinking of you is one step closer to your heart. She didn't want that. (I guess)

@McQueenMelissa

13 күн бұрын

It's a good thing I don't care about anyone remembering. My birthday. I attract this type because I am so patient, understanding, and forgiving.

Don’t give me hope

@priebess

20 күн бұрын

I Agree!!

@NeanderthalNatty

19 күн бұрын

To say anything always does something is ridiculous. I've been in no contact for 15 months

@BradBrowning

19 күн бұрын

Just stating facts laid out on this vid. If you want to know what your chances are, take the free quiz and answer as honestly as possible to get the most accurate results, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz

A "quirk" of an attachment style? My avoidant is now divorced twice. She has ruined lives. Stay away from these people.

@BradBrowning

16 күн бұрын

Avoidant attachers are only compatible with particular attachment styles and it's definitely not everyone's cup of tea.

@chrislim7976

16 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning Yup. She got exactly what she was looking for. She married a narcissist who was fake including the marriage as he was already married. Then she tries to sweetalk me. She's INSANE.

@SwampBambiiX

8 күн бұрын

My avoidant blindsided and ghosted me. Its a blessing in disguise

They are in arrested development. The only things you need to do is leave. After a string of bad relationships if they can’t self reflect and dobthe work you shouldn’t have to bend around them because they won’t address their issues. Go no contact, heal from this incredibly selfish person, and find some that doesn’t value their independence from you as their number one thing in life. Their is no point in being in a relationship with someone that gets to have their cake and eat to while you get their breadcrumbs. Move on!

@chrislim7976

16 күн бұрын

@@ChadEAult This. You can't be close to someone if you're not willing to address issues and you can't address issues if you're not willing to open up to someone. Both marriages this woman was in were not authenic ending in divorce and ruined lives. These are selfish sadly self fullfilling flawed people that should not be in any relationships whatsoever. Complete waste of time.

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

Good point! Nobody's perfect and therefore, there is no such thing as perfect relationship, but there needs to be self improvement on both ends, otherwise the relationship may face the same demise as last time. Both people ought to be willing to grow to create a more fulfilling relationship. This vid may help you achieve that: kzread.info/dash/bejne/oqCb0a-QZqrYfZs.html

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

@kanereall

18 күн бұрын

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

@jack-gx

18 күн бұрын

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

@jackt5507

16 күн бұрын

Just sleep with her best friend, and act like it’s no big deal, focus on yourself and keep ur head up and they always come back

@teem5945

15 күн бұрын

We sometimes forget that people are dating others because they are secretly eyeing something else other than a relationship. You're looking for a relationship, and they were not. The only reason they didn't leave earlier is because they didn't have someone who was flaunting what they make them think could offer them. Heal, work on yourself in other areas e.g. physique, finances etc and give that warmth to someone who will appreciate it.

@helentalia9923

14 күн бұрын

5 years and you didn't think of marrying her?

8:37 An anxious person can trigger avoidance in the other person and an avoidant person can trigger anxiety in the other person. In time, they become an anxious and avoidant couple even if in the beginning they were not anxious/avoidant. Attachment behavior is fluid, unless one person's attachment style is extreme to one end of the spectrum.

@jacquelinemarie9655

17 күн бұрын

This is exactly what happened to my marriage and it is such a quick slipper slope to dysfunction. Both people need to be willing to give and take in equal measure, and keep talking through the triggers and repair when there are slipups.

@ashton1952

17 күн бұрын

@@jacquelinemarie9655 yes, communication is everything

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

It's fluid to an extent. You're describing the dynamics of an avoidant attachment style with anxious avoidants, which is very challenging to both people, especially one with the anxious style, especially if communication and boundaries are sub par.

@KR-ou2qo

15 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning I believe anxiety and avoidance can be situational and don't always reflect our true attachment style. We may be in relationship with a person where their interest in us is higher than our interest in them (or vice versa). This makes us show avoidant behavior which in turn might trigger anxious behavior in the other person (the common theme here is the insecure attachment). It might just be a bad match (different level of interest) disguised as anxios/avoidant pair. The same two people might show total opposite behavior in relation to other people. We are not always aware ourselves about how genuine our interest in the other person is. I do not believe that magically avoidants and anxious people just attract each other like magnets. It might be true for a very small percentage, but most relationships that show anxious/avoidant characteristics are just bad matches (as in different level of interest).

A dismissive avoidant is a nice way of describing a narcissist.

@robertjraines

20 күн бұрын

😂

@movingsaudade6028

20 күн бұрын

​@@robertjrainesI keep saying this

@robertjraines

20 күн бұрын

@@movingsaudade6028 I just got out of a relationship with one, she left saying she needs to work on herself

@ashton1952

20 күн бұрын

It's because people don't understand either fully. A narcissist can have any insecure attachment style alongside the disorder. Narcissism is about big needs and depending on others to get those met. As DA's don't depend on others it's the least likely attachment style to have alongside NPD.

@user-mu2mp8ll6c

19 күн бұрын

Not exactly genius. Maybe you were the problem by that logic

Jut block they from all social media! Go make money, work, live the dream life and ignore they when they come back.. a better woman who like you and love you will come. Dont let she come back to destroy your life again, she will leave again and again... 5 months is the max to start change again.

@BradBrowning

8 күн бұрын

Hey thanks for dropping by!

I don't see why I should manage my needs because my ex is dysfunctional. He has ruined my life....wasted years. Lied and cheated. Good riddance

@Apbt-rv7zw

16 күн бұрын

Yes, agreed. She wasted my years, cheated, lied spent money for herself and hardly reciprocated love. Much better without an Avoidant. This coach doesn't address; that if you get back with an Avoidant. All those nasty traits they have are still there. Waiting to engulf you again and again.

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Hi! This vid is for those who want to try to make it work with someone who has this attachment style. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.

All these comments are so painful to read and relate to 😢😢😢😢

@BradBrowning

6 күн бұрын

On the plus side, you're definitely not alone in going through this so stay strong, yeah? Good luck!

I wasnt sure if my ex is avoidant or not, or the mix of secure and avoidant, but after watching this video, im pretty sure my ex is avoidant and im anxious. You pretty much described my situation😂

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

lol then apply the tips from this vid as much as you can. But if you're still not sure and think your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Take care!

@nyevreklabarnabas8141

18 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning i already am working with you😇

I didn’t go no contact. I wished him a happy Independence Day.

@simrpreet7592

13 күн бұрын

Lol😂

@BradBrowning

10 күн бұрын

lol nice!

@sda141

3 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning 😅

I hope she doesn't come back and if she somehow manages to contact me I will ignore it.

@BradBrowning

14 күн бұрын

As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.

@spiritwanderer777

14 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning there was cheating, ghosting, silent treatments, stonewalling, gaslighting, complete lack of empathy, even as a friend there is nothing to salvage because all trust is gone, i moved on

I just got dumped by an avoidant. All of this is true.

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Hi there! Thank you for your comment.

I moved on after the no contact 😅 and now he puts sad stories always

@BradBrowning

14 күн бұрын

Good! Moving on and living your best life is the best revenge, obviously if you didn't want your ex back, they say.

Yeah give them as much time as they need for love bombing the new supply with all the sex they wouldn’t have with you and give them extra time and space to get over their aggravation that they couldn’t manipulate - gaslight you anymore 😊😢or get away with the cheating. I do miss my avoidant but have to remind myself it was a love relationship with a 5th grader. There’s no future in having a normal heathy loving relationship with this type of personalty disorder as they don’t have the capacity to pair bond. Going back will lead to more heart ache. It’s all take no giving or reciprocity. They are parasites - leaches - soul rapers. I been through it all including trauma bond so with all due respect in my opinion and experience, what this gentlemen is preaching is in my opinion is not in your best interests. Take time to heal and it will take time but do it. I’m still on my healing journey near a year but as time goes on you Know you are doing the right thing for yourself. Don’t go back!

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

Avoidants don't necessarily "love bomb." That's more of a trait of someone with narcissistic tendencies, which I discussed here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/Yp52zsGldJaberQ.html

@alvpha

7 күн бұрын

​@@BradBrowningSeems like You're right. My ex and I have had an on and off relationship. She always comes back after a breakup. And usually the reason for the breakup doesn't even make sense. She broke up with me Yesterday just because I called her out on not talking to me in a rude way. Her solution was to breakup. Have I lost her forever? (This isn't our first break-up though)

Needed this video today.

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

Thanks for commenting. Take care!

Hi Brad. Today is my 30th day of no contact. I am thinking of starting a conversation within a few days. He was also avoidant in nature towards me. I hope my ex deletes all negative thoughts and we can start fresh. Let's hope for the best. Please wish me good luck🙏

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Hello there! Yes, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aYSXyKmeetS7idI.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmp9l81uZdPUc6g.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!

@betsybarda5588

12 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowningwhat if I kept breaking no-contact but now it’s been over 30 days?

I gave up on my ex and moved on .. as he is not the one I wanted. Thanks to you..

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision. :-)

Also true of building a new relationship. Thanks for sharing this advice.

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

Except with a few differences, but I get what you mean. Thanks for dropping by!

Stop selling hope please it was my first mistake after break up to fall in that no contact and they will be back loop. They will be back if they really loved you, if they really loved you will everything will be like that? Don’t know actually don’t know anything anymore

@ashton1952

20 күн бұрын

Know your boundaries, know what you will and won't put up with and let them know in a loving manner. Either they come up against that and have to adjust themselves to fit into the picture of what a secure relationship looks like, else they go. Be prepared don't just wing it if they show up.

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Just stating facts laid out on this vid. If you want to know what your chances are, take the free quiz and answer as honestly as possible to get the most accurate results, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz

No thanks, I tested all this once. Just curious. It is not worth it. Leave them and go find someone you can count on and not play this game. It shouldn’t be that hard or that much work.

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.

This is very relatable...

@BradBrowning

19 күн бұрын

Thanks for your support! :-)

Is 20 months enough space???? Got ghosted. Reached out a couple times, no response. So pulled my energy and havent reached out again. Dont guess he's interested or ever cared at all. 🙁

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Depends on the context of your messages and what you've been doing during the space apart. However, more than a year apart more likely affects your chances but if you still wanna try, this vid is for you, too: kzread.info/dash/bejne/gaqE0dqOlZPfebw.html and try out a few of my text messaging tips here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/g6egqJuPlJaWfbQ.html Good luck!

She will never come back if you cheated on her

@godsson2681

20 күн бұрын

🧢

@tanvinaamin5300

18 күн бұрын

She shouldn’t either

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

You're right. Cheating does puts stuff on a whole different level, avoidant or not.

Why she act like she hates me when I’ve never done her wrong

@a.d.b535

20 күн бұрын

Keep watching these videos by different coaches and you'll learn why.

@priebess

20 күн бұрын

There are some great videos regarding this exact question on the Coach Ryan channel. I found 2 of his short videos that particularly hit the nail on the head. Praying that you heal from this loss faster than I am. It is terrible to feel like this.

@movingsaudade6028

20 күн бұрын

Is that the kind of relationship you deserve?Is that really how you want to spend the one life you have?Wondering why the person you love won't love you back right?I don't think so but your life your rules.Good luck and hope you find happiness someday 😢

@jbkras1992

20 күн бұрын

Sadly, that's why. Females saying they want the "nice guy" are bull face liars Lol

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

This may help explain why: kzread.info/dash/bejne/goJhkpmkcdevmto.html

How about this: skip the avoidant ex who keeps giving you anxiety, and go for a healed one. Or go back to them when they’re healed (they need therapy!!!)

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

They do, if they want to make things easier in their relationships. However, if you wanna make it work, or understand them better, then you can play a role too, in understanding how they operate...and this is what this vid is about. Good luck!

@11Virgo11

6 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning well I used to be an avoidant and I was not a good partner for anyone. What I needed was the kick in the butt where the person that I truly loved chose himself over my BS. I’m still an avoidant but I went to therapy and now I am where I can recognize it and COMMUNICATE it with him, what I’m feeling and needing. Before I would just leave the minute it got rough, leave in the middle of the night, throw him out, leave mid fight, need space when it got too close. I still do need that space sometimes and fights overwhelm me, but I can communicate now. But I couldn’t without therapy. And that’s the only time it’s fair to be with anyone. If you can at least communicate something. This is my opinion in any case.

Thank you for the info.......Ive done what you mentioned it works,,,,,,,,i was starting to step it up, after hearing you mention to slow down, she will come to me...case she said to me this morning I think about you a lot......cause I given her space.........anxiety needs to be control....got busy with other things in my life, she even asked what Iwas doing.....she mention that made her happy.

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

That's great! Continue to play your cards right to get the best possible chance of winning back her heart. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: kzread.info/dash/bejne/hYiAzNubqczHcrQ.html Good luck!

They are your ex for a reason. Don’t make the same mistake twice. Just try and think back about how you felt in their presence. If they were sitting next to you right now, how would you feel? Anxious? Disappointed? Alone? Unsatisfied? Fooled? Empty? This helps me to never go back.

I will not always be the one to change.. No, I am a human, I value my time more than my ex. I dont care if they struggle. I loved him, but actually, I begin to hate, and unlove this person, when they can do this..

@BradBrowning

8 күн бұрын

I understand where you're coming from. I hope you find a better match for you soon. Take it slow this time! Take care.

I wanted her back so badly until she went fcking nuts and started lying and claiming all over social media that I was abusive. I know for a fact shes just not confronting her emotions

@Apbt-rv7zw

16 күн бұрын

Yes, they don't like to be cornered or held accountable. They can become destructive and sabotage

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

Abusive how? She's either venting or exaggerating but it's never a good idea to outright rant and/or accuse an ex publicly. Was your breakup that bad/messy? She looks like she's lashing out for whatever reason. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

@Apbt-rv7zw

15 күн бұрын

@TheDirvish Mine lashed out too when her family found out she was cheating behind my back. To get her family onside she claimed some horrible things about me, i.e., like I was financially unstable. That I was trying to kick her out of house that we had bought together. Sometime later she called the police and changed the locks on the house and I was told to leave my own home. I had dine nothing but love this woman and always treated her respectfully and kindly. Avoidants can be really abusive when they end a 6 year marriage. Never again.

Hey brad. First of all thank you for your content it is really helpful in this difficult time. I need to ask you if I'm blocked from social and phone and can only communicate through WhatsApp and my no contact period is also about to end so should I wait for her to unblock me (as you've said in a previous video that if someone blocks you so you should respect their decision of backing off) so should I wait for her to unblock me or should I after my no contact ends send her a text and break that ice??? Even tho she has blocked me, should I text her on a platform where I'm not blocked? Thank you Brad. + Please make a detailed video on your 2nd R (Rekindleing) as i need it more than ever.

@BradBrowning

19 күн бұрын

Hey, you're welcome! You may have to extend the no contact rule to two more weeks and see if anything changes. However, this really depends on what happened. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz

This is great advice. I gave my ex the space he needed even though i just wanted to be close. After no contact, we reconnect, and he says everything feels new, and all I'm doing is waiting for him to initiate contact. No chasing from my end, and now his heart races every time we see each other.

@user-mu2mp8ll6c

19 күн бұрын

Good work!

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Awesome! As a reminder or more of a precautionary measure really, focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!

@jacquelinemarie9655

17 күн бұрын

So what happens once the new feelings wear off?

@MTG9878

17 күн бұрын

@@jacquelinemarie9655they leave!

@krose318

15 күн бұрын

@jacquelinemarie9655 Well, he just asked me to be exclusive as he saw I was dating other guys. I reminded him he chose this when he ended it. I guess I'll have to decide if it's what I want

An avoidant wpuld never leave after coming back if you recognised the signs and took a step back. Usually anxious people get too close and show too much emotion and as such the avoidant needs emotional freedom not necessary physical freedom. So when they step bavk so do you and they will hopefully love that.

@BradBrowning

8 күн бұрын

Ditto. This is why avoidant exes work well with folks with secure attachment styles. But as it is, avoidants and anxious attachment styles often find their way to each other more commonly as we'd like and this is where their relationship gets super challenging.

This wholr process of wanting to connect and then them detaching when actually they should be by your side will eventually become such a frustrating cycle

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Yes, it does and it can only go on for so long. Your ex has to be willing to seek therapy too. Mentioned that here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iqOnlbxtmJeufqg.html

There are also avoidant personality disorders. In no contact with one right now. Unfortunately for her, I know what it means to have a personality disorder. I'm probably not interested in getting her back. But I'll let you know how it goes.

@ashton1952

20 күн бұрын

The actual disorder is different than the attachment challenges... lil confusing with the same title

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Hey thanks for sharing your experience!

For any guys in the chat, you cannot break the no contact. I feel like that needs to be stated, and if she goes and sleeps with another guy she’s gone and she’ll only come back to squeeze everything she can out of u

@BradBrowning

12 күн бұрын

The case you've described actually happens and although someone's intentions can be just like you've described, in other cases that's not the motivation. This is why it's important to learn discernment in relationship, especially romantic ones where finances are involved. Communication is key as well as teamwork. It's easy to antagonize your partner when this happens which is why you both have to brainstorm for a solution together and not against each other. General rule is when you start to feel uncomfortable about something, that's your clue to impose some boundaries and expect your partner to do the same as well, just to try to keep things balanced and healthy. I know this is tough to do when emotions are involved but with mindfulness, it can be done. Thanks for your comment. :-)

I feel very strongly that this ex is my person and I realise my mistakes as well. I made the mistake of over contacting her post our breakup once I realised we are meant to be. Wish you had made this video earlier.

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Hi, welcome! I've made vids of similar topic so feel free to browse the rest of the channel. For a comprehensive, step-by-step guide as well as some bonus texting materials, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!

Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago even though she loves me we had 2 great days together and then we broke up with the reason that it's difficult to be in a long distance relation with me. I did not went on No contact immediately. We were talking for 10 days and then she said that she is talking to another guy and I went to 'No contact'' immediately after her message. After 24 days of no contact, it was her birthday and she posted a 1 year video dump post in some of which we were together she had my jacket and stuff on. I broke no contact and only wished her happy birthday. 5 days after that she called me at night and I could not respond as I was sleeping. I wrote her gm, are you okay? and she just replied I was confused but now its okay. She is an avoidant. I did not get the reason why she has called me ? Is going on No contact again the best thing to do?

@beryljulie7801

18 күн бұрын

Yes go completely silent that will make her get curious about what you’re doing and it will raise attraction level cos you’re not staying around after she’s rejected you

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

Since you've already finished the no contact rule, you can now proceed to testing the waters. You can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aYSXyKmeetS7idI.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmp9l81uZdPUc6g.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck, man!

Hi Brad, my husband kept leaving after we got married. He left for the 3rd time in 6 mos this last time. We didn’t speak for a month and he was suppose to file the divorce papers. He didn’t do it so I reached out after a month and this situation organically happened. We reconnected we’re intimate and things started to turn around a bit. But he wasn’t fully bk and was communicating inconsistently. So I thought he was bread crumbing me so I started maybe getting pushy. Long story short we are not communicating again. I also found out he was messaging women on dating apps after we talked. So I exploded and looked for him to sign all the divorce papers. I want to let this go bt part of me can’t help to still have some hope. Would this work again after the mess we went through or should I just leave him like he wants? I also sometimes suspect he’s a covert narcissist because he’s manipulative and controlling.

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear it. That's odd behaviuor from your spouse indeed. What was your communication like with him when he left for many months? It's possible he's way too distracted to work on your marriage. Try to apply the tips here so you both can decide once and for all how you want to proceed forward: kzread.info/dash/bejne/h22jtqmndLXTo5c.html

Greetings brad recently me and my gf whom Ive been dating for over a year got into a disagreement about my financial situation. I briefly expressed to her and told her how this disagreement has made me feel also that I dont have many resources that i can ask for besides her and her family . So now she is leaving me to figure things out on my own furthermore there is hardly any communication throughout the day nor affection just really being distant and cold almost as if i dont exist . I did voice to her that I feel like I am alone in the relationship and she reassured me that I wasnt but her actions say otherwise I then asked her if she wanted me to leave and she then stated that “thats up to u” I love and care for her deeply but do i stay and try to make it work or do i cut my losses and move on??

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Hey man, sorry to hear that. In this case, whether you give up or try to stay, chances are you'll run into the same problems in the next relationship you're in. When it comes to romantic relationships, you're supposed to hold your own or pull your own weight since depending too much on someone else financially can really put a strain on things. The practical side of things has to be down pat where you both agree. That's just real talk right there, man. Try to improve your financial independence first and foremost, yeah? If you can do it while in a relationship with her, that's good. Otherwise if you need solo time to do that, then take a break first. Take care!

It’s been months for me im pretty sure he’s not coming back and it’s has had such a terrible effect on me this year. At this point, I just want closure

@Alone_and_Lonely

3 күн бұрын

I feel like men are more likely to come back because they don’t have many options (unless they’re model tier and rich)

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that. If it's doing more harm to you than good, then I agree, you should definitely take steps towards moving on. If you ask me, though... closures are overrated and will only leave you with more questions than answers in the end. This is often the case with my clients when they go against my advice and go out of their way to look for that proverbial closure from their ex. Anyway this may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aa6kmbV_ksipgrg.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!

Hey brad! After 43 daya of no contact... he's changing his profile picture frequently and all of these pictures were took by my and i took it when we went out together....is he breadcrumbing me or trying to make me contact him????

@Darkempress45

20 күн бұрын

lol you’re bread crumbing yourself. Stay off of that man’s profile and leave him alone. If you would just forget he exists he will probably come back. Stop obsessing and live your life. That is how you deal with the avoidant.

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Hi there! Not really... unless it's the picture of you both? It could just mean you're a great photographer! :-) In all seriousness though, you can actually reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aYSXyKmeetS7idI.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmp9l81uZdPUc6g.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

They do go back to their exes. Mine went back to the ex before me 😢

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that. At least you won't have to deal with those sorts of problems with someone anymore? The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aa6kmbV_ksipgrg.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com

My anxious fearful avoidant did the slow fade leading up to me discard. She put us in no contact then broke it after 10 days. We've been messaging on and off. Is it too late for no contact? She told me she misses me however keeps her distance.

@BradBrowning

10 күн бұрын

Yes, cut off contact for at least 30 days. This vid is for you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/oKSps8RqcbO5kbg.html

What if your avoidant ex is on dating apps looking for literally everything you gave them (confirmed even by them). After a year and 3 months, she ran away from those things with me but now runs towards them with anybody else but me (been 5 months since breakup). Also we’re at ‘that’ stage of life, I’m 29 and shes about to be 32.

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Avoidants are usually consistent with their behaviour. What were the issues in your relationship for her to be acting that way with you and how long did you two last? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

After break up my ex falling in love with another guy but she still wanted me as a friend. And as You said in previous videos, being friends with ex is a bad idea if want her back. I denied friendship because it's not possible to me to be my ex's friend and watch my love making relationship with other guy. She noticed I'm not adjusting with her friendship and also I feel jealous and don't want her to make any new relationship. She called me selfish and a cheap person and blocked me from everywhere. Even she said she will never contact again. As your advice I didn't try to connect her. After some days she unblocked me and call me, we made some fun conversation. I didn't made any rude or needy behave, just talked gently. When having fun she said it was her best decision to break up with me. I don't know if she was trying me to feel jealous, but now every day she texted or call me to being in touched with me but she said she doing this as friend. Now what to do? Will she back into my life or just trying to make me stay in the friend zone? How do I get her back?

@MTG9878

17 күн бұрын

Move on! Better yourself, she wants you as a back up, do not take that from anyone!

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Hi! Regardless of whether you want her back or not, it's always best to get out of the friendzone your ex will tend to put you in...especially if there is someone else in the picture. Apply the tips here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/hYt5tNiYqZbJZdo.html

Hi, i have called my ex girlfriend after 60 days. But she didn't attend the call. Then i sent apologize message. But no response.

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

Getting a call out of the blue from an ex is weird and would likely put them on guard. Try to re-establish contact slowly and test the waters a bit. This is where texting comes in. Apply the tips here first: kzread.info/dash/bejne/nJ-VlrVvo9zAgNY.html Good luck!

where was all this info years ago when it would of helped i tried for 5 years yes that long to fix problems with my ex we were together for 10 years but she knows how to get a hold of me been in no contact again for 3 months

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Hey welcome to my channel! :-) Unless I misunderstood your comment, a 5-year back-and-forth with an ex isn't really ideal. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

Long distance relationship ended for me last week . Not sure what to do . She has All the traits of an avoidant now, but she was rushing everything for 3 months and I was happy to do so

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that. As you've noticed, the distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: kzread.info/dash/bejne/eYWNlrBpZNjcpKQ.html AND kzread.info/dash/bejne/Z6KaubSDgtXUcdY.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

QUESTION: my avoidant husband, we've been apart for 7 months, no contact for the past 4 months. I've heard thru the grapevine that he was in a wreck, but he is ok. I feel the urge to reach out and let him know I'm glad he's OK. But another part tells me no. I'm aware he knows I know that although I haven't said anything, what should I do

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

So what's your next move? Are you wanting to try to reconcile? What broke you two apart though? Sorry, although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching

If i break up with him and then i regret and i send texts to him and he responded to me whenever i texted him, what's that mean?? Is there's a hope at all??

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

It happens. Apply the tips from this vid in specific: kzread.info/dash/bejne/i2me2bKaqNCwhbA.html

I’ve been in NO CONTACT for 147 days but my ex started dating someone and I feel frustrated

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Time can be an ally but too much time apart can be your enemy when it comes to getting your ex back. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: kzread.info/dash/bejne/i4qKy7ymiZXeYKw.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

Mine told me he wants love more than anything but doesn’t know how to show up for it.

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

That's sad. Have you tried getting to know each other's love languages though? Thanks for sharing!

@magicisreal111

Күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning Thank you! I wish. I tried so hard to accommodate his but … he’s so avoidant that he was never able to accommodate any of my needs other than intimacy and quality time once a month in person (long distance) and he’d ghost for a week or two after intimacy so we finally broke up two days ago. I tried to make it work for three years but he told me he simply doesn’t want to connect with people very often, including his own mother who he loves the most. You’re the best. Thank you for all you do.

Hey Brad, my wife of 19 years over 21 total three kids left in the middle of the night with our children. She has all the signs of the midlife crisis. Mom died from cancer a couple years ago. New job stressing her out hit the big 40 she set the narrative starting two years before the leave. I just wanna put my family back together obviously I still care about her and love her. She is seeing a psychiatrist and more than likely on medication after she ended up in the emergency room any suggestions? Greatly appreciated

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

Hey I know u prob won’t ever see this comment but me and my ex broke up April 23rd after the breakup I texted her and invited her out to eat and talk but it was useless and the anwser was still a no then maybe a few weeks or a month later I texted her basically saying I’ve changed you know what breakups usually cause u to say and she said straight up should move on or no and a few texts back and fourth she says she has to protect herself and not get hurt again I was lazy and became a lil neglectful and slept a lot and I wasn’t doing much but I have changed and I’ve been trying to do better I wanna try one more time I need ur help ngl

@BradBrowning

14 күн бұрын

If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: kzread.info/dash/bejne/lI5lrcetca_AosY.html

Me and my wife have a fight last year in november and she open cases against me and she have a restraction order agaisnt me and her parrents all behind this i dont know what to do

@BradBrowning

8 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that. So there's basically zero contact between you two whatsoever all these months? How did a fight end up with a restraining order against you? Restraining orders are bad news and depending on what led to all that happening, it may be time to move on from this, man. I understand what you're going through though. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/YmWr2K6Mkbafj6w.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZHeVzbGIg9qvmbw.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com but if there's still an open line of communication between you two, consider hiring me as your coach, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!

Not always. Did exactly this and 13 months later nothing. Except i know it's for the better, i get to rebuild my life.

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Not all exes have an avoidant attachment style. But yes, whether you're in a relationship or not, yourself should come first!

@droflivelife

Күн бұрын

@BradBrowning she was one of the most extreme avoidants you'd ever meet. Thank you for the reply. Your videos helped me in my healing and understanding.

It’s just so hard not to reach out to my avoidant ex because I’m worried about her moving on to someone else when I don’t want her to. What do I do?

@vladsciencedrums

20 күн бұрын

It’s hard man. Don’t do it especially if she broke up with you. And would you really want her if she’s with someone else ? Also don’t assume she will be moving on.

@godsson2681

20 күн бұрын

Just imagine she is alrdy with someone. Rebounds help you sometimes…… You still got her on a pedestal, gotta knock her off it & look at who she is vs who you see her as or wanted her to be.

@movingsaudade6028

20 күн бұрын

If she moves on when you are giving her the space she wanta did she really want to stay with you? And if you keep pursuing her while she needs some space how is that going to help? Sorry just wondering

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iYp2ksGlZpO5oLA.html So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you though I always suggest to go with the first option, for obvious reasons. Take care!

Ok so I cheated, about 2 and a half months ago. She has since then left me blocked me on everything even cashapp. It was a bad breakup I had been cheating for a time, I genuinely didn’t know I wanted her til she was gone. 2 weeks after finding out I cheated she got on dating apps and matched with a new guy, what should I do ?

@MTG9878

17 күн бұрын

Leave her alone, you cheated, you sound like you want your cake and eat it to!

@BradBrowning

14 күн бұрын

She's giving you a taste of your own medicine, man. But this vid is for you, so do your best to apply all the stuff I mentioned here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/moGW3LmrY7TZmqg.html Good luck!

@Vondohavin

14 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning her rebound is abusive like physical or at least was with the mother of his 2 kids and my ex is only 21 she’s never had another relationship with anyone else outside of high school and I moved her out her parents house! May she come back or am I done?

Had a Break up recently after 15yrs. Gave her yrs ago money for founding a business that didnt workout. So in one side dont want lose her completely. I have no problem moving on.. but also want my money back. What shall i do? No contact.. then tell her ..what about my money

@BradBrowning

10 күн бұрын

Hey man, sorry to hear that. It's tough indeed and I understand you're taking a toll not just emotionally but financially as well. Starting a business is risky and since you mentioned it failed, I don't think she has the money to pay you off but if it helps you feel better, you can always try asking her or make some arrangements to have her pay you in installments? Hope that works out. Take care!

How long should a break-up be? How long should a mere "break" be? Who should make first contact...the person who asked for the break or the other?

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

If you've both agreed to take a break, the hows, whys, and whens and how long as well as whether or not you remain exclusive can be agreed by you both. Some couple take a week break for whatever reason for example. What matters is you both agree to the conditions if you're both really just trying to take a break from each other. Watch this, too: kzread.info/dash/bejne/g4R-0tSDpcmTmbg.html

My ex and myself aren't on speaking term I'm still giving her space.

@godsson2681

20 күн бұрын

Me too….

@undead600

20 күн бұрын

No contact since may 2023, I found another girl, better go find someone else bro, it's better off that way

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

Looks like you're on the right track. Go at least 30 days without contact before testing the waters if you still wanna try with your ex. Watch this: kzread.info/dash/bejne/oKSps8RqcbO5kbg.html Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aX6oz7ibdM7InNo.html Best of luck!

@samdath3439

18 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning ty

i hope you can make a video of no contact if we have kids.. its been almost 2 months nw but i always broke no contact specially if she sends photo of our children.. we also had sex twice now during our separation but she still doesnt ask me getting back together..hope u can give me some tips thank u sir brad❤

@BradBrowning

4 күн бұрын

If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: kzread.info/dash/bejne/eYiep6OAerq6paQ.html AND kzread.info/dash/bejne/lniO1NCHmJuyf8o.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

@venerandogonzagajr1735

3 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning thank you and i truly hope things would workout..il keep you posted. 💑

My situation is i was blocked on everything and we only knew each other for a few days. We meet at the bar and hard a great time but i knew i wanted to take her on an actual date which she said yes to. I didn’t disrespect her or anything. But we were talking about when to see each other since I’m in Ohio and she’s in NC. The last time i spoke to her she called me once she arrived back in NC. I told her to call me or text. I waited 5 days so i texted them bam it happened was i in the wrong?

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

Nobody's in the wrong. Chances are she got carried away in the heat of the moment (especially if alcohol was involved )but realized she doesn't want a long distance relationship. If you don't really know her well, she may be in a relationship already. Actions speak louder than words, man. So if she contacts again, be sure to try to get to know her better, yeah?

We had romantic relationship. Now we are in different places. When I talked about marriage through whatsapp, he got angry and blocked me. I was needy and desperate as well. What to do? Unfortunately I don't know any of his friends.

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Never talk about marriage with an ex. That's like learning to run before you can even walk. Start slow and rebuild communication first AFTER the 30-day no contact rule. This vid is for you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ppl917OlYa7Pf84.html

@ManiK-cu4my

13 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning Thanks for your insights and for the link you shared. Thanks again. You are amazing 👏

He said he wanted to be friends with me and that didn’t want “no contact”, that he could not predict the future, but wanted to be friends. It’s very confusing.

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

If he just wants to be friends and you want more, you obviously don't have the same goals for your interaction, which is why it's best for you to cut off contact first for at least 30 days. I suggest you apply the tips from this vid. Please watch from start to end to not miss out on any important stuff which would help you understand the situation better: kzread.info/dash/bejne/hYt5tNiYqZbJZdo.html

Should you delete their number in this case? So that you make them take things seriously?

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Is he not taking you seriously while in a relationship? You both take things seriously by talking to each other but if he's already an ex, you have to be willing to let go a little. That really wouldn't have an effect, sorry.

@hivyfalou1393

18 сағат бұрын

@@BradBrowning In Islam we don't have this an ex, however you can love someone a pure love, but what I am dealing with is the accumulation of toxic friendships, I had friends that are girls that were so toxic, and I need to change this anxious attachment of mine or make it a little balance, it's affecting my whole life., for example, I had friends who suddenly ghost me and think they can intrude my life whenever they want, even in my previous jobs, people told me I'm dedicated and all that then they lay me off before the people who get their salary and not do anything, I want to just live normal without losing my dedication, or honesty just because of past friends or jobs that never deserved any of that

Forget them

@BradBrowning

7 күн бұрын

The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route and here's how to tell you're doing it correctly: kzread.info/dash/bejne/mGuu17qkXda8o6w.html Anyways it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.

I have a question - Is there anyone who did say "no" to their ex who came back, but actually REGRETs for it later in their life, and still wondering the "what if", and is missing them, and secretly want to contact them again, but ego is in the way, and don't know what to do now? Just curious, anyone? Or do I have a special case?? :(

@sf808opalaman

18 күн бұрын

Ive heard that DAs feel this way....

@BradBrowning

15 күн бұрын

It happens, albeit rarely but I've dealt with a few clients in the past who've done the same as you had. Depending on how long it's been and the reasons for the breakup, if the "what-ifs" outweigh your pride, you may have to try to swallow your pride for a bit and contact your ex again. In your case, it's best to be honest and be transparent about how you're willing to try again. Good luck!

he said he loves me but he just needed to be alone because there's some issue with his family he feels he will go against them by choosing me. we both still love each other and he has hurt me so deeply because I feel abandoned with the mindset of if he wanted to he would so this means he doesn't want me. I realised being torn and pushed away from him so violently that I became so attached and reliant on him that I forgotten and lost the will to be my own person with my own happiness. even though now I'm free to slowly find myself again I can't help craving the happiness he gave me. he even said he knows we're meant together. I just don't understand why he can't sit down and discuss ways to possibly work things out instead he just decided all by himself. if he really loves me why

I was with my ex for a few months we started to be fwb the excuse for not being together was she is not ready for a relationship since we both had just came out of toxic previous relationships but she told me she’s slept with a another lad on a night out

@BradBrowning

19 күн бұрын

This is quite a tricky one because either of the two things could be happening: she may not be ready for a full-blown relationship or is not that into you emotionally. Has she legit just came out of a toxic relationship? If so, then the former reason could apply than the latter. But in either case, it's best to take her word for it and back off completely or do light-hearted conversation here and there if she initiates. Here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: kzread.info/dash/bejne/hYiAzNubqczHcrQ.html

Mine is a monkey brancher so I'm guessing she's onto the next one.

@BradBrowning

13 күн бұрын

Some people prefer escaping the pain of a breakup by getting into a rebound relationship, yes, that's true!

@johnkaiser6710

13 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning we've been in contact recently. I am opting out of being the one who reaches out to her. I want to give her time and space from me so I can continue to work on myself and let her process. She recently told me she is sorry for things being as they are. I said I am too and hope they get better.

I was 9 years with my wife. We had some troubles, her mother death, one of our daughter was diagnosed with diabetes type 1. Long story short after her mother died she soon became distand, walkaway wife, filed for divorce 3 months after and only 4 months later we were divorced. To add insult to injury she immediately (like few weeks after divorce) started dating another guy who was supposed to be her friend but turned out to be her ex-partner, first real love. She immediately presented him to the kids. I don't know if there is any hope since she says that she may be in a bad place financially but she is finally happy. We have a shared custody and our kids miss having one home and parents together very much (they are 8 and 6 years old). If it wasn't for them I probably would even have thought about getting together.

@BradBrowning

10 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that, man. What kind of troubles were you heaving in your marriage though? And how long has your marriage been in trouble/rough waters? Please take the free quiz to know what your chances are at saving your marriage, at www.marriageguy.com/quiz You can still actively co-parent your kids if your marriage is beyond salvation but if you want to give things a try, get the Mend the Marriage book, at www.marriageguy.com/mbuy

@Wespezjan

10 күн бұрын

​@@BradBrowningshe said that it was mostly the fact that we were incompatible. I guess it was mainly due to loss of the attraction. It was rather hard to cultivate it with our daughter needing round the clock care and her mother dying. I feel that we were in trouble for about a year. Before that we had our differences but also pleny of good time. When her mother died she seemed to be keen on trying but no later than 3 months later she filed for divorce. The guy was also in the picture around that time. No she says there is no chance even though our daughters are saying clearly they would want their parents together.

My ex blocked me and said she won’t talk. We had a great relationship. Her excuse we weren’t a match. Haven’t talked to her in 3 weeks. I am confused.

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz

I HAVE BEEN 8 YEARS WITH MY EX WE HAVE 3 CHILDREN WILL SHE COMEBACK TO ME AS LONG AS I IMPROVE MY SELF AND DONT CONTACT THEM FOR 30 TO 60 DAYS ?

@BradBrowning

19 күн бұрын

Exes can come back if you play your cards right, especially avoidant exes. Self improvement is key, regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not. Please take the free quiz to see what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

@linaespinazo1579

18 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning Thanks Brad

When I felt her pulling away, I just tried twice to reconnect, and after she left my messages unanswered, i waited a couple of days, and texted her to say that i was ok if she lost interest in me, that there wouldnt be hard feelings, and that it was alright for us to part ways. She instantly freaked out and told me that i misunderstood, that she was interested in me, and even told me to meet up in person to talk. Face to face, she told me that after all the moments we shared, she was incapable of going away, or even ghosting me. She even told me she was looking forward to seeing me again soon. But 2 or 3 days later, when i texted her again, she went back to refusing to hang out, and leaving my texts on "read". Could this be anything other than a very fearful avoidant?

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: kzread.info/dash/bejne/Y59-k9ubpamveKg.html

@davidgoldman1452

8 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning Thanks for taking your time to respond. So I suppose she IS in fact an ex, because there was never a clear rupture.

My ex avoidant did not go to an non contact phase! He asked go be friends and everyday he send me messages Light messages

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

I suggest you apply the tips here first: kzread.info/dash/bejne/hYt5tNiYqZbJZdo.html

Is this just for a DA or is it also for an FA?

@BradBrowning

10 күн бұрын

Hi! As mentioned on the vid, it's Dismissive Avoidant Attachment (DA) who likely gravitates to someone with anxious attachment and/or vice versa.

Why they dont look for a new relation instead of coming back?

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

Did you skip the vid? If you really wanna know the reason, do watch it from start to end, especially around the 4-minute or so mark where I explained things in detail.

haven't Heard from her it's been 45 days of the break up We were in a long distance relationship.

@Kanyarat.r

20 күн бұрын

Same..but I still want to reconnect.

@painnn7424

20 күн бұрын

@@Kanyarat.r so do I but she said she lost feelings for me And didn't want to talk to me again she broke up with me on texts

@Darkempress45

20 күн бұрын

Unfortunately that means that she doesn’t want you. This isn’t really about her tho, this is about you and how you are willing to treat yourself like trash to be in a relationship with someone that’s told you she doesn’t want you. You gotta learn some self respect, self love and self worth. These people are not going to give it to you. You have to ready have it. Don’t reach out and go live your life. Pick up some new things to do this summer instead of obsessing over some imperfect human. You have got to take her off of that pedestal. She’s a regular person that farts, burps and makes mistakes like you. You have to envision better for yourself. Stop accepting scraps. ❤

@BradBrowning

18 күн бұрын

You can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aYSXyKmeetS7idI.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmp9l81uZdPUc6g.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

@painnn7424

17 күн бұрын

@@BradBrowning but the point is last time when we had a talk 35days ago she said I don't way to hear from me since than I'm in no contact She was quite a good girl I'm not saying it's all of her fault I also messed up some things in that period of time

I did this instinctively. Waited 3 months , made contact He came back and this time said He wasn’t going to dump Me again . Well He did ! We talked and He agreed to re establish the relationship He went away no text or call for 3 days I shared my hurt He promised to call He didn’t then ghosted Me After 2 months , We talked . As usual said time and distance were the reason and He couldn’t give Me what I wanted I said I wanted more He cut contact again Been 2 months No choice but to give up Im going to try to choose a Man who chooses Me I’ve got every Man back I’ve had a relationship with and never due to no contact . Avoidants won’t stay

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

What distance were you referring to here? If you're in a long distance relationship and he's avoidant, that's basically recipe for disaster especially if you two did not have a solid foundation to begin with. But yes, take the lessons you learn with you and choose better next time. Take care!

Is it a good decision to go back to an ex

@MTG9878

17 күн бұрын

Nope

@BradBrowning

14 күн бұрын

It's purely subjective / case-to-case basis. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision, so be sure to take your time in doing so.

Highly doubt ya been witness to every situation.. Not mine and there is no cure .. My ex left me for my 66 year old trusted neighbor and they go into hiding still after 3 months and give me hate for no reason especially since All I did wrong was battle a cancer scare the last 9 months

I have no other joy

@BradBrowning

9 күн бұрын

I hope you learn from that mistake. A relationship shouldn't be your be-all end-all. It's important to have other avenues for your happiness like trusted friends, family, hobbies too or have a passion like travel to have another outlet specific to your happiness besides your relationship. :-)

I want to connect

@BradBrowning

Күн бұрын

Hi! Sign up for my email coaching program if there's availability, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

I know he wants love and affection. He is always so happy in the moment. He is very tender and deeply into it. But afterwards he always needs a break. He would be happy to just see me once every couple of weeks. But, yeah, no. Sorry. This does not work for me. We've had no breakups. Just long delays between time spent together.

@BradBrowning

8 күн бұрын

I understand where you're coming from. Thanks for sharing your story.

All they ever talk about is avoidant