24 years of marriage. 2 children. 1 is about to go off to college. Other is in high school. My wife goes to her sister's and the two of them concoct an order of protection, and two weeks later, she files for divorce. Gents: The day WILL come. It could be moments into your marriage. It could be 5 years. If she has her eyes on the prize, she might even last 10 years or just long enough to get everything. But the day WILL come when she files for divorce and tries to take everything. Sure, as a little girl, she was planning her beautiful wedding day. But slowly over time, something happens inside the brain that says "shop, shop, shop, eat, eat, eat. How can I get everything so that I can shop, shop, shop, and eat, eat, eat?" I think the very best test of longevitiy is if she reads great books. In other words, if she doesn't have a brain, you are doomed.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Man, I’m so sorry to hear that. Think about this if you don’t like your job, you can change jobs but has a stay at home mom, she cannot switch her job, and the only time they can change their job is through what, divorce. Was she a stay at home, mom? And how did that dynamic change after your kids started becoming older and self-sufficient?

@basicprogrammer6147

6 ай бұрын

@@levelupeezy We ran a modestly successful business from our home. We were a happy family. But the in laws wrecked everything. So mucn so, that it created a negative feedback loop: they bothered my wife and me, I reacted badly, they said "record him" (which is a felony), my wife picked a fight about them, and so on. Then, my wife goes to her sisters and the two of them complain to the judge about my "yelling" and here's the proof. At the OP hearing, female judge, my wife sobs, and boom, here we are. My little family is destroyed forever.

@kevin9218

6 ай бұрын

​@@levelupeezy All true. But the point is you aren't supposed to just "change jobs" and get divorced. You're supposed to work it out. Marriage vows specifically state "til death do us part". But nobody takes that seriously. They just think they can get bored and go find something new and exciting instead. It was never supposed to work that way. Nobody is going to put in the effort to make their marriage better if they think they can just go find something better elsewhere.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

That’s crazy! I just got engaged last week and the first people who began to criticize me was her family. Now that you bring it up it’s really scary. I thought she was supposed to be on your side !

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

You are right , today a lot of women cite irreconcilable differences, but really have just gotten bored. But can they really help it if the couple has truly grown apart?

Avoid any marriage without a prenuptial.

@michaelanthony1797

6 ай бұрын

Most prenups get ruled invalid by the courts.......Stay single

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

You think the concept of marriage is officially dead?

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Of course! But what house wife would agree to stay home and get nothing ?

That’s why I was told by a married couple who has been together for more than 10 plus years, to always keep the main focus on you alls relationship. Not saying neglect your children but remember the children are there original because of the love you all have built together so you alls love is the foundation 💯💯💯

"..Husband starts to feel like ATM" Yikes

@levelupeezy

7 ай бұрын

It’s rough out here! That’s a lot of pressure

Who should take care of children, its the most important thing in our life.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

It takes a village, I don’t think it should be one parents responsibility.

Anyone getting married without a prenup is a fool.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Amen brother! Sign me up. It funny I made this video after proposing last week lmao

@theodosios2615

3 ай бұрын

Anyone getting married these days is a fool, period.

The problem is that the man as provider and the woman as stay at home parent and homemaker is traditionally how it's supposed to be. But then the expectations come along, fuelled by feminism mostly. Being at home with the kids isnt enough, her husband working 60 hours + isn't enough, she wants attention, date night, gifts, etc etc. She doesn't get it to the extent she wants so she witholds sex. Then the man withholds what attenetion he does give her and the whole thing spirals.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Seems like a lot of pressure on both sides. Those roles seem hard to balance. It’s all or none! I don’t know if the expectations are fueled by feminism, I think they are fueled by both parties unwillingness to listen to each others true needs

@f-u-nkyf-u-ntime

6 ай бұрын

@levelupeezy there's something in what you say. Here's the thing, a role that's within your nature is a mantle, not a burden. As for expectations. Women generally have more and higher expectations than men. Men are often happy with sex silence and sandwiches whereas women have complex emotional needs that are easily swayed by propaganda, hence feminism.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Do you think a women requires more as they get older? Because most marriages are initially fine?

@f-u-nkyf-u-ntime

6 ай бұрын

@levelupeezy I think as the emotional high of a new relationship wears off for women then they start to seek it in other ways, usually that's fulfilled by children, however you can't underestimate the power of propaganda on a woman. What her friends say about her affects her dramatically. If they start to say things like "he keeps you a prisoner in that house" etc etc then their emotions start to kick in. Women hate each other and will happily screw up a friends marriage if they think it's better than what they've got. Plus there's all the societal pressure from feminism, about being promiscuous, having a career, the lie that that life will fulfill a woman.

Divorce rate for stay at home mums is statistically far far lower, they also report happy marriages in some of the studies cited. The main determining factor in stay at home mum Divorce rate was fathers income, father's education level, fathers mental health and current employment status..........

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Propaganda lol

They also have ZERO income. Divorce math: take wife's income and subtract it from husband's income. Husband pays half of difference for 1/2 the time you were married. In CA if you were married for 10 + years it's life time.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Dam that hurts

@johnnyjohnston6919

6 ай бұрын

There is also the concept of capacity to earn. If you have kids you are expected to keeep earning your max. People quit or get a basic job and try to reduce support. court laughs.@@levelupeezy

Avoid having a wife period. Outsource your child needs.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂. Outsource your child needs? Tell me more ?

Pros are cheaper in the long run.

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

Pros? What you mean ?

Jesus...could that woman speak any faster?

@levelupeezy

6 ай бұрын

I sped it up lol

@craig328

6 ай бұрын

@@levelupeezy Thank God. Seriously. I'm glad to hear that because I was worried this was actually something I might encounter in real life that I'd be forced to suppress a reaction to in order to be polite.