A man and his wife from Pakistan. tried multiple times to have a child of their own, but they couldn’t; she was infertile. After 7 years of trying, they considered adoption. They eventually adopted a little Austrian girl of the age of 5 whose mother had just recently died. They cared for her and taught her Pashto, and in return, she taught them German. I am that little Austrian girl, and I love my parents; even though my aba has recently went away. I still love them and could’ve never Ben gifted a better family

@mspaint93

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful and unique story!!

@theindianwizard1538

2 жыл бұрын

Your parents are amazing!!💞

@trisharahman3320

2 жыл бұрын

You are amazing!

@jya5467

2 жыл бұрын

Ma'sha'Allah ❤️

@blueaspenmeadow3862

2 жыл бұрын

That’s so sweet alhumdulilah ❤️

I find it sad there are so many stipulations on adopting a child. It seems just so complicated when in my mind it isn’t a complicated matter. You can’t have kids but you want them, there are children out there who needs parents, so you take a child who needs parents and they become your own child. To me, it’s as simple as that.

@tehreemmunnisa7865

2 жыл бұрын

the only difference between the western and Islamic things for adoption is that you can't give your adopted child your last name cause the child's rights must be considered. unfortunately, we live in a world where everyone gives birth but never takes care of their babies. you alone, obviously can't take care of all the babies being born. the foster home or orphanage cant be trusted either, so start your own orphanage or foster home..... I think. and yes, in Islam you cant adopt a child who you cant treat as your own child.

@navedian739

2 жыл бұрын

Read more about islamic adoption and why☑️its a universal law protecting tbe society as a whole 🙏🏻with yr hijab youre actually identifying your identity, yr faith, yr way, yr values, same thing with adoption 😍

@CraftyLadyLinda

2 жыл бұрын

They have to make sure the child will be well cared for and loved

@BloomingRose438

2 жыл бұрын

@@1970Mom yes they already had family names I’m adopted

@michelletalbot2281

Жыл бұрын

Even more concerning when u find out why adoption is not allowed even now for willing families with a void and most importantly a child in need of care safety and love. I find it a bit disingenous of mubina not to tell the truth fully about mohammad being ok with adoptions at one point that he felt compelled to adopt a son. Well son marries and because mohammad wanted his adopted sons wife but was told he couldnt as that is his sons wife. So what did Moe do? He abolished adoption that day out..oh and he also go zaynab after all by making them divorce so she could be with him smh. How anyone could claim abolishing adoption for children in need is the right thing to do after learning why it wasnt allowed anymore while still claiming Mohammad pbuh-is either so disturbing its funny or so funny its disturbing. Havent figured out which though. Theyll still die on that hill for mohammad

What about older kids in the system. They deserve a loving home just as much.

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

the preservation of lineage in islam by hamza yusuf m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/a6ap0rCyd5qnc7w.html

@annegreengables6367

2 жыл бұрын

My best friend adopted two at-risk children. The girl was 11, when they fostered her and 13 when they could officially adopt her. They paid a large sum of money to legally adopt her. They had to pay private detectives to find her natural parents. They also fostered and adopted a 15 year old boy. They put them in good schools and tutored them in their spare time. They have a good life and are cherished by a very large extended family.

@Zmaqo

2 жыл бұрын

Well in Islam you are supposed to follow ancient rules without asking questions so that you get to jannah once you die. You are not supposed to be a good human being. Islam simply doesn't care about saving these kids. It's more about people just getting to heaven/jannah.

@kingferrari007

2 жыл бұрын

They do, and I'm sure there's other people to adopt them if they see it fit for their family. Adoption is a beautiful thing, but is not for everybody. Just like adopting older kids is not for everyone either. You have the freedom to adopt children of any age range you prefer.

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

@@Zmaqo you clearly dont know anything about Islam. Prophet Muhammad PBUH also 'adopt'an older child. But Allah said you cannot change a person lineage because it's right of a child to know who is their parent name and their origin. Adoption in Islam make it clear you can take care a child who in need but you cannot change their father name because it relate to lineage. Which is why fornication and adultery is forbidden.

Adoption is 100 percent halal and the Prophet S.A.W had a child whose name was Zayed bin Muhammed until a later revelation that calling the children by their adoptive father's name is haram so then the adopted son of the Prophet S.A.W was called Zayed bin Haritha. Love you guys❤️❤️

@madeehatyagi.322

2 жыл бұрын

Yep! Hazrat Zaid ibn Haritha (R.A) is the only companion of Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) whose name is mentioned in the Qur'an.

@evancleary5075

2 жыл бұрын

I'm confused, did he get an initial revelation saying it was halal to give them their last name or was the later revelation the only one pertaining to the last name situation? Not meaning to offend, just looking for clarification.

@willpower3580

2 жыл бұрын

@@evancleary5075 No. Prior to this no revelation had been made stating that giving your adopted children your last name was halal but at that time nobody knew so that's why Allah sent the revelation.

@chiraagb

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah Muhammad even married his son's (Zayed's) wife Zaynab . Mashallah 🤲

@tanjimmim6778

2 жыл бұрын

I don't understand it. What?! Uh I mean can you explain it a little bit?😅

As an adoptive mom this makes me sad that adoption has such stipulations. There are children out there that need homes and infertility should not stop a woman from becoming a mom.

@xox8717

2 жыл бұрын

It's to ensure full rights for the child, because if you let anyone to adopt then it come a big mess, then best for a child is to remain in an orphanage than been adopted.

@elizabethanne6361

2 жыл бұрын

@XOX I respectfully disagree! An orphanage is no place for a child to be raised. My daughter came to be in a complex situation with absolutely no biological family that was safe or able to raise her. My daughter now has a loving home with a mom that will raise her. My daughter will always know her story and will know she is adopted. I agree with not taking away the child’s story or denying their biology but she in my belief is a child of God and I was chosen to raise her. Adoption can be messy, foster care is messy and heck life is messy. Oh and children are messy but I know she is better off being raised in a home with a mom rather that becoming institutionalized in an orphanage.

@xox8717

2 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethanne6361 You're talking emotions why I'm talking reality, just look at all the kids abandoned in the world , eventually not all of them will get to have parents so best to ensure that orphanages are a good replacement and give the best conditions for these children to be as one big family instead of chasing a fantasy dream that they might & probably never get to have at least the majority of them...you're seeing things from a narrow pov in this case a personal one when you should look at it from a wider view.

@elizabethanne6361

2 жыл бұрын

@@xox8717 while you thing my point of view is emotional and narrow I think yours is absolutely clueless. My point of view comes from research and real world experience. You obviously have done zero research on children being raised in orphanages. A quick google search will bring up so many reasons that children need families and not orphanages. A few reasons include attachment disorders and decreased physical health. Your narrow thinking has been proven to be incorrect. I suggest you broaden your outlook and then come back and tell me what the science says.

@xox8717

2 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethanne6361 Nah, your views are based on emotions from the first coment and are the useless ones, you think just because you have adopted that you know better than anyone else when in reality you don't...like I have said most abandoned kids won't find families by the time they reach adult hood, therefore making orphanages better place is the reasonable & logical choice..you think we live in disney lands and everyone should be happy but in real life that doesn't happen. Maybe when you get out of your bubble and come back to reality maybe then you'll understand how the world real works, And don't use science as a crutch because even in adopted families those kids suffer immensely from abuse and disorders and that's a FACT.

That’s interesting. My adopted kids will still take on my last name, but it’s cool to learn about the Islamic perspective.

@crispyair9946

2 жыл бұрын

It's an old fashioned approach. Prolly bc when they aren't blood related and they can still be used for marriage. It's kinda sad that from the Islamic perspective you can't help poor children, in their teens, who may really need amazing adoptive parents. Without changing the hole family dynamics, like covering up or the father can't hug the adoptiv daughter1.

@sz7595

2 жыл бұрын

@@crispyair9946 you absolutely can help them and be their financial provider and treat them exactly like you would a child of your own, but you fant give them your name. It's the same reason why Muslim women aren't allowed to take on their husbands surname. You can care for them exactly like your own, but they won't be automatically receive part of the inheritance for example.

@crispyair9946

2 жыл бұрын

@@sz7595 But didn't she say if you adopt a teenage boy, the adopt mother would have to cover up, or the adopt dad would have to lower his glaze? Of course u can give money or provide some stability, but I meant it more like giving these children a family and home.

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

The preservation of lineage in islam m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/a6ap0rCyd5qnc7w.html

@carlasuannelockett1694

2 жыл бұрын

@@sz7595 fant?

I live in Egypt and they are now promoting adoption as a very viable option for couples however the child can not inherit from you which seems rather cruel and a way to make it obvious to the child they are not really apart of your family

@luckyahmed200

2 жыл бұрын

I believe that they can not inherit by biological right. They can however get 1/3 of your estate or by being gifted/money left in trust. It’s not that you can’t give anything to your adopted child, just that there are other ways of providing for them

@chiararomano1818

Жыл бұрын

Muslim attitude is very backward. Pity.

Very interesting and informative. In Christianity, we believe that an adopted child is your own. From my personal perspective: in a way, we are all orphans until we follow Jesus and become sons and daughters to a loving Father.

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

The preservation of lineage in Islam m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/a6ap0rCyd5qnc7w.html

@zainzuberi3400

2 жыл бұрын

In Islam it's the child's right to know that he is not a biological child from the very start, this is very important as that child might have siblings from his/her biological parents and they may accidently marry each other; This could be one of the wisdoms.

@Tara-cv2kz

2 жыл бұрын

truth! I agree with your perspective

@lindsayslifecafe7569

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. When I learn more of other religions I realize how legalistic they are.

@blueboo773

2 жыл бұрын

That’s really interesting, I’m personally not religious but looking for a religion that works for me

I wanna adopt 2 children when I grow up. I wanna adopt kids who've gone through a lot bcz I wanna restore their faith in humanity and let them know that no matter what, there'll be someone who loves them

In my faith, adoption is seen as a virtue. As you are giving a child a family. To us, blood means nothing, it is all about emotional and spiritual bonds between the individual to determine fi they're family or not.

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful

@Tericlay

2 жыл бұрын

Just curious, what is your faith?

@petermcnamara8471

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tericlay I am a Pagan. I believe in and worship the natural world, as well as a higher consciousness that acts similar to Allah or God. Paganism is a broad term for a bunch of faiths and God's, so I sometimes label mine Macarian-Paganism based on my last name.

@Tericlay

2 жыл бұрын

@@petermcnamara8471 Thanks for responding. I'm currently deconstructing everything I've known about religion, so I'm trying to learn about many different beliefs around the world.

@petermcnamara8471

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tericlay It's good to know about other perspectives of the world, really enlightening to discover view points you'd never even dreamed possible.

This is actually one of the things about Islam that I actually have a huge problem with. The fact that blood is held above love is so mind boggling to me, I just can't wrap my head around it. I am someone who was adopted (by my mom, my dad is my biological father) and will only ever have adopted children. I remember when my last name was changed from my biological mothers to my dad's right before I went into kindergarten. I had only ever went by his last name so it was a smooth transition, but I know it would have left deep emotional scars if my parents had a different last name then me. Welcoming someone into your family doesn't always mean a name change, but it does help make you feel like you belong. Any child I adopt will have my last name, or at least hyphen. And I can't imagine never being able to see my mom's hair or face (even though I'm a female). Just the thought of my mom having to be less than the amazing mother she is makes me almost physically ill. Blood has never counted for anything, but love means everything.

@varsharao86

2 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more. I am so glad I am from a religion that is so free of these kind of rules (Hinduism) and more than anything I am glad I've got the kind of education and exposure to realise love will always be greater than blood. Sometimes a stranger is there by your side helping you when your own family is unable to be there. I am an Indian hindu married to an American Christian. My family was totally fine with me uprooting my whole life to be with him and get married to him as long as I am happy. Our child is going to grow up celebrating both religions festivals but mainly as a person with good values and morale.

@seekingexcellence3236

2 жыл бұрын

You have to realize that traditionally Arabs did not use last names. I am married and didn't take my husband's last name and my children have their father's name. I don't feel any less of a connection with my family because our last names don't match. Same thing with my first marriage never took his last name. I am happy Islam gives me this freedom instead of being called by my husband's name such as Hindu's do. Example your Hindu husband's name is Vijays Sharma you will be called Mrs Vijay Sharma. I understand some sects give the wife a brand new name to fit with her new family. I don't agree with this. I think it's quite backwards to have to change your identity to fit in. I have blood relatives that I wish weren't related to me. So blood isn't everything and love is very Important. Yet there are rules in Islam and if you respect the faith you will respect the rules. Being a non-muslim it makes sense why you feel the way that you do and that's ok. I can respect it and at the same token respect my religious rules as well.

@pinkishhaven5158

2 жыл бұрын

I dont think the last name matters (except for legal document purposes) because the child could still be treated with love regardless. If they don't love the child after adoption that's another story. I mean, you can treat closest friends like a real family even if you all don't share the same surname.

@seekingexcellence3236

2 жыл бұрын

In regards to adopted children, from an Islamic perspective, it is important that the child know s/he is adopted and know who her/his parents are if it is known. The child should know their identity and it actually very helpful when it comes to knowing family history as related to healthcare. I am glad you would consider a hyphenated last name.

@pibiasri2327

2 жыл бұрын

You know that DNA cannot change by love, don't you? I am not against your believe, but I just want to explain this Islamic perspective related to adopted child. It is not forbidden in Islam to love your adopted child as same as you love your biological child It is just Islam want to preserve lineage so that adopted child know who their mahrams are ( people that they cannot marry to) such as biological parents, step parents (if their biological parents remarry), biological sisters or brothers, half-step sisters or brothers, aunts or uncles, nieces and nephews. Just imagine if the adopted child doesn't know who their biological family is, it is possible that in the future he/she marry one of them (incest). And one more thing, actually islam doesn't regulate family name. Family name is just cultural thing. I live in Southeast Asia and I dont even have family name. Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him didn't have family name. In islam, we just call somebody by their given name followed by their biological father's name like Muhammad (peace be upon him) son of Abdullah. Their biological father's name cannot be replaced by their adopted father's name to preserve the lineage

This is kind of sad tbh :( Islam doesn’t let the child take the family name symbolically and legally keeping them separate from the family. I can’t imagine Thats an easy thing for a child to grow up with.

@saimshaikh5424

2 жыл бұрын

I think the reason for this is to prevent incest ? Back in those times communities use to be way smaller ... so if the child had a sibling but grew up with a different name. If they grew up , having different the orginal last name would make it easier to distiguish that so they wont get married. Offcoure things are soo diffrent these days with technology and you can find out if you are related to someone therfore many scholars have allowed giving the same last name based on the situations today, but it would still be required to be honest with the child and informing them about their family roots at an appropriate age. Lying isnt healthy, so its discouraged.

@maryamkidwai2543

2 жыл бұрын

You can give surname but put the kids fathers name or bio family name too

My question is: how would you breast feed an adopted child since milk let down is a process that begins only after birth?

@aroundthemiddle2112

2 жыл бұрын

Women can actually lactate even if they’ve never given birth. Putting a baby to the breast (or the breast pump) regularly will prompt a woman to make milk. It might not be enough to sustain a baby alone, though… I’m assuming baby formula is also allowed to make sure the baby is adequately fed.

@justhereforthevideos2798

2 жыл бұрын

Fun fact. Even men can lactate under the right conditions! Women can definitely lactate without pregnancy.

@elonmusk42

2 жыл бұрын

@@justhereforthevideos2798 Woah, it mind blowing.

@micaela2284

2 жыл бұрын

It takes work to do. I believe they call it inducing lactation. A sucking sensation with the right diet and even a Male can lactate.

@LittleMegaNeko

2 жыл бұрын

@@aroundthemiddle2112 as if it's that easy. You need specific medication, which includes hormones progesterone and estrogen (mimics pregnancy), in order to lactate. Just latching a baby or pumping your empty breasts will not do anything. Unless you are a healthcare provider stop spreading misinformation.

May allah bless you for making such beneficial contents!

@MehdinaTV

2 жыл бұрын

Ameen. May Allah bless you Bushra.

I just LOVE how they took thier time to cover the subject of adoption....and I also love how they teach about Islam growing up my very best friend since kindergarten was from Pakistan and was Muslim and she taught taught ALOt about Islam but there's still subjects that r fuzzy and they always help me understand

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

The preservation of lineage in islam by hamza yusuf, very informative . m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/a6ap0rCyd5qnc7w.html

I'm adopted myself so it's really interesting to see how other cultures and religions view it.

And this is why I can't do religion (one reason). Too complicated and too many strange rules.

@tiny592

2 жыл бұрын

yessssss 💯 % agree life if much simpler than that 🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️💋💋😍

@dazai2319

2 жыл бұрын

Okay that's your opinion, but you could have worded it nicer :/

@saraanaal8122

2 жыл бұрын

Strange, irrational, illogical rules to be precise.

@tiny592

2 жыл бұрын

@slothboi lol 😂

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

Islamic Law Preserves Five Things - Hamza Yusuf kzread.info/dash/bejne/h5qWxduFodzQfMY.html

This version of adoption seems awful.

@muslimempirestudentofknowl8650

2 жыл бұрын

No it doesn’t I would’t want anyone to change my child name if I die and take the basic fatherhood away from you

@noorsnotes3467

2 жыл бұрын

@@muslimempirestudentofknowl8650 you’d want your child to grow up in a family where they will always be viewed as an outsider just because you’re too arrogant to lose your family name?

@milkandspice1074

2 жыл бұрын

Because it is awful. Rules and not true human connection.

@luvket220

2 жыл бұрын

It’s sad that if your older than 2 you can’t really be adopted.

@randomhooman9505

2 жыл бұрын

@@noorsnotes3467 They wouldn't be viewed as an outsider.

What happens to parentless children then? Are they forced to live in an orphanage or something since adoption seems to be frowned upon?

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

Many of Islamic countries do not follow all Islamic laws. Like literally I'm living in one of strictest Islamic countries in the world and breastfeeding and stuff is not needed for adoption at all and you can adopt children at any age you want and give them your surname. There are still limitations but not strict as it seems to be.the limitations are more about financial matters and parents having stable income and not having criminal records. So if someone doesn't care about breastfeeding and stuff, they are completely allowed to adopt children and those who like to adopt a child but don't because of breastfeeding etc, that's their choice

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

preservation of lineage in islam by hamza yusuf. m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/a6ap0rCyd5qnc7w.html

@maryamkidwai2543

2 жыл бұрын

Nah, in Islam fostering is the main concept, like they could love the child like a child, but the kid should know that they are not their bio parents. You can also give the modern day surnames we have. What is not allowed is to give the fathers name to the kid, the surnames we use are different so its okay to give. Basically the kid should be well aware. The kid also cant inherit like the child but you can bequest wtvr sum of money u want to the kid. The only issue is mehram, not mehram and that can be worked if youre ready to go the extra mile. And work a little. Also in extreme circumstances where the kid literally needs someone ot wtvr then mehram/not mehram can momentarily be left behind, cuz preserving the life is above preserving the lineage. Yeps. Ita basically almost the same as any other coupls adopting. And most ppl prefer ababies anyway cuz its easier to integrate into the family, so you could also sponsor the kid and foster them and guide them and help thwm out, advise give them an educatio and get a job, amd love them just not physical love if theyre opposite genders. Also post mwnopause women can chill with the hijab and all, so there are many ways. Taking care of orphans is ordered so many times in the Quran, its one of the highest deeds. It is not frowned upon.

If you welcome a child to your family by adoption, you are automatically related. And the couple would be the child's parents.

@loveislove-le5nj

Жыл бұрын

💯 agree! I'm adopted and my parents are and will always be my parents.

You guys are awesome and have taught me so much 😍

@Blue8spiral

2 жыл бұрын

Mohammed banned adoption because he fell in love with his adopted son's wife. And a woman can breastfeed any man to make him become her mahram. Islam is gross af.

@cyberaddict5332

2 жыл бұрын

@@Blue8spiral so true

Mashallah I asked this question in a previous video and you guys have covered this topic really well. May Allah bless you 💖

Fun fact : when you say fun fact it’s mostly never fun

me and my sister are both adopted and while she isn't blood related I'll stand up for her no matter what.. I love her like I love my son. I'm very interested in different religions (while being a Christian myself) and am very happy to see your videos! They are nothing short of making my day and you both come across as so sweet and kind in your content

I saw an Islamic video which said you can change the child’s last name as long as you have a legal document with the child’s original last name, Madian name. Especially for school so that the child doesn’t feel singled out from his family he/she lives with.

@maryamkidwai2543

2 жыл бұрын

Yeps, thats right. Thats also a scholarly opinion so we can follow it and its also halal.

*Fun Fact:* i used to think this channel was ur local news channel or was the channel that live streamed makkah-

@fahmidahussain9109

2 жыл бұрын

Why did u think like that lol. Ik its written tv but most vids r short not long like news channels lol

@Sxarflake

2 жыл бұрын

@@fahmidahussain9109 i heard the name and assumed That lol

@samihaaraisa

2 жыл бұрын

OMG SAMEEEE

@bungeegum9286

2 жыл бұрын

LOL that's so funny

@DottieMaeEvans

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sxarflake That's funny. :3 If their channel name had some kind of call letters in it, then I would've thought it was a local news channel.

You don’t lactate if the child is not biologically yours?? Very sad you can’t adopt older kids .. Seems very sad.

@raniab5487

2 жыл бұрын

Those who dont wear hijab dont have that problem. Like ud have to keep like a bit of a distance ad they get older. Like personal space. But yeah u can be emotional there for them support them love them etc etc. But like if prefer to adopt a girl because i am a girl so i know about girls amd that girl could relate to me more

So screw orphans older that 2?

@et7281

2 жыл бұрын

A single parent can still adopt them. Or someone that dosen't want a partner but wants a child. I think.

@RimaEln

2 жыл бұрын

No, you can still adopt them. They are just saying that it would be easier to adopt a baby because the woman can breastfeed it and it becomes almost biologically related. You can still adopt older kids, but it would be a little difficult because if it's a boy, he can't see the adoptive mother without hijab and if it's a girl, she can't be seen without hijab by her adoptive father. That's all. However, if someone doesn't mind covering up for their child, then whatever, they can adopt and care for the child.

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/h5qWxduFodzQfMY.html

@varsharao86

2 жыл бұрын

@@RimaEln wont adopting a child make him or her "yours" by definition? And if someone is "yours" why does the mom or the daughter have to cover up? Which means you don't really consider the adopted child as your child since if you did you wouldn't be covering (the monther) or asking the daughter to cover up in the first place. 🤔

@hereweare9096

2 жыл бұрын

@@RimaEln So they wouldn’t be considered a true adoptive child unless they are breast fed?

You Guys Fill Us With Islam Facts So Thank You It Halps God Bless ❤️ ماشاءالله

Thank you for answering this! That’s really cool to learn!

I’ve learned so much from watching your videos. I may not always agree completely with you, but I am so grateful for the information. I have had the opportunity to share your videos with people who are misinformed about Islam, and I am so very thankful to you. May you be blessed. Love from Washington state USA

I loved this one. Something I would of never thought about. But now I’m very pleased to know because it’s so different. Thank you for the content and keeping true to who you are.

@shashankphansikar7094

2 жыл бұрын

Do you truly , honestly , agree with the point put forth ? That children of ages. 4,5,6 and onwards don't deserve a proper home ?

I don’t understand. I live in the U.S. and I’m been married 8 years and my husband can’t have kids. We tried adopting from a Muslim country but we are always denied because of the mahram thing. It’s so frustrating sometimes. I always ask myself wouldn’t taking care of a child since birth be a bigger help to the child and me more than anything? If we were taking care of this child who in their right mind would even think of marrying this child after puberty? It’s very frustrating and sad. I’m a born Muslim and I’ve done a lot of research but things still don’t make sense to me. I’m sorry for venting I’m just really sad about the process and not being able to have a child.

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

Just adopt a child from a non muslim country and bless the child with wonderful parents you will be

@Laurayoutube22

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe adopt a child from your own country. In every country there are children that are in need of loving parents.

@AKMarch01

2 жыл бұрын

im so sorry that you arent able to have children at the moment. you have every right to vent and may Allah resolve this issue for you and make you the most wondeful parents to beautiful children. is there any option of adopting a kid from the US who is ethnically similar to you or comes from a similar background where the parents may have been muslim?

@krispykreme7864

2 жыл бұрын

@@AKMarch01 thank you for your kind words. Yes, adoption is available here and so many children need homes whether Muslim or not. But it’s just so emotionally and financially draining. Adoption is much more expensive than I ever thought and we just don’t have that kind of money.

@AKMarch01

2 жыл бұрын

@@krispykreme7864 you are very welcome. I think its unfortunate its so expensive especially when many couples, such as yourselves, would make the best parents! InshaAllah, Allah will help you in these circumstances! I will pray for you!

I have an adopted younger sibling. The process of adoption for my family started with contacting an adoption agency and getting added to their giant list of potential families. Then we waited for years until a woman eventually chose us as the new family for her newborn child. I think this method of adoption is interesting because the birth mother chose the family she wanted to give the baby to. We had no major part in choosing which child became part of our family.

My hole family is adopted. We are Christian so very different situation. It is really interesting to learn about adoption in different cultures! Thanks for sharing!

@redravenous1604

2 жыл бұрын

Whole

@naylisyazwina6836

2 жыл бұрын

I mean this is according to religion and not culture but your family must be really interesting. I'm an only child with just my mother that cares for me so my family is small

@rebeccarichins9472

2 жыл бұрын

@@redravenous1604 oof I suck at spelling thank you for correcting me!

@rebeccarichins9472

2 жыл бұрын

@@naylisyazwina6836 I was the only child for 12 years and all my siblings came home is 18 months. We all had to learn to like each other. But yay I would say we are interesting to say the least!

in this very short video, you covered it all Thanks to you both ❤️

Yes we can adopt but we cant call them by our names because its unfair to the mom that gave birth to that kid And to the father 4. Allah has not created two hearts in the chest cavity of a person, has not made your wives, whom you call haram, like your mothers, your mothers, and has not made your adopted children your real sons. This is your own claim; Allah tells the truth and He shows the right way. ﴾5﴿ Mention your adopted children by their fathers' last names. This is a more appropriate course of justice in the sight of Allah. If you do not know their fathers, then they are your brothers in religion and your friends. There is no sin on you for being wrong, but you are responsible for what you do consciously and deliberately. Indeed, Allah is forgiving and most merciful.

@ifraniazi9214

2 жыл бұрын

MashAllah sister/brother, ❤, beautiful words.

@hereweare9096

2 жыл бұрын

How is it unfair to the mother? The child doesn’t have her name anyway. Why do you need to breast feed a child to adopt it?

@dollsNcats

2 жыл бұрын

What if the mother and father wanted nothing to do with the kid ? There’s usually a reason why the child is being adopted.

"Couldn't be able to see your FACE" was everything 😂😂

@hereweare9096

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it was very odd. What is the fascination with hiding the face? Why does Islam view anyone of the opposite sex a potential marriage mate?

@tejashreekangutkar

2 жыл бұрын

@@hereweare9096 What I meant in my comment was that I found it funny because it's their most popular line and everyone adores it wholeheartedly. I don't see a problem in people wanting to dress the way they want. Everyone should be respected. No one should be told to dress up or dress down. There's nothing wrong in their choice of dressing but there's something definitely wrong with the one who is passing judgements and character assassinating others based on their dressing style.

@hereweare9096

2 жыл бұрын

@@tejashreekangutkar The topic is adoption. The reason I made the comment is because Mubhina made the comment if a child was not breast fed that child couldn’t see her face. Because the child wasn’t mehram. She can wear whatever she wants. It seems that it’s a choice in Islam as most women just wear the hijab.

@zf8038

2 жыл бұрын

@@hereweare9096 Yes it's a choice

@naylisyazwina6836

2 жыл бұрын

@@hereweare9096 maybe because 200 years ago the age of consent was 7 - 13 years old and Islam is for all time periods. So you wouldn't want to adopt a teen and accidentally be attracted to it. If you raised it since they were a baby, breastfed it, see it cry all night, then you would most likely never see that child as romantic unless you are really sick in the head. One of the reasons is just simple precaution. Just like we can't eat foods even if it has just 0.1% of alcohol in it

That is NOT the adoption process in the USA. It is not the simple at all.

I'm a Christian and I have loved learning about Islam. Thank you for your videos. I was watching a thing about Islam vs Christianity and now I have a few questions. Will you talk about the sex slavery in Islam? So we can have the context and history of it so we can understand it better. And idk how it's spelled but the hadeth (I hope it's at least close lol) it says to push Christians down and make them walk in sewage will you also give us the context and stuff for this? I also wanted to know about jennah. What do girls get in jennah? Why do men get 70 virgins if it's supposed to be a pure place? Why don't all Muslims get to go to Jennah if they are a practicing Muslim? Does Allah I was curious because everyone says Islam is the religion of peace but these made me question that

@edoppelle

2 жыл бұрын

70 virgins? whut?

@legend-mj4gv

2 жыл бұрын

Because it's man made religion..jesus is the only way, truth and life

@crispyair9946

2 жыл бұрын

@@ifraniazi9214 But has a female prisoner of war, the right to leave her master/hostage holder, like an actual wife? And wifes also have the right for her own private space, like bedroom/kitchen/bathroom, is this also the case? And I guess the master must get consent from her, and is he allowed to sell her? You make it sound like more like a forced marriage, than pow l. I heard pow have the right to bail them out, but that's irrelevant if the woman doesn't have any money.

@crispyair9946

2 жыл бұрын

@@ifraniazi9214 i appreciate this discussion. But i have a problem with saying that a woman has rights, while she gets r a ped and she is not allowed to leave. Why not calling it by the name. The woman are usually completely innocent in situations like that. The men fight, prolly get ki lled, and the women are kept as sex slaves. There is zero humanity behind it. And the slave selling is a more modern economical approach. The traditional slaves were spoils of war, same as in Islam nowadays. And it's still kinda selling/trading, since the slave or her family (if anyone is left) pays the master to release her.

@crispyair9946

2 жыл бұрын

@@ifraniazi9214 i really hope u are aware that Christianity completely abolished slavery. I am not catholic anymore, but the most extreme stuff the pope is saying, is that gays can't marry and abortion is illegal. The Bible has many brutal parts in it, like beating the wife, stoning etc., but unlike in Islam, these parts are completely denounced by the head of the church and Christians themself. And in no Christian country, like Italy, Austria, Spain etc. the Bible has any say in the justice system. I really hope that you didn't try to say that Christianity is less violent than Islam nowadays.

Insanity! Islam really loves making children feel left out.

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

It's important to preserve the child's genealogy and to avoid conflicts in the future especially when related to religious matters like covering awrah, marriage, inheritance and so on. An adopted child is not the same as biological child, we can't deny the child's biological parents just because we want to adopt him/her. That's Allah's decree and as Muslims we obey His will. But that doesn't means we can treat the child unjustly or with uncaring. Allah command us to be kind not just to the orphans, but also to any child. Hope this clear you about the adoption in Islam.

@emzz2263

2 жыл бұрын

@Detective01 Holmes No that IS uncaring and unjust treatment. The psychological damage will be done regardless. QUESTION your god for why he thinks this way and stop being a blind mindless follower. Cant question your god, cause anything he says goes? That is sn insane power dynamic and not healthy for anyone.

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

@@emzz2263 phycological damage? Because of your name is different than your adopted father? I don't see any sound reason in your comment which justify the phycological damage as you said. Just because the adopted child have to keep his name as it is doesn't means the adopted child would be treated less than the rest of the family. Like I said, the reason for the prohibition of adopted child from taking adopted parents name is to preserve genealogy and avoid conflicts in the future especially in matters that close related to mahram issue like marriage, inheritance, and so on. Adopted children isn't same as biological children no matter what you feel, you can't change the child's genealogy just because you want him to feel as part of the family. It's not on the name to be family, it's how you treat with kindness, love and protect the adopted child as you done to your biological child. Islam encourage muslims to ask questions, reasoning and pondering. We don't do blind faith, the Quran command us to seek knowledge and investigate information that come to us, however, our knowledge is limited to what Allah told us, we don't know everything about Allah's reasoning for each law Hey decreed upon us. With that being said, as Muslims, we are obligated to submit to Allah's laws even though we don't like it or not according to our desires, because we believe Allah knew us better and He decrees for our own benefits, even we don't know. He is the All-Knowing, so we as limited beings in every way, shape and form, are obligated to obey the All-Knowing. Muslims follow Allah's laws not to please ourselves or cherry picking which law we like, we follow Allah's laws to please our Creator, and to achieve salvation. Hope this helps you understand about Islam in adoption matter.

@emzz2263

2 жыл бұрын

@@detective01holmes10 The psycological damage is being adopted and brought up in a household that follows a religion that will always point that bit out. Why are genes important at all? Theyre not. We dont need to change them, we just dont need to care about them. Your religion will always remind them, especually with all these gender based artificial rules! Your religion and god dont have any sound arguments for why you should treat children this way, or seperate genders this way no matter how you try. I understand your religion says it encourage free thinking, but Im reality we both know its not true. In the end you are to follow your dictators rules or you wont end up in jannah, thats it. Theres is no room for free thinking, you wouldnt be religious in that case. You can make Islam sound so peaceful. In the end its not. Its full of hate and sexism and designed to manipulate you into not question it. Thats it.

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

@@emzz2263 so basically you want the adopted children to forget their biological parents in exchange of living with you as their adopted parents? Wow. I feel bad for the children. Separation gender has nothing to do with adoption. I assume you believe in gender equality for everything? Islam never teach about gender equality, instead Islam teach us that men and women are different, each have respective roles and rights in life. I never said Islam encourage free thinking. I said Islam encourage to seek knowledge, reasoning and pondering, investigate information that comes to us. It's different. Islam teach us to use reasonings, but also not to ignore the faith in Islam as the only religion accepted by Allah. Investigate, research about Quran, see the truth in it, study about Hadith, study about teachings of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, reason how the Prophet is indeed the last prophet. That's what I meant. I didn't make Islam sound peaceful, Islam is a peaceful religion. You disagree about gender difference, that's up to you. You also said Islam is full of hate. Have you ever read the Quran when you decided that conclusion about Islam?

I'm so happy, i asked the question like 2 or maybe 3 weeks ago ! Islam is so interesting for a lot of thing, thanks you so much to share your world and belives Love from France (no we are not all racist 😂) 💜

Mashallah such a beautiful message 🥰 i never knew that they had to stay with the name they had be given! Thank you for teaching me this!🥰😊 lets all be honest they ALWAYS make our days 100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000% better!💘

The only question I have is: How are you going to breastfeed a baby if you don't have milk in your breasts? Breast-milk is natural process after giving a birth. Ps. I am niqabi also, but I don't know anything about this topic.

@DetectiveTV68

2 жыл бұрын

breastfeeding can be induced through certain medication .... its all about hormones

@Eddy.H

2 жыл бұрын

@@DetectiveTV68 Wow. I know it's about hormones after birth. But also I heard that woman who drinked black seed oil, after some time started having breast-milk unintentionally.

Nice video , I learnt something new today , allhamdulillah 😊

I really like your videos

@MehdinaTV

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Anisha! We’re glad you like them 😊

@ARZLINKeditz

2 жыл бұрын

Inshallah you guys will make videos that everyone will watch

@KJF_doesstuff

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Assalamualaikum my friend Anisha and MehdinaTV your vids are awesome

Thanks for the video! Your content is great ❤

that's horrible.. and u r smiling? so it isn't halal to abandon a child, but is halal to adopt one?

@ocean3802

2 жыл бұрын

It's haram to both abandon and adopt.

@youarepretty5299

2 жыл бұрын

Who said its Halal to abandon a child???

Subahn Allah ❤

I love your videos you guys are awesome❤️❤️❤️

So the short answer is yes but it's a complex process that some feel would harm the child more than do good for them I can understand that. It makes sense.

This was so helpful thank you

Love you guys❤

It depends in the west. Sometimes kids keep their birth name aka as open adoption or sometimes it’s the choice of the older child. Also, there’s usually an a thorough investigation and background check on the parents to be.

You guys are such a cute couple Masha'Allah. May Allah keep your marriage, full of joy laughter and cuteness Ameen. 💝

I love the breastfeeding aspect, I am all about that! However I wonder what if the child refused the breast? I mean it’s super common if a child is used a bottle, or has maybe never breastfed, that breastfeeding might not work. My son self weaned at 8 months and it was heartbreaking, no matter what I did he would not take the breast, and I think he literally lost the sucking reflex. Anyways… maybe a weird question but it’s soooo interesting to me!

@Maria-jq3zv

2 жыл бұрын

You actually never lose your sucking reflex (since we are able to use straws). But ultimately, what’s most important is that the child gets fed.

@taay333

2 жыл бұрын

@@Maria-jq3zv I guess what I meant was that my son lost his ability/ instinct to ‘latch’ properly and be able to extract milk from the breast… like he obviously didn’t loose his ability to suck as he drinks from a bottle and straws and sippy cups all that. There is a very specific way a baby will latch and they put their tongue in a specific place in able to receive the milk… he lost his ability to do that. And yes you’re right, fed is best!

@Maria-jq3zv

2 жыл бұрын

@@taay333 Oh okay. I misunderstood.

@redravenous1604

2 жыл бұрын

You can pump and they still have your milk.

@taay333

2 жыл бұрын

@@redravenous1604 yes of course I pumped for my son until my supply dried up. But I wonder if in Islam the child would still be considered a milk son or daughter if they drink pumped milk vs breastfeeding.

Legal adoption, not adoption in the love sense, is banned in Islam. Basically, that means a Muslim parent can fall in love with a child and become its caretaker giving it love, care, etc. But, he or she cannot give the child their name. This was done for 2 main reasons. 1. To protect the inheritance rights of the family (although the child can take up to 1/3 of the inheritance if specified by the parent) 2. It protects the child's right to marriage. For example, if the family has a daughter and the parents take in a boy to take care of then the daughter and the boy can still get married if they fall in love. This would become impossible if the boy comes the legal son of the family. BTW this is for the cases that don't involve all the breastfeeding/Mahram stuff meaning parents taking care of a child no matter their age (Although if the child was a boy and then becomes an adult then the women need to start wearing the hijab around him). Islam does not discourage taking care of orphans and giving them a loving home. In fact, the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “I will be like this in Jannah with the person who takes care of an orphan.” The Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, raised his forefinger and middle finger by way of illustration. (Sahih al-Bukhari, Kitab al-Adab)

I was adopted by a family member on my maternal side and I’m honestly still kinda salty I didn’t get to keep my (bio) father’s name

@fl3640

2 жыл бұрын

You can change it back, no?

@nickianamixer12

2 жыл бұрын

Can't you change it back?

@annegreengables6367

2 жыл бұрын

When you are 18, you can go to the courts and change your name. Was your bio dad a good man? My brother-in-law fostered two young men. At age 21, they both went to the courts and took his last name of their own free will.

Watch sheikh Omar Sulaymans talk on the topic. These are just the rules and regulations, people need to hear about the beauty in adoption and how vital it is to contribute and adopt ourselves InshaAllah. JazakAllahu khairun for doing the video, but it doesn’t do the severity of adopting children in Islam any justice and I’m saddened to see the comments refuting how kind we should be to those little souls who just want a loving home subhanAllah. May Allah swt help us understand so we can share the true depths of the beauty in this subject. Allahumma Ameen ya Rabb’Al Al’Ameen

I always wondered about this, thanks for letting me know! I thought that u can just sign some papers at an adoption centre then ur done. But that's not how it works, Thanks for helping out!

It is impermissible to say " this is my son"

The counterpart question would be: Are Muslims allowed to put their son/daughter up for adoption? I'm actually curious about that.

@randomhooman9505

2 жыл бұрын

I don't know for sure, I don't think so as we are meant to keep strong bonds with our family.

@atifrazajaffery

2 жыл бұрын

I'm pretty sure if you can not look after your child then you can give them to one of their mahrams (aka uncle's/aunt's or grandparents) but I'm not sure if it's permissible for them to be adopted me a stranger, especially if they are above the age of puberty

That’s so crazy I was literally thinking about adoption in Islam yesterday and I saw this

@GrazeHanwell36382

2 жыл бұрын

Suphanallah

I got a 4min pro Christian/anti Muslim ad on this video :(

@ayan_mohamud

Жыл бұрын

Damnnn

My husband has an amazing family and he is not related to any of them by blood.

I'm sure some one will ask - So yes, you can stimulate lactation without giving birth by pumping every few hours, sometimes using medications or supplements prior to adoption 😊

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

Lactations which are not the result of pregnancy and child birth , do not make Mahramiat ( Mahramiat means to be mahram with someone) I read it in Islamic religious sites and a book from a muslim scholar before

@justineglickman

2 жыл бұрын

@@bahars305 Mehdina and her husband disagree 🤷‍♀️

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

@@justineglickman they never talked about Lactation without pregnancy and child birth

@justineglickman

2 жыл бұрын

@@bahars305 They said that nursing an adopted child (i.e. not the result of her own childbirth) would make them marham. So that is their belief

Okay my question is there are times children don't have a known father or mum so they where not born with a name how would that work ?

@dariaradac423

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, I'm curious too about foundies.

@Tinzeycan2005

2 жыл бұрын

Read that 4. Allah has not created two hearts in the chest cavity of a person, has not made your wives, whom you call haram, like your mothers, your mothers, and has not made your adopted children your real sons. This is your own claim; Allah tells the truth and He shows the right way. ﴾5﴿ Mention your adopted children by their fathers' last names. This is a more appropriate course of justice in the sight of Allah. If you do not know their fathers, then they are your brothers in religion and your friends. There is no sin on you for being wrong, but you are responsible for what you do consciously and deliberately. Indeed, Allah is forgiving and most merciful.

@Tinzeycan2005

2 жыл бұрын

@@dariaradac423 4. Allah has not created two hearts in the chest cavity of a person, has not made your wives, whom you call haram, like your mothers, your mothers, and has not made your adopted children your real sons. This is your own claim; Allah tells the truth and He shows the right way. ﴾5﴿ Mention your adopted children by their fathers' last names. This is a more appropriate course of justice in the sight of Allah. If you do not know their fathers, then they are your brothers in religion and your friends. There is no sin on you for being wrong, but you are responsible for what you do consciously and deliberately. Indeed, Allah is forgiving and most merciful.

@pbl7489

2 жыл бұрын

If that so, then the child will be name ...Name son of Abdullah or daughter of Abdullah. Abdullah means servant of Allah(God). If let say the child's name is Ahmad. So his name would be Ahmad bin(used for males) Abdullah. And if it's a girl and her name maybe Aishah, so Aishah binti(used for females) Abdullah. As simple as that :)

@Tinzeycan2005

2 жыл бұрын

@@pbl7489 its dont have to be Abdullah tho

In my religion of you adopt a child that child is your blood!! Not literally, of course... but they are considered to be the exact same as a blood relative.

@redsus3799

2 жыл бұрын

And what is your religion?

@CraftyLadyLinda

2 жыл бұрын

@@redsus3799 I'm Christian-ish.

@redsus3799

2 жыл бұрын

@@CraftyLadyLinda really ? You couldn't even bother being specific like Catholic ,Protestant, Evangelical,Baptos,Methodist,Puritan etc?

@redsus3799

2 жыл бұрын

@@CraftyLadyLinda but in Islam,thr canopied child is not considered the adoptive families blood bc of obvious biological differences and the child has every right to know who their real parents were

@CraftyLadyLinda

2 жыл бұрын

@@redsus3799 I'm not here to argue. I just stated my religion's views.

What about children older than 2? Or over the age of puberty? I'm genuinely curious, what happens to them? It seems cruel to forsake them.

@NoName-xx9zd

2 жыл бұрын

Since women do not have to cover themselves in front of children this would not be an problem. She (and he) would hug, cuddle, love the children like her own children. The problematic time would start with the puberty. When the child is not a milk-son than the "adoptive mother" would have to cover herself in front of him. When the child is not a milk-daughter than the daughter would have to cover herself in front of the "adoptive father". Now, the thing is what you understand in covering yourself. The majority of muslim scholars says that women do not have to cover their face. So, I would personally have no problem when I (adoptive son) do not see the hair of my adoptive mother or I (adoptive daughter) cover my hair Infront of my adoptive father. But when you include the covering of your face, then this would be like a torture. As a son, not to see the face of your adoptive mother, or as a father, not to see the face of your adoptive daughter, for the rest of your life. And how ninja mommy says, women who decide to cover their face do not adopt cjildren when they cannot make them milk-sons or milk-daughters

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

Islamic Law Preserves Five Things - Hamza Yusuf kzread.info/dash/bejne/h5qWxduFodzQfMY.html

@Tericlay

2 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-xx9zd So, would they just never get adopted?

@lieke3043

2 жыл бұрын

@@NoName-xx9zd I very much striving for religious respect and understanding , but this topic is to extreme in my opinion. A child needs a loving home. No matter what. And a person not giving that because they didn’t breastfeed seems harsh and unnecessary. Love is the only thing that should matter in creating a family.

@hereweare9096

2 жыл бұрын

@@lieke3043 Yes it seems that Islam looks at anyone of the opposite sex as a potential marriage mate or source of fitna. To not adopt a young child because you need to breast feed it, is making obstacles in helping children in need. There would be young children and teens that could never be adopted because they would require breast feeding!!

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No in America a child is placed in foster care and either the foster parents will adopt the child or the child will be put on mare a website for children and people will inquire about the child. The parents and the child have a say in whether the child name gets changed or not.

Very interesting topic. I have an adoptive sister. She whas adopted when she was 11 months old and have my family name. My family is not muslim so I didn't know about this, but makes me wonder. Me AND she have the same family-name and were treated ecually. In her case, no one ever known her family name, because she was found with 3 days of age abandoned. She comes from China, where that was common in the 2000's due to the 'one child only' law. I whould like to know, in a case like this, it's okay for Islam yo give the baby your family-name?

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

Some culture especially in the south east Asia don't have a family name. In my knowledge, if you as a muslim give your family name to your adopted child, is an act of declaring the adopted child as your biological child, which is prohibited in Islam. The adopted child must retain his/her original name, or if child don't have a name yet, you can give name that not showing the child as your biological child. I don't know about your culture, but in the south east Asia culture where we don't use family, we usually put the name Abdullah at the back of the child's name if we don't know the child's birth family. You can ask any Muslim scholar or imam at the mosque for more clarification. Hope this answer your question.

Hi! How can you breastfeed an adopted baby if you can't produce milk?

@Graceroadto3k

2 жыл бұрын

You only produce milk when your actually pregnant

@pe4774

2 жыл бұрын

@@justhereforthevideos2798 oh didnt know that. thanks.

@edoppelle

2 жыл бұрын

@@justhereforthevideos2798 Thank you for the hint. Tbh a little shocking but extremely interesting.

@randomhooman9505

2 жыл бұрын

@@Graceroadto3k Actually you can produce milk at other times.

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

Guys Lactation without pregnancy does not make a child your/your husband's mahram. I read it before in Islamic books

Sorry, silly questions - can you adopt your nieces and nephews? Like if your siblings died (hopefully never) would you be able to adopt them and treat them as your own?

@shadishour407

2 жыл бұрын

I really wanna know the answer to this Please reply to this comment if someone gives an answer

@anonperfect

2 жыл бұрын

the preservation of lineage in islam m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/a6ap0rCyd5qnc7w.html

@MJviews96

2 жыл бұрын

It's not a silly question. I'm a Muslim and I've had many instances like this in my family. My great grandmother was adopted by her aunt (her mother's sister). Her mother had given her daughter to her sister because her sister was infertile. Another relative's brother gave his daughter to his sister because she was infertile. There's also a case where a boy was adopted (outside of the family). He was treated like their own son. Adoption is Halal and even encouraged in Islam and yes you can adopt your sibling's child in Islam.

Beautiful video😇

I'm going to butcher the spelling. Can you take off your Hijab(?) At home while just having out with your husband watching TV ? I feel the best way to break stereotypes is to just ask. But ask respectfully! In all honesty I would never convert but in my faith and beliefs you should be kind and accepting of everyone! Why on Earth would God want you to hate anyone. I'm learning so much from you too and I love it and you two are awesome thank you for educating me an entertaining me with your videos! Air hugs to you both!

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

Allow me to answer . Muslims are commanded to cover awrah and wear modestly according to Allah's will when in public and when we perform prayers. Whatever you wish to wear or not wear in your private house with your husband out of the sight of the public is up to you. So yes, you can take off your hijab and wear short sleeves or whatever piece of clothing you wish to wear in your private home. Hope this answer your question

The sad thing is that, I was adopted by a Muslim family. My adoptive father dead when I was 9. Now, I am 23 and ,according to Islam, I should not live or get I touch with my adoptive mom. I am grateful that my Muslim adoptive mother is not aware of that. Otherwise, I would be homeless.

Some people talked about women being able to produce milk even without having a newborn of their own. I don't exactly know if it is true or not but that doesn't make a child your/your husband's mahram if the milk is not because of giving birth to an actual child. I searched it before and only the breast milk caused by pregnancy makes a non mahram new born into a mahram. Not other physiological conditions etc that may cause a woman produce milk without being pregnant or already breastfeeding at that time. Many of couples who adopt children have fertility problems ( one or both) so they can't breastfeed the newcomer child and if they could afford medical procedures to be able to be pregnant to have "acceptable " type of milk to breastfeed the newcomer baby, they wouldn't have started the adoption process at the first place as they already had offspring! And many couples may not want to adopt children under 2 so this breastfeeding rule limits their chances. And even if any type of breast milk is acceptable in your opinion ( which is not) , I have read books about Islamic religious laws and it's not like a milk drop makes a child your/your husband's mahram. The amount of milk and the frequency of breastfeeding is also important which includes considerable amounts of milk. And please don't mistake any white discharge coming out of nipples as milk. And i see many people talking about Zayd, calling him the adopted child of prophet Muhammad. Guys Zayd was a slave before getting free and many sources suggest that he was only 10 years younger than the prophet. He was not the Adopted Child you think he was

Adopting a child is not only allowed but also highly encouraged and highly rewarding in islam, pls guys even if u dont have childbirth issues and love to have more children then instead of "having ur own" and increasing the already exploding population, pls try to adopt a child and treat it like ur own. It will be very beneficial to the child and very rewarding to u too InshaAllah.

@razamughal9095

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Adopting is NOT allowed. Get with it, what you are referring to is sponsoring a child

At least you told the same opinion as mine.. literally in my house everyone be like...ohh adoption is haram

@ZasukiJean

2 жыл бұрын

It's so interesting to me that people would think that taking care of a child whose biological parents can't would be a bad thing in the eyes of Allah swt and Muhammed pbuh did the same

@AKMarch01

2 жыл бұрын

@@ZasukiJean yes i agree, often times their understanding is just really flawed and i would say it stems possibly from cultural taboo and stigma regarding adoption and infertility, especially for a woman. in some cultures, where the identity of a women traditionally revolved around her being a mother and fulfilling that duty for the household, infertility/adoption was a big taboo to talk as it would almost insinuate a women couldnt fulfil her natural duty for the household. Really unfortunate especially as adoption is very much encouraged as you said in Islam and no women or man deserves to be shamed for something not in their control!

Guys as many of you asked questions about the adopted child being mahram with the woman or her husband by breastfeeding, I searched in Islamic sites ( they're not in English, I will paste the link if you ask though) and these are some of the requirements needed to turn a child into a mahram of his/her adoptive parents: Before starting I want to confirm that thses following requirements are not practiced by all muslims as you know 1.9 billion of the world population are muslims and just like other religions people and scholars can be very different. Just like Christians who may be catholic , orthodox, protestant etc. So 8 things needed to turn the adoptive child into your/your husband's mahram: *Lactation must be a result of pregnancy and child birth, so if the woman Lactates milk (or sth similar to milk) which is not caused by pregnancy and child birth, that's not useful *the breastmilk must be a cause of the woman getting pregnant by her husband so if the woman gets pregnant by anyone other than her husband (like her boyfriend or a guy they hooked up before or a rapist etc), that won't cause Mahramiat ( Mahramiat means being mahrams) *the child should drink the milk directly from the nipples *the milk must be pure and not mixed with any other thing like I don't know ,whatever *the child shouldn't vomit the milk ( because of sickness or any other reason), if he/she does so, that doesn't make Mahramiat * the amount of milk and the milk meals and the frequency is very important but I prefer not writing it here as it would gets longer *the child must be younger that 2 years when they start breastfeeding so if they are older that that, breastfeeding doesn't make Mahramiat * the woman must be alive while breastfeeding ( understandable) Sorry for my English, I'm not a native speaker

@Laurayoutube22

2 жыл бұрын

Why is it that the child needs to be under two years old?

@bahars305

2 жыл бұрын

@@Laurayoutube22 I don't know

@hereweare9096

2 жыл бұрын

@@Laurayoutube22 I believe that is the age limit to which a child could be breast fed. Which seems to mean that no children over 2 could ever be adopted.

A few more clarifications: 1) If the woman has already had a child she can very easily lactate again (muscle memory). 2) Many lactation hormones are available nowadays, as long as they are halal. 3) If the mother cannot breastfeed, the easiest options are: - In case of a baby girl: Husband's mother, mother-in-law, sister, maternal or paternal aunt or grandmother can nurse the baby. - In case of a baby boy: Wife's mother, mother-in-law, sister, maternal or paternal aunt or grandmother can nurse the baby.

What if a child doesn’t have a name? A newborn?

And I also heard if you want to adopt a child you have to make it practice the Muslim religion, is that right?

@ahmadsolehyn295

2 жыл бұрын

Yea. I mean its quite straightforward right? If a person is religious, they would want their children to follow their religion and so they teach them

@randomhooman9505

2 жыл бұрын

@@ahmadsolehyn295 That said, it wouldn't be forced upon them

@dazai2319

2 жыл бұрын

As long as it's not forced upon them ig

I’ve been waiting for this. For some reason i never got the notification. This is interesting

There's also the issue of inheritance.

Hello, charger memes when?

Plus an adopted child cannot inherit from the adoptive parents

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

True. Should adopted parents want to give their adopted child part of their wealth after their passing, they can give the portion to the adopted child as a gift

@HanzalaRecites

2 жыл бұрын

@@detective01holmes10 as Muslims we can only gift or charity 1/3 of our wealth after death So one can give 1/3 of their wealth to adopted kids after death But when someone is alive there is no restriction you can give your wealth to anybody

part 2 please

That was SO confusing! I couldn't follow any of it. The gist I got from it is you can't unless it's a baby that you breastfeed? This was way over my head, and I watched it 3 times and still don't understand

@Emmiee114

2 жыл бұрын

Basically yes 😂 if I weren’t an ex-Muslim who already knew about that I would have also had troubles following this vid

@detective01holmes10

2 жыл бұрын

You can adopt a child regardless you breastfeed the baby or not, and you can adopt an older child, no problem with that, you just need to follow the mahram rules and boundaries when the child gets older. The breastfeed rule is for make the adopted parents easier in term of mahram issue. That's all. Hope this clear your inquiry.

What would be the rules of fostering a child?

@saimshaikh5424

2 жыл бұрын

Totally allowed! Wearing hijab only applies when the child becomes a grown adult. When you foster, the child would not be an adult so it is okay :)

If I am single. And can't get married for a reason or two can I adobt giving the fact that I have time and money and love of course..

@maryamkidwai2543

2 жыл бұрын

Sure!

I'm a muslim. I don't want to get married but i want to rise a child by adopting, is it alright?

That hat looks apart of a Canadian tuxedo

this was very interesting bc im catholic and we believe adopted children are to be loved and treated just as much as your biological children, for they are considered your own. blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb.

OMG I love the hat :>

Aslamualikum Can you discuss briefly about this topic?.

Just out of curiosity, in a different video you said that you're not allowed to use a sperm donor to get pregnant, because when you're having a girl she'll have to cover her face in front of her "father" why is this different with adoption, and why is a child you breastfed excluded from this rule, but not a child you gave birth to? Sorry if the question is unclear, English is not my first language and I don't know if I'm expressing myself clear enough 😅

@alurusandeep5574

2 жыл бұрын

With breast feeding a relationship will be attached

@alurusandeep5574

2 жыл бұрын

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said: "Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful." (QS. An-Nisaa 4: Verse 23)

If it’s ok to ask, would the adoption process work differently or the same way if you were to adopt a child from another family member (if God forbid something happened to one of your siblings and there was a child left behind)?

@saimshaikh5424

2 жыл бұрын

If its between your relatives, majority of the times covering up from the opposite gender wont be required when the child grows up: For example if a uncle adopts a neice, or a aunt adopts a nephew: They dont need to breastfeed or anything like that, since being modest around these family members is not required: The child has to be fully aware of their relatationship to the new family, at an appropriate age: We just are not allowed to lie and say "I am your biological mother" when it's not true ... because it is unfair to the child to not know the truth

@michellewang8019

2 жыл бұрын

@@saimshaikh5424 That makes a lot of sense, thanks for explaining!

Never knew that. Very interesting