The root of all codependency

5w4 anxious preoccupied here

Thank you so much for this video! Spot on

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

2w3, with this attachment style, that have noticed some shift to the other styles also. Self awareness is the 1st step towards moving more into a secure style. Securely attached to the Lord which provides an excellent internal resource for me. 🕊️ Ty!

@twlahue

3 ай бұрын

Well said!

I can see the following cluster the most often for these reasons: Unhealthy 1 - By placing their partner on an idealized pedastal which leads to "Splitting" (All good or all bad. They are evil, then they are perfect!). Unhealthy 2 (for the reasons you mentioned). 3w2 (Oscilating feelings: 3 evades vulnerability - 2 craves love and connection) Unhealthy 4 (both wings distance emotionally in their own way & would create an internal push/pull) 5w4 (The 4 craves a soul connection - 5 craves autonomy) Unhealthy or counter-phobic 6 (for the reasons you described) Unhealthy 7 - The warring inside, wanting something new and fun while at the same time, knowing they should settle down and embrace a secure liefstyle. Unhealthy 8 (especially the sexual 8) would crave passion while also fearing the vulnerability of being controlled or looking weak. Unhealthy 9 - Passive aggression ("They could, but they don't", leading to resentment)

This is so spot on! Thank you for the deeper dive in this and the free download, I have it printed! I’m a 9 married to a 6, you’ve hit the nail on the head with our attachment styles!

@twlahue

4 ай бұрын

Wonderful!

@kaseyconahan9444

4 ай бұрын

Ithink I am a nine or a 6 I tend to like to plan things I’m close friends with someone who I believe is a 5w6 who adjusts better to change than I do we will make plans and then he might get a call from usually a family that could interrupt or delay or completely cancel plans

I'm 7w8 with anxious attachment style I didn't know until I meet an avoidant with 5 engram type we were like ying and Yang but the experience was awful at the end (it's was good then bad like a dream become a nightmare)I never felt that pain before I Left him after I feel I changed I wasn't that shining girl anymore now I am.... from that I was thinking how people can move to relationship to another without needing alone time to heal 😮

7s, 9s, and 2s. 6s are more dismissive avoidant if the relationship or job is not compatible.

2w3, I’m getting better with it 😊

4w5 and disorganized attachment but leaning anxious

@twlahue

14 күн бұрын

It's great to see you're aware of your Enneagram type and attachment style!

What you are describing is not an anxious type but egodriven overcontroling mind..horror ...🤣🤣😆😆😁😁😝

@twlahue

4 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's always interesting to hear different perspectives.