Allison Holker: The Silent Struggle
This week the Lautners are joined by dancer, host, and author of the children’s book “Keep Dancing Through, A Boss Family Groove” Allison Holker! Allison talks about her audition process for So You Think You Can Dance (SYTYCD) and what drew her to her late husband, Stephen "tWitch" Boss. She openly shares how Stephen's ability to give so much love and life to everyone around him ultimately took a toll on his well-being, then talks about the subtle signs that indicated he was struggling with his mental health. Allison and the Taylors discuss the large stigma that continues to surround men's mental health and stress the importance of going to therapy, even when you may feel like everything “feels fine.” Allison explains how she has navigated grief as an individual and as a parent while being in the public eye, then offers heartfelt advice for other parents with kids who are grieving. Finally, Allison talks about her relationship with dance now, her favorite form of self-care, and what she has learned from her children over the years. We hope you enjoy this powerful and vulnerable episode!
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I cried so hard because I miss him and his smile so much. You would think I knew him personally with how much he touched me watching him. He brought us so much joy. We love you, Allison. ❤
It’s nice to see Allison laugh. My heart hurts for her
My heart goes out to Allison and her and Stephen's children.❤
“We’re on a tiny ball hanging in the sky and I love it” THIS. ❤ What an amazing, strong and beautiful person Allison is.
SLO county is a sacred jewel to those of us born & raised there. Allison is amazing! How she's handled it all is just unbelievable. Being so strong for herself and her children. Sending her so much love!
She's an amazing individual. Always a pleasure to listen to her.
All I can say is "Wow, Allison is amazing in every way. Stay cool! Awesome hearing her. Thank you!
Beautiful interview normalizing therapy as life coaching tools, absolutely 1000% Good job everyone. So brave and beautiful. Thank you!
Allison you are a ROCKSTAR!!!! What an absolute inspiration ❤!
Love Allison's honesty and realism. I watched Steven and Allison's TikTok videos almost everyday during Covid Isolation and I looked forward to doing some of the easier motions with them. Have been a Fan of both since I started watching SYTYCD. I was in Shock when I opened up my phone and learned of Steven's passing. God Bless Allison and their children. Beautiful Family and Show of Unity and Strength. ❤
LOVE the "have empathy for yourself" message ...AMAZING ❤
How did I not know this channel existed...I'm so excited
Such a badass. Thank you, Allison for sharing this sensitive topic and personal stories with us! What a beauty you are- inside and out ❤❤❤
We have annual physical checkups, why wouldn’t we have (more) regular mental checkups? So happy to hear this conversation. Hope is continues to ripple out and change the larger narrative about mental health.
@lorir.4034
27 күн бұрын
Totally agree! I do support & would advocate for more MENTAL health checkups!!! ❤
@pillesc4466
22 күн бұрын
I was taught to always ask how someone is feeling during a physical (I’m a PCP). I really really hope that this is standard practice because I will tell you most people do start to open up if you ask. Some are surprised I even asked.
@catecate2809
10 күн бұрын
@@pillesc4466keep asking! My PCP saved my life I feel like. I was there for a sore throat but was in the deepest depression, thoughts of suicide, I even had it planned I felt hopeless but didn’t want to burden anyone. When he asked how I was I just started crying.
This was such a necessary, essential, strong, beautiful and powerful conversation. Thank you very much, you three, for that, this messages really need to be spread, all of them 🙏🏼❤️
My heart also goes out to Allison
Great questions. Great interview. I felt like you both were appropriately compassionate, sensitive, and genuine throughout the entire thing. Thank you 🙏🏻 this can help so many people!
What a great conversation! There are so many feelings we experience and Maddox's school sounds like an amazing place to learn! Owning and expressing our feelings is something I wasn't taught as a child. I often heard "Oh....you shouldn't feel that way..." I stuffed my feelings for most of my life and I love hearing the school is teaching children how to identify their feelings and that it's OK to feel them! May you and your children continue to grow and thrive, Allison! Thank you Taylor & Taylor for discussing ALL the things! 💖
Great message about the importance of feeling your feelings and that being okay. I respect you all so much!❤️❤️thank you
A beautiful conversation!! Thanks for sharing.
What a beautiful conversation! Thank you ❤
Loved the interview, thank you.🙏
This conversation was beautiful. Thank you for sharing this! Beautiful people, powerful strength represented here!
What a great conversation with so much insight by everyone.. Wonderful questions with so much sincerity and compassion as well. The tools discussed are so helpful and appreciated. Thank you !
Cheers to growth, honesty, and vulnerability. Sending you three big big hugs!
such an amazing interview, by far one of my favorites from you guys. my heart feels so full.
Such a phenomenal episode and exactly what my soul needed to hear. Thank you 💜
Such a beautiful episode, loved it all 🥹❤️
I can't wait to see your story 🩰✨💃
One of your best episodes yet
Wow...I needed to watch this. 🤗💗🙏
Just POWERFUL & BEAUTIFUL ❤️
Really enjoyed this episode ❤️
My heart goes out to Allison as well how are you doing and your family Allison ❤
Love this session ❤❤❤
Taylor & Tay, well done❤ the questions and the calmness & empathy around those were spot on. Taylor, when you talked about the scale from 1-10 and “the capacity” for it to be different was HUGE for me today. I’m also an “UP” person but when you’re “DOWN” boy do people notice and comment. It’s almost as if you’re not allowed. It is a pressure that is very hard to handle. Now, I understand Allison. God bless all of you. Thank you…🙏🏼
Beautifully done interview on both sides. I have no doubt Stephen is so proud of Allison ❤🙏😇
really enjoyable, down-to-earth episode
What a beautiful and inspiring conversation 👏🙏
Thanks for reminding me to be grateful just for being here just for living what else are we supposed to do I like that I’m going to use that to help me remember being here experiencing life is the point the whole point so simple so beautiful 💜
Love you Allison ❤❤❤
She is strong! Mindset is on point
Absolutely LOVED every second of this interview! I saw Allison was going to be on so I made a point to watch. So so so glad that I did! Inspired beyond words by hosts and guest. Ps I’m also now a subscriber to the channel. God bless all of you for sharing and bringing light to this topic! 💜🩵💜🩵
@lorir.4034
27 күн бұрын
There have been so many great thoughts shared here. So many things! Truly I am a bit overwhelmed and will be going back to watch this again. I need to go get a pen & paper now. This was incredible.......... INCREDIBLE 😲 😊
WOW Just wow.
This was beautiful ❤
Amazing episode. ❤ thank you all 3 of you
What an amazing conversation ❤between beautiful people Very ispiring🎉
You guys have such great guests recently. I love listening to Allison talk about Stephen ❤️
Twitch & Allison forever 💞
My heart goes out to Allison as well how are you doing and your family Allison
Allison: “🤨but what kind of soup?” Hahaha
I'm so glad you have been brave to tell your truth about feelings,, it helps me to know that I'm different. And it's ok,,I'm a survivaler of pcod,endometriosis for 40 years and I gained a lot of weight,had 3 dnc,complete hysterectomy, pre cancer. Got thst taken care of,iv lost 100+lbs. And I'm proud,,I worked handsome peopke say. I can't tell,,I want to kick them in the head,,but no. I'm getting better,,please can you leave me a positive though,,please. Toddles. A fan for years,,Tina❤😊
This was one of the most amazing and eye opening conversations!! I’ve spent the last few months playing victim and this just blew my mind! Definitely encouraged me to drop that mentality, pick myself up and change my outlook!
Sometimes when you have a depressive partner you can get into that same state of mind just being around them.
amazing video .I wish they had this stuff taught when i was a Kid . i am glad that this generation is learning about how to express emotions and being open .
@lorir.4034
27 күн бұрын
Totally agree
Not me eating soup while watching this episode. Who knew boy tay loved soup so much lol
🙏🙏❤❤ the beautiful person he is. You are strong Allison
They asked the question and I immediately said sushi 😂 was shocked that 2/3 of them agreed with me lol
I would love to learn more about the details of the emotional popsicle sticks. Is it based on a specific program? I ask bc I’m too lazy to list the various emotions. My youngest is 18 but I feel compelled to check in with my kids, even via text, for a “color” or whatever. I would welcome anyone to offer emotions to include in my list. (I’m a wee bit too inclined to rage and WTF.)
@lorir.4034
27 күн бұрын
Wow all i did was type in to Google search : What are emotional (choose emotion) popsicle sticks. There seems to be alot of info. Plus I took a couple of screen shots for you.
@lorir.4034
27 күн бұрын
well I can't attach my pictures 😕
I had a nightmare about kiwi once as a kid ....... won't eat it since 🤣🤣
Cutest couple award.
Taylor really thought about this food thing hard 😅
Acho? Kacey Kenny? Can anyone clarify these references? Thanks!
She’s keeping twitches family from seeing the kids. But no one wants to talk about that. Or her involvement with 7m productions 😊
❤️🩹
I thought was fake at first but I look it up then I was sad
Jerry Seinfeld does the same thing with that Boy Tay
... EXCUSE I REFER ONLY TO LAUTNER . THE OTHER PERSON I DON'T KNOW HER ...
@crystalheck4077
22 күн бұрын
Girl Tay, Taylor Dome, Tay Lautner , Taylor Lautners wife
@SaraGarcia-re9st
22 күн бұрын
@@crystalheck4077 L.o.o.k. What I F.o.u.n.d.e.d. I WAS BITED BY A VERY ST*P*D BE*ST VAMPIRE ? Maybe She refer to this? (3..vv.)wattpad(...m)/story/(LETTERS BYE NUMBERS)ESll467I2-monsters-in-real-life
@SaraGarcia-re9st
22 күн бұрын
@@crystalheck4077 L.o.o.k. What I F.o.u.n.d.e.d. I WAS BITED BY A VERY ST*P*D BE*ST VAMPIRE ? (3..vv.)wattpad(...m)/story/(LETTERS BYE NUMBERS)ESll467I2-monsters-in-real-life
not everyone should have a podcast - the response you two have after each anecdote and story she has is awkward, forced, ingenuine. the beginning question about steak went on far too long. this was awkward to listen to which is unfortunate because Allison did a great job, no thanks to the hosts.
Stephen is very selfish for what he did
Stop saying Like and ending a sentence with a question mark when interviewing. Drives me nuts.
No idea why the algorithm suggested this to me. I can’t believe 50,000 people watch this. The two doing the interviewing are terrible, just terrible. podcasting is not their forte. I’ve got no idea who the guest is but she’s got nothing interesting to say, and I just couldn’t watch more than 20 minutes of this boring conversation. Could you imagine being friends with these three?
I just discovered your podcast and already a fan. In the interview with Allison you asked about what three instagrams accounts she would follow. Taylor you mentioned you repost (oucho). How do you spell their name? Wanted to find them on instagram. Love positive and encouraging people to follow. Thank you for sharing yourselves and creating a beautiful space for others to share their journeys and vulnerabilities.
My heart goes out to Allison as well how are you doing and your family Allison
My heart goes out to Allison as well how are you doing and your family Allison