Weaponized incompetence? Narcissistic gaslighting? There is something going on with him that is unhealthy. Either they go to couple's therapy or he is guaranteed to lose her.

@Jazzy-yp5dl

Ай бұрын

Honestly with the fact he is putting stuff in the sons room makes me feel like he's trying to make her snoop through the kids stuff ((ofc just to find her own things)) and have the son blow up on her for doing so. I don't know why but it feel like he's doing this to trap her into getting yell or snapped at by his son

@pretzelicious4200

Ай бұрын

Yeah like... how do you "accidentally" take stuff from one spot and immediately put it away in a whole other room? But not only that, IT'S ALWAYS IN THE SON'S ROOM. There's something weird here

After 2 years? Darling, you're underreacting... NTA

NTA, actually HE is being passive aggressive by putting your things somewhere you have explicitly said not to. Find out why everything leads to his son's room... that might help.

How hard is it to just not touch someone's stuff? You're not asking him to go out of his way or to take extra steps to do you a favor. In fact, you're asking him to do less. He's purposefully doing it to irritate you. NTA

This sounds like "I want you to move in, but I don't want you to move in." What lead up to them moving in? Was this a mutual agreement or did he ask her because it was easier to have his cuddle buddy at home? What's the work schedule like? Is he inviting other women over while she's at work?

his kid wont have privacy coz she would keep going there to find her stuff

Anyone want to explain to me why “stop” has to be censored?? Btw nta.

@roseroy5041

Ай бұрын

It's a comment trap and you just fell for it

@NobodySpecsh

Ай бұрын

"Why is there a hook in this worm?"

00:57 for those coming from shorts

Stick all of his things in his sons room and lock him out of your bedroom during the week. He will stop or he can sleep in his sons bed every day of the week... Leave his shoes outside and let them go missing or get in bad weather. Either he fckn stops or he loses all his things... Oh and get cupboard and put your things in there and lock it with a padlock and dont let him touch that cupboard. My partner doesn't touch my things and I don't touch his, it's weird you let him near your personal stuff at all, to be honest it's kinda creepy. 😊

@katiedunne2101

Ай бұрын

It's hardly creepy to touch your partners things, obviously within reason. Like tidying up for example. But how is it creepy to move things around on your own home, especially I you are reorganising a room

@SweetyO666

Ай бұрын

​@@katiedunne2101 maybe creepy is not a good word, but as long as you don't live alone, you shouldn't destroy the organizing of others

@Ezekiielz

Ай бұрын

I have never read a statement that puts the blame for someone’s shitty behavior on the victim of that shittiness more… grow up, stop being like that, and stop calling someone creepy for allowing their husband to clean their things…? The issue here isn’t that he’s cleaning and touching her stuff, it’s specifically that when he cleans he puts her stuff in the possession of someone else, in that persons private space- and that he’s cleaning up things that don’t need to be cleaned. The idea itself isn’t creepy in the slightest, it’s just his execution of it that is in poor taste bc of what’s said above.

Time too move. However when she does,she should hide everything of his. Some in the attic, ceiling tiles, garage,coat pockets,ect.

Nta.

Nta. You've asked him to stop putting your things in his son's room on multiple occasions. Sounds like he has ADHD. He may need to seek treatment.

I move stuff without realizing. I don't mean to, and I feel sorry for inconveniencing the people around me, but I don't do it on purpose. I'd stop if I knew how.

@laurab5750

Ай бұрын

Simple! If it doesn't belong to you, DON'T TOUCH IT.

@vlastasusak5673

Ай бұрын

@@laurab5750 My goodness, what an idea! Who could have thought I can stop my unconscious action through conscious effort, thank you very much