She is an abusive partner... disregarding others feelings, gaslighting, deliberately triggering to iscolate OP from friends, next will be her threatening him with them or placing knives around the house in random places etc.

@corinnefogarty7880

5 күн бұрын

There is a simple fix for one problem. One of her manipulation tactics was to turn other people against him by lying about who did or said whatever... She was in control enough not to give herself away. If he had put hidden cameras in the apartment, and wore a voice recorder he would have had proof. Even if it was only to reinforce his own sanity. What an evil, rotten witch she turned out to be. It might not be a bad idea to always have a recorder handy, just in case she pops up again.

BRO 🙆🏾‍♀️ his mom was killed with a knife in front of him and she calls him sensitive, he is even brave being able to enter a kitchen and see a knife.

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

Everyone in the comments needs to read the book "Why does he do that - Inside the minds of angry and controlling men" - by Lundy Bancroft. This tells you what abusive people are. This is a free pdf you can just google. Download it on your phone and read. After having read it, i can see almost 10/10 similarities mentioned about the picture of the abuser, and Nicole. The only way to help yourself is with understanding. I urge everyone the read the book, it's a free pdf available on google

She is insanely abusive.

I'm glad OP left, she was and probably still is psychotic. She’s also very narcissistic. 1. She lured him under a fall sense of security by saying she'll protect him, then slowly taunted him with the knife, got a confidence boost by him reacting and just kept at it. Until he broke. Then victimized herself during the break up to make him feel bad. Then when they got back together she did it all over again, gaslighting, taunting, deflection, threats and more. All that physiological and emotional abuse was to assert her dominance and make sure he wouldn't be able to escape her grasp like the first time. She’s textbook classified narcissist, it's almost a miracle he was able to get away.

@rebeccaconlon9743

5 күн бұрын

Shes an abusive woman

Nahhh she is abusive she even started liking knife after he told her about his mother wtf omgs

@lilogonzales6625

4 күн бұрын

She's fuchinn manipulative! Go away

She got interested in knives so she could test just how triggered he could get - in order to abuse and toy with him. Everything after was just normal narcissistic bullshit. The friends were just as bad. This poor guy needs to be with a gentle soul - and unfortunately those don’t seem to exist anymore.

I'm so glad OP finally got away. Anyone who thinks this has to do with love or how good the sex was, doesn't understand trauma reactions. The reactions don't always make sense.

Blood of Jesus 🙆🏾‍♀️ omg op has gone through so much omg not only having an trauma over the death of his mother, he had abusive relationship and abusive and manipulative friends

Op, please give your therapist the journal, the more open you are with your therapist the better off you will be. I can't imagine the hell you've been through having had your mother and dog murdered. Don't think for one moment that your ex did not know the trauma and pure hell she was putting you through. Please stop all contact with her and never respond or reply to anything she sends you. Close and lock that door, forget about her. Never be afraid to show emotion or cry, it's a release and holding it in does not help. Given time and therapy, you will heal from this, you will find that special girl too by the way ❤️ when you do find that special someone update us all so we can see how you're doing.

Poor thing found himself a full blown abusive narcissist. Unfortunately, sometimes broken people attract what they fear or those with energies which validate their brokenness. Hopefully he's found some peace.

You are not wrong. The girl is crazy. A lot of veterans have triggers years after the events happen.

Ahusive relationship manipulation 101

I would have broken up with her immediately, she’s inconsiderate, rude and just not a good person or at least she doesn’t seem like one.

Bro, you need to leave cause wtf like no wtf, imagine she even wanted to shame you for having a trigger by sending that to the gc. Iwl she is so weird for that cause that just shows you she lacks any type of empathy to you or your emotions, little weirdo

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

Everyone in the comments needs to read the book "Why does he do that - Inside the minds of angry and controlling men" - by Lundy Bancroft. This tells you what abusive people are. This is a free pdf you can just google. Download it on your phone and read. After having read it, i can see almost 10/10 similarities mentioned about the picture of the abuser, and Nicole. The only way to help yourself is with understanding. I urge everyone the read the book, it's a free pdf available on google

This is so abusive

Dear God! Anyone that supported that female and her deliberate and manipulative ways of hurting the OP are monsters. They have obviously never been abused and think they are strong enough to deal with mental harrassment on this level. So very glad the OP got the courage to ask his dad for help. Very glad the family chose to be his rock when he needed them.

💀 this guy needs to reach out to a therapist

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

Everyone in the comments needs to read the book "Why does he do that - Inside the minds of angry and controlling men" - by Lundy Bancroft. This tells you what abusive people are. This is a free pdf you can just google. Download it on your phone and read. After having read it, i can see almost 10/10 similarities mentioned about the picture of the abuser, and Nicole. The only way to help yourself is with understanding. I urge everyone the read the book, it's a free pdf available on google

My knife incident happened 30yrs ago. It goes away after a while. But that fear can creep up anytime. She is seriously a horrible person. Not your fault. In anyway.

She's psycho probably gonna end up unaliving him

Wth is with this chick? Playing with knives is not a fun game and not funny to do that when someone has a problem with knives. I havent even been trauamatized by knives and I still dont want to have someone so nonchalant about knives. They're just like guns, they can also kill people when being welded by other people infact they were our first weapons.

Everyone listening to this story, it takes on average 7 times for someone to leave an abusive partner. You are not alone. There are so many people that share this exact same story. Don't let shame and guilt keep you trapped, you deserve to be free, safe and happy. ❤

That fight… she was abusing him and taunting him about how cops wouldn’t believe him if he called. She knows what it was. She’s not entirely wrong. Cops aren’t likely to arrest her, though they would be if it were a man brandishing a knife on a woman. What a horrible woman. She needs therapy

I'm truly sorry for the loss of your mother and dog,you have every reason and right to feel like you do towards knives. There is no shame for you to feel like that. This phyco narcissist is completely insane, she's the one that needs a doctor and serious medication. Run, run far run long never look back get a restraining order never ever let her in your life again. Block her on everything. I truly hope that you get better and have a happy life. By the way, there is no such thing as a normal person so don't feel bad about that.

What boggles me (besides all of her BS) is that OP thought to write down what was going on. Yet never thought to hide a camera or 2. Or just record her outburst on his phone.

@Tris-c0bb3

2 күн бұрын

In the US, the ability to record another party without explicit consent depends on whether it’s a two party state. He could have been in legal trouble trying to record her, depending on state laws, or he didn’t feel it was safe to keep a recording tool where she could come across it versus a notebook that he kept at his work, presumably she wasn’t raiding his desk

This is so hard listen to.

Dude WTF!!!!! She actually said"Just get over your mother and dog being stabbed to death in front of you"? I understand you loved ur gf, but her bullshit was unacceptable after 5 mins in this video. You need a way better therapist and take some self-defense classes to help you feel less like a victim and gain more confidence in yourself.

If the genders were reversed he would be serving time in jail already

OP U NEED TO STOP BLAMING URSLEF GOD DAMN IT

Op's gf is a massive AH!!

Abusive asf

OP GET TF OUT OFMG. BRO YOU SEE THE SGIN GET HLEP AND MOVE OUT

She likes knives and thinks triggering trauma is a joke? LEARN THERE ARE JOKES YOU JUST DON'T DO!!!

Either This guy is drowning himself or this is one of these fake “anger trap” reddit stories.

This sounds way too crazy to be a true story if it is true Brushing off my trauma of witnesses the killing of my mom is crazy to me and when it comes to these types relationship and throw family into also I would never understand how people would rather deal with this type of toxicity and extremely damage to their mental health trying to keep the peace(unless you underage and got the needs to leave) rather than expressing your feelings and opinion on the altercation and if refused to change and/or apologize and the thing behind the altercation is a good reason to leave please leave for your own mental health

Dios, cómo fue a dar con esa psicópata? Lo torturaba, era la victima perfecta.

Really, are we dating obvious psychopaths now, and being confused when they do psychopath behaviour?

I know OP has a valid reason for hating knives ! But all the other stuff was just weakness. Throwing up before going home and thinking you are sleeping next to your murderer and doing absolutely nothing about it or saying anything about the taunts from friends. Just weakness I'm sorry but it's true it's true Cowboy up and tell all of them to jog on

If the bar she’s using for whether or not behavior is okay is whether cops would arrest her for doing it… You’ve stated your boundary. Many times. She claims to understand, then forgets and crosses again. When you leave to protect yourself, suddenly she’s questioning your masculinity. When you come back to talk things out (generally considered the mature response) she mocks you. She won’t let you finish, but of course you’ve told her all of this before, and she just talks over you. You’re talking about you not feeling safe, so of course she crowds you. Agoraphobia is about people being too close and making you feel unsafe. Then she keeps badgering you to call the cops… an obvious strawman argument. You never said she had done anything illegal. You admitted that this is a trauma response for you, not a rational fear. Whether it’s legal is irrelevant. So here’s what I see. You told her your boundary, and why. She understood it, and agreed to it, and followed it for a bit, then didn’t. Rinse and repeat. You left, a reasonable response. Now she verbally and physically intimidating you, inventing straw man arguments, insulting your masculinity. But what really matters is: she knows this REALLY bothers you, then continues doing it anyway, specifically because it bothers you. Anybody who isn’t an idiot would know that someone triggered by knives would not enjoy a “cutting off a finger” prank. (I’m not sure anyone enjoys any prank, but that’s just my opinion.) Talking won’t help this. She knows what she needs to know. She has known for quite some time. She just doesn’t care. There is nothing to salvage here… she just enjoys being able to bully the man with a problem with knives. And when she saw that her intimidation wasn’t working, she backpedaled and started to love bomb you… showing up with breakfast, hugs and kisses where your coworkers can see.

@goatkiller666

5 күн бұрын

She quickly got you to drop your own friends, so only her friends would talk to you? Typical abuser behavior.

@goatkiller666

5 күн бұрын

She said that moving in together was the only way you could prove to her that you’d forgiven her. Why do YOU need to prove anything to HER? She’s the one who crossed lines. Every time you don’t turn the other way and leave, when you notice her, that her proof. What is needed is for her to prove she’s not going to intentionally trigger you for her own amusement. You owe her no proof. What she wants is evidence that she can resume the emotional abuse without consequences.

@goatkiller666

5 күн бұрын

Men need feminism too, because if a man treated a woman like this, he’d be in prison. But when a woman does it to a man, the man is unacceptably weak and the woman is “quirky”. This is textbook emotional abuse, no matter who does it to whom. It’s not okay, and having lingering psychological damage from this is a completely understandable outcome. And implying that he wasn’t abused because of his gender… that’s what feminism is trying to fight. The genders should be treated the same, abuse is abuse, and gender norms are as harmful to men as to women, just in different ways.

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💀💀💀 7:36 that is absolutely insane that this coward did not leave that apartment once she got away from him on the couch

@rebeccaconlon9743

5 күн бұрын

Deer in headlights

@billcutting2681

5 күн бұрын

@@rebeccaconlon9743 I understand that’s a psychological phenomenon. I can’t accept that from an adult only from children. Adults have to do better. I didn’t even know my masculinity was this toxic until I started reading this, and I cannot see him as a victim only a willing participant.

Yeah, I needed to listen to more of the story because my first thought was you really need to grow up but fair enough to be traumatized for life by that but you need to figure out how to get over it in someway or at least figure out that you should’ve left this girl

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

Why is it unbelievable when someone is pissed off about a prank? Even minus the horrible stuff, it's not okay if pranks scare people

@billcutting2681

5 күн бұрын

@@arnavrawat9864 his reaction is a tad over excessive, but going back and continuing the relationship is absolutely moronic and cowardly

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

@@billcutting2681 Why is it over excessive? Why is going back cowardly?

@billcutting2681

5 күн бұрын

@@arnavrawat9864 it simply is I’m not interested in explaining anything to you going back to her and staying with her being cowardly is self explanatory

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

@@billcutting2681 Have you ever done something that was bad for you, knowing that it's bad for you, feeling guilty about it but still doing it?

What she did knowing about your knife trauma is terrible and you deserve better. But how the heck can you allow your woman to fight an intruder for you, even if it was just a joke? As a man, you protect the fairer sex, weaker in terms of biology in most instances , that wasnt good of you as a man

Yeah, this one is pretty obviously fake especially after the Update. I can believe the first part since some people will genuinely try to help those with traumas by making them more comfortable with the subject of said trauma and sometimes they end up pushing it too far but the second part is way too exaggerated. The GF literally does a 180 personality wise and suddenly becomes "Yandere Character Nr.25" out of the blue? Ok. If my man wanted this to be more realistic he should've painted the gf in a more psychotic manner since the beginning.

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

This can be very real, people like this exist.

@arnavrawat9864

5 күн бұрын

Everyone in the comments needs to read the book "Why does he do that - Inside the minds of angry and controlling men" - by Lundy Bancroft. This tells you what abusive people are. This is a free pdf you can just google. Download it on your phone and read. After having read it, i can see almost 10/10 similarities mentioned about the picture of the abuser, and Nicole. The only way to help yourself is with understanding. I urge everyone the read the book, it's a free pdf available on google

@joshuawells7415

5 күн бұрын

​@@arnavrawat9864She liked the sight of her bf vulnerable and developed an interest in knives to keep seeing that side of him

@bigusj

5 күн бұрын

@@arnavrawat9864yeah the 180° is a common abuser tactic

@TygR3

5 күн бұрын

Considering most women are evil, the personality switches are believable