The mother's gaslighting is telling. What a dirtball. Full NC.
@savannahtarvin6 сағат бұрын
Check your state laws and pay for your accommodations when for when you get older Don’t file for devioce but stop paying any of his bills and don’t give him any money if that goes on long enough he’ll do it and remember An accident can be a
@mikaeelmalik17247 сағат бұрын
Doesn't lead to the rest of the story
@twistedtales971011 сағат бұрын
Yes, you are the asshole, you absolute pos. You're daughter is a grown ass woman who can make her own decisions and had been dating this guy for 4 years before deciding to marry him. And despite her being an adult capable of making her own decisions and having multiple years to consider before making a final decision to marry this man, You treat her as if she is a child being manipulated by an adult. You refuse to see your daughter as a fully cognizant agent in her own life and instead, Infantilize her treating her as if she is still a little girl. And in doing so denied her. One of the most important cultural events of her life.
@tamara.6411 сағат бұрын
I feel so terrible for OP wife of second story to found out that your whole in-law family, who you think liked you thought of you more as a burden for the past 5 years… what a punch in the stomach!? I kinda flip flopped with yhis one tho - they started dating when OP was 17 and that wife had accident when she was 11… amazing how hes stood by her buut it is kinda weird that OP carries wife everywhere and especially since shes completely capable of taking care of her self but then I remembered OP said he took her to bed upstairs …. So not ahole
@birsancristina927812 сағат бұрын
Second story: we all agree thar OOP is a shitty mother, right?
@Mariewolf_9412 сағат бұрын
i mean, kinda TAH, but it's understandable given the circumstances. i can understand OP and her siblings' annoyance and frustration w/ the situation. their father is larping as Zeus and spreading his seed, maybe getting married, and his relationships not lasting long (i know Zeus always had his marriage to Hera, but she HATED him, tbf, due to his infidelty w/ multiple goddesses and mortals). OP and her siblings all dont share a mother, and some of them were born out of wedlock, and they never see a woman last long in their lives. they literally just had each other and dad, and lord knows how he is w/ his children if how he treats women as romantic/sensual gratification and baby-making machines before either screwing up or dropping them like hot potatoes is any indicator. theres a pattern, and it's a consistent pattern, so, yes, OP, and her siblings, are TAH for just refusing to show their support nor interest in the future gfs and wives, but it's understandable given circumstances
@corinnefogarty788013 сағат бұрын
NTA. The mom is right, it is HER wedding. It's not about her DIL. It's also possible to get a safe meal at any restaurant. They don't want to poison customers and know how to handle food. Restaurants do have options. And the DIL should have an EpiPen for just in case. I think the wife is being a brat. She could attend the wedding and just skip the reception. I'm guessing that she won't be missed.
@that_pan_chick865014 сағат бұрын
I’ll tell you this right now, a lot of hospitals only allowed 2-3 people in the room. I had my ex and my mother. There’s a massive chance that if both parents go, one of them is gonna be waiting in the waiting room anyways. So one of you might as well go to the graduation
@frontstreettea14 сағат бұрын
If the wife and mom don't have much of a relationship, why would mom consider the wife in the planning of her own wedding? Relationships are two way and there is nothing to suggest their lack of a relationship is solely on the mom. The son should go to his mother's wedding and enjoy himself, and maybe the wife should stay home and think about why her husband's mother didn't consider her allergy, if she was even aware of it, and also consider why a woman she doesn't have much of a relationship with would go out of her way to center her in an event that has nothing to do with her. 🙄
@1bestfriend2u1815 сағат бұрын
Stay safe
@kurt2rsenjazz17 сағат бұрын
YTA!!! If not for your family, then, at least, do it for Dan
@JorganRA17 сағат бұрын
first
@LA-ly1nt18 сағат бұрын
He wanted to be the man of the house? Since he thought his wife own the house, so he's the man of the house, but since it belong to his stepson, he is not the man of the house? He's only the man of the house if the house id owned by his wife? Dude, get your own house.
@narliehs164819 сағат бұрын
Wife is entitled and trying to make OP's mom's wedding about her. OP stated that this is a dream of Mom's. As such, she shouldn't have to redo her entire wedding and reception to suit her DIL that she's not even close with.
@JorganRA20 сағат бұрын
Joe keeps getting worse and worse what a wasteman
@JorganRA20 сағат бұрын
Definitely cheating
@janette2691Күн бұрын
Yes
@panic_to_not_try5884Күн бұрын
Ok so there is a few different things here. It's likely a threat to keep him from doing it again. Also perfectly reasonable to be upset at someone threatening the kid. But why is he even bullying anyone? Typically if a kid is bullying another one is because they are either being neglected or abused by someone, not always true but is that a possibility in this situation? Always. Another thing, how old is this kid? If they are 10 or under, they are still learning and I hope this kid was talked to and disciplined on how this is wrong. Now if this kid is 12, 13, 14, it depends on the kids if they've learned this by now. 15 plus, they absolutely know this is wrong. Now IMO if this kid is 16, 17, 18, 19, I'd be threatening to put hands on them too, as they already know they may have a physical advantage, mental advantage, and purposely targeted them knowing those advantages. Another question, what's the bullying here? American bullying can range anywhere from verbal rudeness to physical to actual battery. If it's verbally insulting or just being rude, absolutely not ok but kinda unreasonable threat to make for something like that. If this is actually beat up that other kid and anything much older than 15, I'd probably be taking some legal measures because they know that wrong. I kinda have a feeling info was left out on purpose because they want to make it seem like it's less than it is. I'm also disabled and advocate a lot, it's absolutely wrong to bully anyone and even worse for someone who may not understand to defend themselves or may not be able to. But also threatening to put your hands on a younger kid isn't ok either.
@corinnefogarty7880Күн бұрын
You're only the AH if you let her back into your home. You also need a safe to keep your valuables in. Some security cameras would be a good idea.
@michaelcorola8420Күн бұрын
What a 😿
@melaniewilson1742Күн бұрын
Wait, let me get this straight. The fact that OP was in debt for college suggests that he paid for it himself. He was also living on his own, so he was paying his own bills. But the stealing brother was living at home for free, with college completely paid for. So his “punishment” was still just being put into the same situation OP was already in by default. Edit: Killers of the Flower Moon is a phenomenal film.
@janette2691Күн бұрын
Op is a home wrecker
@corinnefogarty7880Күн бұрын
Sure. The cheating, unemployed sister, living off her husband is such a wonderful wife. OP did the right thing by telling her mom. Mom could have chosen to ignore it, but apparently she actually had morals and some self-respect. Now put yourself into the shoes of the cheated on spouse. How many years would you want to be the joke in that marriage?
@janette2691Күн бұрын
@@corinnefogarty7880no she didn't moron. Whatever happens between spouses is no ones business especially their kids
@thaddeuszukowski463320 сағат бұрын
OP is a truth teller FTFY
@carolmk3114Күн бұрын
I don't think the Dad meant it the way the OP took it. I don't think he was actively trying to put down OP. He had a dream of the kind of child he wanted but I don't think it was intended as a slight to OP.
@OMG_TheFrogsКүн бұрын
Dude, the comment section was horrible to OP. Glad some reasonable folks pulled through eventually, but wow- some people are so delusional
@SweetyO666Күн бұрын
Just a birthday?! In my family we acknowledge every birthday, no matter how old. The birthday "kid" gets a gift they asked for, a selfmade cake they chose and they get to choose dinner. This has always been a tradition for my parents, my brother and I. We're 24 and 30 years old. For my mother's birthday I got her tickets to the festival she and I were planning to attend and we had a blast. It's not childish to show the person you love that you're glad they are a part of your life. NTA
@smol1549Күн бұрын
Why the hell are people bringing other cultures into this when it’s obviously not the culture of this wedding?
@ManinawigКүн бұрын
You, NTA. But I do find it funny how many people agree your wife was.
@Seeker4128Күн бұрын
Yes
@matthewuzulis5016Күн бұрын
S2: To be up front Joe is a POS no excuse for him. That being said OP is also a POS and frankly it scares me she teaches. $75K combined income with 4 kids! How stupid do you need to be to go through with that? Let's also consider that is today they make that money I doubt they were making that much when the last kid was conceived, also for the amount of years they have been together and not once the house ownership was mentioned... There is also the fact they are struggling and she also wants to put more pressure on Joe to pay $1k more per month (Before finding out the rest) speaks volumes as well. Joe is disgusting but OP aint no rose ether. I was thinking Matt was pushing things too far at first, then the rest of the info changed my mind. I'm thinking he might be the most mature adult in that house.
@gaylenewood7707Күн бұрын
How are you gonna make up once in a lifetime graduation with your twins it's only gonna happened once and your older daughter will have more children so how really??
@shelbykeesling5373Күн бұрын
If she is color blind it's on her bf to tell her dress is white and not to wear that but I think she is lying and just said it so she didn't get yelled at
@narliehs1648Күн бұрын
This is why you don't mix personal and professional lives, people. It inevitably gets messy.
@blueeagle1957Күн бұрын
HATE THE ANIMATION!!! MOVES TOO FAST , MAKES ME DIZZY!!!
@sivuyilemagutywa5286Күн бұрын
Story 1: This sounds like the twins are spoiled, Even if one parent was going to attend the graduation it would still be hard for them to focus on that, when one of your child is in a life-threatening situation. I don't think I would care about graduation if my sister was in that situation. Those parents don't seem like bad people, unless OP is not telling the full story.
@deadgirlwalking4354Күн бұрын
See I'm torn It could have absolutely nothing to do with your wife But if your wife and mother have had problems historically, this could be intentional and petty
@deadgirlwalking4354Күн бұрын
Honestly, I couldn't stay with someone who lied to my face for over a decade. It doesn't really matter what crime it was, lying to your partner for over 10 years is straight up unforgivable imo
@deadgirlwalking4354Күн бұрын
Honestly, I couldn't stay with someone who lied to my face for over a decade. It doesn't really matter what crime it was, lying to your partner for over 10 years is straight up unforgivable imo
@lynnhobbs99012 күн бұрын
So why cant your oatents cook,?
@jay-watzz2 күн бұрын
Stupid. Mother go to birth. Father go to graduation. Done. You both are so stupid.
@MikeB-us5cg2 күн бұрын
tl;dr: Golden child daughter got pumped'n'dumped by Chad. They prioritised her over the other children, again.
@enviecavalerie22252 күн бұрын
NTA. I wore contacts when I was a bridesmaid at my brother's wedding, but I wanted to, and I'd been wearing them for over 5 years. You've never worn contacts, and they're not for everyone, and you and your cousin both, no doubt look beautiful with your glasses. Jordan just sounds like a psycho bitch, and your cousin needs to stay as far from her as possible. Also, I love your cousin's comeback "This ain't fucking Alabama, you crazy bitch!!" As someone who's lived in Alabama my whole life.. I died laughing at that part..
@aaronzahniser37012 күн бұрын
The son pulled a uno reverse and hit him with the draw 2 lmao
@kiryuandgodzillagirl2 күн бұрын
I don’t blame you OP I don’t think anyone does from not wanting to see them again
@dianasmith82482 күн бұрын
The wife didn’t tell him because she was afraid that OP wouldn’t stick around. Which tells me that her dad would do prison for a serious crime.
@Ali-life1232 күн бұрын
Where is the dads like😅 what did he go to the store get milk or Something like
@1bestfriend2u182 күн бұрын
Lada is not a friend to the neighbors. She does know where boundaries are so post to be.
Пікірлер
This guy needs a spine and to get out
No you aren’t
The mother's gaslighting is telling. What a dirtball. Full NC.
Check your state laws and pay for your accommodations when for when you get older Don’t file for devioce but stop paying any of his bills and don’t give him any money if that goes on long enough he’ll do it and remember An accident can be a
Doesn't lead to the rest of the story
Yes, you are the asshole, you absolute pos. You're daughter is a grown ass woman who can make her own decisions and had been dating this guy for 4 years before deciding to marry him. And despite her being an adult capable of making her own decisions and having multiple years to consider before making a final decision to marry this man, You treat her as if she is a child being manipulated by an adult. You refuse to see your daughter as a fully cognizant agent in her own life and instead, Infantilize her treating her as if she is still a little girl. And in doing so denied her. One of the most important cultural events of her life.
I feel so terrible for OP wife of second story to found out that your whole in-law family, who you think liked you thought of you more as a burden for the past 5 years… what a punch in the stomach!? I kinda flip flopped with yhis one tho - they started dating when OP was 17 and that wife had accident when she was 11… amazing how hes stood by her buut it is kinda weird that OP carries wife everywhere and especially since shes completely capable of taking care of her self but then I remembered OP said he took her to bed upstairs …. So not ahole
Second story: we all agree thar OOP is a shitty mother, right?
i mean, kinda TAH, but it's understandable given the circumstances. i can understand OP and her siblings' annoyance and frustration w/ the situation. their father is larping as Zeus and spreading his seed, maybe getting married, and his relationships not lasting long (i know Zeus always had his marriage to Hera, but she HATED him, tbf, due to his infidelty w/ multiple goddesses and mortals). OP and her siblings all dont share a mother, and some of them were born out of wedlock, and they never see a woman last long in their lives. they literally just had each other and dad, and lord knows how he is w/ his children if how he treats women as romantic/sensual gratification and baby-making machines before either screwing up or dropping them like hot potatoes is any indicator. theres a pattern, and it's a consistent pattern, so, yes, OP, and her siblings, are TAH for just refusing to show their support nor interest in the future gfs and wives, but it's understandable given circumstances
NTA. The mom is right, it is HER wedding. It's not about her DIL. It's also possible to get a safe meal at any restaurant. They don't want to poison customers and know how to handle food. Restaurants do have options. And the DIL should have an EpiPen for just in case. I think the wife is being a brat. She could attend the wedding and just skip the reception. I'm guessing that she won't be missed.
I’ll tell you this right now, a lot of hospitals only allowed 2-3 people in the room. I had my ex and my mother. There’s a massive chance that if both parents go, one of them is gonna be waiting in the waiting room anyways. So one of you might as well go to the graduation
If the wife and mom don't have much of a relationship, why would mom consider the wife in the planning of her own wedding? Relationships are two way and there is nothing to suggest their lack of a relationship is solely on the mom. The son should go to his mother's wedding and enjoy himself, and maybe the wife should stay home and think about why her husband's mother didn't consider her allergy, if she was even aware of it, and also consider why a woman she doesn't have much of a relationship with would go out of her way to center her in an event that has nothing to do with her. 🙄
Stay safe
YTA!!! If not for your family, then, at least, do it for Dan
first
He wanted to be the man of the house? Since he thought his wife own the house, so he's the man of the house, but since it belong to his stepson, he is not the man of the house? He's only the man of the house if the house id owned by his wife? Dude, get your own house.
Wife is entitled and trying to make OP's mom's wedding about her. OP stated that this is a dream of Mom's. As such, she shouldn't have to redo her entire wedding and reception to suit her DIL that she's not even close with.
Joe keeps getting worse and worse what a wasteman
Definitely cheating
Yes
Ok so there is a few different things here. It's likely a threat to keep him from doing it again. Also perfectly reasonable to be upset at someone threatening the kid. But why is he even bullying anyone? Typically if a kid is bullying another one is because they are either being neglected or abused by someone, not always true but is that a possibility in this situation? Always. Another thing, how old is this kid? If they are 10 or under, they are still learning and I hope this kid was talked to and disciplined on how this is wrong. Now if this kid is 12, 13, 14, it depends on the kids if they've learned this by now. 15 plus, they absolutely know this is wrong. Now IMO if this kid is 16, 17, 18, 19, I'd be threatening to put hands on them too, as they already know they may have a physical advantage, mental advantage, and purposely targeted them knowing those advantages. Another question, what's the bullying here? American bullying can range anywhere from verbal rudeness to physical to actual battery. If it's verbally insulting or just being rude, absolutely not ok but kinda unreasonable threat to make for something like that. If this is actually beat up that other kid and anything much older than 15, I'd probably be taking some legal measures because they know that wrong. I kinda have a feeling info was left out on purpose because they want to make it seem like it's less than it is. I'm also disabled and advocate a lot, it's absolutely wrong to bully anyone and even worse for someone who may not understand to defend themselves or may not be able to. But also threatening to put your hands on a younger kid isn't ok either.
You're only the AH if you let her back into your home. You also need a safe to keep your valuables in. Some security cameras would be a good idea.
What a 😿
Wait, let me get this straight. The fact that OP was in debt for college suggests that he paid for it himself. He was also living on his own, so he was paying his own bills. But the stealing brother was living at home for free, with college completely paid for. So his “punishment” was still just being put into the same situation OP was already in by default. Edit: Killers of the Flower Moon is a phenomenal film.
Op is a home wrecker
Sure. The cheating, unemployed sister, living off her husband is such a wonderful wife. OP did the right thing by telling her mom. Mom could have chosen to ignore it, but apparently she actually had morals and some self-respect. Now put yourself into the shoes of the cheated on spouse. How many years would you want to be the joke in that marriage?
@@corinnefogarty7880no she didn't moron. Whatever happens between spouses is no ones business especially their kids
OP is a truth teller FTFY
I don't think the Dad meant it the way the OP took it. I don't think he was actively trying to put down OP. He had a dream of the kind of child he wanted but I don't think it was intended as a slight to OP.
Dude, the comment section was horrible to OP. Glad some reasonable folks pulled through eventually, but wow- some people are so delusional
Just a birthday?! In my family we acknowledge every birthday, no matter how old. The birthday "kid" gets a gift they asked for, a selfmade cake they chose and they get to choose dinner. This has always been a tradition for my parents, my brother and I. We're 24 and 30 years old. For my mother's birthday I got her tickets to the festival she and I were planning to attend and we had a blast. It's not childish to show the person you love that you're glad they are a part of your life. NTA
Why the hell are people bringing other cultures into this when it’s obviously not the culture of this wedding?
You, NTA. But I do find it funny how many people agree your wife was.
Yes
S2: To be up front Joe is a POS no excuse for him. That being said OP is also a POS and frankly it scares me she teaches. $75K combined income with 4 kids! How stupid do you need to be to go through with that? Let's also consider that is today they make that money I doubt they were making that much when the last kid was conceived, also for the amount of years they have been together and not once the house ownership was mentioned... There is also the fact they are struggling and she also wants to put more pressure on Joe to pay $1k more per month (Before finding out the rest) speaks volumes as well. Joe is disgusting but OP aint no rose ether. I was thinking Matt was pushing things too far at first, then the rest of the info changed my mind. I'm thinking he might be the most mature adult in that house.
How are you gonna make up once in a lifetime graduation with your twins it's only gonna happened once and your older daughter will have more children so how really??
If she is color blind it's on her bf to tell her dress is white and not to wear that but I think she is lying and just said it so she didn't get yelled at
This is why you don't mix personal and professional lives, people. It inevitably gets messy.
HATE THE ANIMATION!!! MOVES TOO FAST , MAKES ME DIZZY!!!
Story 1: This sounds like the twins are spoiled, Even if one parent was going to attend the graduation it would still be hard for them to focus on that, when one of your child is in a life-threatening situation. I don't think I would care about graduation if my sister was in that situation. Those parents don't seem like bad people, unless OP is not telling the full story.
See I'm torn It could have absolutely nothing to do with your wife But if your wife and mother have had problems historically, this could be intentional and petty
Honestly, I couldn't stay with someone who lied to my face for over a decade. It doesn't really matter what crime it was, lying to your partner for over 10 years is straight up unforgivable imo
Honestly, I couldn't stay with someone who lied to my face for over a decade. It doesn't really matter what crime it was, lying to your partner for over 10 years is straight up unforgivable imo
So why cant your oatents cook,?
Stupid. Mother go to birth. Father go to graduation. Done. You both are so stupid.
tl;dr: Golden child daughter got pumped'n'dumped by Chad. They prioritised her over the other children, again.
NTA. I wore contacts when I was a bridesmaid at my brother's wedding, but I wanted to, and I'd been wearing them for over 5 years. You've never worn contacts, and they're not for everyone, and you and your cousin both, no doubt look beautiful with your glasses. Jordan just sounds like a psycho bitch, and your cousin needs to stay as far from her as possible. Also, I love your cousin's comeback "This ain't fucking Alabama, you crazy bitch!!" As someone who's lived in Alabama my whole life.. I died laughing at that part..
The son pulled a uno reverse and hit him with the draw 2 lmao
I don’t blame you OP I don’t think anyone does from not wanting to see them again
The wife didn’t tell him because she was afraid that OP wouldn’t stick around. Which tells me that her dad would do prison for a serious crime.
Where is the dads like😅 what did he go to the store get milk or Something like
Lada is not a friend to the neighbors. She does know where boundaries are so post to be.
00:53 if your coming from shorts