Oh heck no. You are right to honor you and your son's feelings.

Should've asked them "we weren't family when i needed help?"

@loony9712

13 күн бұрын

Then they would say something like “You can’t hold past mistakes over us like that forever, we’re familyyyyyyyyy 🥺”

@daniellemitchell3118

12 күн бұрын

That part.

@daniellemitchell3118

12 күн бұрын

​@@loony9712 Probably.

Own them suport because they're family? Where were they to give you, their family, support when you needed. NTA leave them to their karma

Where was this "family" when you and your son needed their support? You owe them nothing!

Sucks to be them.

No, And you don't need the crap that will come with them! They feel like you owe them something because they feel like something is owed they will try to take over, they will not respect the rules of your home!

@kezzie40

10 күн бұрын

Nope, keep your son and yourself safe, well and healthy. Your family wasn’t there for you when you desperately needed support and love. They can struggle now just like you did

Ungrateful, Isnt that exactly what they were. They REFUSED to help you when you were in need, and Now DEMAND they recieve treatment they didnt give you. NTA.

NTA: regardless of backstory OP doesn’t know owe anyone but her son and herself shelter. Period.

Don't let them live with you. They will mooch off of you and NEVER leave.

NTA. The OP and her son are just matching her relatives energy. She and her son were family asking for help, but they refused. Why should she help them now?

Absolutely not! U r doing the right thing!!❤️❤️

W Mom, W son, L Family

id probably say these exact words:"You didn't help me before so take your feelings and shove it!"

No its your house not theirs you decide if they can

Should have said, "If you are going to use that mindset of 'we are family,' where were you when we needed your help? That's right, NOWHERE."

Reminds me that growing up my entire family bullied me including my mom. My mom said you need to love family no matter what...Such entitlement! Even if you are connected to someone by blood you need to earn a person's love.

No you not! Theres a reason your father left you the inheritance - n no one else! Block those selfish and toxic people ....your son is Right!

No!

How come you're only "family" when THEY need help, but when you need help, they tell you you're on your own...

Na

To your extended family that didn't want to tolerate or put up with you or give you or lend you a helping hand to f with them tell them to screw off that you're not going to help them you're you and your son made it together this far you shouldn't let nobody into your inner circle and especially you're outside family that only are interested in your pocket not top of anything else

You don’t owe them support because they didn’t give you support when you and your son were on your on

You owe them nothing.

Oh heck no

NTA

I would’ve told them I’m giving the same support I was given. Click🤳 And if they want to blast anyone with “family should help family” etc etc etc. Reply I strongly agree and the ones who turn their back on family should remember to never turn around and ask for help.

No, No, No it's not your fault! !

“ I honestly don’t care what any of them think as long as me and my baby are happy” 🥹💫

Absolutely NOT tah

As long as you don't care what they think then do whatever you think is fair. If they don't like you for it letting them freeload off of you won't change that

Think of it this way. What if you used that card on them. They would have rejected you. So tell them that and ask them what they did for you. Or sumtin like that

Off topic question about the hello kitty purple glitter cake. Why do they put the cake topper in before they let the icing go down the sides?

🚩Evil Family 😤

If they couldn't be there for you in your struggle. Then they shouldn't be there for your success. They are the only greedy one op not you or your son.

Noooooo!

Ungrateful for what? They didn’t help why should she feel grateful

Ich hätte sie auch nicht einziehen lassen. Alles richtig gemacht. Was zählt sind deine Gefühle und die deines Sohnes.

I'm trying to find the ungrateful part.

Do you need to prioritize you and your child well-being

Oh, now your family wants to bring up we're family. Only when it suits them I agree with your son. Bunch of hypocrites.

No

NTA but also, who tf eats purple?

is it wrong of me for absolutely loving the fact it was the son who screw em whilst the mom was dithering on what to do

You don't owe anyone a living or support. Where were they when you and you son needed assist. You are not selfish to honor son's decision.

nta

Nope none of them would help you when you needed it, so why should you help them?

If you dont care what they think, then why ask of you are the ahle?

Nope why do family do that? U didn't help me buy I suppose to look over what u did just let u walk over me Nope kick rocks. U was family then when u chose not to help .and now I choose to push u away

Kind of depends, did you ask them for help and they refused you? Or did they just not offer to help? Because that is a big difference, they did actually ask, and refusing to help family because they didn't do a thing you didn't ask them to do feels a bit toxic.

No you are not they weren’t there for you so they can’t expect you to be there for them

Nah

🤍

Men ☕

NTA

NTA