Why did he get married just to swap kids lol. Of course he comes round when he needs money and carers 🙄
@toriladybird51126 күн бұрын
Fair point HE made zero attempt to intergrate the families. I do not blame Sadie at all I blame him. He failed to do the most basic things
@dianasmith8248
26 күн бұрын
Sadie is just as much at fault. She could have ditched the fool. But she didn’t care because she wanted a daddy for her kids.
@memawknowsbest4978
22 күн бұрын
@@dianasmith8248 And unless she was a widow or left an abusive relationship, having a 3 yo and a 19 month old and single says a lot about Sadie.
@dianasmith8248
22 күн бұрын
@@memawknowsbest4978 Yes it does.
@featherflight844626 күн бұрын
NTA and OP’s dad shouldn’t be so shocked that his bio kids want nothing to do with him since he openly replaced them with his stepkids and tried to force them to bond with the stepmom without actually doing the work to warm them up to the idea. He only wants them for money and free babysitting, so he doesn't get to be upset that they’re saying no.
@elizabethmaspoch-os1uq24 күн бұрын
How tf did he not realize a two teens whose mother passed away suddenly would react differently to a toddler and two babies
@memawknowsbest4978
22 күн бұрын
They weren't teenagers yet when Sadie entered the picture. OP was 10 and his sister would have been 11.
@chkinlord113
5 күн бұрын
@@memawknowsbest4978still 2 fully conscious children are gonna have different reactions than 3 kids who can barely talk
@makaylaphillips898223 күн бұрын
Him asking his bio kids why they act like he left them with with nobody is wild considering he DID. Sadie was, and still is, NOBODY to them. They didn't know Sadie, he abandoned them for some womans kids and said "good luck" with no concern for them. Even after they said they wanted their dad. Saying "oh i was there when your mom passed" like its not rhe bare minimum is just crazy like bro, no shit. Congrats, you did what you were supposed to as a parent, want a trophy? The audacity of some parents these days is just baffling.
@seannalette1250
21 күн бұрын
My husband's dad was like this. He got remarried when my husband was 7 and within a year was out of his life entirely until after my husband's return from active duty
@fifteendozenalleyroses26 күн бұрын
Nta the dad literally dropped his kids in favor of his stepkids
@Magicnun26 күн бұрын
Sadie sounded like she tried, but only ass here is the dad
@cheryljackson7908
26 күн бұрын
Sadie could have spoken up about how he was acting, but she didn’t. Her kids had replaced his, and she just let it happen.
@rae_rae505626 күн бұрын
He should have been there for both the step kids and his kids. That's what good father would do.
@zerotodona149526 күн бұрын
Step mom isn’t a mom. Plus it sounds like their dad literally dropped them…
@johnronald976723 күн бұрын
Dude literally tried to swap his kids out and is surprised when they don’t want to be around him anymore. wtf was logic there anyways, I don’t want to be there for you anymore, I’m only there for my step kids
@dogago684624 күн бұрын
Why did they have to swap. After marriage it’s a joint effort to take care of everyone
@tohrurikku21 күн бұрын
Was Sadie as uninvolved in her kids' lives as the dad was to OP and his sister? I would bet she refused to distance herself like that. The dad was trying to force his biological kids to do something, and he refused to love them properly until they bent to his will.
@ButchPleaseImFabulous
20 күн бұрын
Right I was thinking about that. The step kids were so little they shouldn’t have been without their mom, so either they screwed over all of their kids from a healthy childhood, or they only screwed over his kids and lied about it being equal.
@HollyTrinnity25 күн бұрын
He did the whole “my kids need a mother” thing…. Without clueing in his children just hoping they’d go with it. 🤦🏻♀️ both are awful.
@ednakravitz273821 күн бұрын
Nta What they did about switching so Sadie was forced upon you was the dumbest decision I’ve ever ever heard of Nta at all
@maebell22725 күн бұрын
Because as a kid you want your parent not somebody else's parents you don't just swap children and act like they're yours and your kids aren't yours anymore of course I didn't want anything to do with her they didn't know her you brought her in out of nowhere and said here take my kids and raise them in the meantime I'll take your younger kids who are going to adjust to me better and I'll raise them so they'll love me and my kids will just hate you
@macieholifield431222 күн бұрын
00:57 for those coming from shorts
@lisapognon1400
21 күн бұрын
Thanks
@monkeyfat6121 күн бұрын
hell no, I get being there for the step kid, but that doesn't mean you up and dump your kids on your wife acting like the step kids are you only kids it sounds like even his mom and dad tryed to tell him but dam he's a crappy father. did nothing to intermingle the families together. like family trips, family outings, asking the kids what they like, seeing if they have stuff in common to nudge the kids together into common hobbies. he did none of that
@chiakinanami531920 күн бұрын
NTA. He discarded you and traded you for kids that weren't his own. The only reason he feels offended now is cause he is receiving the same treatment that he gave you. He didnt want you to rely on him because the stepkids(that weren't even his stepkids at the time)needed him more than you do. And also only reason he get offended is because he isn't gonna get money out of it when he didn't put any effort in making you all get along and get used to the idea of you all being a family together. Looking after you is one thing but moving on and simply acting like you didn't exist to him as kids anymore and immediately worry about the stepkids more is another
@cherylegregorio407720 күн бұрын
Oh he was there, for a year that is😂😂😂😂
@user-kd9by9yi4q19 күн бұрын
Who just wants to swap kids with someone they barely know, he paid so much attention to his step kids that his biological kids doesn’t even see him as their father almost anymore.
@underconstructionpodcast26 күн бұрын
def need family therapy
@HoloWolf_YT25 күн бұрын
Thats not how you get people to bond wth they all probably would have had a good relationship if they just acted normally but incorporated them into what they did
@Juniepeep20 күн бұрын
the idea that blending a family together is just swapping kids is insane.
@boarder72120 күн бұрын
NTA.. dad made his bed. Completely messed up.
@TerriResists20 күн бұрын
He abandoned his children to a strange woman after they lost their mother. Just bizarre about swapping kids. Makes zero sense.
@daphnepoon938025 күн бұрын
NTA
@Ary-cy1us20 күн бұрын
NTA !!!
@chiranjeevinaidu366022 күн бұрын
Dad was not wrong but his approach was stupid
@kumabear352920 күн бұрын
Wait! So after you and your sister lost your mother suddenly, at a young age, your “father” hooks up with someone else with kids. ABANDONING you both in favor of the other kids. Now he expects you to help financially and physically with one of the other kids? Tell him to kick rocks and GTFO 😡
@chloe_cosmo21 күн бұрын
i think you should've been more empathetic about the step son's illness, but other than that, the dad can't just leave his kids for somebody else's... you can't just SWAP kids...
@Yuuuui420 күн бұрын
Tough luck 😂 your kids want nothing to do with you. You should have blend the family before you remarry or you should just be there for your kids. Your new wife don't have to be their mom, she is your wife.
@aditimohanty269420 күн бұрын
Nta
@jackel198521 күн бұрын
I say yes you should help them not because of your father but for the kid he did nothing wrong and is being punished for it. It is your father's fault not his
@rajanis868825 күн бұрын
Lil bit TA cus u shouldn’t have punished saide as she did nothing wrong and always wanted to have a lil bond but all u did was be a lil rude towards her by just ignoring her but it was ur choice and we respect that but it dad needs to get his sheet together
@daniellemitchell3118
25 күн бұрын
That's not the part he wants to know AITAH. He wants to know if what he said to his father makes him TAH.
@Cyanandfriends26 күн бұрын
The dad is trying
@fifteendozenalleyroses
26 күн бұрын
The dad told OP and her sister not to rely on him, their own father
@SvenneMEan1337
26 күн бұрын
With the step-kids yes, his children were dropped the second he realized he could have sons instead...
@_.king._5501
26 күн бұрын
@@SvenneMEan1337the dad had 1 bio son and 1 bio daughter and the 2 step kids
@SvenneMEan1337
26 күн бұрын
@@_.king._5501 jepp but it doesn't invalidate my statement...
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Why did he get married just to swap kids lol. Of course he comes round when he needs money and carers 🙄
Fair point HE made zero attempt to intergrate the families. I do not blame Sadie at all I blame him. He failed to do the most basic things
@dianasmith8248
26 күн бұрын
Sadie is just as much at fault. She could have ditched the fool. But she didn’t care because she wanted a daddy for her kids.
@memawknowsbest4978
22 күн бұрын
@@dianasmith8248 And unless she was a widow or left an abusive relationship, having a 3 yo and a 19 month old and single says a lot about Sadie.
@dianasmith8248
22 күн бұрын
@@memawknowsbest4978 Yes it does.
NTA and OP’s dad shouldn’t be so shocked that his bio kids want nothing to do with him since he openly replaced them with his stepkids and tried to force them to bond with the stepmom without actually doing the work to warm them up to the idea. He only wants them for money and free babysitting, so he doesn't get to be upset that they’re saying no.
How tf did he not realize a two teens whose mother passed away suddenly would react differently to a toddler and two babies
@memawknowsbest4978
22 күн бұрын
They weren't teenagers yet when Sadie entered the picture. OP was 10 and his sister would have been 11.
@chkinlord113
5 күн бұрын
@@memawknowsbest4978still 2 fully conscious children are gonna have different reactions than 3 kids who can barely talk
Him asking his bio kids why they act like he left them with with nobody is wild considering he DID. Sadie was, and still is, NOBODY to them. They didn't know Sadie, he abandoned them for some womans kids and said "good luck" with no concern for them. Even after they said they wanted their dad. Saying "oh i was there when your mom passed" like its not rhe bare minimum is just crazy like bro, no shit. Congrats, you did what you were supposed to as a parent, want a trophy? The audacity of some parents these days is just baffling.
@seannalette1250
21 күн бұрын
My husband's dad was like this. He got remarried when my husband was 7 and within a year was out of his life entirely until after my husband's return from active duty
Nta the dad literally dropped his kids in favor of his stepkids
Sadie sounded like she tried, but only ass here is the dad
@cheryljackson7908
26 күн бұрын
Sadie could have spoken up about how he was acting, but she didn’t. Her kids had replaced his, and she just let it happen.
He should have been there for both the step kids and his kids. That's what good father would do.
Step mom isn’t a mom. Plus it sounds like their dad literally dropped them…
Dude literally tried to swap his kids out and is surprised when they don’t want to be around him anymore. wtf was logic there anyways, I don’t want to be there for you anymore, I’m only there for my step kids
Why did they have to swap. After marriage it’s a joint effort to take care of everyone
Was Sadie as uninvolved in her kids' lives as the dad was to OP and his sister? I would bet she refused to distance herself like that. The dad was trying to force his biological kids to do something, and he refused to love them properly until they bent to his will.
@ButchPleaseImFabulous
20 күн бұрын
Right I was thinking about that. The step kids were so little they shouldn’t have been without their mom, so either they screwed over all of their kids from a healthy childhood, or they only screwed over his kids and lied about it being equal.
He did the whole “my kids need a mother” thing…. Without clueing in his children just hoping they’d go with it. 🤦🏻♀️ both are awful.
Nta What they did about switching so Sadie was forced upon you was the dumbest decision I’ve ever ever heard of Nta at all
Because as a kid you want your parent not somebody else's parents you don't just swap children and act like they're yours and your kids aren't yours anymore of course I didn't want anything to do with her they didn't know her you brought her in out of nowhere and said here take my kids and raise them in the meantime I'll take your younger kids who are going to adjust to me better and I'll raise them so they'll love me and my kids will just hate you
00:57 for those coming from shorts
@lisapognon1400
21 күн бұрын
Thanks
hell no, I get being there for the step kid, but that doesn't mean you up and dump your kids on your wife acting like the step kids are you only kids it sounds like even his mom and dad tryed to tell him but dam he's a crappy father. did nothing to intermingle the families together. like family trips, family outings, asking the kids what they like, seeing if they have stuff in common to nudge the kids together into common hobbies. he did none of that
NTA. He discarded you and traded you for kids that weren't his own. The only reason he feels offended now is cause he is receiving the same treatment that he gave you. He didnt want you to rely on him because the stepkids(that weren't even his stepkids at the time)needed him more than you do. And also only reason he get offended is because he isn't gonna get money out of it when he didn't put any effort in making you all get along and get used to the idea of you all being a family together. Looking after you is one thing but moving on and simply acting like you didn't exist to him as kids anymore and immediately worry about the stepkids more is another
Oh he was there, for a year that is😂😂😂😂
Who just wants to swap kids with someone they barely know, he paid so much attention to his step kids that his biological kids doesn’t even see him as their father almost anymore.
def need family therapy
Thats not how you get people to bond wth they all probably would have had a good relationship if they just acted normally but incorporated them into what they did
the idea that blending a family together is just swapping kids is insane.
NTA.. dad made his bed. Completely messed up.
He abandoned his children to a strange woman after they lost their mother. Just bizarre about swapping kids. Makes zero sense.
NTA
NTA !!!
Dad was not wrong but his approach was stupid
Wait! So after you and your sister lost your mother suddenly, at a young age, your “father” hooks up with someone else with kids. ABANDONING you both in favor of the other kids. Now he expects you to help financially and physically with one of the other kids? Tell him to kick rocks and GTFO 😡
i think you should've been more empathetic about the step son's illness, but other than that, the dad can't just leave his kids for somebody else's... you can't just SWAP kids...
Tough luck 😂 your kids want nothing to do with you. You should have blend the family before you remarry or you should just be there for your kids. Your new wife don't have to be their mom, she is your wife.
Nta
I say yes you should help them not because of your father but for the kid he did nothing wrong and is being punished for it. It is your father's fault not his
Lil bit TA cus u shouldn’t have punished saide as she did nothing wrong and always wanted to have a lil bond but all u did was be a lil rude towards her by just ignoring her but it was ur choice and we respect that but it dad needs to get his sheet together
@daniellemitchell3118
25 күн бұрын
That's not the part he wants to know AITAH. He wants to know if what he said to his father makes him TAH.
The dad is trying
@fifteendozenalleyroses
26 күн бұрын
The dad told OP and her sister not to rely on him, their own father
@SvenneMEan1337
26 күн бұрын
With the step-kids yes, his children were dropped the second he realized he could have sons instead...
@_.king._5501
26 күн бұрын
@@SvenneMEan1337the dad had 1 bio son and 1 bio daughter and the 2 step kids
@SvenneMEan1337
26 күн бұрын
@@_.king._5501 jepp but it doesn't invalidate my statement...
@marie-zb5bh
22 күн бұрын
He's failing.