Shout out to my “smart but lazy” high average/honors/AP crew! ✊🏼

@sanachanto

Жыл бұрын

✊🥲

@smokey5lbc1

Жыл бұрын

✊🏾🙌🏾☺️

@Hexane88

Жыл бұрын

We aren't lazy, the system just wasn't designed for our learning style :)

@clammaster4

Жыл бұрын

just too afraid to ask for help...

@ericachristopher404

Жыл бұрын

Meeeeeee

sometimes even the people that have obvious signs don't get help because their guardians were like "i don't want my kid to have a label", "they're normal, it's just a phase, they'll pull themselves together"

@TisiphoneSeraph

Жыл бұрын

^^^ This. Which can lead to someone internalizing their shortcomings and not asking for help as adults.

@lorisiccia5914

Жыл бұрын

or they say " If she just tries a little harder"..or "she has potential if only she applied herself"...... yet taking a lot of struggles just to get through... I am trying! but what they see as not good enough..." why aren't you trying?" very defeating

@asarerebird8480

Жыл бұрын

Understanding ADHD, is important, then 50% problems solved.

@-Pheonix

Жыл бұрын

Nailed it. I can fully relate as my mother didn't want me to have the medication they offered growing up. I basically had to know when I'm starting to pop and go into a third person mode in my mind to calm down etc. I find my biggest problem is staying focused 😭

@evobrand1210

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Yep. I "didn't struggle" in school because I "always" had good grades (except when I didn't). But I often spent 4 hours on an assignment meant to take 30 minutes. So yeah, I got an A, but I also sacrificed three hours of sleep to get it. Which especially stung when I got the dreaded "if you'd only put in a little effort you could've had an A+".

@karlalopez6503

10 ай бұрын

Yes !! The same thing happens to me , I'm at university as a math major , I take a lot to memorize and do the hw and some of my classmates understand everything super fast and they finish the hw super fast too 😢

@shyryTsr2k

10 ай бұрын

Same here. I'm 23 and actually struggling to get through high school still to this day because I have to reread the same sentences 3 times because my mind wasn't understanding what it was seeing. Not being able to learn as quickly as other people is frustrating for me and I wish there was something I could do...

@horseforce1044

9 ай бұрын

@@shyryTsr2kI have a similar issue! I used to read a lot as a kid, so I know I am able to, but a lot of times, I will look at a sentence with the full intent of understanding, and not be able to grasp what it means. I'm not sure if that means that my attention is actually elsewhere or what, because when something is interesting it is generally easier for me to read.

@alexf225

9 ай бұрын

I often spended a whole day on an assigment that should take much shorter. Especially if it was written on a computer but I don't know if that's related.

@horseforce1044

9 ай бұрын

@@alexf225 same! The issue could be that there are more distractions on a computer.

Crippling disadvantages + gifted enough to make up for them = burnout, anxiety, being depressed, exhaustion, and self-deprecating

@paigeschmidt1506

4 ай бұрын

This speaks to me. Thank you for helping me feel seen.

@Sk8rdad420

3 ай бұрын

Yep😢

We hyper compensate for executive problems by doing a thousand quick save actions/ putting out fires really effectively and low key.

@Samos900

Жыл бұрын

I’m interested, Could you elaborate a bit more?

@lorismith9403

Жыл бұрын

This.

@rach41484

Жыл бұрын

100% this. And then to get slapped with the label of generalized anxiety disorder WITHOUT being successful in receiving a proper ADHD diagnosis... Of course I have developed an anxiety disorder! I’ve been hyper compensating for so many things my entire life. And because I’ve been able to hyper compensate and mask so well, I appear to be neurotypical according to the outdated DSM criteria and testing/evaluation practices.

@fascistscansuckit

Жыл бұрын

@@rach41484 this!! Yes, describing me to a T.

@Miawallce80

Жыл бұрын

This was 100% me because my brothers adhd was obvious my adhd was totally missed!! At school the teacher even said I had the ability to fly underthe radar!! And they didn't know what to do with me... I had intelligence but was easily distracted lol 42 years of age I was officially diagnosed

I do this an awful lot myself. I started put my own foot down in that regard. I think being super helpful at the expense of ourselves is a pretty common trait of ADHD. 😅

@VyvienneEaux

Жыл бұрын

Huh, now that I think about it, I feel like that’s true for me as well. I was always that person to help other people with school work or applying to things, but when it came time for myself, I was often too tired to do well. Maybe it’s because working with someone else comes easily because of the stimulation, but rarely people are there to work with us on our own stuff so we end up helping others instead.

@iprobablyforgotsomething

Жыл бұрын

"rarely people are there to work with us on our own stuff" . ^ A lot of this! Also, if we get involved spur-of-the-moment with someone else's task, especially unexpectedly, hyperfocus can come into play. Then we get home and are tired and braindead and bored (understimulated) and overwhelmed simultaneously.

@christinawilson7522

Жыл бұрын

I struggled like crazy but I was just labeled a rebellious emotional teen.

@KyokoToshino-hp5gb

Жыл бұрын

This is so true even if we don't realize it until someone calls it out to us.

@randomacquaintance1495

Жыл бұрын

same...

not to mention societies insistence that 'failure is not an option' and 'never over emote'. Makes people mask quicker, instead of confronting the issue. If you're being told basically by everyone around you that the way you do everything is wrong- you're going to hide it and it's going to get worse.

@AutomaticDuck300

10 ай бұрын

I’ve been told to mask who I am since I was 5 years old, because nothing I did was “normal”. I legit don’t know who I am at this point.

@Mochi-re8cv

8 ай бұрын

@@AutomaticDuck300 OMG SAME 😭

@AutomaticDuck300

8 ай бұрын

@@Mochi-re8cv so I stopped masking. Now it turns out that I’m transgender. Fantastic.

@Mochi-re8cv

8 ай бұрын

@@AutomaticDuck300 👁️👄👁️ I thought you meant character ….

Oh my goodness yes. I never had the greater need, and so I started a pattern of never seeing my own struggles as relevant, or like I deserved solutions for them. I've been working through this in therapy too, but I love this "your need is greater but I can't sacrifice my own needs. What can we do?" framing.

It took 27 years for everything to finally come together in a diagnosis for me… I have so many thanks to this channel for helping things make sense

@wellhello1603

Жыл бұрын

27 years for me as well

@aeromatrix5070

Жыл бұрын

Going through the same route right now. Recognizing gaslighting have been helpful to finally start seeking the right help.

@johndemeritt3460

Жыл бұрын

I've been through a number of assessments since September of 2022 to determine whether I have ADHD. I'll get the results at the end of January 2023. By that time, I'll be 66 years old. Kinda late to get such a diagnosis, but the doctor I've been seeing says he's had such cases before. What's a real gut punch for me is that I've somehow managed to get through this much life without ever being recognized with a problem. But I agree with the sentiment that this channel has done a lot to help me understand what I might be facing. So, many thanks to everyone who makes How to ADHD happen!

@emilyfabulouso

Жыл бұрын

I wasn't diagnosed until 47 and then only because I had a full on mental breakdown. I was referred to the clinic therapist and on our second session she asked me if I was taking my ADHD meds. I told her I didn't have adhd and she replied, "yeah, you definitely do... I noticed it right away during our first session." She then referred me to a psychiatrist for a diagnosis and yep, she was right ADHD inattentive. It definitely explained a lot, from childhood to the present. Still looking for the magic combination of meds to help but I and my doc are still trying.

@djbrammer4049

9 ай бұрын

Agree ❤

I found out as an adult I have ADHD, i took the steps partly because of your videos. I spoke with my mom about this and it helped us really get a stronger bond. However thanks to that I pointed out my niece is very much like me as a child and I was concerned that she might also have undiagnosed ADHD, and I want thats she has support and understanding of herself which I didnt have. So a few months into the future and we found out that my niece has ADHD and is further on the spectrum than me. Now my family is working hard to educate themselves, and we were able idenrify a few schemes my niece might benefit from

@Historian212

Жыл бұрын

Kudos to you for advocating for your niece! You’ve already made a big difference in her life. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

I offered the whole spectrum in school. From best grades to total blackouts - even in the same subjects I was quitegood in. The teachers thought it's my motivation and lack of focus. I was a dreamer - not hyperactive, aggressive.....and under the radar. When I showed my mom 30 years after school what ADHD it was like a revelation to her.

@mikalrage7316

9 ай бұрын

This was me as well. I had other complicating family circumstances on top of it, and was only diagnosed the day before I turned 44.

got me crying because that’s always been my go to as well. on top of that, growing up with 5 siblings, i just never even stated that i had needs because i could see how overwhelmed my mom was and i didn’t want to add to the pile.

@skworrell

Жыл бұрын

Same! Enter severe parentification.

@tigresmom5654

Жыл бұрын

Same

I got tired of putting my needs last. But handled it wrong. As in stopping caring about others needs. This is a much better way of handling this. Thank you for sharing!

Bingo! You just nailed the last 55 years of my life! I will be turning 65 in 2023; I was only diagnosed this past August after 10 months of chaos (including serious depression and a steep dive in my work performance) when my symptoms went from very mild to out of control. (Apparently a thing when you develop sleep disorders…I have 2). So I am just starting my journey. I have a fairly good medication regime which seems to be working. I have some experience with ADHD that is proving invaluable. My two step kids have, amongst other attendant disorders, severe ADHD as do my four grandkids.

This is relatable - I have always put others first for the greater good, for acceptance, to feel like/loved! I need to give myself the same courtesy.

I just got diagnosed with adhd last week and it's so reassuring to know because I'm really good at school and tests and it's made it hard for people to realize when I'm struggling but I'm constantly feeling discouraged and burnt out because I take so much longer to do assignments than my friends and I feel like I miss out on so much because of how long everything takes me

I need to learn to use that language. Neglecting my own needs is part of why I hit burn out really badly about a year ago.

@TrucyBlackquill

Жыл бұрын

Hang in there soldier!! I've experienced this in my own life as well- it's tough perfectly balance others' needs with our own!! ADHD can be annoying as h*ll sometimes, but you're not alone, friend!! ✊🏻

This is so helpful, thank you. I have undiagnosed ADHD, my husband has a diagnosis. We both deal with different issues. Right now, he has the greater external need and mine is an internal need. This, for me, is a reminder to not put my issues down/away while supporting him.

This is something I suspect happened to me. As a kid who was homeschooled and only went to public school for the classes I wanted to be in (art, music, etc) and therefore was only in a public school setting for things I could easily focus on, I think that combined with a more internal struggle, and so no one ever suggested I should be given supports. As an adult, I have to deal with my struggles, and even though I don't know what they are officially, my research brought me to your channel, and what you describe almost always resonates with my experience, and the solutions you offer have helped a lot. Now I just have to get better at advocating for myself 😅

@JustMyOwnSelfToo

Жыл бұрын

I can relate!

When you get in trouble a lot in school: *still doesn't get diagnosed*

@cobyfield9237

Жыл бұрын

Story of my life 🥲

I internalized my whole life, cause when I was a kid, they tried to cure ADHD with a belt.

I didn't get diagnosed until I was 56. I'm learning to say no.

I may be reading this wrong but after watching her Ted talk I realised there so much emotion behind her videos when she talks. It’s one of the reasons why I love this channel. She sincerely wants to educate us and those around us about ADHD. I’ve learned so much from this channel and it’s even helped me communicate with those around me about me so they can better understand me and help me if they see me struggling.

I want to thank you for creating the content and videos that you have. You set me on a path of self discovery and now, today, I am proud to say I finally got my diagnosis! It's been an hour since I got home and I got to try out ADHD medication for the first time today and it was like a whole new world! You have no idea how much this means to me and how much you've helped me on the way here. Thank you. I know the road isn't over and I'm not there yet but this is such a big step in my life. I'm proud of myself.

One aspect that had me under-the-radar with ADHD in my teen years was being involved with competitive sports, especially long-distance running. Why was that so? The physical exertion from the athletic training and competitions had a settling effect on me. It became very obvious when comparing my social behavior in school prior to getting involved in athletics; as the behavior vastly improved upon my involvement with athletic sports in high school and college.

That last bit really got me 😭

so true, my therapist was the person that made me aware of ADHD. Otherwise I would never been diagnosed and be struggling with it undiagnosed right now without knowing what was wrong

36 jobs between the age of 16-19. I might have ADHD

@kipper66

Жыл бұрын

similar. never had a job more than a year. diagnosed last year at 34, thought i'd cracked the code and wouldnt get fired from another job....nope. just lost another job. FML.

@claybarbieri9909

Жыл бұрын

Being diagnosed is just a start. Finding a good medication,and most effective dose and ADD management skills ( both is most effective) is a highly recommend next step.

@laurenkirklpc1169

Жыл бұрын

I feel like a have legit PTSD from being fired. It’s so frustrating because I was always good at the important parts of my job. It was the little things that got me, like being 15 minutes late even though I would stay an hour late to make sure what needed to get done got done.

@jliller

Жыл бұрын

36 jobs in 3 years? I'm kind of surprised people kept hiring you, but I guess you weren't putting that down on your resume.

@estherfriesen2175

9 ай бұрын

​@@laurenkirklpc1169 Same here.. I was good at my job, but I was often late or worked slower than most other people and therefore wasn't worth their time, apparently... Been fired several times, and also quit the day before I would have been fired, 3 different times. I'm afraid to look for another job. Like, terrified.

I love you for this. It's a very clean explanation for the variety of outcomes when it comes to ADHD and how individuals develop coping mechanisms.

"you have the greater need right now, and I also don't want to neglect mine" is a great statement :)

And when you have two siblings with more external mental health issues, sometimes even an occasional "I think I might have ADD" and some visible procrastination aren't enough external symptoms for a therapist visit until you can't pass your classes anymore years later!

AGH you just described my entire childhood

Does anyone else struggle with feeling uneducated? I realise I got decent grades, but had to work creatively and extremely hard for it (mom helped me a lot tho, thanks mom!). I registered little geography or Roman clock numbers, which I found out due to my partner. I’m embarrassed, but not enough to force myself to restudy these basics :(.

@shillout

Жыл бұрын

Yep. I basically learned how to pass tests instead of actually learning the things I studied 😌 I remember almost nothing from school, feels like everything was a waste of my time..

@gustavehenry

Жыл бұрын

I think your problem is your definition of basic knowledge. Geography, nor Roman number ain't really useful for your every day life. Though, if you want to lean about these kind of stuff, there is a TON of vulgarisation on youtube that can teach you in a way funnier way than school would.

@gustavehenry

Жыл бұрын

Learning to learn is certainly a really good idea! But as an adult I find it way more interesting to get knowledge through well made videos talking about more than one field of subject than to try to learn one specific topic. But you should never feel embarrassed about what you don't know or didn't learn. You should focus on what you know, your abilities and so on. Always focus on the good sides of you. And if you ever need something: get it! Plus if your loved ones do not support you, they might not deserve so much love (not saying anything, but always something to keep in mind)

@NaviO.o

Жыл бұрын

I was great at keeping up my grades even though I struggled so hard to do so. But I was absolute trash at science and history/geography. I did everything I could to avoid those two subjects. Now I regret never having taken chemistry because that's something I wish I knew anything about as an adult. But anytime I try to learn it, it's just as hard as it was in school and I'm incredibly embarrassed that I still struggle so damn hard and don't retain anything. I feel you man.

@maxplaysmusic9182

Жыл бұрын

YES. Just yes.

Where I live (Australia) we have vocational educational training (V.E.T) it’s very helpful and it makes life far more easier

And then, there are us elderly folks that didn't get diagnosed until late in life. We were looked at as behavior problems that needed more discipline.

@Historian212

Жыл бұрын

67 y.o. here, diagnosed at 59. I hear you. Looking back, the symptoms were so obvious, but no one even stopped to ask what was going on. For me, especially as a girl who wasn’t outwardly hyperactive. And as a kid whose grades - except in math and gym - were always good or higher. Most common report card comment: “Has the potential to perform better.” No one ever asked how. Or wondered: why isn’t she performing better (other than, “Why do you always do your homework/assignments at the last minute?” and then telling me to plan better/try harder). Ugh.

@estherfriesen2175

9 ай бұрын

​@@Historian212 Same here, down to not having good grades in gym or math... I'm 32, female, and my heart aches for the older people with neurodivergent brains. I just realized I probably have ADHD last month and I'm in the process now of seeking a diagnosis.

Your channel genuinely makes a difference 🙂

Speaks to me a lot

I have so many things I wish I could say to you young lady, you are the reason I was able to dig deep enough to find my bravery and get a diagnosis and let me tell you, it has changed every single day of my life since. There was a time when I had watched every single one of your videos religiously, lately life has taken over, but there is a long list of things that I learned from you. I’m always rootin’ for you, and i will always, always, be so very grateful for you. I love your life sweet girl.! 🥰🥰

Or they live in a very conservative area. That's basically how mine got ignored by my family, mainly because we couldn't afford it and they didn't want to have to take time off work to take me to appointments. So when I got out with the house and got my own place so I struggled really bad for years and basically was just ignored it wasn't until things got so bad that I saw help and then I got my diagnosis. They still really don't know anything about ADHD and don't read or listen to anything I send them about it basically I'm just looked at as lazy and childish

@Samos900

Жыл бұрын

Story of my life, mid 20s and figuring it out

@ThatADHDKid

Жыл бұрын

@@Samos900 I'm now in my early '30s and things aren't getting any better. I hope they do for you

Internalized with severe emotional disregulation. Its like not having legs but everyone thinks you do have legs...

Love that ending

I'm neglecting me, my needs to compensate other's for my ADHD my hole life 🙄 I believe? More- I'm neglecting my needs for your needs right now and far too often! Too much! so how are we going to navigate this and keep a check on the ballance supporting each other fairly 😳 Wow thank You 💫 😊

I just had this as a situation a week ago. your timing is immaculate

Wow this, this is what I needed. I have struggled with this same thing for years. Thank you so much for sharing this!!

"I believe you have the greater need than mine , but I don't want to regret mine" that is something I need too. Thank you

I'm a gifted kid, like I'm insanely smart. But I do have ADHD and to hear every single time "you can do so much better" while I'm struggling so bad is just heartbreaking

struggled with ADHD for decades after being taken off Ritalin when I hit puberty, twice exceptional. I seemed normal, but went through so many jobs, so many speeding tickets. If you suspect you have ADHD, get properly diagnosed, get help, and if warranted, get meds. The changes will help you get control of the remote and give you control back of your emotions and focus.

In elementary school, I remember asking for extra help like some students got, and I was always denied. I think part of it was my parents never noticed or believed in handicaps. I wasn't diagnosed til in my 30s, I'm now 36. I'll be going to college in a couple weeks ago and will have accommodations for the first time ever. I get it. ❤ thanks girl I love you

My ADHD flew under the radar (and still is, really, since I don't have an official diagnosis) is because I _also_ have Autism. Which, for the record, _also_ went mostly undiagnosed (when I was 18 I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS which very much isn't the same thing and just seemed to be a "well, there's something going on there but we don't know what" kind of diagnosis)

@Arginne

Жыл бұрын

If you dont have an official diagnosis then how do you know you have adhd? Lol

@StarkRG

Жыл бұрын

@@Arginne The same way you know you have a stubbed toe or a headache without an official diagnosis.

I love this! So needed!

My therapist connected me to your page, I'm so grateful

Thank you for always articulating what many of us struggle to put together. Big hugs 🫂

Love this. Since seeing this in one of your videos a while back, wife and I have used this a ton. My issues got to be pretty bad because I always felt hers were worse, which meant mine were to just be swept under the rug (my decision and thinking - not hers). After hearing this idea from you we talked about it, and I felt like my issues were valid enough to have some attention too. Huge game changer. Thank you for what you do, Jessica! 🙏

I'm very internalised, just diagnosed at 45! I'm DME, was getting assessment at school more for dyspraxic type stuff - high cognitive scores but struggling in school, performance gap with work and grades. This seems like a short of two parts, linked by the idea of wanting to help other people, maybe a bit too much. I've recognised a kind of"rescuing hero" thing maybe. And a therapy revelation or aha moment is a good thing to have had. But I still struggle to have or absorb my own kind of aha moment. Though yours is a good thought to add to the pile.

I was talking with my dad about this yesterday. My brother had a more severe case of ADHD. So much more effort was directed towards him that I got neglected. I didn’t act out in school like my brother did. I say I had less of the “Hyper” part of ADHD. I never did schoolwork but did very well on tests. Which is why they let me proceed through school. I told my dad that the problems associated with ADD are getting harder to manage now that I’m older.

Learned to internalize, now it’s just inner chaos

This took me about 10 replays to finally understand the message. Especially the last third. Now that I get it, thank you!

Thank you for this. The phrase youve learned to say about needs is fantastic. Great advice for anyone who grew up being "taught" to always put others first and repress their own needs.

Excellent breakdown 🙌 thank you for these words! Many of us share this problem growing up, and it took my current workplace for me to be receptive to these words. I think my tiny department has been kicked around and around under various management because of exactly this line of thinking: I'll keep serving the needs of others and go years without defining my needs or my department needs and be desirable for work because I won't make my needs known.

How do you make me cry in less than 90 seconds 😅 i appreciate you & sharing you journey with us 💛

This is so me and a great message to convey… but also you’re giving strong Isla Fisher vibes right now.

I’m sharing this video with my eight year old son. Words matter. Thanks for these.

This hit home cause I struggle with comparing my problems with people I know and neglect myself constantly because of it

She's so pretty 😍✨

This is me, started meds this tuesday, never been more productive consistently ever and I feel wonderful.

I’m so relieved to find a voice like this, who can verbalize exactly my internal struggle having a younger sibling with Asperger’s and all the focus was on him growing up, while as the middle child I simply was not allowed to even think I had any problems.

You've made me cry more than once... Thanks.

I hid it myself a lot.

I've been having symptoms my whole life as well and at 23 I finally decided to take control of my own life and get answers through a possible diagnosis after being told my whole life that I'm just lazy, that I could do things if I really wanted to, that I have lots of potential and etc. I have been denied my feelings and my condition for so long that I've learned to mask really well around my family who I don't feel safe/comfortable around to be myself. I was sooner diagnosed with MDD (Major Depressive Disorder) than I was/could be diagnosed with ADHD without even knowing the underlying causes of my depression. Psychiatrists I've been in contact with are so quick to say anxiety/depression and disregard how I truly am and it hurts.

It hurt me so much when people would call me irresponsible, and I tried so hard to be perfect.

You are helping me beyond words, thank you

I was diagnosed at 9. However, my upbringing caused me mask my struggles. I am now (at 29) learning how to stand up for struggles. I am still learning how to ask for help.

Thank you. Bringing opposing needs together and find a Konsens is a underrated skill for many people. This sentence that helped you, can help so many others. I'm glad you shared it. What a gift. If we could phrase it that way communication would be more equal valued. More harmonious. Less resentment would build up. I'm a giver. I do have a (once survival) pattern to give others what they need and neglect my needs to the point i don't feel them anymore. Needing something is trauma connected. I lack internal orientation. No internal being grounded. If someone is stressed i go numb. And try to comfort them to prevent (violent) outbursts. I appreciate those sentences, they help me create space for my needs.

Yes Im okay thanks for helping me out God bless my safe care about my safe life God bless my life

I excelled in secondary education, and my sister suffered from anxiety and abandonment issues growing up. This led to her getting support while I went unnoticed for ADHD. I began struggling more as I left high school. Lots of living and failing through my 20s and 30s led to things coming to a head right as I hit 40. I am finally getting the help I need for managing ADHD and learning how to live with it so I can have a happier, content life.

OMG. Thank you for sharing this. This is so powerful.

I had to listen to this more than 10 times because my brain was not cooperating with me and couldn't take info 😂 My brother has more symptoms than me or at least is more external so he has been diagnosed with adhd and Im always been the neurotipical one but now I now that I'm struggling internally. Maybe as much as my brother but Im the one that asks frequently for help unlike my brother who has been always I'll deal with my problems kinda guy. My grades weren't as affected and I don't bottle up emotionally but I still struggle with being "too sensitive" and not being able to complete projects unless I hyperfocus so I always end up burning myself out. So thank you for these validating and informative videos 💜

I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing 🥲

Thank you for sharing. This is wise insight! I will be trying to tell myself this moving forward.

I can see myself in you. And i feel hopeful ❤

This was me. I had suspicions as a junior or senior in high school, and my mom wouldn’t believe me because “I didn’t act like it”. But then I was always forgetting school assignments and my way of cleaning my room didn’t match HER way of cleaning my bedrooms. Finally got diagnosed at 23.😂😅

As a late diagnosed (51) female ADHDer who was also gifted and autistic I can say this is 1000% true. The inner turmoil and self loathing is intense. My life has been a disaster. And the effort required to constantly mask has put me through multiple severe burnouts that I have also hid. Still grieving over this but diagnosis has helped me to forgive my failures.

I did a great deal of damage to myself perfecting my exclusion.

This is why I live ya face and heart you are the best

Thank you so very much for Sharing!! Have a Happy Holiday 💖!!!

THANK YOU! 💐

I was finally diagnosed at 34 with ADHD - Innatentive and im so happy. I can start to do what i need to do to become great.

I am turning 40 this year. Just got diagnosed with ADHD two years ago but didn't know what to do with the information. I was nervous about starting meds for it... Well enough is enough. My failures and low self-esteem from feeling broken has made me feel worthless and s★icidal. Just got a prescription and am picking it up today. I'm now working with both a psychologist and psychiatrist well versed in ADHD areas. Fingers crossed things will look up soon.

Hi, you have just answered a lot of questions I've had. I thank you for that. You take care of yourself 😊

That last sentence hit hard

Thank you so much for sharing this!! You and your channel are really a gift! ❤❤

So relatable. I avoided getting tested for ADHD for years because I couldn’t confirm my symptoms as easily as others, and I didn’t want to take away medicine from those that needed it more than I did. I have to remind myself that I have right to proper care, too.

This is actually really good advice. Thanks!

I love your work! Thanks for helping me get diagnosed!

I just got diagnosed last month. Life is gonna go smoother from here on out

Super appreciate this.

Gotta love those dialectics! ❤️

Very off topic, but you are so gorgeous! Thank you for being an educator, it helped me understand that I DO have adhd and my diagnosis isn’t fake. I tend to fall into the imposter syndrome spiral.

YES!!!!! I'm SLOWLY learning to balance my need to nurture and help, with my needs. It is often challenging. Thank you.

Wow did this ever ring true. In my soul. I always see others as having the greater need.