I wish for nothing else than to be able to make the switch from short term survival to long term living.

@peachykeen7634

Ай бұрын

For me, the hardest part was realizing I had to kill some of my plans and ideas

@chrismccaffrey8256

Ай бұрын

Meditate. I promise, it may be hard to begin with, but it is life changing!

@linamarie84

Ай бұрын

Me too.

@joob40

28 күн бұрын

​@@chrismccaffrey8256absolutely!!

@sweethearteu

24 күн бұрын

Good luck sweetie..🙏💜🇬🇧💜 (Don't we all🙊💜🙈💜🤭💜)

You’re so right. Problem is, when you suffer from depression too, there’s ZERO motivation to do any of this 😢

As an AuADHDer, this as important as knowing that half the time I also need to de-stimulate/regulate myself with quiet. The trick is tuning into the needs as they arise and try to create space for all the parts of me

@Sam-nv6ug

Ай бұрын

I’m the same as you, it’s hard to find good advice with such conflicting conditions 😅

@Steven-ly9ei

29 күн бұрын

I too find stimulation exhausting. But it's like my brain starts screaming at me if I stop. I just either sleep. Or have things to do. I sometimes sleep 12 hours a say if I'm too tired to keep brain happy. it feels not so different to looking after a toddler. Except you are both the adult and the toddler 😂😂

@solitarius7975

16 күн бұрын

@@Steven-ly9eidont judge your way to control your problems if it work just do it dont care about thinking or judges from others this mentality helped much me but of course it need time but you will be ready to achieve this.

@XingAoShen

13 күн бұрын

… its actually sickening bc i need stimulation but my autism wants calm and consistency 😭

@chrispasson1940

45 минут бұрын

@@XingAoShen that would be hard

If someone had taught me this as a young person, it might have saved me from years of drug addiction and abusive relationships. As I approach old age, I find myself listening to audiobooks and podcasts every moment as I do everything to keep the brain chatter in the background. ❤ I hope these videos are helping people negotiate life with an ADHD brain.

@chrispasson1940

Ай бұрын

i'm already in old age and like you, i fill every single hour of the day with audiobooks and podcasts

@Chief_runs_with_scissors

Ай бұрын

I WAS taught this as a young person(diagnosed at 15) and still did the same things as you..I blamed my childhood / parents & refused meds.Self medicated instead. It wasn't till my late 30s I gave medication a try that my life truly changed

@whoolawoop6817

20 күн бұрын

Me too! 😅

@chrispasson1940

18 күн бұрын

and visiting the Optician, GP, Pharmacy

@whitelemonade5590

16 күн бұрын

At 21 years old, I find myself usually looking towards my far future as opposed to my middle life. Do you find that keeping yourself stimulated like this has caused you negative effects? I do this for much of the day as well, frequently bouncing between audiobooks, youtube videos, articles, etc. I often fear that stimulating myself like this all the time will do more harm than good. I only very recently have come upon the revelation that I almost certainly have ADHD, and now, I'm looking forward. I know it's not something to be "fixed", but I want to learn the best ways to cope with it. This video is all too true! When the stimulation fades, the thoughts set in, and suddenly it all feels uncertain!

I have 3 children with ADHD, MY OLDEST SON WAS DIAGNOSED AT 25 , ITS HEARTBREAKING TO KNOW THE SILENT SUFFERING THEY FEEL . THANK YOU FOR HIGHLIGHTING AWARENESS.❤

It's really cool to see that I actually don't have ADHD and if I'm pretty honest I can't relate. That's important that you put yourself out there for other people to understand what ADHD really means

You have the most discipline for a person with ADHD.. usually following the drive is what drives us. I had many lists that I would check off, and I did amazing with my dream lists until I hit 38... Something about that time in my life made me go off my lists.. I wanted spontaneous satisfaction so badly. That's where things went astray. Now I'm 43 and still getting back on track from a 2 year detour into the unknown. But those times sure were wild!

@hollow34

Ай бұрын

I've hit 40.5...bowel problems have thrown me off track. According to others bowels are linked to the brain. Might want to keep your eyes open for lumps on your Colon. I'm getting a camera up the bum next week.

@brendatomlinson

Ай бұрын

You’re young but could it possibly be perimenopause? I was 60 when diagnosed but lifelong symptoms worsened exponentially during perimenopause.

@CosmicStarHome

Ай бұрын

@@brendatomlinson same!

@Chief_runs_with_scissors

19 күн бұрын

@brendatomlinson snap! Was just going to say this very thing! I'm 45 & reading the comment ,I instantly thought " perimenopause " as it's how I felt for a good few years in my late 30s 💖

@brendatomlinson

19 күн бұрын

@@CosmicStarHome thanks for speaking up! It’s been a lonely ride through menopause with memory problems, executive dysfunction etc etc. My doctor even ran me through MRI and testing for dementia!

This is the best ADHD video I've ever seen. I've suspected for a year or so that i have it. This confirms it. It's been the reason for everything "wrong" with me.

@kateashby3066

15 күн бұрын

ADHD is very often a comorbidity (it tends to go along with other disorders) so… if you’re suffering outside if ADHD symptoms, keep that in mind. I have ADHD, BPD, OCPD, anxiety, and depression. So I’m a walking disaster. But literally all of us are different. Even those with just ADHD are quite different because there are 3 types AND it’s on a spectrum! There’s just the hyperactivity, just the attention deficit (we call that ADD, but that’s not accurate since it’s all ADHD), then there’s the combo of both of those. So please keep this in mind while on your self-diagnosing journey, then I want to recommend you get an actual evaluation to confirm what you suspect. Because we can be wrong, and also they can be too!

@CallmeCalypso

15 күн бұрын

@@kateashby3066 Thank you so much!! I have been diagnosed with BPD, ocd, depression, and anxiety/panic disorder as well, along with CPSTD. I am looking into getting evaluated for ADHD. I understand that a lot of things are comorbid with it, but I think I may have been misdiagnosed with BPD. I had kinda crappy psychiatrists and therapists (some were angels though). But we'll see!

This one feels incredibly important like it should be lesson number 1. Now I need to hunt down all the lessons. I am loving your content bc it's validating and helpful.

@annm4833

Ай бұрын

I was just thinking the same thing 👍

It took me a lifetime to learn this lesson. I knew from an early age that I was a thrill seeker but didn’t realize the trouble that could cause until the crap hit the fan

After watching your channel i know i had Adhd,i was constantly pursuing flashy and glorious things that didn't serve me

i tend to stimulate myself by learning and researching a wide variety of topics that i encounter in my life for example my aunt gave me a golden necklace -> i was interested in its value since she said that it's diamond+gold -> i started researching different shops/companies in this sphere -> tried identifying the value myself -> found out about special labels on jewelry -> started researching them and now i can identify in what year and by what company was the jewelry made and where it was certified and also the percentage of gold/silver in it! and my whole life consists of those small researchers that leave me with the most random set of skills ever i enjoy finding some sphere im uneducated in and feeling how i grow while learning about it. gives me the sweet dopamine

Love love this😍! I just stumbled across this on KZread and so glad I did. I can completely relate. Having just self diagnosed myself at 50. I’ve often referred to myself as a little ADD, but I didn’t realize to what degree I struggle with it and am learning to see it as a blessing rather than a curse if you learn how to manage it properly. So thank you for creating these clips and sharing your life lessons!! ❤️😍🥰😉👍❤️!!

My entire life I thought I was unique & crazy Thank You kindly🕊

Mine is fixing things. Especially smaller things that take alot of focus.

It's called the "Novelty Gene". Anything new will satisfy it. Learn a new language, check out every new restaurant, bar, museum, park, thrift store, business. Talk to everyone that you meet. Read every book you pick up. You'll never be bored again and you'll keep yourself out of trouble. (I know this for a fact) 😊

When I get this way, I always go to crafting. This way it's constructive. I don't like drama so I steer clear of that and I like an easier life so I've learned to do constructive things, reading, crafting, watching KZread while crafting 😂

It's almost 12am and im binge watching this man's shorts about whether i have ADHD or not instead of sleeping

Now this is true, I’ve had friends with it and they suffer from this

THIS is so me. I’m 76 years old and still do crazy things if I think I’m getting bored.

@chrispasson1940

Ай бұрын

same same

Now THIS is absolute Gold......

that’s why I love summer because I am constantly busy yeah I’m tired, but you know what I don’t care. I wake up every morning with knowing i’ve got to do.

I'm exactly the same and I failed all my life until I learned to fix that with taking the Problems in my own hands.

This makes so much sense to me, as I’ve been recently diagnosed. Thanks!

This is life saving … I struggled my whole life trying to shift my downward spiral negative thoughts when they start… now this is a key to turn the direction upward! To find a problem (of growth) to solve so can stimulate this brain. This you’ve shared is such a gift. Wish many adhders can learn this early… (meanwhile, late here at 46, but grateful that it’s better than never!)

Those things cost money I can't even stay still enough to finish a work shift

@legospaceracer123

Ай бұрын

😢 same

@kateashby3066

15 күн бұрын

Maybe you need a different job? I am a rare ADHD’r who enjoys cleanings and organizing. That stimulates my hyper focus and I’m off! I couldn’t possibly have a desk job. I am training to be a high school teacher and that is also very very intense in terms of multitasking and being in your toes.

@carrie040901

15 күн бұрын

Thats the thing it's a cleaning job, it's a 45 month drive from my house so they expect me to stay there a dull 9hrs aday but I finish all my work the first hour and a half of the shift my supervisior os always all "Idk how you're 3 buildings are always so clean when I only ever (assume) you're in you're office all day. Idk what you're doing in there but damnit stop forgetting you're time clock it's am app on you're phone" There's not any other availabel work here besides this either everything else is hospital or managment or the security witch I've done before but for some reason this place thay jas thier own security won't let me work for the.

I once had a job where I was stuck in a little room by myself, which was freezing, and there basically wasn’t enough work to do to make it a full time job so I was just on my phone all day and I went crazy. I think I lasted 2 months, if that. At first it sounded great that I didn’t have to do much but then I realized I NEED to do things to not lose my mind. Those days lasted forever! 😢 Now I advocate for abused and neglected children, and I have too much work and not enough time. But everyday is different and I’m never bored.

This! When I was a kid, I used to want to do things impulsively, and loved trying new things and curiosities. But when i wouldn't get them, I'd throw tantrums. I then learned from the adults around my life that the kry to being a good person was to follow the rules. But, "following the rules" not only meant doing what's right, but being as robotic, boring, steralized and monotonous as possible. Many of the reasons why I was denied the things I wanted as a kid seemed to be in favor of routine, fear of impulsivity, or fear of the unfamiliar. So, I turned myself into a robot, learned to mask, learned to always follow the rules even when my friends didn't, even if it were as simple as "don't go into that area, stay in this area, even though there's no fence or anything different about that area". I would snitch, I would even make up my own rules. And I was convinced that there were no ill intentions with what i was doing. Well, nowadays, as an adult, even when my parents insist that I *could* try something, I insist "no", because I want to stick to routine and the familiar. I find comfort and stimulation knowing that I'm doing the right thing by being boring. In fact, I've learned to thrive in boredom, because I can daydream. Anyways, recently, I've began to question the way I see rules and routine. And I realized that what I have is a gift. And that if I take responsibility for my actions, I'll be fine, regardless of how my brain works! Nobody is excempt from the rules! I'm now trying to form realistic goals, habits and routines that don't ask me for nothing or everything.

Not all hero’s wear capes!

This is so hard when my burnout craves self isolation but my ADHD gets stir crazy

I have the exact opposite problem. I am never bored. I am so busy all day long on projects that I love that my body and the clock run out way before my list of things to do. Stay busy. Find a passion and go knock it out every day! And if you are not retired yet and still working, treat your job like a video game and do it as fast and quick and as good as you can and challenge yourself every day to beat your own best!

@benjaminsteig7126

Ай бұрын

The problem is that most of us have jobs that we don’t really love. And if I did my job really fast I would be fired and possibly have CPS called on me. If I really followed my passion I would be living in a cottage deep in the forest with my own private waterslide that leads to a secret grotto etc..

AMEN!!!!!! thank you so much for this!!!!

Attention goes where stimulation goes. That's why I believe it's a stimulation disorder rather than an attention disorder, let alone Attention "Deficit".

@suddhadasi

Ай бұрын

Wow, really helpful insight, thanks

@sweethearteu

24 күн бұрын

They call it Attention Deficit; bc you try to do something; & meanwhile you spot 17 other things that need doing & you start "Doing them all - but ofc you cannot focus on them all - bc it's Not Possible for anybody to do all those things at once - espc when your mind is going at Two Hundred Miles an Hour - Telling you about the next 17 or 26 or 106! You know?! That's how the Kitchen gets Flooded (sometimes) or wgt ou neglect this that & the other - bc yr doing the other however many things. There's a Deficit (but it isn't what you seem to think in terms of "a deficiency") As I understand it anyway🙊💜🙏💜🇬🇧💜

@kateashby3066

15 күн бұрын

Not everyone who has adhd even has attention deficit. Some just have the hyperactivity component.

This resonates. One of the truest ones so far.

My sobriety date was January 1st 2008... I wish there was as much information about ADHD when I was younger. I went through way too much pain before I grew

@newton-342

Ай бұрын

Congratulations to 16 years 🎉

@SMacXoXo

Ай бұрын

@@newton-342 Thank you, but it's all thanks to my support and the daughter that gave me a reason to stop 💗

@kateashby3066

15 күн бұрын

@@SMacXoXono honey, this is 100% on you. You did good! YOU. My mother has 4 reasons to stop (4 kids) and at 76 she’s still a very sick person. Thanks for showing up for your kid, one day they’re going to fully understand how big that is if they don’t already.

Is that why I always start random arguments for no reason?

You remind me a lot of my dad. He has a very similar vibe to you: always on the move, always seeking for a spark. He's restless, but he's also one of the most creative people I know.

Thank you for reminding me. Btw, I love your cups 😍

Yeah one of those spirals was getting into vaping. Ive since kicked it completely, but you're definitely right about us creating problems for ourselves.

Fortunately I never engage in drama or risky behavior, but when life becomes too boring, as in "there's nothing to think about" I start to give myself new task to do, like engage in 3 very committed hobbies at the same time, or change something of my life, like the city where I live or the job...now that I write it maybe the two latter are a bit risky 😅 but most of the time I do the things you do as well, for example traveling helped me a lot :) By the way thanks for your video 😊

Thanks for this advice

Man, this happens alot Especially the down cycle, and it's so hard to get out of that and keeps going down and down.

Wow, that is something. I wish I knew a long time ago! It would have not made my life as complicated. I’ve been in a downward spiral for a few weeks now. And I can’t get myself out of it. I appreciate the guidance of your videos and now I have to “pull myself up by my bootstraps“ and get busy living! Thank you❤

❤ thanks that makes a lot of sense, especially during self reflection

I love travel, but i also am lucky to be able to read, draw ans craft obsessively. I often have a hard time finishing anything, but I have no end of fun stuffbto do most daya

Maybe that is why it works fot me....never been bored...have no idea what that is but would like the experience once....once only😂

I love the round cups!

this is true, I always tried to fight since having friends is boring, but then now I always start working out instead of working out once a day

I love this series 🖤

This is probably the most relatable and most important one yet. Thank you sir 🙏

That's so true...i learn that after 45 years of age.

I literally can't afford to spice things up in a way thats even moderately safe. I cant ever be bored because im too stressed...

I am always adding more to my life to stay occupied and enriched. I have 3 kids 2 oldest like me have adhd and my youngest who is 2 and non verbal autistic. I also watch my kids cousin most of the time while her dad works. On top of that ive added a puppy and chickens and a garden. This year im tripling my garden space and juggling more plants than ive ever started before. Moving towards earning an income from what i grow. Beyond that im shooting to open my own farm stand and then a couple farm to table resataunts and then to a few options for charity work in town. I also manage all of the household chores inside and out on my own. I pack my life to the point im super stressed out and feeling overwhelmed and then as soon as i feel like ive gotten the hang of it i find something new to add (sometimes multiple things) and start the process over again.

THIS MAKES SOOO MUCH SENSEEE

This explains so much

I was hoping for more from this, but thank you for the basic concept. I’ve been feeling this for a long time and have been going through a non-stop destructive behaviour/activities and depressive downward spiral afterwards… I’m not sure how to get out, but at least understanding why I’m doing it may help me push past it and find new ways to stimulate my brain. So thank you. 🙏 now to just find something stimulating that I can consistently stay with that doesn’t break the bank! 😂🤣😅😅

Wow, this resonates so much. Thank you

I'd like to add something: have a child. Or five. I'm serious. They produce so much novelty growing up that life can always be demanding and unpredictable enough that brain activity is always high. The ups are insanely emotional, and so are the downs. And the ups are way way more frequent. It's like having the unstable girlfriend experience, except the children actually grow out of it. And the children will have some amount of ADHD themselves, which will make it a lot more interesting, and more importantly, you'll finally understand yourself when observing them. And since you now know a lot more about ADHD than any of your ancestors or you as a child, you will be able to help them immensely, so they can enjoy the upsides of it and learn the habits and strategies to manage the downsides from day 1.

Had to pause and rewatch because of the tan cup becoming a blue cup. Great life lesson, thank you for sharing!!

@kateashby3066

15 күн бұрын

Optical illusion due to back lighting

Explains a lot about my relationships when I’m not stimulated by the newness of relationship I create drama and eventually sabotage it and move on which was often 😮. Btw my jobs as well 😮

Thanks again,Ive found writing really helps im trying to write a book about my life,the more I write the more I understand myself,doing jobs super fast helps,getting back into my guitar singing,laughing,just appreciating what I'm capable of.🙏❤ for your videos.

this is life changing

Video: "chatter about something" Me: SPHERE MUG!!

Amazing!

i remember a time back in high school during april vacation when i was so bored i gave myself 2 tattoos and 6 piercings in the span of 2 days simply because i genuinely had nothing else to do and that was just the first 2 days of the vacation

Amen.. again so validating. Thank you!

I would like to point out that some people with ADD (myself included) avoid things like traveling or loud activities/places because it over stimulates our senses. I do need distractions though, but I get them through "quieter" things like being creative, walking the dog, video games, working, cleaning etc etc

Благодарю вас за это видео. Я еше не знаю его перевод, но прочитала комментарии и чувствую, что здесь открою новое знание о жизни моего сына. Так смогу лучше помогать ему адаптироваться к жизни

yeah, i did this through job hopping as soon as i would get good at a job i would leave it because i wanted new challenges i had to temper that to try to work towards success which is my new goal

I am 100% sure I have ADHD & my Dr has basically told me all the tests do is CONFIRM that I do & that if I am exhibiting all the behaviours & looking at my whole life suddenly brings everything to a point where is makes sense is pretty much all that will happen. Other than the meds. I can’t get any meds to regulate myself. Does ANYONE (with ADHD) have suggestions for non meds based on”solutions” - this is helpful, but my brain needs more specificity! It is a 4 YEAR long waiting list to get a diagnosis, but both my siblings have been diagnosed (via PRIVATE healthcare), & I was the one who has been called “DIFFERENT” all my life. The irony is not lost.

oh this kinda makes sense for me!

Totally true, boredom for me is bad,

Yes! Only I didn't know I had adhd until late in life. So, it was very frustrating. Now that I know, I remind myself to pick back up on a hobby or project that I've naturally put aside weeks or months ago.

crazy ... i just learn something new

Damn… “Stay Stimulated through Growth”

Nice to see Hamburg on youtube on an unrelated topic x3

anyone else thrillseeking by having affairs? was diagnosed around 25, took me ten years to realise its connected to adhd.

This is such a Catch-22. If you are over stimulated it can cause anger/frustration b/c you NEED to disengage. Then when you disengage you can become bored which also causes frustration. Physical activity usually helps when you’re caught like this.

@kateashby3066

15 күн бұрын

I feel like his example is fine for ppl with just ADHD, but if you also have an anxiety disorder, or depression- it’s not helpful. And a LOT of us have those

Funny to see hamburg's subway in your video. 😂

Wtf amazing video, just perfectly stated 🙏

You share SUCH VALUABLE advice thank you!! So relate to this 🎉

What you describe reminds me of my dad: he developed a bunch of weird habits when he was over 80 cause his body was slowing down

It’s true. It’s me and my oldest son

Ich finde mein ADHD cool, weil ich so ein mega interessantes Leben habe, weil ich mir immer neue Herausforderungen suche. Ausserdem wird es mit dem Älter werden auch etwas besser😊

That’s why I have 4 jobs and school 😅 I don’t mind mental engagement in excess. My body isn’t always happy though.. so I’ll find a better balance after academia is over.

I get so hyperactive and then freeze people thought I was BI polar. However when I get stimulated I break free from being frozen and become the most productive. I can go all day at work without a break. In fact if I take a break it ruins the flow and I become frozen again.

Wow, this is exactly me this ADHD is real😂❤

My friend got bored with me. I'm so sad about it, but now I can find people who are more mature.

I was diagnosed 25 years ago. Unfortunately, this disease is often used as an excuse here in Germany when a child is a little more restless than others. As an adult, I am not treated at all

Wish I could use the advice. I'm also autistic and chronically ill though so I have a super high risk of burn out and pain flare ups. It's sucks to juggle it. Anyone have any ideas? I'm not diagnosed as having adhd but I am diagnosed with the autism and the chronic illness. Every professional I meet says I probably have adhd, it's just an insane wait time in the UK lol

So true I has severe ADHD.

Such good advice!

Right on 😊

I ticked all the boxes in a series of tests. 😢

Hmm. I taught I self sabotaged because I didn't want myself to be happy or whatever. But I've never linked it to understimulation. That could be very well it, since I tend to fall a sleep when understimulated. Maybe this is another way I try to keep my brain happy. Would explain why I can't seem to not do it 😅😂

I wish I knew this early before I got into bad habits... Luckily,once I'm engulfed in something,I forget about my cravings. Thanks for your content.

I need this video to be more simulating to focus

Very random but where are your mugs from? I absolutely love them. ❤

Genauso ist es. Immer Herausforderungen... Jetzt ist es gerade Eisbaden.

ahhh gran canaria ❤