It's sad that I now have how to make friends in my search history.

@juliusl5211

2 жыл бұрын

It's not sad. I am proud of you to look for ways to help yourself.

@gcreates8894

2 жыл бұрын

It's sad that my mom was the one to make me to search how to make friends.

@AnimeVibeHarmony

2 жыл бұрын

u aint alone

@kodieberry3898

2 жыл бұрын

I feel this..

@nicogd9859

2 жыл бұрын

@@gcreates8894 don't worry, your mother love you, and care about you

I think a lot of us 'hold back' in a way because we don't want to be annoying. And if both people think that way it's very unlikely that a friendship will form.

@lyviaray8819

3 жыл бұрын

This is actually so true!

@wiktoriawabnyc

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@mohamedelfouly1035

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you very much. I am single .I am looking for a serious love relationship

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

@nazteee8769

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheLegend-rx8yu online friends arent consistent, trust me

For me, I find the hardest part in making friends is putting yourself out there. It feels so vulnerable to be like, "Hey, I like you. You're cool. Let's be friends and coffee, maybe?" And then put the ball in their court and they have to decide if they like you too. And we are so self-centered beings sometimes that I start thinking, "They should ask ME out to coffee." And that never ends well.

@MsTwiththeTea1980

2 жыл бұрын

I need to work more on putting myself out there. That is a big step for me

@berryraspberry9485

2 жыл бұрын

Same I just always feel like that I can’t ask because maybe they will say no and might not want to go with me or something. I always expect people to ask me instead of the other way around. I really need to work on that if not then I won’t get anywhere

@nyebetancourt4466

2 жыл бұрын

I'm introverted and bad at small talk. Noone likes rejection. I invited a girl from work (who is a friend on Facebook and we have gone out to eat once) to get together to talk more about first time homebuying as she just bought a duplex as a single mom. I congratulated her, I'm always positive and build woman up. She thanked me for congratulating her but ignored my invitation to go out. Never heard from her since. We had a great time the time we did go out, even though she mostly spoke about herself and about a guy she liked online. I'm a good friend and I don't get why its difficult to make friends.

I'm so sick of one-sided friendships. I'm always the person calling, texting, scheduling plans. Pretty sure if I stopped reaching out, I wouldn't hear from any of the so-called 'friends' in my life. I deserve better. I deserve friends who will actually reach out to ME.

@marissa__nope

2 жыл бұрын

@Krystal wanna be online friends?

@amanullahbbdnitm978

Жыл бұрын

@@marissa__nope Yeah sure,your socials?

@Willyousitonmyface

Жыл бұрын

I called them Fairweather friends

@emilyrose1039

Жыл бұрын

I want a friend toO

@marksullivan7220

Жыл бұрын

I know exactly how you feel. I'm in the same boat. But hey just keep at it and stay optimistic I guess is the best approach

I recently had a "break up" with a friend and honestly it felt worse than a romantic relationship breakup. It makes me sad that a friendship I valued wasn't seen the same by the other person.😥

@katiebrott4080

3 жыл бұрын

Me too😥

@Mya_water

3 жыл бұрын

I am deciding now whether I should cut it off with a friend. I have forgiven them too many times

@caykeface

3 жыл бұрын

I had this happen to me as well. It really hurts but in the end it's usually for the best.

@charlotteappleton7329

3 жыл бұрын

Sending lots of love x

@upl0x

3 жыл бұрын

My best friend “broke up” with me around the same time my ex did. While both events were incredibly tough to process, getting over the lost friendship took me a lot longer.

My advice is: GO WHERE YOUR PEOPLE ARE! In high school I had very few friends, I felt very anxious putting myself out there, afraid of judgment, etc. That was because I felt everyone was different than me, we didn't share interests and goals and passions, and I really wasn't even interested in forming a friendship with them. Now that I go to University, to study what is my biggest passion, I can put myself out there in the span of three days because I'm not afraid anymore and because I actually like a lot the people who are there!!! I love talking to them and hearing what they have to say, we just vibe. And of course, we all have in common our biggest passion!!! And a shared mindset. If you love art, go take an art course. If you love photography go take a photography course. If you love sewing, go take a sewing course. If you are an athletic person try to meet people at your gym. If you love rock-climbing go to a wall-climbing gym and try to make friends there. Etcetera. Making friends if you go to a club or a pub or whatever is far more difficult, as you'll find people of many different kinds, most of them will share no interest or passion with you. You have to restrict the circle and go to places where you already know you have at least one thing in common. Just go where your people are.

@ayushsenseisama

3 жыл бұрын

thank you:)

@44BlueFoxes

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I found a lot of good people through a band I like & fans will send each other gifts because it's a nice thing to do. A few of us did it at first & it inspired other people to do it as well, the generosity became infectious. But I will add a small warning to this: sometimes hobby friends are just that: only there when you're sharing the interest or passion you're both invested in. That's ok. Friends don't have to stretch across all aspects of your life.

@alessia9328

3 жыл бұрын

@@44BlueFoxes Giving gifts to each other is such a nice and beautiful thing. Rn I'm really trying to implement it in my life. I totally agree with the second part, too. That is just a handy way of finding new friends, but not a necessity. Never shun away opportunities because of that. Actually, my best friend is someone I share no major interest with, but we see the world eye to eye and we work so well together. The bad thing about that is that there's nothing you can do to find those people on purpose, you just have to go out there and hope you're lucky enough to find one. My advice is: go to a place where everyone shares one interest with you, and try to find a person that shares TWO interests with you (so another one on top of the first one). But, in the meantime, keep your eyes open for opportunities, life may surprise you when you least expect it!! :D

@jadefuentes2628

3 жыл бұрын

This is literally me rn. I’m a senior in hs rn I feel like I cannot connect truly with anyone in my grade. I had a few friends through out high school (most have graduated now) and I am in need of new friendships. I feel lonely sometimes :/ and I wish I had a group of friends to go out and have fun with or even just to talk about the things that we’re all interested in.

@KathleenLouisseQAchas

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! I am currently finding new friends for the upcoming semester.♡

This video is God Sent. I am currently struggling to make friends. And not just friends, I mean real, loyal, loving and caring, honest friends. I feel so alone and could really use a trustworthy reliable real friends.

@maissa1983

3 жыл бұрын

relatable

@swabraabdulrehman8485

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Lolita🙋🏽‍♀️

@ariesmalakaialmighty8948

3 жыл бұрын

I can be your friend

@onuohapriscaamarachi7392

2 жыл бұрын

Same with me 🙁

@queen_elizabeth

2 жыл бұрын

Samee

I feel I struggle to make friends because I'm quite shy and introverted. Also quite selective with the people I choose to be friends with.. big/loud personality types tend to put me right off

@cheekycheeks2190

3 жыл бұрын

People who have big/loud personalities tend to be insecure inside. Just my personal experience. Give them a chance. Also not everyone can be loud 24/7. you don’t have to marry them but give them a chance and don’t label them. Maybe they are loud in certain situations and usually quiet

@M0r32Lyfe

3 жыл бұрын

@@cheekycheeks2190 I'm well aware I don't have to marry them, or even be their best friend. Thanks for sharing your personal experience, however in mine, big or loud personality types tend to exhibit attention seeking behaviours (which is generally what puts me off). Im not saying they are bad or this is bad, it's just not what i vibe with.

@wonderlust1308

3 жыл бұрын

@@M0r32Lyfe Girl same. I can't stand those behavioral types! I don't know why it irks me so much, but it does haha. I know you can't judge a person's entire being and personality on these traits/behaviours, but it is a big turn off for me. I just curl up inside and turn the other way. It might be because I don't like attention on myself and if I'm around a person and they act on that "loud" personality trait or act a certain way to cause attention on them, I'd shy away. I'd hate eyes on me and to feel like I'm under a microscope - that's just my personal opinion.

@M0r32Lyfe

3 жыл бұрын

@@wonderlust1308 I 100% hands down agree with/can relate to everything you said. As soon as too much attention is on me I feel feel myself go bright red and my brain just freezes haha. Anyway, I guess even if I steer clear of 'loud' personality types, I guess I can see a place for them in this diverse society we live in :)

@youcannotspeaktomeanyhow

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I’m very picky but I would like to have many acquaintances other than my close friends just so I’m never bored, you know?

this is seriously just what i needed right now, two of my best friends are moving away

@wiktoriawabnyc

3 жыл бұрын

Same! Just cut off my toxic friends, time to make new ones!!!

@MangaGurl11

3 жыл бұрын

my best friend is moving too. it’s kinda scary.

@phoebe9216

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same

@DORKKYY

3 жыл бұрын

Both my best friends are moving. And I’m also moving, I’m gonna still be friends with them but I also need new ones

@manuar9760

3 жыл бұрын

It's the opposite for me. I'm moving away from my best friends.😭

This video pairs really nicely with self love and self care work. You can find a playlist of self love videos that I've created here - kzread.info/dash/bejne/g6OLw9R9m9GeYNY.html&ab_channel=muchelleb A thought I didn't mention: Just because you don't have a big friend group - doesn't mean that there's anything wrong or invalid about your friendships! One on one friends are amazing and a small handful of friends is just as valid as a group of 20 people and having only 5 or so people within that 20 that you're really close with. Also - quality matters far more than quantity (as in - according to studies, it's much more impactful of your wellbeing to have a handful of quality friends than a bunch of so so / conflict filled / etc friends). I appreciate you xoxo

@naledibucie9750

2 жыл бұрын

I have a question. I have wanted to be the "asker", but I don't know how to go about it. Like all those small step in the beginning, introducing myself n so on. I just don't know what to say. My main issue is that I'm surrounded by people who are not my race and are at a high status than mine. So I do struggle with what is acceptable in their society when making friends. Please do share your thoughts with me. That would really be helpful and I would appreciate it very much.

I have always struggled to make friends. A few years ago I found I was the one always trying and going to these “friends” events and no one came to mine. So I let those few go. When I moved almost 2 years ago I decided I was going to put effort in to get out and meet people. But didn’t really work. Now I’m just at peace with myself and my family.

@matiasaguilar3804

3 жыл бұрын

Only I hope you still opened into new people that maybe wanna come closer

@AllThingsAlexa

3 жыл бұрын

Matías Aguilar sure I’m open to it but only if they actually want to put in the effort too. Not wasting my energy if not.

@alisonc6573

3 жыл бұрын

Just to say that I love your style ! And oh, it's kind of difficult for me too. I moved in Paris, I thought it would be easier to make friends, surprise ! It's not. People seem to be busy, arrogant, and make you feel like sh*t haha. Now I'm just focusing on myself. I never thought it would be so difficult, as a young adult, to make friends in a big city.

@AllThingsAlexa

3 жыл бұрын

Aly Kidd thank you!🙂 I know I sorry it’s so hard for you but yes focus on you and everything will fall into place👌🏻 people will come into your life if they are meant you! 💛

@GoldenKay19

3 жыл бұрын

@@alisonc6573 Hello I know sometimes Parisian can be weird but keep trying and if you are in a school try to speak to people or go to event and speak to people who are also alone there I hope this help

Also, don't be afraid to reconnect with old friends! If you think it's too late and they don't care about you, chances are, they are thinking that too and it's the only thing stopping you both from reaching out. One text is all it takes for you to see if you can rekindle your old friendship.

@jooheonshoneybal

Жыл бұрын

i try this and they're not interested tho. even they were the one who wrong me. i give them chances but they didnt want those i guess

I’m autistic and I’m pretty sure this plays a part in my discomfort with small talk which is inevitable if you want to meet new people. I’m pretty decent at keeping friends but it’s just the damn small talk that I can’t get over. I’m good at it, but I think people can tell I’m not interested which puts them off, which is fair.

With the pandemic and lockdown in my city it's literally impossible to make friends in real life. The very few friends I do have I can't see because were forbidden to see each other 😢

@07ikkin

3 жыл бұрын

Yea, I was using meetup.com prior to the pandemic. I was starting to go out a little and make a littlw connections. Now I'm back to zero

I have to say that I haven’t had much difficulties making friends as an adult. I think I’m actually better at it now than I was as a teenager. What really helped me was traveling alone (starting when I was 22) and staying in hostels where you’re almost forced to meet new people. The first time I was incredibly shy and thought you couldn’t just go up to people and start a conversation without coming of as a weirdo. But I quickly discovered that you actually can do that and form “temporary” friendships. Because of these experiences that I kept pushing myself in I can now say that I’m quite confident approaching new people and most times (not always of course) it’s received in a positive way by the other person. The past few years I’ve lived in a few different places because of circumstances and I always ended up making new friends that I got to hang out with. If I hadn’t pushed myself, I would have still been the shy girl that doesn’t approach anyone. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still an introvert most of the time and I LOVE spending time just by myself, but it’s nice to also be able to be social when I want to.

@44BlueFoxes

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah travelling alone helps you develop a rare level of social bravery. I'm still not very good at the approaching other people thing, but I'm less scared when they approach me. :-D

@jooheonshoneybal

Жыл бұрын

same, im good at meeting new ppl and making friends but its kinda hard to deepen those "friendships". idk how

I need this :( i used to have many friends but now at my small college i do NOT fit in and i have no friends, only some acquaintances that i dont even like that much. Just the existence of this video in itself makes me happy and helps me feel less weird

@StoneNayoung

3 жыл бұрын

Pam Cas I feel the same! I had to move to a different city for university.

@Saxycatlady

3 жыл бұрын

Same here lol

@indigo92099

3 жыл бұрын

same with me! before quarantine I haven't found any friends in uni, and now it's really hard because all the courses are online :|

@animeshizune98

3 жыл бұрын

Vertigo i made a friend during online classes! You could try having a group chat for assignments and just start some small conversations. I started asking someone how to do certain questions and slowly some questions about life outside of school! I dont guarantee it’ll work everytime as it depends on the other person but its a way to start :)

@indigo92099

3 жыл бұрын

@@animeshizune98 Thank you! My semester will start soon, so I'll try this! :)

Some really good tips -- even for those of us who are no longer in our 20s. I can attest that after you've raised your kids and they've left home, you can be in the same situation when starting your new empty nester life.

I’ve always made friends easily, and I’m in agreement that I treat everyone like a friend until they give me good reasons not to. I love my friends and they’re the most important parts of my life. It is more difficult during pregnancies and babies and all the chaos that comes with mommies. But if you stick it out, you get to be an honorary auntie and godmother. And it is fun seeing your besties’ babies turn into mini versions of my BFFs.

This is a very simplistic perspective and it doesn't address the actual REASON someone is not "open to friendship" or is not "putting themselves out there". Usually this is due to a lack of self confidence and a fear of getting hurt. If, you've been let down and screwed over by almost every significant relationship you've had, you're going to start to think something is wrong with you. You think everybody hates you and you start to put up walls to protect yourself.

@Anna-be9cr

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately the root cause of a problem is rarely addressed in "how to" videos.

Making new friends it’s, without a doubt, important. It’s also definitely not easy for everyone to do. From a self love content creator to another- what a great topic Muchelle!! I love it! ❤️

@F0reverblessed

3 жыл бұрын

Dubai UAE pop Definitely not easy.

I need this. All of my friends are gone now, whether it be from me leaving situations that hurt me, them misunderstanding my situation, etc. All of my friend group now consists of my boyfriend and that’s it. I’m thankful for this video.

@user-su2ns4ql2p

2 жыл бұрын

Hi

@MsTwiththeTea1980

2 жыл бұрын

Hello I am definitely in the same situation

@leslie1977

Жыл бұрын

Me too. My husband and my animals are all I have.

Making friends as a migrant can be so hard. It's also easier to be friends with other expats but they tend to leave more often. It takes a lot of time but it's completely posible and quality over quantity 💖

@lyviaray8819

3 жыл бұрын

OMg so relatable I find it so heartbreaking when you meet someone you really connect with and then they move after a year

@sarisari4699

3 жыл бұрын

I can 100% relate, I‘ve lived abroad for 10 years now and as you said, befriending other expats is easier but can often be frustrating because the marjority of them don‘t tend to stay for long. My entire friends group from my first few years abroad have all moved back to their home countries again. It requires a lot of effort, patience and openness to continuously find and make new friends.

Michelle, this is exactly the video I needed today. I moved to Sydney 18 months ago, by myself, and my mental health has been awful since. I have never felt this alone or depressed, and making friends here has been a huge struggle. I definitely worry about bothering people who already have established friendships and lives here by being 'needy'. This is my very measured kick in the butt to put myself out there more and stop making silly excuses ('my job is so social!') for not making the effort to make friends. Thank you!

This Video is so relevant to me right now! I often feel that I put all my attention into a couple of people at a time, and when they move on (move away, change jobs, life, ect) I feel like I am starting from scratch again. -- time to get n touch with some old friends and put myself out there :) OMG its really is like dating!

@sandravaleria17

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same. Like I sometimes "obsess" with one or two friends and then when they leave/can't go out/have other things to do I feel lonely, but the only one to blame is me. I should open to more people and build stronger relationships. And yeah, the dating thing suprised me too! Never thought about it in that way.

@acedcoffee6934

3 жыл бұрын

Omg you're not alone!!! I feel like having more than a few close friends is a bit intimidating so I invest time in a few friends at a time and when something happens I'm like uh-oh. Should def break the habit

I feel like I grew up not knowing how to make and maintain friendships... it used to bother me in high school and I tried harder to reach out during the beginning of college, but now I’m content with my own company and my cats. :)

@cheekycheeks2190

3 жыл бұрын

It’s great you are already happy. However studies show that in order to be happy we meet friends (Harvard study ted talk) Don’t give up!

@meeps9164

3 жыл бұрын

Cheeky Cheeks thank you for your support 🥺💞

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

@meeps9164

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheLegend-rx8yu 😂 yes, hi friend!!

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

@@meeps9164 oh great!! Are you there on discord or somethin where we can communicate..? (If you are comfortable)

The reason why people have lots of friends and easily connect with others is because their brains work perfectly and they can talk for hours my brain literally only processes a few words so that’s out of my control which stops me from making friends literally can’t think of anything to say at Times hard to open up

I just met the man of my dreams. I feel so lucky. Everything I could have ever asked for and more. Never thought he existed but he did. Just took traveling the world and a global pandemic to bring us together! Ha! As for friends, it is SO tough as you get older especially when you travel and move around as much as I have. Thank you for this. Really needed it!

Yessss I love this. Something else I'll add to treating people like they're already you're friend and letting them know you like them is something I wrote as a way to live out my life map value of "connection": "compliment strangers with your whole heart." This can apply to strangers or people you know who you want to be better friends with. If you like something about someone, LET THEM KNOW WHAT IT IS!! Don't be a kiss ass. Just be real about what you appreciate about them!

@ulianneq

3 жыл бұрын

This advice coming from someone who is now good friends with almost every barista I come into contact with lol

@naledibucie9750

2 жыл бұрын

Hi. I wanted to ask, how do you tell them that you like them? Do you upfront say, " hey I like you and would really like us to be friends if you're interested?" from the get go. Or do you first get to know them? This is really confusing for me.

I’ve always struggled with making friends. I get too scared to open up to people due to past negative experiences as well as my severe social anxiety and BPD. i always assume most people won’t like me so I don’t even try because friendship rejection hurts 100x more than romantic rejection...

@nyebetancourt4466

2 жыл бұрын

What's BPD?

@junebug6685

2 жыл бұрын

@@nyebetancourt4466 borderline personality disorder, i assume

Can I just say, that as someone with a developmental disorder that affects my social life in extremely negative ways (especially right now), you simply addressing that it exists made me feel so seen that I started crying.

I literally just finished doing the 80/20 analysis and was just thinking about how hard it is for me to develop friends and making it a priority going forward. Thank you for this ❤️

Ironically, this video appeared when I became down lately about not having a lot of people in my personal circle. I’ve let go of my toxic-friendships. It hurt greatly. I loved them like family. This was refreshing. Totally adding this video to my self-development playlist to revisit. Thank you!

@MsTwiththeTea1980

2 жыл бұрын

I am just now learning to leave toxic friends no matter how long we’ve known each other. I am definitely in a better place. Now I just Ned to get back out there and find more friends.

Oh my gosh the last few sentences! So true. You don’t need to love yourself for others to love you. People will find worth in you way before you can see and if you allow it. Thank you for the video I am in such need for new friends :(

Genius. I'd say that I have all the frienships I can handle, and it's exactly because of what you said. I stopped hesitating to wait for people to reach out to me, and started being the person to acknowledge the other by simple means. Just nodding at someone, asking a question, or giving a compliment can go a long way. I really, really appreciate and notice when someone reaches out to me for that reason, cos it's usually me :D

Im 12 yrs old, and i dont feel good in life. My best friend is like now in the popular group and she doesnt have time for me, i feel so sad, and cry myself to sleep, thank u

@nandinir.928

3 жыл бұрын

randomneeds 96 thank you so much. I will surely tell her

@xsiemprepaulii

3 жыл бұрын

That’s not a true friend sweet girl. You are worth so much more!!

@spyscy

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry kiddo! That’s rough. I promise you’ll find more and better friends in the future!! Maybe for now to get your mind off it you can enjoy time with your family or other friends :)

@nandinir.928

3 жыл бұрын

Hanna P thank u this is so reassuring.

@spirituallysafe

3 жыл бұрын

Has anything improved for you Nandini? I hope so.

Thanks for this video! This is actually how I built all my close friendships. The only problem is that I'm always the first one to write to everyone. They are all happy to meet when I initiate it but they hardly ever ask me out themselves. I mean, it's not that they don't like me cause we have amazing time together, it's just that I'm the only one to create contact. And although I'm grateful for having them all, sometimes I feel sad and unwanted.

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

Oh my gosh THANKYOU! I am sick of people telling me I need to learn to love myself first! a) I do, I just don't always like myself and b) why wouldn't someone appreciating me be helpful for that?! Thanks for this video, I've already messaged someone who I'd lost touched with!

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

That’s so true that there’s not much out there for making friends as an adult. And this video is perfect timing, I recently made a new friend from work and it’s been a lot of fun!

I love that someone could speak about this, thank you

Girl I literally just moved to South Carolina 3 days ago. I was feeling so lonely today and anxious about this. Perfect timing of you to post this. Love your content!!

Thank you so much for addressing this in your video. After high school or college, so many adults find it hard to make and keep friends. It is so much more difficult to keep friends because of the nature of adulthood.

Love this!! Thank you! I think just knowing you're not the only person who feels alone or friendless or struggling to make friends is half the barrier. I've been working on putting myself out there more this year through social platforms to ease with the feelings of isolation and this video has motivated me to start making more opportunities with repeated exposure! Thanks girl!!! I also loved that you welcomed peoples tips, such a beautiful way to turn nasty comments or disengagement into community and support.

@twallace9533

3 жыл бұрын

😯 Another Talisa! This is so rare! Hahaha! Sending love and encouragement from one Talisa to another. I've gone through similar and you're definitely on the right track with repeated exposure and increasing the opportunity to meet like-minded people. Good luck with your journey!

I needed this. Have been thinking of kindling friendships, new and old. Perfect timing Michelle! Good idea about the list for coffee. 💕 being the asker and following your friends advice to treat them as a close friend is GOLD. I know this may be a hard conversation to have, very glad you made the video for us, cuz it’s real.

I agree that it is much harder to build friendships as an adult. It is so refreshing to hear you discuss this topic! It is definitely not talked about enough. Repeated exposure is so necessary and it can be hard to make time for all the people you care about (especially if you are naturally introverted like me hehe). BUT it is so necessary and we are not meant to be all alone. Literally, loneliness can make your killer cells less effective in fighting off invasive bacteria and other diseases!! Great video

I got married, moved cities and has a child in a very short space of time and suddenly found myself without friends. Making friends in my 30’s is so much more difficult and with child. But my goal for 2021 is going to be to have three new friends

@corinalofu5084

2 жыл бұрын

How did it go

I get so much anxiety talking to new people, it’s the worse . I guess I got kind of used to staying by myself now . But it gets very lonely sometimes , even with my husband being around it’s just not the same

This video made me reach out to a colleague that I worked with for three days this summer! We had so much fun and have kept in contact, so I sent her this as video :)

Throughout my whole schooling, I would find few good friends, we would probably become really close, and than fall apart. Every single time. I always think that's it, this is perfect friendship, it'll last my whole life. Even when I had friends I tried to meet their friends, but they would never be interested in hanging out with me. Now, I have no one because my best friend was jealous of my relationship and it's so awful...

I always struggled with having healthy friendships and used to everyone leaving and never staying . Having one sideded friendships is the worst for me and sick of them and tired of toxic people. Thanks so much for this video.

This (and you) is so comforting. I've really been struggling. Thank you 💕

There also a lot of Facebook groups to join. I am apart of a few , and have been pushing myself to go to events and stuff to meet new people. It’s hard ☺️ as I am an introvert, but last week I went to an event and met some great people. I’m going to another one this week. ❤️❤️❤️

@christine9997

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an introvert too and since the first year of college I've been trying to make friends but I find it really hard and exhausting especially when they are extroverts and know lots of people I still find myself alone at the end

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

@esra3esra

Жыл бұрын

@@TheLegend-rx8yu I would love to

When I keep taking the initiative to hang out but it’s rarely reciprocated, I feel like I keep on giving and the friendship is only based on me trying to keep it up... I’m never sure where to draw the line then. You’re lucky it worked for you and your friend ❤️

@nyebetancourt4466

2 жыл бұрын

Same

thank you for talking about this! ive been told to be more social with people because i am quiet and keep to myself but its kinda hard to make friends especially during these times were you can't really meet new people.

Thank you so much for talking about this! I don't know why this isn't talked about enough if it's such a universal feeling. I only have a few friends and they are high quality - the problem though is that they're always busy and have a hard time making time to hang out. I try to keep myself busy too so I don't feel like I'm just moping around but it is so hard. I'm trying to make new friends though.

@cheekycheeks2190

3 жыл бұрын

How about you do stuff together that you need to do anyway (breakfast on weekend, dinner during weekday, planning the week session once a week (if you’re an organization freak and want to motivate each other), doing groceries together, go to the hairdresser or nailsalon...

I very thankful for your channel, I’ve been dealing with very crippling depression for many years and didn’t have a life at all I just existed, I finally got the right therapist and the right meds and I finally feel “normal” now so now I’m trying to get my life together and figure out who I am now if that makes sense. Now you have a loyal subscriber lol.

@tom4412

2 жыл бұрын

How’s it going 7 months later

Exactly the video I've been needing! If you want to become friends, I'm here!

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

@reemal-khatib7910

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheLegend-rx8yu yess!!

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Btw are u guys active on discord or somethin where we can talk? Or let's make a group?

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

@@SM-fj4kz oh that's great.. Meet u there broo ✌ that's my id -- Tanmay#6042

@riya._.slyterin199

2 жыл бұрын

i also need friend

I have zero friends, mostly by choice. After a while, you get used to it and it no longer means to you what it once did.

@anncurley123

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@letsdomath1750

3 жыл бұрын

I had gone through periods of that in the past. Once I got rid of the depression and anxiety once and for all, I was able to enjoy the richness and dynamic quality life takes on when you have many friends.

@gabrielle2003

3 жыл бұрын

But what about when it’s ur bday? Who u invite

Great vídeo, I love how much thoughtful you are when using certain words that might be controversial. That kind of little details means a lot.

Thank you for speaking about this ❤️

I loved this video! I think it's one of the best you've ever made and usually the productivity and planning stuff is why I'm here :D But I love how you try to analyse the problem even though it's clear that this is not something you struggle with right now. You do it in such a respectful way, but at the same time very honest and direct without being brutal. Love love love love it. Keep going, you're an awesome human being! Thanks for sharing your mind with the world.

This is a video I've needed for a long time. I'm shy but I've let that be a excuse for so long that now I look around and see less people in my life than I would like. This is a video I think I will come back to many times and I will learn something new every time.

@cheekycheeks2190

3 жыл бұрын

Even just smiling is enough. I met a friend and she was very shy (now that we know each other more she is very confident around me with strong opinions). The only reason I started a conversation and took initiative was because she was kind and smiling when I met her. It reassured me because at the beginning I was talking 90% 😅 And that way you kinda feel like having a monologue and that the person in front of you is not interested in you 😅 now we talk equally much and I only see her shyness when we meet other people (she becomes super quiet)

So helpful Michelle! Thank you for making a video about this under discussed topic x

Great video! It’s a great reminder that everyone can take charge and change parts of their life that they aren’t happy with including platonic friendships! I love your channel and I am always interested in your tips.

Finding opportunities to meet people with the same values as yourself is such an amazing way to find good friends! I went on a three-day course for young women in environmental careers and I met two gals who are some of my best friends after just spending three days with them. We regularly message and chat and we get on so well because we share the same core values that brought us to the course in the first place. I would say I'm almost as close to them as I am my friends from school who I've known for nearly 10 years!

Miss VIRGO!!! this all resonates with me. We arent inherantly social signs, we are more inclined to wait for others to approach us, and only approach those who make us feel secure first. These are habits we have to break! Love this.

@muchelleb

3 жыл бұрын

Are you for real that this is a virgo thing?!?! That sounds like the most me thing ever hahaha, more and more I start to accept the fact that I really do embody the typical traits of a virgo.

Making friends is so freaking hard. We homeschool so I don't even see Moms at the bus stop or anything like that on a regular basis. I have made a couple of friends through regular activities, but even that is hard. I know it's super hard for moms that have really little ones too, because getting out of the house is exhausting. Let alone make regular play dates and that sort of thing. I think you're totally right about the environment being a big part. And when you're tied to your kid's schedule changing that environment is really hard. Especially right now.

@7YBzzz4nbyte

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe an online book club (a small one) meeting online?

Small talk goes a long way. People underestimate the power of small talk. A simple "Hi, how are you doing?" [and a smile -- pre-COVID] to an acquaintance goes a long way. People will remember that you took the time to talk (even if it's for a few minutes). I used to be extremely shy and kept to myself but I realized that when you put effort in trying to know people, you can try to help each other. I try to get out of my head and be present whenever I talk to friends and acquaintances.

Awesome video, again, I got alot out of it. Since I've been living in recovery, a sober lifestyle its quite difficult for me to find friends that don't drink or use. There people in the anonomous rooms that I see regularly and know really well and deep but not necissarily friends as besides recovery not much more in common. To keep myself safe I have learnt to keep people at a distance. But I do feel lonely and wish I had friends to spend time with and do safe activities. I am being gentle on myself and getting more involved with finess activies and who knows, I may meet people as friends along the way. Gym is awkward to meet people to make friends, but Maybe surfing may work. I bought myself a motorcycle so finding friends to do a trip with. I'm putting myself out there but still challenging. All my friends I grew up with live in different parts of the world. We still have a whatsapp group and old friends are the best! Thanks for your videos, I watch them all and get great value from them, Thank you!!!

I was feeling so anxious, i watched this and i now i see theres hope, thank you, seriously!

Glad to hear I’m not the only one who thinks ‘what if they don’t like me enough to hang out,’! I’ve meet lots of people through Instagram because you can meet people with the same interests you might never run into in the ‘real world’ and it’s easy to meet initially because we already have a bunch of stuff we want to talk about

When I was a drinker, no problems making friends. New friends every week. So many people to travel and go on adventures with. When no longer drinking alcohol....? Hmm.

This video is so needed right now! Thanks, Muchelle!

Thank you for this video. Just knowing that there are more people struggling making friends is very reassuring. And a couple of these tips seem very helpful. So thank you. 😇

I just graduated high school and i dont plan on going to uni and im a stay at home mom now, i have no clue how to make friends and i really need some right now.

Thank you for this. I think the key is to be open and vulnerable.

This EYE OPENING!!! I wasn’t expecting this video today, but wow these are some great points, thanks for sharing!!

@TheLegend-rx8yu

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to be my friend 🥺 ?

I still need some work but Ill keep trying

Really needed this, moving 1000kms away this week so need to make new friends at 25 years old!

@ranasaab9822

2 жыл бұрын

Hey 👋

You are so well spoken! Thanks for the tips xo 💝

This is one of your best videos! It has made me so much more self aware ✨

I went through a bad breakup and had a complete breakdown on Facebook about it and so many old friends reached out to me. It felt amazing. One of them even asked to get food and spend time with me after a few years. I tried being the asker with her after that and was very bluntly shut down for my invites, indefinitely. That made me kind of give up on making friends. But, this video gives me hope and I'm going to try again.

Back in the early 2010s my post college friends and I always joked it was basically impossible to make friends our own age. We worked at companies with older employees, and there just weren’t as many interactions in our daily lives as in school, it really is a shock you don’t think about at that time. That being said, it’s so exciting to when you meet someone and you feel like you’re a kid again, you do the whole “omg I hope they don’t think I’m weird asking to hang out” then “omg they wanna hang out too!” And then “omg they’re so cool I’m so excited to see them more” it’s an awesome feeling, even if it’s harder to do than when we were younger. I always thought back then a version of tinder or e harmony specifically for making friends in the same phase of life as you would’ve been awesome

I really watched this again since I am currently in my Second Semester at my university. I really love learning about the tips!♡

i don’t have friends to sit with in lunchtime at school, as an introvert i’m actually okay with that but people keep asking “where are your friends”, “are you okay?”. i do have one friend (not very close) that i sit with in lessons, i may ask to sit with her.

Love this video! I will definitely use all this advice!

I got a lot of take aways from this video. Thank you! ❣

This is such a good topic not a lot people talk about it. And I can relate so much. For me I had a hard time to make friends. It was the lack of exposure. I wasnt in places of Meeting New people. I didnt put myself out there and was wondering why i wouldnt make friends. Now I have a good handful of friends and I couldnt be more grateful.

Love this sweetie! 💕😘 Thanks for sharing!

You are so amazingly well-spoken! Thank you so much for this video. It touched on a lot of problems without being too time-consuming or hard to process. Many thanks ❤

I would love to see a video on how to get past the specific personality traits at the end that you talked about

1. "I treat everyone like they are a close friend unless they give me a reason not to." 2. "If you're in a process of trying to make more friends, make it really clear that you like them." 3. "Become 'the asker'."

I really struggle with making friends so I want to thank you for making this one. There is some good advise which is kind of obvious but I'll try to integrate it in my life especially: the mentality aspect that people (don't) like you. Which I always do and really close up. Also the aspect with reaching out to people more and to comment on like on IG seems honestly like a simple and nice way to start something :)

@johanna4456

3 жыл бұрын

OH and one big thing is that I also used to think that I have to click with the person immediately which is kind of a really high standard :D

@johanna4456

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tiffany.t.m yes :D

@johanna4456

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tiffany.t.m yes :) johannama.ria

Thank you for this video it is scary sometimes to make friends on our 20s but we will make it. kisses from Greece!!!

I can’t wait to watch when I get home, making friends has always been a struggle for me!! 😇💜

Loooved this video! Please talk more about relationships :)

I love this. I cannot wait to see more of this. I do not care if your not a professional. If you are successfully making and keeping friends people can use your advice.

I only just discovered you but I wish I had found you months ago. I feel like this is gonna be great help for me thank you

Can't thank you enough for this !!

wow this was so helpful! Thank you for making this video!

Your video is really helpful. I just moved and don't know anyone yet. During the pandemic, I find it hard to get to know people because I don't want to go out. Maybe in 2021.