That was a period in my life I was too focused on making friends then I just forgot about that and making friends started to be piece of cake❤️

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Love that! It’s definitely not something you should over think, but I do think intentionally meeting people that turn into friends as an adult can be challenging

i been living a alone lonely depressed life from last 5 yrs i dont have anyone to talk from last these yrs my school friends we lost contact a while ago i struggled a lot stayed at home never out but this year i decided to give up on this habit beat my fears try new things new hobbies & some friends to spend lil time with 🎀wish me luck i will find the best people soon

@user-ml8im3zd7s

Ай бұрын

I wish you luck 😊

I don’t go out really besides work and I really don’t feel like I vibe well with any of my coworkers. I relocated 2 years ago and just don’t know where to start

Great video! I’m guilty of wanting high quality friendships but I don’t go out to make any friends! I get scared of awkward silences bc I’m very quiet! I need to follow your tip and have some questions ready! Lol

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

I agree, I hate awkward silences. I know coming “prepared” with questions might feel weird or like you’re interviewing them but I feel like it gives me a little security blanket to avoid those lulls and awkward silences!

I would not ask someone to invite me to a party. If they didn't already invite me there is a reason even if its because of a space limitation.

Great practical advice, I love how you mentioned to agree to participate when people invite you out! It’s important to show up for people and show ourselves friendly if we’d like to have friends! God bless y’all! ❤️🙏✝️

@jessssalemme

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

I think it’s easy to make friends… hard to keep them. For me, at least.

@jessssalemme

2 ай бұрын

True! I also think it’s easier to make new friends rather than true, deep, genuine connections. That’s where I’ve struggled a bit!

@ryanhartsfield7836

2 ай бұрын

Completely agree. Last 3 people I thought I had a good thing with. One after a week wanted bail money. Another after a week of very good fun conversation somehow found where I live a threatened to slit her wrists (on my front porch) with a utility knife unless I gave her a place to stay and alot of money. Had to call the police ( she was having a breakdown) the next we talked almost 4 hours everyday. He was very turbulent. Knew him for 2 years. Kept saying I love you, I hate you, lose my #, why don't you talk to me any more, when we get married, he was all over the road so I said goodbye.

these are all such great tips! definitely will be using these when I move to a new state in a few months

@jessssalemme

11 ай бұрын

Oh good I’m so glad you found them helpful! Best of luck on your move!

Love these tips! I'm bad with convo luls but questions fill the space! Also going to a networking event this week which is great practice for being outgoing!

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

That is good practice! I also feel like at events where you truly know nobody, it’s almost easier to be extra outgoing and do more

@mkreed89

Жыл бұрын

@@jessssalemme you say that, but it's built within me to be afraid of strangers apparently lol

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

@@mkreed89 haha. Just remember you probably won’t ever meet most of the people ever again!

Group workouts are such a great idea! I made some great friends at the gym going to the same classes over and over 🥰 love the vid! Love that you moved here. Love that we’re closer😘😘 feel like I’ve known you my whole life💕

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Love that I have you as a bestie now! 💕

@shelbieofcourse

Жыл бұрын

@@jessssalemme lol I love how your go to was fantasy junkies 😂

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

My closest friends are introverts!! I am an ambivert and it took me a while to understand a real introvert, but I learned to value a lot their friendship as it is so sincere, deep, genuine...

Hi, very useful video yes is so hard to make some friends they say having friends is important too because your friends can help you and support you they are always with you in good and bad situations they are like your second family thank you so much for this one I enjoyed it so much have a nice day.

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Friends are so important! Glad you found it useful!

So helpful! Ur amazing❤

@jessssalemme

9 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Great job!! I’m older however I think they were many great suggestions no matter the age!💞💞

@jessssalemme

9 ай бұрын

I’m glad you found it valuable! 💗

Very well done - relatable and good advice

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful! 💕

Love this video and would love part 2 if you have more to share!

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I’ll definitely think about a part 2!

@Kids24665

5 ай бұрын

Yes, please!

As a young adult who graduated recently, I discovered how my friendships were superficial !! searching up this topic and taking notes on how to actually interact with others made me feel some how lonely, but I'm grateful for the tips you're putting out here, thanks !

@jessssalemme

9 ай бұрын

I’m so glad you found them helpful!! Friendships post-graduation are so hard. I learned a handful of mine from college were superficial as well and it wasn’t for me. It takes time to start over with building friendships but it’s worth it when you find a really solid group! 💗

Great tips, I’m definitely an introvert but I’m in a stage in my life where my children are grown and I have a lot of time on my hands and stared feeling lonely. I love the Facebook group idea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas with us 💕💕

Alot of the suggestions that you have assume that everyone lives in bigger cities. Towns with populations under 10,000 do not have all of these social options available. I have to travel 60 miles to buy a pair of shoes that don't come from Wal-Mart for example. Yoga is a foreign word. Tractors and four wheelers are common forms of transportation.

I love your top in this video!

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Aw thank you!

A friend is someone that is willing to spend time with you without being paid. And you are willing to spend time with them without being paid. Keyword WILLING. Situational friendships (where people have no option but to spend time with you) is not a true friendship. However situational friendships may lead to true friendships (as willing to spend time with someone usually means that you like how a person acts)

Hi Jess 🙂 I think that if I wanted to make a friend on a Las Vegas hike, I would need some notice as I live in the UK 😂😂. I know what you mean really 👍. You don't seem quiet and introverted. You're very confident in front of the camera. You make very good points. I should ask you how you're doing today?

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! & I’m doing well, hope you are having a good day as well ☺️

Those are some great tips at the end of the video 😎

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Haha the best ones 😉

My issue is i have a friend whos much older than me...she states my maturity level or I act like a 5 year old stuck in a womans body... i got very upset I hung up, tried to call back she didn't pick up. So i sent her text messages that we were done, insulted her back stating at least im not 60s using filters and fighting with strangers on the internet. I told her to F**** off as well. But i needed a few days to calm down and when i tried to call her back she blocked me from everything. So i can't reach her to apologize. I felt like she set this trap for me? Why call me infantile and think that i won't dish back? So now she got rid of me so I really don't know if she really was my friend or even cared about me?

@Justrelaxx101

8 ай бұрын

You sound toxic. The way you handled that was very immature. I think that sort of relationship is draining and it sounds like your friend just wants peace of mind. Let her be. Learn from your mistakes for the next friendship and don’t make the excuse that she set a trap. No one can control how you behave or react except you.

Meeting them is great and just out of curiosity as an introvert how do you keep the friendships going? 😢

@jessssalemme

7 ай бұрын

It’s definitely a 2 way street. You need to find people that are also interested in getting to know you too. You have to continue to ask them to hang out over time, it just takes time. I’ve been in my new city for just over a year and I feel I finally have one, maybe 2 good friends.

Good tips

@jessssalemme

11 ай бұрын

Thank you!

lol love your hubby - does he have any friends that wanna hang out ? lol jk. thanks for this! great tips!

@jessssalemme

7 ай бұрын

😂😂 he does have some single friends!

Awesome video

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

Hi jess you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you and I enjoy watching your vlogs because you are amazing Supporter

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Thanks! ☺️

@edwardleecaliforniausa

Жыл бұрын

@Jess Salemme your welcome sending you hugs ❤️ 🤗

My friends moved away from me and it broke my heart. How do I tell them that?

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

You just come visit themmmmm 💕💕💕

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Also thank you for your first ever comment on one of my videos lol

@mikeyroh

Жыл бұрын

@@jessssalemme uh first EVER youtube comment. And only for the best Jess I know

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

@@mikeyroh awwww 🥰

Its been extremely hard asking anybody out i just need to move already and make new friends... bc I've tried all these things and nothing sticks

@jessssalemme

7 ай бұрын

Can I ask where you live? I do think sometimes location can play a factor

@user-rg5cy8uu7r

7 ай бұрын

@jessssalemme I live in Maryland. Funny enough google says it's the friendliest state 😄

@jessssalemme

7 ай бұрын

😅 well I think it just takes consistency and putting yourself out there. You got this 💕

making friends for me is a little hard but definitely gonna take some good advice

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

I think everyone finds making friends challenging but hopefully these tips help! 💕

@randitochervlogs

Жыл бұрын

@@jessssalemme thanks girl

This makes me want to get out and go meet some new people. I need to expand my network in las vegas to meet new people and push myself out of my comfort zone

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I think it’s always great to practice expanding your circle and meeting new people 💕

@shelbieofcourse

Жыл бұрын

I think you missed a tip. Saturdays…basketball for the boys…hahh

Here's what no one will tell you: There is no such thing as real "friends". People are only drawn to people who can provide something for them, if you don't have anything useful to provide for other people then people will never speak to you. If you think friendship or even love is a real thing, its because you were likely raised by idealistic/codependant parents that have convinced themselves that these things are real to cope with the fact that they'll never be loved. I wasted 15 years of my life with rose colored glasses thinking that people actually cared about me only to find out that my value to others was entirely superficial. Dont bother trying to make friends unless you are prepared to be discarded as soon as you have no value to them anymore.

Very Very helpful video Jess I really needed this video you are my inspiration and I wish you reach 1K Subscribers very very soon!💫😊❤️

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Glad you found it useful! ☺️

Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, je conseille le livre "AISANCE SOCIALE", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout, il est hyper compétent. Le livre est très complet pour tout ce qui est des relations sociales, en l'amitié, au boulot, l'anxiété sociale, etc. C'est très riche, y a tout !

@jessssalemme

6 ай бұрын

great recommendation, I plan to check that out! Thanks!

@lemarginalmagnifique8547

6 ай бұрын

@@jessssalemme De rien ! 🙂

You know, sometimes it is very hard for people to make friends. It can be confusing and frightening for people with autism like me. And that can also mean the autistic people hardly interact with their friends.

@jessssalemme

Жыл бұрын

yeah very true! That is why I made this video!

I don’t do female friends I’m focused on career

Step 1. Be a hot brunette

You r a girl . Much easier to mae friends

what if theyre not friendly or talk behind your back?

@jessssalemme

6 ай бұрын

I definitely wouldn’t continue to pursue friendships like that!