The girl I like told me ...”i prefer white guys, tall, and skinny”. Then I replied I would never date a chubby girl...she came at me lol 😂

@jakonjhn

3 жыл бұрын

And i don't find having 'tall' as a preference equals to weight preference. It would be more like, when men say they want a gjrl with atleast 'C Cups', and flat girls getting offended.

@giovannimarechal1387

3 жыл бұрын

You probably offended her if she didn’t know you were interested in her

@broskii8718

3 жыл бұрын

@@jakonjhn the difference girls can change their breast size men can’t change height.

@roshansivakumar4994

3 жыл бұрын

Why is racial preference accepted? Seems pretty racist tbh generalizing someone based on race and thinking they're good enough or not based on race.

@fredymendez855

3 жыл бұрын

@@roshansivakumar4994 that’s what Iam saying dude !!!! I don’t understand how you literally only stick to date a subset of individuals and count everyone else out. I think it’s only toxic when individuals go around saying they won’t take anyone from their own race etc which is weird in my opinion. Like I know plenty of Asian men and woman also hispanic men and woman who would only want to date white ppl...now I question why ? Do they have a identity crisis ?

Man it's hard to find girls like Courtney who can discuss these things without getting offended or anything, every person deserves a friend like her.

My biggest no-no, turn-off is when a woman does manipulation and/or try to change you for no apparent reason.

@kojak8403

3 жыл бұрын

This is mostly all of women you're talking about

@russ9921

3 жыл бұрын

Like wives, you mean? And then when they realise you aren’t going to change they want alimony and half your wealth.

@orlinchirinos1981

3 жыл бұрын

@@russ9921 No and Yes

@kojak8403

3 жыл бұрын

@@russ9921 - after the marriage, men wish women would not change and women wish men do

@homiesenatep

3 жыл бұрын

This is why i hate bossy women

Picking a person is like picking an apple at a grocery store. You pick the one that looks best to you & you don't owe the other apples an apology for not picking them.

@andreamagyar5541

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, looks delicious on the outside☺ and when you find out it is brown from the core?

@jmsmikey

3 жыл бұрын

@@andreamagyar5541 I just stopped eating apples

@andreamagyar5541

3 жыл бұрын

@@jmsmikey haha

@JohnDoe-pf6qp

3 жыл бұрын

Not really because the apple has no say in that scenario. In this scenario you not only have to pick, but be picked in return. So when women have wildly unrealistic partner expectations it's not men's responsibility when they end up alone.

@jmsmikey

3 жыл бұрын

@@JohnDoe-pf6qp Well, at this point I'm a drop out~ haven't dated in two years & loving it. If I ever again want an expensive pain in the ass in my life, I'll buy a boat.

I'm glad there is discussion happening on the hard things.

Courtney, I seriously loved that you mentioned that you wouldn't put energy and effort to give attention to negative comments or negative vibes. I personally started "choosing my battles" especially on Social Media platforms and found that I'm happier and realize that everyone is entitled to their opinion. I rather not use my precious time and energy on someone or something that only brings negativity. I encourage everyone else to start doing the same!

I have learned so much from you. I'm ok to be alone now. I have cured my chasing someone who don't like me. Her loss.

Thank you so much for voicing the height/weight thing Courtney! We need brave people like you to say these things. Part of the problem is that girls aren't honest about not wanting a guy just because he's short. They will say "he's not my type" or maybe even "I'm not attracted" but not specify why. So most people aren't even aware of this stigma. It's a real problem I'm dealing with personally.

Just discovered your channel through the Roommates, so I'm looking forward to hearing what you have to say. I've been looking for reasonable women to give their perspective on male and female relationships, and so far I'm impressed! Also...the lighting in that video makes you look like an angel!

Courtney is very knowledgeable and truthful in her videos. I know she has good intentions for those struggling with their lives and self-esteem. Thank you Courtney!

Glad u addressed an issue that is so real. Hope people learn from this and start working on themselves first rather than always finding faults in other people. You're doing a great job Courtney

Be an independent and focus on your health, lifestyle, save and spend money as you like and enjoy your life. Relationship with women are so complicated. 👊🏽

@silvalinan4077

3 жыл бұрын

👊

Hey Courtney!! great video !! I love the fact that you have guests in your videos, it makes it more explainable!!

I'm glad you've done a video like this. And brought up all the right topics.

Courtney each video of yours is just awesome. I ask people all the time, "why would you want to be with someone who isn't attracted to you?" I am so glad you said that.

I'm not getting any woman, no signs of interest from any woman I come across. I'm more focused on my progress, my career, and my physicality and health as a man nearing his 40's. Most of my life has been rejections and being called ugly by women. I'm used to it now. I'm just working on myself. (My view: most women are shallow, so why get mad over them? And their unrealistic expectations? I rather continue to "level up" and be happy. )

@chevchelioz6663

3 жыл бұрын

Great job brother!

@dstroxp

3 жыл бұрын

Preach my friend 🙌

@stevo6891

2 жыл бұрын

Same here, I just take care of me that is it.. Don’t chase people

@boywonder2120

2 жыл бұрын

That’s because looks will always matter to women no matter what bullshit they try to sell you. So just line your pockets with money (and don’t ever give it to a woman) and just enjoy your abstinence.

@stevo6891

2 жыл бұрын

@@boywonder2120 I agree, every beautiful girl I asked out blew me off always had an excuse.. Seems like the high maintenance ones act like they are better than us..

Its so cool to see you grow, I watch your video's like every week or every other week and see your subcount increase so much, keep it up!

Watched the podcast and it's great to hear you elaborate more on your view points!

Watched the whole video .. very valid points , wish there was this type of advice and content when I needed it the most...

Thank you for this interview !

I have seen your video previously on the roomates channel Love your views courtney They are very sensible, intellectual and very lovable! They works everytime 🙏 Thankyou and love you my love guru❤ All i have to say if you feel positive vibes and create positive atmosphere your confidence will boost for sure! Stay happy and ignore the rejections kind of thingy Some other is always waiting for you who deserves u more

Thank you again for sharing. I appreciate your perspective. Well done

I like how unbiased you are👍. And thank you for helping me to stop judging myself, because of society's gaslighting😁

“ No, we are not doing that. This is not a movie” ~Courtney Ryan 😂

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@mujtab8siddiqu1

3 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan fax tho

@larrycollins1538

3 жыл бұрын

U don’t reply to me

@geoffreytester3815

3 жыл бұрын

@@larrycollins1538 it’s called selective reading / marketing 😊

@larrycollins1538

3 жыл бұрын

Yh yh🙄

I love this video. Right now I'm working on myself because there's a certain type of woman that I'm attractive to and before I wasn't on their radar because I wasn't putting effort into elevating myself to a higher standard of attraction. I haven't changed myself for my personality but I have worked on dressing nicer and whitening my teeth and just overall working on my self in a positive way. If you want to swim in the deep end you have to learn how to swim. If you want to run a marathon you have to learn how to run with endurance. If you want the woman you want you have to elevate yourself to get in her vision. Thanks for the video. Keep doing what you do

I really appreciate your channel and a few others on youtube. People really love to label others a monters just so they can guilt them into getting there way.

Needed this video today! Thanks Courtney, really appreciate your content :)

Big Sister has spoken! What a revelation 🙌🏾

Well said, sister. I think it comes back to what you talked about in a previous video..."LOVE THYSELF FIRST." Your whole perspective changes when you turn your FOCUS on yourself, meaning, create health & wellness goals, educational goals, & financial goals. Stay humble, & commit to become a student of lifelong education. Then, organically, you'll start to feel the shift as you vibrate on a higher level & others will start to see you as a person of high value.

What a great conversation as well as your analysis of it. It really helps that you and Hafeez broke down your thoughts in such detail. Definitely agree with the point about not wasting time on people who don't like you. Once you start doing that, life gets so much brighter and fulfilling because you're with people who appreciate you, and that improves your own self-esteem. With dating, I wated so much time chasing girls who weren't that interested in me and having "oneitis". As I got older, I had to learn how to reprogram myself to lose attraction for people who weren't interested, taking me for granted, etc. instead of being more attracted to them. Sorry for the long comment haha, but this was a great video! Keep it up!

Another great video! Thank you!

At 1:48, Courtney it's because, as you said at the beginning of the video, society makes people feel like they deserve more, like they are always deserving of more in life. Also men generally think more rationally and women are more driven by emotion, so because there's a lot of sensitive people out there especially women they become easily triggered and unable to deal with situations that don't go their way. People often feel threatened by negative criticism and women are generally a lot more expressive about their indignation whereas men will often try to find a way around the issue, so when women tell them all the things they don't like about them, rather than get sucked into the drama men will often just leave and try to find someone better, or eventually give up and become bitter and think that all women are evil. So I thank you Courtney, it's because of women like you I know there are still good women in this world. You're helping me stay sane when it comes to dealing with drama.

It's always great to see you collaborate with other content creators. It was an engaging back and forth conversation! As far as future collaborations I'd love to see you do something with Anna from Joyamina. I regularly watch both you and her on a daily basis lol

Most Women in western society feel that they are allowed to have double standards, and the majority of women also feel that that they don’t have to be fair to men in the US and Western Europe. That is way more men in the west are marrying women in South America, Eastern Europe and Asia.

@garypierce7380

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a lady’s prerogative.

@beniofisial6316

3 жыл бұрын

So true, from Spain

@ioanniskalmanidis8578

3 жыл бұрын

Funny thing is women don't understand men have more to choose from at the end and this whole dating thing and coaching send the wrong messages .. even on this girl youtube listen to her female friend prejudge men on they looks ..and how fast the shot down men just how they dress .. we not allow to have our own Identity they want us to go by they want and own and change us..

@shanedawson4437

3 жыл бұрын

@@ioanniskalmanidis8578 Lol her female friends are pretty damn reasonable. If you're gonna get high and mighty about women rightfully choosing someone they find attractive, I assume that means you date women that you personally find unattractive? Or are you just being virtuous and assigning roles to women that you yourself don't prescribe to? Hmm? You can go however you want, just don't be shocked if women don't like it. Would you be shocked if you weren't into women with a style that you find weird? I'm sorry dude, but your comment just reeks of entitlement. So many dudes out here be looking like Jay-Z without the money, without the talent, without the confidence and swagger and they expect their own Beyonce. Get real guys lol. Develop some hobbies, confidence, be interesting and always be bettering yourself.

@stephenlewis1398

3 жыл бұрын

When they come to the U.S.A., they change real fast; they become WESTERNIZED.

Great job 👏🏼👏🏼 Keep it coming

Courtney, you are the bravest soul for bringing this up.

I fixated myself to a girl and man this is a huge struggle that I face and I miss so many opportunities on girls that might like me and it sucks. I'm learning more as I go so it's getting better. I've switched my mindset to people who like me and show interest than I do. Which saves me time as well

Great point. Thank you for bringing up the double standard. Preach! 👍

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼

@larrycollins1538

3 жыл бұрын

Why You never Notice My Comment Courtney 🙄🤦‍♂️💔

@mattmill30

3 жыл бұрын

@@larrycollins1538 Because you're desperate

@JKMcClaren1979

3 жыл бұрын

@@larrycollins1538 Jesus, dude. Why do you give af?

its like a elder sister n elder brother having a chat n we r listing to tem from a corner !!!

Very creatively done plus informative.... BRAVO

Once again good content, interesting perspectives, and logical reasoning. An additional thought, when guys put “all their eggs in one basket,” I believe this is also why it becomes so difficult for guys to ask a woman on a date. So much hype is put in to one person, one date, and on one question, that if the guy is turned down, then it can be difficult for the guy to recover. Recovery could be to his emotions or ego. I’m also speaking from former personal experience. Once I was able to get to the point or the mindset of “it’s not that big of a deal,” things began to change. I still was rejected, but there wasn’t a feeling of having to recover. Plus, asking a lady out on a date became easier. The other big help for me was similar to what was discussed in the video, and that was getting to know the person. I feel foolish even saying it, but once I realized that physical appearance was only one aspect of many that make up a person, approaching someone became easier as well.

All of your videos are helpful but this one should be a top, recommended for everyone of all types of gender. The message is clean and clear.

I’ve been really beginning to watch more and more of your videos, not necessarily because I need the advice, but because it’s relieving to affirm what I’ve been certain about for a while now. I *have learned one thing at least though; I need therapy. I’m pushing 30 and I was convinced that I was over my insecurities, but when I let the wrong kind of girl in, it still backfires and that pathetic, lonely, obsessed, insecure boy in me starts to show. I know my situation’s still kinda bad when I can cringe afterwards at my own behavior, and ask myself “dude, wtfs wrong with you? Just stop!” 😖😞

A breath of fresh air indeed! I thoroughly enjoyed this video because a high value lady is keeping it real (as you usually do), I respect that kind of objectivity, especially with this type of topic.👍 And by the way, sometimes I watch your content that I might not necessarily be initially interested in simply because I want to relax my eyes and ears... Ugly??? No way!!! Do your thing girl!😁👌💖

" I only date someone who is rich " Said by a girl who baths with soap till it becomes a size of a sim card.

@bilbapui7619

3 жыл бұрын

Faina sabon 😂

Thank you for making these points. I wish this is something I knew at a much younger age. I'm glad to see people talking about this. I don't think men get a lot of healthy guidance in regard to relationships with women, and it is really important.

Very insightful video

Best video that I have seen. I'm kinda going through something like that. I'm putting all mi eggs in one basket. You have opened my eyes. I'm wasting my time and energy with this girl that doesn't reciprocate even 30 percent. So, tomorrow I will ghost her for real and look elsewhere.

Ryan, I think you have a good point on double standard in our society, and I completely agree with you that men and women should be free to choose their own preferences on dating. Your knowledge on "not stuck on one person" really helps me because a lot of guys are chasing after the wrong girl, a lot of times someone I like doesn't like me back, I start to doubt myself and thinking I'll be alone forever, but knowing that there are always more opportunities really helps me.

nice videos. I like the comedic ones with your friends when they are acting.

saw that discussion....awesome 🧡

True points this was insightful

I like your videos Courtney. From a women's perspective. Keep up the good work. Thanks

EVERY MAN SHOULD FOCUS ON THERE GOALS BECAUSE YOU DO THAT WOMEN IS GONNA COME

@yoooyoyooo

3 жыл бұрын

ofc they are going to come for free food

@sulaymankone6139

3 жыл бұрын

@@yoooyoyooo yeah man

@boywonder2120

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah women chase hot guys not ugly guys.

Happy Sunday!

I love how you're branching out down a new avenue of content

This is really helpful like don’t do nothing which is not even worth of you doing it

Courtney, this was great! I'd like to see more of it. I'd also like to see you collaborate with other content creators, especially those who critique your videos, such as Better Bachelor; BB critiqued a recent video of yours, and it would be cool if the both of you talked. Thanks!

True Points work on Yourself and Focusing Spiritual , Don't Look Down on Anyone

@SilveeYT

3 жыл бұрын

And learn to love yourself as well~ I know my own value and what I deserve; nothing any lower 😌

@xmang8769

3 жыл бұрын

@@SilveeYT Agreed 👍

@larrycollins1538

3 жыл бұрын

How she Notice you Comment but Never Notice Mine That’s not right! 🤦‍♂️

@boywonder2120

2 жыл бұрын

@@SilveeYT now accept the fact that just because you view yourself that way does not mean anyone else will.

Really interesting conversation and observations. One counterpoint regarding men's obsessions (speaking from experience): if we could just turn it off, it wouldn't be an obsession. :)

This was such a great crossover episode

SO GLAD to hear a woman to speak truth to power about double standard in gender. Way to go Courtney!

Ill admit that I have "pity dated" a girl before. She was over weight and I go to the gym everyday. She was so nice but I legit just couldn't see past the weight. Sounds crappy, I know, but I really wasn't happy. I'm shallow as hell, but its only because I know what I want in a woman. Yes, it involves wayy more than looks, but the looks need to be there too. I need to like what I see. But I also know women that won't date me because im in shape. Preference, is a thing. And its 200% okay.

@jleano609

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I too in dry spells dated a couple of girls that I wasn’t honestly that attracted to because they were “nice” and very accommodating. It doesn’t work because if you don’t have the honest energy and enthusiasm of good attraction the girl senses that indifference and it can be very upsetting for her. It’s kind of bad boy behavior in a way and I learned not to do it but concentrate on girls that did have that “certain something”. Bottom line is you can’t force attraction and you can’t negotiate desire.

@coffintears5821

3 жыл бұрын

Never settle for less even as a man. If you know what you want chase after it. Everyone has preferences. Does it make you selfish? Maybe, but you shouldn't feel obligated to date someone just because society tells you to. Your standards shouldn't be high but they shouldn't be low either. Know your limits.

@traceycurtis1005

3 жыл бұрын

Me and my husband have gym dates so we both stay looking good for the other. Next time see if she's open to it, she might be like a lot of women that are scared of the weight room cause we have no idea what to do. It also will show if she's willing to submit to being lead by and learn from you.

Thx for this vid

So many languages and Courtney chose to speak facts. Thank you for obliterating dem woke people. I've been waiting for you to tackle the double standards thing, it's a thousand times better because it came from a high-quality woman like you.

The first 3 minutes is golden. I've been saying this for years.

1:07 - 2:31 I totally agree with what you said. For example, if you could choose a modern house that looks amazing on the inside and outside you'd choose that one over the smaller house which isn't *that" amazing on the inside or outside Why settle for less, IF you could have more? I got friends that are overweight or got visible imperfections, but it doesn't mean i don't love or care about them

I've only just discovered this channel and its fantastic and very informative, I especially like when you get the other girls involved, its interesting to hear different opinions. Which one of you whoppers said Courtney was ugly? This girl is magic.

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

😂👏🏼 thank you so much

@TheReaperLSX

3 жыл бұрын

I think those guys were just being plain a-holes cause she is nowhere near ugly. She's a solid 8 at best.

I'm a male 5'6" 160lbs and have said many times that I am not interested in a woman that is taller than me or weights more than me. Some people, that I've known for a long time, changed their opinion of me and make me feel shame.

@ethansevilla1395

3 жыл бұрын

I’m 5’6 too, I prefer women who are my height or slightly taller (I’m a leg person). I tend to notice that shorter women are harder to date for me as 6ft is really what they want.

On this particular video I totally agree with everything that has been discussed.👍🙂

Excellent advice here. Be careful and don't obsess over beauty. After seeing many attractive women in the morning without makeup I know that it is important to temper your feelings towards beauty. Especially, on a first meeting. The difference can be staggering and some are almost unrecognizable without the makeup. My own sisters go from slightly above average to very attractive once they put on the makeup.

...trust. Tentative? ...of course. But, so far? You are very appreciated!! 💞

I've never had a lot of dates even when young. So it hard to have an abundance mindset. I am trying to change that, but you hit the nail on the head (many times) women have so many options.

The most sensible lady talking to men on KZread right now. Pure common sense in a world full of drivel. Best of all, it’s delivered with modesty, not entitlement.

Being a man, another truth is this : If I don't like her, it's my fault, and if she doesn't like me, that's also my fault. It's an attitude that so many women carry around with them. The mentality of "I'm such a good person, and perfect" is taught in many facets of society, School, church, entertainment, etc.. It's a false doctrine.

@shanedawson4437

3 жыл бұрын

I'd actually just say this is people everywhere in Western culture. It's not female specific. Look at the USA, #1 in self-confidence, #27 in education amongst developed nations - essentially a bunch of overconfident stupid people. IMO all because kids these days are coddled and everyone is told they're special. What do you get when you keep telling people they're perfect and special when they haven't achieved shit? Entitlement, and often as seen today - stupidity.

@coffintears5821

3 жыл бұрын

@@shanedawson4437 everyone gets a participation award because everyones a winner no one can ever be a sore loser or make mistakes everyones perfect without any flaws. No not everyones a winner if you tell kids that at an early age they'll start patting themselves on the back for mediocrity. You can not be sub par and get an achievement you cant do a piss poor job at what you do and expect everything to be handed to you thats not how the real world works. They keep finding new ways to celebrate mediocrity but when someone is truly exceptional theyre treated as if theyre on the same level as the underachievers and ignored completely for their sacrifices.

I am liking it!

Good stuff! Physical attraction is important. Preference is relative. Physically, I train often. Often I am told that I am picky. I disagree! It's more complicated than that. Eating well, going to the gym, or studying a martial art takes discipline. Which can tell you much about a person. The same could be said about conversation! You can tell if a lady has read a book! Having engaging conversation takes work as well. Ugh, thanks for bringing up the double standard! If I am putting the work in, why shouldn't you? If I say no and leave, why am I the bad guy? Thanks again!

Thank you Courtney for voicing the double standard that many women hold. I once stated to some women I worked with that I would not date someone with children. These ladies virtually ripped my head off, although I would hear them frequently discuss their "standards" they require in the men they date.

Courtney been killing it! Wish she was my sister to give me advice everyday about women

@humansnake2091

3 жыл бұрын

I mean, she kinda does already no?

@CurriedBat

2 жыл бұрын

She's my 10 year younger, more mature, older sister. ... Since I'm more mature than my actual older sister.

"YOU dont even know if you want that You don't even know her" Boom! Courtney nailed it

Courtney when you said people say you're ugly I was like wtf. They're probably just jealous of you haha. You're definitely high value from what I've seen.

Thank you! It's not fair and men need some voices in the female world. Thank you 🙏

I've criticized several of her prior videos, but this one is spot on.

Now this was a very informative 'take' on today's dating game, its really toxic out there. Even some one's politics can decide who dates who, sadly....

A big part of the double standard you discussed in the beginning of the video comes down a societal bias towards women, society loves to make and keep men insecure while uplifting women and boosting their ego's. Men get called short, fat, broke esc and it's accepted, but it's frowned upon to say these things about women, truly the epitome of a double standard

@boopyournose5698

3 жыл бұрын

I do believe that everyone is a work in progress that's why all those movements are crap. You should accept yourself but should never stop on working on yourself. And that goes to both genders. While you really did show the general society viewpoint, I hope you know that not everyone agrees with the narrative media is putting out.

@JB825_

3 жыл бұрын

@@boopyournose5698 Of course, I'm just saying that the media need to stop pushing these narratives in the first place, it's beyond toxic at this point

@boopyournose5698

3 жыл бұрын

@@JB825_ and I completely agree with you. And I want to believe that actually more people think that way. There is a high chance that the double standard perspective is just louder.

The discussion doesn't distinguish between reality, such as height or being a widow with children, and choices which infer philosophy or competency, such as smoking, excessive drinking, or having made life choices which lead you to being a single mother. Desirable men don't want single mothers, because it's a red flag for bad philosophy, unresolved emotional traumas or relationship incompetency.

@YesPlease1

3 жыл бұрын

This is a fantastic point. Although for many men even the responsible widow + kids situation might not fit where he's at in life. Like if he really wants to dedicate himself to traveling or a startup and the logistics don't work out for a family yet.

@penderyn8794

3 жыл бұрын

Sadly evolution is cruel

@andreamagyar5541

3 жыл бұрын

A horse has 4 legs , still trips over . My 2 cents.

@wardandrew23412

3 жыл бұрын

There are a number of other good reasons men should avoid such relationships. To begin with, the child you're "inheriting" will almost certainly resent you. He will not recognize your parental authority over him, and he will resent you for coming between him and his mother. I know this from personal experience, because I was that kid. My mother became a widow when I was only 10 months old, so the following won't apply to women in her situation, but if divorce is the reason for single motherhood, then you run the risk of having hostile encounters with the child's biological father, which can even turn violent. It may also be the case that her primary interest in you is finding another man to take over her ex's parental responsibilities, including financial ones. And of course a single mother's personal freedom is going to be greatly diminished by the fact that she has a child to care for, which means that your interests will always come in second when it comes to planning dates, vacations, or any other activities that include you. In sum, there's no upside to dating (or worse, marrying) a single mother, while the downsides are numerous.

@grondhero

3 жыл бұрын

That's a bit of a load of crap, unless you take just one view and assume it's the only view. I know several people _one of whom I'm related to_ that have kids and are remarried. The men are successful and aren't scared of other's kids. The kids don't hate the step-dad. While typing this I recall that way back in high school kids that had step-dads tended to dislike their biological dad because the biological dad was the problem. When I was younger, I used to joke with my roommate after finding out that a hot waitress was a single mom that we should start dating single moms because we know they're already open to sex. ;) The richer single moms were at strip clubs. lol (This was when I was young and dumb and didn't realize they only liked me for the money I gave them.)

A quote from Morrissey in his song in Alma Matters, from his Maladjusted album. The song starts with the first lyrics, "So the choice I have made May seem strange to you But who asked you, anyway? It's my life to wreck My own way"

Well said.

I don't know why you do what u do, it's the damn truth and an eye opener. It's cool😎

Been waiting for the men height vs women weight debate 👌🏾

thank you for putting this out ive thought this for so long!!! the double standard!!

OUUUSH, BIG TOPIC! And executed soo well! You know, we've become an over sensitive society. Which I think comes from a good place - but it's just gone OUT OF CONTROL. I work with 12-18 year olds at the church - and mate, you gotta REAAALLLLY watch what you say around them. They are pretty sensitive to everything. Even just saying "guys, I've been gaining weeeeight over covid" is an offensive statement to them. It's nuts! It comes from this lovely place of like, not wanting to make anyone feel bad, and everyone is great and beautiful and awesome; but because of that we can't like... tell the truth! ....which is, a sis has been gainging weight LOL. I think that's one thing I'm learning through making youtube videos... NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO LOVE ME, AND THAT'S AIIGHT! I love me, I think I'm awesome! But not everyone is going to love me. And I think we need to learn to get a weeee bit better at checking our egos, realising we aren't for everyone, loving ourselves & respecting the other along the way.

It's hard for a women to hear the truth and remind her of her past. Aka mistakes.

Thank you Courtney... at least there are still people like you and I who think logically and analytically... thank you! Oh.. and I´m "only" 5 ft 10... and definitely do not feel discriminated against if a woman doesn´t choose me because of that :)

Totally agree that there are so many other women, some who approach me. My problem is not knowing when a woman is interested or just being cordual,

The word "ugly" in this case is most likely a troll tactic. Aside from that, you are likely the third wisest woman I've even come across. You are brilliant, intelligent, patient, wise and can incorporate well. You're mannerly and seem very stable. I don't see them meaning that word but guided by hate, jealousy or mental instability because society is not producing proper men Or women and you defy the norm. Remember, trolls only come out when it's sunny

@simontmn

3 жыл бұрын

"She values looking good ...so calling her ugly will upset her!!" Troll tactics - probably works on a lot of people.

I’m a guy and I’m 5’6”. While I think it’s unfortunate for myself when a girl I may be interested in is exclusive to taller guys, I personally don’t feel it’s her character flaw or negative quality to have that preference. I acknowledge that have my own set of standards for what I want in a woman - some of which are arguable as to whether they are genetic predisposition vs. expression of choice.

Thanks to the roommates I found you and what other channels like yours would you recommend?

When it comes to people and being over weight or obese. In my opinion, those particular people who choose to be unhealthy or over indulge, deserve to still be respected as a human being. HOWEVER, As someone who gyms alot and takes care of myself I am attracted to someone who has the same mindset. Do they have to lift weights? No. All I hope is that they can do something they like to do (yoga, running whatever) to take care of themself. Taking care of yourself is the #1 thing you should be doing (without being a narcissist) because it shows discipline and that you care about your mind and body. And if I were to see an obese person as a partner, it makes me think that this person probably isn't as motivated or productive as i am. In a relationship both partners need to be equals and if one partner doesn't do anything than I don't know what to say. That being said, no matter what body type you are, you deserve to be respected as a human being. If you're working on yourself then I give you my full respect. But to think being obese is perfectly okay, I just cant agree with that. #KEEPIMPROVINGATEVERYTHING

@boopyournose5698

3 жыл бұрын

I guess the snowflake era gets offended by everything. Having standards is ok. And it's also ok if someone doesn't see you as a possible partner. Your point is totally valid. Having different lifestyles wouldn't work. Same as having different core values.

@coffintears5821

3 жыл бұрын

@@boopyournose5698 i dont think the saying opposites attract is true because people arent compatible with someone whos completely different than them in mindest and in lifestyle and appearance.

I agree 100% people should self reflect and have standards based on true self reflective values and someone who want you I think this video is important for Both genders Great Video!