I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met.

@elmerbautista6400

3 жыл бұрын

Man how does that work?

@truthbetold6496

3 жыл бұрын

had her to the list..... never date a psychic

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

@jamessantaguida302

3 жыл бұрын

That's the best thing I've heard all day!

@OrdinaryCritic

3 жыл бұрын

@@elmerbautista6400, hate to break it to you, man. It doesn’t work. 😂

I'm a time saver ;) 1.Insecure Girl 2.Materialistic Girl 3.Lonely Girl with no friends 4.Lazy Girl 5.Attention addict 6.Rebound seeker

@jhil5160

3 жыл бұрын

I want a lonely girl, especially if they don’t have friends that are guys.

@dat868

3 жыл бұрын

That pretty much describes about 75% of the women out there. The other 25% are high quality enough that they attracted a man they consider worthy and an "alpha".

@nando9632

3 жыл бұрын

@@jhil5160 whattt?? A lonely girl?? they see they have you’re validation or attention they’ll seek it somewhere else 🤣

@oopsdididothat7727

3 жыл бұрын

All this info was copy pasted from Google, and then she makes a boring video about it 💩

@iBFP.

3 жыл бұрын

Im number 3 by myself :(

“Girl with no friends” is also a red flag for women who want to be their friend. Whenever a girl says things like “I don’t have girlfriends because girls are drama” I know immediately that that girl is the drama. I steer clear of girls like that.

@mr.fettesq.7705

Жыл бұрын

Those same girls also almost always have mostly if not nothing but guys as friends. She keeps these guys around as affirmation as these men almost always Wana be with that girl or to hook up with that girl. And you aren't allowed to have any friends who are girls....because SHE "knows" how girls are... yet dismisses your concerns about all guy friends as if it's "different" lol

@marching27

Жыл бұрын

lol yupppppp when a friend I had said "oh wow ur the only girl friend I have cuz your bi, so ur less drama, girls are usually so over into it--they don't get it" lol.........I become a bit uncomfortable. for one thing I don't like people bringing up what they think my sexuality is, but also..... girl friends are great, they are not dramatic they are usually more openly talking about relationship issues, and talk through solutions empathetically ... eventually this friend exploded and left my life but.... I should have known LOL. When someone says "they don't like drama" usually........ they bring drama.

@dubspot420

Жыл бұрын

I don't get why anyone good in there heart would have a lot of friends. I don't get that...i mean a good person can't make a lot of friends because there just isn't that many good people. So good people steer clear of not so good people. You can't be peer pressured if you avoid the people that would put you in that situation.

@sgtigereye

Жыл бұрын

@@dubspot420 I guess that depends on your definition of good.

@front331

Жыл бұрын

That's your opinion. But what if she's right and throughout her experiences she's had friends who are drama queens, because that's a definite possibility and there are more girls like that than there are drama free and friendless girls. Me personally, I'd much rather be with a drama free than drama queen.

My biggest red flag is a woman that's constantly on social media. Social media isn't a bad thing, but when your life revolves around it, yeah, that's not good. I enjoy your videos Courtney! Keep up the good work!

@pixelbender8229

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but both of the remaining women are already taken.

@Eon46

Жыл бұрын

Social media is just the evil of this century. It's designed to encourage abusive use of it.

@SecretSpots

Жыл бұрын

What woman in America is not constantly on social media? lol

@HakanTunaMuzik

Жыл бұрын

@@SecretSpots and that's why guys are looking abroad.

@arnoldo9319

Жыл бұрын

Yeah this is so true.

I feel like every guy has to go through a psycho girl phase to learn what to avoid and appreciate a good woman when she comes around

@TheSergio1021

3 жыл бұрын

What if a guy never goes through a psycho girl phase because he knows to avoid them?

@petaakolarov135

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheSergio1021 then good on you man. I was really young when it happened to me and red pill and Courtney's Channel didn't really exist back then haha

@gregshuttleworth4465

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. Been there

@viniciusornelas2160

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, some crazy girl i dated once didn't accepted that i dumped her, and started to chase me with a damn knife :v

@gnomeofhell

3 жыл бұрын

I once had a goth girlfriend , and she was quite the psycho . Between the bloodletting and the random tases , she left me quite traumatized. I still miss her sometimes.

The "Girl with no girlfriends" is also the prime offender of the homie hop. Because she has no social circle of her own, she will adopt yours. So when you break up, your homebois become her dating pool.

@toiletseatscholar78

3 жыл бұрын

Like...a freaking virus...

@ballin5192

3 жыл бұрын

they ain't your homies if that's the case

@omgstoptakingnames

3 жыл бұрын

i sort of knew this was a red flag with my ex but i still let it go. and now shes hanging out with my homies, lesson learned.

@1MSubsNovideos

3 жыл бұрын

What if the "girl with no friend" is simply with no friend because she is introverted?

@AndrewBeals

3 жыл бұрын

@@1MSubsNovideos that's different and you'll have to figure out if that's actually the case. But even introverts have friends.

Excellent video! I would also add the Damsel in Distress type. This is someone who always has a problem that she can't fix herself, and is constantly looking for someone to solve her puzzles. Problem is: her problems never seem to get solved. Another type I would avoid, is the gambler. I grew up in Las Vegas, and trust me, if a woman is intrigued by casinos and slot machines, run for your life. This one will also typically be the Damsel in Distress type, which is a symptom of a deeper problem. I am 70 now, and very fortunate that I married the right girl at a very young age. (49 years together now) I have spent a lifetime observing people, and have seen em come and go. Often while never learning the obvious lesson(s) I could write a book. Way to go, Courtney. I hope you have a lot of success with your channel.

Your list reminds me of the list in the book "How to Love". Based on that, I'd add: 1. The victim (AKA vulnerable or covert narcissist)--this is the #1 most likely thing you need to avoid 2. Other narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, mean girls (they enjoy other people's pain), hateful girls (their lives are never-ending rants), etc. 3. The girl who suffers from bipolar disorder or an excess of depression 4. Girls who suffer from borderline personality disorder 5. Hard-core addicts 6. Girls who have too much trauma to be able to form a stable, long-lasting bond (like Homer Simpson's mom or Jenny from Forrest Gump)

@d.l.hemmingway3758

Жыл бұрын

All women are narcissists and should be avoided at all cost!!!

@gc4644

Жыл бұрын

I can relate. I was married to a covert Narcissist with Bipolar & depression. Now divorced from her 10 years, and looking back, I truly feel I lost 20 years of my life with her. Don't walk but RUN from narcissistic women with mental issues!!!

@mattirealm

Жыл бұрын

@@gc4644 I agree, but sometimes, we don't know who we are married to until we are divorced. I can relate and I also feel I lost too many years on this type of woman. It is just so hard to know because people can fool you and tell what you want to hear, but you have to be careful.

@gc4644

Жыл бұрын

@mattirealm I call it the Cinderella mask, women are VERY good at hiding their crazy and inner bitch, they can even do it for years if/when necessary. They only drop the mask once they know all their options are gone or when there is close to 100% probability that they will win Alimony and/or Child Support..

@lightworker2956

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for adding to the list. Two of my personal most important criteria are: a)) does she communicate well. This includes her speaking up if something isn't quite working for her or if she's slightly annoyed or if she wants a slight adjustment to the relationship. If she literally only says positive things and zero negative things / "could we change this slightly" / "this annoyed me slightly" things for say a month, then she's probably not communicating her annoyances and needs, which means those annoyances will grow and that may eventually nuke the relationship or at least lead to an unnecessarily large fight. b) is she actually working on herself on an emotional / mental (and if you're into that, spiritual) level, including at times when that's not strictly necessary. I think everyone has some old psychological pain or bad habits or whatever and can use this, even if it's only something like journaling or her trying to understand perspectives she doesn't agree with or something.

I'd add Party Girls to the list too… if she's always out partying & still doing drugs especially as she gets older then that's deal breaker

@jdanon203

3 жыл бұрын

Almost all party girls have an incurable STI of some kind, so definitely stay away. There's a reason twice as many women have genital herpes than men, never mind cold sores as far as the eye can see. A party girl's mattress has been ridden harder than a '98 Corolla.

@Alan18012

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@jtfritz9169

3 жыл бұрын

@@jdanon203 are you bringing up The33Secrets’s references of the wrecked up Toyota Corolla?

@johnmininger7472

2 жыл бұрын

Still doing drugs? I would say that having done drugs at all should be a deal breaker.

@luc8254

Жыл бұрын

​@@johnmininger7472 drugs are dope, not hard drugs tho

Remember everyone: She doesn't control you, you don't control her. She doesn't manipulate you, you don't manipulate her. Life is easier if you're good partners with someone. Make sure you choose a good partner in life as they would expect you to be a good partner as well.

@CDeeez94

3 жыл бұрын

@JewTube WorldOrder I 100% agree that everyone, man or woman should just focus on themselves and not worry about dating and that life is better that way, but I wouldn’t say women are “damaged goods.” Some of them are emotional and have had a rough time with a lot of things, and some of them can be dramatic, (hell, I know a lot of grown ass men that act that way too), but everyone’s out here tryina survive and just be respected. That doesn’t make the majority of women damaged or “goods.”

@hafizshah2219

3 жыл бұрын

I am sure most people disagree with You but Nature of women proved you true.

@jocelyndee1906

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

@nickshepherd662

Жыл бұрын

I'm really hard to find them where's this place??? I'm Outdoors not at the bars

@d.l.hemmingway3758

Жыл бұрын

There are no good partners. Men are better off living their lives separate from women as all women are insane psycho - women.

Wow I've dated girls that have had one these traits a couple of times but the last relationship I just got out of she was like four of them. Hard to really analyze red flags until you take a step back, and I found out the hard way. She was Insecure, materialistic and only cared about vanity, had no girlfriends and a horrible relationship with her family, and was an attention addict and started looking to other men during the end of things. She was drop-dead gorgeous (looked like Audrey Hepburn), I was so enthralled with her beauty and the things I thought were "good" that I stayed in that relationship. Most painful seven months of my life. Then found out she was the rebound seeker and moved in with a guy a week after meeting him for a place to stay. Crazy. Very insightful, thank you for the video Courtney. Stay strong gents!

@luc8254

Жыл бұрын

And that's the halo effect for ya

You hit this right on the head. Especially with the girl with no friends. I've been through 20 of them and every one has a trait you described. Thanks for your work/talent.

Let's not forget the indifferent one. The one that she is constantly busy, dont have time for you, she expects you to be the one that talks to her first but she never does the same for you and when you dont contact her she gets annoyed. She always keep you waiting and she never keep her word, she can promise you to be better at something and she never does, but when you make a promise and you dont fulfill it then she gets angry at you. These are the ones that makes you say "it's better to be alone than being with bad company".

@julianfogel5635

Жыл бұрын

This sounds like a narcissist, someone who uses others with no remorse or empathy. They will never change, run away.

@_The_God_King_

Жыл бұрын

I think we have the same ex

@Spiralredd

Жыл бұрын

I literally just broke up with a girl like that. She always gets mad at me whenever I want attention from her and never texted me first. Plus I noticed she was getting friendly with this Ian guy. sounds pretty sus to me

@glitchtoomuch9444

Жыл бұрын

Wow, that's quite a shock for me, cause Ive met a Girl I actually really liked, but this message just describes her pretty much...

Every girl I meet is obsessed with social media so frustrating they just stare at their phone all day thanks for the advice ❤️❤️

@MrPapi235

3 жыл бұрын

@@jamesg1974a just stay single no girl is worth it

@ehsan-6835

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrPapi235 trust bro don’t fall for these creatures most of them will be ur down fall

@MrPapi235

3 жыл бұрын

@@ehsan-6835 that’s why stay single become successful on ur own and spend all ur millions on urself and take over the world

@FirebirdCamaro1220

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrPapi235 I disagree, I'm engaged to a great woman, she may not be perfect, but she's perfect for me, and that's what counts at.the end of the day. We've been together 7 years and still aren't bored of each other

@MrPapi235

3 жыл бұрын

@@FirebirdCamaro1220 good for u I just hope u never regret it

I always love coming back to these videos years later, because this channel feels like a journey. So much can happen in a year!

Nothing better to hear a call out to these pitfalls, than from a woman directly. It’s like the ultimate insider, not like a whistleblower but more like a reverse hacker working as a cyber security consultant. Thanks Courtney!

Men need to become full stack men before they go out into the dating field. Full stack meaning you actually are on your purpose in life and moving forward. If you want a high value women you need to become a high value man! You attract what you are.

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

100% agree. Self-actualization is crucial for having a successful, healthy relationship.

@David-lx4yb

3 жыл бұрын

Too many men suddenly proclaim themselves "High Value" and worthy of High Value Women, when just yesterday they were not. Just because you believe that you are High Value, doesn't mean others do. If you do not have the resources and resume/cv to back up that confidence -- you're just arrogant and full of yourself.

@nickcaldera2012

3 жыл бұрын

@@David-lx4yb couldn’t agree more David.

@FirebirdCamaro1220

3 жыл бұрын

I'm actually glad I was with my woman before I chose my career, as it's not conducive for any kind of a dating life (due to work hours and shifts)

@BaphomentIsAwsome666

3 жыл бұрын

Self actualization is so rare I have not seen a person yet who has achieved that goal. Most people are just average and lofty goals are not even in there radar.

“Is she just insecure about her life and is projecting it on you” TLDR If she thinks you’re cheating she is cheating

Spot on, exactly what I was looking for. Thank you. I appreciate that you softened it by not demonizing these women but said they just need to be alone and work on themselves for a bit.

Well done. We need more woman like you in social media. The dating world is a scary place. I think "the narcissist" is one that should be on your list and the most dangerous of all. They can carry the tendancies of the six you mentioned and are extremely deceptive and skilled at hiding in plain sight. They are extremely insecure (mostly due to childhood trauma), not necessarily gold diggers but very secretive with their own money, manipulative, love attention and hate when other people get it, and argumentative. There are more traits, but time permits. Over all, this what very insightful and gives hope to men finding a good woman. I have always said that men should be selective (picky) in whom they date. Thank you.

Courtneys voice is so soft. It's a powerful tool for her

@jesseward6211

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. Love her voice! You're awesome Courtney!

@sammick4663

2 жыл бұрын

I can feel she was ovulating on that time of the month, very smart way to make a video.

@waterfull2907

2 жыл бұрын

Fake accent she has actually !! The way she speaks is NO way it's naturally lol 🤣🤣🤣

"what does she like to do.. nobody knoooows" I just thought that line was funny. Much love Courtney

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂❤️

@On_The_Mark

3 жыл бұрын

I was about to comment on the same thing. Her surprise word choices or tones of voice are one of the reasons I enjoy Courtney's videos.

@jpoeng

3 жыл бұрын

@@On_The_Mark She’s got a more realistic perspective than many modern women somehow. 3rd/4th wave feminism has ruined most women. They feel “empowered” by riding Richards and cheating on you later.

@MrR40388

3 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan Would have been better if you added "and neither does she"

@thrasherdave1428

3 жыл бұрын

Hiding children :)

thank you so much!!!! been dealing with a girl that fits in everysingle category for the las 5 years, this is an eye opener, god bless you and all the ppl in the coments!

Thank you Courtney for this good information. This is not a "revelation" so to speak. It is a reminder to me of what I have experienced in my own life. Thanks for all you do! You are a true light in this world!

I've dated a girl that fits into more than one of these categories and it was one of the most toxic relationships I've ever had. Suggesting walking away and personal growth and healing is refreshing to see in dating advice. Kind regards.

I have this habit of watching men's lifestyle improvement videos every night before bed and Courtney dropping 8 videos this week has been really helpful, probably one of the best things that happened this week. Cheers to you Courtney for helping us.

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

Happy to do it. Thanks for being here 🥰

@thecurrentmoment

Жыл бұрын

Do you have 8 days in the week??? What is your secret?

First time subscriber. I love the sound of your voice. It’s calm and soothing. Great information on how to avoid getting into a rocky relationship and just waiting for the right one.

You're a very uplifting women. To acknowledge that nobody is perfect and everybody has room for improvement without putting them below 💯

The materialistic girl can also be the one who says "I don't need you to buy me things, I make my own money and can afford whatever I want,. You should want to give me nice gifts to show me you love, respect, and are thinking about me.". And when you do give her a gift, it's never good enough.

@leomduffy794

3 жыл бұрын

Do you know my ex lol but fr my ex was a true Narrcasist.

@ValenNitto

3 жыл бұрын

I gave her a box of food and snacks, she loved it.

@SalivatingSteve

2 жыл бұрын

I dated a girl who always wanted expensive stuff and was extremely particular. If I ever bought her a gift on my own to surprise her (without her input) she didn’t care and sometimes actually got MAD at me for it! She wanted expensive clothes from Saks 5th and if I ever thought about say, buying literally the exact same designer brand item (like JBrand jeans) for less than half the price at TJ Maxx, she wouldn’t want it. She was a biotch!

I've literally dated/had a relationship with every type you described. Long story short, I prefer being single and I'm loving it! I've gotten to the point in my life that companionship is an option not a necessity..

@andreashadjiyianni1214

3 жыл бұрын

You are 100% correct .

@monish_sundrani

Жыл бұрын

What about sex? How you manage to have it?

@yourworldexplorer1

Жыл бұрын

@@monish_sundrani You do not need sex.

@yourworldexplorer1

Жыл бұрын

I prefer single now too. The women today are too selfish. Even the so called "good ones". They require a huge amount of time, money, skills, and additional resources to maintain.

@d.l.hemmingway3758

Жыл бұрын

The best path to take! If all men did this civilization will survive and humanity too.

Some very useful advice in this one, thank you Courtney! 😊 Numbers 2 & 4 defo applied for me recently but loosely at the same time and this content has helped me put things into perspective! Plus kinda crossed paths with a 6 but I already knew that! 😂 cheers for the vids, keep it coming 👍

My last gf was extremely insecure, at first this came off as her being shy and introvert which actually I liked, with time she opened up to me about her feeling and what experiences brought her to be like this, I couldn’t help but to fall in love with her as I have this strong desire to help people and I mistakenly though I could be the one she needed to grow out of her traumas. Needless to say this feeling didn’t last long, she became overly controlling, scrolling through my phone, always attacking me for things I never did, always thinking I was cheating on her… Ends up I wasn’t happy anymore but I kept strong, kept trying because I still loved her, I still wanted to be that person for her. Well, one day she changes her whole mind and breaks up with me out of nowhere.. People, don’t make this same mistake I did, her flaws of insecurity hit harder if you have a “savior” mentality like I had. Fix on this part of your behavior, it won’t lead to anything good in the long run P.S. On top of that she also had no friends, no life other than work and me, and no ambitions nor hobbies. I guess I hit the jackpot on her huh? 😂

@SKRooU2

Жыл бұрын

She did you a favor by breaking up

@allyouneedislove22

Жыл бұрын

Literally the same experience. Sorry.

@shady_the_one

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my ex. Sorry mate

@philmehrart

Жыл бұрын

One of 2 things, either she was cheating herself (people cheating often project their conflict with conscience onto their partner, thinking they're also doing the same,) or what's more likely.... She just had very low self esteem and thought you were too good for her, i.e. "it's inevitable this guy is going to meet someone better than me, I should end it sooner to avoid the feeling of being abandoned." Either way sounds like you dodged a bullet!

@Duzykutas

Жыл бұрын

We must always remember 'you cant save her'. Its tough though, when you genuinely want to help people.

Wow....my ex girlfriend was all of these. Would've saved myself 3 years of grief trying to make her happy and understand her. I had no chance.

@lincolnacn2287

3 жыл бұрын

F in the chat

I find the "no girlfriends" woman is an issue if, as a man, you yourself actually have friends. Personally, I don't have any friends I hang out with, and, as long as we have the same interests, goals and values, it definitely won't be an issue. Just my opinion as you need to actually investigate about the true reason she doesn't have any friends.

@zazugee

3 жыл бұрын

there is difference between no friends and no pales, i dont have pales IRL i hang out with but i have friends, online and offline, we rarely meet IRL but they are friends when a girl dont have anyone who is her friends, then there is something wrong about her being an introvert isnt' an excuse to like being anti-social

@K4113B4113

2 жыл бұрын

@@isaura-22 are you very social and outgoing? Because as more of the chill, introverted type I seem to mostly attract the hyped, chatty and social girls. Even if I’d probably prefer someone more chill

@davidbigd9047

2 жыл бұрын

@Paul Burgess I’m sad to hear you had to experience that. You just need to open your mind that not all those who have no friends are crazy and bi-polar. Every person is different and don’t always need dozens of friends.

@sanecatlady

2 жыл бұрын

Yes definitely investigate the reason why! People make assumptions about that all the time. Some people don't want friends because they want to focus on themselves and don't have enough time. It doesn't automatically mean something is wrong with them. Friendships take effort just like relationships do.

@queenlasarah7369

Жыл бұрын

@@davidbigd9047 yes true i can relate to that so much as a girl, i used to have girl friends but they were backstabbing me, some of them bullied me. they finally left me and i had girls who hated me for no reason, its always been really hard for me i just want girl friendss but its been 4 years already still couldn't find a single one

Not kidding, I was all of these traits . Girl with no friends, lonely but not materialistic. I dated my boyfriend for 3 years and relied on him so much that he was all I could talk about. I hated other women in university because they were racist and sexist. I realised that there was something toxic happening in my life. I had a lot of mental health issues and had to bring myself back to reality. I reached out to the girls I went to uni with, to my family and cousins. I have always wanted an independent career. All I need is to be self sufficient, and I’ve found that most of my girlfriends who are winners are actively avoiding dating. It’s best embodied in the ‘signs’ personality. They don’t use social media, are practically hidden from the public eye, look pretty for themselves. They put all their value into work, and hanging out with other girlfriends. They keep themselves busy. Most importantly they learn to say no, and look pretty every day as a sign of respect and love. As of right now, I put a lot of my self worth into work.

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

2 жыл бұрын

🙌 You go, girl!

@mattirealm

Жыл бұрын

I was with until this " As of right now, I put a lot of my self worth into work." NO! What happens when the job goes away? Take it from this guy. Don't ever invest yourself, your worth, into anything so fleeting as a job. If things go bad, not only will you not have the job, you will lose all self-worth, self-esteem, etc. And without purpose, life is very very meaningless. With all respect, this is not sound advice. I 100% agree with you on the toxicity of social media. It sucks and should be burned to cinders. But only working and basing your life on that one thing will only hurt you in the end. And it will keep you from growing, as a human, IMO. Money is a thing, a fiat, a faux thing. Investing in yourself, in your knowledge, in self love, now those are real things. They are not fiat.

@allysonchen2097

Жыл бұрын

Were those Littles introverted introverted girls that don't have relationships with anybody really. There are some introverts that are actually sociable like I am we don't spend a whole lot of time on conversation and when we say what we got to say and then that's it but we aren't clingy we have a small group of friends for me I have female and male friends. But I'm not interested in really having a relationship and I've got my reasons for that. But all I say is find someone who can respect you and love you and not worried about what's in your pocket what kind of car you drive how much your house is things like that basically anything that's on this list. Cuz the women that have these issues are not going to change regardless of how much you try to love them and make them feel secure it's always going to be a problem

@CrizzyEyes

Жыл бұрын

I don't mean to sound sexist, but... leave the "work defines my self-worth" shit to men. We don't have anything else that makes us valuable. It's objectively not a good place to be in and I don't understand why so many women seem to want to be in that position.

@nightshade4186

Жыл бұрын

They all age and die lonely without children. They lost the evolutionary game.

Very interesting, not only because it helps identify aspects of recent relationship that were on the wrong side of the road, but also because I can rely on some of the elements there - yes guys can be like this as well (at least some traits)!! I started the relationship pretty confident, with my life on the side and became gradually lazy, insecure, depressive, with less and less friends time. Needless to say it ended badly. I guess those are not personality traits as much as wounds you need to see, accept, and heal actively. Thanks for the video!

Every woman I've "dated" in the past has had one or more of these red flags on a major level. Needless to say, I'd abandoned the relationships before they even really started. It's left me a rather unexperienced man in my mid 20s but I'm glad I didn't go down a route of the mental/emotional trauma those relationships would have probably caused. This was a really good video, the points prove to be really helpful in understanding what goes on.

@starrk7158

2 жыл бұрын

You saved yourself with that.

@philmehrart

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely the right choice

@sssweetnesss3483

2 жыл бұрын

Yup had to learn the hard way lmfao

@BBlongstroke1

Жыл бұрын

I've had to learn the hard way, & I've just become jaded and numb. You definitely saved yourself from unnecessary hurts

@akaraulov

Жыл бұрын

Mid 20s wow you did great. I'm 39 and only start to realize I had zero to few healthy relationships. Keep it up!

A woman that has passion, drive and knows what she wants is incredibly attractive! Courtney, what can I say, you're purely genuine

@lukagraczyk1511

2 жыл бұрын

Wtf.. supersimp

@zellerized

Жыл бұрын

Sad

Courtney, you are really good at making these videos, they are addictive. Great job!

I can say truly I've been guilty of some and definitely not of all these warnings. I'm ashamed and proud to admit that thank you for sharing

i feel like nowadays 90% of girls are “lazy girls” all they want to do is lay down in bed and watch netflix and scroll tiktok all day

@truthbetold6496

3 жыл бұрын

wonderful online dating women

@JAREDGRAF8181

3 жыл бұрын

Came down to the comments to write this. Its incredibly rare to meet a girl who has any hobbies that dont include basic life functions.

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of girls are like this, I agree. It’s okay to have rest days and relax/take a break but if this is all they do 24/7 I’m sorry but that’s a problem 🤐

@simply11believelane47

3 жыл бұрын

Truth.....mostly. Go find a girl in the gym. (That actually works out)

@15scottie

3 жыл бұрын

Every girl practically has all 6 of these red flags.

what an amazing list and breakdown, thank you Courtney Ryan

Love your stuff. Well thought out and well presented.

I'll definitely keep my eyes open to look for these types. Thanks again!

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome! Thanks Jordan!

@macgrady2004

2 жыл бұрын

When was the first time you thanked her?

This is really helping me realize I dodged a bullet. You were so spot on with the attention addict, connecting so many dots.

Doctor Ryan. Fantastic information! You have for sure enlighten me with your superb knowledge on the subject. Now, I can think of another example. "The Leach". This type of specimen has a very particular modus operandy. This specimen meets all the qualifications you described as green flags but only temporarily. Once the marriage has been consummated, things start to change slowly but continuously (like boiling a frog). Within a few months, I found myself with a wife that did not want to work anymore, watch TV and spoke on the telephone all day long, wanted to know where I was at all times and expected me to bring dinner on my way from work because she did not have time to hit the kitchen.

thank you once again Courtney for a very enlightening blog . I think I last recently had a relationship with a girl that always came to me on the rebound I finally got tired of it . I just quit having anything more to do with her . no regrets so far .

Types of women to date: - She helps other men dress better

@official_ISM

3 жыл бұрын

I see what you did there

@lafemme4331

3 жыл бұрын

She's not your mom. You can't expect from a partner to make you better

@official_ISM

3 жыл бұрын

@@lafemme4331 you clearly don’t get it

@TechnoMageB5

3 жыл бұрын

@@lafemme4331 You need to see another of Courtney's videos to get that joke.

@qjtvaddict

2 жыл бұрын

@@lafemme4331 bye Felicia

The very rare woman who doesn't do social media is the woman worth your efforts.

@thrashpuppy2010

3 жыл бұрын

That is a woman i would like to meet.

@michielvanerven5638

2 жыл бұрын

And how do you find this woman these days without social media or internet?

@spacecowboy5995

2 жыл бұрын

Idk about all that. I mean, I agree to a point, but I've met females that weren't on social media and it was usually for a good reason. And not because they didn't want to follow the crowd but more because they were anti-social and had severe mental or emotional issues and social media would just make those issues show or worse. I normally look for a female that has some form of social media but occasionally uses it, meaning that she is not addicted like she has to be on it every waking moment of every day or to feel better about herself.

Well done Courtney. I think you’re very professional. From your clothings, the contents and the way you express your opinions. It is a great video and I wish I knew it before I made a mistake.

Great advice Courtney. Thanks!

I was told by wise old grandmas that if your girl friend makes you soup when your sick and offers to clean up your place , sweeping the kitchen floor etc... she is a keeper. look for these traights.

@simontmn

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely!

@jcdenton6577

2 жыл бұрын

They don't exist xD

@robertandel7802

2 жыл бұрын

Have never found one of those! They exist??

I love Courtney’s voice, pitch, pace, tone. Everything!! I could listen to you all day. Much love from South Africa 🇿🇦❤️. New subbie 😘

Courtney your advice is spot on. I am 56 yr old professional and have dated women across the spectrum to include other countries outside the USA. Enjoying your content. Thanks

I absolutely love the way you think. I could not agree with you more! Thank you for being a blessing for so many people! Keep up the great work. You're Awesome and beautiful!

Courtney I'm loving your content lately. I cant believe you dont have way more subscribers! I think you've been steadily improving as a creator and hope to see you succeed even further. Keep it up!

GUYS Don´t the Girls who rides the CC

Thank you Miss Ryan, for your personal perspective in this particular subject matter. As usual its done with elegances and grace. Respectfully yours Eddie B.

@CourtneyRyan

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Eddie ❤️

I really wanted to thank you for all the advices you're providing us ❤😘

Definitely avoid girls with lots of guy friends

@oopsdididothat7727

3 жыл бұрын

C’mon bro, I already have a girlfriend, nothing to worry about. 😈

@zerodood

3 жыл бұрын

i OnLy HaNg OuT wItH gUyS bEcUz ThErE's LeSs DrAmA LOLOL

@simply11believelane47

3 жыл бұрын

@@zerodood nailed it.....

@MrPapi235

3 жыл бұрын

Just avoid all girls in general

@lafemme4331

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrPapi235 And start nailing men... Lol

Everyone has flaws... it bothers me that people just throw one another away. What about growing together? Learning from one another? It takes dedication and work to make a successful relationship. It’s annoying that people these days just find it so easy to throw a friendship/relationship away because they’re not perfect... NOBODY is perfect.

@paulwheeler1452

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you in general, but there are some relationships that need to end. What if your significant other lies, manipulates, and is abusive all the time? What if she tries to make you unhappy because she is unhappy and can't stand it when things go well for you? When you try to work on things with her, she says that you deserve the way that she treats you. How long will you stay in that relationship when she makes it clear that she has no intention of changing, because there is nothing wrong with the way she behaves?

@iamrgenius

3 жыл бұрын

Paul Wheeler in that case I agree with you. I believe most things can be worked out aside from infidelity and abuse.

@ryanburryy

3 жыл бұрын

@@iamrgenius I agree with you, but I think that it's hard for some people to truly change when they're "comfortable". Some things take needing a breakup to force the change into effect. That is of course depending on what the issue is. Most things should be able to be fixed if both partners are willing to fix the issues. Things like having no hobbies, friends interests is hard to change when you're in a relationship. You can try but at the end of the day you don't "need" to change because you're content with where you are. With a breakup, you're forced to take action on those things.

@spacebar9733

2 жыл бұрын

not your job to deal with toxic traits

@cafe80s

2 жыл бұрын

Some issues are deal breakers!

Ah, Courtney... your voice is so nice and you look so put together. I've come across to your videos and they have great info.

So, glad you brought up the "girl with substance" line. Guys are forced to figure things out the hard way in life and we learn, grow and change on that journey. We would appreciate someone who can contribute.

This is VERY informative. I almost want to say that I wish I had known these facts before going through the pain of learning by experience, but I needed to learn through the experiences. I've come to the same conclusions, and I applaud you for your work.

Our lady helping us out 100% 🙏🏻

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

that’s right 👏🏼

@johngonzalez4298

3 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan Great job!

Thankyou! Your explanations help a bunch!

Solid advice honestly, thank you for sharing

This has been such a great week overall, and a big part of that is seeing your videos often!! ❤️ I’ve been making a lot of progress thanks to your channel

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

So happy to hear!! Thank you 🥰

@admirbarucija2018

3 жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan You’re absolutely welcome!! 🥰

You missed the woman who likes to take the relationship far too fast. Unfortunately I had to learn this three times before I finally really learned. Where they bring up marriage and their desire to want to marry you after just a couple weeks of going out with you and or even meeting you. One was wanting me to save her till she fell back in love with her ex husband, one was dying and was so submissive to the worst mother you would ever meet that literally verbally and emotionally abused me and traumatized me for years and I had to take intensive therapy and abuse support groups to get over it after I finally worked up the courage to leave and decided to not commit suicide from feeling stuck, next one also dying but was also just using me the whole time for anything she could get out of me and was a horrible abusive mother to her kids. I'm so lucky I was able to find love again and allow myself to love. Been widowed twice by two of them even though I was separated at both times. Sorry if it's too much info. I actually haven't talked about it much to anyone outside of therapy. Guess I feel like you're an easy one to trust.

@thecurrentmoment

Жыл бұрын

Why did you date/marry women who were dying?

@thegorn

Жыл бұрын

@@thecurrentmoment He is a gold digger

I just got to see this clip and I like to give you a huge compliment on your work. This is a very honest sharing and meaningful knowledge for men. Thank you very much for doing this.

7. Hoarder/messy girl- the girl with 2 or 3 “junk rooms” that are too cluttered to open the door. Unless you wanna live surrounded by clutter. Plus if she’s that clingy about her possessions, imagine how she’ll be with you

Funny lies girls tell that make me laugh: "I do not care about height". "I do not judge guys on looks". "I only care about personality". "I do not have a type". "I am attracted to all kinds of guys". "I am not like other girls". "I am not shallow". "I do not care how much money a guy has". "I do not mind splitting the bill on a first date". "I have not been with that many guys". "I am not really seeing anyone right now".

@lordofgingers

3 жыл бұрын

That second to last one is the most dangerous one when faced with the choice as a man "to commit or not to commit" The more guys she's been with, the less like you will be to measure up to "the best she's ever had" and she will resent you for it and possibly leave you for it.

@bennyashton731

3 жыл бұрын

@@lordofgingers yep so true

@jesuslovesyou7130

3 жыл бұрын

@@lordofgingers that was deep

@lordofgingers

3 жыл бұрын

@@jesuslovesyou7130 you can’t get left behind or cucked if you don’t have a girlfriend. Have your turn, get your XP, and onto the next one. At your own pace of course. It’s not for everyone but this is the world (hookup culture) society at large has accepted unfortunately Chivalry is beyond dead. It has fully decayed into dust and bones

@luelee6168

3 жыл бұрын

That second to the last is golden. And remember guys, she doesn't count men outside the country, she's only counting domestically, lol.

Why can’t we all just find a girl like Courtney 🥺🥺🥺🥺

@tombworld9012

3 жыл бұрын

If there were enough girls like Courtney for everyone we would never know about Courtney.

@homiesenatep

3 жыл бұрын

She seems like a nice girl :)

@CourtneyRyan

3 жыл бұрын

You guys are the best 🥺🥺🥺

@danielbailey9049

3 жыл бұрын

@@tombworld9012 😂😂😂 exactly

@metalmk6839

3 жыл бұрын

They’re few and far between and unavailable.

Thanks Courtney, good advice.

Love your work! Thank you

1:12 “we all have a little bit of insecurity, especially with the rise of social media and the constant comparison game” Spot on accurate. It’s pretty much why the mental health of people, especially younger generations, is so much worse now. And it’s why I limit the amount of social media I’m on. I just don’t need any of that. A lot of people out there would be so much better off without the drama caused by it. It’s useful to a point, like keeping contacts, but that’s what text messages and phone calls are for

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I personally have an Instagram account but I purposefully don't scroll much because I know it is psychologically unhealthy.

You are my new favorite channel, Courtney. Great video. It serves as a reinforcement for women that I always try to avoid! I love your positive reinforcement and candidness. I wish your channel existed 20 years ago when I was a young man without any confidence. 🙂

Thanks Courtney..I find this video very educating ...its well composed rich in content.

Thanks, Courtney. Nice job.

This video is scary relatable I’ve dated. Someone who fit in more than 3 of these type of girls categories. Which explains why the relationship was so toxic.

@simply11believelane47

3 жыл бұрын

Same same......i saw red flags from beginning. Went for it, didn't work . she hates/loves me. 2 months after I broke her heart, she getting married🤔. I truly just want her 2 b happy but her current relationship will %100 fail.

I dated a gorgeous girl some time ago, fell in love with her bad and got my heart broken. She hit many of these points that Courtney spoke about. Im over it now but it toke so long. Moral of story is be careful with women, they can literally make or break you

I went into this video expecting the worst, but it was actually a good video. Congratulations you’ve won me over 😊

Alot of great reminders for the guys out there who are trying to date during the pandemic. Sure, the process of getting to know someone might take longer at the moment but you touched on some key things that should always be in the back of our minds... great watch for females also.

I foolishly tried to pursue a girl in my social circle who fit the social media addict persona you described. She never really expressed interest in me in that way and I quickly realized I wasn't missing out when she mentioned that she was having conversations with random married men.

I’ve seen some of these traits in some exes. But I also saw some things in myself as a man, so I think similar concepts apply to men and this is super informative. Thanks

thanks for this video, and your videos in general! super helpful and supportive 🤝

I have friends but not really any in my home town. I think friendless girls are most likely to cheat if things go sour. But as we approach our 30s you naturally have less friends as you get older.

#5 is becoming a scary epidemic, reality challenged for sure.

Just wanted to say thanks for the videos, advice and unbiased perspective. As a man and also just as a human, I appreciate your help. Please keep making videos! 👍

Very insightful. You are terrific!

Shoutout to everyone moving forward with their lives!

Hi Courtney. This one is based on my personal experiences. She's a single mum with multiple kids from multiple father.

@leninfranco9328

3 жыл бұрын

Don't even go there lol.

@dsubversion

3 жыл бұрын

Avoid at all costs!

@ECO473

3 жыл бұрын

Run, son! Just run!!!

@fredmartinez4248

3 жыл бұрын

Bro leave

@SergioKoolhaas

3 жыл бұрын

Run to the hills!🎶🎸 Run for your liiiiivess!🎶🎶🎸

Thank you for your kindness and hard work through the Year's. It's important for men and women to respect each other's company. Choose wisely. Don't what to make ugly mistakes... ❤

So great! ! And so accurate you’re the best Courtney

Number 3 is ideal for a person that also doesn't have nor need friends. People with close friends are influenced by them way too much sometimes.

5:44 "What does she like to do? Nobody knows." 🤣 Am dead.

Love your videos. The Lazy Girl seems to be everywhere in my area (without being judgemental). Many in my area just sit around and when asked goals ,dreams etc. they are like "I don't know. I 'll wing it when something comes around." Even in friendships it can be annoying.

Interesting set of videos. Thanks for your advice.

Poised. Grounded. Intelligent. Beautiful. Love what you're doing Courtney 👌💯

Love you Courtney Ryan ❤️. I wish I could find someone like you in my life. I would be really lucky. Have a great life mam! You deserve it ❤️