1. Putting others first who are putting you last. 2. Following the crowd. 3. Believing and trying to mimic what you see on social media. 4. Saying no all the time. (Don’t always assume the worst of everyone, be more patient, get evidence) 5. Going too far in your heart when you meet someone new you’re interested. (Don’t say yes all the time) 6. Projecting past experiences onto new people. 7. Just doing what you’ve always done to try to meet new people. 8. Limiting yourself to a certain type.

@haleechrisman6941

Жыл бұрын

This is what not to do so no-one gets confused

@thokomatshiga5051

8 ай бұрын

Pastor you are ministering, really.

Relationships are about trust, so if you find yourself having to play detective all of the time, then it is time to move on. 💙KZreadr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus reigns

Mark thank you so much for this Biblical counseling. I needed this. I always heard we are creatures of habit. I think I have harmed myself so much because I have became too involved with even acquaintances. Often times it's hard to find people who can be good friends in the church body. I have hurt myself so much with these bad habits. I am too sensitive and seem to put my heart into everything. I want balance. Guidance of the Holy Spirit. Again thank you. God bless.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless as you keep walking forward with the Lord

Your ministry is so helpful and so needed for this time period. I often feel like I have missed an exit somewhere, dated the wrong person, and straight up have ruined my life. These videos help me feel like there is hope, even if it’s not found for years.

@jons1992

2 жыл бұрын

It takes work on your part too. Learn from your past mistakes, learn what you can change so you don't wind up in those toxic relationships again, and set boundaries in dating and relationships. Know what your deal breakers are and leave when they break them. Life is hard, and relationships are tough. But they change you and hopefully your next relationship will be nothing like your previous ones.

@ashleyrose9021

2 жыл бұрын

@@jons1992 thank you for that! God bless 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Agw is such a blessing I have no more social media for right now outside of these channels and my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ just because I don't want to get sucked into the worldview there are plenty of men and women who want to honor God and they're dating in marriage don't lose hope.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

Amen, so glad this content has been helpful!

It’s honestly really tough to hold onto a relationship In today’s society it’s why I pray every night that God continues to be apart of my relationship because it’s really not easy most days you want to walk away because it’s stops feeling like an actual relationship

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

Focusing on society will get you down. But judge each individual and you will find healthy people now and then

I'm not Christen, but I really admire your channel. Thumbs up for sure!!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the support! God bless!

@drewd4491

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus loves you Dalost Gurl. It's never too late to seek him out.

@Bhanoo4UTube

2 жыл бұрын

Me too, not Christian (I think of myself as GOD-conscious) but love your channel too Mark...good morals and having a relationship with GOD are Universal regardless of a person’s faith imho 🙌🏽💖🙏

Hi Mark, my name is Andrew, so I watched your video where you shared your own personal experience with how you got to marry your wife Bethany. You also talked about how in high school, that was a time where you said you rebelled against the Lord. The problem with high school is where many of the popular kids almost always rebel against the lord. We need to definitely pray for these popular high school kids that they come to repentance and that they come to know God first and foremost.

This is such a great teaching. There is not too many people online teaching about singleness from a Godly perspective, I’m so glad I was led to your channel. And the way you break things down and speak to the core of single issues from a biblical perspective is on point and timely👌🏽. As usual I was just thinking and talking to someone about points 4-7. I really needed this encouragement today. Thank you Mark for allowing God to use you🙏🏽

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad this was timely!

My default recently has been 'yes' surprisingly. I was so caught off guard. And I leaned to yes toward a kind gentle soul. I used to say I'd never date a man younger than me. A man shorter than me. Without a degree (at least equal to mine or more, which is just ADN for me) Only a missionary And recently dated someone outside the box. But he's such a wholesome, hardworking, man of integrity. Learning to try outside the unwritten list. Thank you for these pointers 🙏🙌 So balanced

Amen Bro Mark! God Bless You!

God cares for us so much! He speaks on time!Thank you very much. Praise be to Yeshuah.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

yes tell it how it is Mark, thank you for taking the time.

Very helpful! God bless you Mark! 🙏🏽

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

So glad it was useful!

Thank you Mark, very edifying 😀

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Amen!! The last one really hit hard for me. My mind was set on only wanted to get with Arab men because I was obsessed with the culture and the men at the time😂😂. But thank God I prayed about softening my heart to other men and He did just that. I do slip once in a while but now I am happier realizing that you don’t have to be arab/middle eastern to be attractive 🤪🤪. God bless!!!

@Michael-mj2hg

2 жыл бұрын

I was really like that too, I really enjoy some aspects of Japanese culture like the way they furnish their house. But I've given up on Japanese girls.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

Amazing video hit the nail on the head especially with the preferences.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

So glad!

This is amazing. Praise the Lord. Thank you Mark, God bless you

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

So glad you found it useful!

Thank you

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

Yes, beware of point #5!!! I've fallen into that trap way too much!!

Thank you Mark, and my God bless you and your family and to all follow Jesus and find peace with God.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

Great Video Brother Mark ❤️💕❤️ Follow GODS COMMANDMENTS & Keep GOD FIRST ☝🏽IN UR UNION‼️ Stay Blessed Always Everyone ❤️☮️❤️☮️ 🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️‼️‼️

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

Thanks

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

Guilty of no.5 and partially of 6 and 7. But it's better - I no longer go full on crushing. It never works, lol. And yet I'm projecting my experiences of being rejected to all women, thinking they must simply not be interested in me somehow, like I'm not attractive to them. Also, I'm not sure what else to do, to meet new people. I'm a loner and I find it hard in general to just... get to know people. But there is hope, as I'm in the middle of looking for a new church!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless as you keep growing in the Lord!

I’m not ‘Christian’ (I think of myself as GOD-conscious and I have definitely incorporated Jesus in my life) but love your channel Mark...good morals and having a relationship with GOD are Universal regardless of a person’s faith imho 🙌🏽💖🙏

Hi Mark, such nuggets of gold here. 1, 5,6 and 8 stand out for me. I am just coming out of something that never was(if this makes sense). Quite painful. The Holy Spirit has been disciplining me through the word, hymns and dreams. I would wake up singing and after looking up the lyrics, I would see clearly my way of error, and dreams where I would wake up crying, the word rebuking me in my sin and folly. I am very much the type of person to put others first yet he would always put me last in every possible way(except when he wanted to play with my emotions). May the Holy Spirit help me to no longer sabotage my future relationships/friendships. I am so exhausted emotionally but I am diligently seeking and praying that God will help me to forget this guy completely!!! Its not hard - we make it hard. I no longer want any relationship that is not God honoring, period! In some of your other videos you constantly speak about them not being the one if it did not work out, especially when the other party is unwilling to go forward. Its quite sad that I had hope in a relationship that actually never existed. Right now, I will be intentional to take my gaze off my idol and instead fully fix my gaze on Christ, because only He is true and satisfying. Perhaps, God in His sovereignty will exchange my gift of singleness for the gift of marriage, if He wills. However, I am choosing this day to take my head out of the clouds and rejoice in the single situation I am in now, and live it to please and glorify God forever.

Well I think I have a good reason to say I want a tall guy, because I’m 6’ 1 myself lol. It’s really important to me that the guy is taller than me

Amen

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

Number 1. I've had to stop putting him first coz he's been all about 'I'm busy' and putting me at the back banners

Most of your video's are great, however this particular Video made me think maybe I should just settle!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a you problem, not my video's problem :) Settling is a response to your own heart issues :)

@KatieAJ

2 жыл бұрын

It's not about settling, it's about having realistic expectations. There is no perfect person.

@waldensiansylph4869

2 жыл бұрын

It's about being human and seeing a person for who they are and not a checklist. Your spouse will 'settle' for you too. But in heaven's eyes, you're not settling, you're both gaining.. even if it takes you time to realize that.

Dates ! 24 years ago was last one.

Aight I have a question: my pastor usually tells me that "God will work in your heart" or "He'll provide you a great woman for your life" when we talk about anything related to marriage, knowing that I see my future with no marriage in my life at all (cuz I don't wanna get married. Got other plans for my life). The question is: how can I make him know for certain and with clarity that we both have different views when it comes to "finding someone for my life"?

I’ve wanted to be a husband and a daddy since I was in kindergarten. I’m almost 24 and honestly, as of a few months ago, I don’t think I want to get married anymore. I can’t seem to meet a Christian lady that isn’t fake (to say the least) I even got out of a “Sunday school” group that was so fake, they made me doubt my own salvation. I’m just tired, bro! 😂 Christianity feels more like a daily chore now and I’m not sure what to do.

@oceandove

2 жыл бұрын

It’s good that you recognize toxic people and avoid them. Don’t lose hope on finding a healthy church and most importantly stay close to Christ and let Him fill all your emotional needs. You’re still young and so let God bring you a wife all in His good timing and according to His will. God bless 💙

🙏

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

I will follow the council of GOD in JESUS' name

It's a dangerous thang to do something new, that God ain't told you! God knows how to bring two people Together! Trust God, Ruth was not looking for Boaz, Rebekah was not looking for Issac, Jacob was not looking for Rachel! Adam was not looking for Eve, GOD SETUP EACH ONE OF THESE RELATIONSHIPS AND HE WILL SET YOU UP WITH THE ONE HE HAS GROWN UP! AMEN BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND GOD HAS TO MATURE THE TWO, MATURITY MEANS DEPENING ON GOD!

I guess the big problem is that life is not like a Hollywood movie. And if we read romance novels, they usually don't follow reality. It is nice when two people put aside their prejudices and get to know each other as a good person. There was an excellent episode on television where the main character looked past a woman because she didn't fit his idea of a desirable woman. He got an education from watching her relate to someone who was dying and giving him comfort in his last moments of life. We shouldn't have to see that to see the quality of someone we have ignored.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless Jesse

I know that for me there are two turn offs. 1. No concern for a relationship with Jesus Christ. 2. Not acting like a woman. ( The way she talks, the way she carries herself, and the way she clothes herself.)

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

God bless!

@gloriacoleman7012

2 жыл бұрын

Same for men not looking at women and undressing them, acting like a gentleman, don't need to promote themselves.

@Michael-mj2hg

2 жыл бұрын

@@gloriacoleman7012 "don't need to promote themselves" that's addressing pride correct.

Should I ask her out on a date?

@roothelegend182

2 жыл бұрын

Wouldn’t hurt you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

lol, no idea. I don't know you or her. Perhaps ask your pastor what he thinks :)

I have a tendency to think that all (if not all, then majority) single Christian men want a slender, good-looking Christian woman, who doesn't have extra weight. Is this true or are there eligible single Christian men who are ok to date and marry a woman who has some extra pounds/kilograms (or a lot) but is trying to lose weight? Please no undermining comments and criticism about women not wanting to lose weight, it is so mean and full of hatred, I have seen it already.

God knew what he was doing when he created blonde women 💛😂😂

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

2 жыл бұрын

as a 5'9'' man, I'm just glad my wife wasn't demanding a tall guy, lol

It's hard out here lol and without Christ I would have given up.

Is a 9 year age gap to big of a gap? Woman 9 yrs. older than a man?