1) Never tell a good guy what to do. Just ask him. 2) Never rush a good guy to commit to you with your words. She him he should commit with your actions. 3) Never give a good guy an ultimatum. 4) Never try to improve a good guy. Let him improve himself through his relationship with you.

@freekraccbacc

8 ай бұрын

Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.

Ladies, make sure you give a good man a "clean slate" when start a relationship with him. Don't make him pay for what an ex did to hurt you. Don't compare what he's doing and the ex did. If you are still at that frame of mind best not to get in a relationship until you are healed. 🙏

@rosameijering5161

Жыл бұрын

Yes always

@ana-maria448

Жыл бұрын

But they compare women also, only they do not vocalise it as women do. Women express more often what they think than men. Again, it goes for both men and women.

@lizspinazola7674

Жыл бұрын

💯%

@nankanglesley9529

Жыл бұрын

@@ana-maria448you are just the type with unhealthy competition

@laurisher9006

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Not to make this comment about myself but I figure saying this people will read and might relate. I have been dating someone for a year and there were some toxic habits he was introducing that were very similar to what my ex did. It's not something very common so of course it reminded me of the past. I'd tell him not to do it because it reminds me of my ex. Also, the next thing is his dress code is very different from my ex which I like very much. He wears long pants to go out with and my ex wore lots of short to go out with. My partner wanted to introduce short outing pants and I didn't want him to because I love that he doesn't remind me of my ex in anyway. Now my only toxic trait is my memory, I remember details well so I wouldn't say I'm bringing my ex up because I'm not healed, I just need to let go of the memory of some details so I could accept the changes my partner wants to introduce. Can anyone relate to this?

Mark, my guy was wanting to move forward with physical intimacy before marriage so I had to let him know that I can only be intimate with my husband.

@Ang4God777

Жыл бұрын

You go girl! And if he does not respect that,give him the 🥾 boot! A godly man will want to wait until marriage also and have the fear of the Lord regarding intimacy.

@YeshuaKingMessiah

Жыл бұрын

Walk away now This man is extremely immature and prob not saved Don’t give him chances Just walk away

As a woman you really have to respect a guy and I think the only way you’re gonna do that is if he is solid in who he is in Jesus. I was just engaged to who seemed like a good guy and he blew up and I guess resented me, said he was going along with me with religion. He called himself a Christian but I’m an observant Catholic. He liked the trendy idea of being Christian but didn’t like it once it required modesty and challenged his line of work. He was so “good” and “nice” but because he had no spiritual direction only knew that marriage and gender roles were good because of social media, I ultimately didn’t trust him and all the nice things he did didn’t make a difference because it was all superficial. A good guy is not enough, you need a man of God that knows Jesus. As a woman, wife, your virtues are above all humility, compassion, gentleness, grace, and forgiveness that should cover you with your behavior with men. And modesty. I would tell women to remember that the only thing that matter is your salvation and your path to perfect your soul in Jesus, if a man isn’t leading you to this - even if he has everything you could want in the material world, it’s not worth it. A lot of women want to think they can convert a man, but his conversion has to come from him and it’s best to avoid that risk that could cost you once you already have children. A lot of women bear this cross. A good guy is not enough, Jesus is enough - and if Jesus sent him he will cover you like Jesus does. You won’t have to direct him because Gd is directing him all you have to do is be kind, obedient, and pray before you take it to him.

@Ang4God777

Жыл бұрын

Amen gf!

@sunshinesunflowerz1647

Жыл бұрын

Amen, girlfriend

@yeshuaministry1

Жыл бұрын

Amen and amen

@pretty707

Жыл бұрын

All that you said is very true and I hate that you got blown up on (it does seem to have happened the way it should have) but have you heard that Catholicism is a form of idolatry?

@QueenIsabella777

Жыл бұрын

It is the church Christ founded in his apostle Peter. He left specific instructions and Jesus dwells within the church. I think you can believe in Jesus outside of it but the church has the sacraments which help tremendously with overcoming sin and living a holy life. The church is of course corrupt but it still has authority, you just have to find the true traditional Catholics that are living the faith - this is like a 1-3%. Most people want religion that conforms to the modern world yet walking with Jesus is not comfortable at all. I think Christian’s miss out on the sacraments and experiencing the true holy presence of the Lord within the pure Catholic Church which is only a small percentage. Peace be with you!

One big addition to the asking. Please add the word "please." It makes a huge difference. Please is a simple word, but it shows so much more respect. Respect is the most important thing men must be shown to feel loved. Loyalty is right up there with respect, but respect comes first, it is needed to have loyalty.

@maryjflanagan1922

15 күн бұрын

Exactly

It’s beautiful witnessing someone living in their God given purpose. Mark, you have help me in a multitude of ways. I know Christ more as a result of watching your channel. I get in His Word. I value His Word in a way I couldn’t before because I didn’t understand that it is indeed living Truth. I have left relationships that were toxic because I finally had my eyes opened! The Lord showed me I was the woman at the well and I would never find love until I first formed a relationship with Him. I value myself because I understand how much Jesus values me now. Thank you

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

God is good!

@em77775

Жыл бұрын

This is beautiful ❤️🙏🏽

@rachelmartin2562

8 ай бұрын

Same, lady! I love the insight the Holy Spirit has given me 👏🏻 ⭐ He's so loving ♥️

Ladies if you’re talking to a Godly man never call him brother. Cause that’s a friendzone sign I maybe wrong but it’s not everyday I hear a woman saying amen brother hey brother unless she’s my sisters.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

I've heard people confused by this too

@hildelautenhalvorsen9141

Жыл бұрын

My opinion is we should stop thinking like this. When we read Song of songs we see that the the man calls her sister. Phrases like «amen brother» tells me we are family in Christ, not in the flesh. It is not contrary to being lovers.

@kevindavis4709

Жыл бұрын

@@hildelautenhalvorsen9141 yup just because they say brother sister don’t mean they a child of God.

@nakiflo

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha! Awesome! Every guy who I know is in my friend zone I immediately call him brother. The one who I’m interested in? Noooooo noooo I don’t do that 😂

@knatxkyngxkoldofficialpage3020

Жыл бұрын

I can’t stand that. 🤦🏾‍♂️

Great to come across this new video. Today I'd four weeks into my marriage. It's an incredible feeling to have a husband, to be a wife, to know that our union is God's own work and that we both recognize it as such. Your advice, as always, is wise. Thankfully I learned these lessons awhile ago, because it makes a world of difference as a woman, dealing with a man. God bless and keep up the righteous works!

@dawnstonerock4253

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!

This video is the very opposite of what society teaches women today about men. A hard pill to swallow 😬 but the truth. GOD bless you Brother Mark.

Mark is teaching the art of submission believe it or not

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

Submission from a wife must be matched by the sacrifice of a husband, both are biblical! (Ephesians 5:21-33)

Thank you so much for this video!!!! I’m finally with a man that treats me right and I’ve found myself asserting my needs rather then just saying them…I’m saving this for future reference! He sounds exactly like the guy you reference in here about him wanting to make logical sense of things but also having a desire to make me happy…that’s my Ben..thank God that He has so much mercy and allows someone to look past your flaws into your heart…please pray I get better with this!

@Hannah-wz1si

Жыл бұрын

I found someone who treats me well and did the same thing 😢 I was afraid I had ruined everything between me and him because I let my past negative relationships affect how I treated him because I was assuming he was like the last guy I was with. I still feel bad about it, but I’ve already apologized and we have to move past it. The thing about relationships is that you will always be adjusting and learning about each other and how to love each other. My grandparents have been married for 50 years and they still are learning how to love each other and help each other.

@themusicalhallway3422

11 ай бұрын

I like that. It reminds me of moments in Phineas and Ferb when one of the parents or Grandparents are surprised to find out something new about their spouse and the spouse replies back with, "You don't know everything about me." 😆

I like the emphasis on a good man....not every man has good intentions.

Thank you for sharing. Glory to God

Mark . Right on time again 🥺🥺. God is really using you to speak to me

I need to improve in these things, thanks for showing in how to do it!

This was SOOOOOOO wonderful and so well broken down and presented. Thank you so much Mark! This helps me so much!

Thank you Mark I needed this. 👏👏👏

Thank you! How to respect and treat a man makes that much more sense now! 😇

Thank you so much for the godly counsel, Pastor Mark. I love that it's rooted in God's Word. God bless you.

It is awesome how you get messages when you need it. I definitely needed to hear this. I definitely said some of those things mentioned not to say. I now see how that comes off even though I wasn't intentionally trying to be that way. I now know to be more mindful on my delivery.

Wooow ❤ I mean yes!!! I needed to hear this message.

That makes a lot of sense,, thanks so much Mark for this great inputs,, especially no.3.

These are all good facts. The proper implementation of these will change numerous lives for the better. God bless you for sharing!!!

Thank you so much Mark, I really needed this. Perfect timing. Blessings..🙏🏻✝️🕊😌

Mark, you changed my life. Pure gold!

I'm so glad you made a video on this. I guess these are the key points. Just as God has given us all the free will and He never forces in that, then who are we to force our will be exercised on others lives! Thank you for sharing

Super informative and helpful. Thank you!!

This is a very thoughtful and helpful video. Thank you. God bless you! ❤️ 🙏 🕊️

Thank you for showing us this! Needed to hear.

Mark, this is such excellent content, as I've found all of your videos to be! I'm a senior citizen & I've learned a lot! I'm sharing it with my daughters! Keep up the good work, thank you again! 🎉

Precious advice! Thank you so much!

Good points there! Thank you! I believe God is bringing a good guy into my life, I don't have much relationship experience (might be a good thing tho) and I have leadership tasks and a few dominant character traits (mostly at work and in ministry). This is helping me. Thanks again!

Mark, I am always so impressed with the wisdom in the content you put out. You are true to your channel. You really apply God’s word to your life, and He gives you deep revelation of wisdom to edify the body of Christ! Thank you so much for your obedience! ✨✝️✨

Very realistic and valuable advice. Thank you

Makes perfect logical sense to me. All I need now is prayer, that the Lord would put the man God has for me in my path. I’m female & I think logically!!

Brother Mark, you have communicated this very well and conscisely. Thank you for using your gift of teaching to bless the saints - we hope this falls on good ears to hear as there's much competition in the world erroneously telling women how to be that is opposite of what God says

Absolutely amazing points. Thanks 🙏🙏

Thank you, God bless!!!

Great video, Mark. Exactly…. A good man wants and does good things for a good woman. We respond positively in ways a woman desires-to trust, respect, and femininity from her.

Wow! This video is really a blessing.....Can you please make some more videos related to this topic. This will help me much. Thank you so much.

This really blessed me Mark and gave me soo much insight and even confidence in men and myself to be a better woman. Will prob be revisiting this one. Thank you & thank you!! 🙏🏽🙌🏽😄

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Thank you for explanation in a way that is helpfull. To understand what is going on in their head

This was sooo incredibly helpful and enriching! You gave me a lot to reflect on. Thanks Mark!💖🙏🏽✝️

Wow this is so good and very helpful thank You Holy Spirit........

I enjoyed it. Thanks 🙏. More blessings to you 🙏

So very interesting . Thank you. I have learnt something. 😊

I needed this. I look forward to connecting with my person. I haven't came across a good guy romantically yet but admit in the past I wasn't ready. Now, I am open and ready. ❤

I love this channel! Thanks for this video. It was really informative while still being sensitive to a woman’s nature and tendencies.

Thanks for this video. This has made me think!

Really appreciated this msg, very helpful. Thank you as always 🙏

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

So glad to hear that! God is good!

This is right one I am learning a lot and this is much needed. Not sure what God has instore for me. But I am willing to receive whomever or whatever He has for me.

This advice is 100% true. Your channel is amazing and your advice to women about what good men want is always spot on.

@nearislespringdike3084

Жыл бұрын

Especially the point about ultimatums. Ultimatums are a huge way to show your ultimate lack of respect for someone.

Mark always bringing the truth! Have a blessed day in Christ.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Sheena! All glory to God!

I could listen to this dude all day.

Really good...as always!

I take this as a lesson learnt positively ❤. Let me go slow and allow my man to lead in his pace

Lots of good wisdom here.😀

WoW by watching to this video made me understand more how to be yourself and a good woman by the presence of the lord. God bless you

A very big turn off is treating me like the guy who mistreated her. She took it from him and obviously said nothing. I wasn't there and knew nothing of her. More than likely I don't even know him. I refuse to pay for some other guys bad behavior. I don't bring what the last women did to me into her life.

@rosameijering5161

Жыл бұрын

Well, trust always takes time but indeed it is not possible to be in a relationship with someone with that behaviour. With men too

@CookieMonstro21

Жыл бұрын

Uufffff run my guy, run. Lord needs to continue healing that person and they will turn your life into a toxic environment fast!

@patriciarose2342

Жыл бұрын

Same happened to me. I recently ended a "friendship" with a man who started to treat me the way he treats his ex, because he was afraid that I was going to start treating him the way she did.🙄

I needed this 10yrs ago when I was 20.

@jaymitaylor9937

Жыл бұрын

I’m 21 ❤ you are so pretty girl ! And are you open to give advice from one Christian woman to another ? I would love to ask for advice from you because you are older and maybe can give advice since you were once that age at a point in time .

Woow Mark, I really needed to hear this, this is definitely talking to me as I've just started a new relationship after being single for too long.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

So glad it was useful and timely!

@pilgrim.on.a.narrow.road.

Жыл бұрын

God’s blessings in your new relationship 🙏

This is Amazing

Wonderful i am blessed thank you 💕❤❤

Brilliant video ❤

❤ This was VERY Good❤ Thank you❣️

Very helpful 🙂😊

…. Truly insightful

Amen ❤ really needed that Thank you God bless

Excellent video! I wish I had watched this video sooner and spared myself the misery.

@chiomabukola1972

9 ай бұрын

🎉 couldn't agree less.

Thank you so much Mr. Mark for blessing us.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

All glory to God!

Good channel brother. God Bless

Great video!

So helpful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mark, you are awesome. Thank you for everything.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

so glad you are enjoying the channel!

Pure Gold

Excellent

Thank you for the great advice! Will you also do a video for men?😃

This is great! Thank you!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

You're very welcome! God is good!

Thank you for this biblical base dating advice 🙏🏾❤️

These 4 things are true for any guy, and for any person. It is just the right behavior everyone should adopt

@lonsp.t3568

9 ай бұрын

You're absolutely right. Must say, as a woman open to learning, Mark has taught me alot. As much as I know I am a good woman, alot of things I had to unlearn and be taught the right way with how women should speak, treat and allow men to be. Mark has made me realise that in singleness GOD uses you (me)in soo many ways and transforms your mind and heart in becoming the best version of yourself 1stly for HIM, yourself and for all others who are already apart of your life and those to come, whether it be a spouse, or friend - a GODLY life transforms you entirely 🥰🙏🏽

@Ayivierica

8 ай бұрын

Thank you.

Thank you!

Thank you.

I am not religious at all, but really like your content. Very logical and easy to follow.

You hit the nail on the head how many arguments ive had because My partners always want to command me

Like as soon as you started, I was like...well...I've failed already! Lord *please* help me to do/be better.

Thanks

This video is spot on to what I went through to why we recently split up I was rushed and felt everything was about her and I wasn’t given enough time to figure things out while I was worried about my dad and I loved her with all my heart

Can you do more of these please? Of what to say and not to say? And how to respect a man

5:16-5:44 Such wisely stated observations all throughout this video

Don't punish the new guy for what the ex did.

@Mrs.WordSmith.GEN_8zero

3 ай бұрын

Ok then I would also ask that the new guy be willing to do some trauma work through counseling therapy so that the woman in his life doesn’t have to unnecessarily become categorized as the ex in his life bc of he HASNT yet dealt with & healed from first.

@sirg-had8821

3 ай бұрын

Stop speaking and go wash a dish

@sirg-had8821

3 ай бұрын

Go cheat on your partner and waste their money and be a failure of a parent.

@Mrs.WordSmith.GEN_8zero

3 ай бұрын

@@sirg-had8821 again the NEED to/ of healing from emotional pain to become recovered from the wounding, to be made whole again…….in /over time. Let me SHARE in your current PAIN of dealing with a Depressed & neglectful husband that has developed a very calloused SPIRIT bc of the previous faces in his life.

@deborahgloria3867

2 ай бұрын

You can let him know what triggers you especially if it’s obviously bad behavior.

W video 💯

I’m glad that not every person is exactly how this channel describes people. People aren’t robots.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

Yes, making videos for individuals would be impossible. When you make content, generalizing is needed. Perhaps one on one counseling is what you were looking for. Maybe your pastor can point you in the right direction

Oof. I have such a struggle with #2 and I have to keep working on it.

I give up on men. The only ones I ever meet, are all about their sexuality and I can barely have a long enough conversation with them to find out if they are a fellow believer or not. To me, if a man starts telling me in the first 48 hours, how "lonely he is for physical affection ", then he is operating in the flesh and not in the Spirit. How can I possibly respect that?

@nappyfries

Жыл бұрын

The video is about good guys. I wouldn’t really consider that a good guy.

This is the day that the Lord has made.

I don’t get the difference between: “It would make me really happy if you would come to a family gathering with me,” and “I would love for you to come to a family gathering with me.”

Hi, Mark. I have watched many of your videos and learning a lot from your content. I have someone who I am considering right now but the thing is, I'm not sure if he is serious about me. He expressed his interest few months a go and he wants to meet this December but he doesn't text or communicate with me a lot. We met two times before but we just spent a little time. He lives in another town and he is a christian. Is it worth the wait?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

Жыл бұрын

You could wait and not turn down other options. Doesn't seem bad to see where this might lead. Some men just aren't good at communication long-distance but will open up more in person

Though there are some good points in this video, for the most part, all the 'nevers' to which we are to adhere sound like we are kowtowing to narcissists. The men can be who they are, do what they do, and speak the way they speak, but women MUST adhere to certain rules. That sounds extremely unhealthy and to what I was subjected in a 30 'marriage' to a covert narcissist to whom I was faithful and devoted, but from whom I never received reciprocal treatment.😢

Key words here 'a good guy'.

I was with a good guy and everything suddenly flipped upside down, he didn’t give me any closure and he blocked me and told me to stop messaging him. I know obviously I should leave him alone but I still have hope for us… I feel like I need closure… I’m struggling a lot with this bc I thought he was the one!!