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@desireemariec1108

3 жыл бұрын

😜Jeez, you waste no time! You're right and it hurts. 💘🔥💘🔥💘

@shizuozawach.4778

3 жыл бұрын

: /my dad phone rings : HEY! (calls my little brother) ANSWER THAT PHONE CALL. TELL HIM/HER DAD LEFT HIS PHONE AT HOME. CALL HIM AGAIN LATER.

@Naoko1875

3 жыл бұрын

“The Untethered Soul” is a beautiful book and can support introverts in doing phone calls. It helps you to get out of the repetitive thinking, which causes so much of our anxiety.

@pattog5549

3 жыл бұрын

That is one of my favorite books! I think i had read it at least 3 times! 😊

@yunyo1983

3 жыл бұрын

Finally someone is giving me a good and logical reason for trying audible :)

If you want to call an introvert, book a year in advance. We need to prepare

@carlat79

3 жыл бұрын

😆😆😆😆😭😭😭 soooo true

@sorcha2892

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaag

@bluewren65

3 жыл бұрын

Unexpected interaction? Just no!

@lilyfierro4664

3 жыл бұрын

Amén.

@fettuccine_anderhummel

3 жыл бұрын

And I hope you forget it by then.

person: **calls me** me: **stares at phone until it stops**

@rach2909

3 жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one!

@mrsupershotgunn

3 жыл бұрын

Lol hehe

@Urza9814

3 жыл бұрын

YUP! If I don't know why you're calling already, I'm not picking up. If I do know why you're calling, I'm still probably not picking me. Send me a damn email so I can spend two days perfecting my half sentence reply lol

@francis7336

3 жыл бұрын

@@Urza9814 me xD

@dropinarte

3 жыл бұрын

YEAH

When face time was invented the anxiety doubles urghhh

@marianamartinez7100

3 жыл бұрын

You would think that face time would help an introvert feel less stressed because they can actually see visual cues, but it doesn't. It's more stressful to do a face time.

@dianeaishamonday9125

3 жыл бұрын

It kinda helps in some ways but then it also hinders in others

@JohneyLockhart

3 жыл бұрын

My father's wife always facetime me when im high or tired or working. Zero warning. Its annoying and so stressful. I hate being seen. I dont shut my blind for nothing.

@paigeherrin29

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t use Skype or video chat. People are always asking and I’m thinking in my head, “ummm, fuck no.” while saying out loud, “yeah, sure, I’ve, umm, gotta, ummm, just down load the app. Text me. We’ll set it up”. Then never respond the the text. Ever. Respond to others but never acknowledge the video request one.

@stealthbonus

2 жыл бұрын

I always immediately turn the camera off. I can see them, but they can't see me. I definitely don't have a camera. No idea where you got that from.

me in a call: "uhh....." "haha....ha" "yeah...yeah" "umm...ok..." suddenly went quiet* me: "anxiety / panik attack"

@thatsroughbuddy_

2 жыл бұрын

Why is this me? 😔😔

@phantomias19

2 жыл бұрын

I know that too well. Sometimes you say like 2 sentences in a row and sit back for a while😂

@magicalsimmy

Жыл бұрын

I totally do that. I call it my Autopilot Mode, and I had one friend (an INTJ) who totally picked up on that and knew almost immediately when I was kind of done and not listening anymore and would call me out on it and laugh. Lol!

Introverts hearing phone ringing is like an incoming missile alert.

@nathaliem9597

3 жыл бұрын

Omg so true! 🤣

@Abhayabhayam

3 жыл бұрын

That's why I never set my favourite song as my phone's ringtone.

@_sam_ddn

3 жыл бұрын

@@Abhayabhayam same. I once put one of my favourite songs as a ringtone, and after some days I regretted it. Same goes for my alarm tone. It took a long time for me to be able to enjoy those songs without having memories of getting nervous of getting phonecalls with that music.

@hamtarorange

3 жыл бұрын

@@_sam_ddn So relatable 🤝

@savaugee7322

3 жыл бұрын

@@donaldtinney8085 to do everything else but call obv

When you accidentally call someone and you have a mini anxiety attack And the bastard calls you back

@rach2909

3 жыл бұрын

This made me laugh so freaking hard! 😅😅😅 I have totally done that before and about hid under my bed to avoid talking when I saw them call me back.

@ruukuv

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, jeez, I’ve done that.. I hate it when that happens..

@misscrazylearner7220

3 жыл бұрын

OMG I laughed so hard that my stomach ache LOL🤣🤣

@majdahamine6493

3 жыл бұрын

I litteraly wait untill they hang up and then i send em a text apologizing for the mistaken sudden call

@l.garcia3344

3 жыл бұрын

OmG 😱 freaking out just reading this! Like NOOOO! 😂😂😂

You forgot to add 1 more point. "They don't like phone call because it makes them tired and loss of energy also"

@jaylinmorris7844

2 жыл бұрын

I swear I feel like my life force has been sucked away

@natashat2930

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree!

Absolutely right about being "held hostage" by conversation. Eventually we learn who Holds Us hostage, and to roll the call into voicemail.

My friend: "Just make the call. what's the worst thing that could happen?" Me: "They could answer!"

@Zizipho_Ndayi

3 жыл бұрын

Haha

@EMILY-xc5ju

3 жыл бұрын

Not answering is even worse for me. They might call back any second. If not I have to go through the whole process of preparing myself to call them again.

@RikThunder33

3 жыл бұрын

you might get yelled at *emotional whiplash*

@ojasvigupta2321

3 жыл бұрын

YESSS!THATS THE WORST THING EVER ISTG!🔥💀

@princessmaebioco2450

3 жыл бұрын

True!🤭

Before calling me, ask yourself, "can this be texted?"...

@youngcrone456

3 жыл бұрын

Or emailed. Or maybe not sent at all. Because that's a whole 'nother can of worms--superfluous emails and texts!!

@V.E.R.O.

3 жыл бұрын

I can never understand how people can stay on the phone for hours.

@whosthegarden

3 жыл бұрын

@@V.E.R.O. me and my friend usually stay on the phone for like and hour but it’s because we like to call as we play online games together

@V.E.R.O.

3 жыл бұрын

@@whosthegarden Well that's different, you're doing something together. I probably wouldn't mind doing that.

@justa_randomfailure6250

3 жыл бұрын

extroverts be like: *N O*

The only phone call I answer or call back instantly is my mom's. She's my parent, obviously, but also because I can be honest with her (I can tell her I don't want to talk right now) and she won't be offended. Whenever I say that I don't want to talk to my friends, they either are offended or they think I'm mad at them. No, I am not mad and no, I'm not saying I don't want to talk to YOU, I just don't want to talk in general.

@Nattynate04_

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate because in discord app my friends call me and I was watching KZread videos and they call me out of nowhere

@fromchopin

2 жыл бұрын

Same. Exactly

@DDBAMBAM87

4 ай бұрын

Yes my mom and sister I’m good anyone else WHY???!!!!!!!!!!! 😂

What about hating small talk? Phone calls tend to be long, drawn out small talk sessions. I'm trapped on a phone with nothing to do, the person on the other end has nothing interesting to say and neither do I. I cant distract myself on the internet cause I'm on my phone. Its boring, intrusive, and just the worst feeling of being trapped.

@dinnerwithfranklin2451

2 жыл бұрын

Dear Gods I hate small talk.

@cjstevenson143

Жыл бұрын

I *DESPISE* small talk It's no.1 on the list of things I hate doing 😬

@user-DaFrogger

6 ай бұрын

Haha me while on the phone….im reading or playing on game on my iPad…now if it’s a serious convo… then I don’t …then it takes me a bit to unstress after the call…

No one: Introverts by text: why did you call me?

@pradishpushparaj3344

3 жыл бұрын

True lol

@revelshii9688

3 жыл бұрын

So true lmao

@jadetamplin9150

3 жыл бұрын

100% me

@sailorsirius859

3 жыл бұрын

I feel attacked. It's too true

@yoxi_m

3 жыл бұрын

Me: you called? Sorry can’t talk on the phone I’m umm at mY gRaNdMaS (actually sitting in my room, just can’t be bothered to talk to you)

I actually feel more comfortable just typing than talking.

@shreyas.m6146

3 жыл бұрын

For me it depends on who I'm talking to.

@justanothersofia2125

3 жыл бұрын

OMGosh same! I’ve been typing with my friend and he invited me to meet him irl and I freaked out and made an excuse not to go.

@healingandgrowth-infp4677

3 жыл бұрын

Neither for me

@anacabell8112

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@ceci_sph

3 жыл бұрын

same

Before I talk to my friends I think of things to talk about before I see them.

I agree... For me it's also when someone knocks on my door or rings the bell on my apartment. It gets me so really anxious. I usually (if possible) try to not make noise so they just leave 😂 and also stay real quiet for the next 10 minutes (just in case lol)

@DavidRoux-oi6zf

4 ай бұрын

I agree I hate the “POP IN” whether I’m busy or not I have to stop and try to entertain you,unless it’s an emergency, I don’t care if you were in the neighborhood Show some respect 😡🤬

@DavidRoux-oi6zf

4 ай бұрын

Working in retail is so hard, I know I have to help people, I don’t have a problem with that but it’s more of talking to my coworkers that I have to make an excuse to end the conversation

repeat after me: PHONE CALLS ARE FOR EMERGENCIES

@iyaayas

3 жыл бұрын

And Urgencies.....keep them less than 10 mins. ALSO, if the person you're talking to actually responds 3 words or less (especially if that person only hums or give no verbal response) your continuing the conversation is getting annoying. Ask for an honest answer about this and don't show offense if you don't like the response and/or stop talking. Try changing the topic or say Goodbye.

@Abitibidoug

3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. That's what 911 is for.

@spiralsun1

3 жыл бұрын

First was Aristotle, then the Super Pineapple!!! ❤️🙏🏻😂 Thanks!!!

@lesnyk255

3 жыл бұрын

Emergencies and business appointments. Period.

@ItCantRainForever2

3 жыл бұрын

I never have my ringer on. I always say if it's an emergency they will leave a message or call right back.

The onde thing worse than a phonecall: the *_D O O R B E L L_*

@jeremysmith9694

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Pure hijacking of my life and time.

@kumikoo00

3 жыл бұрын

True! Haha

@sangomoon5456

3 жыл бұрын

Omg yes!! I pretend I'm not home lol

@danidino1645

3 жыл бұрын

True. I done answer phonecalls if its not one of my family members and if this person calls me repeatedly then i answer cuz i know its urgent. But doorbells...... when someone rings and I live alone, I stay silent, dont move and pretend to not be home until they leave. One plus is that they cant see my windows and the light coming from inside the room, soooo hehehehehe

@ua2381

3 жыл бұрын

@@danidino1645 Definitely! I get maybe 5-15 calls a day. Never answer. I figure if it's important they'll leave a message.

"Phone rings" Me, staring at the phone: "But... why?" Honestly, just text me or write me an email.

@Coryraisa

6 ай бұрын

Me too!

I personally worry about forgetting things, so I always have to write a sort of script before hand and with more serious phone calls, I’m afraid they’ll ask something and I won’t know the answer and be stuck.

@keerahh2378

2 жыл бұрын

Omg, I do the exact same thing too!

@gracealexandre3381

2 жыл бұрын

@@keerahh2378 Don't worry, I do the exact same thing! That's the main reason why I stay as far away from the phone as I can, even at home.

@tracir3072

2 жыл бұрын

I do that too!! I think to myself, who has to do this??? I guess I do and a few others. 😅

@brittareitz5421

2 жыл бұрын

I always plan my calls that I have to do, write down notes about what is important and plan the words to end the calls... when somebody calls me I never pick up. I look who called and decide if or when I will call back .. my friends know that and if they have to talk to me personal, they send me a message and I can call them when I'm ready to socialize... even when my grown up kids need my help, they text me before: it's important, answer my call 😅

@AW-jh8ry

Жыл бұрын

I really thought i was the only one

We should start writing letters again. Gives me time to think what I'm going to say...

@mtt4639

3 жыл бұрын

Or just text

@notrashmisingh

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!💌

@figs449

3 жыл бұрын

Yes PLEASE!! I would love this, instead of instant responses on whatsapp etc it makes my brain hurt to process and reply properly

@amberbushong8124

3 жыл бұрын

I quit social media and decided to write the people that I love letters instead. I don’t really get letters back but it’s so much more fulfilling to send those letters than using social media

@esraahmed3622

3 жыл бұрын

same thoughts! that would be phenomenal

In person, the silence is awkward. In the phone, it's 10 times worse.

@shh11111

3 жыл бұрын

Nailed it

@joebenzz

3 жыл бұрын

The phone becomes heavier. Like your body is telling you "bro you're not okay put it down now!"

@Marishebert

3 жыл бұрын

Dead air. My primary reason for hating calls.

@sayalime4620

3 жыл бұрын

I disagree

@Paghmani1sher

3 жыл бұрын

Obviously u super insecure

It’s so great to know there are others out there who feel the same as me about phone calls. I used to think I was the only one and therefore strange. Love videos like this. 👌

I broke up with a guy over this! His constant phone calls were stressing me out so badly! He just couldn't grasp that I when I was alone I truly wanted to be alone and that meant no communication at all. It doesn't help that I'm tone deaf and rely heavily on visual clues to follow a conversation

@debanikgoswami4834

Жыл бұрын

She thought I am not giving her enough attention 🙃.

@magicalsimmy

Жыл бұрын

My ex sister-in-law called 7 times in one day. I didn’t answer because calls with her typically ended up as long 6-hour therapy sessions about her narcissistic husband or her childhood. I had a similar friend who kept trying to convert me to her religion and got into conspiracy theories. I had to phase them both out of my life.

And now it's video chats. The phone was bad enough, but then Satan added video to the whole awful experience.

@Maki-00

3 жыл бұрын

R.N.K. Alexiadis It sucks having coworkers, who you’ve never met in person. How awkward is it going to be when we actually get to go back to an office?

@shriharir6450

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@kimmartin9616

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 Finally someone who truly understands this painstaking experience.

@sophiavilnara3553

3 жыл бұрын

:D :D :D

@lili-bf1og

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂 true

The really terrible people are the ones that text and when you reply, they immediately call you. Why oh why? 🙄😂 But yes, phone calls do get easier with practice.

@fandeadvirus3816

3 жыл бұрын

The worst part is you can't even air it or pretend you didn't see it. *pain.*

@jacksonbrewer2380

3 жыл бұрын

hoard of fandead then don’t pretend. Don’t answer either

@edenpk8541

3 жыл бұрын

My mom in a nutshell lol

@snehasen9111

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! 😭

@trollloloololooo

3 жыл бұрын

Can you explain why it's bad because it frustrates me when I call someone and know they have the phone right next to them but don't answer. Why?

I swear, sometimes I hallucinate the sound of my ringtone and give myself anxiety. It doesn't help that my ringtone and wake-up alarm were the same for a while. The sound of a text notification makes me nervous as well, but at least I don't have to spend a minute mentally preparing myself for a conversation. Or building up the nerve to hang up or just leaving it to ring, because I do that too. I don't feel good about it, but I do it. Gotta keep my sanity somehow.

My phone always on silent 😂, finally someone else who understands.

@TheLifeJOGJourneyofGrowth

2 жыл бұрын

Mine is on mute All the time! I have been paying a phone bill for 6 months and have made ZERO phone call 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️ other than my wife once.

The only think I can think of worse is, someone showing up unannounced at your home😱😱😱

@Bildgesmythe

3 жыл бұрын

The one reason I like covid shut down. I don't have to invite people in.

@youngcrone456

3 жыл бұрын

My INTP son says the door is terrifying.

@markorollo.

3 жыл бұрын

I prefer that to a phone call, I'm ok with people in person, it's that thing of not being able to see people that makes me anxious.

@amyong4677

3 жыл бұрын

Just pretend not to be home.

@sejlazy

3 жыл бұрын

That happened to me for an entire week, I’m a introvert to an extreme level by the way. It doesn’t help that a lot of my class mates live around where I live, so they naturally know the general vicinity or area where I live. Also sometimes I carpool with friends who live in the area so basically, classmates used to show up to my house unannounced for awhile.

I just want to exist peacefully with as little human interaction as possible

@Taydiablo3

3 жыл бұрын

I want this to but only when I’m at work.

@MemoryChronicles

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 my mom says my dad and I need our own little island and I I’ve agreed with her on that 🤣🤣

@Walklikeaduck111

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@datguy1569

3 жыл бұрын

Big Facts

@all2blame163

3 жыл бұрын

Get laid.

I always thought if I am bothering my friends by making a phone call. But now I know that there are millions of people worldwide who can relate to me. I loved this video!

This translates to Zoom meetings now. I can have up to 3 meetings a day. By the end of it, I'm comatose. I curl up on the sofa with my dog and need to sleep for 45 minutes before I can feel normal again.

Introvert calling someone: please don’t answer, please don’t answer, please don’t answer, hi ! What’s up

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

yeeeessss

@orangeziggy348

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@shubhashreerath9981

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my God!!!!you are totally saying the truth about me.Whenever I'm my mom says that call someone I'm always praying that don't answer!! don't answer!!! And when they answer I'm like : Bitch!you dumbass why did you answer.

@orangeziggy348

3 жыл бұрын

@@shubhashreerath9981 Same

@jstrangelove333

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

Wait so who else watches this cuz they are introverts and its nice to see that someone out there understands .

@uhohhotdog

3 жыл бұрын

Yea I feel like I’m always surrounded by extroverts

@remi4610

3 жыл бұрын

this is the exact reson I watch introvert videos on youtube at all

@mk-uy2vm

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah..

@imbored6135

3 жыл бұрын

Uhohhotdog Gaming I feel like I’m surrounded by people who pretend they are introverts even though they are extroverts

@Clara-jz3yv

3 жыл бұрын

yes.

And my mom keeps telling me to get a psychologist even if its a phone appointement and she doesnt understand why id prefer to die

Don’t fear it, but I can relate to the preparation, trying to rehearse the call in my head. So much energy.

Introverts don't even hear their phones ring. Why? Because we always use them in Silent Mode, and also in Flight Mode as well so that the only option left to reach us is texting us.

@iona6286

3 жыл бұрын

That’s exactly what I do 😆😆😆

@nemom7791

3 жыл бұрын

That's totally me with putting it on silent, especially in the morning on a weekend. Am usually asleep or just cranky after waking up & feel interrupted. In general just dislike sudden calls. If non work related I schedule time with fam & friends like 'I'll call you around midday' kinda thing & am psychologically prepared for the convo. But give me text any day ~ definitely an introvert there.

@bodigames

3 жыл бұрын

My phone is silent 24/7.

@petermostyneccleston2884

3 жыл бұрын

I often switch it off, to do something where having it on is not appropriate, and forget to switch it on again.

@AK-jt7kh

3 жыл бұрын

That doesn’t work when you become an adult and have responsibilities 😭

I prefer writing. That way if I make a mistake, I can simply erase it.

@Sercil00

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I can spend 3 hours rewriting the same email, and then look at it the next day and thank heavens I didn't send it out like that. On the phone, I have a second to think about it, and I consistently mess up every single thing I say.

@saino-d

3 жыл бұрын

yes I can agree with that but I got a question why do you have نون as your profile picture?

@shzia4634

3 жыл бұрын

Yup truee

@Markyroson

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

@petermostyneccleston2884

3 жыл бұрын

The best communication device of all, is the letter. Nothing has improved on the Victorian communication equipment. Pen, ink, Basildon Bond, envelopes, stamp and Pillar Boxes.

both of my parents are extroverted, and once, when I was a kid, they forced me to make a phone call because they thought that I was just being dramatic about not wanting to call anyone like ever. I cried so much after making that phone call, it was the worst. I feel kind of comforted now, however.

@thathomeschooledgirl_

2 жыл бұрын

I always cry whenever my mom forces me to make a phone call

@gurlsarmymc5270

2 жыл бұрын

@NaeNae wdym this is normal stuff, show some respect to your parents and make yourself useful they spend money on you, and you say u have anxiety bc u have to call someone, or go to the store? God damnit

@gurlsarmymc5270

2 жыл бұрын

@NaeNae ok sorry from the context it sounded like she’s forcing you to do stuff and you’re acting like it’s smt bad, sorry I got you wrong. It’s good to hear that you’re actually helping your parents

This is so accurate. Number 4 is definitely one of the reasons that phonecalls tend to make me anxious. However, it’s also true that it gets easier with practise, which I’ve honestly found to be true for most things I’ve been anxious about.

When my phone rings, I’m all, “WHAT KIND OF MONSTER AMBUSHES A PERSON AT TWO O’CLOCK ON A SATURDAY AFTERNOON?” Then I remember that extroverts exist.

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA! good one!

@Red-fg9qr

3 жыл бұрын

A drunk person, can be extrovert or a very very veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery drunk introvert that wants to bother you (and knows it), or just an emergency, but nah, most likely a drunk person.

@adamlemp

3 жыл бұрын

Haha omg this made me bust out laughing. So true though that is me right there.

@emelyfernandez1958

3 жыл бұрын

YES.

@sleepybabykitty6217

3 жыл бұрын

So true 😆

For the introverts out there, isn't recording a voice message even harder than talking on the phone? I find it even more challenging.

@saranor

3 жыл бұрын

THAT LANGUAGE TEACHER WHO ALWAYS WANTS VOICE RECORDS AND ME RECORDING LIKE 98 TIMES

@shae6100

3 жыл бұрын

Personally I prefer talking on the phone than voice recording

@yela_liz

3 жыл бұрын

That's easier for me

@glenisneedham4277

3 жыл бұрын

NEVER know what to say and ending a message is puŕe agony!

@Amanda-no8ks

3 жыл бұрын

I HATE VOICE MESSAGING ITS TERRIBLE!!!!!

can't even begin to explain how true each line in this video is

"Why are you still talking to me??" Every phone conversation with my mother ever. I love her, but I need a nap after her two hour phone marathons.

I have major phone anxiety. For me, it's actually easier to talk in person (even though that can be awkward too).

@cathrynshope6472

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@piratesfan123

3 жыл бұрын

I really hate not having visual clues or not being prepared for what I'm going to say, if I have to receive a call I'd like to know like a week in advance to prepare myself

@piratesfan123

3 жыл бұрын

It’s easier for me to speak in person because awkward silences on the phone are a million times worse than in person, at least the other person can understand that I’m just trying to think of a reply or something to say and that I’ve not left the conversation, the worst thing is when there is an awkward silence and you and the other person then speak at the same time 😣

@annedunne4526

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to know there are others out there like me. I have to build up to making a phone call. If someone calls me it's a worry.

@bashi9

3 жыл бұрын

i prefer text but still in person than on a call aha

My introverted self seeing all these relatable comments: *crying* I'm not alone ;_;

@dianecelento4974

3 жыл бұрын

There's more of us than we think.

@sand747

3 жыл бұрын

@@dianecelento4974 there's more on the internet because we don't exist irl

@Sercil00

3 жыл бұрын

Can one of you tell my grandparents that it IS too much to ask that I call them once a year to congratulate them on their birthday, and that it's not just me, and that they could instantly solve that if they had the damn decency to finally get internet and an email address, or perhaps a phone with a text messenger? I'll... I'll give you their phone number...

@heyyyyooooo7777

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr ;-;

@rcschmidt668

3 жыл бұрын

Waiting months to make an important call. I hate when asked a question I can’t answer.

you are a great example of how a infj can evolve well above the norms. Plus you are helping others! This is major points.

I think one of the best inventions of my lifetime has been the text message. People tend to get to their point right away there's no talking over each other no idle chit chat . And you have time to compose your thoughts between receiving and sending back a response less chance of saying something that you would regret later plus there's the benefit of having a written record should there be any dispute about what was said earlier . My voicemail message instructs people to hang up and send a text message instead if they want a response .

@ace-of-space

Жыл бұрын

Great idea.

This is why introverts have other introvert friends that also don’t like talking on the phone and prefer texting.

@slayersaurabh

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah me and my friend both talk awkwardly on phone but on text its much comfortable ❤️

@savannalane838

3 жыл бұрын

Yup lol

@Luculencia

3 жыл бұрын

Nah most of my friends are extroverts.

@thisisart3750

3 жыл бұрын

Yes true..not comfortable..

@rustcohle9267

3 жыл бұрын

So hard to initiate a conversation when both of them are introverts, maybe thats the reason my friends arent introvert at all.

The worst part is not being able to formulate spoken thoughts as well as written ones. I forget things when I'm on the spot.

@lesnyk255

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I am a Grand Master at "What I should have said was....."

@UmatsuObossa

3 жыл бұрын

@@lesnyk255 I'm always "uuuuuhhh"ing like I have the intelligence of a fish.

@crypticcorvid

3 жыл бұрын

@@UmatsuObossa I can barely stumble through a conversation, but once I get to speak in written form it's like Shakespeare entered the building, lmao.

@oscarrzga4615

3 жыл бұрын

I hate that.

@AndreaCrisp

3 жыл бұрын

Yep!

This video came at a perfect time because this morning I ignored 2 calls for job offers even tho I'm looking for a job. It's just so draining 😭😭😭😭 really well put FJ! Hopefully I can overcome this too 🤞🏻😂😂

@TheLifeJOGJourneyofGrowth

2 жыл бұрын

This is me right now. I am actually about to cancel my phone line even though I have a handful of recruiters securing jobs for me 😂😂😂😂 welp!

@jessicacarbajal4703

Жыл бұрын

Haha I did the same thing recently, I mustered up enough strength to talk to one and then ghosted him

@ryans413

Жыл бұрын

I usually do this because most calls are just a number no company name so ignore them. More company’s need to have caller ID if I just see a bunch of numbers I assume it’s just a scam call or someone selling something

Guy: Just call me whenever you want to talk. Me: Let's set a specific date and time. Or, you know, text messages are a thing. And even then, when I get a text, I'm like 'oh great, now I have to answer it, but should I answer it straight away or wait half an hour, cos if I answer it now he'll get back to me and then I'll have to get back to him, and then we're in this endless cycle of torture'.

@happygirl65

2 жыл бұрын

Recently a former coworker asked when is a good time to call. It’s not that I don’t want to be friends with her but I gave her my honest answer: between 3 PM and 5 PM. I later realized how ridiculous that sounded. I’m OK with talking to her face-to-face but I don’t really want to talk on the phone. another thing about phone calls…l know it’s a relief when the person you’re calling does not answer the phone. You don’t really want to talk anyway, right? But guess what! Now you have another problem. They’re going to call you back at some random time and you don’t know when. #Intrusive. 🤣🤣🤣

FJ: Introverts like to be prepared... Me: nodding vigorously

@YouDoNotKnowWhoIAm

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssss

@reginald8947

3 жыл бұрын

😂That's the only reason for me

@ollah.h

3 жыл бұрын

Same :) Nodding all through this video!

When someone calls me, the only thing I'm thinking about is how to end the converstion ._.

@kimberlyhernandez8596

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 same

@ThatShitGood

3 жыл бұрын

Same, i even sometime pretend to have a weak signal so i can faster end the phonecall and get things done with text

@bandman83

3 жыл бұрын

Better. When someone calls me, I think of a reason NOT to answer it at the time and allow them to leave a message.

@nirangatang7759

3 жыл бұрын

I just answer in the most boring way so they just end it

@ganimisa

2 жыл бұрын

Same, just want to know the point of the call after that, it is so draining to engage in chit-chat. Such a waste of time.

I only make calls for quick and efficient reasons. Due to this the other person almost always picks up and I didn't notice that until a few people said to me they always answer my calls as they know it's important. A perk for not liking calls ;)

Yes, when I want to call a friend to catch up or arrange to meet (which is of course rare) it takes me 2 or 3 days to build myself up to making that call. Sometimes weeks.

Finally, someone has put into words exactly how I feel. 100% accurate.

@debbietodd8547

3 жыл бұрын

Thats because its finally OK to say your an introvert and wear it. There are far more of us out there than anyone realizes.

@MalluStyleMultiMedia

3 жыл бұрын

I know right

@zealtypedcode3119

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@fathertime2020

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@sevsmith2476

3 жыл бұрын

same here hahah, everyday struggle as an Infj

I had a desk job that involved receiving and directing calls constantly while also being given too much work to accomplish. Absolutely the worst. Then I had a job where I had to make some calls, received fewer, but either way it was directly related to my own work that only I was doing. Much much easier to not constantly be on the phone, make the calls when I was ready and to know everything I needed to know when making or receiving the calls. Two very different degrees of tolerance. Having more control helped immensely!!

True. Especially the part about feeling like you're bothering people if you talk to them.

Text: Sorry I missed your call...

@anuragsosa

3 жыл бұрын

Reality : Staring at the phone while it rings and waiting for it to stop

@amidthesalt

3 жыл бұрын

@@anuragsosa Every time. If it's important, they'll leave a message. 😳

@tojislefttoe7505

3 жыл бұрын

And then they call back

@Delia-ou1ju

3 жыл бұрын

@@tojislefttoe7505 lol...right?!! 🤣🤣

@haunteddreams7856

3 жыл бұрын

@@amidthesalt that's our way of life. "if it's important they will leave a message" great minds think alike

If I respond to your text and you immediately call me because you know I have my phone in my hand; I'm calling the police!

@dianecelento4974

3 жыл бұрын

Lol I just don't answer. I've told some people I am hard of hearing.

@initwiththina

3 жыл бұрын

@@dianecelento4974 😂hard of hearing!

@lamar2143

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. That kills me

@tarotdreamseverythinginbet350

3 жыл бұрын

OMG people that do that, they are mental and overstepping boundaries lol I hate that!!!

@mariesa4481

3 жыл бұрын

Ahahahaa!!

Watching this while staring at the notification of the missed call from my auntie and considering texting my old boss. You nailed these seven reasons actually particularly for video calls

This channel not only is filled with hilarious videos, but it helps me know how to explain myself to people on how I'm intoverted xD And helps be better understand myself

I don't mind talking to people in person. Heck, I can even start a conversation with a total stranger. But phone calls? No, just no.

@syee797

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, it's easy to start conversation with strangers but not with phone calls lol

@louisejoel

3 жыл бұрын

Texts are clear and get to the point usually

@filmgirlLisa

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, what is that?? I love talking to people in person.

@JulietTheGirl

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Usually I don't answer a phone call from a stranger. Sometimes I call them back later when I am mentally prepared, sometimes I just don't.

@ginalibrizzi5204

3 жыл бұрын

Same here.

The worst part about receiving calls is how the other person is just reaching into my life, intruding so blatantly and blindly on whatever I'm doing. My mental sanctuary is disrupted and shattered.

@MrPGC137

3 жыл бұрын

Answering-machines & voice-mail systems are a godsend to the introvert. Just leave the thing on all the time, turn the ringer off the phone so that you're not disturbed, and then just periodically check for messages. Screen them looking for important messages (there won't be that many, I guarantee it) & dump the rest. Being able to just hit 'delete' without even having to talk go the person is one of the most sublime satisfactions in the world...

@Zizipho_Ndayi

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that was such an descriptive explaination

@Opuskrokus

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrPGC137 That will just make things worse in the long run.

@MrPGC137

3 жыл бұрын

@@Opuskrokus Explanation, please..

@Opuskrokus

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrPGC137 1. You will have the knowledge of not having answered the person hanging over you constantly. 2. If you face your fears and deal with what is hard, it _will_ get better.

This just popped up in my recommendations and wow, this describes me to a T. I used to feel a lot of phone anxiety when I was younger. Nowadays, I'm okay with using the phone at work, but I still have to mentally prep myself before making a phone call; I even keep a notepad around just to jot down everything that I want to say. And even doing something simple like ordering pizza, I rehearse my order in my head so I don't end up tripping over my words when I'm "live".

This is one of the most accurateness information videos I have EVER come across. It's almost eerie. The ones that resonate with my the most are #1, #4, #5, #6, #7.

You forgot the akward silence and how they say “say something” when you have nothing to talk about.

@sumanthatluri6413

3 жыл бұрын

True

@tzwiggy

3 жыл бұрын

That is the WORST part!

@joejoe-lb6bw

3 жыл бұрын

Worse is that when you do talk, no one really wants to go deep into a topic. All the nuance and complexities. As if they just want to just talk and repeat the same scripts.

@ShinChan-cu8ns

3 жыл бұрын

Sooooooo True....😂😭 Same happens with me everytime...😩

@drgamerstat66

3 жыл бұрын

Worst part !!!

Phone: rings Introvert: "I feel personally attacked right now" 😆😅

@praianaflores

3 жыл бұрын

Same 😂😂😂😂😂 🤦🏽‍♀️why a you calling ?Just text me👌🏾

@StarryNights750

3 жыл бұрын

Samee! I hate when the phone rings! 🤣

@btchiaintkidding7837

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine extroverts reading all these top comments and interprating them as exaggerated jokes when they are literally the truth

@tracir3072

3 жыл бұрын

That's funny!

@reelsloading5073

2 жыл бұрын

😄😄😄

I'm very thankful for texting and automated answering systems. I don't mind pressing a series of numbers as long as I don't have to talk to anyone.

Damn!!! You my guy!!! I love you for this!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing it with the world! I would've never been able to do it myself, so well explained!! This world needs more people like you!!❤❤❤ (side note: I was at start of the video feeling very anxious like the ground was sinking beneath my feet but eventually I was fine!)

when my phone rings i’m like “who still uses their phone as a phone??” lol

@silscr

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Dftntlynotright

3 жыл бұрын

Umm me:)

@katannep7798

3 жыл бұрын

My parents and in-laws. If my phone rings, I mostly know it’s them for that reason! Although now I just expect bad news when they call...not an introvert thing, but a conditioned response 😕

@in-DirectSpanish

3 жыл бұрын

@@katannep7798 my father is 73 and uses WhatsApp more than a teenager LOL

It is therapy for me that someone understands how hard it is to call someone.

@Sercil00

3 жыл бұрын

Hitting that dial button to me takes a lot more courage than jumping out of an airplane. I've done both. Would choose the airplane every time. Not even joking.

Thank you so much for this. It feels so good to know others understand me and I'm not alone in this!

Yep this describes the phone anxiety thing perfectly.

My family makes fun of me because I told them phone calls make me anxious. But I'm NOT THE ONLY ONE!!

@Stephanie102684

3 жыл бұрын

You're definitely not. I don't mind if I get a text first asking me to call someone because then I'm prepared, but an unexpected phone call just makes me extremely anxious.

Totally nailed it with introverts worry that they are irritating others by initiating conversations. I do tend to feel I'm doing my friends and family a favor by leaving them alone.

@louisejoel

3 жыл бұрын

It's a win win because they will leave you alone in return

@Snowowl64

3 жыл бұрын

Me Too!!!

@413smr

3 жыл бұрын

I don't even like to order takeout by phone. Food delivery in the COVID age - Doordash, et al. YES! just fill out the menu form and click send! NO CONTACT DELIVERY! :-D

This channel makes me feel so understood! Really thought the phone thing was just me 😂 delighted to know it’s not.

I really can connect with everything you said on this topic. It’s taken me a long time to come to the realization that I have certain anxiety issues and that I’m an introvert. I always knew I was very different from most people around me but didn’t know why exactly. It’s great to find discussions on these sorts of topics and to hear about others similar feelings and situations. I have worked retail for the majority of my working life, I don’t prefer it but I’m good at it. As much as I don’t like being around people or conversing with them very much I have learned to adapt and be ok with starting a conversation or helping a complete stranger and taking and making lots of phone calls. I think what helped was doing this sort of thing as teenager before I realized my anxieties and before they got worse. Now as an adult I’m just use to it and can go with it from all the practice I’ve had.

Yep, accurate. I get anxious when someone calls me out of the blue, and I get anxious when I have to call someone. Relieved to know I'm not alone

For me, it is often times about ‘feeling attacked’ by a phone call. It is definitely a wrongful interpretation on my part, but a phone call gives me this feeling that the other person is demanding my time, right now, they want to be answered, right now, and they are putting their desire for instant gratification above the convenience of the recipient of the phone call.

@jeremysmith9694

3 жыл бұрын

I don't like the feeling that they have leverage over me. They have an advantage. if they ask for a favor I have no time to think about it or weigh my options. I feel like they know I don't have time so it's kind of like manipulation. I hate that feeling.

@prash5203

3 жыл бұрын

YES! very well worded explanation of how I feel oof

@muskaan3711

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I feel that as well

@fatixa6792

3 жыл бұрын

Same istg

@Sha-ew2hz

3 жыл бұрын

That's literally it though, when I emergency chat someone and they didn't reply right away, I'd call them and say, "see chat" and hit end call as soon as they accept

Thank you SO MUCH for this video, I can finally explain, put into words what I feel the distress of receiving a phone call or having to give one. My family doesn't understand that, and I've been yelled at many times because I just don't answer... while I'm just freaked out, and very stressed... and my emotions getting the best of me (hey INFP here) it just ends up in a conflict that worsens everything. I had to put melodies that give me strength (like Pirates of the Caribbean and Hawaii 5-0 theme songs) as ringtones to help myself answering...

Uch, my parents used to force me to call my friends on a weekly basis and invite them to do something in order to make me more sociable. And one of my ex's LOVED talking on the phone. We easily had 2-3 hour conversations over the phone, much to my horror. Well, I listened, they talked. It drove me out of my damn mind.

I always feel embarrassed on the phone like I’m gonna sound dumb. The worst part about phone call for me is when there’s echo and I can hear me talk 😵

@CantWaaait

3 жыл бұрын

The worst!!!

@thegreatstoneddragon9432

3 жыл бұрын

I hate hearing my voice on a recording because, to me, I sound terrible.

@bluemouse5039

3 жыл бұрын

I remember having a answering machine years ago, and trying to make a message with my voice for the caller to leave a message, I tried a bunch of times and every time I played it back thought I sounded like a complete idiot , because I would stammer and forget what I was saying or my message sounded nervous and rushed , finally I just gave up and used the default robot voice that the unit already had

@Strdh_511

3 жыл бұрын

Agree..I want to record my voice but end up delete it bcz I didn't want to hear..huhu weird right

@thegreatstoneddragon9432

3 жыл бұрын

@@Strdh_511 No, not weird in the slightest. I'm the same way.

It can be hard to end the call with some people who just want to keep talking on and on. It can feel hard to just say “I have to go now bye” 😬

@jackieocean3511

3 жыл бұрын

@Pabz 😂🤣😂🤣 I laughed so hard at this comment HAHA bc it has happened to me and in my head I'm like ok well f*ck u 2 then. So then when they eventually call me back, usually on how to fix a problem (research related, job related, need a connection, or even dating advice, etc) I say I dunno. I have to go. Buh-bye 👋 Karma baby 😎 ~ 💖 ESFJ

@LY-js7ff

3 жыл бұрын

yeah true so i just lie that my mom wants me to come down to eat haha

@hinata1ize

3 жыл бұрын

I used to have that problem, but I stopped caring. I tell people when they get my number that I hate phone calls, so I don't feel bad when I've already allowed you to keep my here for half an hour to be gracious.

@haydensparling4075

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I have a hard time even saying that in text. I don't want it sound like "I don't want to talk to your ass anymore. Bye."

@ArianaReflects

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

I love this videos explanation- especially the held hostage reason. So relatable.

Thanks for these videos! These videos have been very helpful for me navigating relationships with friends and family. I’m very extroverted and often, I ask myself “what would I do” and have misinterpreted a plethora of different situations in the past because of this so thanks!

Me: receives call Me: stares at the phone *Phone call ends* Me : Hey, sorry, missed your call. Can't talk right now (I absolutely can) can you text me what it was? Them : Oh, never mind, it's not important ...

@mechawolf165

3 жыл бұрын

S A M E why can't you just text me? Its so much EASIER

@mariofix

3 жыл бұрын

I really really really hate when this happens

@NervousNoodles

3 жыл бұрын

You should never _ever_ give in into the phone calls. The MOMENT YOU DO, they will take that as a cue to always call 😩

@mechawolf165

3 жыл бұрын

@@NervousNoodles how right you are

@the_eternal_darkness_8436

3 жыл бұрын

This grinds my gears to no end… I literally wanna strangle the people who do this

Me: ignores a phone call Also me: types lengthy emails in detail to communicate efficiently and effectively than talking verbally

@AmyAndThePup

3 жыл бұрын

Even my texts are long. :P

@berchyzgb4423

3 жыл бұрын

Again, one more thing I thought I was the only one, I write bibles in almost everything, in my comments on YT there's always 'read more' 😂

@AmyAndThePup

3 жыл бұрын

@@berchyzgb4423 Even my texts are novels! :O

@Urza9814

3 жыл бұрын

My emails are short usually but that's because I'll spend two weeks editing a two sentence reply until it's perfect. Any longer than that and it just never gets sent because by the time I'm ready to hit send it's three months later and no longer relevant lol

@falconbritt5461

3 жыл бұрын

I do this. Because if I get it right enough and clear enough, they hopefully won't be calling or texting for clarification. Again. It's worth the extra 20 minutes in the first place not to have to deal with another demand later.

Well, you really nail it when mentioning the absence of facial cues, when on a phone, esp. once we've learned to appreciate the gift of extraverted intuition. Those who have it pick up so much non-verbally during face to face interactions (like how quickly they can end when one of us starts to turn away!).

So perfect it’s crazy. Thank you. I thought I had one reason and my mind didn’t want to explore that one so it didn’t look beyond that. Something that strong gave me the impression that case was settled.

And i thought i was the only weirdo who would reply to a phone call with text message. :(

@Dzgem

3 жыл бұрын

No, you’re far from it! I even know some extroverts who are not really fans of phone calls!

@rain73ful

3 жыл бұрын

No, you're not the only one who does that! Lots of people do!

@tori3158

3 жыл бұрын

NO! You should be absolutely appreciated for it : )

@ayarafi7144

3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone buddy, you're not alone .. :')

@Shay4YourMind81

3 жыл бұрын

theddfreak Nope... not at all! Right there with you. On the flip side, what’s worse are the people who respond to emails, IM’s and texts with a phone call (cringe).

I think it can all be summed up with: 'we dont like interacting with other people' tbh...

@lesnyk255

3 жыл бұрын

Or, it's not so much that we don't like interacting with others, but we hate being ambushed into doing so

@dianabrown3671

3 жыл бұрын

Its really OK with me if I call the interaction. If I do, rest assured, Im prepared and in no way unwilling to be present at the interaction. I dont like surprises and get a lot of satisfaction out of the PLANNING stage of interaction, or travel even. I like to know where I am stopping for overnights and dont like flying by the seat of my pants doing anything. Thats my motivation. Its taken me a long time to understand this about myself but now that I know it life is a lot better.

Hi, i discovered your channel recently and your content is pretty amazing. I used to think i was an introvert, but so far i have realized people just doesnt know how to respond correctly while they are comunicating with other person. Depending of how good you and the other person could express and be honest, sometimes is better to be extrovert and sometimes is better to be introvert. I like to talk in phone, but with a person i would like to talk on phone. But sometimes, there's persons that are annoying talking on phone, so i just let him know i would for a determined time and that's all.

Im an introvert with a phone related job. And this video really hits the nail on the head. I appreciate your content.

The ONLY people I'm comfortable talking to over the phone are my mum and dad. Our calls last for a maximum of 18 seconds (yes I've kept track)

@narimansaad4038

3 жыл бұрын

That's so me!

@fallenaasimar3878

3 жыл бұрын

Oh damn same here

@Rita_Arya

3 жыл бұрын

My mom only calls me to ask me when I'm coming home or scold me if I'm late And my dad calls me if he wants me to buy something while I'm out But i still hate those calls😂

@fluffycorgi9329

3 жыл бұрын

my shortest call with my fam lasted a second. We talk fast and short 😂

@samyukthasrikanth4214

3 жыл бұрын

Glad to see a lot of people relate! :)

Friend: what is one skill that you learned/improved during this pandemic Introverted 25 year old me: answer phone/video calls....

@Mohit_Yadav168

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂👍

@sarahabdelrahman8291

3 жыл бұрын

that's still just as valid and mandatory as other skills! keep going 💜

@hitankuroneko5649

3 жыл бұрын

Every freaking time someone's ringing the bell I'm getting a heart attack !

@riddlesoftheparanormal8796

3 жыл бұрын

38 year old me, still dont answer. Especially video calls.. I will NOT!

Qué bonito video! Muy educativo. Por años pensé que mi "odio y miedo" a las llamadas telefónicas era un "trauma" o algo malo en mi cabeza. Pero ahora entiendo MUCHO. La última parte me motiva a tomar la iniciativa de hacer llamadas y recibirlas. Gracias por compartirlo (incluso si los introvertidos odiamos hablar de nosotros mismos).

I used to work in a customer service department...I had to answer the phone over a hundred times a day. It was hell. My next job I didn't even have a phone at my desk...it was heaven.