What has made you succeed in your life by following your unique INFJ traits?

@jessmason2112

8 ай бұрын

😉🔥 4:43

@infjmale91

8 ай бұрын

I predicted the future. No one believed me. The future happened. I disappeared. Rinse & Repeat (till you die).

@DearYoungerSelf111

8 ай бұрын

Taking my own path - following my instincts - everything I have chosen to listen to the voice within - I won - I thought listening to my inner voice would create complete trust - but I find - as the stakes get higher 'I have to renew my faith with myself that I can do X or Y - like stepping out and being seen - and being my weird INFJ self -

@ahm4040

8 ай бұрын

I'm very good at inspiring people.

@MegaCyberleader

8 ай бұрын

im still alive?

For people like us who have "rebellion" as a hobby, working in a structure is very odd and stressful for us. it's not just rebellion it's independance.

Self-confidence. I used to get bullied for it but I understand how to make things happen for myself. Now, I own a house in a state where I want to be and I'm going to the nursing program that I've been been planning for since 2015. I know exactly where I'm going at all times

@jessmason2112

8 ай бұрын

Nice.

@ahm4040

8 ай бұрын

wish you best of luck and success

@Madamchief

8 ай бұрын

@@ahm4040 😄🫶

@DearYoungerSelf111

8 ай бұрын

Well wishes - sounds like you're living your INFJ epic life! Any tips?

@Madamchief

8 ай бұрын

@@DearYoungerSelf111 I had to abandon a lot of relationships because I was spending too much time managing others lives instead of my own. I moved away from my parents and my brother who are in a fatal codependency. I separated from my husband because he has a drinking habit that makes him unreliable. I stopped talking to friends who had kids that needed them... I'm a lone wolf these days but I'm crushing it

Only thing is, most employers expect everyone to do the exact same thing regardless of their strengths 🙄

Our greatest strength is our vision of our love for the highest aspects of life

"Your heroic willingness to encounter the unknown and articulate it and share that with people... there is no nobler vision than that!" ~ Jordan Petersen. I've had this quote hanging on my story outline board for years. Hope you can also feel the inspiration from it.

Listening to you has been so healing for me. Looking at who I am, what I am made of, and loving it...powerful. Thank you

Creating structures that haven’t existed yet hits home. Showing up where all the structure has been created is a bad fit for me.

The best version of yourself is an important phrase to live by for INFJ , its an uphill struggle but vital

After listening to many of your videos, I finally understand this. I am not saying that everybody will resonate with this though, this is my personal experience. The main reason why I tend to underestimate myself (by not noticing and even less being proud of it) is because who I am and what I am good at are not promoted by society and even less by my parents. All of this time, I thought the problem was me. Well it's not true!!! Thank you for your channel, you truly made your own homework contrary to other channels!

Reminds me of a story I once heard. There were three partners in a legal practice. Two were excellent litigators and the third not. So the third started focusing on what he liked, drafting wills. The other two were always in court and making money for the practice while the third was always visiting (older) people, filing wills in the archive, not bringing in anything yet sharing equally in the profits of the business. Obviously the litigators weren't impressed and were even judgmental but couldn't just eject the third because they were friends. Despite it being uncomfortable the third just carried on slogging, doing his "deviant" thing. But then, after several years, the third's clients started passing away and soon the firm's income from executor's fees far surpassed litigation turnover! The amount of executor's work and income increased so much that the litigators actually stopped litigating with the firm morphing into an almost exclusively testamentary practice specializing in will execution services!

All your videos are great and offer such valuable advice and insight into the unique psyche of the INFJ. When I first discovered myself as an INFJ a few years ago, it was an incredible feeling of self understanding, which at that point, I thought I had already achieved to a certain level, but it enlighten ed me to an even higher sense of self awareness, and it was like suddenly a "light" came on, or a "veil" was lifted, and so many things in my life were suddenly clear, and so many questions within my own mind were answered. I feel self discovery, and often rediscovery, is a wonderful , never ending thing! This video exceptionally resonated with me, and is really in alignment with where I'm at in my thoughts in feeling that I need to really embrace and move toward even more than I imagine for myself! Thanks!😀

I Love You Wenzes! 💗. Thank you so much for all you do for us. You're AMAZING. ..a real game changer ...WE ARE the glitch in the matrix.

Be weird. The best advice you are ever gonna get.

The thing that helped me is now I have words to describe what I think and feel. Thank you Wenzes

I need a nursing home. Soon. My life has been a very strange journey not kidding. My next adventure…

Wenzes really, how do you know so VERY much? I'm 68. So I've been observing myself my whole life and don't have a lot of identity or direction questions left. And the answers you give are the ones I have learned about myself through making my way, as it turned out as every bit an INFJ. I also appreciate, Wenzes, how in every talk you discuss ways forward for growth. This valuing of your strengths and not actually devaluing them is a key point that I still need to learn. Living out your true self is a bigger point in the context of being an INFJ and girds you for battle. I will keep this in mind. Thanks a million.

@doriaware2965

8 ай бұрын

Finding my true self is a lifelong quest for me. It is a singular path. I guess it fits!

@havefun3470

8 ай бұрын

I wish you the best. Much love from a fellow INFJ ❤

@robynbrouckaert8304

8 ай бұрын

Well said and thank you

I am so different not by choice but by design, no matter what I try I end up in the same place 😊

So true. I have been in many industries while being a full time parent. Care, Cleaning, Catering, Retail and self employed. Always on the move but keeping myself small for the sake of others view point (people pleasing) while pondering out of the box thoughts. Against the norm cost me my grown children due to outside influence. Now 18 months on I have the chance to fly free and begin again without the dread of being gaslit. 43 is the new me and I'm loving everything I bring to my table. I prefer to be the table these days and have the right to deny access before having it spoiled by messy diners and greedy eaters. So glad I did the personality test and found your channel. Sanity restored.🥰

This particular video speaks deeply to me because I am an artist and making a living from my passion is my dream!! Thank you, Wenzes for being your authentic self and inspiring other INFJs like myself!

Observation, thinking deeply on certain topics and the ability to explain things in a logical manner. Thank you for this video ❤ It made so much sense!

Valuing something which we love doing is so important. Most of the time we can make a commercial success doing what we love. It just needs a higher level of confidence since it means walking down a path less travelled.

One of my favorite traits seeing what others can't being able to do the task in half the time with less work just hard to communicate it

Creating our own structures. Boom. If INFJ needs a great job, LEAN Engineering is a natural talent.

Anyone other INFJ's get a lot out of mindfulness meditation? I connect well with the Tao Te Ching. I'm also doing some mindfulness exercises from that book 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels and it takes me deep. There's something about mindfulness and just silence in general that is ultra empowering for me. It's like I return home when I get into that silence.

Seems like every video there's something relevant and applicable that influences my direction positively

you know infj so well.

I just went through some stuff , have cancer , and found this channel and it’s all making sense . Thank you

Will you make a video about the infj’s empathic mirroring ability? I have an idea how it works but would like your insights. You have the best contextual examples. Someone provided feedback to me the other day about my tone, and my head is spinning 😵‍💫 I did not agree with the person’s critique, but I listened intently. I’m okay with her opinion. But when I really stopped to search for an answer within myself to decide whether I needed to observe my behavior or take the response with a few grains of salt, I couldn’t find any baseline to match her reasoning. I’m fairly open- minded, so I’m thinking I may have mirrored a tone she possibly uses that she may in fact not like.

I just accept who I am. Enjoy life go with what works. I’ve been accomplished and have much more to do. Life is good 👍

@DearYoungerSelf111

8 ай бұрын

Kiddos! Any tips to your accomplishments thus far?

@roberttrough6439

8 ай бұрын

@@DearYoungerSelf111 first 9 months I ruminated hard about my role with the narc. I was hard on myself. Couldn’t understand why, what did I do wrong, what didn’t I do, what could I have done. My conclusion was Nothing. I couldn’t have been better, I didn’t do anything wrong, I didn’t even argue. I did raise my voice to begin to be heard. I was never violent. I asked my attorney if he could finish my divorce if I left the state. Attorney said he could finish the divorce but I was to wait to leave until he said I could go. I went down to my daughters and helped her with granddaughter. I retired. I had to wait awhile until I could get my 401k money so attorney and bills came out of my Social Security. I found a church and resumed worship. Occasionally I spoke with my older brother on phone and I remember him saying take it easy on yourself. A year afterwards I started looking for a home. Found one excellent for a single man. Nice yard nothing to do inside home except shelves in closets. Bought a battery operated mower and other tools that used same power. I started making projects for granddaughter swings on my trees. Built a homemade RV on a old utility trailer. Built my daughter a trellis for her wedding. I painted found it relaxing. I read many books and got deep into my Bible. I started hiking in the area. I went caving. I did a little fishing. Exercised and continue at local track and climbing bleachers. Planned a through hike of Appalachian trail. That’s coming up soon. My health improved greatly. Greatly. I volunteered at a store for firemen and police and families. I flew to New York twice to see family and grandchildren there. It’s hard to write everything down. With the exception of my children I should never have gotten married. That’s my current take away. I’m so happy thriving content life is great.

Wenzes, can you make a list of INFJ potential strengths

Thank you for sharing this.

Outstanding, Wenzes. Outstanding. Thank you!

Love all your content. So helpful.

Thank you for this Wenzes, every video of yours serves as a huge confidence boost for me, and I feel like I start seeing more of my value and believe in myself more thanks to you and how you teach😅Let's goooooooooooo, just you wait, World, I'm freaking coming😃

I was wondering if you could do a video about the INFJ and covert/toxic in-laws? I have a mother-in-law that is emotionally abusive and every time I am around her, I feel her play the victim, while at the same time low-key disrespecting me with emotional mind games. I have a sister in-law and her wife that constantly badmouth me behind my back to the family, every-time I have to go to a family event I feel disrespected and manipulated and they always do it very covertly, when my husband is not around to see the issue. I don't have any family of my own and so I always feel trapped having to go to these in-law events... but if I don't go it creates conflict and resentment with my husband. When I let him go and have a relationship by himself... I always feel like I am rewarding the abusive in-laws because they kinda achieved iceing me out, and getting my spouce all to themselves. So I end up doing holidays by myself while he goes off and has a nice happy time with them and can't see why I am so crazy when it comes to them. The thing is, I feel like his sister's wife is lowkey trying to gain his favour/flirt/bond and this makes me jealous even though I don't want to admit it. But he just doesn't see this as the truth and tells me to "leave the girl alone" when I bring up my feelings about this stuff. I really want a tribe, but I feel like the females in his family have forced me to door slam and thus isolate myself. I want family time - I want tribe time - I want to feel accepted... I want holidays and feel like I have family that loves and supports me... but I don't know what to do because if I ask him to cut them off, it only makes me the bad guy - like a narcissist isolating him from his family kinda thing. I told him that I divorced his family but not him they just never got the papers. But when I let him go alone it's like I am rewarding them by taking myself out of the picture. What should the INFJ do in this type of situation??? I figure with the holidays just around the corner this could really help some people, if you did a video about it. Anyways SOS my ship is sinking and I need a life raft real bad. Can you help me? This has been troubling me for 17 years and I just need some good advice. How do I find family in a family that doesn't want me? How can I get out of this situation without divorcing my husband, as this seems to be one of our only issues that we fight about over the years. He resents me because I don't love them and I resent him because he doesn't recognize the abuse and hurt that I feel when I am around them. Maybe I am just rambling to the void but I really needed a way to get it off my chest and thought.... maybe you could be my tribe on this one. Since I don't have anyone else to talk about it with... Sad as that is. Thanks for reading!

@geoffcarlson-kw4wl

8 ай бұрын

I'm dealing with that also

@TheWoundsOfTime

8 ай бұрын

I suggest you to educate yourself about Narcissists and narcissistic families

@TheWoundsOfTime

8 ай бұрын

i al so suggested you some channels here on yt, brut it seems it's non allowed cause my comment disappear

@kathieramos4905

8 ай бұрын

I have dealt with this for 35years. I did it mostly for our five children’s sake. My husband has NEVER defended me when out right lies where told about me such as one of our children are not his and much more bullshit. I finally had enough five years ago now that our children are adults and declared I would no longer go to family events and could care less about taking part dealing with fake ass people. I also realized I’m married to a man with no back bone able to defend me and yes I very much resent him for that. It doesn’t get better unless, your husband has your back. Because I took such a stand after so many years, my husband knows that I’m no longer willing to tolerate anymore crap, even from him!! I wish I had done it so much sooner and even divorced 30yrs ago!! LMAO. Wishing you the very best 🤗

@dolphin4114

7 ай бұрын

Best thing to do is to divorce your husband. Most likely he knows what’s going on, but it’s uncomfortable for him to deal with, so he pretends he doesn’t understand. Or his level of emotional intelligence is so low that he simply can’t see the truth. In any case, this type of man doesn’t seem like a good match for INFJ. True evil is really quiet. Not “understanding” your partner’s pain is worse in my opinion than openly criticizing or gossiping behind your back. It’s a “I don’t care to see you” kind of message that is being send to you constantly non-verbally, and it’s extremely dangerous for physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

Wenze's I love your episodes and your expression displayed for watching it.Wenze's I like your guidance and I thank you Wenze's for you.Jerome❤❤❤

very useful; thank you

Thank you Wenzes. I used to be a cardiothoracic surgeon (who could work miracles) but it was too stressful. After watching this, I threw in the towel and am going to become an artist. My accountant hasn't got back to me, since I told him.

@alicia7240

8 ай бұрын

Lol, I love that you are mentioning your accountant.

@infjmale91

8 ай бұрын

@@alicia7240 No, I HAD to call them. My bank was threatening to repossess my home.

Queen 👸🏻

Thank you ❤

Well explained 💜

@albertsiltal2600

8 ай бұрын

🤔 Maybe I'm the only one who has been able to heal a narcissist. ¿What do you think about?

You are like in my mind all days❤

Purpose makes me feel alive...

Amen 🙏🙌❤😊

Just a thought. Not wanting to be critical. Just trying to help. Videos/audio seem much faster now. Doesn't mean it is worse or better. May be worth posting a video on same topic with both fast pace and half pace. Then compare results and input. It really feels like your earlier videos were on half pace...but that could be helpful for someone who wants to improve rather than just listen. For me, the slower paced ones were too much the same even though I knew covering different subject. Faster ones just make me stop after a bit and have to decide if I continue. Both had +/- .

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I never had a chip on my shoulder. Others have mentioned to me I had a chip on my shoulder? I never understood what they were talking about.

I love it ! I want to do all I love 💕 I

Hi Wenzes, your 50$ off which ends tomorrow until at which hour approximately please? Midnight? The reason why I'm asking is because I need to put some money in first.

I might have selfconfudence😅

Which enneagram types do you think are the most INFJs ?

Are they a “healthy” accountant?

Dr. Due, Dre, drew is sexy..

My pattern recognition radio is sensing information I've heard a few times before from u wenzes. Damn u really now how to recycle ur stuff. I mean I don't know ,u just seem redundant at this point. I think you've made everything u needed to make ,na'mean

@Zohar333

8 ай бұрын

I think it's nice to have this kind of content to bring in new people. I've been watching for a long time and feel (thanks in part to Wenzes!) like I know so much more about myself. Wenzes has been part of the journey. Even though topics get recycled, I watch them in kind of an affirmational way, but also realize that the more she builds her base, the more of us clever folks we can get together in one place. That said, for those of us long time viewers, I would love some "deep dive" long format videos that tie things together across many disciplines (psychology primarily). The one thing that I DO love about Wenzes is that all of her content is person to person and not one of the MANY INFJ clickbait (likely AI generated/voiced) content. I don't have a lot of INFJ's in my life, so it's always nice to hear an INFJ speaking on their INFJ experience. I do agree though that the tree could use some more branches.

@numerologicatarot3333

8 ай бұрын

Also, there will always be redundancies. I’ve never subscribed to a channel or even sat in a course where repetition does not happen. It’s a natural part of teaching and learning.

@numerologicatarot3333

8 ай бұрын

Advice: when redundancy starts to annoy you, it might be best to take a break and find other channels.

Annoying.

I just wanted to thank you. Your videos are so inspiring. Watching them has truly changed my life. Thank you so much! 🥹🩵