What makes you feel connected and at peace as an INFJ?

@heidistor-official888

7 ай бұрын

Self acceptance and self compassion. And this channel has helped a lot, so thank you 😊

@TM.M.d.M.-xv5su

7 ай бұрын

🎉 Ai😢🎉

@bethiciaprasek1008

7 ай бұрын

Many years ago I started telling myself to enjoy being the person I would love to have as a best friend. And being okay with a collection of friends and acquaintances. I don't need to be a perfect match and neither do they. Sometimes people just fit in one area but that is no reason to hide who I am. And I will (now) stand up to those who say it is in my best interest to stay disconnected with certain people or to not share my ideas and gifts. I enjoy visiting with the janitor and VP, wealthy and homeless. They each bring different perspectives and gifts to my life. Difficult to do so if I set a wall up emotionally. I am getting ready to get some chores done. Ate lunch. Said "hi" to a few acquaintances. Enjoying the sunshine in mid-November with honey bees buzzing about. I will be working on improving my home environment through April. Nothing overly planned yet. (Friends will be shocked due to my over planning tendency.) I know some baby steps which will make me happier. If I can get my backyard fence fixed to the extent my dog and/or daughter's visiting dogs can run free...barn doors so I can isolate the area I need to keep tidy enough to avoid CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome), downstairs handicapped shower, better bedding/quilts, more homemade meals (likely done at work as they have a great kitchen), more organized office, etc. Rome wasn't born in a day. I don't always need to have a mega plan. I love them but sometimes little steps are cool.

@TM.M.d.M.-xv5su

7 ай бұрын

@@bethiciaprasek1008 Hi sorry I write this. Thank youu. Your story helped me out to see a little bit on my life and in a little bit more about more. What I wanted was to say as adults we look forward to growing up as children we sometimes think we are adults as children and then when we get there it's like a our whole lives change and nothing is how are we planned out not of for the leader or fall off from health wealth and love but what we want but how we can get it is there study and patience and as it's great that you're doing that you're going through your course it's like put away the colors and break out color gray and the twos colors you like that's all I like driving down the road with the license you got to know the way of the road not know the road but the way of the road is strength courage and the will to do it it's it's cool that thank you for sharing your story

@LietSvakmajer-88

7 ай бұрын

Nature, art and spirituality. 🌲♡

You know what I was cracking myself up in my room all alone making an annoying ring tone for too long and I said to myself also outloud "I love hanging out with myself, I crack myself up so much every day "

@alexanderaranda4179

7 ай бұрын

Lmao 😂 I can relate!

@vhayashi7369

7 ай бұрын

I do the same thing! I find things to laugh about and just enjoy myself in my peace when I actually get to be alone! (I'm a single Mom) Good for you! No one can take anything away from us if we like being alone! 🙌🤷🤩

@themakuachronicles

Ай бұрын

I relate to this WAY way too much 🤭🫸🫷😆

I'm gonna play this video on repeat til it sinks in

57 year INFJ! I got my dream job last summer at the Bend Amphitheater. I worked 32 outdoor evening shows with so many amazing artist. Big name artists all summer, I never felt more socially accepted and truly authentic at this job. My INFJ hack was asking attendees about the concert shirts they were wearing from passed shows! Instant connections through this method became my signature move from my coworkers who loved my true self. This is one of my biggest epic life moments

@kevie1166

7 ай бұрын

Several types of awesome mini connections from all types of folks usually with loud awesome music and beautiful sunsets. Go home every night to my safe space. Winning

@DearYoungerSelf111

7 ай бұрын

I felt Your enthusiasm and excitement! Thank you for sharing❤

We have fun and entertain ourselves out of nowhere 😂 have a love day all!

‘This person is weird. I suspected they were weird but now i clearly see they are weird and probably crazy’ thats basically the description of my life 😂

@cc1k435

7 ай бұрын

😂 I got told I have "weird energy" by a highly disapproving new manager just this week. I wished I could let her peek into my head for just a quick second, which would probably lead to her spontaneous combustion on the spot. 😂

@MonikaDaddarwal

5 ай бұрын

​@@cc1k435🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣lol. Spontaneous combustion🤣🤣🤣

As we speak I am bowling alone. Would I prefer to have someone here, maybe. However here alone is just fine. I wanted to bowl - so I came. I have to carry on in the activites and interests in spite of others. A lot of times it means going it alone.

@cc1k435

7 ай бұрын

I used to do that with movies and restaurants. Now, with such a streaming and takeout culture, I am in absolute heaven staying at home. 😂

Any other INFJs out there just love being alone? I never feel like another person is ever going to add value to my life. It seems to always add stress, annoyance and pain. No one ever comes into my life and makes things better. The less people interaction the better i feel. Could be serious abandonment issues or serious enlightenment cause i just get along with me, myself and I. Whats weird though, people at work probably think im a social butterfly.

@cc1k435

7 ай бұрын

I like the IDEA of other people, but very often, not the people themselves. Most people find me approachable and enjoyable to talk to. The ones who don't usually aren't great to talk to anyway. 😂

@adamchristopher393

7 ай бұрын

Yes I feel the same way. Now imagine having privacy of mind taken away and having several people always there in your mind sort of always their riding along trying to take control and slowly programming you subconsciously while you sleep. It's mind rape and murder It's the worst nightmare imaginable for any introvert you can never recharge It's called Remote Neural Monitoring/EEG cloning/Heterodyning/brainwave synchrony/synthetic telepathy/electronic mind control/voice to skull/microwave auditory affect and many other avenues of technology. Its evil transhumanist/Illuminati/freemason/federal agencies abusing their authority using A.I. and virtual reality in a sentient world simulation where your entire nervous system is recorded every thought and experience. some of the discredited people are "Targeted Individuals" and apparently there's something uniqe about us with dominate intuitive function I know this sounds unbelievable. It's the most advanced technology combined with spiritual/Astral tactics using D-Wave quantum computers and cern hadron collider. It's what I've been experiencing for a few years now and I feel like I should be letting people know it's taking over soon part of some global government form of slavery. Mental, cognitive, spiritual slavery you can't do anything about because people will think your crazy. I don't mean to be doom and gloom. I just really miss my alone time to recharge. Your comment reminded me it's been years.

@elizaveta2407

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, I can relate to that. I even heard that it's such an INFJ thing to really want to help the world but without directly interacting with people lol.

@KingDomsKingdom85

3 ай бұрын

I'd give my right arm to find an INFJ lady to receive my love, personally.

dang Wenzes wasn't holding back in this one. This is the way I like to be talked to. Very matter of fact 🥰 TY for the video

@cc1k435

7 ай бұрын

Yep. Get to the point, people. 😂❤

@TyGee777

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely. I listened to this twice and more likely a third because "that's how I like to be talked to." 😂

This really resonated with me and especially about finding a way to show your unique self. The thing that really helped me is my blog. I take photos and write up the history of buildings, derelict places, historical landscapes (prehistorical, etc) and whatever I find that interests me. As well as the history I also write about the visit itself, little personal anecdotes and thoughts about the places, and it's this that's really brought out my own character, turn of phrase and sense of humour. It's been a life-changer. As for people thinking I'm weird a funny thing happened to me; I was standing on the pavement in my town and looking up at some interesting chimney pots when someone I vaguely know walked by and said 'yes, it does look as if it will rain'. Instead of just agreeing and letting it go I said that I was actually admiring the chimney pots and she gave me such an odd look then walked on, lol. I get that sort of thing all the time and it used to bother me but doesn't anymore. Great video, as always, Wenzes. :)

Yes, this is the source of my loneliness, feeling disconnected from the few people that were in my life because they don't really know me. Somehow, I'm less lonely these days even if I'm completely alone.

@raft115

7 ай бұрын

We suffer so much we do not even have the strength to ask for help such is our suffering oh if someone would come into our lives!

@marinamayer6920

6 ай бұрын

@@raft115 I used to think that way, sometimes I still catch myself imagining a saviour comes along, but Wenzes videos have helped me, through time, to understand I have to be my own saviour, and people will still come and go, and I know a few will stay.

@raft115

6 ай бұрын

@@marinamayer6920 ✨that's great

People cannot connect with you if they dont have anything to connect to!!!!😂😂😂😂 So so true!!!🥰🥰

thank you, you're a lovely mouse. For the INFJ without self-confidence, you are truly a healer. It's nice to watch you. You have a beautiful aura.

It's all day I be lol with my cats too, They're a tough crown tho

5 WAYS THE INFJ BEATS LONELINESS ONCE & FOR ALL 1:46 #1 Always choose authenticity 6:41 #2 Learn how to feel good alone 7:59 #3 Start expressing yourself and sharing your gift 10:32 #4 Connect with people through your gift 12:33 #5 Stop walking on eggshells

@leonorabrandscheit

7 ай бұрын

much love for the people who summarize the content !!

@lizashone1976

7 ай бұрын

Thx for your generosity in summarizing.

@Roltereen86

7 ай бұрын

@@lizashone1976 You're Welcome! 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

@Roltereen86

7 ай бұрын

@@leonorabrandscheit 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

@Roltereen86

6 ай бұрын

@@leonorabrandscheit Thanks! 🙂🙂

Yes Wenzes you are so right. I love being alone but I would like to move past that now. I want to have people i can share my true self with. I'm ready to find my tribe and have a fuller life. So I will be taking steps every day to make that happen. Thank you for the lesson. ❤

My family- the people who taught me that my true self is unacceptable- are abusive when I'm myself. I haven't hidden myself out of irrational fears or lack of courage. I was conditioned by physical, psychological, emotional, and sexual abuse to fear the very people who claimed to love me. I did not get through even the first steps of becoming myself with my family intact. Their reactions (attacks) to my growth were immediate and severe. I had no choice but to split off and form a new family with the people who do accept me for me. This new family has come together out of faith in love and connection, as fragile as that feels. It is not easy to trust.

@janiemiller825

3 ай бұрын

Exactly what I went through & I’m infj also

Aside from being perceived as a weirdo wenzes, when u show your true self, people can not bear the energy u then give out. It's as if they then DREAD you, and u feel that they fear this version of a person that they're interacting with now. Most male infjs can agree to this, especially when trying to connect with a someone we'd like to be a love interest.😢 good God! This infj gift. "Hard to live with it, can't imagine living without it!" Thanks anyway wenzes❤

@chocovanille5809

7 ай бұрын

Being a male ifnj sucks

@rokawahakim6817

7 ай бұрын

As a married infj of 11 yrs with a son, i get the feeling. I was once excittedly talking to sis in law who i thought was si dominant about something i like then she turned away from me like i just didn't exist. It's painful because i thought that there was a connection. It took me some time to get over her behaviour and i never confronted her about it. It feels like rejection

This video was beautiful!! ❤ Wenzes, could you possibly make a video on how INFJs handle childhood trauma? Thank you so much for this wonderful channel! 🙏🏾

@user-zb8xp2zc4v

7 ай бұрын

U are right good sir. We need a video on how we can handle childhood trauma. I wonder why is it we infjs all go through the exact same experiences? This dark fate is a one that befalls us all. Why is it so? And why are we so? The exact same mental programming...I wonder!

@rachelmaxwell5953

7 ай бұрын

Wenzes, perhaps a collaboration with a trauma specialist who understands the specific issues at least with more sensitive people (if not with INFJs)? ❤

Perfect timing and on point. This is my third time listening to this video back to back. It's a must that I heed these words because I can't take no more (hollowing myself out), it's destroying me. Its crazy. 🤦🏾‍♂️. Thanks Wenzes.❤ Its my birthday and im more depressed than ive ever been. Only God can help me, if I truly let him, and to be honest, I've been pushing Him away too, and that's even more painful. 🤦🏾‍♂️ aww man. Its rough but these videos are constant reminders that Im not the only one and I can make it to the other side of what seems like an impossible transformation.

@Greatness-nb9kl

7 ай бұрын

You got it in you to keep pushing through, brother. LEAN IN. Happy Birthday! Cheers to another year of life, chances and opportunities to be the authentic you who you were created to be. The world needs you now just as you are more than you could ever realize. Blessings on you through you to you and yours 🙏

Thank you for sharing your gift to the world. Gleeming much-needed wisdom from your messages.

These are practical suggestions for a problem that we all face. I struggled more with this in my teens and my twenties, but loneliness is something that we have to face no matter what age we are. But I do believe that the older we get, the more we adjust ourselves to the loneliness we actually feel, without getting mixed up in whether or not it's "uncool" to be alone. It's amazing how much that can free us up from that part of loneliness, making it easier to work on solutions to cure the loneliness. Living authentically according to the way that we are put together is good, solid advice. In fact, in college I learned quickly that the two words "You're weird" more often than not means "You're not like me." When I graduated, I wasn't living on campus and it was wonderful. And guess what - I still had friends! 🙂 Sharing and connecting through self expression and through my "gift" IMHO was (and is) the only way to go. It's using what I have to work when reaching out to others. And while it's good to try to be tactful to people, refusing to walk on eggshells is a must.

This was a poweful video, much appreciated! Thanks✨

Observations: Your speech delivery tempo is slower and more relaxed. ✅ Your voice, counterintuitively is more feminine, I.e, nurturing and inviting. ✅ Your eyes are more expressive, rather than overly dramatic. ✅ 😀

Thank You so much... You are a positive strong light that is shining bright and leads to the right direction. Thank YOU *

"The truth is i like to have many friends but unfortunately people around me is not aunthetic they pretending to be my friends but the reality they are great pretender. So if they never want me i never like them also. Now i try to find people who are not abusing me, not take advantage with me the real friend!"

Finally starting to put me out there. I started my channel almost 2 years ago and posted my first video about 6 weeks ago LOL... but hey its a start... it is slow to get started and I still struggle to put videos up even though I have several already made... just has been very difficult to fight through the "people will find me boring and dull and etc etc... so beginning to put myself out there...slowly... number 2 I have never struggled with I have always been happy with myself and enjoy my own company and know my own tastes because I have spent a lot of my life alone. Number 3 I am trying along with number 4... I can connect easily with others where I have trouble is letting them connect with me... My view of myself is not that I am "wrong" but just that I am less interesting then others are who like what I like... number 5 is VERY hard for me especially in my current situation... but again trying. Appreciated this video of yours a whole lot, thank you!

You are such a blessing!

Thank you 🦋

SO timely for me. Well done! Thank YOU!

this is so accurate it hurts 😅 thanks for this video, I'm thinking to listen to it once a day

Wow, you're really on fire in this video Wenzes! Loved it. Thanks!

This was so needed, I'm going to listen to this over and over! Thank you Wenzes 💟

Thanks Wenzes ❤

Thank you, i have a definition too all my questions. Sixty-seven years, the light bulb went off. Life is fun now.

The timing of this video ❤️‍🩹

This is my favourite Wenzes video so far! Super helpful!!! ❤

Thank you so much 🙏❤️

Embrace it and love yourself

Why is it that I'm always the most diplomatic socially smart person and I always say the right thing..but if one day I'm a little tired,sleepy or hungry I find that I say stuff that irreversibly wounds people..yesterday a guy told me about his intention to do usmle step 2 and that he thought about dropping out of med school many times..today I told one of the residents that "many people"told "me"they were thinking of leaving med school in basic years and I swear I forgot about him I wasn't talking about him!! He was standing at the door..I can't imagine what went through his mind and I didn't think about it until I reached home 😢😢😢

@RabidFlowerpot

7 ай бұрын

I know that! I'm forever blurting out the wrong thing with good intentions but it's gotten to the point I just keep quiet. Now people think I'm super shy. Or stuck up. Sigh........

Also Wenzes, your eyes shift laterally from left to right frequently. Your hands move vertically at the same time. ❤

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Again , I have to give kisses ,

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Trust me, if people knew what I really thought. I'd be burned at the stake. I just stay home and try not to drink too much.

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Many bullies.

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Aloneness. That's the other name of serenity. Loneliness is a delusion. Like just listen to the 2022 album by Jack Johnson titled MEET THE MOONLIGHT. You'll get me for sure.love wen.

Like a sigma male , what the hell is INFJ’s trying to find it in one of these video formats It would be nice to know these acronyms

Was't is an i n f g

@Greatness-nb9kl

7 ай бұрын

Go and find out please.

do infj's connect with other infj's?

❤🎉 WonderFul/ ThAnkYoU❤🎉HappY2024 ❤🎉one and all❤🎉 so grateful x