It gets toxic when you’re with a guy that won’t lead , can’t lead and they still resent you for their short comings. Or when you give them opportunities to lead, they make you feel like you’re not self sufficient or disorganized.

@charmingbriana8243

Жыл бұрын

Lol I encountered too many that's them weak ass niggas for you 🤣 they are comfortable with being unstable 🤣 they like drama 🤣

@tylerdurden3722

Жыл бұрын

That usually means the guy is using the girl he is with. It's a huge red flag. Men are motivated to lead when we find something pure, and innocent that hasn't been tarnished by life experience. When we find it, we want to protect that and create a safe secure environment that is protected from life experience (life is harsh). Men have deep desire to find innocemce like that, that triggers us to feel ready to die for it. It's the puspose of our existence, that we feel inside ourselves since being young boys. Of course, the girl must have the physical and behavioral traits worth dying for. It's why there are so many white knights. In other words, even the most Beta of male's impulses to provide and protect is triggered when men encounter something worth providing for and protecting from the harshness of life experience. When the guy doesn't lead, it means he's not motivated to provide and protect. It means he doesn't feel there is enough innocence that's worth dying for. As a man, you know you've found the one, when you realize you'd sacrifice yourself in a million ways in a heartbeat. That's our romantic need. But we also have a completely seperate sexual need, that's insatiable. For us, these two desires are not connected, like it is for women. It's why men use women. It's for sex. A man cambeasily enter a relationship purely for sex, and will keep their access to sex going as long as possible, because our brains are not wired like women's brains. Most male relationships, are of this type...probably 90%. He will say and do anything to keep the sex coming...he will tell you what you want to hear. A man who sees you as worth dying for, will tell you what you don't want to hear, knowing it might cause the sex to stop coming. Humans can't choose what we feel. The core of things we want, feel, and are attracted to are hard-coded into our DNA. The biggest red flag, is a man who's main focus is to appease you, and not protect you, as if from yourself. If you know you don't need protecting from yourself, then it means you don't posses the almost childlike pure naive innocence that triggers men to want to provide, protect and die for.

@kldpceofwrkp6158

Жыл бұрын

What eye have learned on my journey is, not all men have the capability of leading.

@jibarabicha4853

Жыл бұрын

@@tylerdurden3722 If this is true, this only confirms the fact that men have not evolved socially in accordance to modern times. The world we live in now prepares women to be resilient and cognizant that we can only be in control of our futures. Gone are the days where women were reliant on a man for their livelihoods. Mens resistance and infantilization of women will continue to affect their chances of having meaningful relationships if they do not wake up and realize that we still need them, just not in the ways their grandparents and fairytales told them so…

@Bee4Reel

Жыл бұрын

@@tylerdurden3722 lmfao who told who this? How many men do you know?

Louder for the sis in the back🙌🏽 My mantra at the moment is, ‘I am not a strong black woman’ because this is what was instilled in us to be go getters, independent, hardworking, not need a man etc. and this exudes masculinity and I’m not involved. After a lot of HEALING, My vibe right now has been peace, soft life and abundance✨ Side note: if you have MORE masculine energy this attracts a man with MORE feminine energy so there that

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Sis you said it even better, it takes alot of healing to get over this mindset that was instilled in us, i also got to realize that most of the concerns surrounding the men we attract not being as “manly” or not being in control as we would like is because we already give that energy and naturally they settle in the opposite even if they had the masculine energy at the initial stage or they just get overwhelmed and leave, its soft life all way babes, i cant come and die on top strong woman😆😘❤️

@LorettaIfeanyi

2 жыл бұрын

So true, its the last line for me... We don't need feminine men, we want to attract masculine men, a real man not average joes

@_sunchildd

2 жыл бұрын

oof. yessss. especially about the attracting a feminine man!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

@kelaboo1

2 жыл бұрын

Omg yes sis! I'm so happy so many of us are realizing how much that hurt us! I pray we all get into our feminine energy and be at peace we deserve it

@chiamakaokereke1435

2 жыл бұрын

This is so true.

This world is so confusing, one minute you’re being told to be independent and not rely on a man the next you’re being told you’re too masculine and men don’t like that. I’m exhausted, can Jesus come already and end this whole thing because it’s honestly too much . I can’t 😒

@mwitakapaya

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Am tired of all the rules too. I think am ready to be the bride of Christ.

@IreneThomas

Жыл бұрын

@@mwitakapaya it’s so exhausting

@chinedumazeli8464

Жыл бұрын

You been independent is just you been a self sufficient adult, you become masculine when you start wanting to take over lead control etc

@chinedumazeli8464

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes you see American women note American women meaning only in America you'll be seeing women claim to be boss b*itches hence down talking a man insult shouting at a man and all sorts of nonsense

@yasiem6245

Жыл бұрын

@@chinedumazeli8464 if course, you're one of those who talks about modern women like it's a crime. Funny how you won't talk about crappy men and how they commit the most rapes and assaults but alright.

i think there’s healthy aspects to masculine energy, independence, self sufficiency, etc but that’s just me

@mburugithinji7204

Жыл бұрын

Be successful but not masculine.simple things the way you talk , shout at men, be gentle .go to a strip club and see how those women are , very feminine and men go to the club for that.

@mybrothaskeeper4156

Жыл бұрын

The thing is majority of women don't tame their masculine energy they let it over flow on purpose to prove a point. After awhile that level of masculine energy becomes normal but each encounter it gets ratcheted up

@EcheTube

Жыл бұрын

@@mburugithinji7204 women in strip club gets treated in a very inhumane way because of this.. bruh..u should have had a better example..

@prodyung829

Жыл бұрын

@@mburugithinji7204 basically men want a feminine submissive women. Ain't nothing wrong with my successful and having a hard working attitude. But whenever it bleeds into the relationship that's where it's terrible, think about it: who would wanna date someone super confrontational? That's how masculine women seem, they over do it to the point it's super unattractive, not intimating.

@Jra225

Жыл бұрын

Independence is not inherently masculine. Nor is self sufficiency. That’s just called being an ADULT. So are you saying women are naturally not able to be independent or self sufficient?

It's true, if a man doesn't like you, you'll be the one chasing him and even if you get him he won't stay.

Sometimes when you are working for a better life- you can’t help to activate your masculine energy

@kennyblessed2523

10 ай бұрын

Good theory. How do we create balance?

In the dating world a feminine should not be: 1. You come out as if you are a boss babe. Acting too much to prove you don't need him. Rather appreciate him and allow him to help you. 2. You want to take charge, a controlling vibe. Let him be the man. 3. You chase a man meaning trying to get his attention but it's not a crime to show interest to a man. 4. Don't compete with him, be supportive. 5. You allow a man to propose to you and not the other way round. He should be the one to pop the question.

@Myvonsshow

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@zippyblessed839

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Noted

@Olivia-bs5wj

Жыл бұрын

I do all of this except the chasing…. I chase my ex 🙄 but we met last week and it felt so good

@goodvibes9050

Жыл бұрын

I'm 1,2,3,4 but I'm not 5. Its hard to let those traits go. Too many man want to play games n i gotta put myself first ahead of them.

@kennyblessed2523

10 ай бұрын

Men naturally take the leadership role. As a women, you should support him being the lead. I think women are unaware of what it means to support the man. Men need women to be loving and gracious. Women who criticize and put up walls causes tension.

In the past, I was told by my exes that I always want things my way. I was in my masculine all along and like you rightly said, these actions seems harmless in a masculina’s head. But until she takes accountability and sees them for what it is, it won’t change

I'm an Aries woman with an Aquarius moon and Leo rising....I'm triple masculine. I need a man more masculine than me. My femininity comes out when the right man comes along otherwise, I've got me and I'll always have me. It feels like having to pretend to be something I'm not just to have a healthy relationship. Idk how to change, this is just who I am.

@darrylhicks3947

Жыл бұрын

It’s not a light switch. You are or you aren’t. No man wants to out penis a woman. A masculine man is going to avoid you until you get to the bottom of why you can’t be who God made you to be…feminine. Seek therapy

@CuratedVibes

Жыл бұрын

I'm Aquarius sun and Aries moon so I get it. It's funny I easily attract men with my laid back exterior. They mistake it for submissive BUT my Aries kicks in and I'm hardcore headstrong. They are shocked and it doesn't work out.

@emdiekay4978

Жыл бұрын

@@CuratedVibes same bro .... On top of that, they normally get attracted seeing how sweet and charming and humorous i am at first, and then they realise i am more like the one giving orders instead of taking, ..more like the one who leads and not follows..who takes the charge ..i can never be submissive to anyone ...i have lost control of myself totally..cant take advises from anyone even ..idk what to do wid myself anyone . Sometimes i think i will give up ..i will be a woman ..i will be submissive and take his orders ..i will give him the sex , do the dishes and take care of babies and be the ideal woman or wife material.. And then my pride, ego , masculine spirit, my stubbornness, anger everything returns at 3 am .. doesn't let me sleep in peace ...kills me inside saying i have been such a loser , a slave and nothing else...then i take everything back only to suffer again in anxiety and inferiority complex I am just a 17 yr old, single , not married ,,,i just said all those to describe it all to you how's everything like in my brain!

@niastaton1941

9 ай бұрын

How is it masculine just to not trust letting ur guard down ? I never really heard of a woman being called masculine bcuz of this , I don't understand this woman behave "masculine" thing at all .

@tanyaflanders2196

5 ай бұрын

I'm an Aries too! We're just very capable people. We can't help it.❤

This video helped me in two ways actually. I learned that I should have a "type" when it comes to the kind of men I want to have around me. Because I am a strong willed person.. I need someone who's more masculine than me. I can't be around someone who's lazy and doesn't get hungry for curiosity... my ideal match wouldn't be someone who's comfortable being stagnant. While working on ways that I can be more feminine, I can also notice when my partners laissez-faire approach to life doesn't give me enough room to be feminine. This really opened my eyes to moments where I felt like I had to take the lead because my partner either wasn't capable or wasn't even thinking enough about the next step. So yes, be more feminine.. but also stop dating people who are comfortable doing less than the bare minimum.

@favourafinni

Жыл бұрын

Yes, this! Those are feminine men who can't lead well and they'll make their woman take up the more masculine role bcus they can't step up as a real man. Those kind of men are a No

@ndiforbridget9812

Жыл бұрын

👏

@beatricewatare

Жыл бұрын

love looove this comment. i resonate sis

@adasaura8648

Жыл бұрын

@Charisma Musician it won't kill me. I'll be ok

@adasaura8648

Жыл бұрын

@Charisma Musician lol please keep your torment for yourself. I've passed 25 long ago and I've been fortunate to experience some amazing relationships. At the end of the day it's about knowing yourself and your needs and finding someone who meets you there. There isn't just one path. And men are still out there struggling with their own understanding of masculinity. You don't know me so I'll just assume you were trying to be helpful by projecting your own experiences. To which I say, no thank you because that's not my portion but thanks for sharing , I guess. I hope you find peace and good luck.

I’m struggling with : A man who doesn’t plan dates, but says things like “whatever you choose I’m cool with. It’s on me, my treat.” Part of me is like ok at least he’s not cheap/stingy. He’ll take me out, but a part of me doesn’t always want to plan. And YES I’ve expressed this, I share the IG reels and send places, day trips, hikes, trails, waterfalls etc. I give options and gage his interest. Now I’m tired of having the same conversation. I’m in between be happy with what you got or move on. *sigh*

@NrHrh

Жыл бұрын

I think he didn't know what kind of places/restaurant/food you like. So he just let you make the decision. But maybe in other aspects he will become a leader

@Bamifun

Жыл бұрын

Tell him then don’t choose. When he chooses don’t complain. But to quit a good man because of this?? I guess you’ve got it like that! 😂

@phi-losiphy2038

Жыл бұрын

Move tf on! A real man would be confident in himself and choose the damn date!

I believe the key 🔑 is to find a balance in both ways, just know when to play the soft card and know when to show the Boss moves...I genuinely enjoyed watching you talk. #PrettyQueen

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Rightly so babe❤️

@somunchlove2767

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more!

I’m starting my feminine journey now. I literally do everything myself as it stands now am exhausted. I struggled asking for help. Even when am in a relationship I pay all my bills. I grew up watching my mom do everything herself.

@agankokohappiness7500

Жыл бұрын

And it makes me attract feminine men

@1amSaada

Жыл бұрын

@@agankokohappiness7500 omg me too sis don’t worry we got this. We will learn🧡💖🧡💖

@synnsayneenterprises

Жыл бұрын

Something I learned as a young girl from the women in my family was this, "You allow a man to take care of you, but do not solely rely on him to take care of you. You still make your own to take care of yourself in case something happens".

@kennyblessed2523

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for being honest 😊

@ChildofYAH

9 ай бұрын

Peace and blessings sis, good luck on your journey to femininity. I'm just not starting mine today 😊

Pure facts! 💯 Repentant masculina here, never again! God bless you for this.

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Bless you too sis😘

@missmaryfabela98

Жыл бұрын

🤗

This is pure facts directly talking to me. God bless you for this.

I had to watch from start to finish. I really needed this.

I love my masculine Energy as a Woman and a mother. As a woman, my Masculine Energy PROTECTS me.. I DON'T need a WEAK man in my life. He got to be a KING but I am a Goddess.

@janinahamburg210

Жыл бұрын

As a masculine Woman you will only attract weak men. Masculine Men don’t like masculine Women

@darrylhicks3947

Жыл бұрын

You’re kids are going to grow up and go out on their own. What are you going to do then? You’ll be past the age where your value will be salvageable. You were not made for you. God created woman for man.

@vanessashaundellalder393

Жыл бұрын

@@darrylhicks3947 that is YOUR PORTION...NOT MINE...I do not conform to the stereotypes 🤣.. To FUCK...I always do regardless but to play HOSPICE WIFE to an Old man I DON'T.. I Never Drink or Smoke or Do Drugs and I mountain bike 6 days weekly.. I do not need to live with a man to have sex NOOOOOOO🤣🤣..Sex I do more now single than I did with all the husbands I DIVORCED..I was not created to please NO MAN.. I have my own purpose..and the pleasure is all mine.

@darrylhicks3947

Жыл бұрын

@@vanessashaundellalder393 exercise sense. You’re only saying that in the present state not taking into account that circumstance change…especially when you get older. When the kids are living their own life, and you lose loved ones, God forbid you get sick, or life happens in some other way, you’re going to miss not having someone intimately there to take care of you or share life with. Women like you lived a fool’s life and found this to be true when they got old. Don’t be the next fool. Abandon those ways. Yeah you can get D’d down but who’s going to love you up? But continue in your selfish mindset and play Russian roulette that you don’t end up a Golden Girl. We’re trying to tell y’all before it’s too late but as always, can’t tell y’all nothing.

@vanessashaundellalder393

Жыл бұрын

@@darrylhicks3947 😔😔 I feel sorry for Every woman who had lived their lives in the FEMININE ENERGY and was Murdered by the hands of a Man of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE and she was too feminine/WEAK to FIGHT BACK 💪🏾 with her (MASCULINE ENERGY) to save her life.. So you can go preach your teachings to all the FEMININE ENERGY WOMEN serving men and are being ABUSED right now.. Tell them to trust God and God will deliver them in a Pine Box 6 feet under after their death at the hands of the men who wants them weak ..Steuppzzzz

This is so well done. I had to unlearn a lot of these behaviors but I’m glad I did. This part of my life I’m committed to living my best soft life.

Omg love your helping me to get back and evolve! Thank you so much I've been straying too long I'm tired and it's time to tap in and remain!!

shouldnt you WANT to be with a person and not NEED a person... idk please dont mind or attack me like the other women did. I'm simply asking a question....

Absolutely agree with everything you said ❤

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

Love this, thank you!!❤

Absolutely love the new background!!😭😭😭😍😍😍😍🥺🥺🥺

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks love

I Love this, spent most of my life with masculine energy on autopilot. Men 50 years ago are different from men today, they make it hard for us 😆 but l really learned a lot from your videos.

Thanks for this Lucy. I love it!

There was one guy that helped me realize I waa controlling. And it stemmed from having a father that was in his feminine. So from a young age I was forced into a masculine role and thrived. A decade later, at the age of 28, im mentally and emotionally exhausted and want nothing more than to be soft and lean into my feminine. It’s difficult but I am slowly changing so that I can be at peace and attract a masculine man I can submit to.

God bless you so much for this ❤

It’s unfortunate that most women cannot lay back because we are with the wrong men who do not want to take the lead so in turn we have to be successful not to compete but to provide for ourselves. It took such a long time to realize that my intention was not wrong. That I was indeed with the wrong person. I had a guy told me before my last relationship that I was the most “girly” meaning feminine woman he ever met. I had to tuck her away because I was really with someone that kept me in a masculine energy.

Thank you for this I didn't even know I was giving off this masculine role though😂😂😂😂. Now I know the issue now

While other views on this topic may differ, we value your well-rounded view. Thank you, we appreciate your willingness to share and have an open dialogue with us.

Absolutely. Balance is key.

Thank you for the advices🙏🏾

This is so accurate and now that you've mentioned how unintentional some of these behaviors are, being aware of them ensures that i can actually try to take a step back. love you sis. you earned a subscriber

Thank you so much Lucy😢😢❣️

This is very informative 👏

This Video is Goldd..🙏 This is me Full Hundred in the Relationship. Love this Content

Today's filming setup is so airy and beautifulll. I'm so in love with the way you speak Lucy 😭❣

So true, thanks for sharing.

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

Girlllll. This is so factual

This is so me i need to work on myself!!!👌🏾✨️

I think you can make your partner feel appreciated without needing them Neither of you should need eachother. It should be a conscious choice for you two to start talking because u like eachother. Not because u need someone to be emotionally dependent on

Thanks for sharing 🎉

Lucy, I love your video quality and how verbally expressive you are.💖

Love your videos I love your make up too 😍❤️ Kindly make a make up tutorial video please.

Very helpful. I think a glaring missing component at least in USA culture is that pretty much since Gen X and younger -men are not reared on how to take the lead. Too many of them are raised solely by women and then for this same generation the women were pushed into extreme independence. Also so many men today of these generations literally get jealous of women who are high earners and doing well. The other missing component is that when the traditional roles of men and women have been shifted but no solid “rules” have been established many men don’t know where they fit and as women we don’t know how to balance this new playing field with old school romance. But overall I agree with all of your tips.

How about men that a comfortable and tend to relax when you’re in your “masculine energy “ ?

I went from feminine energy to masculine during my toxic relationship without even realising untill I looked back on old photos and a very long healing process & seen how my style changed. (YES style!) Now Im trying to switch back because I feel "Safe"and "Secure" In myself to say I no longer have to be the Masculine energy he couldnt be.Just enough for me 💙🙏and now I want the old me back 🤣🤣🤣

Everything here sis♨️♨️♨️

Lord I’m wayyyy too masculine Jesus. Send help! But I ain’t chasing nobody baby😂🤦🏾‍♀️🙄

@Olivia-bs5wj

Жыл бұрын

Me too! But I chase 🙄 my ex

@khadijahj.4637

Жыл бұрын

@@Olivia-bs5wj lol it’s ok sis. We all done been there

Is it just me that loves masculine girls 🙂

I'm married, but I don't think I will ever get married again if I ever get divorced.

Why is this video so real.

Masculine woman - confrontational, aggressive, controlling, domineering, uses vulgar language, competitive, critical, uncooperative, loud, too independent, guarded, defensive

@lxke.h6108

Жыл бұрын

Also disgusting, men don’t like masculine women it’s like being gay lol

@magnarcreed3801

Жыл бұрын

You described men. Masculine women actually are protective, providing, assertive, calm, and loving. They’re only defensive and violent when they need to be and that’s okay.

@ventaliq

Жыл бұрын

too independent?

@theauthorgirl-podcast

11 ай бұрын

​@@ventaliqhyperindependence is a trauma response. This is also the one I resonate with the most

@paulakayzline7597

4 ай бұрын

That's so me

Ok so , I have the first two qualities, trying to be on top everything and in my head I'm more organized... yea all that you said on the two points, but in my current relationship he's more .... idk if to say in touch with his feminine side (raised by a narcissist mom) so I also find myself almost feeling that he expects me to control and organize everything like I find it difficult to say to myself " oh okay so I'm going to start to be more feminine to let him take on the more masculine role" I hope you get what I'm saying because I don't want to make this comment much longer, but is like what do you do then. Which this is a whole other topic I smell lol.

He's given me SEVERE PTSD. I have debilitating paralyzing daily panic attacks. He raped my soul. He used me while he needed me and then discarded me like garbage. My soul is raped. When he'd get mad/upset/hurt/whatever: he'd give me the silent treatment. REMINDER TO SELF: Reasons for narcissistic silent treatment: * Stonewalling * Gaslighting * Emotional immaturity * Lack of interpersonal skill * Victimhood * Dysregulation * Avoidant attachment style * Doing to me, what was done to him * Terrified of conflict * Not knowing any other way * Fear/panic/anxiety/terror * Felling incapable/not good enough * Desperation * Power over * Regaining a (false) sense of control * Punishment EVEN STILL, regardless of the above, I miss him and what we had, our friendship, our connection: WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING. But he never really cared about me. He used me and discarded me. Replaced me so easily. Why is she better than me? Why? What makes her so much more profoundly better than me? Is he her best friend now? Or maybe is there even more between them? Why couldn't he love me like he loves her? Is there something wrong with me? Is she just so much better? He's replaced me with another. In an instant: just like that. HE REPLACED ME. HE SHATTERED MY HEART. HE RAPED MY SOUL. I'm all alone and suffering in anguish, and they are living happily ever after together. The PTSD and the loneliness and the grief that he's given me... Makes it so that I can't breathe. I drowned. I suffocate. I die inside. I'm in hell with no escape. NO ESCAPE. I need him. I loved him. He raped my soul: brutally viciously violently maliciously. Every night: nightmares. Every day: panic attacks. I want to die. Every morning I wake up in despair, desperately praying to die. I can no longer bear the pain. I could die from the pain of missing my best friend. He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage. My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend. I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing... I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear. I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified. I'm dying inside. My soul is raped. He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe! How and when will I ever heal? God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief, I pray you guide me and direct me and hold me and heal me... I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough!!! It's time to be free: in Jesus's name! I’m giving my life to Jesus! 100%! ANOTHER REMINDER TO SELF: When you chase a man, you NEVER get the man, and you ALWAYS lose yourself! (PROVERBS 18:22 I FAITHFULLY PRAY FOR THE HUSBAND GOD HAS ORDAINED FOR ME!)

@Lovelesslouvre

4 ай бұрын

Hey baby girl, I hope you’re feeling a bit better from the time you posted this. I hope you have started your healing journey✨ I’m really sorry for what he put you through, none of it was your fault. And that new woman he replaced you with, if she’s still with him, he’s treating her the same unfortunately. People like this don’t change. Trust and believe, him discarding you is a BLESSING in disguise❣️ You will flourish and grow and heal and become a much better version of yourself, you just have to allow yourself to✨✨ you deserve it all I promise❣️feel how you feel, you’re entitled to it.

@MGC89

4 ай бұрын

Hi love, I have read your post many times today, I want you to know that I am praying for you. I gave my world to someone for 5 months, I am going through the same thing that you are going through but I keep getting closer to God through the journey. I have been going through therapy which has been helping me a lot. Always remind yourself that you gave that person your best but he didn’t appreciate it. Take care of yourself, prioritize being well mentally and physically. Keep yourself busy with things that can make you better. I love you, you are worthy of unconditional love, you deserve the world. You are the world, just remind yourself that everyday. ❤❤

Wow, so pretty! Your face!!!

Wow you're right

So should the man initiate the having kids convo in a marriage?

Girl!!!! I am learning a lot 😌 keep them coming !!!!

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Makes me really happy❤️

I need a book about this

Lol I agree with some stuff I agree that I'm too aggressive, personally I just want to be more independent financially and buy things for myself do things because not every connection lasts and when it ends I won't b broke trying to move on to next and still b broke 😭👍 but NO I don't like to be chased and I don't do chasing if I take the Initiative it's because the guy normally is hesitant on asking me out 🤷‍♀️ and it's 2022 I don't think anybody is taking things slow especially with sex 🤷‍♀️

Factsss

Homeboy at home 🤣🤣🤣🤣very good advice, I can be a bit too helpful in planning dates 🙈I repent 😊🌹

Be an honest person with all situations in life.

BE HUMBLE ALWAYS IN LIFE!

I wasn't even trying to date the guy but i could tell he felt some kind of way when I asked him to have lunch with me and I went and split the bill, and chose the place to talk at. And even though i didn't curse, when we were talking about a subject. I guess i did say a vulgar word passively about something and I noticed him go silent for a sec. It really felt like i forced a guy to come along and he's just sitting there, listening me talk. I didn't find anything wrong with it at the time but he and I don't hang out anymore :/ this seems different and I know this is good advice but it's such a shock, I'm used to making sure i know what we're doing and where

@englishmuffin7

Жыл бұрын

Side note: I've always felt less feminine than the females around me and felt alienated, and I always wanted to be more like that but it always seemed like so much and not-practical? I work with my hands all the time and the long and well kept nails were always something i saw as extra or attention seeking but i always felt envious of how pretty they were. I hope one day i can be more feminine without feeling exhausted and actually feel motivated to take care of myself because i don't. I do the bare minimum for self care, even for hair, which is why i cut it. But yeah, i love the video, very enlightening.

You’re entirely right 💕

Facts! Absolute facts! I'm quite guilty of the first point tho 😬

Lucyyyyyyyy what kept u ha I Missed you oooo

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry i am here now 🤣❤️😘😘

True talk sis my soul what’s inside of me is really Masculine I swear and I love who I am how I am I’m Really feminine on the outside like my body matter of fact all the men I’ve dated in the past loved me for who I was still wishing to come back not interested I was the one who left em cause I can’t stand shit matter of fact am masculine not too controlling we let each other Decide Chasing are for children when you fine True love like your soulPartner he ain’t never gonna care only fake love too nosy 🧐 about how Masculine or feminine you should be I don’t believe that should be feminine feminine to be loved by a man I believe in freedom we only have one life to stick to just 1 lifestyle no matter how Feminine you are that one can’t stop useless man not to cheat on you .

IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE WOMAN AND THE MAN

Married for almost 30 years. At times my wife tries to call me "Yo!" "Yo?"

Beautiful woman 😍🤗

@MyLucyBenson

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sweetheart ❤️

That used to be me 100%. I've learned my lesson

Brilliant girl

This was so helpful 🙏🏽

I get the point of this video, but can I just say, so much fragile masculinity out there. I always love a challenge. I don't mind if I lose, in fact, I actually want him to win, which means I lose, but I don't want to have to lower the bar in order for that to happen. I want to be impressed... even though it's very hard for that to happen now a days

@Carol-su5ce

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with number 3. I feel that, concerning the proposal stuff, if the girl has been totally feminine in the relationship, or totally commitment shy, and the other guy is mad over her, and comfortable in his masculinity, he usually thinks it's cute. I know a male friend who thought it was super cute when his girlfriend proposed, ended up buying her a way more expensive engagement ring. Sometimes unconventional romance is the sweetest, but when it becomes a thing then.......

I’m definitely not bringing out my money!😂 speak sis🔊

How do we deal with guys looking for a dominant woman?

I love this!!!

As a Tom in transition this video is really helpful❤️

@ThiaChiammy

Жыл бұрын

@Ellen oh that's beautiful🤗🥰. I don't think that's who i am tho.

So what do girls like me do? Who've been failing at girly since kindergarten? I've tried sooo many programs and plans, it never comes naturally, never feels right, just adds to my list of reasons to off myself Yup, being judged at every turn, but here's a video on blending in so people will pick on someone else! Sweet!

I was raised by a single mother, I've never seen what a man can do for me on Jesus' green earth. But my mum has been complaining about my “masculine" side so I decided to look into it. I almost didn't play this video, but boy, am I glad I did.

Thank you for this

I have learnt something....

I am on my feminine journey but I keep making the mistake of not letting him lead. When he clearly has a plan and my interest at heart, i still keep proposing ideas how to do it!! Why

Can someone list it out lol

Though I agree with what you said, I don't think a woman should approach a man to express interest. He should, in my opinion, show you that he likes you and initiate contact before the lady expresses interest in him as well. I vehemently disagree when women want guys to marry them. My male friend's brother had feelings for his present wife. Although he was still in the early stages of his job, he still intended to pop the question to her and wanted to make sure she got the ring when she eventually did. People will remark, "Well, that worked." You must realize that he intended to pop the question to the love of his life. It ultimately succeeded since this was what he desired. He still thinks that his wife stole the opportunity to arrange his proposal, and he wishes she had allowed him to do so. She is unaware of his feelings, but his brother and I are aware of them.

What about texting and long distance, my boyfriend is staying out of town this summer and the only thing we do together is text and call a bit. Is it feminine to leave him on read sometimes? How do I give him space to let him miss me without him just getting uninterested? What can I do to help him take that lead role more?

@se2664

2 жыл бұрын

Getting a new boyfriend! Tbh idk but I hope you figure it out 😂

@rmalo124

2 жыл бұрын

Communicate with him, but don’t be overbearing .let him come to you. I feel like from experience men hate being mommied. I feel like on read is petty and first thing first turn those read receipts off gorl!

@jiannaprevost6155

2 жыл бұрын

@@rmalo124 thanks ladies!

@sbusisiweshaba1715

Жыл бұрын

I would suggest you tell him that you are preoccupied with... rather than leaving him on read. If you want him to miss you, let him initiate most conversations, let him plan dates, meanwhile fall back, get busy so you are not always available, when you talk or text, be warm and sweet, give him compliments to show your appreciation for what he does for you and to boost his ego.

I disagreed with most of your points 😂😂 (I just have different views about gender roles) But I watched till the end because I like the way you speak and you look so pretty. Well done!

@sweet_sheida16

Жыл бұрын

Maybe because you are a masculine woman.

@jderrickson4597

Жыл бұрын

You are masculine, that's all 🤷‍♂️

@_tideaina

Жыл бұрын

@@jderrickson4597 I respectfully disagree with you too😊👍

@zakiyaellis2347

Жыл бұрын

@@jderrickson4597 I think Lucy only attacked bad masculine traits in women which shows women do have trouble grounding. @Lucybenson you did not deliver a valid point for the title of your video lmao 🤣

@jeminem5450

Жыл бұрын

You will learn the hard way, or end up with a beta male

So so helpful , thank you❤❤❤

I don’t know if this is the right channel to ask this but would this work in lesbian relationships? Is the “man” considered to be the more masculine woman so she has to always chase and lead and pay?

True

I was never taught how to be feminine

@corpedatlanta

Жыл бұрын

cuz you can’t be taught it’s just who you are, be yourself

@Tiffany-un3hw

Жыл бұрын

I wasn’t taught either and at 37, I’ve been having to teach myself.

Jeez been giving masculine energy the whole time... This came right on time... Subscribing for the soft life pls.

No man likes this....you are so right

Ooh thank you for this video

❤️❤️❤️

💯

I dated a very hostile aggressive woman, she was a Dr. and she talked about everything in value, I paid xxx for this, my Mercedes cost me xxx, she berated my music, and I wrote her off.