Unfortunately, this even applies to friends you are hanging out with😖😊 Got to let them go:)

@monicamoser7168

Жыл бұрын

True, about friendship. Have to disconnect. Or fire them. 🔥 my relationship have been different from alot of people.

@moladhdodhia164

Жыл бұрын

Family too.

@brandyhouse2269

Жыл бұрын

Thanks guys I appreciate your comments. I don’t want to resort to spells... my self-worth means more to me than any relationship that wasn’t mine to begin with, because they men I attract wouldn’t treat me like an option. Sometimes you see the best in someone & trust that they already they see you in the same light. You don’t have control of anyone. I don’t need to manipulate to have a relationship, if I had to that then I would be dissatisfied because it wouldn't be the real love I deserve. Plus the gf/wife didn’t do anything to hurt me or deserve heartbreak. Why would I want to wish my heartache on her? If it wasn’t meant to be & I know why now. So when God closes one door He opens another door with something greater than what you thought you had. Self love 💕 is confidence personified.

@brandyhouse2269

Жыл бұрын

Especially friends. Friends stick to their word..you know your friends always have your back. Their word is bond in your eyes. Your friends know your value & they know you value them. Kevin Hart “They day we signed up to be best friends is the day that my BS is your BS & your BS is my BS. Unfortunately some friends chose not to fight to keep the relationship. They refuse to acknowledge the pain they caused by their actions.

@janwig9347

Жыл бұрын

I was just thinking this can apply to all kinds of relationships!

All these signs are typical for a co-dependent relationship which is not easy to leave.

@Pattys1967

Жыл бұрын

So true this is me

@jen_green

Жыл бұрын

15 years in and unfortunately you’re right, not easy sounds like an understatement

@mattd1569

5 ай бұрын

30 years with kids

@eliastatarinoff

5 ай бұрын

Lord 5 years

@blakehouchens1258

24 күн бұрын

23 yrs and kids

This applies to whether you should leave your bad job as well

1.) You don't feel like yourself 2.) Questuining How you should communicate 3.) You think about where the relationship stands all the time. 4.) Starting to be annoyed all the time. 5.) Loosing yourself.

@average_life

Жыл бұрын

Only doing things because it interests them. No balance between you two. Starting to feel like a less important part of the relationship because you are.

I won’t be feeling those things ever again because I won’t be getting into anymore relationships. I’ve done my penance.

@tytf2875

5 ай бұрын

Same

@abdulazizhawsah9884

5 ай бұрын

If you are a man I feel you.

@cradycanucatchme

3 ай бұрын

My boyfriend still loves his ex. She left him after finding out that he had lost his virginity to someone else, and she never returned. She deleted all her social media accounts at that time. I was not in his life when this happened, but after I came into his life, he became very committed to me. However, one day he talked to a stranger online, asking if she looked like his ex. He claimed to be single, even though he was in a relationship with me. He can't seem to get over her; he still loves her and sees me as a compromise. He doesn't love me; he's just trying to find his ex in me. This situation is starting to negatively affect my mental health. I am considering leaving him. Even though I love him more than anything, I have to do this. If he can't move on from her, then he can't be with me, of course.

@fernandez6036

3 ай бұрын

@@cradycanucatchme He probably didn’t finish properly healing from that. I personally don’t know but what I do know is it might feel tempting to help or stick by his side. But at what cost? Know your worth. ❤

@musicwithj1759

3 ай бұрын

@@cradycanucatchme if you need someone to tell you, I got you: Leave. Do what’s right for you. If you love that person, let them go and let them heal on their own. It’s funny I’m sayin this because I just got all my girls stuff together to bring to her house and breakup with her. Im struggling hard asf rn but if my codependent messed up ass can do it, i know you can do it too. I wish you the best of luck in your healing and please, wish me some luck too! Lol. Today is gonna be a difficult one. But there’s always tomorrow.

Applies to friendships,too

Friendship breakups. Never had I felt so drained. I gave and gave for three years. I felt like a resource fair. I’m happy they benefited but now it’s time I move on because I feel depleted and drained. Unloved.

@dazza8551

6 күн бұрын

This is how I've been feeling with this guy I have been going out with for eight months.

Oh my god, all 5 feel true for me..

So true Do not lose yourself You are valuable

This just validated all the reasons I left my ex!

Absolutely 💯 wish I had heard this sooner in my 11 year relationship

@moladhdodhia164

Жыл бұрын

Everyone needs to hear this before they get married,such great advice,if I had heard this, I NEVER would have been in this marriage I'm in now.

@jen_green

Жыл бұрын

15 girl.. 15 and unfortunately still back and forth. Seems to be the only thing in my life where I can’t break the toxic circle. I’m intelligent enough to know how bad it is, but emotionally... When it comes to him, all of my common sense seems to be allergic

@alicefindlay4706

4 ай бұрын

Those hormones and chemicals can be so damn addictive

You are absolutely right! Thank you, and I recommend this to anyone and everyone.👍👍👍👍👍

I agreed. I absolutely experienced the first 2 in my last relationship. It was so awful. You are not sure about yourself that you can comfortably communicate with them. Time to let them go.

This just means you've let the relationship go in a bad direction it doesn't necessarily mean you should break up lots of people just have bad communication habits from childhood and it's creating distance and all they need is to connect and understand the other person and be understood. Sometimes It's incompatible and you should break up but don't give up before you know otherwise you'll just repeat the same patterns in the next relationship

@AlexanderSverdlov

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely.

@beckydarrow

4 ай бұрын

Do you think a couple can learn to stop repeating the same patterns in the one relationship together or do we need to learn this on our own before even getting into a relationship?

@Samuel96889

4 ай бұрын

@@beckydarrow I think some relationships are genuinely doomed from the start but yeah of course I think relationship is the main way humans can unwind their dysfunctional patterns and traumas but that means getting triggered is innevitable in every relationship unless you're already perfect or enlightened😂 that stuff is supposed to come up and be felt through. The problem is people panic and leave because they actually think it's the other person causing the pain when they're just triggering something that was already there. Reactivity is the exact opposite way of how we should be handling our triggers

Spot on. You have nailed it! Thank you.

Thank you, Mel! I experience all these when I was with a narcissist husband and narcissists acquaintances (I dont even call then friends!). I have just left mine and hitting the floor running with the things I love to do! Even if I am doing it alone. ☺️

@Canaday291

Жыл бұрын

I went through same with a malignant narcissist alcoholic I thankfully divorced.

@amywezell8569

Жыл бұрын

Guess I am alone, I would rather not be but I can work through that.

@lindasharpe7039

Жыл бұрын

💚

@wadedraper4837

Жыл бұрын

Lol what a bunch of bullshit and y’all are eating it up. This is more of that destroy the nuclear family shit, straight from the communist manifesto. Every couple goes through these and many more hardships. It’s about being strong when your partner is weak. It’s about navigating through the bs and emerging triumphantly. Why do y’all fall for this? And then wonder why our civilization is crumbling. Love and commitment are a choice. And if you women keep choosing to leave, us men will red flag your ass as a bailer. A runaway. Nobody wants that for a wife. You’ll die lonely and miserable.

@wadedraper4837

Жыл бұрын

If you meet an asshole in the morning, you’ve met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day long, your the asshole.

I find everything said relatable but with friends especially a toxic ex-bestfriend. When I left her she ruined my college days. I'm scared of people like ger now and I struggle to make new friends and relationships.

@Soo_Blessed

Жыл бұрын

SAME 💀

@s13283

Ай бұрын

I went through this too. Put yourself out there, and try not to get too attached to how relieved you are to meet new people. It will take time to get to know them, so I’m just saying wait on the getting used to them part, because those seeking to exploit, will use that. I’m struggling with friendships as well after being dumped by my “best friend” of 40 years… it’s hard but we have AND add value to others lives. Stay strong. And take a chance

I feel these so strongly, and I feel validated for leaving but, I feel so guilty for leaving her heart broken, but I hadn’t realized how bad things were for months

If someone breaks up with you, remind yourself - constantly- that While you are experiencing a loss, they are experiencing a solution. They don’t feel the way you do. They aren’t sad, they aren’t regretful. They may be a little off balance but it was their decision and they feel empowered. You need to work on yourself.

This one is PERFECT. I actually understand this stuff now that I have started to get my original personality back and with that I can connect with people who don't abuse me with every interaction. Thank you Mel!

Wow! if my intuition wasn't enough this just killed it 🙏🏾

Mel-You are a God send! Thank you!!

Bingo on EVERY sign… I’m 2months out of that relationship. Of cous I get sad (10 yrs) as well as a bit board., but I feel like me again and I feel FREE!!!

@truechamp3404

6 ай бұрын

How are you feeling now?

After listening this..i really don't know what to say..coz I don't know but got tears in my eyes.. sometime i think u says few bitter truth..which we feel inside us but unable to explain in words..thank u so much ❤️❤️

Thank you for the wakeup call. I needed it.

You are definitely on point!

Let it all out. I understand.

I am definitely at the last step!

Oh my!! This is really disturbing!!. I feel all the above!!

Had to set boundaries. Working thru layers of trauma & I don’t want to back slide. I don’t want to close the door on the relationship but I know my self care & self Love have to be grounded before I can give this relationship what it deserves. I’ve seen a pink flag but I also just found out that I had a stalker who was creating blocks & tension by invading all of my devices. Spoke with authorities yesterday. I had to turn them in because I discovered this person was doing it to others as well. Hope your feeling better Mel, keeping you in my prayers. Let’s catch up soon. - Brandy

@brandyhouse2269

Жыл бұрын

No I’m good. My self worth means more to me than something that wasn't mine to begin with...because if he was mine he would’t be doing anything to jeopardize it.

Thank you for this I am just been living this out but because I have no good sense about myself in matters of the heart it’s been over a year coming to this scary reality

This absolutely true

Thank you!!! Confirmation as to how I have been feeling.

Thank you...

yep. that has been the signs

Along with all these they are violent and don't apologise or feel remorse.. things has to go back to normal and am expected to forget everything and go back to b normal. Won't let me live threatening to kill me and family and i know he's capable. I can't go away nor can I stay.. am lost my peace my soul everything. I don't wanna live

@Soo_Blessed

Жыл бұрын

I was there Buy a gun talk to a detective let them know what's going on Get a restraining order I know you feel it won't help but they will probably recommend it you need this documented in case I got to the point it was so awful I didn't care if I died I was living in hell anyway I was there I got out you can too the worst nightmares to think about it never ending

@BeHappyNoMatterWhat

4 ай бұрын

I am so sorry, how are you doing now?

Spot on!

But it's not over if you both recognise your issues and want to work on improving it.

@susanmunoz7688

Жыл бұрын

Watch out for gaslighting!

@steveco1800

Жыл бұрын

@@susanmunoz7688 Yeah I fell for that a few times before breaking up, so wiser to it now. I was accused of emotional blackmail and denying her feelings but it made me so focused on what I'd done wrong I didn't realise I was reacting to her doing them to me in the first place. Maybe I'm naive but I'm not sure she realised, and I wonder how she would've reacted if we both stepped back and looked at the bigger picture to properly forgive each other. Useful lessons for next time 🙂.

@robert4you

Жыл бұрын

Better to walk away and find true love and a fantastic relationship. I've learned it the hard way.

Wow I just understood that all these signs apply to my job and relationship with my supervisor. Time to leave.

@trudymade8008

Жыл бұрын

Good for you!

Thank you!

It's been four years but I always feel like this 😭. Gonna break up, he's not gonna make me feel at peace. He's kind, but we're just not meant for each other.

@BeHappyNoMatterWhat

4 ай бұрын

Hey, I'm sorry you're going through that, how did it go?

Hvala za divne savete koji su tako potrebni u zivotu Sonja

Alll of them very True signs ! Brilliant Mel 🖖🏻

“You will always feel like you’re a less important part of the relationship, because you are.” Dho snap!

@katiemason9727

Жыл бұрын

Bomb drop on that one - damn. Harsh reality.

@phyllisgarcia596

Жыл бұрын

@@katiemason9727 q

Thank you Mel ❤

Makes so much sense.

You hit the nail on the head.

Absolutely 100% i got all of them and now I was divorced. Thanks God

I almost didn’t watch this and then lo and behold the number 2 reason was exactly my issue and so that’s that.

I was thinking very hard about divorcing after 43 years. I have all 5 signs. ❤

Good video. I agree with you 💯 percent.

This is so true.❤

This is soooooo true !!!! 👈

I feel all these things me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday

THANKS FOR YOUR PODCAST . AND HAVE GREATE WEEK . 😂❤😂❤

What I am going through right now.🎯🤙🙌🙌🙌👸

@Soo_Blessed

Жыл бұрын

Run

I like how she's just pointing out normal stuff in every relationship trying to say that they are all failed

Ugh, i needed you last year. Thank you.

Signs 1-5 I woke up aplone, had breakfast alone, dinner alone, work alone, bed alone. its awesome!

Thank u ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Shit. Well I love him and I don’t feel like myself but I love him

WOW! Soooo on point! Always can trust Mel!

I knew it was time to end a friendship because our meetings at our local coffee shop started feeling like I was going to one of those required company meetings that always leave me feeling like I was wasting my time.

Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤

This is how I feel as a teenage boy with my mom

What's crazy is I literally told him every single point that she mentioned in this video on how I was starting to feel and what I was starting to think about the relationship

this is so good

You are SO right. It took me far too long to get this.......I'm NOT exaggerating. If you help even one person with this message it will have been worth your time.

It isnt over until its over

Thank you

You dont feel like yourself and you lose yourself is A BIG PLUS!

Great video

Each and everything matches... it's so fckin heartbreaking

Yes, it is over

True 100%

I’ve been with my man for over 25 years and seeing this video made me realize we actually are losing each other .this made me so mad and then so sad

@kendrickf-d6695

2 ай бұрын

No you are not. You are just going through a rough patch. Don't listen to the internet please.

God damm, being with you is the only sign I need

This was two months in and we didn’t end things for two years. Lesson learned

This is me but with a friendship 😂 I broke up w my friend.

Your Glasses are amazing😊

Yes thank you sis! ❤

Ty 😊

This is the worst because I am so honest and all I get is how he feels he is so much better than me . And how everyone else is the problem.

Spot on!!

Profound Concise Very helpful 💯🌸🌟 Thx

There is only one balance its called freedom. Without that you have nothing.

I matter! When I feel I do not it is time to part. I can not deal with others issues. I am too old and tired for other humans who refuse to help themselves to help the people in their life and rather play victim.

I have all of these 😭😭 I just can’t let go I’m only 14 and I don’t want to leave I don’t know what it would be like without her I’ve spent the last two years with her

Excellent. True.

I relate to all

It's all there

Thank you,so life changing.

This is good!

Crazy to hear this because I actually had all of those 5 signs showing me something was going wrong, but HE is the one who broke up with me, and I am devastated...because to me love can get over those things and work this out ..

So true

Love being single,you'll can have it

Well spoken

THANK YOU

Love Mel!

All signs...but because of his mother.....we were fantastic together