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@uhhh9140

6 жыл бұрын

Psych2Go tysm for the video!! I have a request... lately I can’t feel anything, I think it’s emotional depletion, could you explain the topic?

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

Could be a case of anhedonia. Have you heard the term before? kzread.info/dash/bejne/faGoypmDgNvegZs.html @D. Levakovic, thank you! You're welcome!

@Kfreeks

6 жыл бұрын

Doesn't your website need to have a copyright page or some sort of legal information on it? Just curious about this, as far as I've been aware of, this is standard practice IIRC.

@swordcoregamer3740

6 жыл бұрын

Psych2Go Y s the Mic so shitty

@uhhh9140

6 жыл бұрын

the term anhedonia is somewhat accurate but not completely :l normally i would feel depressed, or extremely happy, but when i sit down and stare at a wall and think, i don't feel anything. i can't feel joy or sadness. it might have been school stress or my previous depressive episode, (that I've gotten over) but i'm really not sure.

I love tip #3. Whenever someone tells me "Oh stop worrying and crying for no reason. People out there have it much worse than you." I feel like I don't deserve to have anxiety. Like I should be happy, but I am not. Guilt creeps in like a shadow on my mind when someone tells me that it could be worse.

@blugaledoh2669

6 жыл бұрын

Well they have a point.

@benjaminwinner9707

6 жыл бұрын

This is why i dont tell people, because everyone goes straight for the "it could be worse" line. I also dont tell because i cant, im scared and frankly I've gotten to a point that i dont what to fix my anxiety.

@katywright8161

6 жыл бұрын

KaceJK SweetMuncher i am so sorry that happens to you...you don't deserve that.

@eli_fi1149

6 жыл бұрын

The problem is I am the guy who's telling me that I should be happy ......

@benjaminwinner9707

6 жыл бұрын

Im sorry :(

The world would be so much better if this was common knowledge

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

That's what this video is for :)

@toastietime606

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah I wish schools would teach this too

@yellowgirlxd6303

6 жыл бұрын

ToastieTime Gaming yeah I wish my school taught this.

@sunomori3723

6 жыл бұрын

Fucking schools are dumb and shit so we can not learn this at school for all reasons

@onettaviator5396

5 жыл бұрын

Chara Lucifer My school only glanced over it on a worksheet once.

Seeing the drawing getting all those hugs makes me really want a hug...

@roguedaskill

6 жыл бұрын

Minwoo Park virtual hug :D \__ |⊙ω⊙| __/

@rainbowocean5075

6 жыл бұрын

*hugs you*^-^

@rodigoduterte9192

6 жыл бұрын

I would like to hug.... opposite sex hug i mean :(

@koiyei

5 жыл бұрын

Digital hug \_(^ ^)_/

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

😃

And don't snap "do you need to go to the mental hospital?" when they cry or overreact to a situation. That will definitely cause them to bottle up.

@sierraa.bryant9322

6 жыл бұрын

My parents do that every single time. They called me insane with the twirling finger thing, literally. I'm so sick of it I want to scream sometimes

@pearlg.7331

5 жыл бұрын

@@sierraa.bryant9322 same, man. My parents say that I'm making up all my problems for attention, and that I should just get over them.

@thinkingofaname6233

5 жыл бұрын

Everything Bagel ask them this “will u start telling my corpse that his problems are made up?” Then walk away. I’d rather have parents worry to death instead of thinking you’re faking everything.

@sicc9893

5 жыл бұрын

Flaros Overfield Idc if this comment is as old as a newborn baby, I’m bored as hell. You’re right, you should seek professional help if you’re mentally ill. I think they mean that people, or more specifically parents, shouldn’t use it as a threat, because a lot of teens still think that mental hospitals are for psychopaths. Plus hospitals are kinda scary imo.

@shiokkotsu

4 жыл бұрын

Yep my “friend” did that and said *she* was scared of *me*

Especially pay attention to rule 3. My dad didnt understand this and told me about how he saw other kids be forced to starve because their parents use the money to buy weed instead, and that i have no reason to be upset, but it just made me feel awful. Like if im upset about "little things" like this, then telling me that it coupd be worse invalidates my opinion, and now i find it hard to talk about my depression with him

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

You can talk in the comment 💓

@thinkingofaname6233

5 жыл бұрын

ProtoSushi 6 good. U can’t open up to ignorant morons like him.

@thinkingofaname6233

5 жыл бұрын

Karm Asutor u can’t open up to the ignoramus that is society.

@elenav.5470

4 жыл бұрын

Right! Like i get it, people have it worse, but it doesn't mean what I'm going through is nothing. And neither is what you're going through everyone has valid problems

@aweirdoandaphone4135

4 жыл бұрын

YOU are so right! I hate eating, I wanted to starve myself to become skinnier, but instead of doing something about my problem, my dad told me that there are millions of children who are starving and that I shouldn’t be so spoiled. Of course, instead of making me feel “better” it just made me feel even worse about myself

I feel terrible because I have done some of these to my friend unintentionally hurting them

@PsychedelicSkull

6 жыл бұрын

Jacob and how would you know you were hurting them? Don't feel bad, it's normal to make those mistakes. I think it would make you feel better if you tell him/her that you've learned that it was wrong, maybe he/she didn't know it was wrong either and can learn too.

@jacob8701

6 жыл бұрын

PsychedelicSkull Well they told me I hurt them and now our friendship is hanging by a thread because she says needs space but that doesn't give me the opportunity to correct all the misunderstanding

@PsychedelicSkull

6 жыл бұрын

Wow, then it's more complicated than I thought. I said that maybe she didn't know because sometimes people get hurt but they think it's their fault instead of the person that told them something hurtful, but if she actually knows, idk... It would still be nice to tell her I think, but when you are better with each other, of course... Good luck, I hope you both feel better soon.

@vincikeeper1581

6 жыл бұрын

Jacob but you didn't know it was wrong ...

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

Me 2 😕

Try being an introvert with Anxiety and Depresion, opening up is much harder

@kingcodester1112

6 жыл бұрын

elderwolf123 Gaming Yeah I'm exaclty the same

@Icedco1a

6 жыл бұрын

elderwolf123 Gaming Same here

@zanya3442

6 жыл бұрын

I have all of those plus social anxiety it can be bad

@hauntedspaghetti8285

6 жыл бұрын

elderwolf123 Gaming v Lllppp

@sealine22aj

6 жыл бұрын

you're not alone

Tip #3 and #4 really hit home. Felt that way many times.

@bomb1515

4 жыл бұрын

Yep, #3 is where my mom does the don'ts in that. #4 is where the speech therapy teacher does the other don'ts.

@buihaiang987

4 жыл бұрын

Same here.

Very valuable information.

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

Glad you found it helpful! Do you have any questions?

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Tbh this is how my parents act about my illnesses. I really want to show them this but I’m scared >.>

@philipp5756

6 жыл бұрын

ρ α η т α visit a doctor and tell him to speak with your mom

@fransiscofaran2469

6 жыл бұрын

:)

@user-dp1dm8zn5c

6 жыл бұрын

Phil Dodi I mean, I already see doctors. They know about my conditions. Also it’s mostly my dad.

@Kevin-py6ik

6 жыл бұрын

ρ α η т α Same. I think they will respond like 'Since when do you have a 'mental illness'' and 'We've always been there for you but you never opened up!'...

@KitaRoque

6 жыл бұрын

i'm sorry you have to deal with this. i know what it's like to have parents that don't want to understand. i stopped trying to reach out after a while. . .it was easier for me too hide my feelings and deal with it myself (admittedly not in the best way) than to constantly be told i'm just over-reacting or making a fuss over nothing. i hope you find someone who will listen, understand and really be there for you ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🖤

But what if you're like me who literally has no friends and a family that encourages your suicidal thoughts/self harming behavior?

@goosevillenews7932

6 жыл бұрын

then bless your heart my child. bless your heart.

@headhole1934

6 жыл бұрын

Well I could be your friend ! (Wait does it sound creepy)

@thesauce2656

6 жыл бұрын

Robocop and Gimli Sorry, thats what im going to do, i guess that was a suggestion, but he/she can find other ways.

@thesauce2656

6 жыл бұрын

Robocop and Gimli Thanks for supporting me its been rough latley, im worthless, i dont have friends, im stupid, im unlovable and everyone hates me.

@thesauce2656

6 жыл бұрын

Robocop and Gimli No, i dont have any social media besides twitter and discord

Tip #6 We are just as baffled by our condition as you are, so you don't have to treat us with pity, just treat us with respect and decency.

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

Very good addition! All the best

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

Agree

@albertrexz7155

2 жыл бұрын

True

Here for the "Don'ts"

@fernandoisaacreyesmorales5562

6 жыл бұрын

Same.

@nyakorii

6 жыл бұрын

S am e he re f riendo

@sourchrys618

6 жыл бұрын

-same-

@faithgutierrez9201

6 жыл бұрын

David Castro smh same

I love knowing how you guys care. 💟

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

The credit goes to the team, really. They are good examples of what psych2go can become.

@mintlover194

6 жыл бұрын

Awe ikr

@bruhmoment13

5 жыл бұрын

Olivia Beakman but... we dont

@ijustwanttoliveaquietlife28

5 жыл бұрын

@@bruhmoment13 They didn't direct shit to you

Don't tell me to get over it. That pisses me off.

@Laffey99

6 жыл бұрын

Get over it.

@ijustwanttoliveaquietlife28

5 жыл бұрын

@Karm Asutor so do you have any idea how to be helpful??

@ahelpfulcomputer3689

4 жыл бұрын

Yeach me too.We both have a mental disorder that we...Just start to like the illneses,we dont want to get over it.For others,its really bad,but for us...Its both.It makes us feel good,like, because you have depression.But lets say,you feeling guilty for ashaming a friend,bcos you have depression,but bcos of that another disorder,you feel good,like becouse you want an anti social disorder that you want to develop.They confuse the brain,like for me.This disorder is rare,I guess,but its becoming more common.Sorry I forgot the name.

@sohamdeshmukh7904

3 жыл бұрын

@@Laffey99 no u get over it

@arandomhumanontheinternet617

2 жыл бұрын

@@Laffey99 but what was the point in commenting this

well this explains a lot of my behavior towards the people around me.

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

My parents don't believe I have depression and they do every single don't on this list to the point where I pretty much want to kill myself. They don't even bother to research. They think they know everything... 😢😢😧

@Kevin-py6ik

6 жыл бұрын

Lavender Purple Girl Be careful with asking for a diagnose! I could give you a whole list of negative results or write a story about myself, but the most important thing being, once you've been diagnosed, it won't go away (easily). I hope you'll be alright and wish the best! Parents are parents, they think they're close to you, but little do they know. Enjoy the good things in life. And remember, the person writing this will care about you. 🙂

@iadoreapplehead

6 жыл бұрын

Lavender Purple Girl I can relate, but I managed to get out of my depression by talking to a professional, who of course didn’t do any of the don’ts. If you haven’t contacted one yet I suggest you do, because I felt extremely lonely not being able to talk to someone who just simply listened and understood, plus loneliness is the worst feeling I have ever experienced, that alone made me want to kill myself. I literally had nobody to talk to at the time. I was so frustrated with my family that they only ever talk about rainbows and sunshine but I’ve come to accept it, well, almost... it still stings sometimes, but overall I can live with it now.

@rainbowocean5075

6 жыл бұрын

*hugs you*...I know how that feels...I used to just be depressed at home and school. school is better...but home is not...my parents wanders why I don't open up...it is that same reason like yours...but...maybe...just maybe things will get better...I know you are at your breaking point...but don't give up...I believe in you^-^...

@CamoronZ

6 жыл бұрын

As Elise Tanis said, I think best solution is talking to a therapist, tell your parents to go there after that. I believe that people who has mental illnesses have many great talents but they just cant make it happen, once you can get over it, Im pretty sure you would have many great achievements and live happily ever after.

@rainbowocean5075

6 жыл бұрын

Nguyễn Thuận it can be a little more complicated than that especially depending on their personality. They will probably tell you that you know nothing. That or what if the family can't even afford a therapist what do they do then?

Why am i crying while watching this ? I feel like finally someone understand me

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

thegreyvanilla we hope this video could help :)

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

Crying of relieve maybe

@ring0fire

2 жыл бұрын

At least 1.5 billion people on earth suffer from depression. You're never alone 😊

timestamps: 0:46 tip #1. dont allow your negative emotions to be visible 1:25 tip #2. do show them that you still care 1:53 tip #3. dont tell or remind them that it could be worse 2:48 tip #4. dont try to relate how they feel to your own experiences, that is unless you have the same illness of course 3:33 tip #5. do try and research their illness

@Bodangers

11 ай бұрын

I feel bad. When I saw the scars I had a panic attack and cried. This caused them to be so concerned

If anyone could make Russian or German subtitles to this I could show it to my mom. She's been trying to help me with my mental health but has been doing all the don'ts on this list. Constantly. I've been crying a lot and I want her to understand...

@cora1689

6 жыл бұрын

Hey sweetheart! I just made subtitles for this video in german. I hope they help! Please always keep in mind, you are not alone and your mother is trying to help you even though she isn't doing it in a helpful way. I am sure she will be able to support you better after she's watched the video. I hope you have a good day!

@Alysana2604

6 жыл бұрын

Cora16 Thank you so, so much for this. I am sure it will help her understand me a little bit more.

@prestonreilly4049

6 жыл бұрын

Your not alone person , but I believe we all have forms of " mental illness " I lust ex's I have ADHD , showing signs of OCD among other s also S.A.D syndrome okay ? We all love each other I especially love you ! I also have really bad anxiety because I was abused physically, emotionally among other things just do your best okay ? Your a wonderful person! Just keep your head up high and give your all okay !

@nilsix2371

6 жыл бұрын

Cora16 thank you so much. You are a good person. God bless you

Point #3 hit so close to home for me, that I actually started to cry. I'm going to show this to my loved ones. Thank you for this.

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

We hope it helps, all the best

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

Verry good crying relieves recognizing put things in place and you show them so they can understand good job

this is very helpful, my boyfriend has OCD and I want to help him as much as possible and this will help me accomplish that

@hasamat38

6 жыл бұрын

Alien Skunk OCD sucks

@dylmason2k7

6 жыл бұрын

I’m glad he has your support! Ocd is really stigmatised! It comes in all forms from ROCD - Relationship OC HOCD- thinking you’re gay Then to probably the worst POCD Really ocd is anything it can get your reaction from, I ended up getting committed due factory’s of ocd and other things. ROCD really made me lose not only my girlfriend of almost 3 years but my best friend too..all the reassurance I asked her, and all the intrusive thoughts we buried.

@ela6252

6 жыл бұрын

my dad and my sister has ocd but can’t help

@hasamat38

6 жыл бұрын

Fallen Angels I hate myself for having OCD it's such a pain in the ass.

@r3apergaming177

6 жыл бұрын

On behalf of all of us who have O.C.D. Thank you I always want assistance with some issues that I have throughout the day, but whenever I ask for help my family tend to get annoyed with me for the one thing that I ask of them. Like it's such a burden on them and I know that they don't understand, but with them getting annoyed with me it just makes me feel like I shouldn't ask them to help me, like I'm worse off than I think and I just get angry in general because it's ONE THING I'm asking from them out of the hundreds of compulsions that I get daily. I wish they could try living with my brain for one day and see how much better they feel about their own life after that, much better I think. It's exhausting and just makes you feel bad about yourself when everyone is staring at you with judging eyes not even trying to hide it and then that just gets you more and more depressed which causes more and more compulsions to start up. I'm pretty reclusive now and just sit in my room where I know everything is clean and this is where I feel the safest, away from everyone's judgment, but at least I'm not as depressed anymore and have even been able to work through some of my compulsions alone. My psychiatrist wants to put me on medication to help, but my O.C.D. makes me view this as weakness that i can't even control my own mind not to mention I am also bipolar and as well as a little schizophrenic. I'm not sure if you are going to read this, but if you do I would recommend that if you have been together with your boyfriend and are both comfortable with each other don't say you understand how he feels because trust me, YOU DON'T. Instead plan a day for him to explain everything going through his mind for the entire day and everything that bugs him throughout the day (I wish someone would do this for me so they can see why I'm so worn down all of the time) just don't judge him negatively for anything that he says have a day of total honesty and by the end you will better understand why he does some of the things he does its a chemical imbalance that just makes you feel things. If you want to understand the general feeling of O.C.D. (do this now) imagine your favorite food think of the taste think of the texture, the smell the best one you ever had... NOW STOP you can't can you now imagine a sense of anxiety on top of that (like life or death anxiety) that's how one part of O.C.D. feels of course there are many different branches of it and they all feel different from one another anyways I wish you all the best and if you try this I hope it only helps bring you two that much closer together good luck trying to understand what goes on inside our heads because we certainly don't. All the best ~R3APER

For some of us, the damage done by someone who is mentally ill is beyond repair and dealing with them 24-7, can be exhaustive. Sometimes, (not all of the time), when you try to establish boundaries, (Because YOUR well being is being compromised and you are in self preservation mode) with someone who has mental health issues may not work, depending on their illness. Sometimes the pain and the hurt caused by someone is so great and occurs on a daily basis, that the person who is on the receiving end of the abuse MUST remove themselves from the equation. No one should be FORCED to have a relationship with someone who is psychotic, abusive, refuses to see a "legitimate psychiatrist or psychologist", and/or is non-compliant with their medication. Sorry, this is my opinion, and the author of this video may not like it. It all depends on the individual, the correct diagnosis, and the circumstances surrounding the situation.

Tip 7: If I personally tell you with no one else around, that means I trust you. Don’t go telling other people about their mental illness. You may think it is helpful, but it may make their problem worse.

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

Yup

@cadenceboatright317

Жыл бұрын

I think the bigger thing is that people come to me for help or to talk to, and even though I deal with some serious mental health I try to use my experiences and what helped me to get through a situation but I’d never tell them I’d understand because every mental illness is extremely diverse. There’s a fine line between talking about your own illness and experiences vs. your own illness and coping skills that genuinely helped you yk. I love the conversations this channel brings. If I offended you or may sound awful I’d love to be told that it isn’t okay so I can better help my friends and even myself, thank you

I especially agree about tip #3. When people tell me about how much worse that other people's lives are, I feel like I'm the worst person in the world. Instead of thinking "Wow I am awesome and my life could be way worse!" I think "I shouldn't feel bad when others have it worse. I'm just a selfish brat who doesn't deserve what she has. I'm a terrible person."

@Dragonmoon98

5 жыл бұрын

Same here. Although, I am curious as to how far these thoughts went in your case.

@thinkingofaname6233

5 жыл бұрын

Fluffystuff 500 nah, my thought on this is “my problems shouldn’t be invalidated because a kid in Africa is dying.

I wish my ex boyfriend would try anything like this to help me.. But I never feel more lonely with someone who act like my mental illness is not real.

@Is0River

6 жыл бұрын

I try to not. But I'm pretty sure if he would take it serious I would still be with him now. It was so toxic in the end that I could not do this anymore.. And now I feel still so lonely

@barbaraperez8785

3 жыл бұрын

I relate to this completely. My ex used to make light of it (making fun of me) by minimizing my anxiety as a personality weakness or overall lack of virtue. Even saying I was possessed by demons. Yeah we’re not together. But I have slowly forgiven him as I cannot carry any more bitterness.

I loved this video theres no 'loved one' in my life, everyone leaves 😭😭 My friends, my girlfriend.. Edit: thank you for your support guys! I have found boyfriend and my life became a bit better :,3

@moonlightmochi884

6 жыл бұрын

FluF kins i feel the same way, but I guess that if they leave you they weren’t worth your time anyway

@korax5668

6 жыл бұрын

TheSQUALLERS Immer wieder gut that is one side to look at and i think partially you are right. it is important to self-reflect and think of others. however, we must be reminded that we are enough the way we are. and if our so-called 'loved ones' cannot see it the same way, then they don't truly love us.

@death.thricedrawn9939

6 жыл бұрын

TheSQUALLERS Immer wieder gut before you judge a man, walk two moons in their moccasins

@dashnsmash

6 жыл бұрын

Well, instead of looking at how many people left you, how about looking at the people who stayed with you? Besides, you deserve better than friends who doesn't treat you as one back. It's ok to feel sad, but don't let that feeling overcome you. Just have some fun in life. You only live once.

@kingcodester1112

6 жыл бұрын

Well I've never got to experience either (well I do have friends but we don't talk much though besides from 1-2. Sadly I had 3 leave over the past 5 years, only talking to one of them recently) so hopefully that makes you feel a little better, maybe?

Another one could be to not treat the person like they are their mental illness

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

Of course. That's a great point. Maybe we can do a follow up article or video on how to act around people with mental health issues?

That's funny. My dad has done all of the don'ts 🙂 and no research has been done

@everydayonesurah3714

6 жыл бұрын

same 😣🙄

@iforgotmynameagain9512

4 жыл бұрын

A. Same

@nirupampratapgiri7757

4 жыл бұрын

A. Same lol! Freakin boomers have no clue

Thank you for tip 1. I needed to hear it. Honestly sometimes I react selfishly, and I feel so disgusting after. Now my girlfriend is in a mental hospital and all I can do is regret how Ive reacted and feel like its my fault

@a_tree_in_the_forest

2 жыл бұрын

How is she doing?

My parents were exactly like this, caring and understanding, exceptionally towards my illness, and it's comforting to know that somebody is watching this to learn how to deal with someone who's going through something that isn't exactly 'good'. It really does matter how the people you love and treat you, and if they care and offer help, it makes the situation a little more bearable.

Now i realize the many mistakes that i have made with someone i love who was a mental illness. Hope i can make it better now. Thank u for this information, i really appreciate it.

If only the people around me knew about this

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

I know it can be hard, especially when people around you aren't as understanding as they should be, or simply don't know how to help... But luckily, maybe by showing them this video they can learn what not to say and how best to help. It's worth a try!

@moonlightmochi884

6 жыл бұрын

Psych2Go ik but there’s still such taboo about mental illness, i don’t want them to see me in a stereotypical way. even if I explain things to them, they will think so anyway until they experience something like it

@metfanmetfan1477

5 жыл бұрын

Knew what please tell i can't guess

i swear this channel reads my mind. every time i’m dealing with anything the EXACT video i need pops up. thank you bunches for all the help this channel provides!

I needed this video so much! My best friends are going through depression and I’m trying so hard to make them happy. It IS frustrating sometimes and it makes me feel so lost when I can’t help them, sometimes they leave me speechless and I have to know what to do, thank you so much.

Tip #1 should be ajusted a bit. Of course you are allowed to show you emotions, its all about the degree of emotion shown. Fe. It´s ok to cry if what you´re told makes you sad, as long as you dont start to throw a crying fit while someone is opening up to you. You´re always allowed to show your emotions, positive and negative just be considerate in such situation. (Yelling fe. may be how you feel like, but won´t make the situation better)

@necrodancer1876

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I felt like tip #1 should've been clarified a bit more cause it could be a bit misleading.

Gonna write a long paragraph as always as this video is mega useful. Starting with how good of a job the narrator did on explaining all the do's and don'ts. I felt like this video went more in-depth on tips than others, which I liked. These can really help out people, even though I think with a majority of subscribers who came here to learn more about themselves/want to relate, the audience for who this video is actually meant won't be achieved, unfortunely. Oh yea, I'm not sure why the title says 'Mental Illness'. This video can be way more generalised. I'm shy, which is not an illness to me, but these tips would help nonetheless. I don't know how to put it in different words though. Maybe 'How to help people with their 'Personal Issues''? Anyway, point is, this video can help more people than just those with a mental illness. A couple of weeks ago I talked to a girl whose friend was sad as his friend got cancer and can't be cured. She wants to help him, but he doesn't really open up she said. So I always look from my perspective, what I would need, and give advise, but always hate to put stress on myself rather than the other person. After this video I feel kind of guilty too. I wish I could help people without always writing a long ass paragraph from my own perspective. Arrr 😣

@greenbird777

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Kevin: From what I can see, you don't have anything to feel guilty about. What I hear is someone w/ a kind heart expressing themselves w/ clarity & meaning. It seems to me that the only time we should be very careful to keep the focus on the other person is if they're in crisis, or clearly need for someone to simply listen. I tend to be wordy & rambling - it's good to be aware of that, but honestly, the goal is not to be totally selfless, but to find a balance between your needs & the needs of others. It seems that you use writing as a way to think things out, get to a place of understanding. Compassion has to start w/ "How would I feel if that were me?" - we have no other way to start the process of understanding others.

@onskimpy

2 жыл бұрын

@@greenbird777 wow. Thank you both for your thoughts. I love how both were kind and in a meaningful way just truly trying to understand. Great ideas here, i agree we all have our own way of processing information, understanding it, and in all that wanting to add to the helping and understanding. 🤗 kindness grounds understanding

Why does everyone act like I chose to be like this? They say I just have to relax and ignore it. They say that the others have worst problems. They say that I will never be able to live my life, cause I'm scared of everything. Wanna know what? I know that, and it makes me feel a horrible person

About a month ago I started panicking over a project while my OCD was acting up (in multiple ways). A girl in my group didn’t understand what was going on so I had to explain what OCD was. Then she said “why don’t you have an emotional support dog.” I was shooketh

@PeaceofMindEnterprises

10 ай бұрын

Dogs are better then drugs get a little one they will always love u regardless Peace

Very ACCURATE and it’s probably why I don’t open up to most people when it comes to Depression

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. Well, I guess I open up normally to noone but myself

My parents seriously just talk about their own stories, and when I said I t wasn't helpful, my mom got so mad. *Sigh*

Thank you very much to the staff of Psych2go, i had making this mistakes with my mom more than a decade. All because of my ignorance in how to deal not with mental illnesses but with trauma, pain, fear and so on.

Very cool video! Its vital to outline what to do and what not to do in mental illness thanks for outlining some of them.The ability to empathise and regulate your own emotions when discussing someone else's mental health issues. Really good advice here!

So basically I did a thing on my Instagram which was like, "tell me any grudges against me before the decade ends". A friend of mine confessed. We had a deep talk and were in mutually good terms. Finally she told me about the stuff she was going through, so did I. She stated that she had family problems, so she loved being in school, but now she has some issues in school too and she doesn't know what to do. Even I suffer from anxiety, mild depression and mental health issues and my mother is a psycologist so I have quite some idea on how to comfort people. I just feel our problems are so different and on different magnitudes but I still feel connected to her because of it. Idk about myself but I need to make her feel better and I feel like I am bound to after all she has told me so I just need suggestions and help on how to make her feel safe and comforted.

this is so true! once again great video! keep up the great work!

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your support! :)

Thank you so much, I've been so worried for my friend and I want to support her in the best way

This is very helpful. Even though I have a whole BA in Psychology, I needed this reminder. when a loved one is going through this, it's tempting to take their reactions personally or feel annoyed / impatient when they are spiralling. I'm going to do better moving forward

Rant I'm so tired of being everyone of my friends therapists they keep refusing my help then come begging for advice and the cycle repeats, one drags my other friends into the loophole, but I'm here because I'm concerned about another friend, I must not help myself untill I help everyone else Thanks for listening I been meaning to rant but idk where

This video almost made me cry.. because these are things I wish my family & friends knew to help me with my anxiety & depression... I often end up not saying anything when I have an “anxious” day or a “down” day because they tend to do all the “don’t” things & I end up feeling very alone & guilty.. this video says all the things I’ve tried to say... I’m going to share it as much as I can! Thank you so much!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Amazing video, it was really helpful and I wish I could show it to everyone. You are my favourite YT channel, keep up the good work

These were all really good tips! I most especially agree with tip #3. As a person who suffers from multiple different mental illnesses, it would be great if people used these with me when talking to me about them.

*Everyone I've ever spoken to has done the don'ts*

This is when I'm happy that both of my parents are psychologists, because they can probably sense when I'm finding it really hard better than a lot other people, and it's really gratifying to hear that.

I really liked the content, and editing & animation/illustrations for this video! Great work. Thank you.

I really enjoy this channel, I have seen a lot of videoes. This is with out the one I love the most 🙏🏽 I find it so hard because people don’t understand and they get so mad at me. I more often than not feel so worthless. I have been hiding my true feelings for 11 years because I have to develop a social face. Because it’s too hard for people to hear my story. I have been trying for so many years to find others who understood me, I can’t find them so I have to turn to the professionals now and isolate myself from social contact meanwhile. So thank you for being a little light in my really really hard times.

Well I don't have much friend relationships, don't interact with others, and will unfortunately never get to at least experience a relationship with a girl so I'm a drama free person luckily. Then again some of these things are the cause of my depression, also being an Introvert with Anxiety. Everyday I'm constantly dreaming about a life where I'm happy but as we all know, most dreams never come true

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

At least we can enjoy the simple things in life? Like nature?

I regret opening up to my friends that i've known for years and 'trusted' too well about my depression and anxiety. Almost everyone promised to always be with me and never leave me. But sadly, nobody is actually walking their talk. And some even showed their true colors. After I met my therapist, i've decided to move on and leave them before they even have the chance to hurt me even more, coz i'm done. I'm done with them. I deserve me time and to learn how to love myself after years and neverending years of hatred towards me. Maybe I am opening up little by little with my family, i'm breaking down my own wall that i've built over the years. But I can't helo feeling that maybe i'm digging an underground tunnel that no one will ever know. Apparently, I still haven't learn how to NOT keep my emotions and feelings to myself. I'm just basically, broken.

I have a friend who talks about her depression a lot and she’s very negative and it’s hard to talk to her when she’s constantly reminding me about her negative feelings when I don’t ever mention my feelings; I don’t want to spread negativity on her and make it worse. It’s also hard when she says stuff like “how are you so happy all the time” or other things when I just always act happy and mentally healthy for her. So this video was helpful and I hope I can help deal with helping her feel better

I wish I had seen this video when it first came out! I have several close friends who struggle with mental illness, and I have been totally guilty of 3 and 4. I feel like because they loved me they wouldn’t necessarily tell me that what I was saying was bad for them. I have also been deeply frustrated by my persons, mental illness, and although I definitely avoided 1 and 2 I think the frustration came out in 3 and 4. Anyway, here’s to being better loved ones to our loved ones!

*shows video to parents*

Its so sad when someone you love is the sweetest but severely mentally ill. And get abused so badly and their parents REALLY DO NOT CARE..... Some people shouldn't have kids

If you can’t help, don’t help at all... Thanks so much for sharing these knowledges, had been struggling with eating disorder, open up to family but they make me feel much worst than I already am...

Tip 3 is really important! I’m always told it can be worse when I try to tell people I think I might be depressed. So I just kinda gave up on trying to tell them. It wasn’t until recently where my mom found a letter I wrote that explained my feels that she started to stop doing that. I had to write my feelings down because I felt talking to people, especially in person, was going to get me nowhere and they normally interrupt with, “it could be worse.” Which like you said, made me feel extremely guilty because I live a good life compared to others but I’m still depressed. “I don’t have the right to feel this way,” is what goes through my head when I hear that. She still kinda does it but it’s a lot less now. She’s slowly understanding me a bit better and how it’s not a simple as telling me to be positive when it comes helping. She luckily learned that my brain likes to twist positivity on its head and let it pass out, making it negative again. So she’s more patient with me when helping me.

Well I failed to express these qualities to a friend of mine as I myself was suffering from a mental illness and i literally didn't have the energy to hear that person's problem as I was literally drained out

Just to 'i love u', 'u are amazing the way u are' or 'u are special' then hug me i gonna cry my eyes out, i feel like they are just faking it even if is my mom...just i cant, those words makes me cry feel like more nothing than i already am..i know there in other parts of the world are pp suffering,being in between wars, having more problems than me and most pp....

This channel is helping me so much. Thank you guys, you're really amazing people

Most of my friends have some sort of mental illness, mostly anxiety and depression, and I struggled to try and deal with them. This video has helped me lots! Thank you for making it!

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

I didn't know anyone can have that cause you know...we're surrounded by normal people

..I tried laying it down slowly. I was struggling with depression, so I told my mom that I was stressed, and I would like to talk to my old therapist. And guess what. She laughed. She told me that I'm just worrying too much because I'm distracted. I tried pretending like it was fine, but I broke and cried. That's when she _finally_ realizes something's wrong. _Always_ take an attempt at explaining things seriously. Some people really needs it.

Interesting how my ex did exactly the opposite of everything and called me a psycho every day besides knowing I had a severe depression and PTSD. Cool.

@sierraa.bryant9322

6 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

Fuck your ex. I got PTSD too! Having PTSD doesn't mean we're psychos. Just people who are mentally ill just like how people can be physically ill

This helped me a lot! I just wish I had the courage to show this video to my parents. Though, as someone who suffers from psychosis and has a boyfriend with bipolar disorder (as well as both of us having a handful of other illnesses. Hooray for us) this helped me as well. Thank you. ♥

Sometimes i feel like my friends dont really understand, i know they are trying to help. But they dont understand that saying "Get over with it. Just ignore it. Stop working so hard. Why dont you just love yourself more? Why are you not listening to me??? Just do what i say!" Is making it feel worse for me because i cant rebutal what they say because i dont wanna hurt their genuine help by saying "I am hurt by what you say." So i can only say "Its not that easy as you say..." and they will just say "Of course its not easy because you are not even listening and constant going against what i am telling you!" I feel terribly in pain hearing this. And am kinda questioning myself if i am the bad one all this while....

@klltsun_2576

4 жыл бұрын

No, it's their fault for not being as understanding. If they really cared they would've researched about your illness and learned that they shouldn't have said those things. Maybe send them this video or other videos that can help them understand

Too much effort... They wouldn't make so many efforts for me...everybody chose what s easier and convenient for them😶

@imunderyourbed8082

6 жыл бұрын

Crys BG sadly true. Some just act like they didn’t know in the first place... but I am sure there is someone who cares, you might just not know them yet

@Mamda07

6 жыл бұрын

That's because we are always expected to be the ones who change. Since we are the ones bothered and acting different than what society expects, we are to change. I hope you eventually find someone who will be that true support. Lonely without it.

Tip #6 which is VERY important: Do not ever put your own mental health behind theirs. Do not make them fake promises (promises that you can't actually hold), tell them false stuff to make them feel better and stuff like that. Do not invest yourself in their issues more than you are able to. It can cause them to become dependant, which is terrible for both people. And they can feel betrayed and let down if you suddenly snap because you can't handle it anymore. Stay. Honest. This comes from a person who has been on both sides and can tell it is hell to live.

my parents told my whole family and even some of my friends about my anxiety/depression/PTSD and now everyone is trying to give me their unsolicited advice as if they know what I’m going through.... no one was there when the trauma happened but now that I’m struggling mentally and physically they all want to be here for me it’s really overwhelming

I've been dealing with ocd since 8 years now. I didn't really get mental help all this while because of poor knowledge about it. But after all these years I rushed to my college counselor as I was getting into a depressive state. Finally, my treatment started but I'm having hard time getting my family members know what I'm actually going through. Sometimes I just don't feel like getting out of bed and doing my chores but they don't get it. They feel I'm just being lazy. Things have been more tough for me especially after covid and lockdown. But I'm still trying. I know it's tough but we'll have to keep going. Don't lose hope guys. Things will get better. Just don't give up 🙂

Everyone should take note of tip 3

Also, understand and remember that it’s an illness they’re going through. It’s not something they can easily control by will. Like a physical illness, it needs time, dedication, and proper support for it to be handled and managed.

Im so glad i freaking found this video. Like, imma give it to someone to they know how to help me with my mental ilness. This Video MUST BE SPREAD!! Its so true

This video is so helpful and shows me I have definitely done a lot of wrong. Thanks for helping me support my Son.

I feel shitty because I’ve done some of these in the past with my manic GF without knowing. But good information to know now.

@okthen4215

3 жыл бұрын

Me too except its a friend of mine

3:35 INTERNET EXPLORER SHOULD BE FAR IN THE BACK BECAUSE ITS SSSSSLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWW

tip #2 is REALLY important to me. i always feel horrible because people don’t show me that they care about me.

I have a brother who is mentally ill. We live apart atm and I miss him a lot. But somehow I am afraid to talk to him bc I might hurt his feeling. This video is important for me who still try to approach someone with unique condition.

@knightlyskye2993

2 жыл бұрын

I relate to this very much. I also watched this video in the hopes of better understanding my brother. I wish you guys well.

Best audio quality

My family is extreamly guilty of all of these except #5. I would show them this video, but I don't think they would appreciate it.

I loved the animation!! It shows a lot more then words can say.

Opened up to my parents about my issues like 3 weeks ago, gotta say they did most of the don'ts, or at least my mother. She didn't speak to me for a few days at all and went back to smoking.. my dad tried to be understanding but played the "some people have it worse than you" card. A week later it seemed like they totally forgot about it. Man does it suck to have no one to turn to.

For me, it's worse when my mom starts going on about how she now has two kids in therapy. "How did I go wrong as a parent?" It just makes me feel infinitely worse. I feel like I just want to stop existing, because I can't seem to just fix myself on my own. I've been in therapy for around a year. I started when I was in a better mood, but I started to go lower over time. I'm struggling quite a lot against a pretty deep depression. I'm barely taking care of myself. Add to that, trying to put energy into a job, and dealing with my mom's increasing anxiety and depression. I'm so tired. I can't seem to get much more than 4-6 hours of sleep each night. As soon as I wake up, my brain won't let me go back to sleep. My therapist switched to the children's division, so I need to get a new therapist. Honestly, I don't feel like getting a new therapist. Especially since my mom keeps bemoaning how she has two of her kids in therapy. I'm just so tired of dealing with this crappy world. Everything takes so much energy, then add on the shirt that society piles on. Sorry for the verbal vomit, I just needed to get it out.

Tip #3 i agree on mostly. Whenever i try to open up to certain people, they tell me about other people around the world. That makes me feel guilty. Like i should just force my optimistic side out. Like i should suddenly feel better because others are going through worse. I know that others feel worse, but I feel bad too. What people don’t realize is that you can’t tear others down by saying stuff like that, even with good intentions. It usually makes them feel worse about themselves and.... Well, let’s just say that it gets to your head. I’m sorry if this sounds repetitive, but it’s an important topic.

Very helpful video! Ive been reacting wrong around a family member for years. Thank you for the advice.

Thank you for your message iam going through it now and it is very important to have support and love . God bless hope all goes well for everyone who is in this situation cheers

“Without this, they may feel like no one cares” Sounds familiar, like the people at my school

Wish people knew these facts before making me feel worse.

This is informative and basic information everyone should know. I forwarded it to my sister, who needed reminding.

Excellent vid! Guys and gals, share this around the web wherever it’s appropriate! It -could- will end up really helping someone.

@Psych2go

6 жыл бұрын

Hey Larry, glad you think this video could be helpful! We will also try to get more words out about it too!

#1 is really hard to do. I’m human and I have feelings too. I feel terrible when I get compassion fatigue and can’t keep up my “strong one” role indefinitely.

me: oh look, maybe someone will help me with this my brain: yeah, if anyone ever care about you.. me: *cries*

@sierraa.bryant9322

6 жыл бұрын

YES man, YES

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

What about the people behind Psych2go?

@gigilyon3438

4 жыл бұрын

There are people out there who care about you, sometimes that can be hard to remember when you're hurting. You're going to be ok :)

OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH MY FRIENDS NEED TO SEE THIS (they don't know how to deal with me ) my mum does that like saying oh people are way worst with cancer . my best friend did that with my depression she was trying to relate to me and sounding worse than me like she doesn't have my illnesses

This video is incredible and everyone should remember this. There is one thing I’d add though, some people with depression will actually like listening to other people’s stories as a way out, a distraction from their own problems. For me, it made me feel guilty, and that I shouldn’t feel the way I did as people had it worse. But for others, like a friend of mine who I’ve been helping through their depression, it made them feel better as they didn’t have to think about their own problems.