Beautiful. No heavy makeup. no visible tattoos. No huge fake eyelashes. This is what a wife looks like.. FIne....Strong.well spoken. smart. Bet she handles her man well too. Without yelling and using foul language.. A good woman is a blessing from God. A smart man knows this and treats her accordingly.

@Creditkae

Жыл бұрын

Fit feminine and friendly

@anyamiranda9452

Жыл бұрын

You only find her very attractive because she's in great physical shape. Literally billions of women like how you described, yet they aren't even given a second look by męn.

@Anonymous-cl2es

Жыл бұрын

@@anyamiranda9452 💯💯

@jonothandoeser

Жыл бұрын

What if she has a tattoo on her back?

@SupremeNerd

Ай бұрын

Hence not visible​@@jonothandoeser

The thing that will get a woman divorced or single for life: saying disrespectful things about your husband to another man . That woman would not even know why I left the marriage or relationship without any notice.

@rbean1954

Жыл бұрын

Facts. I ghosted a woman once for this same thing.

@alfonsinakay333

Жыл бұрын

It works the other way around as well, my ex-husband did this to me.

@d0cn0tes

Жыл бұрын

@@alfonsinakay333 women usually cheat when that happens and stay . Strong men leave and find another woman

Wow. Been married 20 years to a masculine man and I can say you hit the nail on the head with each of these points!🤜🏼😁

She knows her stuff!! There’s a lot to be learnt in this video regarding the nature of men, and the nature of women!! Well done sis 🖤

@KINGDEVON16

Жыл бұрын

#SnappleFactz

@damrhy

Жыл бұрын

As a masculine man, Sara is absolutely correct. Respect and accountability is huge for men.

@damrhy

Жыл бұрын

As a masculine man, Sara is absolutely correct. Respect and accountability is huge for men. Challenging (or perceived) his masculinity typically is not fruitful.

Wow a woman who gets it. This is a breath of fresh air.

I have not been in a relationship in YEARS. So I’ll keep that in mind for when I am.

This is why, above all else, I can't engage with a man I don't respect. If, at the very beginning, I can tell that he doesn't have any sense or is not qualified to lead, I break it off, because I know that it'll manifest as distrust (and, unfortunately, disrespect) on my end. I have no problem with submission - provided he's built himself up to be more capable of leading than I am. Being male in and of itself doesn't warrrant submission. Respect is earned, not given.

@idkjackman4418

Жыл бұрын

True.. and so is a man committing to you with his love. Remember.. regardless of what you think he is, can you be a help meet to him.. Just because he doesnt look like he cant lead, he probably just needs some help and ppl like you may miss it.. unless The spirit of God intervenes.

@gregorylatta8159

Жыл бұрын

What do you bring to the table???

Please do more because these help me so much. I am guilty of all four and I'm cringing at myself right now.

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

Don’t beat yourself up. The first step is to become aware, the next step is to apply this information by creating new habits and routines. And you’ve got my number if you have questions.😉

@ernestsmothers8355

Жыл бұрын

My my my seriously, i honestly thought it was on purpose, i would think (THIS WOMAN IS DOING HER BEST TO MAKE ME MISERABLE) now i have a whole new perspective.

@ricklogan6240

Жыл бұрын

A black woman who will admit she's been wrong. Now that's a rare thing to hear. Glad to hear your readywilling and able to cooperate with the man in your life. God bless you both moving forward with your relationship.

@bangryman100

Жыл бұрын

I'm sure you've heard this from a man. Men are direct. We really don't do double meanings.

@Tourbillion9048

Жыл бұрын

Jenni B glad you see what Sarah is saying. Praise God that you were open minded enough to listen to her and reflect on yourself. Some females will just shut out what she is saying. Knowing is half the battle. Peace and love my sister

I’m only half way through this video and I’m about to cry from relief of someone articulating and explaining these things perfectly.

I never thought I'd see that day that a woman ACTUALLY UNDERSTOOD A MAN it's..... it's Beautiful 😍 you are single handedly restoring faith in Humanity ❤️

I can't stress to you ladies enough how incredibly accurate this advice is. Especially number 3. With the right man, not a weak beta chump. Trust me when I tell you that heeding these principles will only benefit you in both the short and long term. Freedom through submission.

@ricklogan6240

Жыл бұрын

To describe a beta male as weak is narrow minded thinking to say the least. Every man & women have certain characteristics that are compatable to someone of the opposite sex. That's what makes us all different and what makes the world go round.

@Noidonthaveadollar

23 күн бұрын

Very masculine of you to talk down on other men because you both don’t see life through the same lens .

Your so right about women listening to others instead of their man. I had a girlfriend whom I had been trying to get to workout with me for YEARS. I was an Air Force Police Officer and an avid bodybuilder who weights 250lbs, works out 4 days a week and I run 3 days a week and eats nutritious foods and supplements with protein etc. So she never wanted to run or workout with me, but she goes out of town to a mutual friends house and proceeds to send me pictures of her running with our mutual friends and listening to their diets plans....mind you none are even in 1/2 a good as shape as I am respectfully! I was told by my other friends that she obviously ignored my advice on purpose to somehow disrespect or disavow what I say, despite me having a general track record of good health and fitness. I now realize she was somehow jealous and ironically she came down with blood suger and blood pressure issues around the time I broke up with her smh. I listen to anybody that can help me because not doing so only hurts ME.

@okaySam

Жыл бұрын

Pride and ego. Many woman can't accept a mans leadership despite seeking a man that is objectively better than them.

I ❤️ this video, amazing video, I dated a very masculine woman whom I told her time and time again watch her tone, she said " your sensitive, I gave her silence, no argument it drove her crazy, she hung up the phone, I didn't call back, by the time she reached out I had moved on, there is also power in silence. suscribed . peace

#3 hit home for me. I broke off an engagement because she would questions and argue over any advice or solution I gave her yet when a stranger would say the same thing it was the best thing since sliced bread.

@powerbad696

Жыл бұрын

Had an ex-fiancee when I lived in Philly,she told me one day-she wanted to be SPOILED and treated like a QUEEN.I told her when she started treating me like a KING,I'd treat her like a QUEEN.She didn't,so I didn't. LOL.Later on down the road I went and joined the army.One of the best decisions I made at that time.

@tammier8860

Жыл бұрын

I feel you on that.

@w3n33dam1racl3

Жыл бұрын

She didn't trust you

I'm guilty of the last one. And thats exactly what I thought was that I was setting a boundary. I'm going to work on my wording with this one. Thanks for another good one !

All of these reasons are why I divorced my wife. You definitely know what you’re talking about Sara. Keep doing you’re thing and continuing to make a difference.

@powerbad696

Жыл бұрын

I had an ex-finacee when I lived in Philly,she was doing things & saying things out of pocket.She was just divorced and had an 8 yr old son,but,it got to the point I wanted to bounce.I had no kids or any bills of my own,so I went and joined the army.One of the best decisions I made at that time !!! I was so much HAPPIER single !!! LOL. No kids,no responsibilities.FREEDOM. LOL.

@jayp1700

Жыл бұрын

@@powerbad696 As you should bro, more power to you & I’m in the Army too my G where you stationed?

@powerbad696

Жыл бұрын

@@jayp1700 No longer in the army,Jay,did 7 yrs,fulfilled my contract then bounced.A couple years later,I volunteered to go fight in Iraq with the Texas National Guard ( did 4 deployments total.Did 2 tours back-to-back ) I WANTED ALL THAT SMOKE !!! LOL.After deployments,did civilian contracter work over-seas ( Qatar,Iraq again,Kuwait& Afganistan )Had to leave Afganistan after the US military pulled out,did contracter work for the last 10 yrs.I LOVED it,been back in the states for little over a year now.Back to working a civilian job now-I"M BORED !!! LOL. I LOVED the DANGER working over-seas,the missions& fire-fights. LOL.My battle-buddies in the guard called me-DAREDEVIL.

How do I tell my girlfriend in a respective way she needs to lose weight?? I’ve tried saying, “let’s workout together” or “let’s eat a healthy meal together”. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but she won’t budge or show any effort. She even told me, “I’ll lose weight on my own time”. Honestly I’m ready to cut ties soon.

@1tarikross161

Жыл бұрын

Should have that together before yall become a couple. Why get in a relationship with someone who doesnt value healthy living? sounds like its too late.

@morgantaylor5524

Жыл бұрын

Just tell her. Don't be an asshole about it but tell her in an assertive calm way. Also yall can't eat out everyday or not cook and expect her to lose weight.

@SupremeNerd

Ай бұрын

Like she said she'll lose it at her own time. If that's an issue, fall back from her. Leave her

#3 hit the nail on the head! That's why I never say anything else. See how long a relationship last

She's on it ladies!! Especially the part about the advice!! Good men really hate that you had a hard time with men... but a lot of us had to take a backseat to your bad choices! And when you do decide to give the good guys a chance women usually show up with this strict criteria that should have been applied to the past relationships. This causes a whole lot of friction and seems to good men that you really don't get it!! And that's frustrating as hell!! Especially when you just want the best for them!

Thank you for creating this while studying communication and reading I’ve found men and women speak different languages. Men more logical and women more emotional. You can say everything right to a woman but in the wrong tone and she will match your energy. Women can say the wrong words but expect you to feel their emotions as the true meaning once you understand this on both sides you can adjust your interactions and truly be able to be on one accord.

@HumbleHurricane

Жыл бұрын

This is 10000% facts

@amenajackson8133

Жыл бұрын

Men are emotional too and women are logical.

@anyamiranda9452

Жыл бұрын

I'm less emotional and more logical than 99,9% of the "m3n" in my country.

I don’t know who taught you or how much uve studied men to gain this knowledge but u are correct in SO many things uve said. Thank you. Well done. Well done young lady.

All 4 are on point. Especially #3 that one gets to me. Women never take advice from there man but take it from people who make them do the wrong thing and blame her man after for not being more stern in the idea a better way🤦🏽

This young lady has wisdom way beyond her years. ❤️

_My greatest appreciation to a woman and my biggest turn on to her is when she just sits back and let me handle the situation because she know that I know that she know that I got this, no, if ands or buts about it_

I approve this message. Thank you sister

@rastazrealities

Жыл бұрын

Most definitely.

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

Peace Brother! You’re Welcome!

@brickztheproducer6931

Жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Sara, I want to thank you for your clarity and grace. I've been sharing your videos for a couple of years now with my wife and my friends. Please know that you are changing lives and be encouraged to continue what you are doing.

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this! It means a lot!🙏🏾

@alphabogeyman7462

Жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena My former fiancee used to do some of the things you pointed out. On one occasion she had a job interview and I prepped her for it,when I told her not to wear a skimpy dress,she flaired up and said "I was being too strict". During the interview, they asked her all the questions I suggested and she gave the answers I taught her and she got the job,but they told her they had "concerns about her dressing". She asked me "how did you know that will happen?". A few other times things like that happened and she later asked me "how do you always predict the consequences of my actions before I even act", I said "I'm four years older than you and I have more of life's experiences".

This is spot on!! All 4 are accurate, for me I can say 1&3 is what caused me to end my last relationship *shrugs*

It’s so hard to trust a man’s leadership when you have dealt with feminine men. You made excellent points and I will definitely keep what you said in mind moving forward.

She told not one lie! Every woman should be listening to her and not celebrities who actually do this shit at home but say something different in public

She understands us, men and I couldn’t have said it better myself 🙏🏿

yea she is spot on i definitely have been given ultimatums and I always chose the one they didnt want me to pick.

Thank you so much for this video. My husband feels I disrespect him & I am literally working on doing better the last few days. This video couldn't have popped up at a better time. Thank you Thank you Gorgeous!!

Sara always on point. I want add to fourth about boundaries, it's disrespectful when they set a boundary and we comply but our boundaries get disregarded and we don't make a big deal about the boundary but as soon as we forget or get close to the boundary she sat it's ww3.

@shadex3736

Жыл бұрын

Facts!

@bangryman100

Жыл бұрын

Also, advice or instruction from another man, opposite of ours... is worse than cheating. As a man, if a woman listens to Me, over You.... she belong to me now. (Excluding friends, ya boys, family when you wrong..Ex. drinking and trying to drive)

I laughed so hard at the end because that’s definitely what I did to my ex 😂

@360wave1

Жыл бұрын

All i said was damn and laughed 🤣🤣🤣🤣 cause she was spot on with that last one

Very thoughtful of you, and very true. In fact, I left at least 8 women for lack of this understanding

Thanks for telling the truth and giving everyone a chance to change so we can do better!

She the most articulate content creator in the "relationship" space. Regardless of gender. *We have to share her videos to other lost souls.* Share Share Share

This woman is spot on. Everything she stated was the exact main reasons why I had to leave my childrens mother. That woman undermined me whenever she could and you cannot raise boys in a household like that

@24goodbuddy

Жыл бұрын

Are your sons in your custody so you can provide the right environment?

@HarryJCLK

Жыл бұрын

@@24goodbuddy We co parent. She's a wonderful mother but to me was a horrible wife. My standards are different especially when it comes to my household. If I'm to be the head of the house then I don't want to be undermined and authority usurped. I'm raising boys so I want to witness leadership from a man and don't want them growing up thinking that it is ok for a woman to do what and when they within their households.

@24goodbuddy

Жыл бұрын

@@HarryJCLKI am glad she is a wonderful mother and you are a wonderful father for your sons.

Thank you. The truth is spoken here.

You are the type of woman a man will happily go to war for and die smiling. You hit everything on the button. And the excited joy in your voice when u speak about masculine men, really shows ur love for the good ones. It's refreshing to hear and feel that, unlike the constant barrage of how evil men are as portrayed by society. Thanks and keep up the great content, alot of us wish the best for u.

Finally a woman who actually gets it.

Dropping jewels I see. Much respect to you and your content.

Excellent examples!! And they really drive your points home.

God place you to open up this word's in the lives of who are hurting broken and discouraged of the treatment they received.

Yep! She's right and I want to point out these subtleties: a man taking the opposing end of a ultimatum is for the protection of both the man and the woman. It's not about defiance nor his dominance, as she may feel. It's about the man knowing that he gives in to her ultimatum it's very likely that she will lose respect for him. She will resent him later because , in her mind, if she can do that to him then others can too and she can't feel safe around him. He becomes a tool. His ultimatum from a man that knows the difference between a leader and a boss come ftom logic "if we can't stick to a plan, we are not a team because the plans won't work, do what is say, similar to running a play in sports" ie.... if I tell you to stand on the line at a certain time, do it because that's what will make the play function and we score. It's not about who's the boss nor about manipulating. Here's a personal example of me and my ex. It was late in the evening, I was home she was downtown. I wanted barbecue from a place that would be closing soon. She was closer to it. I called and asked her to stop and pick up something for us. She copped an attitude and refused.. came home and started an argument about me trying to boss her around. Told me that she didn't want to do it becuase she felt like I wanted to MAKE her do things. She calmed down after I told herbthat I only ask we d her to stop by BECAUSE SHE WAS CLOSE TO THE PLACE, SHE WAS ALREADY ON HER WAY HOME AND THE PLace was about to close. Lol so, there goes dinner for both of us. After the attitude, I had went and ate wings at the bar. Why tge bar? Itvwas kate! Lol . It's really about, peace, respect and teamwork.

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this.🙏🏾

Omg, you are spot on! Very good information!

YES!!!..... For me it's number 1: I can be very specific about something and then she realizes i'm serious she seems to do every other little extra nice and sweet thing, but when it comes to THAT THING, it gets ignored because it's not a big deal to her. Then I have go from Mr. Nice Guy to Mr. A-Hole, only then do I get my respect.

Yep, on that last one Ole girl thought I wouldn't move out and i did just that. Then cried saying I didn't think you'd actually do it.

Yes! I appreciate how well you communicated these points. I have never felt so understood from a lady's perspective on these issues. Thank you. Now instead of trying to explain it, I will share this video with her.

This was very helpful, thank you! 📝🌹

Adding this one to the favorites. The first point was incredibly strong point

You put the hammer right on the nail with this topic 👏 👌

Respect is valuable to women too. If a man disrespect you he doesn't love you.

Oh my god! Everything you said was spot on. Especially the third thing. My wife and I just had this conversation.

As always, great stuff. Keep it coming.

From someone who’s happily dating a masculine man, these points are very true!

This is why I can't stand my girl, she does all 4 of these things!

This is making my blood boil because you are so spot on!

Wow....I gotta say.....you are spot on.....I don't know what guys you have been speaking with....but I'm glad you listened....hopefully others will listen as well

Keep going sista!!! I love your your channel, your messages, and your vids. Please, please, please don’t stop what you’re doing. Love you for how in depth you go and how great you are at speaking the truth that is soooooo desperately needed... here since 2021..

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your support. I have more content coming soon!🙌🏾

Thank you my sister! I have been trying to educate her for years.

Right on sister keep giving these powerful videos..one love

Spot on ma'am. I really appreciate what you're doing.

Hi from the uk I really enjoyed our call I will book another soon x love this video. I realise it might be down to tone and body language sometimes have to make sure you physically conveying what you think. Thats why self love is important, love will come out in everything you say and do.

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

Hello!❤ I hope you were able to implement some of what we discussed...and yes! We can’t make withdrawals from a place we aren’t making deposits. Loving ourselves primarily allows us to love others properly.🥰

@antoniaadams2084

Жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena I did thank you ❤

"ROUNDS" (AND KEEP EM GOING) OF APPLAUSE!!!! The message was GOLD! I believe that the argument of, "who has the SUBSTANCE, with the "right tone", when it comes to these topics is over.....more Women need to come here for SUBSTANCE of the message, and correct "tone" for women. come see Sara Lena! get the subs and likes up ASAP!

You are so right,and we appreciate our wives and girlfriends support a great deal,but sometimes tone is extremely important,moral support is important as well. Negative attitude and mentioning other people's approach to a situation is ugly and disrespectful. Putting and throwing away suggestions without attempting to try it,sucks coming from your wife or girlfriend

Awesome points, I’m striving to be better work on them every day

These took me more than 10 years of marriage to learn on my own. So every woman wise enough to listen now, is ahead of the game.

I need more of this. I'm so guilty of this. I didn't know at first, but now I'm fully aware after watchingthis. I'm gonna make it right. Thank you!

I love this look, Sara! Stunning ✨♥️

@SaraLena

Жыл бұрын

Thank You!!!☺️☺️

well done Sara. Thank you

From an older woman! Listen up Ladies!

This woman needs to go viral

Golden advice. Wise words. ✨

Very Good Information!!

I love this woman. She really gets it. Thank you Sara Lena

EXCELLENT VIDEO!!’

Thank you sis appreciate your videos

Gotta subscribe to this sister. Awesome job 👏🏾

Real gems💎

Well put.

This woman is a God send!!

Great Content, thank you!

We love you Sara.

WHEW LAWD!!! “LISTEN LONG ENOUGH.” This needs more views!!

Good insights!

Guilty of #1 with my ex, but I also have ADD and that response can happen just because I'm simply not on the same page in my own thoughts. Calling it disrespect is projecting malevolence. And given that harshness leads up to verbal abuse, zero tolerance.

You really do understand us ❤️

Thank you!

Guilty! Thank you so much 🙏🏿

I love her. She's my new spirit animal

Ouuuuhh girl you speak volume there you spit facts truth accuracy Miss Sara Lena displaying expertise

I wish we could be able to like at least 10 times. I laughed when you spoke about listening to someone else. I've been watching your videos and I haven't had any reservations about your advice. Thank you so much for the hard work you put in. How this would have saved my marriage.

This video explains a lot.. exactly why I can’t keep em 🤣

i swear this youtube is becoming a university because i'm learning so much, this woman just gave me insight into me she's spot on.

Either side, man or woman shouldn’t do this to each other because it’s disrespectful all around when in a relationship.

I have a question about the ultimatum part. If the man is doing something that the woman doesn't desire, how does she express that to him so he can change, without an ultimatum?

Appreciate your insight

I swear this woman is the truth and her videos should be fowarded to everyman woman who is in a relationship in this day and age

You are on point.