I would like to add that: we also think we are more important than we are. We tend to act like we are on a reality show and the whole world is paying to our every move. We aren’t. Yes people will laugh and judge and take conclusions, but at the end of the day they spend to much time thinking about themselves to and don’t have brain space for you

@RisaBeesa

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! This is so spot on. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@ravi.jangra

3 жыл бұрын

Period.

@mohamedaminebekhouche6822

3 жыл бұрын

That's fax, u know when i remember an embarrassing situation i just laugh and say " yeah i did it and no one remember that shit soo it is what it is" and then i just move on 😃

@RisaBeesa

3 жыл бұрын

@Yolanda Yang I agree. It’s a lot of things. 💚

@aivariukas

3 жыл бұрын

We have a saying in Lithuania for that kind of ppl - "the belly-button of the world" lol

The reason I enjoy listening/reading Mark is because his style is “real” to me. He doesn’t attempt to boost his own ego by coming off and formal, complex, superior. Sometimes it just takes a “we’re all morons sometimes” to quit over analyzing and shaming yourself. Love it. Keep the vids coming Mark

@YonesWilson

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree! He doesnt try to sound fancy or "clean up" his speech, he says what he wants and how he wants!

@alishba5863

2 жыл бұрын

@@YonesWilson honestly !!

@gustavomorelli2782

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@menlo7256

2 жыл бұрын

authentic in every way!

@Chrisko1492

2 жыл бұрын

I mean, he just says „fuck“ often. Is that what you call „real“? His content isn‘t anything new, any psychologist can tell you the same things. Cool if his stuff helps you, but he isn‘t a genius and using swear words doesn‘t make him more human than people with education in psychology and similar fields. You americans are just so brainwashed into beeping every swear word, that you get all excited when you hear fuck, nigger, cock and all these „mean“ terms that the rest of the world treat as normal words which just make us yawn. I mean, good for Mark for developing this brand. He‘s lucky he‘s american. In other countries this approach wouldn‘t be special enough.

"Nothing is ever as good in the real world as it is in your head." Damn, I've been suffering from this "not living up to expectations" - syndrome for years without realizing it. Thanks Mark.

@maggioli636

Жыл бұрын

*except for heroin :D:D

There's an attention dilemma: We always stress about what other people think of us, but each person thinks the same; they all think about themselves. Lesson: No one cares about you more than yourself. Let it go, and you will feel as free as you can possibly feel.

@jasmineglein3721

Жыл бұрын

You made me laugh 😅

dude, ive just read your book about 2 months ago, just want to say thanks cuz you changed my life

@sargamn3800

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@kayligo

3 жыл бұрын

What advice clicked the most?

@Bat_Boy

3 жыл бұрын

Use spell chack 😀

@kayligo

3 жыл бұрын

@@Bat_Boy how long Is two moths ago 🤔😂

@kayligo

3 жыл бұрын

@@Bat_Boy spellcheck lol

“That's the key to having it all. Stop expecting it to look like what you thought it would look like.” One of my favorite quotes and now mantra, courtesy of Sex and the City

@RisaBeesa

3 жыл бұрын

OMG this is the best comment. Haha, love the reference. 💚

1. 0:52 Accept that failure is a natural part of life. Separate action from intention Empathize with the intention Draw a lesson from the failure 2. 3:16 Practice self forgiveness 3. 7:23 Don't judge your nagative thoughts with more negative thoughts.

@hunta4lif3

3 жыл бұрын

This is why you get paid lol

@1A.....

3 жыл бұрын

@@hunta4lif3 going to mars

We always want something better. This is the reason behind lifestyle inflation, unsatisfying self-improvement, and annual iPhone upgrades. Be grateful for what you already have and choose to be happy.

My negative thinking has grown so much that I can't trust myself to be able to do anything at all now. Even though I'm skillfully qualified for that task.

@sargamn3800

3 жыл бұрын

U are stuck in a feedback loop from hell...get well soon..👍

@haininhnguyen398

3 жыл бұрын

been having a hard time dealing with those too, we got your back

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Saurabh, Practicals are needed to heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@sargamn3800 Pandemic has driven the world crazy. Practicals are needed to heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

1. Failure is a made up standard in our heads 2. Self forgiveness - separate action from intention and empathize with it, then draw a lesson from it. 3. Don't judge negative thoughts with more negative thoughts. Get out of the spiral. You shouldn't be happy all the time. Embrace the negative and be comfortable with it.

@tarika6476

Жыл бұрын

Ty 😊

@levispare8558

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, i do hope that you keep doing this for all Mark's video. Thank you, hope to see you again.

I was having an existential crisis in a target cuz I was being a baby about some dumbass not wanting to date me, found your book, and have never felt such peace in my life. The things you said aren’t things I haven’t heard thousands of times before, but the way you said them just resonated with me in a way that was undeniable. In the marine corps we have a saying called “breaking it down Barney style” which basically means explaining something by breaking it down to its simplest, sometimes most condescending, f-bomb ridden form, so that even the most dense of marines can understand it. You broke down life Barney style, and for that I thank you.

Mark is like our life coach - so realistic, so effective and so practical. A perfect balance of emotion, humour and practical guidance

@ohcrikey-bd6dr

Ай бұрын

He IS a life coach

He's so amazing because he says exactly how it is without holding anything back. We need more people in the world just like this.

“I’m anxious about being anxious, now I’m even more anxious!” Those captions are so funny xd

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@uviniilangasinghe2559 Practicals are needed to heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

I grew up with a perfectionist parent, who passed that onto me. I only learned in my 40s when I started to lead a team, that I didn't expect them to be perfect and showed them kindness, but would not do the same for myself. I pissed away my adult years being super hard on myself - and now, I am just moderately hard on myself. Love this video Mark!

Thank you so much for being direct! I've been reading and listening all the positive junk out there and ended up more depressed, now I know that i can accept my flaws and still be a good person. I'm so grateful to you

I'm working through your videos as part of my counselling - thank you so much, Mark

Love your writings, im reading your books for the third time currently. thank you for giving me a perspective i can live by, i am truly grateful.

You are officially my favorite KZreadr now Mark. I really needed to hear that. Really struggled with self forgiveness all my life. Thank you so much. I'm going to watch your videos every morning to pep me up. Please keep them coming! 🙏 I think I'll reread your book too

Wow Mark! I really needed this video. Thanks a lot. You honestly have no idea how impactful your words are!

Your stock video captions are genuinely funny, and back up your content. I love it!

thank you so much i needed this so much today 😭 i've been spiraling all day, i feel more grounded after this, it comes at the right time

Needed this. Thank you!

I absolutely love the editing! The written thoughts of the people in the clips are genius! Laughing out loud so many times throughout your videos!

You always make everything easier than it is in my mind! I hope day by day more people find you out.

Problem is when I stay at home cooped up in my bedroom my negative thoughts take over my mind. But when I’m out at work or shopping or chilling I am so confident I feel I am king of the world!

@kiriyoplay

3 жыл бұрын

It's great that you've identified the trigger/ environment that causes your negative thoughts. Now, you can do something to change those things and take control of your thoughts anytime you're in a situation or space that you know causes you to think negatively. Negative thoughts cannot take over your mind unless you dwell in it. Catch yourself thinking negative next time and tell yourself to snap out of it. Go do something healthy immediately to distract yourself. Be prepared.

@Mr300OG

3 жыл бұрын

I would say learn to deal with this negative thoughts. Don’t run from them bcuz you can’t run from home...

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

@@kiriyoplay Practicals are needed to heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@shyaaammeneen63

2 жыл бұрын

Shoobbie, Practicals are needed to heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

Mark, you are amazing. Love your content and delivery. Don't stop!!

Mark, thank you for making this video. I desperately needed to hear this. I beat myself up all the time, not in the Big Fat Liar sense, but in the sense that I choose to make my mistakes my identity instead of embracing the lessons the mistakes provide. Growth and progress always provide the most satisfaction out of any new skill development or project; I can’t forget that.

@janycebrown4071

3 жыл бұрын

Ask yourself, would I make that same mistake again? If no, then you have grown from your mistake, and that's a GOOD thing ❣️😊🤗

I’ve followed your written work for the longes time, love the video format too! Really engaging. Looking forward to seeing more!!

Passing a rough piece of my life... You are saving me from real trouble. Thank you ao much

Thanks so much for this! I'm experiencing anxiety right now, but after learning and applying the steps from this video I'm starting to feel and get better.

You have no idea how this helped right now, its the first time in actually glad KZread sent me a recommendation. Thank you.

This channel is pure gold! I just discovered it and I love the videos! Keep them coming!

Bro, i was just reading How Do You Measure Up In Life? on your website, like the third time today. This is a happy surprise :DDD

Hi Mark I am really grateful for your books, and I just want to say thank you for making me see the world in a different way

Mark I've always over thought and thought negative towards my self. I think this vid has help me understand why I can be so confused when sorting my thoughts out. You made a whole lot of sense, and helped me understand things that much better

Mark, I really like your videos. I dont know if they are gonna change my life as much as i like to, but at least they are entertaining and full of great lessons. Your videos remind me, in a weekly basis, that we are not perfect and we dont have to be. So, thanks for all your hard work. Here is your like good sir.

I love listening to Mark. His advice is so so simple and so doable. Yet I haven't a clue about it until I listen to him. I make everything complicated with reactions before I think. I think I can put this advice to work. Your so easy to listen to and everything you talk about is so relatable to me. Thank you for sharing you

One of the most realistic yet comforting words I have ever heard. Thank you. 💖

The problem is definitely our own inner critic, negative mindset and terrible expectations. But we can take the first step by being aware and work on gratitude and presence. Awesome video Mark

"Nothing is ever as good in the real world as it is in your head." Great observation. This video really hit some great points, thanks again!

I love Mark's work. He is brutally honest and in a world filled with so much BS and misinformation. He seems like an anchor to the mind. Continue your good work, and good luck!

The least boaring motivational channel with the most interesting motivator. Love you BROTHER , keep bringing more.

Thank you Mark for being my therapist right now, I'm in a moment of my life where I am more miserable than what I am used to

Dear, Mark! Somewhere deep down there i hope you will read this as I want to say that you've literally changed my life in 180 degrees. I read all your books and watch all your videos since you are on youtube(sounds like i am fanatic btw), I can tell for sure that you are my number 1 person I haven't ever met. And I love to listen to what you say and how you say it. Huge thanks from the bottom of my heart!

Those B-roll captions are hilarious 😂

Thank you bro for your service.

Thank you Mark for trying to make the world a better place

you are amazing!!! you no idea how this helps me so much!

I found your videos are so funny and right to the point. No sentimental bs. Good work.

Love the book, love the teacher. I am a coach. You are my life coach. Very grateful.

I didn’t even start this video but, I already gave it a like. 😬 I needed this one! thanks Mark!

Being compared to others gets me going. (I’m not like that person, because I’m not that person.) is what I have trained myself to think. Separating myself from the judgment put on me by whoever compared me to someone else. I am enjoying your videos, thank you.

Thank God, this just came in time. I need it so much. Thanks Mark

Hey Mark, I completely agree with your message about being okay with negativity. Being positive all the time is not a realistic nor healthy way to live. Negative thoughts and feelings are a part of life and that's okay! The key is not to identify with them and think there's something wrong with you for having them

Love the captions on the photos of people looking so smug and self-satisfied! Very helpful video, and it also made me laugh.

Oh gosh that spiral point hahaha. I have been stuck in a spiral of regret for near about 15 months. I initially regret for making a mistake and wasting time, then I regret for wasting more time in regretting, then I even waste more time in regretting for regretting and then it's just zzzzz.... a spiral of regretting. Your explanation hit at the right spot in my head. I really hope I am able to gradually handle this loop of regret better and get out of it. Thank you Mark for such a valuable lesson !!

Love your books man, you have a great outlook on life, keep it up with the good content

Many thanks...I needed that!

thank you so much!

Needed it so badly!!! Thanks 🙏🌟❤️

Really needed this thank you man.

I got several criticisms in my report today and I'm neurotic, this came at a good time.

WTH I'm currently fighting my inner demons rn! Thank you! Btw I just started reading books and immediately bought The Subtle Art ! loving it so far Mark, helps me alot with my daily struggles, keeps me hanging

Loved it and I love you. You truly make a difference in this world😭

Not gonna lie the first 19 seconds of the video really spiked anxiety - I don't know how haha. Great video as always Mark!

DAYMN This vid is so good for my mental health.. Thank you!

Bro, you really have some kind of power and energy to change some conventional thought that we used to believed, with some harsh truth and rasional thought that I currently believe

I was literally just having negative thoughts that manifested in this exact way. Saw this video right after, thank you Mark

Thank you Mark, I hope I can apply this to my life!

This video was just timely. I needed this. Thanks Mark!!😊🤙

Just caught a few of your videos Mark. Absolutely bang on 👍 really useful and practical advice. Final points on how our cultural emphasis on positive thinking/mindset backfiring feels very true to me. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

Really impressed Mark...thanks for telling the new strategy to tackle the problems

I love you! Omg.... new favorite author and human!! 🥰 you're so goofy! But also very wise and the way you explain things is perfect

I knew you would say negative thoughts cannot be controlled,instead learn to accept it,deal with it for you to be able to become positive in a negative circumstances..Many many thanks for you bro...

I think i need a dose of you daily ..pls keep it coming .....thanks for your books , its what all need to read or 1st admit that you need to read it ..(like u might say it )..love them all ..and read them daily also .:)

I struggle with anxiety all the time even though my life is great Thank you Mark for addresing the fact that every negative thought we feel , is normal.

mark, this video helps me a lot. i like your works. keep doing your things.

Thank you!

Thanks for this, I really needed it.

Some books are only deserved to be a blog post and then there are some Mark Manson videos that deserve to be a full book. Love your videos man

Top notch perspective here...appreciate the work my friend...

Nailed it. Really needed this. Thankyou Mark. Your so inspiring much love from Kenya.

Thanks Mark, another fantastic harsh truth of the day 💪🏻

you make me hate myself less… love you for that

All the facts and simple gold words aside, I love your editing! As good as your sense of humor P.s. pls tell us how do you have such good sense of humor? I’m really dry and need to do something about it

ONE OF THE BEST

Another great video! Love your content Mark! Thank you for posting.

please keep posting more mini podcasts you have been a life saver:)

Thanks for these videos

A negative thought I’ve been dealing with was the failure to be accepted into Dental School. This video helped me realize what I need to do to get in this time, and also helped me realize that if I don’t get in a second time, it isn’t a failure and there are more options out there. All you can do when you have a goal is think smart and try your best. Even if you don’t try your best, at least you tried.

Thank you for your best advice sir

Wow, such a great video, thank you.

Just love to listen to you. Such practical advise.

Things are changing since I’ve found you 🙏

thank you!!

Love your video. Thank you !

Everything you say is impeccable and i would go as far to say that it has scientific relevance, love your work

ive gotten better with this overtime since getting a job at a restaurant. i’ve embarrassed myself plenty of times, ran the wrong food out or too early, and have been a part of a lot of inconveniences. at the end of the day i just know i won’t remember these guests by tomorrow, i did what i could and whats done is done, some lessons were learned and the next time i can run things more efficiently.

Thanks a ton !