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'Don't be afraid of failure or pain.' This is so real, I love it 💕

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

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I really enjoyed this interview! My biggest takeaway is this: Life doesn't have to be overly complicated. Find a few friends that you love and spend time with them, find a job or career that is half-way satisfying and do that. Find some activities that you enjoy just for the sake of fun and enjoyment, and find a way to give back to the community. That's it! In 2024 I'm definitely leaning into simplifying my life. Thanks for another great interview Lewis!

I really admire Mark's wife that she did her thing without pushing him to do the same. It's obvious that with health, they weren't aligned for a long time and she seemed patient until he finally met where she's at (maybe not 100% but overall). Not wanting to change your partner is REALLY difficult.

@englishwithmilene2810

9 ай бұрын

So true! I can be frustrating when your partner is not on the same page about something so crucial, like health!

@jt_rooster3228

2 ай бұрын

What are some conditions for that situation?

This is so refreshing to hear two very secure men conversant about what love is and not. Bravo for breaking the glass ceiling by speaking the truth! Mahalo nui! :)

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@jeremynguyen2346

10 ай бұрын

@@lewishoweshey

Lewis; as a Counsellor/Psychotherapist I just love your encouraging minimal prompt’s with guests, they are immaculately timed with perfect pitch! Your “really” comment for instance, is said with genuine fascination and you effortlessly connect and build rapport! Your heartfelt reflections and disclosures further enhance your amazing interviews! ❤love your work!

@lewishowes

9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words 🧡

I think the thing that is missing from this interview is the idea that when you have children, that will change everything. Neither of you can speak to it. Children will change how you work with your partner or spouse. Children will change how you look at your accomplishments. Children may even change what you go after and how you do it. Children are our legacies. I did appreciate this discussion in many ways - maybe neither of you will ever be a father - but it certainly parenthood can change a spouse dynamic and other goals and perspectives.

@Bat_Boy

10 ай бұрын

Why do you want children? I could not come up with a justification, so my wife and I didn’t have any. However, there is something about me that others must have, in order for me have a deeper meaning is: music and movies. Specifically, good taste in them (or rather my taste in them). 99% of the people I meet, do NOT have the same love for it, but the ones that do…men or women…we become friends, and I am so attached to them. It’s odd, but it’s important because music, movie, and art, are important to me.

@mationinfo

10 ай бұрын

@@Bat_Boy- Children. That is the very reason my wife and I decide to get married to have a family. One of the greatest gifts my wife gave me is a son and daughter. I call them my property. Since my wife cross over six years ago. My property is what keeps our home lid. I love them both dearly from the bottom of my heart. As for my beloved wife, she is still in our conversation. Done but not forgotten.

@zingking0132

10 ай бұрын

you should have your life set up so that you can bring in children in the world. They won't be such a hassle

@BestieShondi

10 ай бұрын

I feel like certain things are reprogramming people to deny biology. I don’t have children myself but it’s something that is in our DNA. I know that I would be a great mother but some limited benefits keep me from seeing the positives of having children ( work in progress). Of course having children isn’t for everyone and certain people shouldn’t bring children into this world but they do. It’s pros and cons to everything in life; It’s a major commitment and some people just have to admit they are not ready for it instead of making it seem like kids are not worth having you know.

@serialmigrant

10 ай бұрын

It's not missing from the interview if they dont have children. They are literally speaking about their own lives.

He's way honest about his emotions, struggles, and his feelings throughout his life journey. And I always look up to him for accepting reality

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

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I love his honesty and comfort even when he talks about things that makes ppl feel uncomfortable. Great transformation

ALL of life is LUCK - your smarts, capacity for hard work, mental resilience, looks, energy, etc etc - BUT we are ALL obligated to do our BEST with the cards we are dealt - the LUCKIER you are,the better your best must be!!

wow i loved this interview, loved the energy between Lewis and Mark, seemed like they are on the same vibration, similar places in life. I love Marks simplicity to things, its difficult on these interviews for people to genuinely open up on their struggles and you can tell Marks done the work and is so open and honest. Perhaps its the fact that Marks an author and he's had to self reflect to in order to write. Whatevers got him to this place. Its Amazing!!!

Love the Subtle Art book, and really love the combo of candidness and humor with which Mark talks about serious and important stuff. Really liked this conversation as well.

@lewishowes

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

Communication is KEY 🔑

1. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s an amplification of feelings present in the relationship 2. It’s okay to have one significant difference in values, but having more than two will cause partners to constantly butt heads Career 3. Success is not the elimination of problems but having better problems 4. Maintain bottom of the mountain mindset “I’m a beginner” for freedom and flexibility 5. Success can’t buy happiness, but it can buy unhappiness Life 6. I just completed a new decade, what am I investing my time and energy in my life? 7. Life can be simple. Have a few close friends/family you love, have a career you enjoy, and give back in some way. In the same way, breaking up doesn’t have to be complicated, 12 steps, rehearsing etc. Just break up-it’ll be emotionally painful but that’s just how it will be. 13. Don’t be afraid of fear and pain, that’s where many joys and successes are hidden. 14. Be careful how you define yourself and how you measure success. 15. “Love is not enough” - it’s great but cannot be the foundation of a healthy relationship. It amplifies a healthy relationship.

Trust and respect is love

This podcast is my ride every morning and afternoon. This episode has being one of my favorites and I love every episode. But this one blows my mind. ❤

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

I also liked how he says in the end to show appreciation for people you care. I liked it when he explained his journey of getting healthy though he didn't initially realise how it is going to impact positively. I enjoyed the entire conversation, thank you!

Soulmates are made, not born.

Thank you so much Lewis, I needed this so much and I am pretty sure there are many other younger people like me who needed to hear this.

Thanks for sharing

1:02:48 I liked how he explains how we don't catch up with reality so quickly

Wow! What an amazing conversation! Thank you

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

What an amazing episode! Thank you 🙏🏻🌷✨🙏🏻

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

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Such a great conversation!! Loved Mark's points he mentioned - take care of your healthy, your limited circle and just give back to society and do more of it till your last breath. It's amaze to see how obsessed people especially boomers and the generation prior are with kids omg its not even funny. Kids aint your legacy or anything. They are a different soul, who come on earth to continue their own journey not to take your so called legacy or in a lot of cases nothing as substantial forward lol. Also, even if you do make a choice of bringing a child in this world you sure need to be sorted yourself first. Most people just do it on auto- love then marriage then kids without introspecting what they want from life or knowing who they are really.

@susie1770

4 ай бұрын

This! 🎉

On the same page. Thank you both!

There are different ways to think about what a soulmate is, and it may not mean a 'happily ever after' ending. Perhaps they are there to push us to grow. And, is there more than one soulmate?

@Humanprototype-wh8qr

9 ай бұрын

Agreed If one fits all and some none their are ofc some best fits ergo soulmates And as u say its all meant to be or not ergo the lessons to learn Sty for cryptic

So inspring. thanks Mark and Lewis.

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Respect, Trust, then Love. Values, Religion.

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

Religion first. It teaches you trust respect and love and your values stem from it

This so a great interview for me to listen to. I’m an author and I’d love this type of success, or even a slice of it. 😊

I have a flight for 20h soon and I bought his book to read during my flight. I am glad now that I watch this before reading the book. I respect Mark so much ❤

@lewishowes

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for being here!

Can’t wait:)

I don't know why Lewis would think that a man and woman in a love relationship would have to be on equal ground. That's no guarantee, what's more important is how secure each of them are on their own. Great questions Lewis. And Mark is so wise. You two men are great together, and you have the same color eyes! Kindred souls.

Loved it!!!

such great interview questions! tysm

@lewishowes

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! So glad you enjoyed it🧡

Yep those massive gaps happen, disrespect, hate for other person

It was like a therapy. Thank you😊

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

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Another way for my opinion is: love is the most powerful force on earth and in the universe. It is for sure very enough not for a relationship and marriage, but also for entire relationships of humanity. However, the problem is almost all of us ( at least 90-95%) don’t have that love in us, and don’t know what real love is, and incapable to become love on our own due to our thousand years of traumas and dysfunctions. So we re incarnated back here again and again and again to learn our lesson to become that love, to purify our souls. Once we can truly master that love, let’s see how love can make a life worth living.

I love watching your videos. Keep it up sir!!

@lewishowes

9 ай бұрын

Thank you. Appreciate you and your support🧡

11:02 Thats a very painful truth. Ive loved someone deeply but could not trust them & they could not be real with me about their life & respect the relationship day to day.

SIMPLY MIND BLOWING GREAT QUESTIONS GREAT INSIGHTS

@lewishowes

3 ай бұрын

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Lewis looks great in a collared shirt, as opposed to a T-shirt. Good interview about how love & respect & trust go together. Different values will cause conflict between people.

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Excellent 💫

I just bought his 2 famous books last week. I am learning a lot. 😊

I would have liked to have a longer discussion about their definition of love because I get confused how love can be connected with jealousy, hurt, etc. Is that true love or more of a attachment pattern which is associated with the illusory belief of being a separate self and needing the other to experience completion?

"The people closest to you are the ones who hurt you the most' ......that is because those are the people you have the most expectations from, but they are NOT the ones that hurt you, your own attachments to said expectations are. So basically your own conditioning is hurting, and it's only hurting your own identity of self, not the actual Self. Essence cannot hurt.

Nice conversation ...

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

The amount of love you experience is a result of how much you give ,and thus feel you deserve ,and so relate to within

Mark is a great writer .. his mind is full ok knowledge

@lewishowes

9 ай бұрын

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Lewis, please bring Moran Cerf, he's mind-blowing !

You don’t love anyone you can’t stand! That’s not correct! You don’t love nor like them! Real love is both!

@andersnielsen6044

10 ай бұрын

Then you completely missed out on what real love is.

Two legends meet ❤

@lewishowes

9 ай бұрын

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Disagree with one point. Mark says a healthy relationship is how quickly you repair after a rift. In my case, my abusive ex used to cause problems then “quickly” move on from it, but the hurt and pain he caused was so extraordinarily deep and wounding that it didn’t matter what he did afterward. There are some rifts you cannot come back from. A healthy relationship involves two people who are unwilling to hurt each other like this in the first place.

@ktlktl0913

9 ай бұрын

If one of you is still hurt by it, then it's not fixed. Find a way for BOTH to come to an understanding. Both have to be aligned and in a spot where you can move on.

@SamStone1964

9 ай бұрын

You can't have a healthy relationship with a narcissist.

I've got this book: The subtle art of not giving a f---. Great book.

@lewishowes

10 ай бұрын

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@dantoinettetaylor1663

10 ай бұрын

I got it when it was first released

Good Lord...no one ever talks about differences in ability. Intelligence. Depth of thought. Fail to match these, see how well it's working out. Growing apart is a guarantee then.

How do I watch the explicit version of this without the muting?

Very cool with shorts ..🙏💪

@lewishowes

8 ай бұрын

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No timelines?

Love is (an affinity which was created from the past & continue next life) or (a couple's emotional closeness connections)

Did the topic of soul mates ever come up?

I notice when you stop trying to impress women you realise who's been pulling your strings this whole time. The motivation goes with it though

@marysmith861

10 ай бұрын

If you're trying to impress them... you are giving them a false impression of who you are. I think what you are seeing is the women who are looking at what you have instead of who you are as a person. Maybe a little less flash?

you never wast your time if your listening to Mark Manson

@lewishowes

9 ай бұрын

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I think most people need respect class, they can't even date if they don't have that. People need more class. Where's the basics. The world 🌎 can't even relate only online so how can they date. It's like temperaments, we not the same. We need to ✍️ ON giving A f* because we need courses like that! People don't care that's the problem why their not together. What's wrong is that he had to ✍️ the book to realize that by not caring through a book which is ironic. ❤️ Love is based on the attachment they had from whoever they attached to younger, some toxic that's how they assimilate. Love most people can't feel because they haven't understood healthy love, and If they do they run from what is supposed to be love. Yes children change thr game and define love. It's consistency, sacrifice, and the 5 A's. Without the 5 A'S there is no love.

Its not a matter if they exist or not. Its just the odds of meeting them are insanly low 1/ 8 billion to be in the ball park you are more likely to win the lottery then meeting your soul mate.

@chelseabunker2391

10 ай бұрын

Especially when all these fools out here are settling on “good enough”. My soulmate is probably married with 6 kids and depressed wondering where he went wrong. “Thinking with your pecker, genius. That’s where you went wrong.” 🙄

@marysmith861

10 ай бұрын

Your soulmate is not in another relationship. Certainly not "married". Especially since there are more singles than ever. It's good not to settle but maybe re-evaluate what you're looking for. He doesn't have to be a 10, look like your celebrity crush, have a six pack, or make six figures?

@xMckingwill

10 ай бұрын

@@marysmith861 its not about settling per say just imagine whats the likelyhood of you actually meeting your soul mate? They are 1 out of 8 billiion and they could be anywhere in the world. Its about realizing no one is perfect and being able to love and be with someone who is compatable with you despite not being perfect or your "soul mate"

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

@@xMckingwillyour statement is why they said soul mates don’t exist. Because you’re ultimately looking for compatibility. You can find that depending on what your wants/needs are in that moment. But don’t get with someone because they are compatible with you now then when you grow up you realize they aren’t compatible after all

55:45

People don’t communicate but they probably have bad motives

Where’s the part where they talk about soulmates?

I wish we could just live in tribes where we can depend on a lot of people. Like a big family. That’s probably a pipe dream too though.

Who made him the authority? Serious question. I , myself, think it's a personal search.

@steeenab2306

10 ай бұрын

Yes. That’s what’s they’re saying. Find what’s good for u❤

@marysmith861

10 ай бұрын

He's too young to be an authority, lol. It is a personal search. But you have to know what your searching for. If you've found respect and trust, you've found a lot. It's probably not going to be packaged in a woman who is a 10. For instance, look at the beautiful celebrities who can't maintain a relationship. Men or, women.

@joynagh3163

10 ай бұрын

Do you disagree with anything from the vid?

NY living is a great place to be deceptive.

I have a question for you guys where you guys going to do for me now your indisposition now are you going to give me something what belongs to me

NY people is a special kind of hard, they can know their is no truth to what they are seeking and play it out anyway for what it’s worth. Meanwhile, they are waiting for the next big thing anyway.

Not very encouraging, is it?

@metalambano7921

10 ай бұрын

But it's the truth, there is nothing like soul mate because you are designed to love anybody, your impediment is your mind and what you have been fed.

@Kizsaip

10 ай бұрын

Actually it's freeing.

@Abcdefghijklmnoplm

10 ай бұрын

They do and you haven’t experienced it yet

@elizabethk3238

10 ай бұрын

Why? It's sad if you need someone to "complete"you.

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

@@elizabethk3238I wouldn’t call it sad. We all lack something. If you find that someone who completes that lack gap you’re winning🗣️💯 that’s how I feel with my wife and I. Also considering Christian views. Man and woman are to become one and have a family they both work hard to maintain💯 I can’t have a child without my wife. She’s the important factor in my Christian views on life. Also, one always compliments the other. Both parents, more likely to have both views which could help start you off on the right track but have one parent then you are raised differently and your thoughts are different making it harder to get useful info in the early stages of life. My dad wasn’t in my life and I seeked that from other father figures. Many do this from the lack thereof.

Of course soulmates exist! Siegfried and Roy were absolutely soulmates!

Has mark lost some weight?

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

Maybe 🤷🏾‍♂️

Soulmates Don't Exist ### TWIN FLAMES DO 🔥🔥

@almamia229

10 ай бұрын

I use to think twin flames existed. Now I am not so sure.

@sleepingwhale

10 ай бұрын

I think both do according to my definitions. I think people have different ways of defining these terms.

@almamia229

9 ай бұрын

@@sleepingwhale Perhaps. Time will tell.

In Judaism you join with your soulmate (become full) when you marry them. Until then you are just a half.

@Dancing_Alone_wRentals

10 ай бұрын

That is a nice sentiment. Makes a person look forward to the future.

@heliogabal66

10 ай бұрын

how convenient

Single people

I hate to tell you that they do exist.❤ I know for sure.

Dude who thinks success or fame will change a relationship is a total narcissist!

@elizabethk3238

10 ай бұрын

You need to preface your statement by saying "In my opinion..." Or you're likely a narcissist?

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

@@elizabethk3238true but I also think ppl explain themselves differently than you would. Gotta b open minded and learn to be able to find the main point regardless if it’s words you may not agree with 👍🏾 in my opinion of course. That was a major thing I had to learn when I wanted ppl to treat me how I treat them. Not everyone was raised the same so their word choices may be a little different 👍🏾

@elizabethk3238

10 ай бұрын

@@DeezyDesoto96 Your rambling is even more senseless than his opinionated statement. Might want to understand the actual point being made.

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

@@elizabethk3238 sorry you feel that way but I have to disagree. I don’t find my statement as “rambling” but to each is own 👍🏾. Just trying to bring more insight on the statement you made under their comment. It’s okay if you choose not to see it that way though.

@DeezyDesoto96

10 ай бұрын

@@elizabethk3238 also , because you feel I don’t understand your point being made, care to expound on your point ?

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