I Solved Her Life-Long Anxiety in Two Weeks

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  • @itsamelinda
    @itsamelinda9 ай бұрын

    Hi all, this is Melinda! 👋🏻 Your generous, supportive comments have been incredible to read. It's been so healing to see that many of you related to my story 💗 Also, in case you needed to hear this today... I know you might be sitting there watching this, feeling like you WANT to want real love and connection, but it just doesn't feel realistic or worth your effort. You might feel like connecting with others isn’t worth giving up your peace. It's not worth the racing heart and the panic attacks and the never-ending mental roller coaster that keeps you up all night. It's not worth putting yourself out there, only to feel constantly talked over and misunderstood. But I know there's another part of you deep down that knows you deserve to experience real love and connection. And in your moments of strength and optimism (even if they're few and far between), the first step is to start loving and trusting YOURSELF first. Everything starts from there. I never would have been able to do this challenge if I hadn't decided 6 years ago that I deserved better than the shitty ways I was treating myself. If you show yourself love (even if it feels fake for a while) and you take small steps to heal at your own pace, one day you'll wake up stunned to realize that you're not faking it anymore. You WILL feel that love for both yourself and others. You WILL be able to see real progress. And even though I know it might not seem like it right now, it IS worth it - and the fear becomes a dance partner instead of a demon. Sending you all so much love. Take care of yourselves ❤

  • @Julianrocker200

    @Julianrocker200

    9 ай бұрын

    God bless you Melinda, very inspiring!

  • @itsamelinda

    @itsamelinda

    9 ай бұрын

    @@Julianrocker200 thank you so much! ❤️

  • @magicianwizard4294

    @magicianwizard4294

    9 ай бұрын

    Congratulations on getting out of it! It's really inspiring that you not only exposed yourself to all the people who took part in the challenge but all of us as well.

  • @itsamelinda

    @itsamelinda

    9 ай бұрын

    @@magicianwizard4294thank you so much! ❤ It’s getting easier all the time 😊

  • @itsabdelg

    @itsabdelg

    9 ай бұрын

    Good for you, it's great to see were not alone in this. This challenge has inspired me. Thank you.

  • @rooshi7
    @rooshi710 ай бұрын

    melinda was already kind of a boss to want to do this ON CAMERA. This is actually the nightmare worst case scenario for anyone with social anxiety

  • @snoozyq9576

    @snoozyq9576

    10 ай бұрын

    Yea she's kind like goals already for a lot of anxious folks like me 😅

  • @mountainair

    @mountainair

    10 ай бұрын

    It takes on many different flavors. Some may be ok on camera, not face to face. Some just struggle with presentations but can chat at parties, etc

  • @creepsow1236

    @creepsow1236

    10 ай бұрын

    I mean its 10k who wouldn't do that

  • @TheGinagriffin

    @TheGinagriffin

    10 ай бұрын

    That's why offering the money makes this entire thing bogus and isn't healing at all.

  • @afrosymphony8207

    @afrosymphony8207

    10 ай бұрын

    seriously i was thinking the samething, i dont think i'd be vulnerable enough to let my family and friends watch me struggle with something everyone thinks is "easy". The sliver of pride i have in myself is hanging on the idea that my friends and family think i'm a functional human being who is veragely confident. EVEN with the way my finances are right now i'm not sure my social anxiety would take a backseat if someone like mark offered me tthis kinda money to do fun activities on camera lool.

  • @thunderbird4586
    @thunderbird458610 ай бұрын

    I'm a 19 year old guy and I cried through the whole video. To everyone suffering anxiety, you are heard, you are seen, and you are loved.

  • @dcoy8666

    @dcoy8666

    9 ай бұрын

    That's great bro, now go out and push yourself to overcome it

  • @itsporange

    @itsporange

    6 ай бұрын

    same. we'll get there too.

  • @nxtboyIII

    @nxtboyIII

    Ай бұрын

    do hypnotherapy its the cure for social anxiety/any anxiety IMO because you actually go back mentally/emotionally to the origin of the anxiety and resolve it its what i did and i feel so much better and different its kinda crazy didnt realize humans could change this fast until now

  • @yo9979

    @yo9979

    21 күн бұрын

    You too!

  • @TheSmithPlays
    @TheSmithPlays10 ай бұрын

    The coolest thing about these videos is seeing how well someone I associate with writing transitiion over and succeed in a KZread content format

  • @zelic360

    @zelic360

    10 ай бұрын

    the coolest thing must be seeing one of my fav past youtubers comment on one of my fav current youtubers’ videos

  • @TheSheepster

    @TheSheepster

    10 ай бұрын

    I feel the same way! Mark is awesome

  • @nathanielmediocre

    @nathanielmediocre

    10 ай бұрын

    had a stroke reading this

  • @MrSean737

    @MrSean737

    10 ай бұрын

    the smithplays!

  • @frankkennedy6388

    @frankkennedy6388

    9 ай бұрын

    I didn't expect to find a former Zombies KZreadr here! Especially one that looked pretty social.

  • @DETRKT
    @DETRKT10 ай бұрын

    Anyone else tearing up from watching this? Way to go Melinda, that was badass. Love the video, Mark. Seeing these principles shown in a practical sense was a very powerful way to portray it. 👏 To anyone else out there facing similar things. You got this.

  • @camo_fisherman

    @camo_fisherman

    10 ай бұрын

    I didn't tear up, I had something in my eye....***sniff,sniff***

  • @katiescape

    @katiescape

    10 ай бұрын

    Tear up? I cried my heart out at the end. Well done Mark, if there were only more people like you in the world.

  • @m4x1coo59

    @m4x1coo59

    10 ай бұрын

    +1

  • @jeanenep33

    @jeanenep33

    10 ай бұрын

    I teared up a lot- to get to live without this anxiety and enjoy being close to others would be such an amazing gift

  • @Disappointed739

    @Disappointed739

    10 ай бұрын

    As a former boy scout master, so many of the things I saw in this video are things that we worked through with scouts younger, many of whom have gravitated to scouting because of their own fears and anxieties, often at their parent's bidding ("maybe scouting can get him out of his shell..."). Success in front of their peers, overcoming failure through effort and systematic work, learning to put the group ahead of your own comfort, realizing that a little failure is good for you and no one hates you because of it but succeeding is so much sweeter, learning to lead... it is all so related to self confidence and social maturity.

  • @Esperanzaaa
    @Esperanzaaa10 ай бұрын

    How to Overcome Anxiety 1. Desensitization (get outside, talk to strangers, realize the awkwardness won’t kill you) 2. Curiosity (when you train yourself to be curious about others/new activities, you remove the constant focus away from yourself) 3. Humor (You’ll stop worrying what other ppl think of you when you realize how seldom they do) 4. Vulnerability (the going 1st principle) 5. Authenticity

  • @bsoular11

    @bsoular11

    10 ай бұрын

    Yoga, prayer and meditation worked for me.

  • @hannesRSA

    @hannesRSA

    10 ай бұрын

    6. Be a cute woman.

  • @aprilhassell1747

    @aprilhassell1747

    10 ай бұрын

    Awesome, I have nontypical anxiety 🙃

  • @rijd2304

    @rijd2304

    10 ай бұрын

    I would add mindfulness. That's a big one. The book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels has good mindfulness practices I've enjoyed. Retraining the brain and its automatic reactions is important.

  • @zan6585

    @zan6585

    10 ай бұрын

    Diet actually cured all my phsyical anxiety weirdly enough, I no longer "feel" anxious, I can have anxious thoughts (although much less) but no longer feel it in my body.

  • @exodeus7959
    @exodeus79599 ай бұрын

    Mark is better than any psychiatric doctor I have ever met. Instead of BS appointments and medication Mark helped this young lady via exposure therapy and “commiserating together”. He was an “active participant” in hear treatment and I can’t even imagine how much better she feels. Both of you did great. Looking forward to watching more of these videos.

  • @nathandarrow3952

    @nathandarrow3952

    9 ай бұрын

    While I have nothing against psychiatric meds and traditional therapy, you're dead on when it comes to exposure therapy and commiserating. When it comes to conquering your fears, the only way out is trough.

  • @cornoc

    @cornoc

    8 ай бұрын

    i agree but realistically a psychiatrist gets 1 hour with you per week, in an office setting. there's only so much they can do in that context.

  • @adtc

    @adtc

    5 ай бұрын

    And she won money! We just bleed money to the therapists...

  • @adtc

    @adtc

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@cornocmaybe the whole idea of "1 hour in an office setting" is what's wrong. It's a very rigid structure to help with something that's so different for every person walking into it.

  • @thomastom4232

    @thomastom4232

    3 ай бұрын

    He is such a great mentor because he himself has LIVED through all these phases. Not like "professionals" that just learn theory and get a degree.

  • @kissadilla
    @kissadilla10 ай бұрын

    I can tell Mark approached this whole project from a place of love and empathy over anything else. All her challenges were approachable and usually fun and even funny. This is why Mark's work is so attractive to me. Breakthroughs are fun now, and they even have naughty words. Thanks for making this your life's work!

  • @Firecelebi

    @Firecelebi

    10 ай бұрын

    The breakthroughs hit a great zone of being simple approachable, interesting, and having real depth to them as opposed to other self-help advice, like that admiral who insists that making your bed in the morning will solve all your problems. I've found them really significant and applicable to my own life.

  • @calebquimby

    @calebquimby

    7 ай бұрын

    I feel like approaching anything we do from a place of love makes everything better

  • @quentinmcmullen2792
    @quentinmcmullen279210 ай бұрын

    I like that unlike a lot of "self help" authors, you seem willing to actually go out and prove that what you say/do can help regular people. I look forward to the rest of this series for sure.

  • @AndreyUrman
    @AndreyUrman10 ай бұрын

    You're making the world a better place one step at a time, well done!

  • @Hoodhippydave

    @Hoodhippydave

    10 ай бұрын

    Yes yes yes 🙌

  • @grannyronna

    @grannyronna

    10 ай бұрын

    Agree with this! Thank you for the inspiration and spreading awareness regarding social anxiety.

  • @Rummage.rabbit

    @Rummage.rabbit

    10 ай бұрын

    No he’s not, he’s making it worse. Mark sucks

  • @mjcamp01
    @mjcamp0110 ай бұрын

    I went through that journey on my own, forcing myself to speak to strangers, dealing with their rejection etc, it was so powerful and all along people said I was a weirdo for challenging myself, but I became so much stronger for it. Well done on helping this lady Mark, and to anyone out their who is struggling, just take it one step at a time, in your own time, but push forward, moving outside your comfort zone makes your comfort zone rapidly expand

  • @kimwarburton8490

    @kimwarburton8490

    10 ай бұрын

    hmm rejection/abandonment has been a big thing for me XD Logically i know differently n i am better than i used to be, but its been a trigger since i was 4 -37yrs ago XD How did u go about it? I dont have a social anxiety im happy to chat to randoms, cos they 'mean nothing' as theres no emotional investment

  • @BradM

    @BradM

    10 ай бұрын

    @@kimwarburton8490 I'm in no way qualified to give advice so bare that in mind. But I had a very similar situation as in "I dont care about strangers cos they mean nothing" but I think that is one of the worst mindsets to approach the situation with. As Mark pointed out through this video, the best way to overcome your anxiety isn't courage, it's curiosity. How can you be curious if the person "means nothing" to you, maybe reframe your belief to be something more along the lines of "If this situation doesn't go well I don't need to see this stranger again." this will open up the potential to be curious whilst keeping the freedom of not being overly invested into whether the conversation/exchange goes well or poorly.

  • @kimwarburton8490

    @kimwarburton8490

    10 ай бұрын

    @@BradM This is an excellent response! :D Problem is, if i like someone enough to BE curious about them, historically, a trauma pattern of fawning or freeze-mode* ensues. Esp if i am romantically interested, i go into freeze, potential friends i have historically 'fawned' XD I have had no social life since 2014 due to ill-health, so when im fully recovered and start making friends again, things likely to be different. Currently, i have very limited empirical evidence that i have changed/healed enough mentally/behaviourally/socially/confidence/boundries etc etc, so these fears of repeating past experiences live on. (*where my brain and body cease to function and i am unable to communicate. Not in the cute comedy film way, but in a i literally only hear noise, not words because my brain shuts down kinda freeze mode. I can only apologise and blame/explain ME/CFS diagnosis, but it is also rejection trauma from when i was 4/5/6) I think what i need to do most is get out of my own head, stop analysing and fearing 'x', worry less about whether im 'good enough/worthy enough' to be included by them and more about IF i genuinely like THEM in the first place. I have also rushed into friendships that were ... not good. I intend to be choosier about who i let into my life -no toxics etc Does that resonate?

  • @NinjaPlease101
    @NinjaPlease10110 ай бұрын

    This is like an awesome Mr. Beast/Self-Help/Psychology mashup. Love the direction this channel is taking. Feels like a genuine and natural progression of your writing and course work. Nice job, Mark!

  • @bodzee
    @bodzee10 ай бұрын

    It's so refreshing to see the action behind the "self-development" stuff. This feels so real and raw, amazing Marc love the direction. Great job Melinda.

  • @musicologyrc-5056

    @musicologyrc-5056

    10 ай бұрын

    Really good point, sometimes it can feel like self development is a hamster wheel, but stuff like this shows you how real change is possible.

  • @m4x1coo59

    @m4x1coo59

    10 ай бұрын

    Couldn't agree more, great point

  • @RecoveryMisfit
    @RecoveryMisfit10 ай бұрын

    You can tell Melinda wanted this for herself more than the money. Anxiety will tell you $10,000 isn’t worth it, but she went all in. This was awesome

  • @alexl2489
    @alexl248910 ай бұрын

    That was really beautiful. This video made me cry. I’ve suffered from social anxiety my whole life and it’s nice to see others making strides to overcome it. I just assumed life would always be this way. This gives me hope which I lost a long time ago. I’m even terrified to post this comment but I’ll do it.

  • @fleurosea

    @fleurosea

    10 ай бұрын

    Yay, you did the going first thing 😊 I struggle more some days and less others, I’ve learnt about my self that I have a limit on how many hours I can interact with people before I’m topped out. Respecting my own needs helps me trust myself. And I find that people are a lot nicer than I have expected them to be, I’m learning to expect kindness and friendliness more, and building trust to look after myself when they aren’t. 😊😊

  • @joncoish
    @joncoish10 ай бұрын

    The fact that she laughs when she’s anxious is actually kind of adorable and makes her come across very warm and friendly.

  • @RizKaira
    @RizKaira10 ай бұрын

    It would be fantastic to see a follow up in 6 months! You rock, Mark. It's inspiring to see Melinda find more of her courage and curiosity. She's set an example for all of us who live within our heads rather than the world.

  • @ElectricBikeLaboratory

    @ElectricBikeLaboratory

    10 ай бұрын

    Agreed , would love to see a follow up. Was hoping it would be at the end of the video

  • @mordecai3366

    @mordecai3366

    10 ай бұрын

    as someone who has anxiety this would do nothing

  • @_Tennz
    @_Tennz10 ай бұрын

    This was deeply moving. Melinda, thank you for sharing your vulnerability and Mark, thank you being the catalyst.

  • @deepaslibrary8368
    @deepaslibrary836810 ай бұрын

    Its so emotional to see Milinda improve through this process, nd I'm watching her improving, and in stage 5 when all invited her with claps - surprise.... Literally i got emotional by seeing how confidently she was speaking, and sharing learnings... ❤️Its just so powerful..!!!

  • @sliceofpie1741
    @sliceofpie174110 ай бұрын

    Saw Mark in a normal human space for the first time. Idk In his KZread videos he seems to me like someone who would just ignore you in the crowd with a weird looking face, but he seems genuine caring person in this video. Well done, Mark, you'll always be the big difference in Melinda's life

  • @illumiNateX7
    @illumiNateX710 ай бұрын

    As someone who actively works on their own social anxiety and pushes himself to improve on a daily basis, I appreciate this video. Thanks for everything you do mark!

  • @kiribundi
    @kiribundi10 ай бұрын

    Crazy how the 10K cheque incentive probably didn't matter. Getting rid of anxiety is priceless. Btw, thank you Mark for writing Models. I'm reading it at the moment and applying everything I've learned from it to my actual social life. It helps me a lot. Wish I did it sooner, but better late than never!

  • @NicoPinilla97

    @NicoPinilla97

    10 ай бұрын

    You gotta be joking with that first sentence lol

  • @euphoriaagain

    @euphoriaagain

    10 ай бұрын

    ​@@NicoPinilla97You're right in that 10k probably did initially incentivize her to do the uncomfortable things, but after doing all the stages having no social anxiety is worth way more than that

  • @crilo2026
    @crilo202610 ай бұрын

    I suffered from social anxiety all my life and i never knew what it was called until my mid 20s. growing up in a Hispanic household in the 90s, anxiety was never spoken of mainly because there wasn’t any knowledge about it but now as an adult i understand what causes my anxiety and i can find resources to help myself. i needed to watch this. thank you for everything you do Mark!

  • @Wimruther-hk4zn
    @Wimruther-hk4zn10 ай бұрын

    Was actually having this constant unbearable anxiety and addiction to alcohol. It's just amazing how psilocybin containing mushroom saved my life from anxiety and addiction after trying out psilocybin treatment. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

  • @laurj09

    @laurj09

    10 ай бұрын

    I've been looking to try shrooms for depression, just very difficult to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

  • @Hison-Dcarman

    @Hison-Dcarman

    10 ай бұрын

    Amen Isd and psilocybin are amazing teachers along its dmt mah dudes. Have safe trips all. Shrooms are blessings from nature.

  • @rosemary8305

    @rosemary8305

    10 ай бұрын

    Yup!, he's Dr.benshrooms. my first shrooms trip was really awesome. It felt like I was deep into the sea.

  • @SusanaGomez-mp8sk

    @SusanaGomez-mp8sk

    10 ай бұрын

    Sure, I've done microdosing for help and it works does cut depression out its been the best remedy I've ever had. psilocybin been illegal is actually a crime against humanity

  • @LuisaSweden-rf3ke

    @LuisaSweden-rf3ke

    10 ай бұрын

    Does he ship? Can he deliver to me here in Australia 🇦🇺

  • @lucasguillet8537
    @lucasguillet853710 ай бұрын

    Writing this comment is hard because of my social anxiety but less with videos like that. So helping and genuine, thanks Mark !

  • @heyheyyouxp

    @heyheyyouxp

    10 ай бұрын

    Same here, this video made me smile. Seeing how she made it through each challenge. I watched the video, but was scared to write a comment until I saw this 😂

  • @nicolasmelancon3997
    @nicolasmelancon399710 ай бұрын

    Wow, that was fucking beautiful, I cried my ass off during her speech. All the unfolding of her person in so little time, overcoming something (we) think is stuck with us for our entire lives. When you overcome things like anxiety in your life, you know how liberating it feels. It brought me back to my moments of liberation, but also how beautiful it is to see other humans free themselves. Bravo to Melinda!

  • @thegamingrelish9272
    @thegamingrelish927210 ай бұрын

    This actually made me cry at the end. The only way to cure anxiety is to face it head on and this video is an example of that. As an anxious person myself it's so important to remember the suffering comes from our perspective and that by changing our perspective we can change the way we see life. Well done to mark for changing her life that's something that money can't buy

  • @sweglordmcgee2937
    @sweglordmcgee293710 ай бұрын

    It would be amazing to see Melinda and how she's doing in 6 months or even a year. Seeing the long term effects of this experiment would be really interesting!

  • @IAmMarkManson
    @IAmMarkManson10 ай бұрын

    If you're interested in participating in a video like this, fill out the form here: mrk.mn/youtube

  • @JaysonT1

    @JaysonT1

    10 ай бұрын

    She's so cute though. Why would she be nervous?

  • @stacybradshaw4818

    @stacybradshaw4818

    10 ай бұрын

    WOW😮....I would, but I'm waaay worse than her...I'd be the biggest pain in ya'lls ass. That was so wonderful for her😄🎉It was really great, thank you!!!

  • @beterraba_wojak

    @beterraba_wojak

    10 ай бұрын

    i would, but im in another contry :(

  • @themacocko6311

    @themacocko6311

    10 ай бұрын

    You should actually take what you are doing with this Idea of helping people and make it a TV series on main stream TV.

  • @AxelVernaut

    @AxelVernaut

    10 ай бұрын

    Ty, but honestly I am so tired. I don't have, even a passport.

  • @prathamsolanki742
    @prathamsolanki74210 ай бұрын

    Man I am seeing your content for almost three years. Read your books in 2018. But hands down I can say this is the best thing you have ever done. Love you mark . Keep changing lifes ❤

  • @TilakBochiwal
    @TilakBochiwal10 ай бұрын

    Imagine healing someone's anxiety. It's going to open a whole new aspect of life for her. Well done Mark! You have my respect.

  • @1H4NDC14PP1N6
    @1H4NDC14PP1N610 ай бұрын

    I love this direction you're taking the channel, Mark! As someone who has struggled with anxiety on and off over my life and finally is in a place where I feel great and comfortable and even energized around people, especially new people, this video literally brought tears to my eyes. Keep up what you're doing!

  • @pepethefrog2
    @pepethefrog210 ай бұрын

    As someone who suffers from social anxiety too, I was able to relate to Melinda a lottt. This was super inspirational and imma try those tips because I want to change too. Thanks Mark and Melinda for having the courage to do this! 💗💗

  • @JeeYaoKuneDo

    @JeeYaoKuneDo

    10 ай бұрын

    What will you try first?

  • @pepethefrog2

    @pepethefrog2

    10 ай бұрын

    @@JeeYaoKuneDo probably desensitization, like just being more social and talking to strangers

  • @JeeYaoKuneDo

    @JeeYaoKuneDo

    10 ай бұрын

    @@pepethefrog2 Nice! Best of luck 👏

  • @trenchrock

    @trenchrock

    10 ай бұрын

    You can do it! I did it. The first thing you'll be surprised to learn is that a lot of people are just as scared as you.

  • @JM-td6zh

    @JM-td6zh

    10 ай бұрын

  • @banda5775
    @banda577510 ай бұрын

    FINALLY MY Wait Is Now Ended ❤❤❤

  • @Robreehl1
    @Robreehl110 ай бұрын

    I was moved to tears as I went on this journey with Melinda.Mark, you are an incredible human with a huge heart and I am so glad I crossed your path. Thank you for all you do for everyone ... those who make themselves visible to you, but mostly ... on behalf of those who are silent. xo

  • @obediahhinton1890
    @obediahhinton18909 ай бұрын

    She is one of the most adorable people I’ve seen and Mark you’re goddamn superhero. Finally through your recent videos I can see a small beam of light in these so dark and depressing times.

  • @Soheepflaume
    @Soheepflaume10 ай бұрын

    This is the kind of social experiment that could change people’s lives what a creative and altruistic project I loved how much she transformed with every task i feel like she even looks different towards the end!

  • @Soheepflaume
    @Soheepflaume10 ай бұрын

    It's not about getting rid of your anxiety but learning to play with it, it's all about changing your perspective! damn I watched this twice lol I've struggled with anxiety over the tiniest things and thought it would never go away but this really give me hope

  • @frankuvlkan

    @frankuvlkan

    10 ай бұрын

    Hi Sohee I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this compliment. If you don’t mind can we be friends? 🌺Thanks God bless you….🌹🌹

  • @rominasantana6006
    @rominasantana60066 ай бұрын

    Thank you Mark and Melinda for sharing your hearts and wisdom. This video speaks volumes. I also suffer with a degree of social anxiety and have felt disconnected from others since being a teenager until today, ( I 'm in my thirties). After almost twenty years of therapy and medication, I'm still struggling, so it feels good to know there's hope and much more people going through the same..For all of you I send love and encouragement. It's not an easy world but if we take a tiny step every day, things will change ( at least I hope so!)

  • @danielrojas7937
    @danielrojas793710 ай бұрын

    This was so beautifully wholesome Mark. You truly are making the world a much better place. Thank you for the smiles, the wisdom, and as always, the authenticity. Cheers🎉

  • @ReidKimball
    @ReidKimball10 ай бұрын

    😍 Bravo storytelling! I completely forgot about the $10,000 prize at the end bc I was so invested in seeing her growth. Props to the editor.

  • @MyBestLife1
    @MyBestLife110 ай бұрын

    😍 *Your COURAGE to 1, embark on this journey for yourself & 2, share it, is such a GIFT to yourself and those of us who witness it. Thank you, Melinda. 💚 There's so much power & healing in VULNERABILITY.* 🙏🏾

  • @schneiderdoom2960
    @schneiderdoom296010 ай бұрын

    So proud of both of you. Inspiring as f. It's nice to see a selfhelp going out in the field and really helping people. Can't wait to see more

  • @andreaswittesjo4426
    @andreaswittesjo44265 ай бұрын

    What a great change for a already great woman. Her giggly laughter and wide smile makes me happy! I wish you the best! Thank you for sharing this happy story.

  • @gagAMinute
    @gagAMinute10 ай бұрын

    Hi Mark! I loved this video thoroughly! I can't thank you enough for the work you do, I am ever so indebted. I feel she (Melinda) is so fortunate to go through this challenge with you in person. I have read a little bit about you and a few books you published. They are all awesome. I am on a journey to read every book you've ever written, but above all I would love to meet you in person as soon as I can. Listening to you, reading your books feels like being saved from drowning into the sea of anxiety, depression, and mental trauma. Thank you once again for being there, being a beacon lamp, being such a nice and noble person 🙏💗😇

  • @TonyaS
    @TonyaS10 ай бұрын

    awe I has the genuine feels for this. I don't know her but I'm incredibly proud of her. I think anxiety is something you probably never "get over" but just learn to dance with and befriend. Cheers to her success going forward and hugs to anyone who deals with this on a daily basis.

  • @rowdyleon318
    @rowdyleon31810 ай бұрын

    I loved every single second of this video.Thank you for taking this route, Mark. You continue being an inspiration for so many people.

  • @MrWoolminator
    @MrWoolminator10 ай бұрын

    This was AWESOME! She seemed so much more grounded throughout the process. Good job Melinda and Marc :)

  • @-mattwood
    @-mattwood10 ай бұрын

    Good on you, Mark. For ALSO trying something new and braving this direction. Life doesn't come with cheat codes or walk throughs - so we cope - and many of us disappear along the way. Life is good, when you can figure out what is holding you back. A lot of us are being held back and we don't know why or how to get away from it. We all need help, love and understanding.

  • @tobbyrhodes
    @tobbyrhodes10 ай бұрын

    I love how creative you are with helping people solve their problems. You’re the most interesting writer I know!

  • @ninjaJeff06
    @ninjaJeff0610 ай бұрын

    Such a beautiful video. I suffered from social anxiety my whole life. Seeing Melinda go through these challenges and coming out the other side with a new perspective on life feels so inspiring

  • @jackbauer5455

    @jackbauer5455

    10 ай бұрын

    Yes it was inspiring hope you are dealing with your anxiety better as well

  • @boatdweller310
    @boatdweller31010 ай бұрын

    This is joyous and yes I teared up big time. Thank you Mark and thank you Melinda for being so vulnerable and brave and showing us a pathway for change with our own anxiety and awkwardness. Powerful stuff

  • @ohok3023
    @ohok302310 ай бұрын

    This came at a right time because I’ve been eager to talk to a new student in my grade but my social anxiety has been keeping me away from that opportunity. I’m just grateful that I now have a completely new perspective on socializing, rather than seeing it as a test

  • @trenchrock

    @trenchrock

    10 ай бұрын

    Best tip I ever got is to start with a compliment😊 Works every time

  • @leiferickson3183
    @leiferickson318310 ай бұрын

    This is such a wonderful thing! Thank you Mark and Melinda!

  • @HenrySuryawirawan
    @HenrySuryawirawan10 ай бұрын

    A beautiful and touching story! Great lessons to help people who deal with anxiety, whether big or small. Thanks for sharing this, Mark! This is a very original way to help and educate people at the same time with your usual humor and insightful philosophy. Can't wait to watch the next one!

  • @a.vanbuuren7484
    @a.vanbuuren748410 ай бұрын

    melinda.. you did it! and so much more! I clapped like mad for you and cried like a baby. There are so many of us right where you were and wanting to be right where you are headed. Thank you for your bravery!

  • @TFVGaming
    @TFVGaming10 ай бұрын

    Amazing Video!

  • @Lucy11_11
    @Lucy11_1110 ай бұрын

    Cheers ✨🥂 Melinda and Mark!!! As a person who’s always suffered w/ anxiety - this brought tears to my eyes! Didn’t think I could love you or your work any more than I already do, Mark - but I was wrong!!! Bravo 👏🏽 ✨🥳. Just incredible

  • @claremurphy777
    @claremurphy77710 ай бұрын

    Wow. That was so moving & ccompekking! 10,000 well earned Melinda! Wishing you all the best going forward in your less anxious life.☘️💕

  • @faithrdixon
    @faithrdixon10 ай бұрын

    This was so powerful. And I’m so impressed with Melinda! I’d love to see the series address avoiding conflict/fear of expressing feelings that might lead to conflict. That’s my biggest struggle right now.

  • @cmoodley2287
    @cmoodley228710 ай бұрын

    The timing of this video was perfect lol. I always beat myself up for feeling socially anxious and then I get stuck in the feedback loop. I feel like my social anxiety makes me unworthy or relationships and the people I want to be with. Working on it and always come back to this channel when I'm feeling out of it. Keep up the good work, Mark 👏

  • @pablodelpinomusic
    @pablodelpinomusic10 ай бұрын

    Hey Mark! I'm a huge fan of your work, and your book has genuinely impacted my life in ways I couldn't have imagined. I've been religiously following your KZread videos and absolutely love the content you bring forth. Quick audio tip for you: Try standing a bit further from the mic, cutting the low end at 100kHz, and adding some compression. This could really boost your sound quality.

  • @Bazzguit

    @Bazzguit

    10 ай бұрын

    100kHz? I don't think that's anywhere near the low end, lol

  • @pablodelpinomusic

    @pablodelpinomusic

    10 ай бұрын

    @@Bazzguitwhoops 100Hz

  • @ZuraJanai_Katsurada
    @ZuraJanai_Katsurada10 ай бұрын

    Beautiful, thank you for sharing your story with us Melinda! Thank you Mark for your contrarian way of helping us rediscover our own and our shared humanity and face life head on, and with a good sense of humor! I cried good tears at several points in the video. Thank you!

  • @RyanHales-Coaching
    @RyanHales-Coaching10 ай бұрын

    Love this! I love seeing people have breakthroughs and that scene of you guys in the back of the car after the free hugs and you can tell the difference in her laugh and how excited she sounds to have overcome it and can start to see the light! THE BEST! haha. I have always thought of excitement and anxiety as almost identical, except for our perception. If we focus on the negative it morphs into anxiety, and if we are in a positive frame it feels more like excitement. But giving this lovely women a new lease on life is one of the greatest gifts you can give,. Thank you Mark Manson for making the world a little better for all of us.

  • @aaaa-sg5nu
    @aaaa-sg5nu10 ай бұрын

    Incredible journey to watch. Continue changing the life of millions. Thanks mark❤❤

  • @what_um_what6690
    @what_um_what669010 ай бұрын

    Amazing video!!!! I remember your video where you announced downside of youtube/books driven self help culture and that you would work on making something different. Very happy to see this initiative.

  • @gauravathavale5592
    @gauravathavale559210 ай бұрын

    I straightaway teared up towards the end of this video, Mark. What a brilliant way to help someone deal with their anxiety, and help people grow in their lives. As someone who has struggled from anxiety and depression from a long time due to various past traumas, I would definately do something like this even if there was no reward, no money at the end. Keep doing this Mark, it always makes me happy to watch such videos and how you make a difference in people's lives. Thank you.

  • @ramakrishna-xm5jg
    @ramakrishna-xm5jg10 ай бұрын

    Truly moving. So happy to see Melinda work her way through her social anxiety issue. Wonderful job, Mark👏

  • @uneedtherapy42
    @uneedtherapy4210 ай бұрын

    This video is awesome and yet again proves “ in vivo therapy” ie just go and do it in real life is the best way. If she sat around and intellectualized /spoke abstractly about her anxiety she would never make this progress.

  • @antonpetrov9277
    @antonpetrov927710 ай бұрын

    Love your work, Mark! But THIS is by far the most incredibly valuable video you have made! Congrats

  • @lucy04444
    @lucy0444410 ай бұрын

    Very wholesome and inspirational documentary style video. When I saw the title I didn’t think I would relate that much and even cry a little. I’m very interested to see what other paradigm shift video you and your team come up with, Mark.

  • @YouLoveandYouLearn
    @YouLoveandYouLearn10 ай бұрын

    Such a beautiful transformation and I loved how practical these 5 steps were. Thank you for sharing Mark, and I am celebrating you Melinda!

  • @cyrillemanalo2229
    @cyrillemanalo222910 ай бұрын

    Wooh man, I didn't expect I would cry watching this. I relate to Melinda in so many levels. She's so brave and inspiring. ❤

  • @ekay4495
    @ekay449510 ай бұрын

    I can't believe I'm about to write this, but I've been dealing with the exact same struggle as she has my entire life (tho I have no one special to change for), I realized I have been doing some of these stages in the past 1-2 weeks (out of order tho) and I feel like my own subconcious and universe has been trying to tell me to keep at it, not to regress back into my shell. I just went out for the first time in months having an amazing time and not reacting to everything as a defence mechanism (as I usually do), It's the most motivated I've been to finally let myself be ME and not care what others thing. I come back, open KZread and this is the first video I see. I'm a logical man of science, but I really hope this is destiny! Thank you Mark, only found this channel because my dad recommended it to me the other month.

  • @DigitalHabit
    @DigitalHabit10 ай бұрын

    I love this. I feel like this is something too many people need to go through, myself included, and to see how much it helped Melinda out really feels inspirational

  • @Yash_Pai
    @Yash_Pai10 ай бұрын

    What a beautiful video, as a person fighting from social anxiety as well this gives me some more hope/motivation to get better. One of the best videos i've seen in a long time

  • @sigurdsonb5015
    @sigurdsonb501510 ай бұрын

    This was AMAZING!!! So genuine you weren’t kidding when you said you were going to do something big, different, totally real. Melinda beautiful to watch you blossom. So many elements of my life here…. Thank you for blazing the way. PS :I went to high school in Saskatoon … nice city full of really really nice real people!!!

  • @mariolongtin8271
    @mariolongtin827110 ай бұрын

    That's beautiful and amazing what you did for her, Mark!

  • @louisevessey3839
    @louisevessey383910 ай бұрын

    Incredible video. I would love to see an update in 6 months to see how Melinda is getting along. What a terrific idea! More videos like this please!

  • @attunedliving
    @attunedliving10 ай бұрын

    We're all rooting for you so hard, Melinda! Way to go!

  • @orenatostefani
    @orenatostefani10 ай бұрын

    dude, you made it. that is the first youtube video ever to make me cry at the end. Keep rocking 👊🏼🙏🏼💜

  • @sebastian7807
    @sebastian780710 ай бұрын

    Wow! This face me a new perspective on the situation those with anxiety deal with. And heart warming at the same time. Thanks Melinda, so bravely done. Thanks Mark, its obvious when something is worth giving a F about.

  • @chelseayzel
    @chelseayzel10 ай бұрын

    Well done, Melinda! and this is amazing, Mark. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re helping a lot of people.

  • @mattbrowning2732
    @mattbrowning273210 ай бұрын

    This is amazing! Thank you, Mark. I love the new direction you're taking with your videos.

  • @BLC452
    @BLC45210 ай бұрын

    This is internet gold! The production is A1! Well, done Mark!

  • @iamdevpargai
    @iamdevpargai10 ай бұрын

    KZread needs this. Thank you Mark😊

  • @SimonKingsleyDutton
    @SimonKingsleyDuttonАй бұрын

    This is beyond inspiring! To be vulnerable enough to even be brave enough to do this to begin with has inspired me! The fact you’re out there supporting people directly as well as creating content is why I think you’re my favourite KZread creator.

  • @deavz
    @deavz10 ай бұрын

    I loved this so much, helping people understand what they're capable of and reaching out with intention like this. Uttermost respect to her and how she faced these challenges, Mark was wonderfully delicate every step of the way. What a beautiful video 😊

  • @AAsadzadehP
    @AAsadzadehP10 ай бұрын

    Thanks Mark, for being inspiring for us. I've learned a lot from you ❤

  • @su_zuki_2310
    @su_zuki_231010 ай бұрын

    I truly needed this video in my life THANK YOU.

  • @oninlabotv3080
    @oninlabotv308010 ай бұрын

    She has the sweetest laugh ❤ .. And that laugh has a lot of stories and lessons to tell. Keep it up Mark! I've been waiting for this video to be release. I hope one day I can be a part of your videos/channel. Thank you.

  • @zuggrr
    @zuggrr10 ай бұрын

    This is absolutely gold for anyone with social anxiety. Will make you save like 3 years of faulty tactics and methods. And avoid sooo much suffering

  • @NGC-7635
    @NGC-763510 ай бұрын

    This video had a big impact on me. Especially since that song you played was once something I listened to every day when I was a depressed teenager/young adult.

  • @chris.bussing
    @chris.bussing10 ай бұрын

    Love this! Getting into a career in sales was my personal opportunity to put these principles into action by being forced to call and connect with strangers! It definitely helped me build authentic confidence and I’m committed to helping more people use a career in sales to break through their own glass ceilings, become more self expressed, and make meaningful connections and a lot of money along the way!

  • @timothyhuerta82
    @timothyhuerta8210 ай бұрын

    This gives me so many memories and feelings of when I had social anxiety where I would pretend to do other things to get other people's approval. After being deployed, my friends told me that I needed to ask more questions while doing training since I was quiet/introverted letting life play itself whether I succeeded or not. I learned a lot after coming back knowing living life to the fullest knowing it can end at any moment. It doesn't matter what happens as long as you do it with the kindness of your heart and be vulnerable about it giving to the world. I thought I'd share this.

  • @jintazticful
    @jintazticful10 ай бұрын

    Sometimes the biggest thing standing in our way is ourselves. Melinda, I feel so much joy seeing you conquer your fears. You're inspiring many of us to do the same. You are doing amazing work, Mark!

  • @samarthhiremath371
    @samarthhiremath37110 ай бұрын

    This was insane 😳. Thank you Mark

  • @guitaro5000
    @guitaro500010 ай бұрын

    Great direction for the channel. Awesomeness! One tip: for the story telling voice over, try to replace all past tense verbs to present tense. So instead of "As we talked in the car afterward, Melinda's entire demeanor had changed" say "As we talk in the car, notice that Melinda's demeanor is very different." Or, instead of "Something incredible happened," say "What happens next is incredible." It helps the viewer to feel like it's happening now, which is far more interesting than something that happened already. Ya know what I'm saying? It commands a higher level of attention. Almost as if to say "don't blink or you will miss this!" Looking forward to new videos!

  • @mikayugu316

    @mikayugu316

    10 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this tip.

  • @mr.drexprototype5496

    @mr.drexprototype5496

    10 ай бұрын

    hmm yeah but i think this is good, it will become more like other youtubers content like pranks and vlogs stuff. his past tense verbs feels more like smthin serious business lol but kinda suits this genre

  • @leedsmanc

    @leedsmanc

    10 ай бұрын

    Holy shit, you're getting comments from the Microsoft Word paperclip!

  • @Gigusx

    @Gigusx

    8 ай бұрын

    Doesn't sound great.

  • @The_Reductionist

    @The_Reductionist

    4 ай бұрын

    @@leedsmanc HIS NAME IS CLIPPY!

  • @karismaliving
    @karismaliving10 ай бұрын

    Love this new format Mark! You’re a legend. You’ve changed my life and this format will for sure impact many more people much more effectively. Thank you ❤

  • @KT-yi6gn
    @KT-yi6gn10 ай бұрын

    Amazing video. The experimental way of solving the problem of anxiety was very refreshing and different from the usual videos on anxiety. I have been watching earlier videos of Mark but this was absolutely wonderful. I also had tears in my eyes during her speech. Kudos to Mark for making such an amazing video.