25 ways to SAY NO strongly!

Saying “NO!” is a very simple way to refuse. However, native speakers of English say “no” in many different ways which you might not know yet. It’s important for you to learn all the ways in which we can say “no” in order to prevent misunderstandings. You should also learn to use these because in some situations, you need to use stronger language. I will teach you 25 ways to refuse in a strong and direct way. Depending on where you come from, this may not be usual in your home country or culture. But in English-speaking countries, being direct is very often the most appropriate behavior. You will learn expressions such as “No way, Jose”, “under no circumstance”, “out of the question”, “no chance”, “fat chance”, “not gonna happen”, and many more. By the end of this lesson, you will be able to say the simple and common word “no” with more variety than ever before. Take the quiz at www.engvid.com/25-ways-to-say...
Next, watch my video on how to stop sounding weak:
• STOP SOUNDING WEAK!
TRANSCRIPT
Hi, everyone. This lesson is about strong ways to say NO. Lots of people are scared of that word, of saying no, so they want to know: "How can I say it politely? Or how can I not offend someone when I say: 'no'?" And this lesson is not about that; this lesson is how to say "no" when you really mean it, because sometimes we do need to say "no". It's an important word, and we need to say it so that people respect us when we say "no". So, I've got some different examples of situations where we might say "no", and different examples of language we can use.
So, the first example here is a situation where somebody asks for your number, and I'm imagining a situation where you don't want to give your number to that person, they're hassling you, you're not attracted to them, you don't like them, you definitely don't want to give them your number - here are some things people say.
First, a very common response is: "Sorry, I've got a boyfriend." And people might say that because they think: "If I say I've got a boyfriend, then that's why I can't give you my number. I would if I could, but I've already got a boyfriend, so that's why I can't give it to you." But in my opinion, this is not... this is not a strong enough no, so I'm going to cross that one out. Whether it's true or not, you've got a boyfriend or you haven't got a boyfriend, if you don't want to give that person your number, use something a bit stronger and don't worry about hurting their feelings in this situation, if they're hassling you.
So, you could be more blunt. "Blunt" is another way of saying more direct. You can say: "I'm not interested." Or you could say: "Not gonna happen. No. Not gonna happen." This is... This is not standard English; this is slang - the way we would actually say it. We wouldn't say: "Not going to happen", because it's not as... It's not as fierce, so we shorten it to say: "Not gonna happen."
Or you could say: "Not in a million years." This is so impossible and so unlikely for you to ask for my number, the only thing I can say is: "Not in a million years." You can keep asking me again, and again, and again for a million years, and the answer is going to be: "No".
You could say: "No chance. No chance", and that means: You have no chance with me; no chance. No chance.
If the... If the person who wants your number is coming on really strong, like they won't go away; a lot of hassle, you can then say: "How many times do I have to tell you?!" You're getting more serious, you're saying it more like you mean it now, because you want this person to leave you alone.
A similar... A similar kind of strength of "no" for that situation is to say: "What part of 'no' don't you understand? I've said 'no' to you already; this is the final straw. You're really getting on my nerves now. What part of 'no' don't you understand?" This makes you... This is like suggesting the other person is a bit stupid as well. "Don't you understand 'no'?"
And the last two, imagine if that person is really hassling you: "Leave me alone!" or "Go away!" Now, it is a little bit hard in the sense that when we... When we do get more direct and aggressive, we have to be careful in a sense as well, because with some people this will... This will work when you shout at them, like: "Leave me alone! Go away!" If you're... If the way you say it is so strong and there's a lot of power in your words, it can scare a lot of people off; they go. But some people react to aggression and the way you... The way you say things. So, if you shouted at them: "Leave me alone!" they might be like: "What's your problem?" or something like that, so you always have to judge in the situation: Is it safe to use aggression with this person? It's safe to say: "No", but you have to decide how strong you can be. […]

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  • @Franciscoluche
    @Franciscoluche4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks teacher! 🤗❤️ In France 🇫🇷 , they have some identical expressions: 1) Même pas en rêves (not even in dreams!) 😒 2) La semaine des 4 jeudis (when a week will have 4 Thursdays inside it 😅 3) Quand les poules auront des dents (When chickens 🐓 will have teeth 🦷) 😂 4) Je ne suis pas né de la dernière pluie 🌧 ☔️ (I’m not born from the last rain = I’m not born yesterday!)😉 Hi from Vietnam 🤗🇻🇳

  • @ViacheslavKr
    @ViacheslavKr4 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Jade! Glad to see and hear you again. Your British English accent is always a good practice for me. And you are a very good teacher. With love from Russia. Ch.

  • @anee7163
    @anee71634 жыл бұрын

    Now, I feel so happy to see your energy Jade. I wish to have more more in future. Love you!

  • @timsummers870
    @timsummers8704 жыл бұрын

    Here’s a good one: “bug off”. Also, if all you want is to not give your phone number to someone, just say “no”. Alternatively, just give him a wrong number, then smile and wave. It will work.

  • @oglachnaheireann752
    @oglachnaheireann7523 жыл бұрын

    I'm absolutely chuffed to bits! Always perfect job. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @mamymimma
    @mamymimma4 жыл бұрын

    So useful, thank you

  • @tankionlinefamily1097
    @tankionlinefamily10974 жыл бұрын

    Thank you teacher , it was really good lesson and I understand a lot of important informations that I didn't heard before now ! 🌹🌹

  • @matlindell5022
    @matlindell50224 жыл бұрын

    Hello Jade!we love you!

  • @ex-kommunist

    @ex-kommunist

    4 жыл бұрын

    Not in a million years

  • @manolin2215
    @manolin22154 жыл бұрын

    Thanks a lot! Lots of greetings from Cusco Peru

  • @Franciscoluche

    @Franciscoluche

    4 жыл бұрын

    Manolin Hola Emperor! 😉 🇵🇪

  • @user-ge3pl7yb9t
    @user-ge3pl7yb9t4 жыл бұрын

    I was looking forward to your new videos.😀

  • @Ommbye
    @Ommbye4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much for this wonderful video.

  • @oglachnaheireann752
    @oglachnaheireann7523 жыл бұрын

    Dear Jade, you're bloody brilliant! Thank you million times. Your lessons are frightfully spiffing. Your accent is beautyfull music for me. Don't leave us. We need you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍👍👍

  • @greengeospatial575
    @greengeospatial5754 жыл бұрын

    It's intersting vidio. I really like it. Thank you so much.

  • @4eyemonkey
    @4eyemonkey4 жыл бұрын

    Very useful thanks!!

  • @lcwng2736
    @lcwng27364 жыл бұрын

    Great to learn from you

  • @bluedragon4403
    @bluedragon44034 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 😊

  • @mariuspietrosel8064
    @mariuspietrosel80644 жыл бұрын

    Good evening Jade. Congratulations for your efforts to teach us English. Your videos are amazing. I would like to ask if you could release a video about ,,R,, sound in which we could find everything about it. Thank you in advance:)

  • @shuvradeepkaran2997
    @shuvradeepkaran29974 жыл бұрын

    Love from India, Jade. You are just amazing with your teaching style along with your expression and pronunciation. Your lessons are really helpful 😊😊💐

  • @yahyahamoud5226
    @yahyahamoud52264 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @bnu2b
    @bnu2b Жыл бұрын

    I love your videos. Thanks a lot!

  • @Gang606
    @Gang6064 жыл бұрын

    Welcome back...Jade...❤️❤️❤️

  • @ex-kommunist

    @ex-kommunist

    4 жыл бұрын

    What part of NO you did not understand?

  • @ibrahimissaissa6627
    @ibrahimissaissa66274 жыл бұрын

    We missed you thanks for your efforts

  • @user-nf1lu5in2g
    @user-nf1lu5in2g4 жыл бұрын

    I really like these lessons >

  • @adammartinez9661
    @adammartinez96614 жыл бұрын

    well ... I just discovered u today and I love u now !! keep going

  • @Hussain_Eidani
    @Hussain_Eidani4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks alot ma'am 🌺🌺🌺

  • @NickLiao
    @NickLiao4 жыл бұрын

    Thanks.

  • @lishiyu9010
    @lishiyu90104 жыл бұрын

    welcome back。 have been waiting for you for a long time

  • @leichen9103
    @leichen91034 жыл бұрын

    thx for ur video

  • @manoloyloles
    @manoloyloles4 жыл бұрын

    The use of f****g anywhere between those expressions reinforces each and every answer!

  • @webernorbertgermany
    @webernorbertgermany3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🙏

  • @Sya-il3bm
    @Sya-il3bm3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much jade for your lesson.. from Indonesia

  • @diegfeitosa
    @diegfeitosa4 жыл бұрын

    Jade I missed you so much ! I was thinking about you on my way back home and received the notification of your new video ! Thank you so much for existing. You are such an inspiration to me. Your videos are always helpful.

  • @Franciscoluche

    @Franciscoluche

    4 жыл бұрын

    Diego Feitosa So cute! 🤗🌼 I agree with you! 😉Teacher Jade is Amazing! 😊👍

  • @exsistentialis
    @exsistentialis4 жыл бұрын

    Jade! I just want to say that I love your voice and accent and i am always listening your videos to improve my skills as I don't live in an English speaking country. You are the best!

  • @NurAlam-ws6vl
    @NurAlam-ws6vl Жыл бұрын

    love you english friend,

  • @mohibullahamini1723
    @mohibullahamini17234 жыл бұрын

    Ur so calm

  • @kashifalikhan5124
    @kashifalikhan51244 жыл бұрын

    Nice video Maam

  • @2kMario
    @2kMario4 жыл бұрын

    She is my best teacher

  • @boriswilliams6217
    @boriswilliams62174 жыл бұрын

    Nice one

  • @aboodtariq9605
    @aboodtariq96054 жыл бұрын

    Why l am so curious to comment ? It's all great to learn

  • @ubaidrehman133
    @ubaidrehman1334 жыл бұрын

    Good explanation thanks

  • @reptoidcommand1060
    @reptoidcommand10604 жыл бұрын

    Fascinating....... In Hollywood...where I'm from.. ..."no" means "on".. ..and there is "no" word for "no"

  • @anee7163
    @anee71634 жыл бұрын

    Jade , In one of the sentence you put question mark first before an exclamatory mark . Would it be correct if i do this opposite?

  • @saprekingtechz6969
    @saprekingtechz69694 жыл бұрын

    Ma'am happy teachers' day

  • @royalrealtorindia3650
    @royalrealtorindia36504 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Which is the best english language school in england.Please suggest.

  • @sufyankh2210
    @sufyankh22104 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Jad. You are a good teacher

  • @cedricwierzchowski3414
    @cedricwierzchowski34142 жыл бұрын

    Jade is the best

  • @mohammedsa2r974
    @mohammedsa2r9744 жыл бұрын

    you are very fantastic teacher

  • @pamelchowdhury
    @pamelchowdhury4 жыл бұрын

    many many thanks, How're You?

  • @ferenckocsis9061

    @ferenckocsis9061

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm not interested.

  • @alb9022
    @alb90224 жыл бұрын

    1:13 a ghost!! o.o

  • @Franciscoluche

    @Franciscoluche

    4 жыл бұрын

    Al B Well done HAWK EYE 🦅 !!! 😉👍

  • @dull5607
    @dull56074 жыл бұрын

    Interest!!!!!!!!

  • @arifaltuntas9091
    @arifaltuntas90914 жыл бұрын

    There are many many teachers on youtube, internet etc. but as teacher you seem to be very nice, cute and closest as mental to me... If you tell me until morning I can listen it :)

  • @ilyavelychko
    @ilyavelychko4 жыл бұрын

    Hi Jade, I know that my question quite not for this lesson, but could you please say what difference between 'he is a friend of mine' and 'he is my friend'? I will appreciate your help :)

  • @ajhhc

    @ajhhc

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm not a native speaker, but to me the second one feels more personal, saying he is MY friend, we are good mates; whereas the first one sounds more casual, like he's a friend of mine, but we're not very close. Hope that helps.

  • @ilyavelychko

    @ilyavelychko

    4 жыл бұрын

    Diego Muñoz Thank you 😃

  • @pliniolimajunior5185
    @pliniolimajunior51854 жыл бұрын

    Great lesson !!!

  • @nicholashernandez2956

    @nicholashernandez2956

    4 жыл бұрын

    plinio Lima Junior ur jakkin off !

  • @Jim-rb2np
    @Jim-rb2np4 жыл бұрын

    I got another one I learned when I was in an English institute, this is "NOT FOR ALL THE TEA IN CHINA" idk if that's kinda old or outdated nowadays cuz i learned when I was 21 or 22 yo and now I'm about to turn 34

  • @brahimbz4004
    @brahimbz40044 жыл бұрын

    It's been a long time since you have posted a New vidéo Thank you jade for your effort

  • @kristineangulo1314
    @kristineangulo13143 жыл бұрын

    *Alexander Hamilton needs this..*

  • @Mundane05
    @Mundane054 жыл бұрын

    How about "FOOK RIGHT ORFF MATE!"

  • @EricMustardman

    @EricMustardman

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thought of something like that, too. Just a short sentence with the good ole f word in it, that should work like a charm. ;-)

  • @user-ge3pl7yb9t
    @user-ge3pl7yb9t4 жыл бұрын

    you're wearing a lovely t-shirts😂😂🤩🤩

  • @abdullahnajah5897
    @abdullahnajah58974 жыл бұрын

    Hello...I from Iraq🙂❤

  • @Mia-Nyaaa

    @Mia-Nyaaa

    4 жыл бұрын

    اخيرا عربى 🐸⁦✌🏻⁩🔥

  • @idalinofranco1121
    @idalinofranco11212 жыл бұрын

    💓💓

  • @aligbeer
    @aligbeer4 жыл бұрын

    It’s long time Jay we are miss you your perfect lessons thank you

  • @SunRebeLionShah
    @SunRebeLionShah4 күн бұрын

    I love you ❤

  • @uptonsavoie
    @uptonsavoie4 жыл бұрын

    The "boyfriend" response is the only one not arrogant and rude.

  • @ubaidrehman133
    @ubaidrehman1334 жыл бұрын

    Nice to learn thanks

  • @iirovaltonen4258
    @iirovaltonen42582 жыл бұрын

    "How can I say no so that I don't offend someone?" "LEAVE ME ALONE!"

  • @rassiley01
    @rassiley014 жыл бұрын

    Does " Not even in dream" exist ?

  • @ottie1954
    @ottie19542 жыл бұрын

    In Italy we say : "if you lend money to a friend, you'll lose both money and friend"...🙄

  • @jammyjay917
    @jammyjay917 Жыл бұрын

    Guess what..... sister in law wanted to see us on a day, that we couldn't make as we was doing something else....bearing in mind she hasn't wanted to see us in 10 months...we have tried but sometimes she doesn't even reply back.... anyway when I said no sorry because we are doing something.....she didn't like it and went running to tell her mum... SIL is 61 years old, pathetic... She never suggested another date.... She expects us to see her when she clicks her fingers.... she's one of these people who think she's always busy and no one else isn't.... well too bad. Stand your ground everyone...these people are awful...

  • @divyanshmaurya485
    @divyanshmaurya4854 жыл бұрын

    My Goodness! 😝 You have got a great sense of dry humour... I absolutely love it.

  • @user-sd4ny9pt7y
    @user-sd4ny9pt7y4 жыл бұрын

    I love you so so much

  • @Franciscoluche

    @Franciscoluche

    4 жыл бұрын

    We all love her ! 🤗❤️ حسين عبدالكاظم

  • @andreyzhuravlev9811
    @andreyzhuravlev98114 жыл бұрын

    Wau! Aria Stark? Really? You joking...

  • @Twicedamomo
    @Twicedamomo Жыл бұрын

    10:21

  • @younesstaouil2912
    @younesstaouil29124 жыл бұрын

    I need arabic sous -titre . JADE

  • @nicholashernandez2956
    @nicholashernandez29564 жыл бұрын

    Mmm so yummy!~

  • @ex-kommunist
    @ex-kommunist4 жыл бұрын

    So, what is it to have a chance with you?

  • @vi683
    @vi6834 жыл бұрын

    Sorry, You are quit fierce when you refuse giving numbers to a stranger. You are serious, but you seemed to be funny to act. It is a great lesson to learn speaking. Thanks.

  • @asia3794
    @asia37944 жыл бұрын

    Like anyone’s gonna use “can I have your number”

  • @jamieswafford977
    @jamieswafford9774 жыл бұрын

    "No".

  • @muhammadaminlatif8076
    @muhammadaminlatif80764 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes, this lady chooses slightly strange topics. Does anyone think so? And the way she explains things and gives examples is unusual too. Don't get me wrong, I love the videos though. She is absolutely unique!

  • @luisbar7951
    @luisbar79514 жыл бұрын

    You are very very beautiful, Jade!

  • @ahmedmoataz5809
    @ahmedmoataz58094 жыл бұрын

    This should be named how to say no 'impolitely' not strongly.

  • @kerbicz
    @kerbicz2 жыл бұрын

    I'd bet Jade lost half of her male students after this lesson ;)

  • @nicholashernandez2956
    @nicholashernandez29564 жыл бұрын

    Arizona is hot

  • @CLIFFWILKES
    @CLIFFWILKES4 жыл бұрын

    HOW ABOUT SIMPLY SAY "I SAID NO PERIOD!!!"

  • @rmtb7

    @rmtb7

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep, that would be great! Unfortunately it turns out that many guys don't have enough with a "no", they simply ignore it and continue to consider you his prey, so you have to use more contundent expressions (and also non-verbal language). Until they give up and leave you alone. That's why this lesson is really really useful, and Jade knows it.

  • @RandhirMukhiya
    @RandhirMukhiya4 жыл бұрын

    No is way better than leave me alone nd go away...

  • @vidalibanezfernandez
    @vidalibanezfernandez4 жыл бұрын

    lol

  • @metinbasmac6551
    @metinbasmac65514 жыл бұрын

    No way! PUNK!

  • @yornmu6228
    @yornmu62284 жыл бұрын

    Hello jade can i have your IG ?

  • @tazaoumur
    @tazaoumur4 жыл бұрын

    "What part of no don't you understand? I want a man, not a boy who thinks he can!"

  • @ksingh5937
    @ksingh59374 жыл бұрын

    Her accent?

  • @muhammadaminlatif8076

    @muhammadaminlatif8076

    4 жыл бұрын

    British estuary accent

  • @user-ke5em3ix2j
    @user-ke5em3ix2j4 жыл бұрын

    Hi l am from palestine

  • @pogodanaprzygode
    @pogodanaprzygode4 жыл бұрын

    so you can say "You are my problem!" Then you pull out your gun and say to them "Do you want me to solve the problem?" :)

  • @h.j8294
    @h.j82944 жыл бұрын

    Can I ask your cell phone?

  • @Franciscoluche

    @Franciscoluche

    4 жыл бұрын

    H. J Teacher Jade will surely say: “Not even in a million years!!!” 😂😂😂

  • @theatito713
    @theatito7134 жыл бұрын

    IS THAT A FEMINISM VIDEO ?

  • @Franciscoluche

    @Franciscoluche

    4 жыл бұрын

    The Atito 😂😂😂👍

  • @muhammadaminlatif8076

    @muhammadaminlatif8076

    4 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂