15 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s 🧠

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What I wish I knew in my 20s-life lessons & advice. Watch if you're feeling lost & need some guidance for your journey. Thanks BetterHelp for sponsoring this video! Get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/aileen
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  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire5 ай бұрын

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  • @divyal8047
    @divyal80472 жыл бұрын

    I am 22 and so lost! I can't sit, sleep, eat, drink without thinking what I want to do in my life. Anxious all the time. Weird chest pains, deep breathing the entire day. This video came at a perfect time and it really helped. I feel at ease (Edit: It's been 3 months now & time really heals everything. I'm not lost anymore. I found a purpose & maybe it's temporary but I'm in a better place now. Let it pass)

  • @khushitarar4967

    @khushitarar4967

    2 жыл бұрын

    Samee I can relate with you

  • @allibrainrot

    @allibrainrot

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm also 22 and i feel you 🥺

  • @paballomabusela808

    @paballomabusela808

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey , did You just describe Me 🙃

  • @sharlotececilia

    @sharlotececilia

    2 жыл бұрын

    Relatable 😭

  • @mariamkhaled5906

    @mariamkhaled5906

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’ve been feeling the same lately

  • @not__yours6523
    @not__yours65232 жыл бұрын

    I am 20, and I am happy to know that it is not only me who is scared of future!..and anxious as well.. I am focused on my career but continuously failing, I literally don't have friends to chill out with, neither I go out of my home!..this silence kills me inside.

  • @alaaunicorn

    @alaaunicorn

    Жыл бұрын

    I hope that you will find good friends to share and spend time with❤

  • @JennLinsi

    @JennLinsi

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for being so vulnerable! If you’re interested, my entire YT channel is dedicated to supporting 20-somethings with personal development content to help you learn how to love your life… no matter what kind of ups & downs you might be experiencing. All the best to you!😊

  • @mariyamlajporia7032

    @mariyamlajporia7032

    Жыл бұрын

    Same situation as mine

  • @violets6304

    @violets6304

    Жыл бұрын

    Aaaahhh yes

  • @k.emblak.e3811

    @k.emblak.e3811

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @avneet2.0
    @avneet2.02 жыл бұрын

    The pressure of having everything figured out is what stops us from exploring things that we might actually enjoy! I've been in this phase of trying new things without a reason and it's honestly so liberating! :)

  • @khalilahd.
    @khalilahd.2 жыл бұрын

    As someone who just turned 25 I relate to this video so much. This is the period of time where we are supposed to know what we’re supposed to be doing but I love that you make a point to say it’s okay to be lost or still figuring it out because there is no end destination in life. There is only constant growth 💜

  • @meredithkoh2128

    @meredithkoh2128

    2 жыл бұрын

    Turning 25 in a few days but I’ve been in a deep hole feeling super lost for months 🥲

  • @giialiinh

    @giialiinh

    2 жыл бұрын

    why do i see you everywhere omg

  • @aiza6113

    @aiza6113

    2 жыл бұрын

    25 🙋🏻‍♀️

  • @aichablel7310

    @aichablel7310

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @hope-ky5od

    @hope-ky5od

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@giialiinh same I've seen her commenting on Tatiana videos

  • @heysabo
    @heysabo2 жыл бұрын

    Man I love that. "Follow your curiosity vs your passion. " Your passion is something that you've already been exposed to vs your curiosity being quiter like a baby flame. Love how you put it! The imagery helps with connecting the dots :) Thank you Aileen for this advice!

  • @lavendaire

    @lavendaire

    2 жыл бұрын

    happy it helped! 😍

  • @SweetAsElle
    @SweetAsElle2 жыл бұрын

    I’m turning 28 next week and I still have no idea what I’m doing with my life… and that’s ok! If going through my 20s during the pandemic has taught me anything, it’s that curiosity and vision will carry you through. No matter what job/ opportunities I think I lost, there’s always something internally leading you where you need to go.

  • @ankitadas2762
    @ankitadas2762 Жыл бұрын

    I'm 24 and trying to figure out things happening in my life. Feeling lost and comparing myself with others. But I am trying to manage and love myself. And I know I can be there where I meant to be 😊

  • @Nisha_ASMR

    @Nisha_ASMR

    Жыл бұрын

    Same Here Luv… Trust Me Your Not Alone. 💯

  • @ryushizu17
    @ryushizu172 жыл бұрын

    0:44 1) Nobody knows what they're doing 3:26 2) Take your biggest risks when you're young 4:27 3) Think long term and have a big picture goal 6:33 4) Nobody cares about you as much as you think they do 8:19 5) Recognize and release your need for external validation 9:27 6) Learn to be your authentic self 11:08 7) Follow your curiosity and your fear 13:41 8) Take action 15:16 9) Stop being so hard on yourself 16:45 10) Embrace the struggles 18:05 11) Your purpose reveals itself to you over time 19:28 12) The power of compounding 21:14 13) Learn about money 23:20 14) Don't compare your path to others' 24:13 15) Trust the journey

  • @anganan7349

    @anganan7349

    2 жыл бұрын

    you're such a big help!!

  • @SoulRealTV

    @SoulRealTV

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol i wish i learned all this when i was a teenager!!!

  • @cafexjoy

    @cafexjoy

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks 😘

  • @NicoleBernadette

    @NicoleBernadette

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you❤️

  • @RadiatingHigher

    @RadiatingHigher

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video! It was so on point. 🙏🏼

  • @Its_tinydiamond
    @Its_tinydiamond Жыл бұрын

    Just a solid "thank you" from the bottom of my heart. 22(almost23), lost the last 2 and a half years due to amental and physical health issue. People left. My nursing degree isn't what i truly wanted. Part timer worker. Small salary. Heath issue. Stressed and nostalgic. Currently Doing things i love and accepting life's challenges to grow. But i don't know where to start, what's the right path for me. I thought i wasted my uni years for nothing. And I'm tired of studying more..and i don't even know if it Worths my time to do so... To all the lost souls out there. May we find our way out of the dark.✨🌻🙏

  • @janeth3187

    @janeth3187

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh mu gosh are we the same person!!!!?????? Literally SAME. But im 23. I graduate nursing school in December and i hate it. Don’t want to be a nurse anymore. Idk what i want.

  • @Its_tinydiamond

    @Its_tinydiamond

    Жыл бұрын

    @@janeth3187 you're not alone!!Lost AF:/

  • @orihimekoga

    @orihimekoga

    Жыл бұрын

    SAME 🥺🥺🥺😭😭😱😱 When you feell like failing is a taboo 😭😭😥

  • @SimiiiD_

    @SimiiiD_

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm 22 going to be 23 in a month and same as you I graduated from nursing school 3 months ago. I feel the exact same the way you do. I don't wanna be a nurse but I also don't know what I wanna do apart from that :( atleast I feel better seeing this comment understanding that I'm not the only one. I hope everything works out well for us🌷

  • @haphuong1322
    @haphuong13222 жыл бұрын

    Really love the sentence "this is the time you have less to lose" that makes me feel less scared about what I'm gonna do. I quit my job and focus on learning Korean with a hope that I could work as a Korean translator. Maybe I will be happy with my choice, or also will be not, but who knows. Just because I could do as I wish now, I will never regret what I did no matter what happened in the future.

  • @Taynkeeper

    @Taynkeeper

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here. I just turned 20 and I just lose my job which supports me and my study. That phrase comforts me the most right now. Compared to other people, I don't have much to lose taking risk and taking new paths. ❤️

  • @toadhehe3281

    @toadhehe3281

    8 ай бұрын

    Hey how's your study going?

  • @kuichihavorra935

    @kuichihavorra935

    Ай бұрын

    How did it go?

  • @F0reverblessed
    @F0reverblessed2 жыл бұрын

    Your 20s it’s definitely your PRIME time!! Explore, try new things and rediscover yourself. You don’t have to remain the same. Always, remember that this is YOUR life and it’s all about what you want not what others want or expect of you! 🤍 From a self love content creator to another; great topic Aileen! 💜

  • @xliu6848
    @xliu68482 жыл бұрын

    sharing with you who wanna take notes💙 1. nobody knows what they are doing 2. take your biggest risks when you are young 3. have a big picture of life 4. nobody cares as much as you think they do 5. recognize and release external validation 6. learn to be your authentic self 7. follow your curiosity and fear 8. take action 9. stop being so hard on yourself 10. embrace the struggles 11. finding your purpose 12. the power of compounding 13. learn about money 14. don't compare your path to others 15. trust your journey

  • @aryakumar9921

    @aryakumar9921

    2 жыл бұрын

    omg thank you!

  • @ruveawanda
    @ruveawanda2 жыл бұрын

    These advice also applies in my 30's, im 32 and still navigating life like a 20's. I'm being hard on myself and now I release and let go.

  • @mjop183
    @mjop183 Жыл бұрын

    I just turned 25 and I’m feeling so lost. So glad I came across your video ❤️

  • @herexcellency4304
    @herexcellency43042 жыл бұрын

    my golden rule is treat yourself just like u treat others, just like you are compassionate, giving, kind and loving to others, do it to urself as well

  • @user-bp2oc1gb6b
    @user-bp2oc1gb6b2 жыл бұрын

    I'm in my 40s and I relate to this one so much! Life is so much about learning to embrace uncertainties.

  • @erinsymone1645
    @erinsymone16452 жыл бұрын

    Girl I hope you are making a video about navigating your 30s next because I literally feel 29 going on 19 - in the worst way. It's like my early 20s drained all of my youthful vigor and ambition out of me and I've been legit floating in place for the last 3 years, no clue what to do next (the global panini is also a part of that but that's the case for everyone i think). I so admire your channel growth and business you've built for yourself - so I know you've got that good advice lol

  • @annieswanson9661

    @annieswanson9661

    2 жыл бұрын

    Erin, I’m in the same boat as you. Most of my friends are more or less feeling the same. We have to stay positive and manifest our dreams. Stay strong sister - our 30s will be better :)

  • @heyheyvicky1498

    @heyheyvicky1498

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same, I feel like I wasted my 20s and now want at least to do better in my 30s, but the world is sooo crazy right now and all my friends are getting children and although I know that is not the path for me, I feel like I'm doing something wrong all the time :/ And the increasing pains makes me anxious of getting old😐

  • @SummerLuvinAlai

    @SummerLuvinAlai

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@heyheyvicky1498 I also feel the same way. Its strange to be in your early 30s and see most of your friends getting married and having children. Thats however not the path for me.

  • @j12barron

    @j12barron

    2 жыл бұрын

    I can relate to this. Left a toxic relationship over a year ago and going on 34. I’m focusing on getting my life together. Lots to catch up on 😌

  • @SummerLuvinAlai

    @SummerLuvinAlai

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@j12barron You got this

  • @haishaaai
    @haishaaai2 жыл бұрын

    I just turned 26, and this is video is so comforting. I already related once you started with tip #1. i was a new grad at the start of the pandemic, and like you, I couldn't be okay without a plan set for every day after four years of studying in college. I was rushing myself to move on to the next "achievement", but the pandemic has taught me to slow down and pace myself. Though I'm still trying to go through this journey, I'm a lot more gentle with myself compared to my early 20's. Thank you for this!

  • @AnHichiko

    @AnHichiko

    2 жыл бұрын

    I relate a lot with your comment... I'm turning 25 this year and it feels just like you said !! Thank you for sharing.

  • @DestinyMcMillan24
    @DestinyMcMillan242 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. I am 22, and I'm struggling. I don't know what I want to do with my life. My anxiety is all over the place. Listening to your tips made me feel some peace about myself. ❤💓

  • @MunkQoo
    @MunkQoo2 жыл бұрын

    Stepping outside of my comfort zone is something I never regret. Needed this 💖

  • @foxc.42
    @foxc.422 жыл бұрын

    I'm 24. As someone who struggles with mental health and feeling lost. Love how u touch upon mental health like depression and social anxiety. Thank you! 🧡

  • @beatrizmoraes2310
    @beatrizmoraes2310 Жыл бұрын

    I just turned 21 and I feel so bad, it feels like time flew and I jumped from 18 to 21 ( probably because of the pandemic and quarentine) and it's making my anxiety worse. This video came on the perfect time

  • @nalayuta2291

    @nalayuta2291

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m also 21 and feel the exact same way. Ur not alone and i hope it all gets better for you soon 💕

  • @beatrizmoraes2310

    @beatrizmoraes2310

    Жыл бұрын

    @@nalayuta2291 thank you so much! ❤️ I hope it will get better for you too! We're not alone 🤍

  • @christinepregonero5295

    @christinepregonero5295

    Жыл бұрын

    Loo

  • @sharscookinglab5615
    @sharscookinglab5615 Жыл бұрын

    I am 24 and I have been so hard on myself for not finding my passion in life, and constantly looking for ways just to end up being even more stressed. Thank you for making me realize how we suppose to follow our curiosity instead of directly jump into finding our "passion", you present it in the clearest and most beautiful way it can be. Love your beautiful soul ❤️

  • @novycrysteemallorca267
    @novycrysteemallorca2672 жыл бұрын

    Im 21, 3rd year college taking up medical technology. I failed 1 prerequisite subject now i have to reenroll it and wait for 1 year before my internship🥺😔. I feel drained and tired I'm loosing interest with my chosen course. At the same time I'll disappoint my parents who's expecting me to finish my course on time😔And I don't know what to do anymore. But thank you for giving me some hope to remain strong and for reminding me that it is ok not to know all of the answers, its ok to fail. And that i just have to believe in myself than seek external validation💜

  • @dedereem5454
    @dedereem54542 жыл бұрын

    I'm 25 and having trouble letting go of my stable life to follow the "things that light me up" since it calls for me leaving my hometown and living in the city. I know it'll be best for me but I'm afraid to leave my family and that I won't make enough money to survive on my own. However, if I don't take the risk now I'll just sit here in regret and never know if its where I'm meant to go.. Another advice you gave was "No one cares as much as you think" I compromise a lot for others so this really was something I needed to hear. Thank you Aileen so much for making these vids, they really are like therapy and help so much when I'm feeling lost or stressed💗

  • @haileyhnin1922
    @haileyhnin19222 жыл бұрын

    7) Follow your curiosity and fear This tip hit me. As Aileen said, I don't have a burning passion. My fear is the criticism from others. That's why I have difficulty expressing myself and my opinions. And I'm feeling lost in my 24, not knowing where to go the path ahead. This video really helps me a lot. Thank you so much, Aileen. I love you.

  • @ozoonfilm497

    @ozoonfilm497

    2 жыл бұрын

    wishing you all the best 😊

  • @adnan-1462

    @adnan-1462

    Жыл бұрын

    I am also in my path on dealing with criticism from others. it hard to stay positive when people gives me an opinion. hopes i could get this through very soon

  • @leonoraschulze7610
    @leonoraschulze76102 жыл бұрын

    I‘m incredibly grateful that I have access to all this wisdom and advice on your channel.. I‘m at the beginning at my 20s and your videos always ease my fear of the future. Thank you so much for your content and keep on healing this world

  • @katerynakarpyshyn
    @katerynakarpyshyn2 жыл бұрын

    Me as a Ukrainian watching this video become excited for life again after 24th February. Looking forward to end of war to continue living my existing life So guys living in a peaceful country just know that no matter what you are going through you are so blessed 😇. Sending you all love 💕

  • @lavendaire

    @lavendaire

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sending you so much love 💕

  • @kenziemedina8469
    @kenziemedina84692 жыл бұрын

    I am 22 and turning 23 in May and all of this resonated a lot with me. A lot of these tips are things I already have in my subconscious and conscious but even then it can be hard for me to stick to them. I’m taking this as my sign to be consistent in applying them and watch my life change for the better. I’ve been going through the worst depression of my life since the beginning of last year and I just know my life isn’t how I want it to be. Sometimes I feel super helpless but I have moments where either my guides or higher self comes through and it’s like girl you got so much potential just tap into it, you got it. It’s wild because just yesterday I was reflecting on my life and putting out into the Universe what I want and talking to my guides, asking them to guide me, and then this is the first video I see this morning Thank you for this advice! You are a light and I know I’m not the only one who needed this and appreciates you and your content ✨🤍🌱

  • @suhaishaque1180

    @suhaishaque1180

    2 жыл бұрын

    Take care. 🖤

  • @soniakhalid3202
    @soniakhalid32022 жыл бұрын

    A few things: 1) I watched one of your videos months ago and signed up for betterhelp. I've been seeing my therapist for 7 months now, and my ideas of self-worth and developing healthy boundaries have immensely improved! Betterhelp's customer service is phenomenal, and I utilize their financial aid options. They really do their best to take care of you. 2) Describing how curiosity is this small flame and like bread crumbs was eye opening to me. Another piece of advice that resonated with me was following your fears because you're afraid of something because you care about it a lot. I've been putting off making a decision to attend graduate school because I'm afraid of this next step, but I didn't realize it was because I cared about it that the fear of messing up has been holding me back. Thank you so much for this video! I'm glad I found it, and I really really needed to hear this today.

  • @my4366
    @my43662 жыл бұрын

    This video came at a perfect time, I’ve been feeling lost and trying to get out because I felt like I always had direction prior to this. It’s so hard and I hate how some days I didn’t accomplish anything. However, I’ve been watching your videos and I write down what I do daily and plan my days. It helps me feel better and slowly gain my confidence back. Thank you so much for being inspiring :)

  • @designg2892
    @designg2892 Жыл бұрын

    Im 19 in a week. I also have an emotional burnout and your video is giving me a support and hope. I got motivation and strength to start doibg smth. Also i wanna go to course in january and so i have doubts, but after your video I firgured out that I really Wanna go Thank you ❤️

  • @gurleen7041
    @gurleen70412 жыл бұрын

    the “people don’t care about you as much as you think you do” is such an important, peaceful lesson to learn. i recently had a really bad injury and got stitches on my face and broke my nose. my best friend kept telling me she really wanted to see me but every time we made plans she said something came up. at first i was so angry with her, i mean i’m injured and if she was in this situation, i would’ve seen her ASAP. however, i quickly realized she does have her own life. she has her own issues and situations and honestly unless i was on my deathbed, i don’t think my injuries crossed her mind after a day or two. now while i was mad, i think realizing and accepting i can’t force someone to care about me the way i want them too is more freeing. i don’t hate her. if i did have hugh expectations of her i would’ve hated her for not seeing me

  • @edele24ballet

    @edele24ballet

    2 жыл бұрын

    🙀💦 I don't know you, but I sincerely hope you recover really soon! I don't know your friend either, but it could be that she's shocked and isn't confident she could act the right way to comfort or help you... Afraid of saying the wrong thing, acting the wrong way...? Whatever is going through her mind, you're totally right that each person has his/her things to deal with. You're smart for even attempting to detach a little.. Idk how I would've responded 😿 (I did have someone text and call me after I just came out of the hospital from an emergency surgery.. But the person was complaining it was his birthday and that I hadn't celebrated it.. Uh, good for him he was going about his normal life 😹)

  • @gurleen7041

    @gurleen7041

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@edele24ballet thank you, love! honestly both my close friends aren't the best with comfort haha so i try not to hold it against them! and thank you i really appreciate your sentiment :(( its been hard but i always try to give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume anything because honestly ive been on the opposite of the same situation - it can be hard to see people even if you really want to. and omg i cant believe your situation!! are you still friends with that person?

  • @edele24ballet

    @edele24ballet

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@gurleen7041 Giving people the benefit of doubt is a wonderful practice! When my dad's sister was hospitalized for a serious brain condition, most of the family didn't show up at the hospital, so his sister's daughter was hurt, thinking they didn't care.. (Her mother was in a coma..) Actually, most of the family were too devastated that they couldn't show up.. They must've felt so powerless.. My emergency surgery was 20 years ago 🐾💝 I felt right then and there we couldn't possibly stay friends 😹 Now I do think he really trusted me in a special way, relied on me, but just wasn't mature enough to be considerate of my health.. In his mind he wasn't trying to be cruel, but simply thought I should always be taking care of him.. Yeah, I feel he saw me as a superwoman! Though I was a regular human, weak and in pain 😿 Thank you for asking 💕

  • @bezzysworld
    @bezzysworld2 жыл бұрын

    I nearly cried. I turned 21. It's early my 20s but it hit hard to me. I'm trying to find myself because nothing feels like me anymore. And your video came when I needed it! Thank you love! Your words was amazing and I need to head them! Thank you again and love you so much 💜

  • @nadeen1111
    @nadeen11112 жыл бұрын

    Aileen! I adore all your videos but dang, this one is your best yet!!! The advice is so solid

  • @liveyourpremiumlife5618
    @liveyourpremiumlife56182 жыл бұрын

    Great video as always. I love point 7, that you corrected as your fear and curiosity. They will lead you to your passion and purpose

  • @choidaniel8430
    @choidaniel84302 жыл бұрын

    sis, after watching a lot of your videos I realized how precious you are, your videos gave me motivation and your voice healed me and I just want you to know that you mean a lot to me

  • @lapisdough1561
    @lapisdough15612 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate this, as a person in my early 20's I felt so seen. The advice that really spoke to me was the advice of understanding that this time in my life is (more or less) SUPPOSED to be rigorous and challenging (in that it's normal to have to struggle to "find myself" and my purpose)

  • @user-go5cj9xt1l
    @user-go5cj9xt1l2 жыл бұрын

    I love coming to your channel when i feel down for no special reason. Just seeing and hearing your calm positive energy really aligns well with my own energy and where I want to be. I don’t know if you ever worry about repetitive content, but you don’t need to because that’s the content I’m here for. I’ll always be excited to see any of your old videos re-filmed into updated versions ¨̮ sending love from south korea ❤️❤️

  • @atulyasinha7219
    @atulyasinha72192 жыл бұрын

    All the tips were so good. I love how you explain every obvious point so beautifully ❤️

  • @vamvam2113
    @vamvam21132 жыл бұрын

    I always compare myself to others even though they're older or younger than me. I always remind myself stop comparing myself to others but I couldn't.But now I've decided to only focus on myself. Anyway thanks for your motivations and kind words. I really appreciate it❤️.

  • @greycubano4397
    @greycubano43972 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for putting out this video!! I definitely needed it as I have been struggling with figuring out who I am and my purpose in life. I have been needing guidance and my family is not very good about conversation!!

  • @caric8133
    @caric81332 жыл бұрын

    I learned that recently it’s true, no one cares about you. Not in a bad way but career, job title, etc. I was recently in a horrific, toxic and miserable job but I had a cool title. I felt for a long time I had to keep staying in that misery because of what others thought. I finally realized it’s my life and too short to be miserable, doing something I hated. It was very freeing and liberating when I finally quit and starting living my life for me.

  • @cupcake7813
    @cupcake78132 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, I really needed to hear this! Have a wonderful day!☺️🌺

  • @Piedrodeororoca
    @Piedrodeororoca2 жыл бұрын

    I love how she included her feelings and being honesty open about the mental breakdowns we go through

  • @user-dm7ih1wu6j
    @user-dm7ih1wu6j2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Aileen for this video! I think I need to watch this video everyday to remind myself to be grateful and not so hard on myself

  • @shaeyzuonig.8329
    @shaeyzuonig.8329 Жыл бұрын

    this is actually so comforting. i could listen to your words all day, really really thank u for this! im just glad it came up in my recos ❤️

  • @nicoledotfan
    @nicoledotfan10 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this video, Eileen - your advice is always so helpful to hear, and really makes this journey of life less daunting to navigate 💗

  • @mikka1218
    @mikka12182 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much, Aileen! I love all of your advices. Continue to inspire others. We need someone like you especially nowadays.🌸

  • @diana_akylba
    @diana_akylba2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Aileen for such a useful and supportive video. That's exactly what most of us need to hear🌿

  • @taliaepps6670
    @taliaepps6670Ай бұрын

    Love this video! So helpful 😊

  • @itsmimiray
    @itsmimiray2 жыл бұрын

    thanks a lot. your words are really inspiring. i'm 20 now and feeling kinda lost in life. your advice really encouraged me to take steps forward the life i want to live

  • @seyda6518
    @seyda65182 жыл бұрын

    i really love your videos and find them so helpful and inspiring

  • @Theteddybear1061
    @Theteddybear10612 жыл бұрын

    Currently watching this as im about to turn 25 in June, this video was very helful and relatable as I feel so lost right now and in a huge rut, Ive been taking alot of breaks and just trying to evaluate my life and explore more interests since I don't know what I actually like.

  • @TheBlue158
    @TheBlue1582 жыл бұрын

    It's nice to know there are people like you in the world. I appreciate your wisdom and the time you take to make these videos

  • @MrRyand1
    @MrRyand1 Жыл бұрын

    Loving your videos. I'm nearly 29 and going through a bit if a questioning phase at the moment with my life, career and relationship and your videos are super helpful and detailed. Thank you for your Notion planner as well. Keep up the positive vibes!

  • @varshachoudary6958
    @varshachoudary69582 жыл бұрын

    Very relevant video at the right time, Thanks for the valuable insights 😊❤

  • @tomorrowbytogether6594
    @tomorrowbytogether65942 жыл бұрын

    I think it’s so sweet of her to share all of her lessons with us and I’m actually feeling so much better and positive after watching this Thank you so much!!❤️

  • @luxy974
    @luxy9742 жыл бұрын

    Literally agree with everything you said! Thanks for making a video so hopefully others really listen and try to apply this advice to their life to fully enjoy their time on earth✨❤️

  • @anganan7349
    @anganan73492 жыл бұрын

    I don't why but I always feel better and have a sense of relief whenever I watch your videos. Specifically, this video helps me realize more new things in life. I'm going through a little stress and pressure, but when I get your support, I feel like I don't need to be hard on myself and need time to know who I am and my own value. I really appreciate it

  • @marystein8335
    @marystein83352 жыл бұрын

    Following curiosity and fear was my favorite one ❤️

  • @Zhar2002
    @Zhar20022 жыл бұрын

    thank you💖 this is what i need now, and you help me a lot. I'm going 20 this year and need this kind of Adultng tips and i hope you upload more.🥰

  • @rinafarisya5414
    @rinafarisya5414 Жыл бұрын

    Please. This video came in impeccable timing. Everything you said from start to finish... everything resonated so well with me. I needed this. Thank you so much for sharing all this. Sometimes we already know all this advice but to hear you break it down and talk to us like a friend... it was a beautiful reminder xx

  • @manardewer7094
    @manardewer7094 Жыл бұрын

    Well it is so relatable ..It's so stressful trying to cope with expectations of people around u and expectations u need from yourself when you already lost and just want things to get clear ..alot of overthinking, anxiety overwhelming and no body can understand this .. big thanks for sharing this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Kittyravenhog
    @Kittyravenhog2 жыл бұрын

    1, Follow my fear and my curiosity . That is right, we are young, many of us have no children yet, we are kinda care free and don't have much too lose. 2, Nobody thinks of me more than some seconds before they get back with their own thoughts and self concern. It is SO TRUE . We are just humans, we selfishly🤣 have so many thoughts of our own look, purposes,.. that need to be figured out, how could we think about other people ( although of course we love our families, friends and care of them). 3, Let go perfectionism because I am the best with my own flow. I was crazy about perfectionism and it did hurt so much my mental health, caused me more unnecessary tasks to do . The point was I could NOT see it was a problem in order to give up on it, as a terribly harmful habit. My confession is I am NOT that fast learning, not that smart. But I see beauties in things and understand stuffs, so I don't need to be straight A of everything. 4, I don't need to stick with an exact image of a successful me in a specific career from present to the rest of my life😨. Because NOW that heavily stressful thought (which's supposed to make me feel safe, oriented and ordered) drives me crazily miserable 🤣 ( My real example is I force myself to become a leader of some huge and professional NGO 😵‍💫 to "really" create influences and change people in a macro way 😂). Instead of that, I can do things I enjoy ( Now I start volunteering to help children in small provinces near my area with learning English. It truly makes me feel happy and lights up my heart)☺ . 5, I hated money and the way money worked. It was a boring field that I was extremely fed up at university. But now I change. It turns out I like working professionally in taxes and accounting. There are so many things I can related to your content . I think it's one of your best videos. Thank you so so so much for sharing these thinking and advices.

  • @theartesana
    @theartesana2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing this..as a mother of a young 21 year old daughter..sometimes hearing it from someone else is refreshing! ❣️✨

  • @jaysauer834
    @jaysauer8342 жыл бұрын

    Follow your curiosity is such an amazing piece of advice, thank you so much for this video

  • @lovelight5670
    @lovelight5670 Жыл бұрын

    Hi Lavendaire, very helpful and good video! Thank you so much for your time, energy and effort you put into this video!

  • @aneashalopez5885
    @aneashalopez58852 жыл бұрын

    Yesterday was my 20 th birthday ✨ Thank You for this video.God bless.

  • @anamraj8103

    @anamraj8103

    2 жыл бұрын

    Belated ..... Happy Birthday & so many beautiful returns of the day ..🎂🎉🎁

  • @aneashalopez5885

    @aneashalopez5885

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@anamraj8103 Thank you soo much ✨😇

  • @anamraj8103

    @anamraj8103

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@aneashalopez5885 ✌️ have a amazing year ahead 🎉🥳

  • @aritrikaroy8158
    @aritrikaroy8158 Жыл бұрын

    Really needed to hear this rn... Thank you!❤️

  • @Blondesmartarse
    @Blondesmartarse2 жыл бұрын

    Not caring about others is SO important. I'm glad you brought it up!

  • @superjasminemusic
    @superjasminemusic2 жыл бұрын

    This was so needed right now, thank you so much for this amazing video! I’m 21 and am currently at a crossroads - heavily been thinking about changing careers but there’s so many factors to think about. The advice that most resonated with me is take the biggest risks when I’m young, I know I have a good support system behind me so we’ll see what the future holds for me 😌🤞🏼

  • @Madeliefschram

    @Madeliefschram

    2 жыл бұрын

    Good luck!

  • @bernavelos

    @bernavelos

    2 жыл бұрын

    Relate! 21 here, too. Gooo sis 💞

  • @Stephanie-cr6yg
    @Stephanie-cr6yg2 жыл бұрын

    You have a SOOTHING VOICE. I was able to follow attentively everything you said and your words are definitely advice I need to hear as a 21 year old, outta college. Sending you a virtual hug ... thank you for sharing this. By the way I absolutely love your haircut - it suits you well.

  • @killerbarbie1994
    @killerbarbie1994 Жыл бұрын

    Bless your heart ♥️ this has been so eye opening and I feel like such a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Thank you for this video.

  • @hsiehweiting
    @hsiehweiting11 ай бұрын

    I really love and appreciate the advice "follow your curiosity" rather than passion! I've always wondered what my passion is and how it can be tied to my career, and thinking this way has led me nowhere! I didn't realize I've already been following my curiosity so hearing this advice makes me feel more reassured and validated. Thank you

  • @lostinadmiration
    @lostinadmiration2 жыл бұрын

    My favourite one is follow your fear. It is not easy to go out of your comfort zone, emotionally, mentally and in every other way. But this is where we grow the most. Overall, learnt so much here - even though I am also in my 30ties now! Thank you for this video!

  • @shaheenbeeharry7449
    @shaheenbeeharry74492 жыл бұрын

    Now at the tail end of my twenties (turning 29 next month) I resonate a lot with this video. Being gentle with yourself, following your curiosity, steering with the flow, leaning into your intuition etc. It's important to recognize that we all have different starting points in life (i.e. structure vs. agency) and we're all on different timelines. Videos on hyperproductivity compound my anxiety and existing feelings of worthlessness. I really appreciated this video. Thank you

  • @sandeep10

    @sandeep10

    Жыл бұрын

    hope you are convinced with what you said- we're all on diff timelines! then any video on hyperprod or worthlessness question shouldn't be a concern- isn't it? and to add to ur comment- at times results are dislocated in times and not exactly the same we wished/worked for- still appreciable/ not worthless- and what is so important about hyperprod that is even equal our worth ? we need to know urself/ get our priorities right & clear ! i think so.. all the best..

  • @briannegaona1589
    @briannegaona15892 жыл бұрын

    Your videos ALWAYS resonate with me thank you so much for your content!

  • @elinamian4848
    @elinamian4848 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for uploading this video, I really needed all that xoxo

  • @ilikerice631
    @ilikerice631 Жыл бұрын

    I’m going into highschool so I’m far away from my twenties but I will be taking these things into consideration, thank you lavendaire. (also I love ur meditations)

  • @lindsay4938
    @lindsay49382 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video.

  • @kiralanaija49
    @kiralanaija492 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this. Beautiful and life changing 😭❤️💕 God bless!!

  • @vivivibes
    @vivivibes2 жыл бұрын

    I recently stumbled upon your channel, and immediately I was a fan. Time to listen to your podcast! Such a soothing and reassuring voice. Like a hug for my ears ❤

  • @apoorvakarthickeyan9723
    @apoorvakarthickeyan97232 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Aileen! This video came out at the right time. I’m actually taking baby steps and this video is definitely gonna keep me going. I’m finding it difficult to accept certain things in my life and I really don’t feel enough of myself now. Thanks a lot! And answer to your question is - If I stop caring about what other people think, I would feel more contented with my life✨ and I would start taking risks to learn new things🌟🌹

  • @WalesRebel
    @WalesRebel2 жыл бұрын

    I’m 14 at the time of writing this, and being 20 seems so far yet so near at the same time. This video is really interesting and I would probably keep all your advice in mind for when I finally turn 20 in a few years!! 💓🥺

  • @almaasitayumnahajar8642
    @almaasitayumnahajar8642 Жыл бұрын

    Hey, today it's my first to watch your video! and i would like to say the best advice that you gave in this video is " A purpose doesn't have to be spesific". It hit me hard and it keep me thinking that my purpose in life doesn't have to be just one goal or the same goals for the rest of my life. I just need to see what can i do more if i broaden my purpose! Thank you sm💖

  • @fayemeulenkamp4633
    @fayemeulenkamp4633 Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful video! You are giving so much hope to lost young souls out here. Really well done!!

  • @navapavarapark
    @navapavarapark2 жыл бұрын

    I’m going through this lost at 27 years of age. I feel like I’m falling behind in life. Also, dealing with these mental health issues like depression and anxiety. Your videos really help me a lot. You have no idea how your videos has been helping me mentally. I love every videos of yours. You really have no idea how much you have helped me. I’m still struggling day by day !but I really wish these mental illness will go away soon. I’m getting there. Thank you so much Aileen💗

  • @RikkeGade

    @RikkeGade

    2 жыл бұрын

    I can completely relate to this. I turned 28 in February and im also dealing with depression and anxiety, been on sick leave from my studies since janaury last year. You are not alone❤️ I hope you will feel better soon.

  • @navapavarapark

    @navapavarapark

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@RikkeGade It’s been so hard and tough. Thank you so much, we’re gonna okay. We got this, we can get through this. Be kind to yourself is what I’m learning while healing myself💗

  • @muskanparmar15
    @muskanparmar152 жыл бұрын

    Really grateful ❤️ for you❤️

  • @raniakrs7972
    @raniakrs7972 Жыл бұрын

    thank u so much i definitely needed this one

  • @ayanetsunako6281
    @ayanetsunako62812 жыл бұрын

    really enjoyed this video,it feels like having a big sister that i never had !

  • @nessyempowerment
    @nessyempowerment2 жыл бұрын

    All I'm saying is that I've seen people change their lives completely at 50 years old and are now the happiest , healthiest and wealthiest they ever been . And that's highly admirable. We're just getting to know ourselves in our 20s. And we'll never figure out everything nomatter how old we get. This video is amazing and relatable.💕 Sending you love and positive energy to everyone 💕💕💕

  • @makoy2984
    @makoy2984 Жыл бұрын

    I like that, "If you have no passion follow your curiosity."

  • @mindfulness3514
    @mindfulness35142 жыл бұрын

    Just watching ur videos and listening to u makes me feel better and relaxed!! Thank you 💞

  • @redconversegirl2711
    @redconversegirl27112 жыл бұрын

    I love this kind of videos, they're a great complement for "The Defining Decade"!

  • @rachelcartwright3371

    @rachelcartwright3371

    2 жыл бұрын

    Have you seen this video talking about that book? I thought it was very good. :D kzread.info/dash/bejne/paGA07aGgMq4dc4.html

  • @155books
    @155books2 жыл бұрын

    I adored your tip on following your curiosity! There are so many things I am curious about trying but never do because I always fall back on what is safe… so in 2022 I want to be more curious!

  • @lavendaire

    @lavendaire

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love that goal!

  • @queennmo
    @queennmo Жыл бұрын

    My struggles in my 20s ( I’m 22 btw) •Pressure to finish uni •Pressure to get into a stable healthy relationship •Pressure to know where I’m going

  • @alexisbalansin7942
    @alexisbalansin79422 жыл бұрын

    You've been my inspiration Ms. Aileen since 2020. I could find myself in you. Thank you for sharing all of your life lessons. I am so grateful to watch your videos and to learn so much from you. May God bless you more! ❤️

  • @albetrossworld7143
    @albetrossworld71432 жыл бұрын

    U re amazing we love you and u re such a inspiration for me

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