I'm from Germany and in the area where I live it's normal to hold the door. But I visit parts in Germany where people don't do this and I was shocked when the first door slapped in my face.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

So crazy how different cultures can be even within the same country, huh?! I think I need to move where you are! 🥰♥️

Driving in Germany: Even if you end up not owning a car, remember that you have to transfer your driver's license within a year of entering the country, which includes documenting that you have had opportunity to practice driving in Germany. Getting around is easy by bike or public transport, but for your occasional need to use a car, there are excellent car-sharing organisations.

@karinbirkenbihl2053

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately their are many, many regions where you are lost without a core, as buses come four times a day and sometimes not st all during school holidays or on Sundays. That's really annoying, but as Germans in general stick to their cars it won't change soon. In rural areas you need a car to get away or to buy groceries and as everyone uses their car buses would run nearly empty most of the time. So there is no public transport that leaves you to buy a car to be able to live there. It's a vicious circle.

I love my lazy sunday afternoons. No stress, no shopping, no shores. Cafes, restaurants and almost all kind of entertainment (cinema, parks, museum etc) are open. So sunday is just relaxing, chill.. enjoy your life.

Hello.... I want to tell you, that you CAN wash and dry even if there are "Ruhezeiten". Children can be loud if they want and of course you can talk... Kindergeräusche sind kein Lärm is a decision of the highest judge in Germany

@emmasly123

3 жыл бұрын

Auch Kinderlärm muss man nicht unbegrenzt hinnehmen. (BGH VIII ZR 226/16)

@Child3k

3 жыл бұрын

@@emmasly123 Ja - alles hat Grenzen. Trotzdem ist allgemein "Kinderlärm" kein Lärm.

@Child3k

3 жыл бұрын

@@emmasly123 Du hast doch angefangen mit Gerichtsurteilen um Dich zu werfen. Jetzt geht es Dir plötzlich um Befindlichkeiten. Diese und die rechtliche Sicht sind zwei vollkommen unterschiedliche Dinge. Von letzterem habe ich gesprochen - was auch klar aus dem Kontext hervorgeht.

@Child3k

3 жыл бұрын

@@emmasly123 Missbilligung? Naja - wie Du meinst. Ja, zumindest eine Seite zieht - vor allem bei Nachbarschaftsklagen - aus "Befindlichkeiten" heraus vor Gericht. Diese trifft aber das Urteil auf rechtlicher Basis und nicht "weil eine Seite sich unwohl gefühlt hat". Konkret hast Du zu Beginn ein BGH-Urteil angeführt, in dem der Kläger Recht bekommt hat (bzw. in Folge die untere Instanz nochmals urteilen musste). In dem Fall geht es aber gar nicht um einfach Kinderlärm - das steht auch deutlich in der Begründung. Und worauf ich grundsätzlich hinaus wollte - nur weil etwas (hier Kinderlärm) bei vielen Leuten negativ wahrgenommen wird, heißt das noch lange nicht, dass dies auch eine rechtliche Grundlage hat.

@Child3k

3 жыл бұрын

@@emmasly123 So. Letzte Antwort von mir Thema: In dem von Dir geteilten Urteil geht es gar nicht nur um Kinderlärm. Dazu habe ich nirgends geschrieben, Kinderlärm sei grenzenlos zu ertragen. Was sogar aus meinem ersten Beitrag hervorgeht. "Kinderlärm muss nicht grenzenlos ertragen werden." (emmasly) - Das war sinngemäß mein erster Beitrag.

I am German and I learned to say thank you and hold the door for others. But that's pretty old school, I guess.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

An old school mannerism that should be brought back! 🥰✊ it means a lot to me when someone holds the door or says thank you!

@couchcamperTM

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ this used to be a country with culture, maybe it will be like that again, let's hope for the best.

@Anson_AKB

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ doors are tricky ... i never let a door swing back into the face of somebody, but i also don't like when someone holds the door for me while i'm still a lot of steps away and would have to run or let him wait a while (and that's also how i determine whether to hold the door for someone else :-)

@Anson_AKB

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ doors are tricky ... i never let a door swing back into the face of somebody, but i also don't like when someone holds the door for me while i'm still a lot of steps away and would have to run or let him wait a while (and that's also how i determine whether to hold the door for someone else :-)

@kaloyantodorov9063

2 жыл бұрын

Whats new school? Be disrespectful? Not disciplined?

Please don't stop smiling. Don't care what other people thinking or getting angry.

@sabyasachisenapati3619

8 ай бұрын

"You made me smile."😊😊

On general politeness, though, I think it really depends on where you live. I basically always hold the door open for other people if I notice them early enough, and I have absolutely no memory of people not thanking me when I do. Often it's just a mumbled "thank you" and that's completely fine. I also do it more casually, not so emphatically "Hey, I'm holding the door open for you, now be thankful." About cash vs credit card: The fees on card payments are relatively high. Business owners pay between 30 cents - 1 euro per card payment at least and then there is a percentage fee on top of that. This means that the entire profit is gone, especially for small amounts, or the business owners even pay on top. But since prices are very competitive - we Germans are famous for price comparisons and our sacred " price-performance ratio" - these fees could get business owners into serious trouble, even bankruptcy. That's why there are often minimum amounts above which card payments are accepted. Lastly, on the subject of "fake smiles", I also wish people would smile more often here. It shouldn't be exaggerated or fake, but a friendly short smile can make the day so much nicer for everyone. And aside from that, smiling releases substances in your body that are good for your health, boost your immune system, and make you age slower. This even works with fake smiles. It's just a little strange when some people grin all day "like a freshly fucked squirrel". But hey, under the mask in these times no one can see that anyway so rinjehaun and losgegrinst :D

@BirgitBauhaus

3 жыл бұрын

Jede Wette - Du bist von Zuhause = aus'm Rheinland , zu mindestens aus'm Ruhrpott! ;-) Wir sind einfach "pflegeleichter", sofern man unsere Ehrlichkeit , unseren drastischen Humor und unser Temperament " ab kann"! :-* MEINE vielen Freunde aus der fast ganzen Welt sagen das jedenfalls. Und mich sieht man immer - selbst wenn es mir selbst Schei... geht, trotzdem mit nem Grinsen im Gesicht, das kostet doch nix - und macht allen, und einem selbst - wir Du gesagt hast - das Leben echt angenehmer und leichter! Das wurde sogar schon von Wissenschaftlern untersucht und bestätigt! ;-)

@DoktorIcksTV

3 жыл бұрын

@@BirgitBauhaus Naja, die Wette hast du leider verloren, ich komme aus Niedersachsen Nähe Hannover. Mir bleiben generell aber auch eher die positiven Erlebnisse im Gedächtnis, die negativen verdränge ich aktiv, zumal das eh sehr wenige sind. Deswegen komme ich mir auch nicht vor wie ein Alien, obwohl ich es vielleicht sogar bin :D

@BirgitBauhaus

3 жыл бұрын

@@DoktorIcksTV: naja, da bitte aber trotzdem aus nem relativ "pflegeleichten" Bundesland, obwohl 'se ja von den Niedersachsen, genau wie den Westfalen u. Rheinländern auch immer sagen, wir wären stur! Stimmt ja nur teilweise! Wir können "stur" sein, aber nur, wenn wir "komische" Leute um und rum haben... 😂😂😂👍! Und meine "Strecken" gehen sowieso bis nach Meppen, Lingen, Münster etc. hoch, daher ist das für mich schon fast alles "gleich"! 😂😂 Aber ich kann ja auch nicht immer Recht haben....ist aber selten, echt! 😉😉👍

@TheCovenant2

3 жыл бұрын

@@BirgitBauhaus "wir sind stur, wenn wir komische Leute um uns haben" vielleicht habt ihr deswegen ja den ruf, weil ihr einfach alles was net so is wie ihr komisch findet :P

I‘m a German and just listened to this points and I can confirm them all. So true .. and I wish they would be friendlier 🙈

@freddycastillo2386

2 жыл бұрын

Oh! Seriously?? Are you an authentic German?

I will give you a hint why it's difficult to make a German friend. :) Since no one can possibly be happy always, we feel uncomfortable with someone, who does not show vulnerability towards us. That's why we are a bit hesitant to connect with such a person. Most Germans love to connect on a deeper level with people, and the more open you are with a German, the easier you can build a friendship with us. - That's the whole secret., 😅🤗 We really are caring people, even to strangers. When I would sit on a bench, crying, someone would ask me, if I'm hurt, what's wrong, if they can help. - The majority would not ignore you and pass by. So, we struggle, when someone puts on his mask, because they are hard to get for a German ... We don't know what they think about us, whether they like us or not. - An American can tell, but a German isn't able to read your hidden signs, and all these in between messages, that would give it away, we don't get. - There is sooo much subtle in your culture that we really struggle with. 😕So, its not that we dislike smiles, or when someone expresses happiness, it's not easy for us to warm up with you, when you don't pay forward a little trust in us, and show vulnerability in being authentic. 🙂

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!!!

@andreag.9551

3 жыл бұрын

We are able to read hidden signs, but it's exhausting. We like it straight and honest 😉 do not pretend being someone or something you are not and Germans will be more likely your friend 😁

@martinjost5637

3 жыл бұрын

I read in a book, that there are "coconut" and "avocado" cultures, when it comes to friendship: With the USA (and probably Canada) being avocados: People are open also because they need to because they move a lot. OTOH if you do mistakes and open to the wrong person, you'll move on quite soon anyway. Germans and Swiss are coconuts: A relly hard shell, but once you are "in" it's very open.

@leonlaloggia561

2 жыл бұрын

Stark gesagt 👏

@FINNSTIGAT0R

2 жыл бұрын

I am a Finn and we're hard to befriend as well. But I call bullshit on those Finns who, apparently just like Germans, say that we like more "authentic" interactions and yadi yada. We are hard to befriend because we are afraid of interactions with strangers and get baffled when we'd need to talk casually about whatever with a stranger. I personally would really like to be easily approachable and be more outgoing that way, but since this nonsense culture we have of not really interacting with strangers has trained me to be this way it's really hard to break out of it. If being more outgoing and casual with strangers is fake, then give me more of that sweet fakeness. It easily wins over this fucking dull wall of silence and distance keeping we have going on in Finland. And we here have a real loneliness problem as well, which leads to depression and mental problems.

Ty for this nice and 100% on the point Video!!!Greetings from Thüringen

Auf dem Lande sind die Leute meist sehr viel höflicher und sagen öfters "Danke"!

@Charles-oo8bq

10 ай бұрын

That is true world wide.

@8:49 If you rent a flat on the outskirts of the city, you usually have a parking spot nearby. It is not guaranteed but you don't pay anything extra. @16:14 You could use a Payback car. That is basically the same system.

I’m getting ready to move to Germany for good, we lived there in the 80’s…. Thanks for the update. I had experienced the same back then.

your videos are simply unbelievable. I was also in Germany as an aupair many years ago so I know exactly what you are talking about. Now I am learning English and the videos not only help me with my learning but also fill me with positive energy. Thank you

I just want to thank you for all this great content! I’m moving to Germany in January and your videos are an amazing reference! Vielen Dank!

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so much for your wonderful message 🥰 and have a wonderful move in Germany!!

Regarding the quiet hours... I AM German, and you have to be pretty loud to annoy the neighbours. Of course experiences differ, but everywhere I lived, children are more or less excluded from any complaint.

I assume you are not aware that Düsseldorf has the third-largest Japanese community in Europe after London and Paris. Just because it is not centered on America does not make it less international.

NRW ist ein hartes Pflaster, was Höflichkeit und gute Laune angeht. 😂😂😂

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🙈

@TheCovenant2

3 жыл бұрын

is NRW echt so schlimm? selbst im echten rauem Berlin sind die Leute höflich genug um (meistens) danke zu sagen oder mal schnell die tür aufzuhalten, wenn man gerad iwo rein will :D

You don't pay 45 % in tax, on your whole income. the maximum average is around 35 % (singles) and ~ 25 % (couples who spilt). The first ~10.000 € / adult are no taxed. Do not forget, unlike in the US, there is one income tax only in Germany. The "Bundesland" does not come to you asking to tax return, for their own taxes. Tax collection is mostly administered by the "Bundesländer", for historical reasons, but they are just executing a federal law.

@oxanasparks3904

Жыл бұрын

Really 😂. We pay in total 45% + on top stupid insurances. Am end Life in Germany Enteignung.

@EK-gr9gd

Жыл бұрын

@@oxanasparks3904 Check your maths

The thing with the door. There is a problem with many people here not being raised the german way. The people that are very friendly are mostly older people that dont come from "shithead-hotspots" like berlin or other bigger cities. City people are so, yikes. If I dont thank you or hello to an elder my mum kicks my ass. Even when I met friends from Kindergarten and I dont greet them I will get in trouble, because my fam is 1. from a smaller town 2. raised the proper german way 3. and my mom is a lil bitty religouse (christian), and I feel like that is the most important point.

Thanks for sharing. It's soo nice you smile at strangers, I hope you have a nice time there with your husband. I was born in canada so it's also interesting for me to hear about that.

Don't change yourself, smile if you like to smile, it's your personality and would be weird if you would stop it. That must be something in the area of Düsseldorf, because open the door for someone or helping is something we did always in Berlin and Berlin is not so famous of being super friendly, what is sometimes a misunderstanding. Mittagsruhe/ noon rest und Nachtruhe/ night rest are some very serious things in a lot of parts in Germany, Austria or Switzerland. The Saturday as an almost normal shopping day started in 2006 with the Soccer world cup in Germany. Until this year the most shops in Germany closed at 4pm and only one Saturday per month was long shopping Saturday until 6pm. Some areas of course were different. Now, Berlin is very liberal with shopping and you can open your shop from Monday to Saturday usually for 24hours it's up to the owners what they prefer and how they handle it with the employees and you have about 8 Sunday's per year where the shops are open as well from one pm till eight pm the city decides which Sunday's that should be for example the cup final in soccer or if a big festival happens in Berlin. Every state and sometimes city does it different in Germany.

Things I can remember about Canada 🇨🇦, we're from N. Ontario now living in B.C province no shopping on Sundays ( we're over 50yrs. Old), until the last couple of years paying cash, especially in the northern parts of Canada. Depending on where you go in Canada we are not always polite or even friendly. But we've had a harder life than some ppl. The wife and I are a bit jaded. The wife's Metis, so her experience has been a bit different than some.

This was an excellent summary of German society especially concerning the local differences. There isn't just one Germany. It depends so much on whether you live in the north or in the south, in a big city, a small town or a village, whether you are from the former East or West Germany ( or somehow socialized in second generation ). It's so true what you are saying. I'm from Berlín and ,as far as Germany is concerned, I've only lived in larger cities so If don't have a clue what it's like to live in a small town. I find them incredibly charming when I get yo visit them so If may idealize Life there. Now I'm living in a Spanish town in Valencia of 35 000 inhabitants. I've been living there for 25 years and I keep comparing it with Germany that means "my" cosmopolitan Germany, which just doesn't make sense but that has made me who I am. Life's strange.

@hannofranz7973

3 жыл бұрын

Just one more thing: There is a saying in Germany that says that the pavements are pulled up in the smaller towns at six pm which seems to reflect reality. Even though, I don't see that the people there are massively jumping out if their windows just because they have nothing more reasonable to do. Time will come and someone will tell me what it's like to live there.

That's a very comprehensive set of objections to life in Germany! Beautiful countryside and architecture though.

Landlords are expecting good German skills and no one is waiting for foreigners that speak english. They wanna avoid trouble among the renting parties. Therefore you need to understand German and the rules of that house or neighbourhood

I live on the lower Niederrhein in a relatively small town and here it used to be normal to greet everyone, especially the elders. But as the years passed that slowly faded away as more and more people from the bigger cities moved here. Instead of integrating themselves, they brought their habits with them. Anonymity also grew a lot stronger. Just 20 years ago, if I did something bad and someone from the town saw it, it'd be at my grandma's just a few minutes later and then my father knew it right after. Now I go out and I don't recognize anyone anymore. Old friends moved away, the elders died, new elders and younger folk moved here and the land that's free gets sold to businesses and corporations. It's not the town I used to grow up in. And don't get me started on the architecture that changed massively over the last 10 years. It's gotten much colder and "blockier". By now the house I live in is the oldest in town as every other house has been sold, destroyed and then completely rebuilt. And the market for appartments is also bad at the moment. Whenever there is an appartment open, there are already 10-20 people lining up infront of you. Mostly outsiders coming here. Urbanism truely got a hold of this land and, as a local from the province, I'm deeply saddened by it. Almost as if my roots are being torn out of the ground right beneath my feet.

love this I am from South Africa we are a friendly nation you sound so sincere I have a friend from Canada she reminds me of you

@lifeingermany_

2 жыл бұрын

🥰♥️ awwww I’m so glad!!

Canadian friendliness and common courtesies are worth hanging on to.

I Mississauga living for 23 years don’t know if I am going to Square one which bus I should take? But when I am in Germany it’s so easier.

Preparing myself mentally and physically. Ahahah! Thanks again!

I'm a German and I just think it's very, very funny how you experienced your first steps here - so many things you mentioned are just so normal to me and some others I already know are found in Germany only and maybe are something I even don't like about "us" or our culture. It's really true that life and culture can be different in every part of Germany. I am from a smaller town with almost 6K population in the south west (Baden-Württemberg) and I still get shocked on some things which are super normal in the city. I have only one comment to the tax-system: We have a "Steuervereinfachungsgesetz" which is basically an "easier law for the tax-law" .... yep! Suuuuper German and I think it's just so weirdly funny. Keep going with your videos, I think you're doing great and I always love to see culture differences or just funny little things in the daily life which can be so different. Love, Sonja Btw: I already heard of the true kindness in Canada and I really think that's something we need here a bit more. To me it's normal to hold the door for someone else or say "thank you" if someone does it for me... maybe that's a "countryside thing" here lol

the credit card thing: ive heard that the shop has to pay for a secure money transfer, if you buy only a coffee they dont earn that much. Some Shops have a sign with that, saying sth like "only 20€ above"

It still stays funny to hear so much about our quirks or habits from you as a (former) foreigner and you're absolutly right to talk about it. I've already established that I'm living a good deal longer on this globe and in Germany than you have 😉. Common courtesy is deteriorating with every new generation - something my parents used to say when I was young which I strongly opposed at that time and nowadays I find that claim to be true. I grew up allowing someone with a disability or just a few items to purchase at a supermarket to go past me or to open doors for other people. But all of that seems to be a dying art when it comes to younger people. And for your usage of "Du" and "Sie" - when you are identified as a native English speaker I would assume that people with at least some English background (which should be the case with your doc) from their time in school might let mistakes of that matter slide and not get offended because they know that this kind of distinction does not exist in the English language.

@wendyandy9692

4 ай бұрын

Common courtesies are dying everywhere. The young generation doesn’t notice those things, they are rough and they lack respect.

Very Good.

I am honestly so much happier here in Germany than I ever was in the States, and this is due to many of the things you mentioned. I love the quiet rule. I love that they make it so hard for people to have cars, therefore encouraging cycling, walking, or public transport. I rarely miss my car. I love that people do not smile obsequiously for no apparent reason. These are just a few of the things I love about this country. Germany is the 6th country I have lived in, however. If someone has only lived in their "native" country and then moved here, I can see how many of these things might be overwhelming. But you're obviously adjusting well. And, I think your command of German is fantastic! I hope mine will soon be that good as well.

Very interesting clip. Thank you. Your German at the end sounds very, very good. Maybe you do a clip in german ?

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

I just filmed one and will share it in a couple weeks I think! 🙈 so nervous though! My German really isn’t that good!!

@mariokah2426

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ much better than my english :-) . OK I wait for the german video...

Closed captions please! Thanks

After living outside of Germany (as a German) for almost a decade, I experience reverse culture shock whenever I go back to Germany to visit my family. I, too, have to remind myself that everything will be closed on Sundays and people are generally less friendly than in other countries I have lived in (e.g. Canada - Ontario near Thunder Bay, New Zealand, Australia). Having an Australian partner helped me realise that Germans are often less polite and show less gratitute than people from other nations. I guess that's just how we are and doesn't necessarily mean that we don't appreciate things. Maybe we just have a hard time verbalising it. But since my partner told me time and time again how rude I am, I have worked on that and believe I have become better at it. :) Luckily he met some other Germans by now and understands that it wasn't just me as a person... I feel sorry for you that Germans accused you of faking your smile. :( There is nothing wrong with being a happy person! :) I also lived near DUS and never owned a car for the same reasons you mentioned. I love paying everything (including $1 coffees) with credit card - so much easier! :)

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

We have the exact same conversations as a couple here in DUS 🤣 me always telling my husband “that was rude”! And yesterday we needed to go look at Parkett for our floors of our to-be-renovated house and the shop tenant told me that we were ignorant for taking up 3 spaces for other customers (because we both came in and I needed to bring my little one too because his tagesmutter is closed). He was so mean to us, even though I nicely explained, if we are going to spend thousands of Euros on flooring, this is one going to be a one-man decision, we both need to be here (and both had a right to be there). I immediately said something and was perhaps rather rude (for the first time IN MY LIFE 🙈). But was so proud that FINALLY for once in my life, I was able to stand up for myself (and my family). It felt good! I like that Germans speak what’s on their mind. A good mix between overly polite Canadians and honest Germans is the perfect receipe hahah... that’s my goal!!

@katrins.8416

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ you're becoming germanised! 😉 Not always a bad thing. We can all learn from each other. 🤗

@NuGanjaTron

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, or to put it another way: it's a $#@%hole... 🤮

@gospelfighter6548

Жыл бұрын

Germans are ignorantly arrogant i hate this sick culture and has destryed my soul I have been put down by germans always and they have destroyed my talents and happy mood They will go through karma Many germans say they are direct because they dont want to sugar coat, but have you tried to say something direct to germans? They will flip out They love to boss around and humiliate each other always They are always sensitive

Fun fact: Kids DON'T make noise, at least de jure! That is part of the BImSchG, the Federal Immission Protection Law. That one regulate ANY Imnmissin, be it sound, exhaust gases, light or warmth. And noises that kids make are not Lärm. You just have to deal with complaining neighbors, but they cannot do anything about it.

I love your videos. Your observations are very astute! On the whole politeness/holding the door thing though, I'd stress that it depends on where you live. In rural areas this won't be an issue at all. And kids playing in a usual way is not considered noise, even during Mittagsruhe! :-) And yes, the complexity of the tax system is definitely ridiculous. :-D

@erictrumpler9652

3 жыл бұрын

Kids have a way of running on their heels, and the ensuing noise can be an annoyance for neighbors living below. Having raised six children in Germany, I have to say that Germans are not at all friendly towards children as neighbors, to the point where it is nearly impossible to find rentals for a large family.

I wonder how you felt as a Canadian, who is used to very friendly people and good customer service, when you visited a Brauhaus in Düsseldorf for the first time:-) The legendary roughness of the waiters is even a culture shock for other Germans who are not from Düsseldorf. Also the fact that you get a new beer without even ordering one - but that is a thing you learn to appreciate. Sometimes I sit in other bars or restaurants, want a drink and nobody comes and I think "Hello, I am thirsty, don't you want to make money???"

Oh, I'm happy... I always had very nice Neighbours! I can wash vor put in the Tumbler/Dryer! With Music I had never Problems - but I'm a respectful Neighbour, too,! ;-)

in berlin, noises made by children are a designated exception to those quiet hours bc theyre considered 'socially adequate' forms of noise :D

@erictrumpler9652

3 жыл бұрын

Kids have a way of running on their heels, and the ensuing noise can be an annoyance for neighbors living below. Having raised six children in Germany, I have to say that Germans are not at all friendly towards children as neighbors, to the point where it is nearly impossible to find rentals for a large family.

Loved your "hochnäsig" 😂

You can run your washing machine during Mittagsruhe, provided it's not an old noisy clunker. You don't have to be quiet as a mouse, you're just expected to avoid unusually loud activities like drilling holes in walls or turning up your music. Also probably best to run your vacuum cleaner on a quieter setting. I once got told off by a neighbor for a loud phone conversation during Mittagsruhe, but in fairness, I was really yelling angrily at the person on the phone 😁

Fun fact from a native German: Many Germans get a little pissed actually, when you try holding the door open for them. I always found that really strange ;-).

@TheCovenant2

3 жыл бұрын

Das hab ich bisher noch nie erlebt um ehrlich zu sein lol Warum sollten da Leute pissig werden? xD

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve gotten this before too from the older generation, like “they don’t want my help because they can do it on their own” kinda thing

@TheCovenant2

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ ok, guess it really depends on where ure at in germany xD elderly people tend to be more... "unthankful" id say but in general I'd say we're pretty good at sayin thanks etc :D

@gospelfighter6548

Жыл бұрын

Because germans are arrogantly selfish

Wenn Kinder laut sind habe ich dafür allergrößtes Verständnis. Leider vergessen die meisten Menschen, daß sie selber einmal Kind waren.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Das stimmt leider 😞🙈 mein Sohn hat richtig viel Energie! Und die Nachbarn haben nicht so viel Verständnis 😖

@jan-peterbrodersen3302

3 жыл бұрын

Ich kam von der Arbeit und stieg die Treppe zu meiner Wohnung (Hochpaterre) hinauf. Über meiner Wohnung wohnte ein Vater mit zwei kleinen Kindern (Mädchen 6 Jahre und ihr Bruder 4 Jahre). Sie kamen die Holztreppe heruntergetrappelt, es sind halt Kinder. Das Mädchen entschuldigte sich sofort, weil sie so laut waren. Ich habe mich mit den beiden erst einmal auf die Treppe gesetzt und ihnen gesagt, das sie meinetwegen den ganzen Tag die Treppe hinauf und herunter trappeln können. Ich würde mich niemals darüber beschweren. Ich freue mich wenn ich fröhliche Kinder sehe und sie dürfen auch Lärm machen. Ich war vor 50 Jahren eben auch ein kleines Kind mit vier älteren Geschwistern. Ich habe es immer gehasst, wenn meine Mutter ihr Mittagsschläfchen gehalten hat und wir leise sein mußten.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

@@jan-peterbrodersen3302 Wenn ich nur Nachbarn hätte, die dir ähnlicher sind 🥰🥰 Ich wünschte, mehr Menschen wären wie du!

@peterkoller3761

3 жыл бұрын

Es gibt für alles die richtige Zeit und den richtigen Ort. Nachdem laut sein einfach integraler Bestandteil des Kind-Seins ist, ist es überall dort zu akzeptieren, wo Kinder leben. Es gibt aber auch Ausnahmen: In einem Restaurant, einem Museum, einer Kirche zb haben sie nicht herumzulaufen und zu schreien, und in einer Wohnung mit anderen Parteien im Haus haben sie zwischen 22 und 6 Uhr ebenfalls nicht herumzutoben, dafür haben die Eltern zu sorgen, ohne wenn und aber (die Ruhezeit während des Tages oder am Wochenende tagsüber hingegen ist lächerlich - wenn ich es da ruhig haben will, dann muss ich mir gefälligst ein Haus auf dem Land kaufen oder einen Gehörschutz verwenden!)

@peterkoller3761

3 жыл бұрын

@@emmasly123 was ein Schichtler mit seinen eigenen Kindern macht, ist seine Sache, aber bezüglich der Nachbarkinder gilt: Ohropax tragen oder ausziehen, wenn er tagsüber schlafen will, oder eine andre Arbeit suchen. Die Eisenbahn, die vorm Haus vorbeifährt, wird auch nicht stillgelegt, nur weil der Herr Schichtler tagsüber schlafen muss! Kindergeräusche wie Lachen, Schreien, Springen gehören zu deren ureigensten, nicht verhandelbaren Lebensäußerungen von Kindern und sind (tagsüber) einfach hinzunehmen! (sag ich als Kinderloser)

I mean I understand that certain social habits are different in other countries, but that doesn't make someone from said country immune to being rude as well. Yes you are adapting to a new culture, but if you smiling makes someone uncomfortable and that individual feels the need to call you out on it, that's honestly their problem. In America I hear the opposite. People telling strangers they need to smile. Could you imagine someone from Germany visiting the US or Canada and someone saying, "you should smile more" that's equally just as rude. You honestly can't win with people. They will always think you should do something else. Your smile is not hurting anyone. Be your authentic self ☺️

And also make sure to help others if they slip and fall or smth like that, because not helping can be fined.

There are credit cards from Payback that have exactly this point system! 🙂

@EK-gr9gd

3 жыл бұрын

Payback is a branch of Amex, they are pushing hard to get a fee free Amex and Visa.

I have to compliment you. 🙂 I really appreciate your accuracy of describing our mentality and German living. - Thank you! ❤️ Old school German still is paying attention to people, whether it be holding doors open for people, offering to go first in line, when you see someone has kids, is handicap, or what ever, just being considerate in general. I was raised like that. - When someone doesn't follow basic courtesy, I will let them know directly - for example when someone slammed a door into my face, because he didn't notice I was behind him. A simple... Na toll! Will do it and they say... Oh, sorry, I haven't seen you. You bet that next time they will pay closer attention. Or I will simply address my wants at them by asking whether they would be so kind to _______. - Don't be too shy to simply ask for whatever would be helpful to you that moment. 🙂

You can also open and cancel bank accounts at the click of a button at most German banks. Probably not at Deutsche Bank since they're rather old-fashioned.

Ich wohn in einer ruhigen Wohngegend und freu mich immer wenn ich die Kinder draußen spielen höre (und nicht an TV oder PC sitzen). Bürokratie ist sehr mühsam, dafür funktioniert sie "fast" immer - ist nicht in allen Ländern so (auch in EU nicht). Aber Reformen wären dringend erforderlich. Allerdings eine Verwaltung, die sich selber reformieren soll ist wie zu sagen die Toten auf dem Friedhof sollen sich selbst umbetten.🤣

I think your points are valid and helpful. Just where in Dusseldorf or any other German city do you get a coffee for 1€? 😉

Dear Canadian, never apologize for smiling and being polite. Never. If the Germans are uncomfortable around people who are smiling and projecting an air of happiness, that's not your problem. I'm an American, and have known many people in various parts of Canada. One of my best friends is Canadian (from Vancouver, BC). Canadians are Independent thinkers, and are naturally very polite. Be proud of your Canadian heritage! 😃❤

I love public transportation it’s cheaper and easier to get anywhere you want to❤️

@andrew_koala2974

3 жыл бұрын

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I get the change from cash to card due to CoVid-19, yet I'm no friend of cards at all. I experienced many people losing track of their fundings because of cards, like my late husband, who sometimes spent more in one week than what he earned in one month, because of spontaneous impulsive purchases. And it has happened to me too. Sometimes I'm tempted to buy something I really fancy at that moment. But when I don't have the cash with me, I think to myself "OK, if I really, really want it, I'll come back tomorrow." And most of the time I don't, because the next day, the impulse to buy is gone. Therefore cash will continue to be my king.

hey, I might be moving to Berlin with my husband in the month of May.. could you please help me out with the best websites for house hunting to rent out? thanks!! xx

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

For sure! 🙃 I wrote this post: lifeinduesseldorf.com/best-websites-to-find-a-flat/ (it’s valid for all of Germany - not just Dusseldorf)

No. 15 changes rapidly within this covid thing, cards have become a common thing. However, I had to laugh when you told this small-talk issue. We are really not good at this easy-peasy stuff (wheater or soccer is ok ;-) ). On the other hand, it is no problem to talk about serious problems with a stranger. Normally they take care and will try to help or give helpful advice.

"Nachtruhe" is from 22-6 h, "Mittagsruhe" is from 13-15 h. de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mittagsruhe de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nachtruhe

1st point agree totally, was spot on, 2nd - correct if you restrict yourself to just english speaking jobs you have a narrow band of possibilities and in suburbs you will get lost without the language, 3rd - apartments i found it very hard too not just the diff ways (no kitchen included and all that stuff) but to actually get a landlord to actually take on a foreigner, I did that by finding some brit already there and paying to live in his spare room until I had managed thro contacts and colleagues to find my own place and convince the owner to rent to a foreigner. when I came it was any foreigner was dangerous, now it is better for certain foreigners but for other nations even harder. There are also a lot of bad landlords and companies like in the UK too. (rechtsschutz) 4th - language, yeh any foreign language. German is not the hardest but not the easiest either... 5th - paperwork yup... is said to be what was left from the WW2 aftermath when germany was controlled by diff nations post war, a lot of the controls were put in place by the allies and a lot just remained and kinda became standard approach 6th - quiet hours...in suburbs it can be very relaxed with all that stuff (not relaxed so much in the cities and housing blcks) so law so cld be enforced but generally isnt, as long as you are respectful or warn people 7th - Car, .yes...same as any big city I had to pay a fortune for a parking spot in innenstadt in köln. I have pretty much never used local transport. only allowed to clean car at clean park or carwash not on the street, not sundays.... oh there are some major diffs in road usage, laws and what seems like normal practice actually having a law to it that differ to the Uk even tho same signs, markings etc ...get familiar! and speed traps...they are to catch you, not like UK - painted bright yellow with a neon sign as prevention...and they flash and blind you from the front not behind the car like in Uk (germany specifically, netherlands is like UK) 8th - sundays ...yes...but it was way worse when I came, shops closing midday, no way to get cash, visa was pretty much not possible and only in major clothing stores 9th - Du and Sie ....only found it critical when it comes to stuff like jobs, local gov etc 10th - what did you expect appearing happy in Germany LoL it is German to complain about anything and everything and not be happy how can you be so happy 11th - there are some courtesy things that remain - thank you and door opening, agree fully as a brit is at first scary...but it is how it is and is because that was what they are used to but there are Germans that have the same beliefs (but not to british queuing) 12th - German friends yes reserved and do not open directly....but a lot of brits the same.... 13th - tips...you get good service, you pay a tip, you don't get service or they were rude - they dont ..this one thing whether US or Canada always comes up .old fashioned brit - you get out what you put in..serve me good and I will show you that...diff scheme in europe than US and Canada...they get base wage and get healthcare etc etc 14th - tax ...you speaking to the wrong people...I dont know anyone that doesnt know about 1-5 and how its applied, tax rebate you claim it back....yeh its complex, what tax system in what country is not..? my first impressions for years were "high tax" but after a long time you see some of the diffs why and the whole construct is just diff..you get a lot of bank holidays and vacation in the working contract. I think if you remain and dont disappear after 10 yrs you start to see it works with just a tax to tax comparison it seems high...but its the whole package and all systems that is the diff 15th credit card - that costs the customer and the business for small transactions in Europe - so there is mainly a restriction and min amount ...use apple pay! get a german bank account (you can get a bank account even without perm job) or get a maestro card will pretty much work everywhere - some foreign banks give these with existing accounts... For me the biggest points after my over 20yrs here get a German bank account (yes possible, is restricted no overdraught, credit etc) - alternative minimum is to get a universal account from your country of origin/bank of origin that includes a maestro card for usage abroad. Can be done without but the hurdles and jumps to actually live are big on this one. get Rechtsschützversicherung a must have if renting and all sorts of stuff like not receiving goods, or getting the electrician round and getting overcharged that legal stuff (and no Mieterschützbund covering the rental stuff only is in comparison no help ...have experience in all this stuff) get Haftpflichtversicherung ensure if something goes wrong or your break smthg outside of your place you got it covered (colleagues with exp on this one) switch your driving licence to a german/eu one within the time required - 1yr or 6mths can't rem that one...even if you dont plan on driving as yet...chances are if you dont do it you will hit major issues later esp if it runs out in your own country first....some countries have to do an extra test as a top up before they switch it out.... find a good guy that will do your tax returns with a safe balance of just the min with a little on top (friend of friend that always does it and doesnt push the boundaries) learn the language is a must...and make the effort, speak it, even if wrong or not clear...you will learn but they will appreciate it and you will find a lot of times they will then speak english to you but not until they see you are trying - and appreciate people correcting you, do not let it seem like critique. Vocan, vocab, vocab and you can get by...word order, grammatic etc that will fall into place later quiet hours is a good tip and is part of the citizenship test... sunday stuff also good tip... altho it is now a million times better than 20 yrs back...but not where it is in other countries still - expectation setting LoL

Where i live (a major city), people are saying Entschuldigung and Danke all the time for the slightest of things, hold doors open all the time, etc. I wonder if that is just your perception or maybe it's Düsseldorf.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been to every state in Germany for work with similar experiences in all major cities 😝 where do you live?? I find people friendlier in the South, that’s for sure! I think Bavaria is an exception ❤️

@martinstubs6203

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ You might have guessed: I live in Munich, which isn't even really typical for Bavaria either

@MsSnudie

3 жыл бұрын

Als Kölnerin kann ich klar sagen: it‘s Düsseldorf 😉

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

@@MsSnudie 🤣🤣

English is really much easier than German. I'm from Ostwestphalia and try to learn more English with videos on KZread or something else. It is easier for me to learn English with videos than only listening. I hope that's normal. I wish you all the best for your life in Germany.

i have worked bar restaurant and stuff for almost two decades. People who olny tipped 10% of the bill are highly regarded as stingy. We would always be able to tell who is going to tipp well or not. People who have no idea what it is like to work in this business tend to not tipp well. And when it comes to the salary: yes, it might be higher in Germany but still most of the ppl still only get paid minimum wages. So all of you who come to visit: WE DO LIKE TIPPS:)))

That with the door is a generation, education and city problem

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right!

@gospelfighter6548

Жыл бұрын

Lack of civilization attributes

We have people, who always smile - usually they try to sell crap on tv or perform horrible music for the feeble minded. Fake smiling just conveys a certain apocalyptic mirth, that germans do not really like to face ever so often.

I cant really complain bout the 11th point.. if u are close to a door and clearly want in most of the times people will briefly hold it open or push it open again for u when walking away so u dont have to do the job all on ur own.. also most people thank you if u hold the door open.. if not this is still considered pretty rude - maybe düsseldorf is somethign different but I come from an area which is known to be pretty rough and even we mostly thank people or hold doors open if it wont take is 5minutes til the person is at it :D

The shop or restaurant has to pay 1-3% of the amount to the creditcard company and the have to pay for cardreader and the Internet. So that's why cash is king for small amounts of money. The other thing were cash is king is selling a used car, I would never accept anything else than cash.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Very true!! And interesting about the used car! I had no idea! Though am about to buy one in the upcoming months so now I know! Haha

@matthiasbohm2593

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ Okay, but beware, the used car market is like a shark tank, they'll rip you to pieces in seconds because "die sind mit allen Wassern gewaschen". Look out for a brand dealership and take an male car expert with you (assuming you're not a car mechanic yourself), you'll get a totally different treatment.

I got family in Munich, I was born in the UK, and want to move to Munich, I'm a painter and decorator

But planning on moving to Germany from the USA I think it’s not bad or at least have the money for your living in a flat for.a year, until you can speak the language good enough to find a job. Don’t know how you chances are to find one with only English, but not so good I would say, maybe only at a hotline or in the tourist industry, but even in hotels or small shocks they expect you know more than one language!

7:22 @Life in Germany: Ruhezeiten sind gesetzlich für alle Bürger vorgeschrieben - deutschlandweit - gleiches Recht und gleiche Pflicht für (fast) alle. „Sonntagsruhe ist die gesetzlich geschützte Ruhe am grundsätzlich arbeitsfreien Sonntag.“ „Die Sonntagsruhe ist grundgesetzlich geschützt. Art. 139 der Weimarer Reichsverfassung vom 11. August 1919, der gemäß Art. 140 GG Bestandteil des Grundgesetzes ist, bestimmt, dass der Sonntag als Tag der Arbeitsruhe und der seelischen Erhebung gesetzlich geschützt bleibt.“ „Nach § 9 Abs. 1 ArbZG gilt die Regelung, dass an Sonn- und Feiertagen zwischen 0 und 24 Uhr keine Arbeitnehmer beschäftigt werden dürfen.“ Quelle:de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sonntagsruhe ----------------- Das Lärmbelästigungs-Gesetz sieht vor, dass zwischen 22 und 6 Uhr Nachtruhe herrschen soll. Auch an Sonn- und Feiertagen sind gesetzliche Ruhezeiten zu wahren. Um nicht gegen das OwiG zu verstoßen und unzulässigen Lärm zu vermeiden, sollte man in der Wohnung die Zimmerlautstärke insbesondere während der gesetzlichen Ruhezeiten nicht überschreiten. Quelle: www.bussgeldkatalog.org/umwelt-laermbelaestigung/

@andrew_koala2974

3 жыл бұрын

YouViewer42 Residential noise and the law Find out how the law restricts noise from residences, animals and vehicles, including what the prohibited times are. -DE- Wohnlärm und das Gesetz Finden Sie heraus, wie das Gesetz den Lärm von Wohnhäusern, Tieren und Fahrzeugen einschränkt, einschließlich der verbotenen Zeiten. Das Umweltschutzgesetz von 1970 besagt, dass es strafbar ist, von einem Wohnort aus unangemessenen Lärm zu machen. Jeder Lärm von einem Wohnort kann zu jeder Zeit unangemessen sein. Eine Wohnimmobilie umfasst: Ähnliche Gesetze gelten in anderen Staaten und Gebieten in Australien www.epa.vic.gov.au/for-community/environmental-information/noise/residential-noise/residential-noise-law

@erictrumpler9652

3 жыл бұрын

The citation of specific laws governing everyday life is typically German, too.

Don't stop smiling all the time. I like it because it keeps the mood friendly and it is more easy to start a conversation to a stranger. If you would live in a rural part of Germany I guess you never had spend a thought on getting rid of your car. There the public transportation is system very limited and often the streets are without bicycle lanes.

Hello please tell me as a person who live there can you tell me which cities are the friendliest and have a most foreign people

@lifeingermany_

2 жыл бұрын

I’d say the larger cities are always where you’ll find the most English speakers (Berlin, Munich, Hamburg, Frankfurt, etc.) but I find the people to be much nicer in the South of Germany 😝

@stagemix2435

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks

Usually we Germans are polite and if you say DU it doesn' matter. We are happy if you try speaking German. I lived also several years area of Düsseldorf - people are nice there. But if you want to have similar nice people open mind - opening woman the door, saying mostly Thank You then please vist Bavaria or Austria. B.r.

The culture with being friendly etc. is a bit further south in germany, Holding door, letting someone with a small haul skip the line and saying thank you if someone holds the door for me is a daily experience where I live. Overall the further North you get, the grumpier the people get. You would propably be horrified in Schleswig-Holstein... I have a friend there and he's the type of person who'd be the old guy sitting on his lawn with a shotgun shouting at playing kids... and he's 32.

Wow, du sprichst ja schon super deutsch. Bei den paar Wörtern war fast kein Akzent zu hören! :-)

Du.... Lustig, ja, aber ich "du'ze" auch viele Leute...und ich bin aus Düsseldorf...aber ich "muss" in Nordhessen, Kassel z.Z. noch leben, und hier sind die Leute nicht grade sehr freundlich! Aber ich freue mich total über Deinen Kanal!

Children noise do not fall under quiet law. Bundesimmissionsschutzgesetz in § 22 Absatz 1 a Geräuscheinwirkungen, die von Kindertageseinrichtungen, Kinderspielplätzen und ähnlichen Einrichtungen wie beispielsweise Ballspielplätzen durch Kinder hervorgerufen werden, sind im Regelfall keine schädliche Umwelteinwirkung.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

🙃✊ (good for me! Haha)

@mizapf

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ Problem: Recht zu haben bringt dir noch keine freundlichen Nachbarn. Am Ende muss man sich irgendwie arrangieren.

@IHC403

3 жыл бұрын

I didn’t even know that these rules for noon are still existing. Maybe on Sunday but not on the other days of the week 🤷‍♂️

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

@@IHC403 ohhh gosh yes! Depends on how your neighbors are 🙈

Das in Deutschland Sonntags die Geschäfte geschlossen haben, liegt am christlichen Glauben."Sechs Tage sollst du deine Arbeit tun, aber am siebten Tag, sollst du ruhen" usw. Aber wer sich welchen Tag, als siebten Tag aussucht, sollte jedem selbst überlassen sein.

@abalada

3 жыл бұрын

Bedeutet das, dass Deutschland vor 1900 nicht christlich war? Das erste Ladenschlussgesetz ist vom 1. Oktober 1900. im 19ten Jahrhundert waren die Geschäfte in Deutschland an 7 Tagen die Woche offen von 5 bis 23 Uhr. Bis 1919 war es aber immerhin noch erlaubt dass Geschäfte am Sonntag 5 Stunden öffnen können. Erst in 1919 kam das vollständige Verkaufsverbot an Sonntagen. Unter einer sozialdemokratischen Regierung. Die gleiche Regierung welche die Kirchen aus der Schulaufsicht verbannte.

@andrew_koala2974

3 жыл бұрын

Sebastian Schmelzle -DE- Der christliche Glaube, den Sie erwähnen, ist "verzerrt" und völlig verzerrt. Weil der siebte Tag NICHT Sonntag ist Der siebte Tag ist der Sabbat (Samstag), der am Freitag um 18:00 Uhr (Sonnenuntergang) beginnt. Der christliche Glaube wurde von PAUL und der katholischen Kirche (VATIKAN) korrumpiert. Martin Luther wusste, wie der Vatikan von heidnischen Römern korrumpiert wurde. Der Sonnentag war der Tag, an dem die Römer die Sonne verehrten, daher wurde der Tag der Anbetung in SONNTAG geändert. Montag war, als der Mond angebetet wurde. und am Samstag wurde der Saturn angebetet (Saturn-Tag) Diese Korruption ist anerkannt und dauert bis heute im Christentum (Christologie) an. -EN- The Christian faith you mention is 'Warped' and totally distorted, Because the seventh day is NOT Sunday The Seventh-day is the Sabbath (Saturday) Which starts on Friday at 18:00 (sunset) The Christian faith was corrupted by PAUL and the Catholic Church (VATICAN) Martin Luther knew how the Vatican was corrupted by pagan Romans. SunDay was the day the Romans worshiped the Sun, so the day of worship was changed to SUN-Day. Monday was when the Moon was Worshiped. and Saturday was when Saturn was worshiped (Saturn-Day) This corruption is approved and continues to this day in Christianity (Christology)

@DoktorIcksTV

3 жыл бұрын

Meines Wissens nach hat das weniger mit Glauben und Christentum zu tun sondern viel mehr mit Arbeitnehmerschutz und der Ausbeutung während der Industrialisierung. Diese Ausbeutung, bei der die Menschen oft 12-14 Stunden an 7 Tagen unter schlimmen Umständen malochen mussten, um überhaupt überleben zu können, ist der wichtigste Grund für die Entstehung der Sozialdemokratie, der Gewerkschaften und der Arbeiterbewegung. Deswegen ist es auch kein Wunder, dass die Sozialdemokraten diese Regeln eingeführt haben, als sie erstmalig an der Regierung waren. Die Geschichte mit dem Christentum und dass das mit dem Ruhetag schon in der Bibel steht, wurde nur genommen, um das auch den konservativen Menschen zu "verkaufen". Und ganz ehrlich, auch wenn es manchmal unbequem ist, dass Geschäfte auch mal schließen (aktuell Weihnachtsfeiertage + anschließender Sonntag = 3,5 Tage nix einkaufen) - ich persönlich finde das 100% richtig so. Muss man sich eben drauf einstellen, wo ist das Problem?

The common courtesy in Germany! I am a German living in Germany, and in the last 15 years I‘ve been noticing that it has become worse and worse. I hate these people, who can never say Thank You. But the worst is: you walk literally 3 steps behind a person getting into a building and this person will manage to open the door just this much to slip through and let it fall into your face!

@pneumane

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, something goes wrong. 😕 When brought up, we were always told to be polite, say thank you etc. But somehow most Germans seem to forget about it when being adult. 🙄

@richardsnaith6260

2 жыл бұрын

I know wot you mean, disrespectful

Hello dear KZreadr, I like watching your videos, I'm 70 years old. Since I don't speak English, I've used the subtitle subtitle addon so far. Unfortunately, this hasn't worked for a few days. Have been looking for solutions for a solution and unfortunately found nothing that worked. But I found that when uploading a video, you can activate KZread's own translator with a few mouse clicks, so that I don't need any additional software. Since I don't speak English, I could watch your videos but couldn't understand anything. Would regret having to do without your videos Best regards Grandpa Peter PS: I wrote this with a translator, sorry if not everything is correct!

lol I dont smile a lot and they complain about that too. I tell you a secret. It doesnt matter whether you smile or not whether you stare into their eyes or not. nothing you do actually matters. theyre suspicious of you because of what you are not what you do and youre a foreigner but because they know thats evil they make up reasons to justify their suspicion.

No " Thank You" is a Düsseldorfer thing. It's considerd being rude to "normal" germans.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

It’s definitely a Düsseldorf thing! Though still happens more often than not in other German cities (a lot less in the south - I feel more at home there)!

How can apply in the jarmeny

masking emotions driving me nuts here in BC as a German

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha I can definitely imagine!! Sometimes it drives me nuts when I go back home to Canada!

you mentioned a VERY important fact - right in the beginning of your statements. Not all people in germany are acting the same. Northern germans have been said to be cold and not very polite a.s.o. (but NO, they are just not fake but honest). Cultural differences, esp. between the northern and southern part are partly very big. Same between urban and city-living people. That is important to know. BUT as soon you got into the group / the crowd you will like the connection and community..... It is important to know that germans are "not fake", but love to get into deeper connections.... not the fake small-talk thing. If they ask you something, they REALLY want to know it.... not just to make conversation. ;)

Introverts make me uneasy. You never read the headline "Loud, Gregarious guy goes on shooting spree" it's always the quiet ones who suddenly lose it. When someone ask me why I'm so loud , I ask them why they are so quiet and if they are planning on going on a shooting spree or why they are being so sneaky. I think it's kind of arrogant to act like being quiet is the default. That's why I like turning the tables. Also, I can go from American loud to Mexican loud and make them real sorry.

This quiet-times is a little bit overrated ... you can run the dryer, but it should not be that loud ... most buildings are solid and have thick walls, so it is not big of a deal. But why every KZreadr come up with "sunday closed" .. i mean it is not that big secret.

Hey there, I actually like to share my latest *experience with smiling in public* ! Well born and living in *Düsseldorf* , not long ago I wrote the following as my discovery of the day: "Fährst Du mit dem Longboard und Deiner Boombox im Rucksack, mit feinstem Neunziger-Techno im Anschlag und einem Lächeln - gar Lachen - über die Freude des Momentes - des Zelebrierens des Hier und Jetzt - durch die Zeilen Deiner Stadt... so sollst Du Dich nicht wundern welche Freude - dieser ehrliche Funke - in den Gesichtern und Herzen - der am Wegesrand streunenden Seelen entfacht... dies ist kein Gerede - hab es grade erlebt - erlebt, denn ich habe es gemacht!" For quite a while I *frequently cruise with my Longboard through Düsseldorf* in a sportive manner and mostly had an *exhausted look on my face* due to my *mind being in race mode* while pushing me forward (it's with manual drive - no motor 😉) But recently I decided to give that fun I have doing so more room inside me, and - that's the even more exciting part - let it flow through my whole body reaching the outside world. That let me *smile* , *laugh* , yes even once *yelp in excitement* , and I started to *visually communicate* with the people I pass by in this *happy mood manner* and see how they *turn their uncertain looks into smiles* themselves. I'm pretty sure that even if they did't like my music (well being in my mid forties, 90s techno is pushing me back to my youth), *they smiled because of this positive energy!* *So I'm very positive anyone with positive feelings smiling to other people, can do the trick!* And - not kidding - *it's time for another drive now* . You may see me the next two hours cruising in North East of Düsseldorf. *Just look out for 90s techno passing by with a smile...* *Cheers* 🤗

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

I loved everything about this comment! 🥰🥰✊ keep spreading those smiles!!

@pseudo_nym

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ I will 😊 cause it's heartwarming!!! And you *please keep spreading smiles via KZread* - lovely entertainment 🥰

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2. It's not that hard to find a job, when you have more knowledge how the german labour market functions in comparison to the US and adapt your search/application process accordingly

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

True! Though it’ll still depend on where you’re looking - and where actually hires English speakers.

@grace-yz2sr

Жыл бұрын

Nope, it's very hard if you don't know German.

Hi Jana, I need some help please

Ich habe jetzt 12 Minuten deines Videos angeschaut. Warum? 🤔 Weil du eine super schöne Ausstrahlung hast und wegen deines Lächelns. Ändere das nicht, bitte. ❤️ 👍

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Vielen Dank für dieses wundervolle Kompliment! 🥰

@HenryAusLuebeck

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ sehr gerne und ehrlich.

@gospelfighter6548

Жыл бұрын

Dann lerne du das auch und bring deinen altmodischen Volk bei

Canadians do NOT get a servers wager… you’re thinking about USA lol. Canadian servers make the exact same as everyone else plus tips. And btw 20% is not norm in Canada. Most people would find that rude. It’s 25-30%

1:59 Absolutely agree 🖕😆

I can only speak for myself but you have much more control over your money when you pay cash. I also like redundancy. I want to be able to pay for something even when the internet is gone. Without cash, I feel naked.

Germany 🇩🇪 is cold and people too

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Yes, many Germans don't like it when people are not authentic. There is no need to smile all the time. If you have a reason because you are in good company, have heard something nice or are happy to see someone, then you naturally smile. But if you're not doing well, why smile?

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

Because a smiling face makes others smile too ♥️ (unless you’re German haha - but when someone smiles at me while walking down the street, it makes me smile too - a nice feeling to have!)

@cdnest

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ I smile a lot, too. And I like it, when someone smiles at me and smile back for sure ! But I don´t have to smile all the time.

@Child3k

3 жыл бұрын

@@lifeingermany_ Alle very well and true. But from my experience in den US, it is not socially accepted to be "blue" or just not in a good mood.

@lifeingermany_

3 жыл бұрын

@@Child3k you’re definitely right! Same in Canada.

@witty2u

3 жыл бұрын

@@Child3k And there is the difference... It is socially accepted here in Germany to be blue.... even in public. Our culture, to not beat around the bush, allows us to be that way, and to respond to someone, who feels blue appropriately. We don't take it as "threat" so to speak. When we'd love to help, but we cannot handle it at present, we will express that, and that's OK... It's not taken personal. There is more freedom in expressing who we are in Germany, because no one feels obliged to anything that they don't want, or that they feel unable to do. - When we're in a hurry, we apologize and say we're in a hurry, when it's something important, but offer a different time to get back with them. - An American might feel obliged to respond, even though they don't want to, just to not been taken as rude. Therefore they misinterpret a German as rude, but we aren't. A lot of things in our culture are considered as rude, what in the American isn't called rude. - For example, when someone says he will do something that he already knows, he won't do. Like saying... that was awesome, let's keep in touch - I will call you up, but they will not. Or steeling ones time is rude, when we already made up our mind about something, but we will pretend to be interested. We'd rather appreciate a friendly, I'm sorry, but that's not mine at all. To us it's very respectful to be honest, to save us time, and to not give us false hope that will end up in disappointment, because we take things seriously. When understanding each other's mentality, it's easier to not take things personal, or as a threat. 🙂 When I live in the American culture, I need to adjust to THEIR mentality, as they are, and not judge them for being different.