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@natashasuniversityoflife

4 ай бұрын

In our earthly reality, the dominance of the male archetype in the concept of God often leads to an imbalanced portrayal of power and beauty. It's as if our perception of divinity is distorted, mirroring the flaws and biases of our society. However, amidst this disparity, the clarity of the Goddess's name shines through, symbolizing a beacon of balance and harmony. Just as mathematics serves as the foundational framework upon which our understanding of reality is constructed, the concept of God aligns with this principle. God, in this context, provides the necessary substance or building blocks to complement the foundational structure of math. Math is the language of the universal truth and the blueprint upon which all existence is built. Mathematical truth can be used for good or bad and in between those two choices lies the principle of math. The principle of math remains there at a neutral position of neither good nor bad until our actions reflect upon it. We can use that truth to build something beautiful and lasting (Heaven) or something that is the opposite of that (Hell). Your personal truth is the meaning of life and not the foundation of life. Your existence can give meaning to life or take it away. The foundation of life is built on math, not God. The foundation of math is built on Truth. God is built on the same principle of math just as we are. The principle of math provides the necessary foundation of life and God provides the necessary substance also known as building blocks to build upon it. Without math, a good foundation those building blocks have no lasting foundation or no foundation at all. When something is built on a lie it's not meant to last, aka wages of sin is death. That is why when something is built on a bad foundation it's not meant to last, eventually, it will collapse and in most cases hurt like hell, to teach a painful lesson of not building or rebuilding your life on a lie, aka bad foundation. Do you know who you are? What do you see when you look in the mirror? What you see is called reflection. That means that you are a reflection. And what do you reflect? You reflect your consciousness, feelings, desires, actions and much more. And if you care about your appearance, reflection then you should care about your actions because those actions will reflect upon your true reflection. One day we will face the truth and we will have to live it. Please make sure that you can live with your actions because you will have to live with their reflection. Many of us when faced with the truth like true image would rather live a lie instead. Why? Well, because their true reflection is so ugly as a result of their ugly actions they would rather live a lie, false image than live with the consequences of their actions. Your image, reflection is like a home, a vessel for your mind, soul. What it means is that your reflection is built on the same principle as the house is. And we do not build houses on assumptions or beliefs we build them on mathematical truth. What can happen if a house or any other structure is built on a lie, bad foundation? Well, that house or that structure is not meant to last and it will collapse. And what can happen to those who live in that structure? For example, they can become homeless. You can become a ghost if you don't have a reflection aka vessel, body (home) for your mind, soul. Don't forget, that those who walk away from the truth are walking into hell. How long does anyone need to be in hell or hell-like situations? Well, that depends on each individual. Eventually, they will get tired of pain, suffering, building or rebuilding their lives on a bad foundation and eventually, they will seek the truth instead of walking away from it. How do you know if you have suffered enough? Well, do you like to suffer? If you don't like suffering then you shouldn't contribute to suffering or feed on the suffering in any way or form. That is why I became vegan. If someone tells us that they do not like suffering and yet they choose to feed on the suffering of animals or others, shows that they do like suffering otherwise they would not do it and if they do like suffering so much then they should not complain about it, instead they should embrace it with open arms ✝. If you would like to see the true reflection of life and those who are part of it before it’s unveiled, I suggest that you study the truth. The better your knowledge and understanding of truth is the clearer your vision will become.

@user-uv9yu6pf8s

4 ай бұрын

I onn my way too ann being ann better utgawe person off me myself!!and happier!!rithe!!❤❤❤

@lauriepolden6594

4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a dog that I had 17 years and I lost her to cancer. She was loved. She was loved beyond words and I understand your loss completely, but please know you will see her again over the rainbow bridge she is playing with my dog and my cats Who have died over the years they will greet her and they will love her and they will play with her and there will be no pain not even for my cat that lost her leg. She is there. I’m waiting for me. I can’t wait to see her. I love her, as I loved all my friends, don’t cry it will be OK. There are no pain and they are happy.

@user-lr5ll5qx1z

4 ай бұрын

Ty for your insights stoic way of life.

@rehema1970

4 ай бұрын

❤

" Everything that was once difficult to endure is sweet to remember." - Seneca

I no longer waste even a second when I am disrespected. Arguments and disagreements are one thing and even healthy in friendhsips and relationships. But if the tone of the argument is meant to bring you down instead of solving the issue at hand then do consider walking away.

@theclumsyprepper

4 ай бұрын

I did that with my best friend of eleven years. The last two years he brought so much drama to my life I have finally said enough.

@wolfairyland6196

4 ай бұрын

@@theclumsyprepper same! I came to this video after ending it with my close friend of 13 years. I kept ignoring her drama or trying to solve it sometimes but finally learned that it won't work.

@anniewebber-gs5ju

4 ай бұрын

Yes!

@SelfCareBear

4 ай бұрын

Not one second...I am the exact same

@rickelpers1820

4 ай бұрын

Sometimes it’s discovered too late. Certainly not without turmoil. Having walked away earlier could’ve saved me much. But not pursuing the truth soon enough cost me . I just didn’t see it coming from a friend of 30+ years.

Taking time for ourselves, a toxic environment is bad for the nervous system.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Be Healthy

@christinevandenberg8

4 ай бұрын

Im actually tapering off my anxiety meds and taking my power back. It's a balancing act for sure. ❤

@roxannerodriguez7075

4 ай бұрын

I'm in a toxic job at the moment. It's getting physical, and scary. My chest starts hurting, and my heart starts pounding whenever I think about the toxic culture around me here. I feel helpless. I've gone to the supervisors, but now it's even more tense... I hate it. I wish I was able to quit already. 😪 I'm here for advice until that day comes. ❤

@srivanipatibanda

4 ай бұрын

@@roxannerodriguez7075Don’t worry you will soon get away from it and be happy . Just talk to manager or leave that job. You have gone to supervisors it self is the first step you did for yourself to be happy . Be confident and tell them truth about why you feel like this . Happiness and mental peace are important than anything in this world. Please take care !

@Foreverarose8

4 ай бұрын

If it’s gotten that bad, it’s a sure sign you need to find another job asap and quit that toxic place. Run away as soon as you can.

Walking away was the best decision for me because if you stay thinking you'll change that toxic person, you'll drain yourself. Choose your peace and walk away as it's not your responsibility to change others especially toxic people

I recently severed a 20-year friendship with someone who clearly didn't value the friendship. I am not even angry; I only wish the best for them, and I have moved forward and forgiven them. I am already seeing my blessing in doing so.

@KristinaBergkvìst

4 ай бұрын

I hope not this is written by the man I love..😢

@raulvelez2503

4 ай бұрын

I ended a 4.5 year relationship,,she kept inventing negative statements,,,I loved her 😢

@strawberrylove5684

4 ай бұрын

I’m happy for you! Finding the courage to let go of a toxic friend is a big sign that you are growing spiritually and emotionally

@robertafierro5592

4 ай бұрын

How long did that take you?

@thelionqueen5805

4 ай бұрын

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉❤🎉😊

Smart people deal with toxic people by going silent and walking away.

@karmasutra4774

4 ай бұрын

They call that "grey rock" or no contact if you can fully walk away

@wendylee7242

2 ай бұрын

Move away in silence,let it fall away,fade out,had to do that recently,I feel better,stronger...

🙏🧘🏽‍♂️ I found my own way of dealing with toxic people that works for me, and maybe too whoever is reading,when I'm being attacked with negative Words and energy, I respond with Positive Words with a positive energy. You will walk away happy and the negative confuse 🤔. Protect your Energy

@hopespringseternal7028

4 ай бұрын

xo

@Ponyawaken

4 ай бұрын

This method doesn’t work with everyone!! There are some illiterate people whom this method can never work because they are too full of themselves!! There’s nothing you can do or say to them that will let you walk away in peace because they won’t let you!!

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Really Great

@LJolie-jz8go

4 ай бұрын

Great tip, override with the positive

@WandaBeasley-pi4hl

4 ай бұрын

I find that work just don't feed

Yesterday, the people I was having lunch with immediately started talking about a young girl that just left our table. It was unsettling because they just hugged her and said we love you. I knew then this is probably how they treat me when not around. People watch your tongue on others. Non of us are perfect, so do not demand it of others. Maybe our words are more powerful than we realize, and put a person in exactly how we perceive them.

@ShadareaRapt

4 ай бұрын

I kicked someone like this out of my life. When she asked me why, I told her, "You know why." I nodded my head and she began nodding her head. That was the last 'in person' interaction I ever had with her. Oh and she was also an "I love you" type of lip service person.

@gem7078

4 ай бұрын

I let go of all the people that did this same thing. Including family. I refuse to surround myself with people like this anymore. They’re not nice.

@lisamoag6548

4 ай бұрын

My family speaks well of those who are not present. Private conversation with one other is confidential. Problem solving by conversation with respect is sometimes necessary. Be ye kind.

@amyanderson4501

4 ай бұрын

15:06 I now explain to others how I no longer support gossip and I ask them to stop talking about the person who is now gone. I have also learned not everyone can handle rejection and that creates guilt. Maybe you should talk to them together about how you feel. I no longer allow anyone to bully, abuse, shame or put down anyone around me without a group conversation about it.

@nadiacastro1425

Ай бұрын

A1q¹​@@amyanderson4501

When I meet negative people I set limits with them because I know if I stay close to them I could end up like them.

@Pandcakes936

4 ай бұрын

Once you start to fix your traumas, toxic behavior, it's easier to spot in others. Especially defensiveness.

Allow yourself to grieve.. be patient and kind, to yourself..and most of all give yourself the time

@INKOSK4114

4 ай бұрын

Thank you. 💜

The truth is this is a falling world, but even knowing this I strive to be a better person toxic ppl are everywhere, we have to learn how to react to ppl like this. Most of all making sure we don’t become toxic ourselves.

@cinduhughes3351

4 ай бұрын

Do. God's will won't go wrong

@Ohkapi

4 ай бұрын

Be the light when we feel dark around us. turn up the light in "dark" room. ❤🎉

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

You Are Right

@JJLom777

4 ай бұрын

Don't give up. If you feel you're a decent human being, don't you think there are others in the world? There are. One does need to take the time to determine if another is genuine. And, I think, perhaps that's the hardest part. Real life doesn't often happen at the same pace the entertainment industry might suggest it does. So, take the time. Put in the effort. The fruit is worth it. Be well, JJ

@janeannloyd1951

4 ай бұрын

Walk away

Understanding the many ways of toxic people before you are affected and realizing that compassion and forgiveness are not always tools. Seeking an exit may be most effective.

There's no such thing as communicating with a crazy person in a logical way , just keep your boundaries strong and don't try or expect that they will ever evolve.

It's impossible to control others,especially now! Just walk away.

@matthewschwartz6607

4 ай бұрын

You can only do what you can do .

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

You Are Right

@Originalwisdom2024

4 ай бұрын

We can only change ourselves, not others, so we should keep changing ourselves to become better every day, having a more optimistic perspective on current life. God will help us

@icalotdonthide2646

4 ай бұрын

Trying to control people is very toxic. And very telling of the people who attempt too.

@Pandcakes936

4 ай бұрын

@@icalotdonthide2646 I think they meant calming them down when they let their emotions get out of control. Many emotionally immature people out there; road rage, murders, fights, etc.

Nope! Walk away,you can't calm the dysfunctional toxic people.

@edie4321

4 ай бұрын

Exactly, you cannot engage them, it is futile, therefore more draining.

@a_leaf

3 ай бұрын

Yes. They are in the toxic state because they have unresolved business and never confronted the actual source of their pain so they instead pursue and actively torment the innocent ppl that come into their lives. Don't feel an ounce of guilt for walking away, they need to clean their heart correctly first.

@edie4321

3 ай бұрын

@@a_leaf , Thank you, you don't know how much I needed to hear this today. You are appreciated.

@user-bv5ir1bc2c

2 ай бұрын

These souls are on another time line... (if they are souls) Many here....are not...human.

4:11 “ the healthiest relationships are not those without conflict but those where we’ve learned to dance in the rain guided by memories of previous storms “

@terencehennegan1439

4 ай бұрын

Good advice as long as we don’t dance in the rain for too long !

@DanceintheRaine666

4 ай бұрын

I love the credo "Dance in the Rain" and I have not only lived a life buoyed by that positivity...I have ~ on few spontaneous occasions ~ Danced in the Rain. The emotion was infectious in the FIRST instance....I was in a desert town and a summer shower made me feel so wonderful I could NOT help myself and I found myself gently dancing in the street...as the rain stopped...I looked around and every person within the line of sight had silently JOINED ME. There were cars stopped in the street and the occupants had opted to join in rather than watch. We never said a word, but the smiles were genuine and heartfelt. I ALSO loved to swim ~ alone ~ in violent storms which tossed me about as I played in the towering waves. I swam far away from the shore in a huge lake, such that I was over a kilometer to any shore. I felt not an iota of fear.. I felt this wonderful feeling of AWE at the power of nature....so much greater than I. This was a powerfully positive experience (time and time again) as despite my awe at my relative tininess ~ frolicking ~ but I also felt this intense sense of my own POWER. I had no fear as I am a strong swimmer and I was incredibly lean and strong and had utter faith in my safety. I felt so good knowing I could TRUST my abilities and the waves made me EXHILERATED. And I love men because they are so PASSIONATE and fearless about their truth.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

True

@Kashmir-lt4cx

4 ай бұрын

​@terencehennegan1439 this is good! 😊❤🤩

@dannymeyer3256

4 ай бұрын

@GoldTau-km9dmYes many try to convince you they are not toxic so taking your time will reveal the truth don’t rush.

The only way to win with them is not to play.

@wendylee7242

2 ай бұрын

Thank you,just went radio silent, I will not engage....

When I meet someone toxic, I keep away.

The saying "Misery loves Company" I never really understood the meaning until recently. Seeing toxic/miserable people engaging with others to get the "company" they need to keep that negative gossip going, I now know are some miserable people.

As I've gotten older, I keep a very short list of friends, and not a lot of family contact. I suppose, because of past experience, I'm wary these days, : but human interaction, on my terms , can still be really satisfying. My Church and art groups, people I meet along the way is great. As Shakespeare said, nothing is either good or bad, but thinking is what makes it so, and that is what I must try an work on, also.

@karmasutra4774

4 ай бұрын

Same here. Hardly any family I am close to and no direct family left. I went for a simple life and very small circle. Had a mostly peaceful and very interesting life. I try to make friends, but at this age and time they just aren't ever deep connections and maybe have three I consider closer. I just never was able to be one of these women that runs around in a reliable friend group. They always fall apart

@melindasmith3713

4 ай бұрын

That's evolving, who needs drama , yes we watch , but so great without those that have drama .😊

At this point, everybody gets on my nerves - so, I just go to the gym, do errands/appointments, food shop and go back home! 🙃

@eternalshitbreak9649

4 ай бұрын

Meal plan and stock up so you don't have to grocery shop as often. Less encounters with shifty people

@gailbird100

27 күн бұрын

you sound like me.

I’m separating from my husband to due a toxic marriage. After multiple sessions of marital counseling and personal counseling, toxic behaviors are still present. I think this is the best decision for both of us. My part in this is not saying NO and the absence of boundaries. It’s exhausting and now we live as roommates. These videos have truly helped me to center myself and get on the journey to healing and transformation. Thank you.

@truescotsman4103

4 ай бұрын

I think it's healthy to blame ourselves for having no boundaries. The worst part is moving on without establishing boundaries. I'm 59 I finally have some serious boundaries and I guard them relentlessly.

@user-sd5cm9wf6p

4 ай бұрын

Having a marriage without the marriage being based on God is the biggest mistake I’ve seen. Foundation first. It’s sad to see people just divorce. I’m sure you know your situation best. Just throwing out some things to ponder.

@diana-v9h

2 ай бұрын

@@user-sd5cm9wf6pMy husband and I just celebrated 39 years. We are Atheist. Love and Respect for each other is how it is accomplished. Namaste.

Over my lifetime I have accumulated bad experiences, some of which were my own failing and several of which haunt me regularly, despite any attempts at self healing. I have settled on not adding to them by avoiding people who have shown that they don’t have my welfare at heart, no matter who.

To the person who lost 15 yr old dog, Jay Shetty books, videos+ on love, really helped me move past when I lost my 16 yr old dog Cole, last year. We ended up having a doggie funeral, amazing. Yes, very heart breaking, but life is for the living, so live we must. I keep 2 of his stuffies in my room, an amazing picture Caety his 11 year old dog walker❤ gave me, on the bookcase, & his leash with my coats & shoes, for when i am ready, to use his leash with my next dog. He was a silly prangster, so i often think of all the laughter he brought me, everyone, and i smile.

@SIERRATREES

4 ай бұрын

he sounds great, and for now, relish the great memories.

@oliveoil7642

4 ай бұрын

I was more devastated by my dog’s death than some relatives ☹️ you will eventually find room in your heart for another one ❤sometimes they find you

@janiecepoush1904

4 ай бұрын

I can testify… Eternity is Real & Animals have Souls! A personal belief, is that LOVE means that we Are Connected & will be able to Choose Each Other again in Eternity. Otherwise, everything… Means Nothing. And that does not seem Logical in the least! So… The old saying stands… This is Not Good-Bye; this is only… “Until we meet Again!” 🙏🏻🦮🌷🐕‍🦺💖🦋💛🐩🌷🦋🐕💖🌸💛🐕‍🦺🦋🐕🐩🙏🏻🕊🍃

Conflict happens even in the best of relationships,but not very often. that's the difference.And Conflict in a good relationship is more like a misunderstanding,a debate, not a slagging match,or violent,loud aggressive abuse.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

You Are Correct, everywhere there is conflict,

It’s very hard when it’s your family that are the toxic people in your life. My mother has all the traits of narcissistic personality disorder and has managed to turn my 2 brothers against me. I’ve had to cut them out of my life and be low contact with my now 90 year old mother. It’s been a nightmare, I learnt to late in life about narcissism and what narcissists do and how to deal with it. So right about the negative thoughts in my head. So right about mindfulness , gratitude and finding solutions.

My daughters have gotten caught up with the only me me me thinking and everyone else should bow down to them. I’ve been trying for years and very hard to love them well, but that didn’t work. Today with a broken heart, I had to close my door to them. My son is good. I can’t keep being abused by them!

@tristanhaile

4 ай бұрын

I pray that Mr.Universe will guide them to a better path, everything is temporary. I was like this as a teenager, and I'm not sure it was my fault, I was very small-minded because of the lack of experience I had. Just a suggestion- yes you should keep your distance, but maybe you should send little gifts & kind letters. It may move them towards a better path ❤

@LisaLee__

4 ай бұрын

Don't give up on your daughter. Goodness sake. Your son is good, wonderful. Don't leave your daughter behind because she doesn't love you how you need her to. She's your child. You can not close the door. You need to stop looking for videos to confirm your biases. Figure it out. God hates ugly.

@barba5537

4 ай бұрын

​@LisaLee__ obviously you have never lived with someone with narcissistic personality disorder.... or you would understand. Supporting them feeds their illness and gives them energy to keep it up. The only way to preserve her own health is for this mother to love them and let them go... completely..

@LisaLee__

4 ай бұрын

@barba5537 you have absolutely no idea how wrong you are, on multiple levels. Alas, I doubt what I say will be heard. Interesting though that is Narc mothers who usually, nay, always sees a child as good or their "golden child" and see one as irredeemable or the "scapegoat". And guess who is always the ultimate hero or the ultimate victim in their anecdotes? Themselves. Like OP. I believe I have the unfortunate expertise to recognize red flags in this short comment. I pray to be wrong.

@jjsmama401

4 ай бұрын

Sounds like they’re very overwhelmed. Invite each one separately on a long drive or spa day. Talk to them about how you feel. You are a parent for life. It’s never time to give up.

I don't stress about toxic negative people anymore. The only one it affected was me. Some of my friends say you're always so happy and positive. I tell them I don't have time for energy suckers 😂 I'm going forward while they are stuck or going backwards

Self awareness is important to understand what we really want from life,what we deserve, and what is the best for ourselves as a person with our own personality. Very very true.

OMG the example of the sailboat is one I experienced my boyfreind bought a sailboat down in Miami but neither of us knew how to sail and he did not take lessons so we would just motor the boat out into Biscayne Bay after going theough a channel near 79th street. One day because we didn't know about low tide, high tide we motored the boat out and just as we were about to leave the channel the sailboat went up on a sand bar. My boyfriend is running around like a mad man trying to figure out what to do because he couldn't use the motor I think he even banges his head on a sail mast. So I started praying God please help us get the sailboat iff the sandbar. Then the idea came to me and I told the voyfreiend lets unfurl the sails and see if there is enough wind to get us off the sandbar and thank God my idea/ download worked!!!

@ursulakavaliauskas4463

4 ай бұрын

Who buys a sailboat without learning ANYTHING to do with the ocean and sailing, including the tides!? It is wild to me that anyone would trust that boat owner with their life, that way. Wild.

@donnab3740

4 ай бұрын

sorry but he’s an idiot for not learning to sail and you are too. very unsafe. would you buy a car without knowing how to drive? 🤦🏽‍♀️

@grantbishop1961

4 ай бұрын

Ironic a sailboat and nobody thinks of using the sails.

toxic enviorment made me so unwell ended up on meds but these quotes helps my mental health

I recommend crying. I cried for three days. It gets less painful with time. You need to feel the pain first then move on with a new rescued dog to love

@gb3776

3 ай бұрын

@Zaroffmom I agree…I found that out when my mom died. I cried whenever I missed her or felt sad. Then the pain went away. I could think about her miss her without feeling that awful pain. Crying is cleansing.💜

@wendylee7242

2 ай бұрын

I can't help but cry it's a release,and usually makes me feel better...

My absolute favorite here is, " calm yourself, not the sea around you.". Excellent quote. My partner of 14 years is always angry. Ive done my best but i have much to learn. Thank you for the upload.

@shareqaazam9171

4 ай бұрын

I like your point of view.

@RavensAchilles513

4 ай бұрын

@@shareqaazam9171 Thank you for your encouragement!

@shareqaazam9171

4 ай бұрын

The thing is Raven, your quote renewed my perspective. Most of the time I am calm but I have to learn to not let certain waves around me effect my composure. Especially since I know they actually want me rattled. I scare too easily and they take advantage of it. Thank you again.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Wish You A Blessed Relationship

@donnab3740

4 ай бұрын

ever ask him what he’s so angry about?

Bad friends ruin lives. Anyone who introduces you to bad habits, drama, gossip and cut you from family is not your friend but enemy.

Someone can share your grief, someone can mptivate you, someone cheers you up. But our pain is our own and we need to heal it ourselves. Time heals. Try to feel love over the pain. Love is a big healer. God bless you to get over it soon❤

These jargons have become so popular these days that I see every single person calling the other one a toxic or a narcissist, a stoic or something like that! If I present my original self everywhere I'll make myself vulnerable. If I put on a fake smile to make myself more sociable, I'll be called less genuine and toxic! Well, human civilization itself is a civilization of clothes which teaches us to conceal, to measure, to judge through our clothing, our behaviour, culture or language. It's our different selves (not duping) presented to different persons at different times that make us a whole and more colorful. Therefore if I'm genuinely help someone I'd try to point out their faults as well and for that I got to be toxic to certain extent... this is over simplification labeling/categorising a person as this or that. Our attitude and behaviour varies from person to person.

@user-dw6dp5yx7b

4 ай бұрын

It’s Hollywood programming, they indulge it and believe the portrayals are accurate depictions of

@mitaangelina7

4 ай бұрын

ABSOLUTELY! Spot on! They try to put you in a box! Human beings by nature are complexed! Self mastery of self is key! Not others.

@aquarius1986

4 ай бұрын

I agree. Everyone throws around these words but do they look into their own shadow? Others are a mirror/reflection of our unconscious. Maybe it’s not everyone else who is toxic and a “narcissist”. I guess a person who calls others this is totally enlightened? Lol

The Art of Forgiveness is paramount! Learning to practice mindful forgiveness is necessary for peace in our lives and in the world. Thank you for this valuable lesson on the importance of forgiveness, resilience, mindfulness, etc.

@SIERRATREES

4 ай бұрын

This is true, but it can be in a situation where, your able to attribute peoples poor behavior to their frailties and insecurities ; but you can still decide to keep a healthy distance and maintain a protective moat against this person.

My mother had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. My earliest memory is of her abusing my sister who was born with autism. Making her sit at the table with a meal of food she had food aversions to in front of her and screaming at her to eat. My sister was made to sit at the table for 6 or 7 hrs and not allowed to even go to the toilet, and yes she normally soiled herself. My mother would walk by and force a spoonful into her mouth often causing her to vomit. And yes that would anger her even more and she would spoon that into her mouth. My mother was not simply toxic, i think she was actually inhuman, there was no humanity in her. I broke contact with my mother and did not attend her funeral and I hold no guilt at all for that. To have attended the funeral would have been inauthentic and dishonest as I had no respect at all for her.

@elishacolon9552

2 ай бұрын

This is Deep

@LeahcimKennel

2 ай бұрын

@@elishacolon9552 thanks for your comment. I know that this post might make me seem uncaring and a monster, but I truly do not think my friends and family would describe me that way. I must say I was very lucky to have a loving father, sadly he died young at age 50 from cancer caused by a work place exposure. I cared for him through his 15 month illness and held his hand as he took his last beath. Years later I have no regrets over my breaking contact with my mother. The one thing I do object to is the idea that we "should" forgive. I think there are times when forgiveness is correct and right, but with an NPD they know full well the harm they do. They do it on purpose because it brings them pleasure. I hope you never see the glimmer in the eye of an NPD as they diminish someone else. They are not out of control, they are calculating and intentional and will always blame others. Education about this disorder should be taught in all high school. I know 2 friends who killed themselves because they had a parent with NPD. They thought they were the problem, just as the NPD intended. They were not the problem.

❤ I will never forgive or forget & I will keep protecting myself at all times. Love your channel ❤

Dr David R Hawkins said "practice discernment over judgementalism" similarly in his book 101 ways to inner ✌️

All the people who walked away from me was never my friend from the beginning, Blessed Be.

If you value peace and understanding,a toxic relationship will make you unhealthy and unhappy.

@yyc246

4 ай бұрын

And you can’t stand it but to leave. Sometimes we’re not in the same wavelength with others and they need to learn the lessons by themselves to make them a better person.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

If we have peace of mind toxic doesn't affect Us

Yes powerful. I'm quoting fr Marcus Aurelius in the physical book, the 21st century stoic. "We've endured countless troubles- all for not letting our ruling reason do the work it was made for" that's right. We need to learn to go with the flow, and try our best to establish meaningful relationships

@stoicmindguy

4 ай бұрын

Gratitude

Yes God will help you. Ask him to come and comfort your broken heart.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

True Always!

I also had to deal with a similar situation with my daughter having to put my Granddog down. He was 17 years old, and had kidney problems. While he, Daddy was his name, had helped raise must of my Grandchildren, it was really painful. I brought him to my home for the last month of his life and gave him all the love i could muster. The day of , i cried so hard. Later, i remembered, that Daddy was sick, and i had made his last days happy. And to want him to stay was me being selfish. So, i dried my eyes and thanked God for the time i got to spend him knowing his in a better place. Rainbow Heaven.. I hope this helps 🙏.

@D3Hearts

4 ай бұрын

😂

@monicali2608

4 ай бұрын

There is nothing you can do better than you did and do.

I have experienced a great deal of abuse by the people who should have been protecting and loving me. They were never sorry. After many years of counselling and many admonishings to 'forgive them' despite knowing their hatred for me, the ONLY way I have achieved a level of peace is to give it to God. If He wants to forgive, great. If not, then He is the best to decide. I was discarded so I am out of their life anyway. I will remember, so as to steer clear of similar people. I no longer carry the burden of their abuse because I gave it to God to deal with.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

God Bless You And Help You!

@LenaKrupinski-vg5wi

4 ай бұрын

I prefer to be silent but sometimes I feel I have to stand up for what is right and good and call out the abuser ! 🙏 Then I walk away and keep my distance from their negative vibes !💗

@annastone5624

4 ай бұрын

Asking you to forgive them is BS enabling behavior, which is also abuse. You can’t forgive someone who isn’t sorry and isn’t asking for forgiveness anyway.. I am glad you are free at last and wish you peace and joy 💖✨✨

@wendylee7242

2 ай бұрын

Prayer,and meditation helps me,it has taken me a long time to accept me as I am.

I'm new to the teachings of stoicism, watched about five videos and I don't regret my decision to subscribe. Self awareness is where it's at 👍

When you can't say no! You are being bullied into stuff. It's our life not the it does not belong to the bully.

Excellent advise. Mental toughness is helpful in stressful situations. I have been in health care for decades and it is a necessary tool to get through the day sometimes.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Yes it is

I come from a long line of stoics. It’s ingrained in my DNA!💫😎🙏

Too many toxic people believe their excuses it’s not them it’s everyone else…Again treat others as you want to be treated without playing hateful games of manipulation using others to fault their contributions and friendship to gossip and pretense that your a victim when it’s solely of your own doing not the persons trying to be good friend or neighbor….Responsibility for our own actions not using others unfairly to justify victimization or that being stoic is excuse to isolate when bad behavior belongs to you helping you to avoid accountability for hurting others

Guard your heart, consider well your words before opening your mouth, and keep your eyes open at all times. See things in the light of truth, for very little of life is as we wish it would be. Take responsibility for actions and reactions, and ponder lessons learned by examining every facet and aspect, acknowledge where you failed and what you could have done better, then consider them as you move on. And yes, cut toxic people out of your life because no matter how much you have loved them, they are not going to do anything but undermine and destroy you. Forgiveness is part of letting them go, and part of healing yourself.

Your pain should tell you that you are capable of receiving love, and giving love, and that is life's greatest gift. Your pup was as blessed to have you as you were to have your pup. Some relationships are just very special, and l sincerely believe that God has a place for our beloved pets in heaven. As they wait patiently for us to arrive and join them, let us prepare our hearts and souls in order that we are secure in the knowledge that we will one day arrive there also. God is love, His Son is love. His word tells us that what concerns us, concerns Him as well. If we have loved our pets so well, then He has made provision for them as well as for us. God bless you on your journey. I personally have given homes to many rescues that need love. Add another to your life when you are ready. Your love will save another needy and ready creature.

@johncronin5311

4 ай бұрын

What are you backing this belief with? You are talking alot about God, so then where exactly does it say in the bible that your pets go to heaven? I have never seen that

@HollyHouseStudio820

4 ай бұрын

@@johncronin5311 There is a verse , and l cannot tell you exactly where it is, where animals are discussed in the afterlife. It is posed as a question, rather than a definitive. It goes something like....who is to say that animals don't go to heaven? Think about it. If you've ever owned a pet and loved that pet, you have gazed into those eyes and realized the depth of understanding and love behind them. The Kingdom of God will be filled with animals the Good Book tells us. Why would our Lord newly create those animals simply for heaven, when He already has a host of earthly animals to draw from, particularly those we have loved so much and formed a special bond with? No, l don't believe in a God Who will let anything go to waste, especially the beautiful beasts we were privileged to love and care for.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Love Will Save another, Right!

@LenaKrupinski-vg5wi

4 ай бұрын

God Bless ! We meet them all again ! I've experienced seeing my brother who passed away and other things happening .💗🕊🌻🌹💖🙏

Your teachings are just a confirming for me…your teachings are so knowledgeable messages from GOD

I love stoicism it’s helping me to renew my mentality, emotions, and escaping. Manipulation

Stoicm for the modern age is great and many of the principles allign with other faiths and give you logical instructions and perspectives on how to do that, put them into practice, and make yourown decisions, im glad i have, Godbless

I stayed for the entire video and gave it a thumbs up! 👍🏾 Great video! Gratitude for everything you did to bring this forward to share with the world! Peace🏁

@user-ul5ou4vn1r

4 ай бұрын

Take what resonates with you from the video I think it was great very interesting

@user-ul5ou4vn1r

4 ай бұрын

I found this very interesting, listen to it to the end

I've been on my journey for a while, but this stoicism is just what I need to hear right now ,thank you

We will have to make new friends as times are not to change. Good luck!

I don't know how I ended up here but I'm glad I did.

Well in a daily journey and great in controlling your self and tranquility thanks 🙏👍❤

I die trying. I love them so they love me. For what it's worth. Gutted and hollow. I cry broken hearted daily. He exists within the tears. When does the pain stop? When you decide.

I walked away from a family member who turned out to be a narcissist. She was toxic. Always making fun of me. Thinking she was ALWAYS RIGHT. She was “perfect” in her eyes. Couldn’t take any more. Glad it’s over. Forgive but can’t forget. Sorry, not sorry.

I wouldn't say that each experience, good or bad, is a rough block of marble, and that forgiveness is the tool that allows us to carve beauty from pain. Instead, I'd say that *_we_** are the rough block of marble,* and that *each experience,* good or bad, *is the tool that carves it.* We are the sculptor that wields the tool and decides the mark it will leave on us.

What I'm trying to deal with right now, is that my brother has a friend who is very decent and kind, but doesn't like or accept my brother's wife. Most intelligent and discerning people don't want to have anything to do with her. This good friend sees through her. She knows it, and wants my brother to get rid of him. It hurts me, because I've known this guy for years, and his goodness is unquestionable. My brother won't listen to me. He only has his wife's view in his mind now. This good man is going to now be put out in the cold by my brother, not quite understanding why. It's not my place to get involved, but it's so unfair and stupid, because this man was one of my brother's best friends for years. All I have said to him is that I think she is behind it all. He agreed, but doesn't know what to do about it.

Thank you so much for this, Absolutely tremendous, Stoicism has helped me not get involved with abusive people and abusive relationships, And not to let others destroy my inner peace, Or control my thoughts, emotions and behaviour, I'm in control of that, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the universe, The most high God is great 😍🐎🕊🌝🐉👽✌😘🌹🦄😃🌌🌈💚❤💙💜💛😊🌷🐶

Just knowing what I know now...gives me the knowledge and will powder to delete them and move forward!

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Great

Last time I delt with a toxic person they were mocking me while I was buying beer, I said I think they rung it up wrong and she snapped at me saying "THINGS CHANGE ALL THE TIME". Keep in mind Iv been going there daily for years. I said "ya and you probably won't be here next year to" She was 100% about to get combative, even some guy trying to get her attention acted like he was about to attack me. Then I said "well you'll probably have a better job by next year". After having 6 stepmoms IV learned how to be passive aggressive when it comes to snarky ladies. Lol

Precisely what I was seeking right now. Thank you. ❤

Sometimes, if you are faster in your mind than the toxic person, you can manipulate the situation even for the long game. Selfish, self-centered and arrogant people often have a large “blind spot”. However I haven’t found the game to be fulfilling. Even if I protect myself it wastes my energy and time. Avoidance seems to be best. Great advice in the video. Look after yourself and your own health.

of all your vlogs that i have watched, this one really l made me cry very hard. thank you for teaching me how to deal and accept toxic people in my life.

What I learned from this video: Set boundaries, meditation and diet, having goals (stay the course), emotional intelligence to know when to avoid being dragged down, get emotional support to see other options, Negative self-talk (reframing), self-compassion (would you say this to someone I love?), Adaptability is a good thing - go with the flow, People skills are better than isolation, seek solutions not focus on the problem (usefulness not just ideas), Know when to walk away, pry more than accuse. Sails not sales lol good video!

Peace and joy drive my commitment to a healthy lifestyle, thank you for sharing the importance of self awareness and empathy

I just loved it. Thank you. Cheers

Prayers your way.

I live the wisdom and insight from this channel.

Alot of people need to hear this

@angrytheclown801

3 ай бұрын

I'm one of them. Was Mgtow but there is too much rage against women. Told myself I wasn't about hating women but there's insight to be gleaned from everything. While I still say that, this feels more in line with my philosophies, it rings true where Mgtow doesn't always.

I had to do the same and it's not easy I needed to surround my self with close friends but it's a pain that never goes away focus on goals and do what you love. In time you will be ready to love another furry one. I truly understand your pain.

@stoicismvirtues

4 ай бұрын

Do What You Love! You Are Right,.

Loved it! Timely!

Thank you for helping me grow and develop ❤❤

I've watched nothing other then this channel, since I fortunately run into.. Thank you, thank you!

Thanks for valuable insigths-its far more then what subject described🙂👏👍!

Thank you very much.

Every since I've been a adult finding home has been nearly impossible because of toxic landlords and neighbors this has caused me to be very mindful of people's energy. It seems that the Universe will not allow me to live in an environment but so long. I'm on the move again looking for the perfect place for me in this world of illusion where they all are wearing mask. Having faith that the Universe will help me find my home of peace. I'm in my 60's I only want peace inner understanding of my journey. So much confusion for what reason I don't know.

@Tee-Star

4 ай бұрын

I wish you that u find a place to call home and live peacefully ❤🎉

Thank you, you helped me learn a valuable lesson💖

Thank you 🙏🏻😊

thank you for your helpful video

So true. Thank you

I convince them to take on a task of inbetterment in a way that makes them think it was their idea. A never-ending task.

@Guiltyangel605

4 ай бұрын

Your comment is vague and disturbing.

@soul2065

4 ай бұрын

Thanks

Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.

@ZebeddiDooDah

4 ай бұрын

Suure

Sound advice here. Thank you.

❤❤❤❤ 🙏 for sharing much needed to hear this news believe as well

Thank you for the wise words💯🙏❤️😎

Real life and tranquility and brave on you and my way of life ❤

The toxic person in my family trashs me behind my back. With lies, and deceptions Her own sister told me about it. Trouble is People believe her. She is not nor ever has been a nice person. A few know. But it still hurts. They don't want a confrontation. Which I would gladly give. Lol. Very sad thing is she is guilty of doing what she accuses me of. Just very horrible person. I stay away and say little.

Thank you

This was a great video!! Hope there will be a continuation to this story!!

@mariaspencer4183

4 ай бұрын

There are numerous others on youtube.

Love to listen to your wisdoms

I'm in a toxic job at the moment. It's getting physical, and scary. My chest starts hurting, and my heart starts pounding whenever I think about the toxic culture around me here. I feel helpless. I've gone to the supervisors, but now it's even more tense... I hate it. I wish I was able to quit already. 😪 I'm here for advice until that day comes. ❤

@williewonka6694

4 ай бұрын

I worked in a toxic work environment for 15 years because of the money. I survived, but think I've been damaged emotionally because of it. Thank God I was able to retire early.

@peanutboxes4076

4 ай бұрын

I quit my job yesterday, after telling the boss exactly what I really thought. I felt so much relief and an awesome sense of power as I left, and o know she will regret disrespecting me because I know I was the hardest working person there. I put my faith in God and trust in myself to land on my feet, because I knew I’d done the right thing by standing up for myself. As I stormed out of work it starts raining. Within an hour I was offered another job from an agency I signed up with. It’s clear I was supposed to leave. If you start making back up plans you will feel more empowered to quit. Send out you cv to hundreds of openings online for a week or two. Pick the moment you are needed most at your job and quit at that moment so they feel your absence. Take the power back, I wish you luck, blessings and a happier work life! ❤

@vaunniethayer1484

4 ай бұрын

I was stuck in a toxic job situation for 8 years, had to stay as I was going through a divorce and had too many irons in the fire during that time. I did survive and learned a great deal. My coping mechanisms included: Keep engagement to a minimum whenever possible, pick your battles, find someone in that environment you can trust. Take care of your physical health , take prescribed medications if need be because you have to be able to sleep. Simplify your life away from work where you do have more control, be kind to yourself, read books and watch shows and movies that make you laugh. Picture a yapping chihuahua when looking at the this person/ people, sounds disrespectful but it’s not, it’s helping you to diminish their power over you. Remember you are a lot stronger than they are. Only unhappy and sick people enjoy being cruel to others.