You had me at, “Some fucking psychopath-“

@klalrinfela9313

Ай бұрын

for real

@Respect2theFallen

Ай бұрын

Really lol. He's a human just like us wow 🤣😂🤣

@MensGroup

Ай бұрын

Same!

@smileyginger1

Ай бұрын

@@Respect2theFallen I mean yeah, but his tone says it all. You don't usually see Ryan get too spun up about stuff. But if the rampant animal cruelty and neglect in Texas manages to piss off all of us on the east coast, I imagine it's worse when it's on your literal doorstep.

@DannyHustle

Ай бұрын

@@smileyginger1 I wish I had more thumbs. Great point.🫡👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

Met so many difficult , rude , narcissistic , gossiping , negative people in my life it's fucking draining .

@deltahomicide9300

17 күн бұрын

Certainly doesn’t help that they can text us when we’re minding our own business.

@DrSweetshaft

7 күн бұрын

You can let it be draining or you can let it pass you by. They have the power to act, but remember, you have the power to react. Peace be with you.

It’s amazing. This morning I was humiliated in front of several people at my job, by a woman who I thought was my friend. I was fuming for hours and as soon as I came home, this video pops up. There are no coincidences in life. The universe winked at me today.

@mocuishle1028

13 күн бұрын

Obviously, she is jealous of you! She must feel so insecure if the only way she can feel better is to put people down.

@themaskedman221

7 күн бұрын

Except what happened to you _was_ a coincidence. You are reading too much into mundane things that happen to everyone.

@pitoblogg

6 күн бұрын

A cynic’s life in unbearable.

@Sean-xr1xj

Күн бұрын

Hope things are better now and you've got past it!

Edmund Burke cut right to the heart of the matter; he said, “Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength.” Don't take the bait and walk away knowing thar the rude among us are internal weaklings.

@natashka1982

21 күн бұрын

I'm rude right back. And they magically become nice

@sandybuchanan2666

21 күн бұрын

@@natashka1982 I've done that, too, but I always seem to converse with the snowflakes--they don't know how to have a reasonable conversation because they aren't reasonable. For the most part, I just let them be...life is too short to get sucked into their issues.

@MissyQ12345

15 күн бұрын

@@sandybuchanan2666 Yes, my sister and her crazy offspring try to draw me into their fights and then it becomes my fault somehow. I have no opinion - Ryan said I didn’t have to have one!

Not reacting to other people’s nastiness is so very difficult. I have a colleague who brings out the worst in me with her bullying. It took a lot of effort to take a step back and stop reacting to her.

I understand what you're getting at. My experience, seeming so nice, they don't stop the rudeness, it just gets worse. I cut myself off from them. Im almost alone now. So many unkind people.

@ceez3317

17 күн бұрын

Same, this is the first time I disagree with one of his videos.. Ive dealt with a few extremely toxic narcissists and it’s horrible, it’s better to cut them off than subject myself to being around someone like that

@francesb7515

15 күн бұрын

​@ceez3317 It is all perspective. We have to walk away from those impacting us. I am seeing this as more the basic everyday people we meet. Of course, leave a toxic job or person. I like how he addresses being true to yourself instead of reactive.

That's right, cultivate perspective in life. Don't get involved, create a distance, a gravel close to the eye looks like a big mountain, extend your arm and it is only a small stone. Detachment not involvement is the key. 😊

@grudeman

Ай бұрын

That's an incredible way of looking at things I really like it 👏☘️

@halcyon2864

Ай бұрын

@@grudeman Thank you, you know Buddhism and Stoicism are very similar philosophies. With loving kindness 💜 🙏

@matintabrizi4527

Ай бұрын

I think you never meet a really rude peeson

@liamthomas2014

Ай бұрын

Annoying people are a minority? Twitter disagrees. Only messin that’s not real life

@StoicMindMastery-Iqz

28 күн бұрын

💯

There was this one person that I didn’t care too much about, one day, I was at a friend’s 🏡 and she knocked on the door , I opened the door and she could tell immediately that I wasn’t pleased to see her; she looked at me and said: “it’s always nice to see you” , I was so thrown off coarse , that to this day, I remember her with kindness! 🙏😞🙏

@serawasnever2902

21 күн бұрын

I love what you told us. Thank you!

@mitmitization

21 күн бұрын

@@serawasnever2902 😉🙏

The FACT that I don’t have to have an opinion about anything I don’t want is one powerful lesson that I learned from your channel! Powerful!

@mcgritty8842

28 күн бұрын

@jazzyj2182go away

@StoicMindMastery-Iqz

28 күн бұрын

💯

@mitmitization

23 күн бұрын

@jazzyj2182amen 🙏

@1130Tim

20 күн бұрын

Isn’t choosing not to have an opinion, an opinion?

@anderwsa

17 күн бұрын

@@1130Tim Facts are not opinions, the fact someone doesn't want something cannot be an opinion.

Thank you for helping those animals I really respected that

We do have an obligation to protect good & innocent things from maltreatment regardless. Poor doggies.

When someone messes me up, there's two options. To react in anger or overlook it. It's good to assert with politeness, but I can't let it lean into anger. Feeling the offense sucks, but the anger is worse because now I'm forced into a bad emotional space, where I feel fear and have lost control. If I don't react, I think I keep a bit more of myself.

@natashka1982

21 күн бұрын

I love getting angry back and watching people get scared

@kpec3

21 күн бұрын

@@natashka1982 No, it's not a good way.

Wow…this video popped up at the right time. I really needed to hear this. I’m on a fat loss/lifestyle change. I’ve lost 50 lbs so far and it took me a year and a half to do it. Many of my co-workers are saying that I look old now that I’ve lost weight. Of course they say this behind my back. 🙄 Anyways, I’m usually not bothered by what people say about me but this irked me because I have been trying so hard to better my health just to hear negative comments. Then, I realized that: #1. they are probably envious of my accomplishments. #2. I don’t give a fuck about their opinions. #3. I’m not going to let their negativity get to me. I’m happy and way healthier than I used to be. I’m proud and no one can change that. I’ll stay away from the haters and the negativity. Take care everyone!

@fs1512

18 күн бұрын

I hate when people make any personal remarks - to me- about me - about others. I have been training myself to never remark on someone's appearance. Hi! So glad to see you - how are you? Where have you been? Or have you been back to that vacation place school diner whatever where we used to whatever? I wish someone in the media could take up the cause and try to "influence" the public to stop with the judging. Even well intentioned. Like. " oh you lost weight". Well my body size is not for discussion.

@rationalthinker9181

11 күн бұрын

You aren't doing it for them you do it for yourself what people say is irrelevant the vast majority of them are barely sentient. I have never fitted in have few if any friends because I say it like it is and this repels people they hate the truth they are literally of no consequence

@ThePlataf

9 күн бұрын

Absolutely they're envious! Maybe you could have some fun with them by swanning around in new outfits and hairstyle? Lol, they'll soon be spitting and meowing!

@DrSweetshaft

7 күн бұрын

Keto is the way. Add fasting and you have the literal fountain of youth. Cheers

@KS-vx1oq

7 күн бұрын

@@DrSweetshaft I did Keto initially with intermittent fasting and my weight stalled for six months. It wasn’t sustainable for me because I was always hungry. I lost weight but I also lost muscle mass. Now I’m weight training four days a week and eat whole foods to fuel my body. I’m a petite 44 year-old woman and I’m in the best shape of my life. I still have more body fat to lose but I know it’s going to take years to achieve the physique I desire.

Patience and cheerfulness go a long way.

I mostly try to ignore jerks. They need fuel and they hate silence. Since the digital revolution they're crawling all over the internet. It's sad really, to live like that.

@Spartan-Of-Truth

Ай бұрын

Great insight.

Stoicism has changed my life

@halcyon2864

Ай бұрын

Changed the life of many people 👍

@halcyon2864

Ай бұрын

@jazzyj2182 Yes, very good. Also that is what we call karma's law in Hinduism /Buddhism. Be good do good no matter what and you do not have to worry about anything else, all will be taken care of. Call it God, the Universe, eternal Energy, cosmic force, pure Consciousness, Christ, Brahman etc... does not matter, they are only limited words, limited mind concepts. With loving kindness 💜 Tat twam asi 🙏 🕉️ 📿

@StoicMindMastery-Iqz

28 күн бұрын

Changed the life of many 🔥

I pray god protects you from everyone and everything that is not for you, you have a beautiful soul

Stay cool, empathize, set boundaries, choose your response wisely, and focus on what you can control. Stoicism isn't about suppressing emotions but responding with wisdom and virtue.

Yeah, stay true to your core values and principles 💯

@Esay...cj7

Ай бұрын

Gospel Of Mark...

@mcgritty8842

28 күн бұрын

Leave Christianity out of it. Millions of humans have been sacrificed in the name of Jesus

@StoicMindMastery-Iqz

28 күн бұрын

💯

nice one. rude people justify their shitty behaviours by claiming to just be "telling it like it is" but they rarely ever want to hear what their is is. it always boggles me that people can be so ego driven, never looking inwards but only outside of themselves. i go about life trying to make people smile and have a better day. some of us try to find things to love in others. even aholes. some don't. :( jerks are here to help us grow i suppose.

@hopespringseternal7028

Ай бұрын

@jazzyj2182 personally, i feel these things were written by those who still control the world today. turning the other cheek is what has caused the last 4 years and caused evil to flourish. jesus came to kick ass ie flipping tables. be like jesus.

@joleenlinks7513

Ай бұрын

AMEN. True.

@joleenlinks7513

Ай бұрын

They must check themselves first. Been in situation like this.

@HikingHalfdead

22 күн бұрын

Jerks are just here cause they’re just here there is no deeper meaning.

@joleenlinks7513

22 күн бұрын

@HikingHalfdead Absolutely. Sometimes it's our own family and that's why I don't attend gatherings anymore. We must learn if people are rude they DON'T deserve your presence. Sadly I learned it later in life but I don't feel obligated anymore to accept invites. I decline immediately😂

hearing ryan curse was funny 😂

@user-rl2jl8zx1c

Ай бұрын

It happens 😆

@onelove8062

Ай бұрын

You know you made it when the comments are addressed to the commenters

@pilgrimspromise1132

Ай бұрын

Same when Sam Harris curses bc they do it so rarely

@RUCam08

Ай бұрын

He curses all the time on the podcast lol

@Malery

21 күн бұрын

It's refreshing.

I needed this. Thanks. Sadly, actual psychopaths are not that uncommon (about 1 in 100 individuals) and when you add in other negative personality types, it's clear we are all going to encounter some of these malign people at some time in our lives. It's important to try and protect ourselves from them physically and financially, but also not to let our minds dwell on them too much or too deeply (as per the quote from Marcus).

Thank you soooo much for all your speaking + untiringly explaining about becoming stoic in normal daily life 😂❤ !! I m a 79 years old grandmother, Austrian, and I literally inhaled all you said, with joy spreading 😂❤❤❤

Like the passion. Take the High Road yes. Defending your space, priceless.

Starting with you cussin bold af but I appreciate it. Never heard you cuss before but youre human and its normal to be frustrated

@tzenophile

Ай бұрын

@jazzyj2182 Are you spamming every post just to make a point? Or are you simply being your obnoxious self?

I'm aging myself here but if anyone remembers “before” the internet not just social media, people that heard about “difficulties” from a distance ( maybe a blurb on a radio or tv show) were aware but not feeling directly impacted- the view of the world imo was the world is inherently “Good” and we would take a moment to send positive thoughts to families or people in need ❤️

@CariMachet

27 күн бұрын

People do mass meditations for exactly this reason > they connect on the internet

Really enjoyed this one - esp the perspectives of ‘people are playing a role in the world’ and ‘don’t think too much about what lies underneath’ / ‘not having to have an opinion’ 🧘‍♀️🙏

Thanks, you are great!! I love stoicism.The best sentence I've ever read "I dont have control what is around,i have control what is inside me"🤜🤛

I currently have a difficult work situation, and I have that quote about the best revenge being not like the other person hanging up in my office. The idiots that the quote refers to are either too stupid or too self involved to think it’s about them so it works out great. Thanks as always for the great points of views.

This is helping me calm down today...there are dead dogs in my path too.

@peaceandquiet1983

29 күн бұрын

🙏

Been following Holiday since his 1st book. Thanks you for having the courage, wisdom and fortitude to open your gift and use it to better humanity.

This is so difficult for me. I see the news and it’s just so sad. Sometimes I think everyone is bad.

To see Ryan put into practice one of the teachings hit for me.

@mcgritty8842

28 күн бұрын

@jazzyj2182go away

You have to be careful with indifference. It can lead to the total shutting down of emotions to the pint where one can become sociopathic. I've witnessed this in friends who tried hard to remain neutral to horrid treatment of human assholes as a form of defense. As elders, they are no longer able to express any feelings themselves, including empathy. One stoic friend of mine, cannot express emotion even when a friend dies now. Not good. When you lose empathy, you've pretty much lost your soul.

I greatly value your non nonsense approach to an essential subject. Subscribed.

Ryan, I love this video and how you explain what is written in Meditations. I also must say, every time I read "Daily Dad", it is difficult to go through a few pages without bringing me to tears. Not for sadness, but for love of my small children and consideration over the words. I am not even half way through it. I pick it up, it gets heavy, I put it down, and pick it up again later. This book is a friend.

If you take a shot every time he says Marcus Aurelius, people become less annoying.

I learn about when we get mad on what the other people do to us we allow them to manipulate us. Me sometimes I know how to tolerate but sometimes I allow myself people to see what they don't want to see and know . Sometimes I don't tolerate rudeness. I tell my truth. But sometimes I can be kind and compassionate.

Thank you Ryan.

In 9th grade I made the decision to never treat anyone the way my mother treated me because I disliked it so much. I'm now in my 60's and have never broken that promise, in fact I have to thank my mother for showing me how not to treat people.

@user-xj2gk2ym2l

4 күн бұрын

Mothers can be real demons, I am 32 and my life has been a nightmare, all my problems are directly and indirectly related to my mother but she is the only one who gave me support in my most fragile moments but Also the one who caused all the mess in the first place. They make you feel worse than anyone else but at the same time you feel guilty if you hate them or at least try to get away from them. Even worse when you realize that she is the only person in this world who gives a damn about you, it's sick. In the end all hope is lost with people and even the will to live. From now on I will live only for myself and for my well-being, at least I had some fairly clear limits to deal with people

@cynthiaguarino2016

4 күн бұрын

@@user-xj2gk2ym2l I'm sorry to hear about your situation. To be clear, I don't blame anyone for any situation in my life good or bad. I'm responsible for all of my actions and/or consequences as a result. What I consider one of my best attributes is that I have always been able to walk away and more importantly enjoy my own company. No expectations from anyone.

Hi 👋 It's difficult when you are working with people who are treating you badly. The workplace can be the worst of places. People check up on each other in the way of policing. There is usually a hierarchy. As you say there are differences in people. Some people aren't going to change either. As a gay man I have been treated like a second class citizen. I'm in my sixties and have retired from work now. Thank goodness too. I have experienced some hurtful and hateful situations inflicted on me. I can't change people. I can change myself , to be positive in myself. It's hard , but I can make a choice who to let in to my life. I use my good intuition now.

@FriendofDorothy

7 күн бұрын

I can relate, sir. I am also a gay man retired from my 9-5. So glad I don't have to spend 5 days a week with certain co-workers who were nasty, rude, etc. Most of my co-worker were good people but others were sooo annoying. I got a female supervisor terminated for firing her male employees one by one over infractions that would result in a verbal warning with most employers,. It got to the point where I was the only male left in my department. She then took me on too and said something to me that was jaw-dropping in its inappropriateness. Never mess with a queen, lol : I wrote up the incident, delivered it it to administration the next day, and she was terminated within 24 hours. If someone is harassing you or making your life hell in the workplace do two things: 1. Document it on paper. Be detailed/Be clear/ stick to the facts.. and 2. Turn it in to administration. They can ignore verbal complaints but they can't ignore documentation. I prefer silence, non-reaction, or walking away these days to any defensive reactions or anger (per Stoic teaching) as that gives the offender way too much power. My claws will only really come out now if the offense involves physical abuse. Then I become Joan Crawford on steroids...

@user-ix4wn1th5m

7 күн бұрын

@FriendofDorothy I like your reply. I was brutally assaulted in a robbery years ago. I couldn't defend myself and I was beaten up bad. I received serious head injuries, and have scar disfigurement on my head and face. I was deeply traumatized , and it caused great grief. Time has healed though and it can come up still but it's not major like it used to be. I can't change people , but I can change me. Positive things come out of bad situations. I'm very wary and selective about who I associate with. Best wishes from Carl.

There are many ways to avoid other people’s drama. I use the Buddhist approach which is stoic like. Many psychologists have great ways of explaining it also, whatever works best for you.

I must say I’ve NEVER see you angry or soo fired up…I like it!

I needed this today

Thank you!! Much needed

Needed to hear this! Thank you Ryan!

When someone is selfish and bad in traffic, I try to remember that I, too have done the same thing or something similar. I mentally acknowledge it but disengage my feelings. Amazing how by the time I'm at whatever destination, I've completely forgotten what they did.

@unknowntosociety01

24 күн бұрын

I try to but lizard brain takes over and i go off on them, more times than id like to admit

People who are rude towards you for no reason are triggered by you. Its either how you look, how you behave, no matter what their rudeness comes from it is definitely about how you make them feel.

Thank you Ryan

"Don't let the person who wronged turn into something just like them" Marcus Aurelius

Thank you sir.

Thanks. I really needed this today.

Thank you Ryan, from the bottom of my heart.

Great video again💯

Needed this!!!❤thx so much

Great message here!

Thank you so much for this video. I really needed to hear this and will listen to it again and again.

Yet there are also occasions when you simply need to take matters into your own hands and outsmart the annoying assholes out there. I was living in the perfect apartment for about a year and a half and then the biggest jerk moved below my apartment and played loud music, talked on his phone all night long and I’d had enough. I proceeded to record his obvious noise violations and turned the tables on him. However, this was done in the daytime and simply chose music that would annoy him to no end and he backed off. Notifying the l leasing office and calling the police also helped, so it was worth the time spent to shut this idiot up once and for all.

Thank you very much for the reminder that the obstacle is the way… loved this video!

I found this really helpful. Thanks for sharing it 😊

Thanks for your Stoic content I’m really enjoying your books too. Wishing you every success and contentment ❤ in life as you help so many of us.

Love this, thanks...❤

Thank you!

Yess thank you

Perfect Timing

❤ amazing advised...

This was great advice for me to hear today. Thank you.

TY for this video☁️☁️☁️☁️☁️

This is so timely and helpful. What a lasting difference you are making in the world. Thank you.

Thank you so much Mr. Holiday, I really needed this. You have inspired me to read about stoicism and try to implement it into my life. I deal with depression and anxiety and you have really helped me try to focus on me instead of everyone else. Thank you and much love from Denmark ❤❤❤

I like seeing these rude people as just normal humans just doing what they naturally do; it's a way to get what they want. People have different ways of dealing with problems, and even though it's rude, it does not necessarily mean that they are bad people. Seeing like this makes me feel at ease, and makes me realize that maybe their intentions weren't so bad after all.

@unknowntosociety01

24 күн бұрын

Thats facts they just direct about their discomfort about bending to others will, Its actually sobering in a world of phonies sometimes

Subbed...thank you for the channel. Good stuff! 👍

Great meditation to start the day=]

I listened to this first thing in the morning and it help me set the day. TFS!!

1000% protecting mind and spirit, always. Namaste.

Love the Seaside shirt. Beautiful place, I've spent quite a bit of time there myself.

4:56 this is an extremely effective mindset for many situations in life. I used to do crisis counseling alongside police and fire departments, seeing even worse things than they would because I EXCLUSIVELY went to the worst cases. I'd be asked all the time how I managed that experience, and before I even knew about stoicism, my perspective was basically just that one way or another I always knew that these kinds of things happen in the world whether I saw them in person or not. So the only difference was that I was seeing them for myself, and that I actually had the *opportunity to help

@tnt01

Ай бұрын

Didn't it effect your nervous system? No physical symptoms at all?

@Brandon-os3qr

Ай бұрын

@@tnt01 depends what you mean by "effect." Our nervous system is always responding to our internal and external stimuli, but no significant and lasting negative impact in my case, no. But mentality definitely isn't EVERYTHING, for sure. I'm sure that being a therapist and practicing what I preach went/goes a long way.

@tnt01

Ай бұрын

@@Brandon-os3qr 👍

The power of not having opinion towards the people that you cannot control and influence.

@StoicMindMastery-Iqz

28 күн бұрын

💯

Hmmm, I disagree with not looking into things. Thats relieves you, but helping others is a worthwhile cause.

Amazing!❤❤❤

Nice! Thanks.

Offffff the boundary part hit home 🏡 for me Thank you lad You’re doing Marcus proud

👐👏 Great Info🎉👍❗

This content is powerful

I feel tons of positive energy here, Well done Ryan

Ryan's insights on applying Stoic strategies to navigate difficult people are truly valuable in today's world. Understanding and implementing these principles not only helps us maintain our composure but also fosters personal growth and resilience. 💡

This was perfect for me right now.

I like this! 🙏👌

Thank you so much for this Ryan, I love stoicism and it's teachings, Iron steel boundaries and the best revenge is not to be like that, Absolutely tremendous, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the most high God 🦁🕊🕆🦄🐎💗💛💙💜❤🌈🌌😃♱😘⚖☘🍄😊📚👽😇✌🌹

I hope I never become the type of person who would dump dead animals by the side of the road.

@entropy5431

2 күн бұрын

It's better than dumping live ones.

We moved and the new neighbors knew the previous owner. They gave them a bunch of stuff but left it on and over on the property line, it's been around a month. I tried getting in contact with bylaw but they aren't getting back to me. They also burn crap to heat water, it's so bad I feel very sick inside of my house at times and can't go outside. Still waiting for our old house to sell so we can put up a fence at least. He let's his dog come over and poop in our yard.

You should tell the cops about the dead dogs. Maybe they could read the microchip

Joy Sparton books. Thanks.

I find silence and absence do the job quite effectively. Not every statement or action is worthy of a response. The same goes for the people themselves.

I just noticed the number of subscribers!🎉. Awesome. Than you.

It's been rough at times so thanks for these videos. By the way if you were to own just 2 books on Seneca which would you choose? I assume Letters completed of course would be vital along with a collection of his essays that include "On The shortness of Life" and "On Anger" would probably provide the most of his works. Later on I'd look into others such as Phaedra but I feel the first 2 would be a nice place to start.

As a new hostess, coworkers and customers get frustrated with me. Thank you for this. Im 19 and never worked in an environment like this. Stoicism will help :)

@greencat1976

Ай бұрын

I wish you the best of luck! Just do your job the best you can and ignore the idiots ( and they will be plenty).

@annettehernandez738

29 күн бұрын

I've been where you are. Keep your head held high, look people in the eye, square your shoulders, and press forward. As you become comfortable with your job/position, your confidence will grow.

@123ggg555

21 күн бұрын

Good luck! The first weeks/few months are always the hardest. ❤

Oh, thank you so much for this! I needed something that would help me handle my mother's narcissistic behaviour. It made and makes me suffer a lot and unluckily made me become as harsh as she is. Lately I'm reading The Idiot by Dostoevskij and I was wondering if I could ever became as good and pure as Myskin is, despite the unkindness of the people around him. This video was very inspiring, I think I will engage in this

@melaniemcneil407

Ай бұрын

If you can learn unkindness from your mother, you can learn kindness, too. I know I treat people better now than I used to, and because of that, I like myself more. You can do it!

@alexandragreen6480

Ай бұрын

@@melaniemcneil407 thank you. Actually I'm very kind with "normal" people, but I'm harsh with my mother and arrogant people. I became intolerant to unkind people, but I don't like being like that. I guess I have to be stronger in order to maintain my kindness and my peace of mind💜

@hello-gx6oi

Ай бұрын

Me too i am reading it and will continue once school is out I can relate to your struggles too I myself am very kind to but find a hard time to be kind to my parents

@SusanaXpeace2u

Ай бұрын

have you read anything more contemporary! I really benefitted from Lindsay C Gibson's books. The new one 'disentangling from emotionally immature people'' was great, listened to it on audible and I'll listen to it again. I also really enjoyed listening to the mother wound by bethany webster (also on audible). Regards x

@alexandragreen6480

Ай бұрын

@@SusanaXpeace2u no, I haven't. I'll search for them, thank you for your recommendation❣

But you do have to show boundaries. especially to dangerous people. Rude people will often test how far they can go.

gahhdame bruh starting STRONG on this one 😭😭😭😭😭