10 *realistic* habits that helped me get my life together (as an anxious 20-something)

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📖 TABLE OF CONTENTS
00:00 - 02:15 Intro
02:16 - 03:40: Having menus instead of routines
03:41 - 04:55: Going to therapy even when "I have nothing to talk about"
04:56 - 06:23: Working outside my home
06:24 - 07:07: Scrapbook journaling
07:08 - 08:33: Micro cleans instead of big cleans
08:34 - 10:11: Finding exercise I actually like
10:12 - 11:15: Making my skincare routine a ritual I look forward to
11:16 - 12:26: Having a magnesium night cap
12:27 - 13:40: Tracking my spending
13:41 - 15:45: Living life for current me, not 50 year old me
15:46 - 17:26: Conclusion
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  • @TheOriginalDalamanza
    @TheOriginalDalamanzaАй бұрын

    The best thing I've learnt is to work with and around my 'flaws' rather than assuming that tomorrow I'll wake up and suddenly be cleaner, more productive, procrastinate less etc. E.g., for ages I'd tidy my dresser by neatly lining all the products up and putting everything back in drawers/on shelves. But there's no way I'm doing that after getting ready in a rush in the morning. Now I have a big bowl on my dresser, which means I can basically still drop everything after using it, but at least it's all self-contained and looks neater. Same with reading. I used to read loads and I've tried building the habit back in, but its always the first thing to slip as soon as I'm busy/tired/stressed. On the other hand, I always have my headphones in, so listening to an audiobook is a much more organic change for me to make and I've been able to 'read' a lot more. There's lots more examples I could think of, but hopefully you get the idea! Work with yourself and don't hold yourself to such high standards

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Omg yes, I love the phrase you used: working _with_ your "flaws." I definitely spent a lot of time when I was younger being like ok, I'm gonna change and one day I'll just be a cleaner, more organized person and now I'm like ok that's never gonna happen so how can I adjust my habits to the way my brain is wired? Making that shift truly helps so much, thank you for sharing this tip!

  • @sushidashi6152

    @sushidashi6152

    Ай бұрын

    I have the same problems too so thank you for this!

  • @cynnimini2650

    @cynnimini2650

    17 күн бұрын

    I feel this! And audiobooks have really helped me find my way back into the magic world of books :))

  • @Peachespayton
    @PeachespaytonАй бұрын

    Please do your research before recommending better help.. there is SO many people out there that have been affected by better help in a very negative way and it is honestly disheartening that creators are still taking sponsorships from them and recommending them to their audience.

  • @AuntieAlexandra

    @AuntieAlexandra

    Ай бұрын

    Couldn’t agree more!

  • @Sophiebewildin

    @Sophiebewildin

    Ай бұрын

    I totally agree, but I’ll say this… When I first did therapy on BetterHelp, my first two counselors were amazing but I realized I needed a specialized type of therapy but the therapists on BetterHelp that “specialized” in what I was needing help on were not that helpful nor were they the most available or reliable. After that experience, I came to the conclusion that talk therapy (while it’s super helpful for a lot of people) is not the best treatment modality for me and decided to look into an ADHD coach. While it is awesome that BetterHelp has made talk therapy and counseling more accessible through virtual sessions, there are other therapies, websites, courses, etc that may provide what someone is looking for. Talk therapy isn’t necessarily a one size fits all solution.

  • @lindaguthrie8238

    @lindaguthrie8238

    Ай бұрын

    @@AuntieAlexandrahow?

  • @AuntieAlexandra

    @AuntieAlexandra

    Ай бұрын

    @@lindaguthrie8238 I’m sure BetterHelp has good therapists, but the 3 that I tried were dreadful. One was just never available, always changing the available slots, so I paid for nothing. Another was very dismissive of my issues, talked mostly about herself, and relied exclusively on worksheets that I was to fill out entirely on my own and she didn’t even want to review them with me. A third was downright nasty, doesn’t believe in adult ADHD in general, even though I had been diagnosed in childhood and am currently on medication with a psychiatrist, and when I sought help with executive dysfunction issues, told me that I was just not being a responsible adult and I had to “get over myself”. I can’t even imagine how she treats people with PTSD or severe depression. I spent thousands of dollars and was left in tears multiple times. Never again.

  • @cvelasquez8041

    @cvelasquez8041

    Ай бұрын

    My "counselor" or whatever at betterhelp literally started crying and said "damn, how did you live through that? I don't even know what to tell you. I need to end this session" Needless to say I asked for my money back (and it was an absolute fight to get it) and never used that service again. Apparently the training is minimal at best, and not everyone is a certified counselor or therapist.

  • @belovedsummerdays
    @belovedsummerdaysАй бұрын

    the high 5 was very satisfying

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    I'm so glad 😊

  • @meetkass

    @meetkass

    Ай бұрын

    It really was 😅

  • @inaegoedert

    @inaegoedert

    Ай бұрын

    I loved it too

  • @lubalethudube186

    @lubalethudube186

    Ай бұрын

    Right!? Why 😭

  • @ChevonneVanDerPoll

    @ChevonneVanDerPoll

    4 күн бұрын

    Same😂

  • @StrayingBat
    @StrayingBatАй бұрын

    My favorite thing about this video, is the fact that you're just living your life while you're filming. You aren't showing us a perfect background while talking about how you struggle, you're existing while doing content creation - and for ME, that is very comfy cozy, and I love that.

  • @beatrizbatista8647

    @beatrizbatista8647

    Ай бұрын

    YES!

  • @ilTHfeaa
    @ilTHfeaaАй бұрын

    the idea of menus just maybe changed my life holy shit i need to start using that

  • @pizzagirllex

    @pizzagirllex

    Ай бұрын

    right?! what a way to take things a day at a time and really honor how your brain and body are feeling that given morning

  • @asmolyeti6689

    @asmolyeti6689

    Ай бұрын

    I completely agree I would like to know how to make a menu and stuff tho I really need one lol

  • @shawtywiththesolluxpfp618

    @shawtywiththesolluxpfp618

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@asmolyeti6689 ​maybe just try listing out what your ideal morning routine would look like, with some self care steps (exercise, cleaning, meditation, etc) added and then think of that list as a menu instead of a step-by-step required plan!

  • @RZTree
    @RZTreeАй бұрын

    I jumped up to participate in that high 5 with a surprising amount of excitement

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Yayy! I love the enthusiasm hahah

  • @RZTree
    @RZTreeАй бұрын

    Along with not living only for future you, I like to ask myself if future me would actually care or remember whatever I'm currently stressed about

  • @unepetitemarmotte2918

    @unepetitemarmotte2918

    Ай бұрын

    I always ask myself "Will I remember this problem/situation/whatever in ten years ?" If the answer is "no" then it's not worth fussing about it !

  • @ilTHfeaa
    @ilTHfeaaАй бұрын

    being 28 - i’ve definitely felt the “y’know.. maybe 40” 😂😂

  • @BrainPlusBlender
    @BrainPlusBlenderАй бұрын

    1:55 “I don’t think mountains implode on themselves.” Don’t worry, in this analogy I am both the mountain and the fracking company.

  • @alexisliane316
    @alexisliane316Ай бұрын

    Hi, 40 here, I'm thinking I'll have it sorted out by 45. But this time... I mean it! Just do the thing now. Do the things you want to do instead of talking about doing them whenever you "feel ready" or "after I lose weight" or "when I'm rich". I'm on my 3rd life crisis, but I feel more confidently heading into the resolution half of that narrative. :)

  • @serene1486

    @serene1486

    Ай бұрын

    hopefully

  • @liawindsor861
    @liawindsor861Ай бұрын

    as a fellow anxious 20-something who has been struggling with managing anxiety+adulthood, this video was just the most comforting watch

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Aw that makes me happy-I’m so glad you enjoyed it 💛

  • @lindk1775
    @lindk1775Ай бұрын

    Its such a good advise to stop thinking you will one day have everything together. There will always be something and that makes you not enjoy what you have now. Like those people that work really really hard to earn a lot of money for retirement but miss their childrens entire childhood because they were always working. We should stay in the now and enjoy what we have

  • @twistedfrannie9311
    @twistedfrannie9311Ай бұрын

    High fives are ❤ I use the fine china , crystal and silver....I recently went into remission from Hodgkins Lymphoma when I was diagnosed I thought " ok this could be the end, why have I been saving these things for only "special" occasions ? I am the occasion!!!"

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Yesss you are the occasion! I love that. And congratulations on remission, that is so so so amazing 💛

  • @jamiedelekta8659

    @jamiedelekta8659

    25 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much for saying this. I have this horrible habit of saving everything for a special occasion. It’s gotten to the point where I get bad anxiety over the smallest things and feel like I should be saving stuff for “later”. Like even food! It’s something that I’ve been working really hard to break. You saying “I am the occasion” resonates with me so much. I will keep that in mind so it can help remind me to use the stuff now instead of saving it for some “special” reason or day that might not ever come. 🖤 And congratulations on going into remission! 🥰

  • @Immort4llity

    @Immort4llity

    16 күн бұрын

    Yay. I've been raised by my parents to have pretty high standards and I don't really want to blame them for it, because it has served me well being disciplined, but lo and behold, I've also become very incredibly demanding for myself as a result, up to the point where I'm actually doing really good but I'm still criticising myself. It's definitely a growth process and I don't like people who are self-indulgent but I also realise it's okay to be nice to myself from time to time.

  • @londonfroglatte
    @londonfroglatte21 күн бұрын

    I also share a fear of people looking at my laptop screen in cafes even though it's nothing incriminating, so much so that I would leave the cafe if I couldn't find a private spot against the wall. I told my boyfriend about this and he said "Why don't you just get a privacy screen?" I didn't even know that was an option! So I looked them up and it's just a plastic screen you can magnet onto your laptop and it obscures everything unless you're looking at the screen straight on. If someone is sitting next to you or slightly off to the side behind you, the screen looks completely black to them. It's life changing!

  • @solaramazin3704
    @solaramazin3704Ай бұрын

    At first i was like "ugh another productivity guru who's going to recite atomic habits", but your tips were actually genuine and realistic for people like me who are struggling with anxiety. Also the last bit about your conversation with your therapist (living for future you instead of present you) resonated with me quite a lot. Thanks for sharing your experience, new subscriber!

  • @ericayaddow3906
    @ericayaddow3906Ай бұрын

    About BetterHelp, I had no idea there were discrepancies. I used them in 2021 or so and while I had no serious problems with the therapist, she definitely broke confidentiality and was very clear that she knew she was doing so. Other than that sponsorship, wonderful and relatable video as I get out of my 3rd(?) life crisis at 26.

  • @nickorange4881

    @nickorange4881

    Ай бұрын

    She broke confidentiality? How? I never used it before. Did you report her ?

  • @ericayaddow3906

    @ericayaddow3906

    Ай бұрын

    @@nickorange4881 A family member and I were using the same therapist at separate times to help us with our relationship. The therapist told me things that she wasn't supposed to, but told me "don't tell". I couldn't report her without it being obvious I knew things I wasn't supposed to.

  • @ericayaddow3906

    @ericayaddow3906

    Ай бұрын

    @@nickorange4881 A family member and I were using the same therapist at separate appointment times to help us overcome our issues. The therapist told me things I wasn't supposed to know, essentially telling me that family member lied to me. The way she said it was in a "don't tell" sort of way. I didn't report her because I was in crisis, but I wish I had.

  • @Kif_Lee

    @Kif_Lee

    12 күн бұрын

    @@ericayaddow3906 Most decent therapist wouldn't even work with individuals who are related to each other.

  • @mariahclaw8458
    @mariahclaw8458Ай бұрын

    when I turned 30 last year I had quit my phd program at a time when most people are relieved to be done with coursework and the “fun” part is around the corner. I committed to artistic pursuits and it was scary because up until then I had spent my whole life excelling academically or whatever. My therapist and I had a chat recently, as you did with yours, about the anxiety I was having thinking I should just go back to school or join the “workforce.” She didn’t waste a moment to remind me that I don’t have to right now bcos I can cover my expenses AND taking the path of least resistance wouldn’t make me nearly as happy as I am now 💛

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Good for you!! I read in a book once that your brain craves the familiar so whenever you do anything "different" even if it's good for you, it'll try to get you to go back to the familiar (in your case, school) but when you feel that happening it's important to resist (if it is of course a rational decision haha) because that's they only way you'll be able to achieve the things you really want / are afraid of. So all that to say, keep going, I'm rooting for you!

  • @denisef5217
    @denisef5217Ай бұрын

    I love the morning menu idea. That’s how I get myself to workout. I’d doesn’t matter what I do, it’s only important that I do something. If I don’t feel like weight lifting or running, k can do yoga. If I am not able to do 1h, I can just do 15min. Everything counts. We should be nice to ourselves:)

  • @shawtywiththesolluxpfp618

    @shawtywiththesolluxpfp618

    Ай бұрын

    exactly! I often experience "perfection paralysis" where if I don't think I can do something perfectly, I won't do it at all. It's helpful to remind myself that doing something is better than doing nothing, even if it's not perfect. especially for things like exercise, or learning a new skill !

  • @Marie-Ray
    @Marie-RayАй бұрын

    Very practical video! Another small tip that has helped me manage the mess - never leave a room empty handed. There's always something that doesn't beling in the room you're currently in.

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Ooh I like that!

  • @MMAJE5
    @MMAJE56 күн бұрын

    I'm 52 and I'm still working on all the things you talked about. Hang in there. Keep going because that's the journey. ❤

  • @user-ou1ui3dy1g
    @user-ou1ui3dy1gАй бұрын

    I think in the end we have to find a balance between caring for us now and caring for us in the future. Like retirement savings are important but also being happy now is important

  • @maddielc204
    @maddielc204Ай бұрын

    I'm turning 30 this year and for my entire life, I hated working out. My therapist suggested doing exercises that I would have done when playing as a child. I always loved to swim, like my parents would have to bribe me to get me out of the lake, so the fact that I never thought to go swimming as physical activity (or my parents never suggested it when we had so many fights about my weight) is kinda embarrassing 😅 I usually set a goal (kinda a new years resolution but less strict) and my goal this year is to finally take control of my skin, at (almost) 30 I still have terrible acne, so I'm talking to a dermatologist in a couple weeks to start that goal 😊

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Amazing goal! Skin troubles are so difficult, so be kind to yourself, it'll probably take a lot of experimenting, but I'm rooting for you. 😊. Love the exercise tip too - finding something fun is so important!

  • @RZTree

    @RZTree

    Ай бұрын

    goals > resolutions. I have the same goal and you just motivated me to start looking up dermatologists in my area!

  • @elsa3370
    @elsa337026 күн бұрын

    Wow, I needed this video. When I'm struggling in keeping my life together, I tend to imagine the "future me" as lost as I am, and I'm trying to help them. (by preparing my food or clothes for tomorrow, as a good people pleaser as I am). "Future me" is always grateful for the help of the "past me".

  • @quiet.lunatic
    @quiet.lunaticАй бұрын

    I like the mountain analogy. Even if it feels like everything is crumbling and the shakes keep on keeping on, the mountain is still... there. And when you take a step back, yeah it's beautiful, and it still stands.

  • @disturbanceatthedancingpla1581
    @disturbanceatthedancingpla1581Ай бұрын

    As a skin picker in arms with you, I am TOTALLY gonna try that candle trick! It's those overhead bright lights that make me examine every little pore on my entire face, and I've never thought of just doing my skincare/night routine in dimmer light lol 😂

  • @niklitis
    @niklitisАй бұрын

    Im only 22 but i relate. I thought “ill have it together by 14, 16, 18…” never got it together. The routine has been a big thing for me. I have PDA autism so getting myself to do tasks can be extremely difficult. Now i just try to do things when i remember to with no pressure bc if i feel the pressure i wont do it. Hopefully by 25 some of the things i can only do every other day will be every day but rn its okay that its just when i can do it. Also loved the high five.

  • @allisarcadia2319
    @allisarcadia2319Ай бұрын

    Working outside the home works well, typically, for people with adhd and autism symptoms because the break from home not only gives you permission to focus on work but also limits the distractions being at home can cause. You’re not distracted by chores or pets or video games or other random daily things that are “your responsibility” when at home.

  • @supremegamer4717
    @supremegamer471712 күн бұрын

    For cleaning, I find myself working best with the one day only rule. Which for me is that a room can stay messy for one day, but no longer then that. Which means, however much I am hating life, at least my kitchen is always clean 😅 Nowhere else though, still working on that part.

  • @sandysmith8377
    @sandysmith8377Ай бұрын

    I am old enough to be your mother and I loved this video! Super ideas! Especially making decisions for today. I missed out on a lot as I considered the future too much. And I also high-fived the screen 😜.

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Aw this comment is giving enthusiastic mother energy in the best way. Thank you for watching!! (and for the high five!)

  • @user-he2jr6nd2y

    @user-he2jr6nd2y

    Ай бұрын

    Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth! Surprise, this is her mother! Yes, loved the positive journal as well, focusing and looking back at positive thoughts will help you in the negative times🥰👏👏👏👏

  • @Marinameyers05
    @Marinameyers05Ай бұрын

    I’m 18. Med student. My life is crumbling. I feel like I found myself through you. Lots of love- m and yesss do not leave your therapy because I also did that during senior year and my life got better and then it got way worse

  • @thefriedpotatoes
    @thefriedpotatoes5 күн бұрын

    That puzzle comment really has me thinking. I think that’s most of the problem for me. I look at everything as a problem that needs solved, including myself. I’ve worked so so hard to the point that it’s impacted my health, and surprise… it’s never enough! Thank you for the video. I think this will help a lot of people. ❤

  • @SoundingJoy
    @SoundingJoyАй бұрын

    It’s so nice to finally see someone who is just like me making videos for people just like me. Your advice is so helpful and motivating. Thank you!

  • @user-cq1uv9fx4w
    @user-cq1uv9fx4w4 күн бұрын

    This was so helpful! I'm currently in the mountain is imploding stage but realize that the mountain still stands at the end of the day. Growing up is so scary and uncertain but these tips helped me give myself grace and compassion. I love how real and honest you were about these things. Thank you ❤

  • @leclaracarvalho
    @leclaracarvalho4 күн бұрын

    This is so real and I related to everything, it's nice to see that people like me (who aren't motivated) can find hacks they can stick to and make life work out. You're doing amazing

  • @mikacarrington819
    @mikacarrington819Ай бұрын

    The idea of life not being a puzzle may have just given me a lot to think about as I get ready to enter the last year of my 20s 😶💛

  • @Imallwrite212
    @Imallwrite212Ай бұрын

    This was a great watch. Thanks so much. I'm 28, and I'm super mass-crumbling internally, even though externally, I mainly just need to find a full time job. The pandemic and some family issues a few years ago really plunged me into depression and burnout, but I'm also an overachiever/perfectionist by nature, so it's been really hard to accept myself for not having things together.

  • @Jess-vg3cc
    @Jess-vg3cc4 күн бұрын

    My brain does the same thing with cleaning. If there is huge list, I just shut down and do nothing. Breaking it down into a few tasks helps so much. Thank you for your authenticity and honesty about life. ❤

  • @lynnboartsdye1943
    @lynnboartsdye1943Ай бұрын

    The menu thing sounds really fun to try! I’m a neurodivergent brain so finding things that work can be nuts. One recommendation for excercise I got was not to do an excercise routine but rather just find movement to do day to day/incorporating it into your daily tasks. Like “I need to go pick up this thing from the store let’s walk to the store then bus back” or another day you do a funny dance for 30 minutes.

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Yeah that’s a really good tip! I don’t run much anymore but back when I used to I would literally run to Target if I needed to get something and then take the bus back just like you said. And it felt so productive bc I was both getting exercise and getting errands done. Really satisfied the brain hahah

  • @takenbycass
    @takenbycassАй бұрын

    I JUST found you today - watched this video and the ending has me in tears. I uprooted my life a year and a half ago and moved across the country. I have struggled since the holidays last year. I found myself in a corporate job that i genuinely don’t hate but something hasn’t felt right. I left full time photography work to find myself for the first time not knowing what I truly want to do. These tips tricks and reminders really spoke to me today. I really appreciate you 💗💗💗

  • @juneannerubin
    @juneannerubin3 күн бұрын

    Hey Morgan! I'm probably pretty late but your video just popped up on my recommendations. I just turned 26 the first week of June and I feel like this has been the worst year for me so far. On my birthday, I felt miserable and the lowest I had ever been. I saw how my peers were doing online and thought to myself how much better their lives unfolded. Professionally and socially and felt left out and stuck. I reflected on it for a while and realized I was having a quarter-life crisis. I felt like I had wasted my college years on a degree I didn't really like, I was neglecting my hobbies, and I feel like I may never evolve in my current field of work because I don't have the credentials to back it up. I've been in my current job for 5 years now and it has made me grow so much. I feel so privileged to be able to work with family and friends. But I still feel so....insufficient. I feel like I lack in so many ways (not materially). Your words in this video kind of put things in perspective for me and made me realize I was worrying about the wrong things. I also asked myself the questions your therapists pushed about the lifestyle you have now and realized I'm actually living pretty comfrotably. I was just focusing on the wrong things. Anyway. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I really hope you'll consider posting content like this int he future. It really made me feel like I was not alone and that it's okay to be confused sometimes. Much love!

  • @annabaughman616
    @annabaughman61629 күн бұрын

    Thank you for articulating and sharing! Hearing your words makes my imploding mountain feel less lonely. Your advice on menus vs. routines is gold!

  • @isabelaribbeiro
    @isabelaribbeiro12 күн бұрын

    10:03 Eleni was actually the youtuber that got me into working out. I started with her 30min cardio work outs and I got so excited and happy about it that I would miss exercising more. I ended up getting into Chloe Ting challenges and on a resting day I do Eleni's cardios.

  • @veronikayudina8151
    @veronikayudina815127 күн бұрын

    Hey there! Thank you so much for this video. I've watched it three times (high fived each time, because it's exciting and made me feel better). This video is so calming, warm, supportive and just cozy. And so true... I often feel overwhelmed when I look around my apartment, my life... Sometimes it's really hard when you have this perfect image and inspiring plans in your head and then realize that you're miles away from it. Thanks for the great tips, definitely try them out. Wish everyone to stay healthy and inspired. And believe in yourself, because that's important. Take care ❤

  • @Melissa-yg5uf
    @Melissa-yg5ufАй бұрын

    "chew rocks!" morning routine genuinely made me laugh

  • @reynagingerich2035
    @reynagingerich2035Ай бұрын

    Never knew I needed a video so much. I related so much to your video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas that helped you deal with... well exactly what I'm dealing with now when it comes to the anxiety to a mountain imploding on itself. I appreciate you making this video.

  • @rebeccasrandomness3045
    @rebeccasrandomness30453 күн бұрын

    The morning menu makes so much sense I love that concept!

  • @mrskadenc
    @mrskadenc20 күн бұрын

    Just found your video and it is exactly what I needed. The menu is such a great idea. I’m 28 and in a burn out and feel so confused about routines and what you had said in the beginning with feeling guilty not doing your routine. Thank you so much! Loved seeing your vulnerability as well and you’re doing a wonderful job 🤍✨🫶🏼 Best regards from the Netherlands

  • @DancingCherri
    @DancingCherriАй бұрын

    I just found you this morning, and oh goodness I need all of this! Thank you!!

  • @bethanykelly2540
    @bethanykelly2540Ай бұрын

    I also have a junk journal scrapbook for my little adventures! It is honestly one of my favorite hobbies ever! I also recently started a task list and every week I’ll assign one task to each day! It helps a lot. And sometimes my thing assigned to the day is just running an errand or even a more fun activity I’m behind on like journaling. I’m glad to see another anxious girlie doing the same activities as I am! It makes them feel more justifiable to myself!🤣

  • @mangayakposowa4334
    @mangayakposowa43347 күн бұрын

    Wow, I love her vibe!

  • @andadale7171
    @andadale71717 күн бұрын

    This morning menu idea is going to be such a game changer. Thank you!

  • @wackadoo9610
    @wackadoo961020 күн бұрын

    Changing morning "list" to "menu" is so good!!

  • @winterbutterfly8861
    @winterbutterfly886113 күн бұрын

    Thank you. I needed this. I recently moved to the US from my home country, from my home town. At my mid twenties I'm figuring out things some people have had down to the tee since they were a decade younger than me. In a few months I've done and learned so much, and I feel like there's still so much for me to do and learn, immensely more. Sometimes it feels like the mountain is ahead of me (to keep using your analogy) and anxiety overpowers me, but once in a while I try to look back, to everything I've overcome and achieved,and even if it's only a fraction, I did it. It also help me to focus on everything I've gained, every little time I thought something will be hard or impossible and it turned out to be easy, when things almost fixed by themselves, or thanks to a friend's help, or every time hard work paid off. This help me accept that I deserve nice little moments when I don't stress about everything that can go wrong or that I have to do. And yes, doing therapy has been a game changer, I don't see myself ever stopping even if I'm doing great. Thank you for your video, it helped me a lot 🥰

  • @KyleighJanee9
    @KyleighJanee914 сағат бұрын

    You are so relatable, girl! Also, hilarious. Great tools in here, ty for sharing 💕

  • @CheeseCake5990
    @CheeseCake5990Ай бұрын

    Such a real video. The menu thing is GREAT, I have sort of naturally developed that kind of system for how I spend my personal time in evenings.

  • @jessicarach9452
    @jessicarach945224 күн бұрын

    This is my first video Ive seen by you and I’m obsessed! You are so funny and genuine and thoughtful! Def subscribing! Also your comment about life not being a puzzle to solve! That’s sooo good!

  • @chrissyhilton6957
    @chrissyhilton69574 күн бұрын

    LOVE LOVE LOVE the concept of morning menus.. I felt the same, I have things I’d want to do in the day and could nerve check them all off which made me feel like a failure

  • @CiejeandCreate
    @CiejeandCreateАй бұрын

    Man im so glad i clicked on this vid. Not only is this relatable and helpful as a young adult entering the real world, but you're so engaging and fun to listen to. Keep it up! You're a diamond in the rough

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Omgeee you're so sweet - thank you for watching and I'm so glad ya found it helpful!! 💛

  • @opalrabbit
    @opalrabbit18 күн бұрын

    omg the menus and micro cleaning… this is life changing

  • @EcoFriendlyAsh
    @EcoFriendlyAsh10 күн бұрын

    Micro cleans are everything. I’ve been doing more since I saw your video on ig. I absolutely love the menu idea, I’ve never heard that before. Cannot wait to try it!

  • @edwinamarie
    @edwinamarieАй бұрын

    Tbh this video was great. I loved all your realistic advice and appreciate your deadpan candor. I’m 31, and I’m currently in a state of flux? Things are very up in the air which triggers my anxiety. I will absolutely not be quitting therapy, THANKS 🙃 You seem like a lovely human, thanks for sharing a piece of your life with us! Sending love! 🥰

  • @athenawong7788
    @athenawong7788Ай бұрын

    thanks for providing your notions for free! it's super helpful when it's overwhelming to clean up

  • @alyhancock7386
    @alyhancock7386Ай бұрын

    i loved all of these so much as an anxious girly who has tried and failed at so many routines

  • @tovarysh
    @tovarysh6 күн бұрын

    I'm really glad that i I got this video recommend. Will definitely try the menus and candle light for skin care routine

  • @janineraine
    @janineraineАй бұрын

    i love how all of these habits are sustainable but still fun and exciting!

  • @hunternicholewilson1659
    @hunternicholewilson1659Ай бұрын

    This list is proactive and realistic- I love it!

  • @Dino_Dani_
    @Dino_Dani_Ай бұрын

    these tips sounds so realistic and i love them! i will so be trying some of them out

  • @ahobbit1273
    @ahobbit127323 күн бұрын

    I love how you were just doing your thing while talking to the camera. Made me feel like I was hanging out with a friend.

  • @lilypop29088
    @lilypop29088Ай бұрын

    I'm 34 and I also went "Maybe I'll have something settled and together by 40. We'll see."

  • @creambasedbus
    @creambasedbus8 күн бұрын

    Really appreciated this video and wanted to say thanks!

  • @sarahbear5601
    @sarahbear560118 күн бұрын

    Thank you for the help! ❤❤

  • @blueberrymuffin113
    @blueberrymuffin11312 күн бұрын

    i have a list on my notes app with things i try to do daily and now i've changed the title to "today's menu" i feel so fancy and excited to find out what's on for the menu for each day!! thank you for the mindset shift ✨

  • @vadamercer5289
    @vadamercer5289Ай бұрын

    your final point really changed my outlook, thank you so much.

  • @simaz1915
    @simaz1915Ай бұрын

    this is the most relatable content ever! i think we lived the same timeline, it's insane how we did the same things on the same time lol, like i did literally every thing except that i went back to the corporate life and now i have a nice balance between working from home and working on site. guys these things WORK, I've been the annoying person these past 6 months who talked about all these things to everyone i know, cus i felt like they saved my life and i should've known them sooner and i think people underestimate how important are those tiny changes for a better and healthy life.

  • @brookeparker9142
    @brookeparker914212 күн бұрын

    this really helped me! I already use the "menus" idea, and I want to start incorporating the micro-cleaning idea. The mountain analogy definitely worked in my brain.

  • @prettyprincess8187
    @prettyprincess81879 күн бұрын

    This is one of the few "self help" videos that's actually useful. Thanks

  • @snakelatte
    @snakelatteАй бұрын

    It's been a while since a video resonated this much. You hit the nail on the head on every. single. anxious. thought. (and bad habit) I've been trying to deal with! I'll definitely be adopting your insight into my life. From an anxious 20-something to another, thank you!!

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Omg you're welcome! I'm so glad my ramblings could help ya out 💛

  • @AshBaalan
    @AshBaalanАй бұрын

    Than you so much for your video ! I really needed to hear this. Will for sure use the menu from now on

  • @jordanbon
    @jordanbon22 күн бұрын

    Okay this is actually SO helpful. Especially the menu concept. Thank you so much for sharing!!

  • @ateana_lenn
    @ateana_lennАй бұрын

    I really enjoyed this video and did subscribe. even though I know all those things, it's always like a brand new discovery to hear about them and it feels like a wake up call of "just because you've let life slide away these last few weeks/months, doesn't mean you can't get back up, one step at a time". I'm going to work on that this weekend, thank you :)

  • @Minaaamii
    @MinaaamiiАй бұрын

    I really needed to hear the last one. My last job was a “well paying stable job” but I was SO STRESSED it made me absolutely hate my life so I changed jobs despite it paying less. I was significantly happier initially but I’m currently in a state of questioning those decisions as it’s unstable and pays less and I’m questioning whether that was the wrong thing to do especially when I think about my future, to the point of almost regretting my decisions. But thinking back to just how unhappy and stressed I was, I tell myself it’s what I needed at the time.

  • @nathaliesluijs765
    @nathaliesluijs765Ай бұрын

    Love you, love this message ❤

  • @paulacc1234
    @paulacc123417 күн бұрын

    Thank you for this! ❤ I was having a tough morning with my self esteem within my long-distance relationship and this really helped. Also gave me a lot of hope, thank you!

  • @HiImDaviE
    @HiImDaviEАй бұрын

    First time watching and LOVE you! Thank you for your beauty and honesty xoxo

  • @contagioushate
    @contagioushate10 күн бұрын

    Finding this video at 40. plz help me get my life together, plz. I did have it together for a while in my early 30s, now i'm too tired. You're right. Exercise helps significantly. My life was at its best when I was exercising doing weight lifting or group classes 4 times a week, plus walks, bike rides etc. Also I love the Morning Menu and Mirco cleans idea. Thanks chicky

  • @saanvixagrawal
    @saanvixagrawalАй бұрын

    you're so relatable man

  • @saleswilliams1252
    @saleswilliams1252Ай бұрын

    This video were the questions in my mind that I couldn’t express, and yet you explained and provided a great set of solutions. Thanks you 🥰

  • @anannyacreatesart5108
    @anannyacreatesart510819 күн бұрын

    I'm such a serious person it's hard to genuinely make me smile or laugh, specially through videos but this video made my day, I haven't smiled this much by myself in a while, thank you

  • @shoinwewd8938
    @shoinwewd8938Ай бұрын

    The highgive was nice thank you ❤

  • @naimanaji1555
    @naimanaji155528 күн бұрын

    Thank you for this wonderful video! I am not as online as I used to be, but I look forward to more of your videos, keep up the good work!

  • @freshelfpie
    @freshelfpieАй бұрын

    I love your Morning Menu. I have so many things I "should" do in the morning but have never been a morning person.

  • @jadecordial
    @jadecordialАй бұрын

    i love this video! I honestly was expecting to see you have WAY more subscribers. you’re so funny and chill

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    Aw thank you so much! I'm so glad you enjoyed it :)

  • @dariascath7089
    @dariascath7089Ай бұрын

    This was a really good, heartfelt video. It felt like I just had a friend giving me a piece of mind - in a best way possible.

  • @danielkollett148
    @danielkollett14819 күн бұрын

    Just came here to say that I Love you going about your day while making videos; this gives me life!

  • @caitlinstrand9392
    @caitlinstrand9392Ай бұрын

    Living life for current you is such good advice. I’m so glad KZread recommended this video to me - lots of great advice for a fellow anxious gal. The cleaning tracker looks amazing. Thank you!

  • @morganevelyncook

    @morganevelyncook

    Ай бұрын

    I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

  • @nadahamdi1
    @nadahamdi1Ай бұрын

    Some great suggestions! Love the the idea of a morning ‘menu’. Thank you ❤

  • @leahschroeder3533
    @leahschroeder3533Ай бұрын

    I needed this video ❤️

  • @elenavaipan
    @elenavaipan27 күн бұрын

    The high 5 at the beggining was awesome! Thank you! 🤗🤗

  • @hildyali8941
    @hildyali8941Ай бұрын

    Love the menu and cleaning hack

  • @krystastates3565
    @krystastates356528 күн бұрын

    I used to HATE folding laundry. But I saw in a video or tiktok somewhere where if you pair something you hate with something you love, it makes a drastic difference. So now I put on a tv show or a KZread video while I’m folding laundry and it makes it 100x easier. 🤗