I've been surrounded by toxic, negative and self entitled people my entire life. They go out of their way and take every opportunity to belittle, pick on and humiliate me. It has completely destroyed my self-esteem and self confidence to the point where I have completely shut down and isolated myself from everything and everyone. About a month ago, I became very angry and determined not to take it anymore. I am doing things that I never would have done before because the fear in me was so great that I just assumed I was too stupid and pathetic to do anything for myself. To my surprise I have discovered that I definitely CAN do all the things I should have been doing all along. My confidence has increased immensely and I realized that I'm not as incompetent as I was led to believe. I have eliminated the people who took years and years to keep me down. I have a long way to go but I feel better and better with each passing day and my solution was not alcohol or drugs to do it. I just got angry and fed up. Now I'm on a personal mission to better myself and my life.

@DeadPool-ot1dc

2 жыл бұрын

🥰🥰🥰

@deah5264

2 жыл бұрын

@@DeadPool-ot1dc Thanks. Have a blessed day!

@DeadPool-ot1dc

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 💋

@lenakrupinski6303

2 жыл бұрын

it takes courage🙏 you seem to have lots!!!💚🍀💚🌻💚💚🌈🌈💛💛🌷🌷🌹🌹

@howtodo9320

2 жыл бұрын

try to live alone but never stay in toxic relationship with anyone it will destroy your self worth

Positive mindset. Your mind believes the information you feed it. Always talk to yourself as you do your best friend.

@boxerbhai0073

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly I did tried that and it did work for me.Earlier i just used to process what i was feeling or what I wanted to do in mind only but it didn’t really work for me then I started talking as if i am advising someone and my mind remember what I talked loud with myself much longer then just thinking about it.

@cypher7648

2 жыл бұрын

We all should, but for me it's easier said than done...but so true. Thank you ✌

@KnowledgeStrength925

2 жыл бұрын

Right 👌

@KnowledgeStrength925

2 жыл бұрын

@@boxerbhai0073 👍

@manjusharma9690

Жыл бұрын

True 👍

I think 'Neglecting ur aperance' is most important point here in respect to self confidence

@geniusblessed115

Жыл бұрын

Perfect Salman, what if you're broke though

@KuroshiOwo

Жыл бұрын

I don’t completely agree with this one

@zapotec818

Жыл бұрын

@@geniusblessed115 you can still be well groomed with old clothes. Shave, comb your hair, iron your clothes, clean your shoes, keep your teeth clean. You got this! god bless!

@geniusblessed115

Жыл бұрын

@@zapotec818 ikr

@warrior2874

Жыл бұрын

How is it even possible to neglect your appearance?

I compliment myself I respect myself I valued myself But other people think I don't valuing myself , other people did not believe that I am happy alone without bitterness

Confidence is amazing once you get it, you just don't care what anyone thinks, it starts with a positive mindset, don't let negative thoughts bother you, or control you in that moment, say goodbye to it & continue what you're doing.

@mcpartridgeboy

Жыл бұрын

idk about that, im rediculously underconfident due to being abused as a child and i also dont care what anyone thinks

@mariamcaliph9432

3 ай бұрын

How please

This entire speech is all about being you but always open to self improvement.

I'm glad that you discovered the truth about yourself and that you're just as important as anyone else. I'm going through this right now, some family members and coworkers. The nicer I am, the worse it gets.

Having listening to this.. I've been necglecting myself for prioritizing others. Now my mind and eyes are open. Thank you so much I listen to this over and over. You improve my life.

Great list. I have another one: showing little or no compassion at all for yourself and your mistakes. It's funny how some of us can be very compassionate for others but not for ourselves. This happens a lot because sometimes we have the wrong idea that your are weak for showing compassion for you but you are a good person for showing compassion for others and you can live years thinking that's anything wrong with your behavior. This is one of the reasons why I kind of hit bottom with depression in the last years but now I'm feeling better and progressing to improve my mental health

I always say sorry without realising when I bump into someone and keep obsessing over minor flaws and hold the guilt for a long time and keep having negative thoughts all over my mind. From today on I'm going to try my best to avoid doing these things thank U for this video

I 100% agree about the fact that comparing yourself to others is normal and yes, a lot of people, almost everyone (I feel) does it. But I believe that no matter what, we should NEVER give up or lose hope. I used to think that life was so easy for those who are dating or happily married while some of us are struggling with love or along with the following that’s mentioned, that life was so easy for those people, but then someone told me that’s not true at all and said, “You never know what could be going on in those people’s lives behind their smiles.” And I’ve been many times they just don’t want to disclose or share it with anyone.

Good Afternoon, B.D.! My favorite voice on YT! 💖 More than I'd like to admit, I feel a little called out on some of these bad habits.... Thanks for articulating them and making it easy to understand how it affects ourselves and others. 💖💖💖

All of these are true and easy to say. What matters is when you are the prisoner of your own mind, and can't fight any more, because it doesn't seem worth it!

I am really really greatful for showing positive and quick response.It's blessings for having the company of such result driven people.

Ouch, number 7! I have a bad habit of not trusting my own judgment so I let others make my decisions. And yes it is eroding my self-esteem and I'm trying to own my decisions.

No toxic relationship is worth it. It's evil

Yeah, being angry and fed up for my situation to learning self confidence, that's the key!

It's been HARDER on me cuz my absent dad wasn't in my life when I was coming up and now, I have to trust God and the Holy Spirit to help me pull myself up by my own boot scraps.

Not all of us have had the privilege of having those around us give positive feedback to thrive when it comes to the confidence. I can tell you one hundred percent that I can depend on no one around me to compliment me ever so any confidence is squeezed out of what I see in myself and that doesn't go very far. In order to surround yourself by more positive people you have to go out and socialize and in order to go out and socialize you've got to feel a little bit okay about yourself to get up and do something with yourself and get out of the house. That's a whole nother problem in itself. Way too easy to get stuck in this roller coaster of thinking and much harder to pull yourself out of it because at the end of the day it doesn't matter how you got that way you have to fix it all by yourself. And all I can say is I'm working on it.

Yep, I need to work on a couple of these. Thanks!

God bless you because i always cry in my room because i don't have self confidence 😭😭😭,am going to follow these steps.

Well done you!!! You should be proud of yourself for taking back control. I too, have done the same thing and whilst being respectful, I will not hesitate to call anyone out on the spot if they have crossed the line. In front of other people if need be. Don’t let ANYONE cross your boundaries, ever.

@nkd2287

7 ай бұрын

I really need to work on this, even if it’s at the expense of feeling awkward.

Great reminders....thank you and have a productive week!! Take care and be safe!!!

All of these advises have hit my confidence right in the center. Thanks for upload.

I can relate to the toxic relationships part. I was surrounded by people who made feel less of myself when I was in college and this actually affect my self-esteem... I'm trying hard to get back to my real self but trust me it hasn't been easy.

@andersnielsen6044

Жыл бұрын

Stop.. You will NEVER find your old real self again - it belongs to the past. You have to develop a new real self. ;)

@TheRebelGypsy

5 ай бұрын

Like the drops of a flowing stream, we are never in the same place again.

It's like I'm caught up most of these habits..i can't thank you enough for this video. I'm paving my way back to being confident once again..i know it won't be an overnight thing but I'm willing to be patient with myself

@9othictoon

Жыл бұрын

That’s the mindset

@lailakhan8892

Жыл бұрын

❤

Thanks for this video, now that I have watched it I will make sure to start following this ways and always have a positive mindset.

Thanks a lot. I am surprised id to find out that I once had almost all of these habits. But the last one I recently got rid of is a toxic relationship.

In the video mentioning about, leaving your decisions to others. I always believe that the decision which my elders take for me was good, until I fell down by those decisions in my life, I didn't consider my own thoughts. The point is now I trying listening to my inner self , talking with my inner self what I want not what others impose on me. Believe me I feel confident, positive and more relax. Just start today and you will isolate for few months but believe me you will enjoy after listening to your inner self and priority.

Thank you for this..God bless

I love obsessing over any flaw, and it makes me exited not sad. Like I get sad about it when I analyze what happened but then I become exited and uplifted once I try and figure out a way I will approach that situation the next time.

@nickp3949

2 жыл бұрын

I know what you’re saying, but in the end it does more harm than good. It’s a rumination cycle. It’s a way to cope with the negative feelings associated with the situation instead of properly dealing with them. And thinking about negative things like that objectively lowers your vibration and puts you in a worse head space. The “feeling good” part is an illusion.

@KingSheva-sh5qw

2 жыл бұрын

@@nickp3949 it’s a basic form of mediation and self improvement…, it’s also not toxic as you say as you also seek out subconsciously similar situations to prove to yourself you’ve improved improving your self worth. Internal emotional pain is a sign your changing mentally avoiding pain is avoiding growth🤷‍♂️ 1 minute of bad vibes for a lifetime of never making that mistake idk about you but I’ll take that trade any day of the week.

This is so true. This was very uplifting. Thank you for sharing ❤

Self consciousness is much more important than self confidence, because confidence can be completely misplaced while consciousness aims to seek out reality.

Thanks for sharing these as they make me recognize my reason of low confidence

Thank you so much for this video

Insecurity and bad self image destroys your life!!

@michealphilips18

2 жыл бұрын

Hello there how are you doing today ✅

@daviddeatherage4219

2 жыл бұрын

This is the truth. I hope people everywhere see this

@ke11yke11z

2 жыл бұрын

Easier said than applied.

@keepthefaith9805

Жыл бұрын

True

@lcrzares7024

Жыл бұрын

I'm so we'll aware of my insecurities and bad self image.. I know how to stop it but I just don't know how to do it😭😭

Well I had no confidence at all because I had no existence and never bothered with my appearance. So you are very right matey.

I always been a very shy person and my communication is not so good my family and people at work and don’t know are very critical on me and that’s why I have to be myself at all times! 🙏🏾

Excellent video Thank you 🤓🙏

Confidence play such an important role in your life.if your are confidence you can achieve all your dream

Thank you. This video is really helpful!

Thank you.. I didn't know these habits actually affects my low self-confidence.. no wonder I avoid eye contact always.. sad life of 30s but I don't stop trying..

Feeling defeated is often a temporary condition , giving up is what makes it permanent.

Wow , thank you for this 🌺

we must not try to be like someone else. everyone is unique and have their own special gifts and talents. know your worth. dont let anyone determine your values. dont be around negative people cos that wont help you but break.your self confidence. always remember that people must love and respect you for you are .you dont have to change for anybody if you must do it for yourself. you. are made in the image of God God bless all you beautiful and courageous people .❤

Thankyou so much for sharing and god bless ❤

I'm 30 years old now, but I've struggled with self-confidence since I was 15 years old. I'm just now beginning to realize how strong I am, and that I can overcome my low self-esteem. I went to school with so many mean girls, (and boys)... and I was always bullied and tormented. Throughout my life it was a traumatic experience, therefore it affected my abilities to socialize and feel good about myself. I'm doing better now, however I still have my days. Anxiety comes and goes, we're only human. I put my best foot forward to try to become the best version of myself. Anxiety has affected my work life as well as my personal life. Every day I am working on bettering myself and paying close attention to my surroundings and consistently being self-aware. My ultimate goal is to break free of all of the negativity and pessimistic people. With enough faith and love, I know I can break free, and so can you. 🥲❤

It's in this moment my perspective changed♥️🙏🏽. All my life I've been in the traps of these habits 😔. Emotionally it took its toll. However the change is evident now😊. One day at a time we get stronger. I'm blessed I got to watch This ♥️🙏🏽

@BrainyDose

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

Be GRATEFUL of What you have in Life..... We Should Practice GRATITUDE ...

Very useful. Thank you for sharing. 🌷

Thanks for the video, very helpful. Be happy!

Absolutely positive. Thanks so very much.

I agree on stop over apologizing

the video was really perfect and useful that most of people do not pay attention to these things. thanks so much that prepared the amazing content

Mirror work is definitely a help tool. Don’t talk bad about yourself even as a joke. & live by the quote “ stand for something or fall for everything.”

Thanks for sharing this video. It's a good motivation for me.😊

I'm blessed with this. thanks a bunch!

Such videos are so affirming and help for self-development. Thanks for this

Lovely list! Very helpful!

Hi everyone. I have just watched the video and I have to say I agree with all the tips, except the number one: "take care of your appearance". There are more important things to change, for example: your own thoughts, emotions and intentions you have with other people. Appearance doesn't agree with me. Don´t judge a book by its cover. There are some people who are very good outside but inside are very bad. The actions speak louder than words, but also speak louder than the appearance. My congratulations on your you tube channel. My regards from Colombia

I admire some people who are stand on the stage and sing a song or give us a speech, they face an crowded student but they never scared or trembling, maybe they have though bunch of experience about facing people , so they rapidly gain confidence from these experience , as the result , being confidence is not the one day you that can learn though it, you should keep practising on everyday .

This is empowering. Thanks.

I can relate to the point of being so polite and always saying "I'm sorry", Don't be so polite, okay you should be polite but don't overdo it, Too much of a good thing is a bad thing

Great video 🥰 thanks for all parties who worked for giving us this powerful video 💪❤️

@KnowledgeStrength925

2 жыл бұрын

👍

This is really encouraging 👌

Surprisingly, I possess all the tait and habits that you have mentioned in the video. I was looking for this perfectly relevant video on confidence building. Thank u for making me know my weaknesses.😊

Good video. I used to suffer from most of these behaviors. You can change. Don't let anyone tell you any different. My wake up call was a gorgeous female friend who threatened to "punch me in the throat" if I said "sorry" one more time. Lol. Having a high value friend like that was a masterclass in how to be more confident. I highly recommend it.

@enniswhalen2428

2 жыл бұрын

@ s75 - Do NOT know your gender, but am THRILLED to see you improve your own outlook like that. As a male, I NEVER made female friends, so with the kinds of work I did, I was never around females, and it affected the way I live. Sounds like having a female friend really helped you. God Bless.

@audrealambert9583

2 жыл бұрын

They say it's caused by emotional trauma suffered in the past(idk who "they"are but it makes sense) Im Glad she learned ya!😊🖐️🗽

@PKpanzerkrieger

Жыл бұрын

@@enniswhalen2428 Woman friends are the best ...

@enniswhalen2428

Жыл бұрын

@ "PK" - Meiner freund ( and NO laughing at my German !) , I ALWAYS believed that fully half of my problems with the opposite sex could have been addressed better if I had been able to cultivate some female friends. The problem seems to be all that is written about the dreaded "friendzone" (?) , which is to be avoided at all costs. If a guy cannot even manage to navigate THAT, then he will be in for a long and difficult climb. Danke sehr !

@calebhodson7421

Жыл бұрын

Never say your sorry unless you have personally wronged somebody. Especially too a woman. They see it as weakness. Heck I try to avoid saying sorry to my guy friends. There’s way that you can say sorry without actually saying those words. Examples like “I was really busy and got sidetracked with my schedule. It must have slipped my mind. I’ll do my best to not let it happen again” is perfect.

Exactly,,what I want right here.... thank you so much...take love❤️❤️

@alphajustine3637

2 жыл бұрын

Hi

Hi there Brainy Dose I think self assurance and self confidence are the best buds and one cannot exist without the other in my blessed opinion - spotlight syndrome is a thing I see a lot of women and men suffer from lately and I blame this rise of this affliction on Instagram - the more selfies someone takes the more they start to loath how they really look without the filters and whatnot ! Liking loving and accepting oneself flaws and all is so important for ones happiness as well as ones confidence - I do none of these aforementioned things you speak of and my self assurance/confidence is through the roof and it always has been because I fully love like and accept all of myself inside and out - I can only be the me I’m supposed to be and for this I shall make no apology because I can’t be anyone else you see ! Thank you BD for this enlightening video - it was quite informative and helpful Ttfn;D

Very helpful,thanks🌼

Thanks so much 💝

Confidence is the key to success

@andersnielsen6044

Жыл бұрын

Not true. Consciousness, discipline and great communication skills are the key to success.

thanks for the info. 🙏

It really helped me a lot,one more thing is that when we put everyone in front of us

Wonderful tips....thanks x

Thanks very much for this 😭

What a beautiful lecture

Food For Thought: Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, you boost your self-confidence. A change in bad habits leads to a change in life.

@jimmyhalperin7792

Жыл бұрын

And a change in thinking maybe?

@MissTNicole

Жыл бұрын

​@Jimmy Halperin Definitely thinking! Thoughts and beliefs lead to patterns and behaviors.

Being in modelling industry working on 1. It's amazing when self takes center stage

Thank you so much for the video ,I didn't evn knw I do these things

Thanks for the informations. My next 30 days are going to be better. I will prepare myself mentally, physically and emotionally

Thank you ❤

Thankyou also for the knowledge

Youre amazing. This is a perfect video I need😘

I really enjoyed this video. Thanks

Yes thank you

Thanks! Brainly dose. It's very helpful. 🤗

This could help possibly, but if u consciously focus on not doing these things while socializing you’ll likely be even less genuine and fluid when communicating. It’d be much healthier / more effective to focus on a humbly open and self accepting mindset rather a mindset actively manipulating / restricting certain ways a conversation might flow

Immagine finding yourself with all these habbits😌😔😌😔 to be sorted one by one💪💪💪

So co-relatable this video was, made me learn a lot. Wish to pursue these

This vid truly hits home 👍🏽

Excellent video Thank you

Thank you 😊❤

Really good, from now I'm gonna follow it, cause I sometimes feel insecure when am with ma friends, thank you so much 🙏🙏

Wow that’s amazing video thanks for sharing this amazing vibes that’s what i needed

Wow this is exactly what I need right now..thxs

@cierathrift1084

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly my thoughts 😂

Thank you for this im guilty of a few of these 😔

You did well, I give you 96%. Keep it up my dear friend.

Great video, love your channel. I am sick while watching this, and am fevered, so feel like the guy with his hoodie up, lol. But needed to hear this, so thank you! And at one time I said that I should copyright the phrase, I'm sorry!!🤣❣👌

Thanks for this nice video about the things not to do to thyself..