Feelings & Co | Nora McInerny
Feelings & Co | Nora McInerny
Terrible, Thanks for Asking is a show by author Nora McInerny that lets real people get real honest about how they’re really doing. We cover subjects ranging from grief to addiction to relationships, parenthood, mental health, and more. It’s sometimes sad, sometimes funny, and almost always both. This is our KZread Channel.
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Back in 2014, this family asked me to borrow $2200!!! We had only known them for a small amount of time so we were very weirded out by it and stopped hanging with them. It was also odd because on their IG at the time they lived a very lavish lifestyle.
Is there a good way to find out if someone is dead? Cuz my therapist failed to show up one day. I was finally contacted a month later by her daughter that she had a stroke. So boy, that was a relief. Seriously though, when someone fails to show up or answer my email, my first thought is they must be dead. Anyone else?
Mistakes arent failures. Quitting when you ought not to is the failure. The setback, loss, mistake, and temporary failures are not failure. Believing that failure is the only option is the failure. Just 'cause you've fallen onto the ground, doesnt nesn you should embrace it. Failure is the floor. Get up off the floor.
My cousin is in food advertising &she's literally in charge of all men And a guy thirty years younger than her from another coa tree is in charge of her he's brutal with the age insults , & she got a last min. Dr. appt. 4 a scan he told her have them check too see if her brain was still working!!
Seriously? Less than one MINUTE into you podcast, you mention Capitalism as the enemy. Thanks for letting me know how worthless this might be. I’m out.
maybe if you stayed longer than a minute you'd know what I meant! Capitalism is not compassionate; capitalism says "eh, your wife died? You can have *3* paid days off. Ope! You're not a full time employee? You can take 3 UNPAID days off." And don't get me started on maternity leave and the fact that I was working 48 hours after pushing a baby out of my body! Wishing your grieving heart well, David. Anger is a normal part of grief, and I know your comment isn't about me (even if you think it is).💕
I'm so used to listening to your disembodied voice (Terrible, Thanks for Asking.) It's trippy to see your real face talking. 😆
thank you for not saying "wow I didn''t expect your face to look like THIS" like...some people lol
Question : Was the Pantera song audible on this video ? What I heard was the tranquil sounds of birds chirping !
Perhaps the best phrase you’ve ever uttered “ it is a privilege to get to know a person in real life !” That quote should be plastered all over social media. You were not wrong about emails and typing messages on a phone because an actual phone call with spoken words is much more productive and personal. I’ve always believed this to be true. Besides, there is no way that you are an effing moron and even if you were, you’d be a Noron 😮
NORON!!!!!! AARON SMILES UPON THIS NEW WORD!!!!
@@FeelingsandCoHappy to reciprocate since you’ve made me smile through my grief so many times now !!! ❤
My daughter passed away on 29 November 2021. She was 30 years old and suffered with cystic fibroses all her life. Facebook has become a platform to remember her. Somehow, posting her there makes me feel that she will be remembered. I do protect her memory fiercely, and I am very careful with what I share.
Opposite problem, we are not on social media.However somebody was kind enough to show me that my daughter, shared a picture of me hugging my husband in hospice that she took without permission on tik tard, I was mortified too get a screenshot of it and even tho she took it down she had Put up more which I was shown the next day.She's 43 she used it too get sympathy and we're not speaking still.
You are so funny It’s refreshing I just lost my mom and my dog I am listening to this with a smile on my face 😂 I am a massage therapist and a special education teacher
I hate when people tell me that I’m “strong”. 🤬 I know people mean well, but what’s the opposite with that in the context of losing everything?
It was not going to be OK when my marathon running 50, new year old, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It has never been OK, and it’s been 5 years. I have done the work to live on, but I miss him every day.
We've been brainwashed to believe in 'public health ' seems like People were much healthier of where they decided to start implementing public health🤔 don't remember any one in any of the 6 states I went to public school in being allergic to freaking peanuts,or being on pharma. Meth cuz they didn't wanna sit still & obedient in first grade! The damage done to our kids the last 20 yrs Is truly shows you that the WHO actually used to be the world opium consul or Something like that until 1944 when they decided to rebrand themselves😮😮 sorry but health is also An individual sport after a lb of chocolate potato chips we have to take a walk & eat clean as possible! Not all public health measures are for everyone!
Somehow I suspected this story would involve marijuanas at one point 😆😆😆😆
'Tune yourself to the things that are OK.' Thank you - I will keep trying. My friend Steve ended his life in June 2021, and this is a deeper grief than any I have ever known. I appreciate your honesty about the utility of that phrase. Best wishes, Casey
Lol ur like the hot modern Erma Bombeck of grief& reality checks :)
Carol Widman's Candy in Fargo for the chippers, possibly?
That's the place!!!!!
If GERD is a word that you think sounds absurd then just say “ I have acid reflux “ I had it for quite a few years. Pepcid was the gateway drug to the hard stuff like Prevacid not to mention popping peppermint Tums like candy ! Finally had a heart attack on the first day of May 2020 at the height of Covid chaos. Jenny saved my life by insisting on calling 911 while I kept saying “ no no it’s just heartburn “ The burning you had in the center of your chest is exactly what I felt so please please please Nora, eat a healthier diet and get your LDL and HDL and all the other stuff checked regularly ! You can live without chocolate potato chips. Your body will thank you and you need your body even though we may all be better off living in spirit form ? I don’t really know but I know that I still need these videos ! So pull up those big girl pants and stick around with us ! PS in case you didn’t hear Joe did indeed retire, maybe even in the middle of you recording this ?
I've seen chocolate covered potato chips at the Utz factory in Hanover, PA. Yes, they are delicious.
Patrick they are HEAVEN
The timing of the posting of this video willed Biden dropping out into existence.
Advisory Laboratorian (State surveyor of laboratories). That's my job :)
I'm such a loser, I love this
Nora, are you my secret twin?!? Are we sisters?!?! 😮
Mirror globe bars on Etsy would be great addition:) I'm happy too see all the odd things I am going back to work at my vintage booth For the first time today since my husband passed away in June and seeing people appreciate odd things like Morano Glass fruit in a gumball machine makes me feel like it might ok too be creative and see people, but I do feel odd telling anyone my husband died. Also found my niece dead in my house in August , 18yr old cat Feb.,and husband June I actually feel like I'm losing in battleship to the grim reaper;)( Bill &Ted's bogus journey) Thank you for all these I'm obviously binge watching😂
Great video. You're so pretty❤️
I admire you so much! You are an awesome person, and the way you openly speak about everything, the sad and happy moments, the silly parts of your life, all is very refreshing. I am 7 1/5 months in my grief, after 31 yrs of dating and marriage. I became a widow at 48 yrs old. I don't think I will ever achieve 5% of what you achieved, and at this point I am not sure that I want to... Thank you for your videos, they always cheer me up. You cheer me up ❤ P.S. Sorry for not sharing any of my mistakes here. I for sure made lots of them, but I just cannot remember at this point 🤷♀
thank youuuu!
Katarina I would say that achievements can come in many different forms. You don’t have to be an author or podcaster. You are still young and you can achieve things in other ways spiritually, emotionally maybe even physically ( compete in a 5k race maybe or if that’s not possible take up something easier like pickle ball ? )
Nora, the mistakes I made in caring for my wife are many and have kept me ruminating day and night. I can’t even begin to write even one of them out here. It would take too long. Let me know if I can email one of them to you and if you’re okay with reading something may go on and on for a while. Anyway, I didn’t take you for a swiftie ! I woulda guessed more like a Metalhead or a Goth groupie ( I used to love The Cure ) but I guess that supposition is based on your tats- you know, all those preconceived notions about women with tattoos which I won’t go into, I’m sure you’ve heard them all before. So what was in that gummie ? Are you a “ Shroom Mom “ ? I got one of those News notifications about “ the new wave of shroom moms “ but I never actually read the article. Anyway, thanks for these videos. I actually like when they are longer like this even if I have to watch in separate chunks. Something to look forward to 🫶
@@mygreenenvy my buddy!!!! FORGIVE YOURSELF OR I WILL KICK YOU IN THE SHINS! Caregiving is a relentless grind and we are not professionals! WE DID OUR BEST! (something I tell myself every time I remember my own mistakes).
@@mygreenenvy I didn't mean to achieve the exact things that Nora is doing, podcasting, writing books. I meant finding the new meaning in life that will fulfil me in the way she is fulfilled. Don't get me wrong, I don't think that all is perfect for her, the loss is still there, but she is such a bad-ass warrior! For me the whole perspective of life has changed, or should I say, at this point I don't see happy future for myself. And thank you for your kind words, but I am not that young anymore 😉I do have a son, and he is the meaning of my life, but he is a young man and he is doing what he is suppose to do, living his life. Of course he is not neglecting me, but my life is mine, and I don't wish to burden him with this stuff. So, yes, I can see my friends and for example paint (love that), but all has no meaning as before. Perhaps everything is still fresh... Thank you for the ideas ☺ Take care!
Stanford the Tavistock institute of the US 😂 So many medical mistakes were made on my husband and not one single person,Until palliative care, 3yr in , Would say to him that a lot of thier Patients were there because of medical mistakes & hospice told me that too 🤔
You are a woman after my own heart.
"He was the life of the party. I was a weird girl he brought along to the party" reminds me so much of my boyfriend and I♥️
I have been a widow for 1.5 years and thats all I hear everything will be alright. Fortunately I know its not
"Many things aren't okay and never will be" 💯
What is the name of your intro song? I love it and I want it as a ringtone!
It’s our theme song and my BFF wrote it!
@@noramcinerny3370 Any chance of being able to contact your BFF about if there is a longer version they would be willing to share? Want it as my ringtone so bad! If not no worries, but cant hurt to ask!
Nora, did you write this ? Is that you singing with the auto-tune ? You CAN have a music career even at forty ! 🎶🎤🎸
I’m still searching every day for what the “ it “ is that’s going to be “ okay”. Maybe it’s just still too soon- seven weeks to be exact since my wife left. Worse yet, nobody contacts me anymore. Rarely a phone call or a text. The last two times I reached out with a group text of more than a dozen people there was no replies or even one acknowledgment. Another wrecking ball that whacks into me saying “ dude, you’re alone in this and you’re just going to have figure it all out yourself. Maybe I’d actually welcome someone telling me that it’s going to be okay- at least someone would be saying something to me. Maybe this is all self- pity . Welcome to my Pity Party Nora but please don’t stand in the corner and cry publicly ! That’s my corner and it’s too crowded for two 😢😢
seven weeks is NO TIME AT ALL!!!! And I am very angry with everyone who has not called or texted you!
Thanks so much Nora. So I found one thing today that’s pretty okay- knowing that you share my anger with me. So maybe I’m only half as angry now !
So good to hear this. Denial is a powerful thing. I look back at parts of my life and I am AMAZED that I was in such denial. I don't think I ever thought it was going to be ok when my husband got his stage 4 and diagnosis but everyone around me, including his parents, acted like it was going to be ok. I hated that. I still hate that. And yet I've done it myself. I knew there was a reason i liked you. I'm that same weird girl at the party 😂.
Not exactly the same thing, but I have acute anxiety attacks every morning (weekday, weekend, vacation, doesn't matter). I stopped telling myself that everything was going to be OK because yeah, it most certainly will NOT. So I've started saying "I'll feel better soon" or "I'll feel better later," which I know actually will happen eventually. That does help soothe the terrors a bit!
Or when people ask “Ohmygosh how did you survive [that]???” Uhh. I haven’t yet.
All of the things
Im still the best of friends with my wife's little sister, we talk every day. Just because I lost my wife didn't mean we're divorced, she'll always be my sister.
love love love this.
My niece, 18yr Old cat and my husband of thirty eight years all died in this house since last august August & I'm angry At my niece, I'm angry at my family.I'm angry at my husband completely overwhelmed tdy.Had 2 emdr Sessions just to get rid of all these flashbacks! I felt numb for 3 weeks but It is changing to frustration and sadness which I did not expect and your videos are super helpful
My best friend passed away 5 years ago tomorrow and the amount of people who I've had tell me I should be over it is disturbing lmao It sucks as I rarely even mention her but when I do it's met with almost a "really?" Type of reaction
After reading the lockstep documents from the Rockefeller foundation and seeing that this was something that was on paper since 2010, doctors and nurses. The same ones that made a million mistakes on my husband the last 3 years until his death. Are not heroes? They are actually money grabbing liars that took care's act, money just like the pastor and the churches that shut down all-knowing full. Well that this was not a dangerous thing, there was no coax postulate on it and my husband was absolutely petrified of them trying to give him any emergency. Use authorization medication knowing full. Well that there was over 4000 patents since 1998 on this exact thing that just happened. And there's more to come all who are quiet.Even after they knew the truth were compliant in tyranny and murder and keeping families apart keeping children's faces covered in school.They should all be ashamed of themselves.And walk off their corporate jobs and go back to the days of your doctor being Therefore your family are primary care.Doctor was one of the very few in the area that did not go along with any of the hog wash
Really beautiful, Nora, and so true. We need more Mae Maes in the world. ❤
I just say I’m extra. ……instead of too much or a lot. Sounds more gentle. :) my #2 daughter and me are extra. She said that’s more acceptable…. We are the drama in the family of seven… well….. six now :( my wife balanced us. Now we have to balance ourselves….
This video provides great insight! It really gives me a different perspective on grief and how others grieve the same person but of course in a different way. My siblings and I lost our dad also, I lost him at the age 9, my brother and sisters were about 6, 10 and 11. We all knew him and experienced having him in our life in different ways so it may affect us differently. My dad also had sisters, and they grieve him as a brother who they knew all his life and all their lives. He had nieces and nephews who just miss him dearly. I have always been aware of this but I never really just sat and thought about it.
In illinois so love the midwest tune😅
Not feeling so alone when I watch…. Thanks…..
Michael Singer says let the universe unfold like it’s been unfolding for the last 13.8 billion years. It must be doing something right to last that long. Maybe you’re right there’s beauty in destruction. but when I’m having my grieving moment I do lose my consciousness of it all.
I loved this video so much👏❤️