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@harleyquinn6692

2 ай бұрын

❤

@EnPointeforAva-14

Ай бұрын

Thank you, Nora, for your incredible insight. I lost my daughter to brain cancer. She was only 14. Since then I have formed a nonprofit in her name. Annually, we participate in the Brainstorm Summit in Washington DC. We would love to have you speak to the families who have lost a child to brain cancer. I’d love to connect with you.

Thanks for this Nora. When I lost my wife suddenly in a car accident in 2019 I was truly lost, and despite being surrounded by caring and supportive friends I was alone like I had never been. A friend shared a KZread link to your TED talk and I suddenly felt like I had found that stranger who perfectly understood. I shared that link with my coworkers and friends so they could hear an articulate version of what I was feeling. It led me to your books, and your podcast, and multiple other books on grief (including CS Lewis). Your journey through dating and to a new relationship post-loss gave me some hope and validation in my desire to find a new life partner, which I since have; we got married in August of last year. Thanks for being my cold glass of water through that period of hell!

This video provides great insight! It really gives me a different perspective on grief and how others grieve the same person but of course in a different way. My siblings and I lost our dad also, I lost him at the age 9, my brother and sisters were about 6, 10 and 11. We all knew him and experienced having him in our life in different ways so it may affect us differently. My dad also had sisters, and they grieve him as a brother who they knew all his life and all their lives. He had nieces and nephews who just miss him dearly. I have always been aware of this but I never really just sat and thought about it.

Excellent book recommendation. TTFA has been an anchor in my solo journey. Being able to hear other testimonies and force myself once a week to just listen and feel has been transformative. Traumatic loss + the havoc of covid created a massive inner circle of isolation. No one knows how to ask, let alone brave a step toward the center. Like Lewis, I can feel the distance people tip toe around, and I'm torn no matter what happens. Grief framed as an Individual sport is interesting perspective. It's up to me to work on my personal best

I do feel grief is an individual sport because I spend a lot of my time rather than grieving trying to file paperwork through the VA then had to hire a lawyer to get Life Insurance. File more paperwork to obtain my late husband’s back pay from the military. Then a lot of people want me happy so they try to cheer me up ( like losing a husband didn’t really happen) so in essence now I’m spending time appeasing those around me who think I need fixing rather than sitting with me in my pain. There were those who really loved me while they were present. However eventually we who grieve have to grieve alone. After going through this I knew I needed people to sit with me in my pain but there is no one I’ve found who could do it, but honestly that’s what I needed early on and still do now. So for me it’s as if I have to keep dribbling balls and dribble around those who think I’m broken in some major way. I hate that I have to avoid those who don’t understand and say inappropriate things to me because they just don’t know what to say. I would rather they hug me and tell me they love me than say some of the things people have said. They all have good intentions…

@FeelingsandCo

Ай бұрын

THE PAPERWORK ALONE!!!! IS SO!!!! OVERWHELMING! Kathy I would hug you if I could!

Thank you for all your wisdom ❤. You were my first introduction to this side of life with your Ted talk, even before I unexpectedly became a widow myself. I was incredibly inspired by you, even with my ignorance about grief. I lost my partner in 2022 suddenly, at 35. He was the love of my life, and for all my adult life. After almost 2 years now, I do think that middle ring is extremely lonely. I don't know many people who understand, but I found some support especially online, and simply reading other people's experiences. It helps frame my own, and I can give back by listening to other widows. I also have a special sister-in-law who comes from a different culture, and is an artist like myself. We're both sensitive and dorky, and I'm comfortable with her. Even though she's got her own life with my brother, and doesn't know what it feels like to be a widow, she understands how I view my love, and I think that was really helpful. Because really, at the end of the day, this grief is deep because of the great love we shared. He was the core of my rings, and I was the core of his, and even though it's impossible for anyone to be in my exact shoes, having someone like her to sit with me and talk about the love and allows me to cherish him, that's been very helpful to my healing. It can put me in a much better disposition and give me back some of my spirit whenever we talk. Even just one person to do that for you, is so impactful. Those people are true angels on earth, seriously.❤

@lisamaleger3089

13 күн бұрын

very same here 🙏

Thanks Nora. Great videos and hits right where it needs to and reminds me my grief is mine and I need to let others have their own version. I’m only two months in this journey but lost my sister three days before my wedding.

Thank you so much for yet another pearl of wisdom. I love your messages and been grieving now for a year and a half I have realizing that being alone is very difficult. Have not found that friend yet but am optomistic.

@lisamaleger3089

13 күн бұрын

Same here 🫤

I lost my girlfriend to suicide this january and its been exactly 4 months today. Was with her for almost two year. had the best time of my life while being with somebody and being in love. I do feel like I am grieving solo. Too too hard for me. And I do respect the fact that I can't expect other people to feel the same way that I do. Would be grateful I could connect to someone through this platform.

In july 2018 my best friends dad passed ( he was my extra dad) sept same year, my hubs lost his mom, in December a friend committed suicide, 2 weeks later another friend who was her best friend died of breast cancer. One week after, on xmas eve my husband of 25 yrs passed unexpectedly, followed by my dad 17 days later in January . It was a rough end n beginning that year. In 2020 lost 2 friends and 2 customers in A motorcycle crash. I dealt with it alone, even though i had a team. A strong team. While i was open to an extent, I carried and covered it up myself. I still do almost 6 yrs later. Though im a little more open about, i just look at it differently. We all walk it at sometime. Unfortunately its inevitable. I look at death as our next adventure. A friend once told me grief is for the living, because the dead dont care. On particularly hard days, I try n remember im not alone.

I definitely feel like grief is an individual sport. I’ve felt totally alone during my dad’s illness and death, and that’s because I was basically alone in it with him.

@FeelingsandCo

Ай бұрын

hug hug hug.

Thank you Nora♥️dealing with sudden tragic losses 4 months apart here

Thank you Nora……wise words that I will be sharing. Appreciate you….!

I am 31, same age you were, and I just lost my fiancé and father in October and February, both suddenly. I lost the man down the aisle and the man walking me to him💔I'd love it if you did a video on how to handle grieving separate people at the same time❤

@FeelingsandCo

Ай бұрын

Ooooof my sister in sadness I am going to think about this and make a video for you!

@harleyquinn6692

Ай бұрын

@@FeelingsandCo omg thank you so much!❤️my mom and I appreciate it so much

Well done as usual. You are the bomb!