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The narcissist is just hurting themselves in the long run. Usually cause they end up losing someone who actually loves them. What the narcissist is actually doing is giving their "victim " a chance to think about everything in silence instead of chaos
Of course therapy will help daaa but you don't care so why should I
Radical leftists surely hate narcissists lol
Put your trust in Allah Swt
WOW
I can think of many times in my life when I would be vulnerable to this type of control.
i just watched the series (sort of diving deeper and elaborating here) and what really struck me was how the cult was mostly abt pure and raw control over others? i guess that's where the narcissist v. actual psycho line is drawn. at the same time that's a direct result of how the series portrayed the story, not focusing on the perpetrator's narrative but on his actions and the pain he caused.
I think most (not all, calm down) highly religious people are narcissistic. Just my opinion based on life experience.
Individualized motivation which is why it kills me that because you are specialized in healing from narcs you encourage permanent closure. I agree in the time out and space but the only people that could ever know are the ones that know so it just creates healing space for the victim and leaves the narc alone which is how they got they way to begin with
My mother in law giving an apology to me: The problem: MIL babysitting her great nieces and nephew. 7 year old great-niece sprayed my perfume around the bathroom. She found out and talked to her. She NEVER said a word to me. I got home, and the whole bathroom was covered in the scent of my perfume. I acknowledge it. The apology: Well, I mean, she's only 7. I told her nevertouch things that didn't belong to her. I don't understand what more you expect. The Problem: MIL is babysitting her great nieces and nephew. I come home to my bedroom door open. As I walked into the room, I noticed my dresser was open, and the necklace my MIL brought me (valued at $20) was missing. I acknowledge it to my partner. He mentioned that the 5-year-old nephew could have done it. He has been caught stealing before. The apology: Well, I don't understand why any of them would take it. There is no value to the necklace. It makes no sense for any of them to take it but I will talk to his mom. The Problem: MIL allowed her stepdaughter (46 years old) to spend the weekend at the house. Stepdaughter needed a place to crash after her weekend of parties and club hopping. Stepdaughter gets in at 4 am. She is drunk, loud, and covered in cigarette smoke. She woke the whole house. MIL got up, cooked her breakfast, and talked EXTREMELY loudly for an additional hour. Then they would finally go to bed. Stepdaughter would then wake around 8 am to smoke a cigarette and talk loudly on the phone. The apology: MIL laughs and says "Well you know how Tiff is. Sounds like she had a great weekend. Kiki, in this family we ALL have to sacrifice sometimes." (This has happened several times) The Problem: This past weekend my MIL was tidying the house for her guest. She put my laundry in the spare bedroom without any communication. She separated our clothes. Then folded my partner's clothes but balled mine up. I asked her to PLEASE communicate with me next time. I have no problem with collecting my belongings and getting them out of her way. The apology: I should look at it as a "nice gesture" She didn't want her guest to see the laundry. Due to it being a "timing issue " she didn't have time to communicate with me about my clothes. So I should understand. I should apologize to her for the misunderstanding. Now she's avoids me in the house. Totally ignores me. It has been a week of no contact with her. Conclusion: Unfortunately, there are so many more examples. She REFUSES to apologize or communicate. I've expressed to my partner that we needed to move. We can't live with his mother any longer. He doesn't want to leave her bcuz she can't afford to live alone. What should I do??
That orange outfit and fists is giving me prison vibe
🌹 true
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The 50-50 child custody law might be misinformed because people who abuse their spouse are also likely to abuse their children.
And what is it when know not an apology but they say “we really need to work on talking to each other better” few hours after they were yelling and saying horrible things to person and it happened suddenly out of no where. Receiver of this behavior retreats to hide sobbing and hurt as the Giver of this has no compassion and Wow!! Shocking but finally understood so much when I realized yes I have a narcissistic family and yes I am the scapegoat. It’s hard as I love my family and do not want to disrespect anyone but it’s true and I just wish I had realized this years ago. It was always so confusing and I thought I must be bad & what is wrong with me. Many major life decisions I made including marrying abusive & narcissistic person-well I understand so much since clearly see I am from a narcissistic family. Split with me like my father, mother and 2 siblings are sadly narcissists. I hate it. I understand why I hate family get togethers, I have downplayed myself so much as I hoped it would make it easier by me diminishing & fading if makes sense. I feel kinda dumb though as now it’s duh…no doubt and maybe I could’ve made better relationship choices, not been manipulated and guilt tripped, bullying which is definitely still a problem. But learning healthy boundaries and also learned that makes them angry I do appreciate this channel and DocR
My daughter was left in my exs home when I first left for about 8 months and he turned his abuse to her. At 13 she tried to take her own life over the abuse he was doing to her when I left. 😢I then got her outta of the house, I’m just thankful she wasn’t successful and she’s now with me ❤
Please just stay single. Give up the fairy-tale, it never existed. I am not blaming anyone (my parents did it to me too). I suffered decades of "searching." He is not out there. Our job is to heal, grow, gain knowledge and support victims of narcissistic abuse.
How about my boyfriend’s lying and cheating was my 5 year old grandson’s fault. You heard that right! The little guy just put too much pressure on him with the questions he was asking about our relationship. Cry me a river!! Game over!!
A real apology is a beautiful thing. Real as opposed to not a real apology. If I have to make one of those real apologies I have to also live with the reality that the other person doesn't have to accept it. That's radical acceptance or some form of it I guess. Or what could be perceived as radical acceptance anyway.
Sorry english is not my fist language. Does she say "they" only for Bryan ? (Because he is non binary) Or was she violented by a group of several people ? Sorry this new way of speaking is very confusing and now i am not sure which is it 😅
As a female medical doctor from an ethnic household who has gone through a similar relationship setting.... The Rosario kids obviously had a redemption fanatsy. They absolutely come from a broken household where the parents werent rescuing them and werent reliable enough. Kids from such homes are always looking for a hero to come along and rescue them so they put people on a pedestal. Unfortunately sometimes we TURN people into narcissistic abusers or end up attracting such kind of people. These people destory and rescue like Dr.Ramani said because they get addicted to the feeling of being needed. We kind of bring that out in them too....
NPD is a one way street! You can briefly drive the wrong way before there are maga consequences!
This was true for me. I spent hours, days and years trying death’s what was happening while the narcissist in my life didn’t do any work on herself
If you happen to be born ethnically beautiful, particularly intellectual and artistically gifted, you WILL be targeted. Guaranteed. As a little child you will not understand why so many people hate you or why you are constantly rejected. The trauma/damage erodes self esteem and self confidence (which can be underdeveloped). Once you do the work to heal, you can recognize predators and avoid them. Remember that you are a daughter of the Most High God who adores you. You were fearfully and wonderfully made in His Image. Never forget that. What cosby did to you was repugnant. He will get his due diligence.
Ok hes in the medical field thats the first problem lol
The policies are written in the Bible. The scripture. You went to a church and they didn’t affirm your LGBTQ and you were surprised? You don’t have to agree with that, but they don’t have to agree with you either.
He just took everything 😂
I definitely have traits, being raised by a grandiose narc.. I try to make changes every day and be self-aware of my words and decisions.
This is a bunch of baloney. I was a congregant. This is a bunch of baloney. You want the church to represent you not God.
Y’all want to change Christianity. You don’t have to be a Christian. You don’t have to be anything. Do you want to change Christianity.
Please note that she wasn’t happy in her parents church and she wasn’t happy at this church and that’s because she doesn’t want to change to be what the church represents. She wants the church to change for her. She doesn’t feel included because she is not Christlike. She is not a Christian. If she was a Christian, she would feel like she belonged because she would be displaying Christian behavior, attitude, and speech. You can’t be living a life against God and walking into the church and expect to feel like you belong. It is not the church it’s her. And she will go into every church that doesn’t agree with her lifestyle and then turn around and bash that church saying they didn’t accept her. Christians go to church. You have to be a disciple a Christian, a follower of Christ to feel like you belong because the church represents him not us.
I got through my divorce ok, but 7 years later we had to revise custody. It's hell living in a "pro-dad" (read: anti-mom) city when the dad is the narc. He won. He took my daughter, the only control he could have over me. Anyway, forget informed consent or premarital counseling. Prenuptial agreement! I always hear "you don't want to go into a marriage thinking you'll get a divorce." I don't think I'm going to crash into another car, but I have car insurance. Look at it as marriage insurance. It's for "just in case". Prenups for everyone!
Honestly it just sounds like a silent tantrum. If the anxious person would stop bending over backwards to get their approval, and just treated that behavior with indifference I am sure it would work, Not all. but indifference is like the key
I think the girl in this video going “uhhh” mmmhm” ohhhhhhh” yeaaaaaaa” mhmmmmmm” is narcissistic and doesn’t like hearing this 😂🤣😎
Dr Ramani said “I’m starting my practice in the narcissism capital of the world” and I respect her so much for it. I believe the creators of Red Table Talk are narcissistic (JPS) she’s a warrior and a baller. A true Queen.
But how do you accept whatever fault they want you to accept and apologize yourself to them? That’s about the only honest way you can say I’m sorry to them. By saying I’m sorry my boundary made you mad. I’m sorry you’re bothered that I took up for myself and said I didn’t want to argue. Etc
Do you have an "Abandoned by a narcissist mother" video because that's what I'm dealing with now with my step daughter.
Yep "I'm sorry if you thought that was hurtful." I've heard that one too ..
thanks honey.
ughhhhhhh!!!!!!
A highly sensitive person can go silent unintentionally. Turtling when hurt………anxious to face conflict. Wanting to cool off.
This just blew my mind. This is so true. I can literally name two people who i was suspecting to be narcs now confirms repeatedly, with your video DrRamani. Thank you for opening our eyes. Now my main question is, knwoing that narcs have no idea they are wrong, should we try to portray them as evil? Lots of comments refer to narcs as somewhat a villian and an evil. If they have naturally due to past traume become a narc, as a human it isnt their fault, right? We are told to abandon them and run far away, but isnt that a 'bad' thing to do? or as someone who is an abused person from a narc is now going thru guilty motions? Requesting any experts to assits, highly appreacite guys, we are doing well. But I am sure Dr Ramani is busy with others questions.
Narcs are just spoiled adults
Everyone around them suffers and nothing happens to them. Perfect definition of narcissism.
Why does the enabler do it? Cowardice & being an abuser themselves.
The amount of people I’ve met who aren’t capable of an apology is astounding… I’d say it’s the majority
This is why ghosting is emotional abuse.
I was considered to feel most righteous when I started defending myself seriously, all this time I still thought they couldn't possibly be like that
I’m 100% ok with my narcissistic mom having no contact with my boys. I experienced her abuse and undermining me as a parent for many years…. She even communicated and was in relationships with my ex narcissistic husband and mother in law. It was so abusive and destructive!!
This is so true. It's a form of victim blaming. Yes, we ought to walk away but it's not as simple as flipping a switch. The way you respond to people is engrained in you from a young age. It's very hard to change for the better. Even if you are working to become more self sufficient it won't happen overnight so we shouldn't blame people for it.