So refreshing to see a trained professional admit that being manipulated and drawn into an unhealthy relationship has nothing to do with education or IQ. Hopefully this will be seen by hundreds who need to know that falling for someone like Larry is no reflection on the "victim". Thank you for this very important message!

@estherhirsch4460

10 ай бұрын

I so agree with your comment. In addition a psychiatric resident. These toxic ppl r so dangerous

@brittanycamille6460

9 ай бұрын

Yes, I agree.

@spiritual2020

9 ай бұрын

I'm so glad this is being said too. So many assume we can get out, just leave because no one is 'holding a gun to our head'. We have no clue all of what REALLY goes on behind closed doors. Even though I've experienced being in a marriage where my husband was a covert, malignant, narcissist, the information in this series is so enlightening.

So they destroy you and then rescue you on many levels,the shit load of deception is mind boggling.😢🤬

@TheLeagueOfSteve

10 ай бұрын

And they set up the conditions for your destruction too. Way before you realise what’s happening and, seemingly, too late to prevent it.

@spiritual2020

9 ай бұрын

Holy shit, yes it is!!

I’m crying right now relating to Felicia’s story. The sexual manipulation, gaslighting and the whole YOU CANT WIN dynamic of it all is my story. I thought it was only me. The shame and humiliation has been unbearable. Felicia, if your dream is to help people, you have accomplished that by telling your story. Just knowing someone else has gone through such a harrowing and sexually exploitative experience and come out the other side, gives me hope and lessens my shame. Thank you Dr. Ramani. I can’t tell you how much I love you and that you have saved my life!

@lisbethsalander1723

10 ай бұрын

If I may, Hulu has done a series on this Monster - Stolen Youth. It is heart breaking but very instructive about the incomprehensible terror that these incredible talented young persons have suffered. I used to believe - everybody has some good in them ... but now I believe some people are pure evil no matter how splendid their history or acting.

@victoriousjoy9338

9 ай бұрын

What a nightmare!! Yikes!! He is scary!!

Never have you had an episode that resonated so much. I was so triggered I had to go to the bathroom and cry. THIS is the episode that set me free.😭💕 Felicia isn't board certified but she is healing scores of people!!

When I was accepted to office administration program, my husband was making fun of me and saying everyone that I decided to become a secretary.He was jealous and competing with me.A loving person never does that.

@gigiarmany4332

3 ай бұрын

hope you divorced him now

@lisacranmer8005

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@Peace-on-earth771

Күн бұрын

The same is here

As a woman and medical professional this is so difficult to hear 😢 the fact that this type of evil is out there makes me cling to my faith even tighter 🙏 God bless this woman and Dr. R let’s all learn together and help protect each other from these evil ones.

This is an astounding interview.. These abusers choose intelligent people because they are a challenge. It's no fun tricking stupid people.

@kristinaaslanyan5150

10 ай бұрын

I also think he learned from her psychiatry. It was free tutoring for him.

“It is a form of committing murder. And it is a way of committing murder that he will get away with. Coerced suicide, to me, is a murder. It is. As far as I’m concerned it’s a homicide. No way any court in any land will ever see that.”

@ambermillion3177

15 күн бұрын

Femicide

I can relate so much to the “make it stop” scenario. My ex insisted that Chubaca was a real being..I kept asking why we didn’t know who played him in Star Wars…he made fun of me…yelled at me..until I couldn’t take it anymore and I started to cry and I said “Fine! Chubaca plays himself in the movie!” This sounds ridiculous, but he was relentless. Insane making behavior.

@jessehardin8500

3 күн бұрын

Peter Mayhew played Chewbacca in the originals then Joonas something or other played him in newer ones. I'd understand if he went with Bigfoot is real but Chewbaca is a weird one

Dr, Ramani is so articulate when sharing her knowledge and perspectives. It has a powerful effect.

@amberfahr5992

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely

Oh God. This is my husband... Although not that horrible. But this is MY HUSBAND.... Yes. Thank you Dr. Ramani. I desperately needed a real life example to stop gas lighting my self. Thank you Felicia for having the courage to come and show the light..... God bless you both.

@michellemartinez2922

3 күн бұрын

I hope you’re doing well and finding confidence and trust in your self ❤

Wow! I agree with the point about murder, but I've never heard anyone else voice it. My son died from an accidental overdose and I have always felt that his father who was diagnosed with ASPD killed him. Fifteen years earlier I had a heart attack and felt at that time that he was killing me. In my case the relationships with family were lost forever. My mother died a couple of years ago and my son and I weren't at her memorial service but my sociopathic ex husband was. That is a pain that is renewed over and again. My niece and Goddaughter is getting married this weekend and I won't be there either. It is very sad and no one understands what happened. I attempted to talk to my niece about it but I also know that she can't really afford to believe me.

@lisbethsalander1723

10 ай бұрын

My heart goes out to you. This really hurts so much and is so incomprehensible but real. If I may, Rebecca Mandeville discusses this type of family betrayal or Family Scapegoating Abuse in her book and You tube series.

When she spoke about how he would say to her "Why don't you do that!", it hit me! When the Narc repeatedly asked for 'steamy' photos and I didn't want to send any, he mentioned that his friend's wife does that (sends photos to her husband). I did not care about what his friend's wife does but the Narc probably thought that would get to me. THANK YOU Felicia for telling your story! YOU and Dr. Ramani are helping others!

Thank you, Felicia. I had therapy today, and your story helped me finally make sense of my childhood trauma. Blessed be!

This story is so reminiscent of what R Kelly did to all of those girls, some of whom are still defending him to this day!

It sounds like he used police interrogation techniques of the kind that elect false confessions we hope get thrown out in court.

Every conversation I had with my ex wife was about her telling me why I’m such a bad person, what my intentions are and how dangerous of a person that I am

The fear of not appeasing someone who “wears you down” emotionally/mentally. I get that totally. It sounds crazy in retrospect but it’s so true. I can relate.

So glad you have Felicia Rosario here. I am very impressed to see that she had made such progress in her recovery from that psychopath. I hope we can get to call her Dr Rosario soon. Sending Warmest Regards and Hugs to both of you. You go Felicia ! We will be supporting and cheering you all the way back to higher and higher levels !

Felicia, you will be a Wonderful Doctor when it is right for you. I wish you the best! Thank you for sharing and staying alive!

The content of this interview mirrors the "family" dynamic my husband perpetrated. Thank you for your work that helps us not feel isolated.

A powerful and brave woman Felicia Rosario! I learned so much from you in this sharing of your story..I also have been through this type of erosion of my self. I can deeply empathise with you. I wish you the best healing possible. Thank you Dr Ramani for using this as a teaching tool so others can get informed educated and perhaps saved from getting involved with harmful people.

Dr. Ramani, thank you soooooo much for acknowledging and validating that abuse is NOT a reflection of the victim. It has taken a huge load of guilt and shame off of my heart and mind.

I see so many similarities btwn Larry and my child's father. He often utilized similar coercive control tactics and it was terrifying watching so many fall under his 'spell'

Dr. Ramani Thank you for your kind insight. 'Rape' is more common than most realize. I was raped by a school counselor my second year at CMU - I was 17 when I started at that school. I hate myself for not telling the school. He could have violated many more and I did nothing.

@tessellatiaartilery8197

8 ай бұрын

That sounds awful for you. Please take good care of yourself. Others are helped here now by your brave comment. Wishing you all the best.

The way you break this down is so helpful. I recently got into a whirlwind relationship and was married after only 7 months of knowing each other. I'm looking back and shaking my head because it was full of subtle manipulation and abuse that escalated after the wedding and now we are seperated and I've gone no contact. I have felt so embarrassed and stupid for it. I have withdrawn from my supports and developed anxiety and PTSD and flashbacks now. I am struggling to be kind to myself and reconnect with my people. But your explanations are easing the internal burdens and helping me see myself in a kinder light.

The way she described the journey down the rabbit hole of coercive control was riviting. Her recall is so clear. They can be so terrifying and menacing these narcissists.

My greatest question here is about Larry’s DAUGHTER…where the heck is SHE, and did she not know about her degenerate dad; was SHE also a degenerate and a partner, or was she also a chess piece? Seriously, where is this girl?

I am so happy you were the one that interviewed Felicia and Daniel. The way you created a safe space for both of them to speak their truth without interruption or judgment is so remarkable! I wish more interviewers were like this. Thank you to all the survivors that have been brave enough to share their stories with us🙏🏾

This is so so important. And it makes me want to hear even more. I know that you could probably have long hours worth of conversation with her enlightening us all on some of the nuances that a lot of these situations share. Thank you for highlighting coercive control and bounded choice. They are not discussed or understood, and especially not dealt with appreciately given the huge detrimental impact they both have

This reminds me of my first ex: the "debates" to wear you down, having a wonderful family and community around him that draws you in (people approve of him for some reason), then telling you you can leave anytime, but then later breaking into my house, stalking me, and throwing tantrums when I tried to leave, among many other terrible things. My family had no idea that evil like this existed and so we were all blind-sided. I can only be thankful for the lessons I personally learned about how they prey on vulnerability and naivete. As a result, I now have the sixth sense to free my friends from these predators. Thank you Dr. Ramani for originally freeing me from this mess and to Felica for telling your story. You are both life-savers.

It’s sad how much is legal but incredibly wrong and immoral. Helpful to understand that it’s the psychopathic element that is incredibly callous… my dad had many strong elements of psychopathy and sadism as well as the entitlements/felt superiority of narcissism . Even families can be ran like controlling cults. In the past felt almost embarrassed about how long my family had emotional control/direct sabotage in my life… but there are so many correlations… fear/manipulation. Heard a testimony of a woman who said she used to feel embarrassed about how long her family had control over “her bc people would question why… she said I wasn’t just a trained dog but a trained and beaten dog.” Thank you for this testimony/interview… the more humanity can see this from many angles, the more we all can see more layers of our own experience and how they were able to do it. They use same/similar strategies in different ways. Extreme religion is another way to implement all these strategies. It’s all just people weaponizing natural human vulnerabilities ~ #1 of which is not understanding these sorts of motivations/minds/manipulations. I’m definitely free now~still find it so interesting and informative to hear the experiences of others and how they handled it then and in freedom. 💜

A video that should be watched twice.Thank you Dr.Ramani.

"he would castsigate me thinking i was sleeping around, but ask me to sleep around." someone did that to me once & i've never heard this come up before but i'd always thought about it. so wrong. a sexual invitation is something to be honoured & then to jumble that all down w/confusion & mixed signals is seriously going to confuse someone, just lead to ineffectivity . . .

Flashbacks of perpetrator is so bad, I would remember him when I see a black car and feel like he would come and get me.

Such a brave, articulate, beautiful lady! Inspirational! Sorry you had to go through this! Thank you for sharing. Unbelievable the craziness these evil people can do to good people! You are doing and look great!

Having seen the documentary, this is an amazing supplement to understanding Malignant Narcs. So thanksful she escaoed. Previous interview is likewise helpful.

@spiritual2020

9 ай бұрын

Is this show only on Hulu or are there other avenues to watch?

Felicia is so brave and inspiring. With her emotional insights, high intelligence and beautiful spirit I am sure she will make a difference to the world in the future. Sending you much love, respect and admiration. I hope you will be able to bless medical or caring professions if you choose to. Thank you Dr Ramani for this moving, kind and highly professional interview.

her voice is so full of pain. Sounds on the verge of tears. I fully understand how that is and you wonder if you are ever going to talk with a steady voice again.

What a brave & resilient woman Felicia is. Larry should be in solitary confinement in the prison where he's currently serving his sentence. Being alone, with no one to torture, would surely be the worst torment for a monster like him. All my best wishes & admiration go to Alicia as she goes forward to thrive in life more & more! 💖

You just gave a name to what my daughter has, and it’s Complex Trauma, not PTSD. Me, as well, as her mother, as I suffer from DAILY/Nightly and very intrusive ruminations of the damage of my entire family due to a malignant narcissist. It’s ongoing, it’s been 28 years, and now it’s a court decision and a last hurrah or an Adios to this nightmare. But, no, there will never be a win because of the severe alienation and mind games of children, some as damaged adults. People I love. These people need exposure before we get entangled. My hope for young people.

How do people have this much capacity for evil?? How does 1 person do so much damage to many people in such little time?

I can't believe how much this hits home!😢

All the best Felicia. Move on with your life. Your experience will make you a good mental health Provider.

I hope Felicia Rosario writes a book.

I did not realize that Larry had a job. She said he was doing a business meeting. Carrying a hundred thousand dollars in a backpack.. what was his occupation??

I’m wondering if he’s now starting a cult in jail. Not exactly anything anyone is looking into probably.

You have many great years ahead of you, Felicia. May our good Lord satisfy you with long life and may the rest of your days be filled with joy, love, peace and hope. May you be surrounded with kind, generous, loving and genuine people the rest of your life. May your life bless more others. ❤Hugs

Thanks Felicia for helping soooo many people by telling your horrifying story and thanks doctor Ramani. God bless you both ❤

This whole situation is sooo bizarre. He had to be a trained professional. Ties with one of the 3 letter agencies that specialise in this stuff because of how good he was at it.

The pizza was a good example on how their answer or the answer they seek is the only right answer for whatever reason they want it to be, history and evidence gets pushed aside regardless.

I completely understand Felicia, this brave, beautiful soul. She and Dr. Ramini are bringing this darkness into the light where it can be seen, as difficult as it is to talk about, they are saving lives. These coercive relationships exist with varying degrees of severity and circumstance, but with a similar motive on the part of the perpetrator, to destroy another person. The part about suicide in particular is extremely important. Narcissists and psychopaths cause suicides. Hopefully this type of conversation will lead to awareness of this particular cause of suicide and suicide attempts, its prevention and criminal consequence for those responsible.

It is so crazy of how I was mentally, and emotionally abused. And how there is minimal help for the victims. I just thought he was machista, thanks to Dr Ramadi, u are the best and you have educated me so that I can finally divorce the narcissist.

I am so happy that you feel validated in the court, for being heard by the judge

Please tell Felicia thank you for me. This podcast helped me so much. Thank you Dr. Ramani. Wanted to share this: I spoke to my nurse practitioner, told her I wanted to seek therapy. I told her that I had been watching your videos. She knows of your work and thinks very highly of your mission to help other therapists know about narcissism. She was telling me some of the same things I have learned from you and your videos. ❤Know that you are helping so many people.

I grew up in a spiritual community. I was 12 when I was introduced to this American born 'guru'. Now, 3 decades later I am just starting to unpack how this has negatively affected all my romantic relationships with men my entire adult life. As Felicia shares here, it is the shame that keeps us psychologically imprisoned by abusive men. I admire her courage in sharing her story here so openly. I tip my hat to you, ladies - you are both rockstars!

Thank you, Felicia, for the courage to share!!!! My story is not totally like this, but so similar. My ex husband I knew for YEARS as a peripheral friend, but he came in & helped in areas no one else did & even my red flags were lowered as family & others seemed to think he was great. Now divorced & still recovering from all the gaslighting, mental & emotional abuse, etc.,

You can hear it in her voice and speech that her mental health and sense of self is improving! It broke my heart to see the abuse being inflicted on them. One of my biggest fears is losing my sense of reality weather it be by a psychological disorder or being brain washed.

Dr. Ramani, people who are victims usually have their stuff on the outside, including money and career "together." These predators suck in people who don't seem to have their internal or emotional needs met. Those fundamental needs our parents are suppose to meet and fulfill. I am convinced if you are messed up on the inside from birth to 10 years old, you are prime pickings for people like "Larry." What are those primal needs? Here are some examples: unconditional Love, emotional support, feeling heard, feeling seen, feeling important in the family. Also, I have learned just because parents put clothes on kids, food on the table, and roof over their heads don't necessarily make them good parents. Yes, those material things are important, but how are the parents doing it? Do they use, guilt, or shame their kids? Do they treat their kids like adults? Do parents put demands on their children so "they" look good? Do parents fight constantly in front of the kids? Do parents emotionally or physically abuse their children? Do parents manipulate and control their kids? Furthermore, I am convinced that people like "Larry" are physic vultures. They can smell vulnerabilities, desperation, fear, and craving for love and support. And people like "Larry" will relentlessly test your boundaries and wear you down. ~Thank you both for sharing valuable information. PS This was an intense podcast to listen to.

@victorialadybug1

10 ай бұрын

I was just thinking the same thing but you put it perfectly. Yes, you can be seemingly confident and together externally but be internally wounded and that is where psychopaths can come in and take control.

@starsimvidz

10 ай бұрын

yes. but the key to this is that the "internal wounds" you mention are things regular people deal with. Its not something extraordinary. The people who are victims of this are not somehow more broken, or more wounded than what we think of as the "average" person.

@dijaworldworld3895

10 ай бұрын

@@starsimvidzexactly. We are like everyone else in the world loving living learning with friends and families some without. Remember that he was found credible by her family doctors and professionals. He is a super smart psychopath who spends 24 hrs a day plotting to harm. Out of desperation and fear of losing my family, it almost happened to me.

@lisbethsalander1723

10 ай бұрын

@@starsimvidz My research and life experience tell me - if I may, we are all situationally vulnerable during demanding stressful {insecure] times. Struggling first generation immigrant family can add to this vulnerability. Nonetheless her family raised three enviable kids by anybody's standards. This did not sit well with an Ultra Manipulative Psychopath. Larry could not allow Felicia to overcome the vulnerability at the cusp of becoming a brilliant doctor - and the due successes of her siblings and their friends -so he struck them all - such a Monstrous Evil menace. God save us all.

@testing1-2three

9 ай бұрын

This family raised three kids who keep trying to un-alive themselves. Something may be unhealthy about the family to begin with. Though Felicia would have you believe it was all that psychopaths fault this sounds like a lifelong issue before psycho man. That should be addressed sooner rather than later and making it all Larry’s fault isn’t going to “fix it”.

Yessss I've been waiting for part 2 ❤

'When I was away from him I was able to see more'..... Yes yes yes

At the end of the day, she will be a better doctor in her profession because she will have that understanding of what it’s like to be a victim of this.

Hurtful harming and just know you can survive it.

This is very interesting, thank you for taking on this subject,

Dr Ramani, Thank you for your videos!

@NavigatingNarcissismPod

5 ай бұрын

You are always welcome

Extraordinary story…..wow🙏

I've heard a lot of this type of thing lately. There are too many people out there guilty of doing this type of crap to other people. I know a lot about it and something needs to be done to identify and punish these people because too many are out there getting away with it and teaching others to do the same things.

This episode teaches us so much Dr Ramani by breaking down and explaining what was gappening. Dr Ramani how do we spot early on the beginning stages of this type of person?

This seems you have told the story of my life! Thanks! We have the same life story

Wow, I'm so glad you're out of this awful situation. You keep healing!! Thank you for sharing, too. This is an amazing show and so informative. Thank you

Killing me softy with her song. 😭🥰 Thankyou.🤗

Thanks very much for sharing your story,it helped me to see several things in my life.

I can relate to so much of what she’s gone through. I am looking forward to the day when I can be free from this crazy life.

Thank you ❤ thank you 🙏 thank you 😊 Felicity!!!!!

I’ve been watching this channel and this story gave me the CHILLS! HORRIFIC!!! Thank you for sharing your difficult experience. I pray for your healing. Dr. Ramani, Deepest Gratitude for all you do!

I have a question: do you think our military trainings create these kind of abusive people? Larry was a marine. My ex-boyfriend was in the Navy for 26 years. He started bootcamp at age 19. I now have come to realise that he was what you call a 'vulnerable narcissist'. Thoughts?

@gigiarmany4332

3 ай бұрын

absolutely..lots of desperate broken boys go to the army & some loose it there

“Social proof” killed her.

@lisbethsalander1723

10 ай бұрын

It kills most of us.

Thank you to these survivors for sharing. Dr, could you talk to people suffering from Cassandra Syndrome?

I cant wrap my head around how a man instigated all these thoughts & control over a GROUP of people that I'm assuming weren't taking drugs.

@wheemsie

7 ай бұрын

He was abusing Adderall hardcore and made them take it as well.

Wow ! Wow!! So many parallels to my own experience!!!

Wow, master manipulator. Scary😮

@kathyadair8552

10 ай бұрын

It's akin to Stockholm Syndrome, too. Like, Coercive Control is at the level of crime of being in a Concentration Camp, I think I heard the other day. ... I feel it's as bad, or worse, than 60+% of All rapes. Yes. They have an agenda. Thank God, Romantic Love wasn't involved! It was still more complex and convoluted than anything I'd ever encountered, in my life. Two Trum|bian Bros. Before, I even knew he was running. A Coup of Mom's Estate, after my husband died. Or, should I say, an HAI cut his life short, in 2014. The 2nd. Hospital Acquired Infection, took him out! After, they'd already put MRSA in his Brain. The 1st time. All these men are incompetent and/ or Criminal. My brothers are Both. They Lost Mom's Home, they're so useless, mentally challenged and lazy.

Thank you for sharing your incredible story, many people will be helped by it!💜

Dr. Ramani, I feel your positive energy through the screen.

God bless you Felicia! You are an inspiration to many!!

What an amazing conversation!! I learn so much and I felt validated at the same time. Thank you for sharing your story and thank you Dr. Ramani. ❤

Please take your exam. You can do it & become an amazing Dr. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

This one of THE most important and revealing and enlightening stories. Soooo very, very sorry Felicia and the others that ever crossed paths with this demonic waste of space. Thank God she is still healing. God bless. 🌹

Dear Dr. Ramani. I am listening to these podcast in addition to your youtube videos and reading your books. The podcast is especially helpful in helping me to piece together my personal story- a long history from 3- 62 yrs of the good the bad and the ugly. My struggle is in holding the truth about people whom I loved, but treated me so cruel. I struggle to be the person whom i once was- with the bright light, the joyful spirit- the light's dimmed...i want it back. I miss me. So, i race here to Dr. Ramani's podcast to hear people like Felicia tell their story- and, by which i hear myself. Thank you.

This was heavy, quality content. Ty to Felicia for sharing her story🙏🏼 I learned and also got a bit emotional. Ty Dr Ramini

I feel like he kept asking her to go out & “have sex with strangers” as a way to keep her with him. She sure as hell made it clear that she wasn’t about that life! Talk about a crazy manipulative psychopath!! Ugh 😣

Wow! Insanely evil people!

What a strong and beautiful soul and woman! God bless her and keep her safe and stronger by the day.

1:45:07 "shame is a prison."

She said there was an Alarm in the beginning but quenched later. Same with me, several majoe red flags and huge alarms initially that I overriden soon and moved on to accepting and seeing the positive 😢

fostering a doubt in yourself. in oneself.

This psychopathic imposter needed Felicia's medical background in order to legitimate him. It didn't add up otherwise... given the lack of sexual relationship.. but still keeping her under his coercive control. Disgusting.

This sounds so much like my own story it is so validating to hear that another intelligent capable woman has gone through this. I have been beating myself up for the past year for being “such an idiot” etc. thank you so much Dr. Ramani and Felicia for sharing your story. It gives me hope that some day maybe I can heal

Yeah I learned so much of this. Larry was like Satan

DAMN. OMG. I understand this stuff exists, yet still hard to believe. Never heard of this evil man until part 1

Romance scammers operate similarly- calls all the time to love bomb & get target addicted, THEN then unreasonable requests