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  @no_peace18 сағат бұрын

  One of the main reasons for clutter and hoarding is non-mental illness related disability. You need to differentiate between these causes before you start telling people to do inner work. Disabled people need material support and accommodation and have already been pathologized enough about how our issues are our own fault because we didn't try hard enough. We LITERALLY need to change the environment and what's outside, NOT what's inside. It's the entire key to sustainable change. I did not have the support or accommodations I needed and my house was messed up because of it. I started to get my needs met by outside changes and now my house is clean. Be careful what you tell people

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  @rosieE1215 күн бұрын

  I realized that much of my clutter comes from past with having my space stolen from me. The clutter serves to protect my space.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia4 күн бұрын

  @rosieE121 High five for your realization! Now you have opened a door to the freedom that awaits you :)

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  @rosieE1214 күн бұрын

  @@declutteryourlifewithtonia it is a big step. I think that next step may be to find a better way to keep my space. Seems so hard. Put up "no trespassing" sign in my living room?

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia4 күн бұрын

  ​@@rosieE121 I love your sense of humour. Try completing the steps in this video and also check out the same process for your inner world. kzread.info/dash/bejne/jKKE2LyOqdayYdY.html

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  @lolabongola5 күн бұрын

  interrupting ads… wont use it again

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  @user-sy1xm2eu5m5 күн бұрын

  Can’t take the background music😢 it gives me a headache

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  @cindymeredith24936 күн бұрын

  Nothing worse than doing a meditation than when ad interrupts it!!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia5 күн бұрын

  @cindymeredith Thanks for letting me know! I looked into it and unfortunately I can't change it yet and will once the function is available on my channel.

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  @kierstinl37876 күн бұрын

  i love your calm voice and approach. My anxiety just decreased and finally i have found someone who understands. I have started my decluttering and organizing journey and I cannot get over "something". This video was life changing and I will be watching the rest of your videos.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia6 күн бұрын

  Oh Kierstin, this warms my heart! Thank you so much for sharing, this is why I created this channel. To give people different options to get to the core of why they are holding on so they can be free to live in the present moment. Keep me posted with how things go :)

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  @erikabossie6 күн бұрын

  ❤ I was stuck on a negative thought spiral about colleagues and social media. Talking to my husband and a good night sleep helped. It was good to recognize it and express my feelings.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia6 күн бұрын

  Sleep is a great reset and so is sharing and getting the support you need! Thank you for sharing your experience of getting unstuck.

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  @erikabossie6 күн бұрын

  @@declutteryourlifewithtonia once you are in a negative mood whatever reason, it is hard to get anything done!

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  @patrickkovac830510 күн бұрын

  Hey Tonia, just wanted to say your content is really helpful and amazing, and i resonate a lot with it. Thanking you for the value and healing from your amazing work.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia10 күн бұрын

  Hi Patrick, thank you so much for sharing and you are so welcome, it's my pleasure and passion! I'm so glad that it is so helpful on your healing journey!!!! I have some great topics coming up that will help around staying in ventral vagal that goo beyond simple nervous system exercises.

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  @patrickkovac830510 күн бұрын

  @@declutteryourlifewithtonia Sounds good Tonia. Hopefully this channel grows and more people can reach your work. Your presence is calm and soothing.

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  @BrittanyLynnOfficial11 күн бұрын

  I love your channel. Thanks. Glad I found it. ❤

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia10 күн бұрын

  I'm so happy to hear that, it means a lot. I'm glad it's resonating with you :)

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  @KJDogluv12 күн бұрын

  Decluttering absolutely works. Go watch Dana K White, and change your incorrect title.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia12 күн бұрын

  You might want to watch the whole series from this playlist starting with why therapy doesn't and get a better sense of the overall message and approach.

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  @kierstinl37876 күн бұрын

  You can declutter and declutter and it will come back. As Max Paxton says from Hoarders, first therapy. Then ppl can heal and not keep going back to the same patterns.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia6 күн бұрын

  @@kierstinl3787 Thank you Kierstin! This is why I take a holistic approach. When I started 10 years ago, each week I went back to a clients the mess was there again. It only goes away unless you get to the root of why it's there.

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  @dianeensminger3815 күн бұрын

  She is speaking so low, or volume is so low, that it is stressful to listen.

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  @user-jt2nf6fg4hАй бұрын

  Going to try this.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtoniaАй бұрын

  Great! Let me know how it goes.

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  @gtatours1542Ай бұрын

  After 6 decades one gets set and trapped in their ways. That was me. I have had the great fortune of personally working with Tonia and even the stubborn me sees changes that are life altering. What greater investment in ones own self can you make than by investing, no matter it be time, money or energy. It takes time but , like altering the body, re-calibrating time management and de-cluttering, changes for the better will happen.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtoniaАй бұрын

  Thank you for sharing! Change can be very challenging especially when we are so used to being and doing things in a certain way. I'm glad that you are seeing the benefits with your commitment to change, grow and being open to something new!

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  @sandi52762 ай бұрын

  your video is too low for volume. I checked; its not my system.

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  @SreeProshntoBiswas2 ай бұрын

  Hello, I've been keeping an eye on your KZread Channel and I'm genuinely impressed by your achievements

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  @akela17972 ай бұрын

  Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I Just Want to point out that when you' Say "this Is not a meditation, because you' are really present and aware, you' are not trying to relax", you are actually saying what real meditation Is about. Meditation Is in fact awareness of oneself, presence, observation of whatever sensations might arise in the body without judging.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia12 күн бұрын

  This is very true, focusing adds another aspect where you are in relationship with something that wants your attenetion. I highly recommend reading Eugene Gendlin book on focusing.

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  @user-jt2nf6fg4h2 ай бұрын

  Really like your decluttering approach. Still new but so far so good

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Thank you!

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  @AndreeaT30032 ай бұрын

  I found your channel this morning and I really resonate with the way you explain. Did you make any video on how to give back the shame to the perpetrator? I really need to give back a lot of shame… Thank you!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Thank you so much for the feedback AND for the idea. I actually didn't do a video on this and would be happy to. I'll make and note and do my best to do it soon.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  @AndreeaT3003 check out this video for now. Giving back the shame can be done indirectly as well. kzread.info/dash/bejne/ooKVuqiqlLiTaMo.html

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  @AndreeaT30032 ай бұрын

  Thank you. After I posted the question I listened to your whole series of Releasing the Shackles of Shame. I really appreciate your work.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  @@AndreeaT3003 Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback, it means a lot.

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  @AndreeaT30032 ай бұрын

  Thank you for this.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  You're so welcome. I'm glad it's helpful. I'll be doing more in the spring. Let me know if there is a topic you'd like me to do.

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  @evadebruijn2 ай бұрын

  ✌️

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  @stephenlehardy2 ай бұрын

  Very interesting and useful. Thanks!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  You're welcome! I'm glad that you got something out of it!

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  @ColorMeConfused292 ай бұрын

  What community?

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  @Salmonoff2 ай бұрын

  This is beautiful!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Thank you. It was a very touching thing to witness.

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  @smallhouseinthemeadow61312 ай бұрын

  I have a friend who is such a sweetheart that I love spending time with, but who often wants to meet in a store( except for one time when we went to a museum). I find that I wind up buying something every time that I see her and spend money that I don't really have to spend. She always mentions that she is a "bad influence", because she tells me that I "should have" whatever I am looking at.Yesterday when we met, I set my intentions beforehand that I wanted a clean and uncluttered home and that I have everything that I need. I wound up window shopping with her and I didn't spend a dime, but still had an amazing time. I have been an on and off minimalist for 15 years, but someone who always allows to clutter to creep back in so I am so glad that I found your channel, as it will keep me honest and allow me to be cognisant of my behaviors that keep allowing my home to become cluttered agin.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Thanks for sharing your story! It's a great example of noticing a pattern, setting a boundary and finding a new way to approach the same situation. High five! Now see what other patterns you notice that will help you let go of the clutter, even see what you notice in your body when it comes up along with the thoughts and beliefs.

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  @smallhouseinthemeadow61312 ай бұрын

  This is such an amazing video.Thank you SO much!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback and glad it's helpful.

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  @Llorali2 ай бұрын

  Could you expound on what you mean by seeing if that matches? 8:25 Also, asking yourself - what is that whole thing around ‘my friend’? Meaning, that could be an example of the trauma you’re connecting with? Or friend - meaning the part of your body that’s asking for attention? 7:26

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  @Llorali thanks for the great questions! I'll do my best to explain in message form. SEEING IF THERE IS A MATCH: - is when you've connected with something inside of you, something that came up when you thought about a particular problem OR decided to sit and see what came up and wanted to be looked at (given attention to) - THEN you try to describe this something that you notice - once you describe it, you check to see if it matches the felt sense ie. you feel something in your chest when you think about work. Then you describe it as tightness and compressing and see if that matches the felt sense around work - when there is a match to what you are experiencing and how you describe it you may feel an aha moment, a physical/energy shift or nothing other than yes, that's right

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  @Llorali for the other questions What is that whole things around 'my friend'? - the part of the video that you referenced I was referring to how you connect with what is showing up in that moment. You sit with what is there without trying to change it, keeping it company as a companion or how a friend would sit with you - if want to ask yourself "what is that whole thing around my friend", yes this is a great example to connect with a trauma and see what the body is ready to tell you AND what part of you needs attention. Let me know if that helps clarify:) -

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  @ashodkassabian82362 ай бұрын

  Thanks for your suggestion

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  @ashodkassabian82362 ай бұрын

  Important subject but your background music is so loud and your whispering voice is not comprehensible at all. Sad!

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  @Llorali2 ай бұрын

  Just get yourself past the first 30 sec and you’ll be fine

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Ok, double thanks to both of you. I'll be sure to put the music lower in the next video. I have a new mic and still trying to figure out the best set up. Thanks for the feedback!

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  @emaric9942Ай бұрын

  No music is much better. Music not needed. Your voice is enough. Good video, thanks.

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  @AnEsotericMind2 ай бұрын

  This is really beautiful Ty so much for freely sharing this. Somatics is giving me my life back.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Thank you! I hear you on that and so glad it's changing your life!!!!

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  @justinxxd2 ай бұрын

  For the last few weeks I have reduced my personal belongings by fifty percent and I became aware of the issue when I had to unexpectedly move. I'm so glad for the internet and the sense of community that there is. I grew up the poor kid and I called it poverty trauma cause I didn't know what else to call it and I didn't know there was such a thing because because this behavior has been normalized by the older generations that taught me. I knew that just getting rid of stuff was not gonna fix the problem because It wasn't the stuff in my way that was the problem. It was why was it there to be in my way in the first place. I've noticed as I shed off the old knee that there is so much resistance when I talk about this subject to certain people. I'm doing all this because it has brought so much happiness and I cannot imagine my life without this happiness that I have felt in the last few weeks. More so I could not imagine going through my life and only discovering this happiness when it is too late and leaving it for someone else to clean up when I'm gone.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  Hi Justin, thanks so much for sharing your experience and high five for your awareness and challenging the beliefs you grew up with! And for seeing the why behind why you were holding onto things. I see so many things for you to celebrate in what you shared, including moving through resistance and not leaving a mess behind for others. Taking charge in this way will continue to bring you happiness and drive you to what you want to create in your life now!

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  @user-mc8qo4ug8w2 ай бұрын

  Thanks, Tonia.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  You are very welcome!

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  @PeggyVandePlassche2 ай бұрын

  Thank you Tonia ❤

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  @PeggyVandePlassche You're very welcome!

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  @BarbaraSzorad3 ай бұрын

  Therapy is not just "talking". I agree that talking alone doesn't help. As a psychotherapist, EFT practitioner, energy coach, yoga teacher I can bring my relevant modalities into a session. So the therapy works depending on which therapist you choose to work with. ;-)

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  @GhettoBabyGenius3 ай бұрын

  this is extremely helpful!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  I'm so glad! Thank you for the feedback. Stay tuned for the next video that will expand on one of the techniques I mentioned. :)

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  @edwardmylnychuk57743 ай бұрын

  at 77 i have found that the only thing that helped me was feeling hurt and letting it come out and i have seen me on my knees in my living room holding my stomach in pain i was crying so hard,, THAT IS WHAT WORKS and the really smart poeple will tell you the same things, LAUGHTER AND CRYING are two best medicines in the world, therapist like marriage councillors are a joke, they are there to suck your money, after a year of crying and releasing all the hurt i felt i was a new being with a different outlook on life, i still have times when i will put on some music that brings out the hurt and i will cry for 10-15 minutes and then i feel fine, self healing is what works not paying someone to get bored and take your money

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  Hi Edward, I'm so glad that you found a way to process, heal and release your past!!! I've met people who had similar experiences and shared how it changed them. I've also met people and had clients whom being alone made things worse for their healing process. Finding the right fit is key because there is definitely no one size fits all.

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  @innerwoker3 ай бұрын

  Amazing video!!!!! So many trues exposed here! Thanks!

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  Thank you for sharing. It's important to understand why things don't work and what you can do instead that will help you move in the direction you want to go in.

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  @theyinlounge3 ай бұрын

  Yes!!! This is such an important video. Thank you for speaking to this topic! I have a 45 minute EFT Tapping basic tutorial and many Yoga Nidra (and other Yoga) sessions on my KZread channel: youtube.com/@theyinlounge?si=q1vwAH9dkxjl0xne 🩷❤️🧡

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  @pianodesu3 ай бұрын

  What do you think about Somatic Experience and Peter Levine?

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  It's a wonderful technique! Focusing is very similar to it and I look forward to being formally trained in somatic experiencing once I complete my training with focusing.

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  @MichelleMeier-nb3qp3 ай бұрын

  When is it time to learn to have friends? I don't trust anyone right now, even people who say they are trying to help. Too often they have an agenda of there own and it's not what I want to do with my life

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  This is something that happens slowly when we don't trust. It can happen with a professional, a friend or even with a pet animal. Finding a way to reconnect with others is fundamental to healing and it's finding the best way for you. All the best!

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  @Rudelherz2 ай бұрын

  I thought the same thing, but then also I had to admit, that it is because ppl don't do/behave how I want them to. My expectations didn't match reality and that is what hurt me, not them necessarily. There are still ppl who help wholeheartedly, I know because I do, when I see someone in need/feel sorry for someone. BUT I will end my help ASAP when I sense ppl using me / continue to stay /do whatever brought them into the miserable situation. It is not because I have an agenda, but self-protection. Also it won't help them and I can't change them nor won't I. So I assume there are others like that, trying their best and being empathetic to a certain degree. If we don't try to trust we will end up only trusting our pets😂 it is what I currently do, haha, and my husband. But I know I am slowly healing and need to be humble about my own faults and the disappointment I might have been to others. We all have. It was THEIR expectations that missed my understanding. Many misunderstandings and arrogance will add up to this. In German a disappointment is called a 'de - deception' / de-illusion' it is actually a GOOD thing!😂 We have in combined with pain and tears when it should free us and be helpful. I can so relate to you, but I will work on it. Still love animals more than ppl 😂😂😂

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia2 ай бұрын

  @@Rudelherz Thank you for sharing your experience. Expectations can definitely get in the way of things and tuning into what you need can help. All the best continuing to build your trust with others and focusing on not changing others 😀

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  @melanienolan4983 ай бұрын

  Great information. I'm trying to listen on my laptop with volume at max and the audio is too low, especially with the soft, almost whisper life talking.

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  Thanks for the feedback! I got a new mic and still seeing what the best set up is. I'll look into it more for the next video.

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  @mariainespuigchinet3 ай бұрын

  I really wish that therapist stop talking in "letters" like EMDR ...etc.Explain what the words means would be great. Just saying ...for ignorant people like me🙄

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  Thanks for letting me know!!! I'm actually going to do more video's on different methods and will be sure to explain the meanings and how they work in more detail. EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing.

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  @whyscott3 ай бұрын

  Because they are brainwashed

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  @sandi52762 ай бұрын

  @puigchinet - *you* must be self-accountable to move forward and grow. Don't know what an acronym or phrase means? Look it up for yourself; don't burden others with the *steps you need to take to achieve self knowledge. I do; it works.

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  @pianodesu3 ай бұрын

  I think 'EMDR looking at finger' doesn't work either and is placebo effect or snake oil. This psychotherapist explains why kzread.info/dash/bejne/go6h2M1sYMqwdbQ.html

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  @Artsence553 ай бұрын

  This is amazing thanks this needs more views

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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  @simonanasseema10473 ай бұрын

  Why would you say that therapy does not work?

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia3 ай бұрын

  Hi Simona, thanks for your comment. This title is based on Eugene Gendlin's research on why therapy doesn't work. I'll be doing more video's on his work and his technique called focusing. I also reference that talk therapy alone does't work and specialized trauma therapy techniques are most effective. See chapter "what therapies do work"

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  @sylvieducharme41733 ай бұрын

  I love it!

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  @SreeProshntoBiswas3 ай бұрын

  Your argument is really appreciated

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  @paulwl31594 ай бұрын

  Thank you for the great content but PLEASE could you use a microphone- ALL your videos are not easily audible-thanks

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia4 ай бұрын

  Hi Paul, thanks for the feedback! I use a mic and will look into options to improve the sound.

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  @gabrielaluz59494 ай бұрын

  Commenting again about how much your videos have been helping me. Just hearing you talk is so calming. I really like the way you organize and express information. Are you a therapist? Do you do any kind of one-on-one sessions /coaching? I would love to if I can afford it. Cheers from Brazil ♥

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia4 ай бұрын

  Hi Gabriela, thank you for your kind words. I'm so glad that these are helping you!!! I do trauma coaching online and you can book a free 30 minute clarity call here if you like. calendly.com/toniatss/30min?month=2024-01

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  @gabrielaluz59494 ай бұрын

  Thanks ♥

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia4 ай бұрын

  You're so welcome! Enjoy 😀

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  @gabrielaluz59495 ай бұрын

  Thanks for your wonderful content. It's been really helping me these days when I don't feel very powerful. Cheers from Brazil ♥

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  @declutteryourlifewithtonia5 ай бұрын

  Ah, that means so much to me. I really appreciate the feedback. Good news, I'll be doing a series on EFT tapping for the inner critic then one for letting go. So stay tuned :)

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  @gabrielaluz59495 ай бұрын

  @@declutteryourlifewithtonia thanks! I've just activated the notifications.