For the last few weeks I have reduced my personal belongings by fifty percent and I became aware of the issue when I had to unexpectedly move. I'm so glad for the internet and the sense of community that there is. I grew up the poor kid and I called it poverty trauma cause I didn't know what else to call it and I didn't know there was such a thing because because this behavior has been normalized by the older generations that taught me. I knew that just getting rid of stuff was not gonna fix the problem because It wasn't the stuff in my way that was the problem. It was why was it there to be in my way in the first place. I've noticed as I shed off the old knee that there is so much resistance when I talk about this subject to certain people. I'm doing all this because it has brought so much happiness and I cannot imagine my life without this happiness that I have felt in the last few weeks. More so I could not imagine going through my life and only discovering this happiness when it is too late and leaving it for someone else to clean up when I'm gone.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

Hi Justin, thanks so much for sharing your experience and high five for your awareness and challenging the beliefs you grew up with! And for seeing the why behind why you were holding onto things. I see so many things for you to celebrate in what you shared, including moving through resistance and not leaving a mess behind for others. Taking charge in this way will continue to bring you happiness and drive you to what you want to create in your life now!

Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I Just Want to point out that when you' Say "this Is not a meditation, because you' are really present and aware, you' are not trying to relax", you are actually saying what real meditation Is about. Meditation Is in fact awareness of oneself, presence, observation of whatever sensations might arise in the body without judging.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

23 күн бұрын

This is very true, focusing adds another aspect where you are in relationship with something that wants your attenetion. I highly recommend reading Eugene Gendlin book on focusing.

This is really beautiful Ty so much for freely sharing this. Somatics is giving me my life back.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I hear you on that and so glad it's changing your life!!!!

i love your calm voice and approach. My anxiety just decreased and finally i have found someone who understands. I have started my decluttering and organizing journey and I cannot get over "something". This video was life changing and I will be watching the rest of your videos.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

17 күн бұрын

Oh Kierstin, this warms my heart! Thank you so much for sharing, this is why I created this channel. To give people different options to get to the core of why they are holding on so they can be free to live in the present moment. Keep me posted with how things go :)

This is such an amazing video.Thank you SO much!

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback and glad it's helpful.

Thanks for your suggestion

One of the main reasons for clutter and hoarding is non-mental illness related disability. You need to differentiate between these causes before you start telling people to do inner work. Disabled people need material support and accommodation and have already been pathologized enough about how our issues are our own fault because we didn't try hard enough. We LITERALLY need to change the environment and what's outside, NOT what's inside. It's the entire key to sustainable change. I did not have the support or accommodations I needed and my house was messed up because of it. I started to get my needs met by outside changes and now my house is clean. Be careful what you tell people

Thanks, Tonia.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

You are very welcome!

Important subject but your background music is so loud and your whispering voice is not comprehensible at all. Sad!

@Llorali

3 ай бұрын

Just get yourself past the first 30 sec and you’ll be fine

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

Ok, double thanks to both of you. I'll be sure to put the music lower in the next video. I have a new mic and still trying to figure out the best set up. Thanks for the feedback!

@emaric9942

2 ай бұрын

No music is much better. Music not needed. Your voice is enough. Good video, thanks.

Could you expound on what you mean by seeing if that matches? 8:25 Also, asking yourself - what is that whole thing around ‘my friend’? Meaning, that could be an example of the trauma you’re connecting with? Or friend - meaning the part of your body that’s asking for attention? 7:26

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

@Llorali thanks for the great questions! I'll do my best to explain in message form. SEEING IF THERE IS A MATCH: - is when you've connected with something inside of you, something that came up when you thought about a particular problem OR decided to sit and see what came up and wanted to be looked at (given attention to) - THEN you try to describe this something that you notice - once you describe it, you check to see if it matches the felt sense ie. you feel something in your chest when you think about work. Then you describe it as tightness and compressing and see if that matches the felt sense around work - when there is a match to what you are experiencing and how you describe it you may feel an aha moment, a physical/energy shift or nothing other than yes, that's right

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

3 ай бұрын

@Llorali for the other questions What is that whole things around 'my friend'? - the part of the video that you referenced I was referring to how you connect with what is showing up in that moment. You sit with what is there without trying to change it, keeping it company as a companion or how a friend would sit with you - if want to ask yourself "what is that whole thing around my friend", yes this is a great example to connect with a trauma and see what the body is ready to tell you AND what part of you needs attention. Let me know if that helps clarify:) -

Can’t take the background music😢 it gives me a headache

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Decluttering absolutely works. Go watch Dana K White, and change your incorrect title.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

23 күн бұрын

You might want to watch the whole series from this playlist starting with why therapy doesn't and get a better sense of the overall message and approach.

@kierstinl3787

17 күн бұрын

You can declutter and declutter and it will come back. As Max Paxton says from Hoarders, first therapy. Then ppl can heal and not keep going back to the same patterns.

@declutteryourlifewithtonia

17 күн бұрын

@@kierstinl3787 Thank you Kierstin! This is why I take a holistic approach. When I started 10 years ago, each week I went back to a clients the mess was there again. It only goes away unless you get to the root of why it's there.

She is speaking so low, or volume is so low, that it is stressful to listen.