Working With Resistant Clients: 5 More Tried and Tested Techniques
I've worked with a lot of resistant clients in my time, so much so that I have more tips to share following on from my first video on dealing with client resistance - watch that video here:
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This time I use an example from a hypnosis workshop I taught many years ago, where I encountered not a resistant client, but a resistant and skeptical volunteer for a hypnosis demonstration. Watch the video to find out how I overcame the resistance by putting the volunteer in control, with a little help from Dr Milton Erickson.
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Video highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:12 Milton Erickson on resistance
02:40 A resistant volunteer
04:27 How to deal with client resistance
06:44 5 general considerations when dealing with what seems to be resistance from a client
06:53 Tip 1. Reframe the idea of control
08:22 Tip 2. Allow for any response with greater choice
11:25 Tip 3. Use permissive language
13:57 Tip 4. Give credit to your clients
15:20 Tip 5. Encourage the resistance, then direct it towards helping them
17:25 How I established my volunteer's real need
20:33 Going with the flow that's been given to you
22:29 My amazing lesson in resistance
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One of the best videos I have ever seen about resistance. A combination of wisdom and poetry.
I enjoyed hearing Mark’s inner thoughts during the volunteer story. He seems like a down to earth person with a great sense of humor.
I'm no therapist at all, but a resistant client myself. Listening to your story was humbling, both you and my own therapist are way more resourceful and subtle than I currently am (or consider myself capable of being). Thank you so much for your thoughful content, it has, indeed, helped me. May you have a wonderful weekend, Mark.
Amazing that she cooperated with you in the end! She just wanted to be recognized.
Thoroughly impressed with this strategy and being able to respond so well to the resistant participant in the moment. Very helpful. Thank you.
I love how you use stories
@owenwaldo
6 ай бұрын
work together with client sense of control and Choice suggestive but unsure language give credit, even oppose your own achievement use resistance as a tool
The introduction was epic
You are the most unhateble person in this world mr. Tyrrell 😊
This is great. I hope to become as skilled as you as I venture toward a degree in Mental Health Counseling. Thank you for helping teach fellow therapists.
Mark is amazing at his skills ❤️
I find it particularly interesting how people resist the positive and not just the negative which brings about tension in our narrative. “ a denying of our best side, of our talents, of our finest impulses, of our highest potentialities, of our creativeness. In brief a struggle against our own greatness” Abraham Maslow. To compliment this quote I also like the idea derived by Nietzsche where we ignore our higher selves because when it speaks it speaks in a demanding voice. It is all too easy to sit and watch television all day and at the end of it all feel terrible, but the step towards a goal can also be terrifying.
Useful and instructive. Thank you!
Thank you for the wonderful lecture!
Found your channel because my 2 best friends are therapist and as u can imagine they give me LOTS of advice about my life lol ur videos are good, sincere and honest
@commonsense5188
3 жыл бұрын
2 friends that are therapists. That's pretty cool.
😊 wonderful video! Thank you!
Great anecdote. I bet you said 'touché' to yourself after that. 😂
Thank You ,as always highly informative + appreciated!!
Very helpful thankyou 👌🏾
Brilliant! Have you ever lost your cool with a client and how do you repair?
Amazing! Invaluable. And an amusing story! Thank you.
Thank you ❤ 🙏 Awesome 👏
VERY INSIGHTFUL,,, THANK YOU!
Hi Mark, I have difficulty processing the thought that I could ever let anyone else guide me into saying or doing things ( giving control). I have been a part of a conference where a hypnotherapist demonstrated their skills on an individual, thinking similar to the psychiatrist in your session. The issue is that I am about to complete my master's in psychology I feel I will miss out on an important skill that could help my clients. What can I do to deal with this resistance?
@tatianahawaii13
2 жыл бұрын
You are hypnotized all the time - watching movies / reading books which give you emotional responses.
Thank you as always...:-)
Outstanding video! In September I'm starting my coaching course here in Holland. By watching and learning from your videos I'll be well prepared.
I'm a 'resistant client' I find though that it's the therapist that shuts down on me when things get complex, it's too complicated for me and also the therapist, they politely shut down on me, I notice it and I shut down a little bit more and that's kind of the end of the therapy. I'd love to go deeper on it but I find no therapist well, maybe it would be too draining for them, but I'm so determined to get well I don't want to quit
I think hypnosis works for addiction Mark but not ptsd that I've got. My brain is traumatised so sleeping techniques wouldn't work on me, and I've tried everything else.
@discover_hypnosis
3 жыл бұрын
Have you tried Rewind therapy?
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So here 10:12 I like the dramatic change on the close-up
But Uncommon.............all women are like that! LOL hahahah;;;;;;No way you are married!
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