That practice made me cry because I'm so burnt out from work cultures that doesn't respect the employee's boundaries. This was an eye opener!

I had a professor tell us that if a potential employer says we are one big happy family, run the other way. Big red flag of a toxic work environment.

Work is not your family 💯

I try to work as lest amount of hours possible, I will not be on my death bed wishing I had worked more hours. My passions are martial arts and piano which I milk for what it's worth.

Just recently started my own business and my had been struggling with emotions felt from former colleagues who didn’t rush to support me like I did them when they started their own business. It hurt me deeply, like when a loved one betrays your trust. I ended up letting go of that reality with a bit of difficulty. Now that I’m here watching and pondering on this talk, I whole heartedly agree, accept the new insight…(one I wish I had found just a year ago) and witness this to be true. I’m now saving love for loved ones, and kindness, respect and boundaries for colleagues, clients and associates. Business is a much happiest professional place. Thank you!🙏🏻

We're a family is a red flag

This couldn't have come at a better time. I've been working at the same "we're like family" company for 3+ years. I made the mistake of getting closely attached to my co-workers (invited to kids' graduation parties, sent me flowers after I had gotten in a car accident, etc.), but have been wanting to leave as there are no growth opportunities and I'm not inspired by what I do at all. I haven't left because everyone is so nice (especially my immediate supervisor who has become like a big sister to me), and I know they would take it personally. But that's my fault - not theirs - for not setting boundaries. So I've been in self-imposed misery for the past 3 years instead of just leaving. Listening to Gloria's TedTalk is exactly what I needed. Time to move on and move forward.

@gmac123

Жыл бұрын

Good for you. I hope you've found a new role by now!

@jsoul6647

Жыл бұрын

I was in the same exact position. When I decided to move forward and got a great new opportunity, some "work family" showed their true colors and it was disappointing. Some cheered me on, and some were complete haters and unsupportive to my growth. Best of luck! I feel free now and excited for a new beginning.

@jessicamessica2271

11 ай бұрын

It's nice that you found a place that was actually good to you. But for me, any place that sais our workplace is a family has never been a functional family lol

Company when you initiate resignation: you need to render a 30-day notice / Company when they terminate employees: you're no longer our employee effective today.

This speech is pure truth

making work our "family" seems like another piece that we try to add to our identity. Similar to "I am a mother" "I am a wife", etc., instead of realizing that we can just BE ourselves, without feeling the need to attach to anything.

@haritikanand8502

Жыл бұрын

But we attach ourselves to our relational roles because they are rooted in and imbued with love and connection..those things widely affect our lives and become tightly and deeply ingrained to it... So isn't such "attachment" inevitable and why should it be avoided rather than embraced as a very intrinsic and primary part of human nature.

@janetslicer3637

Жыл бұрын

@@haritikanand8502 I think you missed the point and I don't mean any disrespect by this. Are you male, again no disrespect, but you may be looking at it from a different perspective.

@tangerinetangerine4400

Жыл бұрын

Some women can't function without seeing themselves as mothers and wives and it's very sad when children grow up, move out and divorce happens. That can never be easy but I see some women lose their entire identity and purpose when that happens. They just sink. Yes we humas are a social species but too much dependence on these labels is a devastation waiting to happen. You have to know who you are and know your worth before you are a wife or a mother or a friend.

@haritikanand8502

Жыл бұрын

@@janetslicer3637 i am looking at it from the perspective of impact...the impact and meaning of a bond or a relationship over our lives. It doesn't matter whether i am an or a woman in this scenario.

I love the sports team metaphor. A bit of fun, with even a bit of professionalism that's more about focus and getting better, in the time you're in the game or practice. But we see examples of sports professionals having balanced lives, actually using the big money they make, it's a good touchstone.

Watching this in the night at 11PM after such a long working hours 😵‍💫

Including myself I must admit this very feeling now Hits me to identify within my furniture which took standards of taxation an rendering onto whom is to be rendered. Hello Global People whom payed the way for us as we have had inclined our unseen reminder that Work is not Family.

God bless U and thank U for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us. 🙏

This is very interesting and I completely agree with this. I identify with all of the points mentioned. Awesome job!!! 💯

Timely. Thank you.

Excited to hear about this.

Godness! I will show this video my boss.

So true. Eye Opener. Must be shared, must be used to self reflect. It’s about time..

Your talking was amazed me thanks sister 🫰❤❤

Work should be your family, because every family should start a business that they can work together

Exactly what my current employer said the day of my interview. Yet, 8 years in, they let go 8 employees both voluntarily and involuntarily.

i needed this, thank you for yours

OMG Gloria, it seems that you are talking to me directly. I am that person! I really have to re-evaluate my life.

I would add work is not your second home. I just cleared all the personal stuff out of my office. I’m not quitting but I just realized that all I need in my office is the stuff I need to do my job. I have family pictures on my phone and don’t need the “quirky” stuff that shows my personality or interests.

She did such a great job! She would be a wonderful guest speaker for a Team building or a commander conference!!! Would love to have her speak as a guest speaker in our organization!

Ich liebe deine Videos❤❤❤. So kreativ und professionell👍👍👍👌👌. Gut gemacht🌹🌹

I love your videos❤❤❤. So creative and professional👍👍👍👌👌. Well done🌹🌹

This was great!

Very well discussed. Work can have an objective that may opposed to an objective if you are in a family. In the family you can honestly say something, at work you say something that pleases.

Work is not family, unless it's your family business!

Thank you 😊

This made me cry

True!

Mahalo for this needed healthy wake up call.

Thank you for this wonderful TEDx talk. This subject really resonates deep within me. 🙂

I’ve heard “we’re one big crazy family,” so many times in professional settings.

Very interesting, thank you very much

We focus on the "family" part instead of "like". "Like" does not equal "is".

@takimissaoui2888

Жыл бұрын

It should not be "like" a family, it should be like a professional work space. The phrase "like a family" gives you the illusion that it's okay to be exploited, and that you are making a noble sacrifice. And that's not true, you're just risking your health so that the company can generate more profit.

No one wants to go back to the office after covid so we don’t have to pretend to bond with coworkers.

@ChiefJeyEf

Жыл бұрын

Lol but so true. Especially if we can deliver productivity even when we're at home.

@deusvultpictures6550

Жыл бұрын

Fuckin hate the office me, O God I need a 100% remote job

@barbaralynch5139

Жыл бұрын

I have worked in an office through the pandemic and appreciate the social contact. I couldn't stand life as a recluse/hermit, which I would become if I worked from home.

CEOs watching this: 😡😡🤬🤬

Thanks I love you so much

I HATE WORK! I WOULD NEVER CALL WORK FAMILY! THAT IS INSANITY!

@nigelsimon8865

Жыл бұрын

I feel you coz same

@gamingtime4835

Жыл бұрын

Work isn’t your family. But you should find something you love doing 💕

@Decopainterandtea

Жыл бұрын

Find something you like better.

I've never felt obligated to my jobs. I'm replaceable. If I got fired today, my job would be posted tomorrow morning. My jobs are just a way for me to make an income to live a certain lifestyle, nothing more. I'm okay not "loving" what I'm doing. It's okay to be content and find joy outside of work. I'd say most people aren't "happy" at their jobs, so don't try to strive for that. I'd say just find something manageable that works with your circumstances and provides enough income where you can do the things you actually love outside of your job. Now, if you hate your job, that's a different thing, but nothing wrong with just being content.

I'm 17 years, and I'm really scared about how can I apply to collages without wasting time..when I did this activity with you and sayed that your feeling stable and your in the safety line..I really got terrified... I'm really afraid that no one could accept me or I can't earn a job and be independent.. I really need this kind of video..I know I may be silly...but I'm watching this video now at 1:57AM and I'm feeling that im needing someone to help me...or survive I dunno...anyway great video.

@brujo36011

Жыл бұрын

Co workers are just that, co workers! Do like that episode of American Dad "go to work, go home". If u let the vibes of other people get to you at work, thats no bueno bro.

@brujo36011

Жыл бұрын

Oh, and remember this, you are always going to encounter the same type of people on EVERY job. Keep that in mind and you are going to notice. Hope that I could helped a little, bro :)

10/10, 100% agree...although some times, company management also needs to stop calling their employees "assets." It's a big lie when financially, employees (their salaries) are liabilities per GAAP. Too much platitudes and drinking cool-aid

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I’ve been saying this for more than 12 years .

I'm not trying to make friends at work. We work for money and that's all I go to work for.

Exactly work is not my family and never will be that’s why I would never go back to work in person

Yes I like family and also I like money.

But God first and family ✊🏿

Remember if a job ever says we're family here you do not want to marry into that one AKA divorce that job ASAP if you can

Let's w a moment to appreciate how much effort he puts into his contact to entertain'"

@janetslicer3637

Жыл бұрын

What?

I'm sure the ones working lower tier, hourly jobs don't have a problem not considering their workplaces "family". Most can't wait to leave the mf building at the end of the day...

I don t like work but I think family and have child is important

I have yet to be laid off or furloughed by my family. I hate when businesses try to push that “family” narrative.

This lady is spelling jewels

If we’re like family then I’m in a fing cult.

@a.j.infowars7582

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the family.

It's true, all companies are like family... If they don't want you, they will abort you.

Hi! 😊

@paulraymond890

Жыл бұрын

Hi Kintiyura How are you today?🌺🌺

Primera

""Work is not you family ""... So true...then you don't need family....

@abdelkerimbrahimbadradine4736

Жыл бұрын

Is not about you don't need family but, don't mix work and family

@alijaji876

Жыл бұрын

Family is everything in this life

Dear my friends who are reading this, we may not know each other but I wish you all the best in life! ✨ Stop blaming yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious 🥰 all the key to happiness is in your hands, so open it up 🔓 Love You! ❤️.... ❤️

11:36 11:44

What's wrong with just getting on with life? It's quite easy really - try it some time. Cheers Stuart.

In other words, if you come from a strict Asian family of try-hards, good chances you will end up a try-hard at work too. Our behaviours are - indeed - based on previous experiences. And where else do we gain them as unconsciously yet eagerly if not in the family?

@janetslicer3637

Жыл бұрын

So true.

Hi everyone who found this early

@akshaytyagi7998

Жыл бұрын

Whosoever has clicked on bell icon

@havalrahmed

Жыл бұрын

Hi Sarah, just seen it

@masteringlife404

Жыл бұрын

Hello there

@najlz2403

Жыл бұрын

Such an amazing listen! This is the best I have come across so far.

Yep work is not your identity

This has nothing to do with the "work is family" culture :p this was about burnout. Yikes.

Boooooooring!!