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@rababal-zayad7172

5 жыл бұрын

LoveAllah328 can you post the video “a father’s love for his son”

@zainabulghazali

5 жыл бұрын

Jazakallah for uploading this......it makes me strong .... Alhmdulillah :)

@alikhansahab8356

5 жыл бұрын

Subhan Allah

@mdshahnawaz9315

5 жыл бұрын

Maa shaa Allah vry informative

@melissameyer3148

5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes my husband makes me feel bad when i dont get things done fast enough , but i tried to kill my self cause i had enough , but he stop me and i love him but i dont want to leave him cause we have a child together and i dont have no one else. But ur advice is very good thanks, i showed him this and now hes better and changed . Allah ho

More of these talks to be done at mosques where man can hear this

@AkAk-we8co

5 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@W0MANiTY

5 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! Less attention on women and more on men!

@putrik6498

4 жыл бұрын

Here in my country, the qutbah almost always about women. While most of the jamaah are men. Disgusting.

@muazmahiz7870

4 жыл бұрын

True

@iinutami8839

4 жыл бұрын

@@putrik6498 which country u living here too in Indonesia 😂

These speeches should be at the wedding party ..

@emotionpictures19

3 жыл бұрын

True. And mainly instead of asking kubool hai , they should ask , will you be loyal ?

@Annie-ce8jl

3 жыл бұрын

Ofcourse !!!!!!!!!

@emotionpictures19

3 жыл бұрын

@@Annie-ce8jl correct, but there are men too who suffer ,

@lovelife-dt4tq

3 жыл бұрын

nowadays the money only speaks..

@Maryam-pr7vv

3 жыл бұрын

True true True

I was abused for 11 yrs in my marriage, but Alhamdu Lillian I got my divorce and am doing very well

@hawwaahmed772

5 жыл бұрын

# Mr.Olive so happy for you, may Allah continue to help you. And remove us from our own abusive relationships.

@MrOlive-ku6yr

5 жыл бұрын

@@hawwaahmed772 allahummah aameen

@ks.8567

5 жыл бұрын

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

@SaimaKhan-xx7pg

5 жыл бұрын

You are lucky to done your divorce I am still waiting please pray for me .

@MrOlive-ku6yr

5 жыл бұрын

@@SaimaKhan-xx7pg don't lose hope, Allah is with you and hear your duas, keep praying and as help from him. Don't look at yourself as a loser, you are more than a shinning pure gold, keep fighting and you will be there soon, May Allah make it easy for you, ameen.

I was part of Roman Catholic Church from childhood ( I grew up in it ) but I find myself reading and studying these teachings they are so insightful and I find myself now in the process of conversion I’m very thankful that God guides me to him and is with me regardless of my previous faults, the Quran has taught me so much on how to be a better person to improve myself

@shabanaazam8382

5 жыл бұрын

Welcome to Islam.

@Sana_khan.96

5 жыл бұрын

May Allah guide us all..Aameen :)

@fatimareveredo4005

5 жыл бұрын

Maa shaa'Allah..

@fatimairene6393

5 жыл бұрын

Allahu Akbar. Welcome to Islam brother. ❤️

@maheenshaikh7209

5 жыл бұрын

Allah swt guides everyone .. m happy you chose the right path ♥️ May Allah bless all of us. Ameen

Abusing women when you have little physical advantages over them?when your supposed to protect her? Wait till Allah show you whos all powerfull

@yusufislam9886

3 жыл бұрын

donna davis watch 107 lies of Cp on farid responds

@redlilly2584

3 жыл бұрын

i am a girl myself...but i hate girls because i was bullied by girls at university they were jealous of my looks and beauty... i dont know why but its enough i dont feel empathy for any girl.. u ppl stop acting like women r angels.. some are very jealous dangerous cunning cold negative toxic why the hell would any one think women or girl are innocent or victim..??

@soccer90tem80

3 жыл бұрын

@@redlilly2584 lets say those Girls Who bullied you now gets abused by someone and you could help them wouldnt you feel emphatic towards them?

@soccer90tem80

3 жыл бұрын

@@redlilly2584 stay strong ❤️

@onlineteacher9171

3 жыл бұрын

@@redlilly2584 Hello Cute Girl, I am here for u . U talk with me..... Please Girl, I am Sad for you.. I want to see Happiness in ur Life .......

"when your wife and your children know you to be a fraud, then you are a fraud even if society puts you on a pedestal that is false", best quote ever.

@mirahotova8850

3 жыл бұрын

*Only 18* 👇👇👇 425851.loveisreal.ru

When a man physically or emotionally abuses his wife, he is no longer a man, he is also completely worthless, it is that simple, vice versa.

@bowilliam3865

3 жыл бұрын

And vice versa

@mehh6969

3 жыл бұрын

unusual score that is YOUR experience. on average domestic abusers are men.

@mehh6969

3 жыл бұрын

unusual score “manipulate the system against women” what? and you’re acting as if every woman does report domestic violence. a lot of them are threatened with their lives or blackmailed before they even make it to the police station .😐

@tahina1473

3 жыл бұрын

@unusual score huh, what did you even say? I'm so confused lol

@mehh6969

3 жыл бұрын

unusual score there is a 50% that you deleted your own comment. and explain to me how are women supposed to hit men when we are on a average shorter and not so strong as them. most of the government is men so why are u saying that women “manipulate” the rules? you clearly don’t have any sources so you say that they are fake, a classic. you are a clown for thinking that women manipulate stuff while they can’t do anything without their husbands in saudi arabia.

1. Do not be rude in speech (3:159) 2. Restrain Anger (3:134) 3. Be good to others (4:36) 4. Do not be arrogant (7:13) 5. Forgive others for their mistakes (7:199) 6. Speak to people mildly (20:44) 7. Lower your voice (31:19) 8. Do not ridicule others (49:11) 9. Be dutiful to parents(17:23) 10. Do not say a word of disrespect to parents (17:23) 11. Do not enter parents’ private room without asking permission (24:58) 12. Write down the debt (2:282) 13. Do not follow anyone blindly (2:170) 14. Grant more time to repay if the debtor is in hard time (2:280) 15. Don’t consume interest (2:275) 16. Do not engage in bribery (2:188) 17. Do not break the promise (2:177) 18. Keep the trust (2:283) 19. Do not mix the truth with falsehood (2:42) 20. Judge with justice between people (4:58) 21. Stand out firmly for justice (4:135) 22. Wealth of the dead should be distributed among his family members (4:7) 23. Women also have the right for inheritance (4:7) 24. Do not devour the property of orphans (4:10) 25. Protect orphans (2:220) 26. Do not consume one another’s wealth unjustly (4:29) 27. Try for settlement between people (49:9) 28. Avoid suspicion (49:12) 29. Do not spy and backbite (2:283) 30. Do not spy or backbite (49:12) 31. Spend wealth in charity (57:7) 32. Encourage feeding poor (107:3) 33. Help those in need by finding them (2:273) 34. Do not spend money extravagantly (17:29) 35. Do not invalidate charity with reminders (2:264) 36. Honor guests (51:26) 37. Order righteousness to people only after practicing it yourself(2:44) 38. Do not commit abuse on the earth (2:60) 39. Do not prevent people from mosques (2:114) 40. Fight only with those who fight you (2:190) 41. Keep the etiquettes of war (2:191) 42. Do not turn back in battle (8:15) 43. No compulsion in religion (2:256) 44. Believe in all prophets (2:285) 45. Do not have sexual intercourse during menstrual period (2:222) 46. Breast feed your children for two complete years (2:233) 47. Do not even approach unlawful sexual intercourse (17:32) 48. Choose rulers by their merit (2:247) 49. Do not burden a person beyond his scope (2:286) 50. Do not become divided (3:103) 51. Think deeply about the wonders and creation of this universe (3:191) 52. Men and Women have equal rewards for their deeds (3:195) 53. Do not marry those in your blood relation (4:23) 54. Family should be led by men (4:34) 55. Do not be miserly (4:37) 56.Do not keep envy (4:54) 57. Do not kill each other (4:92) 58. Do not be an advocate for deceit (4:105) 59. Do not cooperate in sin and aggression (5:2) 60. Cooperate in righteousness (5:2) 61. ’Having majority’ is not a criterion of truth (6:116) 62. Be just (5:8) 63. Punish for crimes in an exemplary way (5:38) 64. Strive against sinful and unlawful acts (5:63) 65. Dead animals, blood, the flesh of swine are prohibited (5:3) 66. Avoid intoxicants and alcohol (5:90) 67. Do not gamble (5:90) 68. Do not insult others’ deities (6:108) 69. Don’t reduce weight or measure to cheat people (6:152) 70. Eat and Drink, But Be Not Excessive (7:31) 71. Wear good cloths during prayer times (7:31) 72. protect and help those who seek protection (9:6) 73. Keep Purity (9:108) 74. Never give up hope of Allah’s Mercy (12:87) 75. Allah will forgive those who have done wrong out of ignorance (16:119) 76. Invitation to God should be with wisdom and good instruction (16:125) 77. No one will bear others’ sins (17:15) 78. Do not kill your children for fear of poverty (17:31) 79. Do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge (17:36) 80. Keep aloof from what is vain (23:3) 81. Do not enter others’ houses without seeking permission (24:27) 82. Allah will provide security for those who believe only in Allah (24:55) 83. Walk on earth in humility (25:63) 84. Do not neglect your portion of this world (28:77) 85. Invoke not any other god along with Allah (28:88) 86. Do not engage in homosexuality (29:29) 87. Enjoin right, forbid wrong (31:17) 88. Do not walk in insolence through the earth (31:18) 89. Women should not display their finery (33:33) 90. Allah forgives all sins (39:53) 91. Do not despair of the mercy of Allah (39:53) 92. Repel evil by good (41:34) 93. Decide on affairs by consultation (42:38) 94. Most noble of you is the most righteous (49:13) 95. No Monasticism in religion (57:27) 96. Those who have knowledge will be given a higher degree by Allah (58:11) 97. Treat non-Muslims in a kind and fair manner (60:8) 98. Save yourself from covetousness (64:16) 99. Seek forgiveness of Allah. He is Forgiving and Merciful (73:20) 100. Do not repel one who asks (93:10)

@sheriffabibiessop1444

5 жыл бұрын

Aleksander Blinn : thank you for the very comprehensive list of " do's " and " don'ts " as contained in the Quran. May Allah reward you for your effort. From South Africa

@thazeenvideos4601

5 жыл бұрын

Alhamdulillah jazakallahukhaira

@maalikwholaughs3941

5 жыл бұрын

I thank you Brothers for writting all of this down. Inshalla Allah rewards you.

@tahirhussain2994

5 жыл бұрын

Nice work

@zubimaliga

5 жыл бұрын

Aleksander Blinn thanks for sharing

This is good advice to all the people not only Muslim people.

@hazlimohamed9312

5 жыл бұрын

Yes Lily, you are right!

@shi2996

4 жыл бұрын

That's why all the people should become muslim. So everyone knows that taking care of your wife and children is an obligation.

@myriemjaziri6167

4 жыл бұрын

Alhamdulillah.

@tybaroseanne5913

4 жыл бұрын

exactly

@FlyQai

4 жыл бұрын

All Islamic advice is good for everyone. No matter what u believe.

Summary of the video: 1. She should leave him if he abuses her physically. 2. Leave him , If he demeans you by using foul language and emotionally abuses you. 3. The Prophet during his final sermon warned men to fear Allah in regards with their women. Men will be answerable to Allah in regards to their treatment of their wives. 4. Women who are being abused should not blame themselves and should not tolerate abuse of any kind.

@shimmer4771

5 жыл бұрын

Funny how many men seem to forget that. A Muslim man said husbands are encourage to treat their wives well. It's not a choice. It's a duty. Why do you think people who abused children get punished? It goes both ways. Just to be clear. Several sisters said they were mistreated. One woman said her husband locked her out at night, forcing her to beg for food.

@SilentNinjaaa

5 жыл бұрын

Great reminder from the Sheikh and thanks for summarizing it all in one comment. Brothers and sisters should both treat their spouses respectfully.

@idrippulse6740

5 жыл бұрын

Jazakullah

@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543

5 жыл бұрын

@@shimmer4771 but also recall majority in the hellfire are women because they are ungrateful and lie to men/ husbands, do gossip & curse. what you said is true but its usually cultural like with sufis who learn abuse and grave worship from shias who usually aren't Muslims. but sunnah doesn't teach that! So don't forget that these men are raised by women many who could selfish too and emotional and didn't practice The Prophet gave the example a man is good to his woman for x amount of years and after one flaw says i never seen any good in you. so we see the problem and id it and find a solution both ways. because it takes 2. Returning to the sunnah helps both but many woman say i am to proud to listen to my husband i am modern, well then modern men don't need women which is a shame because ignorant and bad trends come and go, so you have to be balanced!

@shimmer4771

5 жыл бұрын

@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 There are women who obey their husbands and get abused. I've witnessed it. I understand the problem with modern women, but remember not all women are like this. I'm saying this cause one woman cooked, cleaned, and took care of her kids and her husband yelled at her, beat her, and did other horrible things.

I was abused for over 6yrs in my marriage, both physical and emotional, Subhanallah!! I even thought of ending my own life at some point cos I couldn’t tell anyone about it, I was dying in silence... but Alhamdulillah I finally summoned the courage to end the marriage! After ending the marriage my whole family neglected me cos they said I shouldn’t have left for the seek of my kids but I had to leave for my own life,my sanity. And ever since then Allah has been taking care of me 😊 Alhamdulillah ala kulli Hal... I pray my 2nd husband will better than my first cos I really want to marry again but am very scared how my second marriage will be! Pls pray for me

@karinarahma5659

5 жыл бұрын

You did the right thing sis! I know a family member who had the same situation as u, and she was devastated, the worst thing is she thought of ending her life but DONT! Cause Allah always taking care of His servants, alhamdulillah her 2nd husband is way better than the first, he's treating her like a queen, and she's been so happy that Allah has given her a better gift. I hope u will find the righteous man who will lead u to jannah as well insyaAllah 😊

@isabelleadam8717

3 жыл бұрын

you dont need a second husband. Try to find your inner peace and you will be happy. learn and travel with your kid (if u can afford it). make good memories with your kid. Sorry if i sound rude im a not an adult, but im really sick of this mentality or this idea that "'a women needs a man, a women is not completed without a man, she can only be happy or fulfilled with a man.'" women specially muslim women need to learn self respect. And no offence but what's the chance that you wont end up again in an unhealthy relationship ?

@aijazahmad2815

3 жыл бұрын

My wife abuses me emotionally all the time. She's actually a revert but she continues to follow unislamic things. Despite of forgiving her numerous times, she doesn't mend herself. What should i do?

@umairrana4026

3 жыл бұрын

May Allah grants you a good husband , and good family, which makes your this world after , really good , best of luck sister.. AAMEEN

@sucreecakesnmore7774

3 жыл бұрын

Karina Rahma Thanks so much I really appreciate it! And Ameen to your prayer for me, I wish you the same too! JZK

When you mentioned about such men all I remember is that my mom lived a horrible life because my dad was abusive (physical and emotional), and everytime she tried to get help no one believed her because he was a good man outside and I have PTSD because of everything I went through . I really feel that no one should be treated the way my mom was treated. And I see that alot of Muslim men around me inflict trauma on there women and I really hope things to change.

@littlesz4121

5 жыл бұрын

How is ur mom now ? Even my dad sometimes scolds my mom alot and it is always because of the second wife ! Since he married her , nothing is same 😭💔💔 i hope u'r mom is doing well now In sha Allah ❤

@daylabs4696

5 жыл бұрын

@@littlesz4121 she copes everytime by the grace of Allah I wish that you and your mother have a very prosperous and safe life ahead

@littlesz4121

5 жыл бұрын

@@daylabs4696 just know that there's always gonna be good days after bad days ! I pray to God that u guys get rid of all the bad things that u r facing ! In sha Allah everything will b fine ! And thanks for the sweet prayer ! Ameen .. and may the same happen with u also :)

@mohammadsultan4155

4 жыл бұрын

Pray for both of them brother

@methib3306

4 жыл бұрын

I’m living with a narcissist husband in mental and physical abuse from 38 years. I’m so afraid of him that I can’t open my mouth and so are my children.

My son and I was abused physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially for nearly 10 years. I finally left and feel much better Alhumdulillah.

@shayalmaj5543

3 жыл бұрын

Im happy for you, I wish and pray for my mother and I to leave and be free too but it seems impossible now..

@rabeyaakter114

3 жыл бұрын

great decision sister.May Allah (swt) bless you and your child in this world and the hereafter. although you should've done it earlier

@Snoozziing

3 жыл бұрын

Shay Almaj Don’t give up! It might seem impossible, but Allah will make a window of opportunity for you even if you think otherwise. You can do this! You got this!

@ochalambana1983

3 жыл бұрын

This is what I have been facing for almost 9 years. Now I'm also processing my divorce papers. In Sha Allah, Allah will make the judge give the custody of my daughter to me completely since my husband has been abusive the entire marriage. Please anyone, please please please pray for me that I will win the court hearing and that the judge will give me the custody of my daughter completely for me. Aameeen

@shayalmaj5543

3 жыл бұрын

@@ochalambana1983 Trust in Allah's plan insha allah you will both find your peace and freedom

What about the brothers who abuse curse and disrespect their sisters.emotional abuse is not only done to wives but also to many sisters..

@hiyou8147

4 жыл бұрын

Yes I agree

@afreenkhan3185

3 жыл бұрын

I am also victim of continuous emotional abuse, blackmailing, mental torture and forced marriage.... I want freedom from this marriage.. Please pray for me

I feel sad for sister who are not happy with there husband may allah help you all with your life problems

@JahannamHellfire

3 жыл бұрын

Never, never and never trust others! I'm a convert to Islam, from my past life before Islam I met many people and I've seen many things in my life so please don't trust others, my ex husband told me to make haram with his friend so he can watch me with him SubhanAllaah and I said no, my ex husband was Muslim!. My husband now tricked and lied to me into polygamy marriage with so many lies and his wife dont know about me SubhanAllaah. The Prophet Muhammad pbah didn't lie and trick women into polygamy marriages! Please don't trust noone, Muslim dont mean they fear Allah swt.

@margauxtepartage

3 жыл бұрын

Amine ♥️ baarakAllahufik brother

@redlilly2584

3 жыл бұрын

i am a girl myself...but i hate girls because i was bullied by girls at university they were jealous of my looks and beauty... i dont know why but its enough i dont feel empathy for any girl.. u ppl stop acting like women r angels.. some are very jealous dangerous cunning cold negative toxic why the hell would any one think women or girl are innocent or victim..??

@SJDA615

3 жыл бұрын

Ameen

@afreenkhan3185

3 жыл бұрын

I m Victim of forced marriage.. Please pray for me, i want freedom from this marriage... But i can't take divorce... Or else i will lose my parents....

My father also used to abuse my mom bt now ALHUMDULILAH HE CHANGED HIMSELF because of me.... I'm only daughter of him....and I remember once I told my dad that I never wanted to get married cuz I don't want life partner like him I told him that he doesn't give me a good example of marriage nd husband and I asked him that how will he feel if I get an abusive husband (nauzibillah).....He realised his mistakes and changed himself ....and I really appreciate my mother and her level of patience subhan ALLAH ....nd Ma sha Allah she got Everything she deserve ❤️

@fatimab6064

3 жыл бұрын

My father is the same but he didnt change...rather he indirectly tells me to accustom my mind to having a husband like him. And now I hate marriage...i'll probably never do.

@mdking7283

3 жыл бұрын

@@fatimab6064 sister try to make him understand by telling him authorized hadiths and why its is wrong...tell him that its gonna affect the view of people negatively who doesn't follow islam....and its a major sin ... doesn't matter how much you pray pay zakaat what so ever if you are not good with your women ....thn everything is gonna vanished....thn what use of this much hardwork?? Tell him what prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) told us about this topic

@mdking7283

3 жыл бұрын

@@fatimab6064 and don't hate marriages .I can understand why you hate it.....bt not every marriages endup in same ways 😇

@fatimab6064

3 жыл бұрын

@@mdking7283 Have told him everything. He even reads Quran himself but makes out his own interpretations that benefit him. I guess his heart is sealed. Any discussion turns into a heated argument...so I have stopped. Just pray for me and my family sis.

@mdking7283

3 жыл бұрын

@@fatimab6064 In sha Allah every thing will get better .ameen summa ameen don't worry ❤️

None of any scholars never ever made a speech on the wives rights like this. Let men hear this. Most of all consider wife as a unpaid servant who are ought to do what ever husband demands. She is supposed to tolerate her husband physically, mentally and emotionally... Sooo ladies there is a hope of ray in islam... You dont need to sacrifice ur life for a worthless person.

@alokumkum4060

3 жыл бұрын

O man who you are .i wish my mother realised those things. She has been tolerating for 23 years

@m.m5436

3 жыл бұрын

That’s not true. Yknow scholars of Islam aren’t just people who learned little of islam they are super smart people who studied Islam for years. Even yasir qadhi only considers himself a student of Islam. As for the preachers of Islam, idk who you’re listening to but most of them I hear criticize those who think they can mistreat wives. Nouman Ali khan, Omar suleiman, mufti Menk and many many others who follow the sunnah of the prophet know that the wife is not an unpaid servant because they learned that from the prophet. K get your trying to praise yasir qadhi for saying the truth but let’s not demean the efforts of what it takes to be a scholar or Islam and let’s not look down on all scholars. “ non of any scholars never ever made a speech on the wives rights like this” I can’t believe what I’m reading whenever marriage is brought up in a khutbah whether it’s at a mosque or on KZread they mention the rights of wives and responsibilities of husbands. I mean this is really a horrible and horrifying exaggeration, even if you’re ungreatful for the efforts of the other preachers you make it sound as tho the scholars of Islam aren’t educated/there is little to no requirements to become preacher or even worse if your implying that even one of the schools of thought think in this way. I mean I heard some preachers who don’t really sound that nice to females but I never heard one claim that this is what the prophet taught. I understand many men oppress their wives but that doesn’t mean the preachers aren’t telling them not to. Let’s not blame lack of faith and knowledge of the oppressors on those trying to educate people on our deen.

@saishonokaze3462

3 жыл бұрын

@@m.m5436 didnt nouman ali khan abused some women himself? Idk if its true but it was on an article

@ochalambana1983

3 жыл бұрын

This is the conditions of the many wives in my country, the tradition here dictates the women to serve men and tolerate their actions and abuses as the way to please Allah. The men here,many are demanding the wives to accept their abuses or if they don't, they'll discipline them with even more abuse. Women are perceived as free servants as in no need to pay them. Many also don't get treated like wives as in given their time to have good chats with their husbands. Those generations are older generation people but what's making things worse it that they too teach the children to be like that and think that that's the Islamic way. So if a later generation tries to speak that that's not the Islamic way, they'll make fun of them and even treat them like they are enemies of something. That's how it is in my country esp in rural areas. In the city, many wives suffer too but from different type of abuse. So it's like nowhere to go, sometimes I feel it's better to just be by myself.

@armochawn2407

3 жыл бұрын

There is one and I respect him very much,Mufti Menk,search for him,mash''Allah,his speeches also very nice and gets into your mind and heart very fast.

I got divorce from my x husband 5 years back after 6 months of marriage. People blamed me for not being a patient wife. They said he provides you all basic needs of life. Food،clothes and shelter. Why are you taking divorce??? He doesn't hit you even. But only i knew I was every moment emotionally abused. He made me depression and anxiety patient. I went on medication.. I survived this divorce trauma after 5 years. Now I feel blessed. I pray InnshaAllah Allah will give me the best husband now.

@petrichor499

3 жыл бұрын

Ameen

@HobbiesWithAisha

3 жыл бұрын

@@petrichor499 thank you dear

Please preach this to the community, the women's families, relatives and also the mosque people who force women to stay in such marriages and unleash harsh and harmful treatments upon them.

@priyankahabib8378

4 жыл бұрын

@@lamia7661 Definitely everyone needs to start talking about this and other issues that plague our communities, especially the Middle Eastern and South Asian communities. It's high time for at least some things to change. Simply talking about it won't change anything though, serious and sincere actions are urgently required, and it starts from our ownselves, our own homes and families.

@katyflame3668

4 жыл бұрын

Priyanka Habib Very true. Family and relatives pressure , financial depedancy and social stigma forces these women to suffer as well as the children who have to grow up in such families where the mother can’t / doesn’t take any action. There are women who are so stuck in narcissist marriages that exit is really difficult.

@shaistaijaz2019

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

I was a mentally and emotionally and financially abused by my husband before i took Khula. Everyone kept saying have sabr and keep making dua and forced me to live a shitty life with a horrible narcissist till I started thinkint of sucide .... but then sanity prevailed and I applied for Khula

@ventee

4 жыл бұрын

👌 happy for you sis ما شاء الله .

@BiaTeen29

3 жыл бұрын

You are so much better off without him sis! I'm in the same boat as you and trying to find myself again ❤️

@fatimab6064

3 жыл бұрын

May Allah bless you.

@PrincessArab18

3 жыл бұрын

My sister too has gone through the same situation, this society always judged us 😭 it’s really sad May Allah give you Sabr and a good husband when you remarry

@alimowlana8375

3 жыл бұрын

Same here.. But the quazi asked me to go for fasah.. And my husband has not still granted divorce

I went through these days , i prayed and seek Allahs help and He is the one who Has been taking care of me. I love my creator.

@konok82

4 жыл бұрын

R u bangali?same to me.

@sanaahanaa5475

4 жыл бұрын

Same, sister. Alhamdulillah

@whyyou6918

4 жыл бұрын

Alhamdulillah 🌹🌹🌹

@ruheenashah6625

3 жыл бұрын

Sohani Mehzabin. I don’t know about what Sohani means in Bengali. May be pleasant. But please don’t use “J” as “Z” and “Z”as “J” . your name should be Spelt “Mahjabeen’ Mah means Moom and Jabeen means Forehead. Meaning a person having a moon like shiny forehead.

@SohaniMehzabin

3 жыл бұрын

@@konok82 yea

after hearing this im so relaxed to make a decision now.... blessed ALHAMDULLILLAH!

@emiliafayed8365

3 жыл бұрын

Me too ,, it's time to walk away from misery

@margauxtepartage

3 жыл бұрын

May Allah give you goodness and ease my sisters

The one about them having two faces... I know many Muslim men who know so much about Islam and the Qur’an but don’t show it in their actions... they beat their wives, are not kind or have any of the values a good Muslim is supposed to have... if you just have the knowledge but don’t really understand what it means... then what’s the point?

@iramakhtar4070

5 жыл бұрын

The only real point if knowledge is to show it with actions. As they say actions speak louder than the words. Knowledge is power in the greatest way possible if it's not abused used and twisted for the person's own benefit. Allah is all seeing and all knowing of everything always he knows what's happening and what is the real intention of the persons heart and mind Ameen.

@ramani.a.8138

4 жыл бұрын

Exo Solo Making accusations is always easy. But to bring and generalise these examples is wrong. Islam has nearly 2 billion people! Many Islamic states are permanently in the dark, sparked by major powers. To call such acts from war zones and say one is Islam is neither objective nor fair ! When was the last war of aggression in which an Islamic State attacked a Christian state/country? 200 years or more ! But in Islamic State dictatorships were established by the West, monarch for what??? To have control for decades and generation-to steel their minerals, oil and other think! They made the 11 September in order to have Islam in general suspicion and all the easier to go from war to war without evidence but with rushing and mere assertions. Their own people are also messed up only a few elites get richer and richer the people pays blood tolls ! This charge is about as al would accuse Jack the Ripper of being a pickpocket he is criminally !!! Over 200 get in 200 years that means not a year without war ! Or they have a war business. Colonialism was consistently a Christian business to this day it continues ! This people bring to others Democracy !

@hudakhan5009

4 жыл бұрын

I m suffering likw this from one type of hypocrite being an Imam Of Masjid 10 years over to marriage suffering very bad torture emotional and physical abuse. I cant express knowing knowledge of deen being an Quran Hafiz.. Staying out dfrrntly with respect to all bcz he is imaam but in home very harsh bad man opposite of outisde inside home no one can imagine.. Plz pray may Allah help me to come out from this everyday torture 😭

@etherealenergy9471

2 жыл бұрын

What will end random beatings from men is when these women realize they can defend themselves against them. I wouldn't be surprised if a woman has had enough that she stabs them in their sleep one day. These men want control over a person they will never love them.

@etherealenergy9471

2 жыл бұрын

@@hudakhan5009 I will pray for you, but my advice is to leave don't stay there these people can kill you eventually who cares what your family has to say they don't love you if they want you to live like this. You are not living you are just trying to survive day by day. Allah is no who you think he is.

After 10 years now I understand that I was abused by my husband. 😞

Ever since my divorce and I have been looking everywhere online to listen or read something about emotional abuse in Islam, Allah SWT knows my pain and He SWT sent me this video at the right time. AlHamdullillah. Jazakum Allah khair.

But where are these good men?

@fayaqun0

5 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to be one.

@shanjoeria2676

5 жыл бұрын

😁 me hv 1 Alhamudullillah

@adnanhaseeb5106

5 жыл бұрын

This good men will come from good parents may be they are less in numbers but they exists

@lubnasart6955

5 жыл бұрын

Within us

@fatma-et4yk

5 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣 just a few and they are hard to find

It's really hard to end abusive marriage. Only those will understand who is in abusive relationship. Divorce is not easy without any support

@syedabadar4158

3 жыл бұрын

I agree and I am in the same situation, I have had one of the best marriage alhamdulillah and since a woman came between us my marriage has fallen apart and only sake of my children I am carrying on with my marriage.

@etherealenergy9471

2 жыл бұрын

Well you people care to much about what your family thinks people here in the USA will abandon family if they want you to live like that. This is not a family that loves you if they don't care about your well being.

A man who abuses his wife ..... He proves what kind or tarbiyat he got in his life by his famly and he gets blind no fear of Allah and akhiraat....

@IndianRider24

4 жыл бұрын

But if women cheat her husband than what man can do ..tell me ??

@SK-hd1yk

4 жыл бұрын

Siraj Official can talk things out, can divorce, there are many options. But abuse is not an option for both sides.

@BiaTeen29

3 жыл бұрын

@@IndianRider24 there's a problem here when you're trying to find reason for being able to beat a woman

THANK YOU FOR THE BEAUTIFUL MESSAGE .🙏🙏🙏🙏ONLY A WOMEN WHO IS GOING VTHROUGH THIS HELL CAN UNDERSTAND HOW COMFORT AND COMPASSION BRINGS THIS MESSAGE...THANk YOU.

@aneesfatima980

4 жыл бұрын

👍

Brother May Allah bless you,your the first islamic scholor who have spoken the truth fearlessly,Really bro,today respect for you is unlimited in my eyes...

La ilaha illa-lla hu Muhammad-dur Rasullu-llah La ilaha illa-lla hu Muhammad-dur Rasullu-llah La ilaha illa-lla hu Muhammad-dur Rasullu-llah La ilaha illa-lla hu Muhammad-dur Rasullu-llah

@surayyaibrahim180

4 жыл бұрын

Alhumd Lilah I have one of them

@abubakrsiddiq330

4 жыл бұрын

Indeed

Masha Allah, for this video, iam relaxed and happy that iam not alone in this. Any time i complain i was told that it's a man's world i should just take it....I was emotionally abused in my marriage, my husband treated me like Gutter. In order to make me feel terrible he refuses to speak to my children and transfers the hatred he feels 4 me to my children.... Masha Allah, my husband's emotionally abuse pushed me to learn how to reside the Quran where i found my peace....I have realized Allah loves me and my children and if Allah doesn't degrade me no human being can make me feel worthless the world was created for all of us.

@lovelife-dt4tq

3 жыл бұрын

when u have sabr also when it is really hard maybe you will get Jannah for your Sabr

Bruh my father literally did everything but my mom has a lot of patience

@whisperingwhiskerss4877

4 жыл бұрын

😞 sorry to hear that May Allah grant her Jannah for her patience

@rabii3983

4 жыл бұрын

MirrorMommy آمین

@shaaz78

3 жыл бұрын

Same with my mom

That's what my father did to while harassing me.😭 Now I feel like I can never be normal. Please prey Allah make him as helpless as he made me feel.

@naziahussain2225

3 жыл бұрын

What pained you so much dear

@mehrinkhan5606

3 жыл бұрын

Tell you mom n get professional help in this regard. Plz ask someone trustable for help.

What a wonderful talk. I think this needs to be broadcast on all TVs so that people know what to expect from relationships and Islamic ruling on safety, mental health and domestic violence. May Allah bless this brother in so much abundance for khutbah. Ameen.

May ALLAH SWT PROTECT US FROM ALL TYPES OF ZULM

I never understand it why they abuse, do they honestly not think their wife can walk away??

@etherealenergy9471

2 жыл бұрын

It is worse if the wife stays one of these days the wife will kill them. The abusers are likely narcissists all about control over a person not love.

We need more messages like these for our sisters and those who judge sisters for being divorced. Barakallahu feek.

I have been left in sicknes, waiting for my dad. Dr gived me only 1 jear max. They left me for dad. Toghter with my doughter. First they obused me menthel for years. Then they took my bed outside the door Also he was waiting for the money from the security. If i dy he will get money. But it is oke now. I fight back. Even i do not see My daughter. I now this is a test for all of us. Make sure you do your best. The rest Is up on Allah

I wish I could show this to my abusive dad but he doesn't speak english.. Ughh the struggle

@tutigseg

4 жыл бұрын

Praying from God for your dad to improve is a much better solution than this video :)

@cashmoneylady1

4 жыл бұрын

@@lamia7661 thanks a lot, he speaks german and a little turkish

@GardeniaInc

4 жыл бұрын

Oh..if that happen then use someone he respect the most to advise him..better directly speech..islam give solution to human..usually scholar will ask did you or family pray??what source of income to feed family or if do riba.. etc bcs those can give effect to human life.

I’m glad I stumbled upon this bcuz I see women who justify abuse from their husbands and tho idk their situation, they believe that they should stay in that marriage and forgive. I don’t think abuse in any form is acceptable. May Allah protect us all.

@urwashahid9210

4 жыл бұрын

I am going through abuse in my marriage. I can tell you why those women stay. Its because that abuser first kills her self worth and make sher believe that this is the best she can get. In my situation, more than my abusive husband, my mom convinced me that no one else can bear me other than my husband he is a great man and im the one with the problem. She manipulated me tk highest degree. Until help came from Allah and now I have a support worker helping me to flee his abuse by making a safety plan. I still have sympathy for this man who has no regard for me. I fear using the police to tleave but that seems to be the only option

@etherealenergy9471

2 жыл бұрын

@@urwashahid9210 I'm sorry you have to go through all of that. You have toxic relationships, and family you are smart for wanting to get out none of that is love. People need to know what narcissism is, and yes you are worth more than you can imagine. That is why they want to destroy you as a person you are a beautiful soul.

Verbal abuse & negative criticism is sometimes worse or similar to hitting as well & causes more strain in marriage , so it could be from one to another & in this case the one who initiates it first is the abuser for sure.💫

I do not know this speaker but it IS SO GOOD to hear a brother address’s this issues that the muslim community would rather sweep under the carpet. Physical abuse happens more than we’d care to think but emotional abuse is rife. I unfortunately suffered both but mainly emotional abuse. It comes down to the fact that such brothers have their own unresolved issues and take them out on their wives. Big up to this brother for addressing this. This shouldn’t be a one off, it should be continuously addressed so that the next generation can have a better chance of having healthy relationships in shaa Allaah.

Praying for all the women and children who are currently suffering from abuses caused by their husband or father. May Allah SWT give us sabr and protect us from abusive men.

Very important message in this video for everyone who gets to be abused behind door ! 👍

@khalidabegum100

5 жыл бұрын

Agree! It happens behind closed doors, and the different face he shows to the community.

Only if I had the courage, I would've left him, long time back. Only if I knew, even emotional abuse is also an ugly form of abuse and isn't forgivable and it isn't "ok" for me to tolerate it, because I already have 2 sons and it continues till date (and now, both my sons are 18 & 19 years) and for some very unfortunate reasons, I'm going through this toxic marriage/relationship. But you know what? I've emerged as a softer person, now I'm a much better mother to my sons, I've become more kind and loving as a mother. And I'm proud of myself for emerging a kinder person. Maybe one day (when my sons are stable enough in their lives, I shall walk away from my husband. One day, perhaps.

@minariaz532

4 жыл бұрын

Hope your ok sister xxx

@yasminali8272

4 жыл бұрын

Believe in Allah..and do what it takes...if staying with him is fine ..then no issues ..but if not..trust Allah and do the needful. May Allah help you ..aameen

@faizasiddiqui6473

4 жыл бұрын

@@yasminali8272 Alhumdu'Lillah, my unwavering faith in Allah SWT have kept me going. Allah is the best planner, I'm waiting in patience and doesn't want my sons to suffer (in the hands of a broken family). Thus, I'm still keeping my marriage intact (for the sake of my children). Allah SWT is indeed our saviour.

@yasminali8272

4 жыл бұрын

@@faizasiddiqui6473 may Allah give u sabr and the rewards Ameen

@faizasiddiqui6473

4 жыл бұрын

@@yasminali8272 Ameen Suma Ameen. Jazaak'Allah Yasmin.

i wish this was taught and preached more often because i was emotionally abused and depressed from the tender age of 9 without the support of my mother who had passed

The kind of husband he's talking about represents my dad completely. A kind and sweet person in front of others and an abusive hypocrite at home.I never realised or acknowledged it since my mum never complains. It is so normalised that even though my gut told me this was wrong I'm forced to think it's normal for people like my dad who were born 50 years from now when it was a norm to treat their wives like that and not speak up because it's at least not "physical abuse". But, I still almost everyday hope I don't get a life partner like that and InshAllah I won't because I believe I'm the kind of person who'll never let anyone hurt or disrespect me ever. I wish every Jumma Khutbas emphasised on these topics more rather than all about how WOMEN SHOULD DRESS AND ACT while quite literally the speaker and listeners are men.

@farishalp5204

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you sister. My father is also the same. I am praying to Allah SWT that my future husband will never be like my father.

@FutureFendiFsnista

3 жыл бұрын

I get that. My father has abused my mother and my siblings our whole lives. I am almost 29 years old and still have nightmares and emotional trauma from it. My mom is still with him and now she is terminally ill. I feel so sad for her because she suffered her whole life. In Sha Allah, Allah will reward her for her strife in Jannatul firdaous. In Sha Allah, I never want to marry a man like him. If that means I will remain unmarried until Allah takes me then that will be the case. May Allah heal your broken heart and grant you a loving husband and marriage. Amen

Make dua for me.This actually Is my situation! I’m a convert and my husband is very emotionally abusive especially, when I have an opinion, he yells and name calls the way he did befor being Muslim. It hardens my heart and weakenS MY IMAN . I stay Becca we have a sick child that he barely helps me care for, but I want out I don’t love him neither will I allow myself to be vulnerable to him anymore.

@saharatif8170

5 жыл бұрын

@Modest one: May Allah SWT make it easy for you and bless you a peaceful life. Ameen

@hazlimohamed9312

5 жыл бұрын

Sister, it's not good to air this publicly. Go to the nearest kadhi with a chaperon. They will council your husband. InSaaAllah. I pray for you.

@tasnimmia640

4 жыл бұрын

May Allah make it easy for you. May Allah bless your child with complete Shifa my sister. May Allah bless your one with joy and contentment. May Allah change your husband's ways and if not may Allah open your ways. Allah bless you my sister in Islam. Talk to Allah in the language you talk and understand. Allah is with you.

@IsratJahan-vj7ys

3 жыл бұрын

Divorce him....

@rinan4058

3 жыл бұрын

what did u expect converting to islam? the quran says to beat wives in 2 places, and to "ignore her and forsake her in bed"

This message is so Inspirational and very emotional too. This is why this religion is so Very peaceful and calm and spiritual too. Especially how the Muslim Men respect their Womanand how they treat them With so much respect and just so beautiful to see such purity in the Men and the Woman. Allah will Always watched over u all and that u will be blessed also.

This is what im going through right now😭😭😭physically,emotionally abused😭

I was emotional abused for 4 years where my self worth was destroyed and I felt that me dying was gonna make everyone happy, I went into depression and now Allhumduillah 2 years on I’m happy and I’ve got my divorce ❤️

@minariaz532

4 жыл бұрын

Hope your ok.sister xx

@huzeeya

4 жыл бұрын

Mina Riaz Allhumduillah I am thanks to Allah Xx

@minariaz532

4 жыл бұрын

If you need any thing let me know xxx

@huzeeya

4 жыл бұрын

Mina Riaz Awww your so sweet may Allah keep you and your family blessed Ameen x

@minariaz532

4 жыл бұрын

@@huzeeya thank you hun hate it when my sisters are sad may allah swa give us all the energy and answer our prayers in sha Allah

Emotional abuse doesn't show and physical abuse always show.

@sheilaroashan9331

4 жыл бұрын

But it hurts as much if not nore

I was for 37 years . He tried to continue by refusing divorce , so I separated from him .

I was a victim of domestic abuse, I reached out to my immediate family and the Imams but they all told me to stay with him, I stayed with him for 23years as he would continuously say to my mum that he would ensure that the whole community knows how shameful her daughter was and blame her for any issues, I left him when my mum died.. and allhumdolilliah I am so happy now..but I still get told by certain family members that I should go back to him regardless of him marrying someone else, our communities are so bad when it comes to domestic violence

@tasneemmahemooda7077

4 жыл бұрын

U don't listen to anyone am Soo proud of u that u have handled ur life sooo courageously u r an inspiration those who are abusing u for doing this right thing are actually evil people 😠

@rabii3983

4 жыл бұрын

Naz Khan May Allah make it easier for you آمین

@SabaFrida

4 жыл бұрын

You married a NARCISSIST please watch Narc Away you need to watch this channel

@SabaFrida

4 жыл бұрын

Allahs not mad at you. Even if you ask Allah give you a new man I remarried and made everyone angry my new husband at least he prays.

@etherealenergy9471

2 жыл бұрын

Any family members or others that tell you to stay with a abusive spouse are either nuts or don't care about you. It is better to get people like that out of your life if you have to move on, and away from the abuse do that. I know God in heaven would never want us to suffer in constant abuse.

Allah is so merciful he gives u ans through something...i was in a 10 yeat abusive relationship...i left him 2 months ago...but i still used to ask Allah if i have done any wrong to him....and this vid just made me clear i was not wrong....Alhumdulillah

@sophiesjourney1551

3 жыл бұрын

You are very brave mashAllah.

In Pakistan people have a free pass to ridicule and point fingers at divorced women. Most women continue to live with abusive husbands because they know that if they leave them, the society will abuse them. So being abused by one man seems better then being abused by a whole society: men and women.

@putrik6498

4 жыл бұрын

This syeikh has to go to Pakistan to give some jumat khutbah

@motivationlibrary5738

4 жыл бұрын

Same in India

@hafsahkassoo7239

4 жыл бұрын

Lareb Salman agreed 💯

@shahanazsidhan4873

4 жыл бұрын

@@motivationlibrary5738 society...they all are dump people sister...if ur hand is cut the pain is bared by you not them...they find pleasure in abusing others...so listen to wat your heart says..pray to allah...he will show u way...because i am 25 year old and have a son ...and divorced and also live in india..society blames me but i care for my son ...so i left my abusive husband who have multiple affairs that i have wittnessed ...and he dont love us...

@whisperingwhiskerss4877

4 жыл бұрын

That’s just horrible and very true

In sha Allah I can be a better man

I am also victim of emotional abuse from 12 years in my marriage but I can't go for devoric because I am not economically independent I don't know what to do but faith on Allah'.

@marwamojadidi4315

3 жыл бұрын

May Allah SWT help you in sha Allah

knowing this reality about Islam made me feel that my Allah is on my side....people who force me to stay in a abusive relation where my worth is only a unpaid servant...and a slave of his family...these people are my worst enemies

Alhamdulilah, im so glad and grateful that my dad isn't like this: abusive and rude. Hes very gentle and kind to my mom ☺ Its so obvious he looks super happy when he makes my mom laugh. I pray to all my sisters out there that they find a husband who is worthy of them 😍 AAMIIN

but sometimes getting abused mentally is hard to prove it to anybody else. 😔

@SJDA615

3 жыл бұрын

Same happing to me

As salaam wa alaikum. I am going through this now. And I do not know what to do. I met him during Ramadan one year & it appeared we both were on the same page. That is until he proposed to. However I don’t remember a proposal so everyone including family thought we were getting married then I became with child. He had other women behind my back but because they’re in different states nothing was going on and it was in my head. He made me feel so good then he just changed. He always left me home alone and always showing me videos on how a man should treat a woman I done everything it seems like nothing is good enough I do I clean cook care for our children and try to spend time with him but he’s always tired and busy. He refuse to allow me to go back to work and the family are against childcare they want me to send my babies away to his family just so I can work. And I feel like it’s a setup because I broke up with him I got tired of being treated less than or equivalent to our children. The emotional abuse was great it transgressed into physical please make dua for us. We are now not together but why do I feel so bad. When I know my worth. ?

@mohammadsultan4155

5 жыл бұрын

Asset Hotep may You get guidance and make changes in your life for your better So please don’t let it come worst

@manuelundali3884

5 жыл бұрын

Alaykumussalam. I hope you will make it through this situation in shaa Allah. I hope you can have a heart to heart talk with your husband. Or go to a marriage counselor or an imam who could give you plenty of advices

@wafayousaf888

5 жыл бұрын

Have faith on Allah and asked some one to whom you have trust consult to them insha Allah Allah will make youe way and before talking to someone last time talked with your husband about this issue after that whatever u may think is correct u can do it Jazakallah Kahir

@sundes2807

5 жыл бұрын

Oh.. sister. If you had intercourse before marriage… its most important that you repent to Allah first and foremost. Zina comes with many long lasting consequences, be sincere and when Allah forgives you.. everything will get much better and your relationshop. 2ndly don't interpret toooooo much into everything, don't say that he planned everything or set everything up. I am sure he didn't and even if he did, you have no right to judge him... even if he is your husband… it is between him and Allah… okay? not you 3rdly: Don't you want to be loved by your parents? Aren't your parents there for you and gave you all the love of your life. … lived for you? Don't you want your children to get the most of their fathers love, like you did? I am sure your father loved you more than your mom... why feel jealous about it? Your children are your flesh and blood… if he loves your kids sooo much, it means he loves you so much tooo… because your children are a mix of his and your flesh and blood and this is romantic… okay? This is sweet and thats the way it works naturally… your husband and any husband loves their children more than their wives… I think you do too... right? Then why can't he... would you take that away from your husband????? Would you want him to love anyone more than your production? Well if you let a man do what he wants… its obviously it leads to this. 4thly: Control your speech and the way you talk.. because there are always 2 sides to a story.. always. Maybe its the way you talk to him and your speech. You have to look at yourself first.. and identify what's wrong with him...this leads me to the 5th point…. Communication. Without communication a relationship will never be successful… Talk to him and tell him what is bothering you and you will see that you guys were talking indirectly and away from each other, in other words.. both of you interpreted way tooo much… 6thy; Don't gossip about your husband… its going to damage everything... Everything,. believe me... Gossip is the worst talk…Obvioulsy when it is a bad situation and abuse you should share it... but don't spread lies, nor gossip and complain about little things. 7th: Pray with him.. because thats how true love develops :) If you fall in love, you will love it ;) and you will understand all things more clearly. See... no relationship isn't perfect.. no one is.. we shouldn't expect the best from them.. but from ourselves and try to be the ideal spouse for them... it will help them too :) So please reply if something made no sense

@sundes2807

5 жыл бұрын

@@oanasweet5166 haha yes I totally get what you mean...It makes sense...but you know what…. When we gossip or complain.. something I have experienced.. we tend to think about it more and it bothers us more, we feel some type of hatred in our heart which develops continuously- I mean its good to talk to someone about the issues… but not just mention bad things… for the purpose of them being bad… but just find ways to solve it. If I talk about someone... which we all have to do sometimes, I make sure the person is present or that this is shared with them, or I make sure that we find a solution, instead of just talking... because otherwise its nonsense talk. Its good but you need to find a solution otherwise it hurts more. Also talking about the pain is very important... and it must be communicated with the person as it could develop into a heart disease otherwise….. whenever we have something against someone we MUST confront them and tell them... because otherwise misinterepreations arise. … best is to gossip about the person when they are infront of you... it feels great lol. Actually you don't need to explain issues to other people s it tends to be biased a lot of times.. its good if it is abuse or serious… but in other cases.. its between husband and wife and need to stay in the family circle. There is no reason to talk about it outside the spouse relationshop... and its not necessary to talk about someones weaknesses because...... why? hahah No reason, it makes the other person develop negative feelings towards the person being talked about. 😂

Stuck with a narcissist husband for 28 years now seems like no way out specially if u are financially dependent on him and also with a autistic teenager.

@halemakhatun3506

4 жыл бұрын

Same with my mum... she doesn't have family here either. It feels like there's no way out. Not only does he abuse my mum, his other children, and money, but now he's trying to put me in a marriage that I did not consent to. He didn't even ask me whether I was ready let alone asking my mother. We've tried so hard to make him understand his wrong doings but he just won't listen. 83 years old and he's still the same. But Alhamdullilah my mum is strong and is taking a stand on some things like money and the marriage thing. She says me and my sisters are her medicine to keep going. May Allah make it easier for her. InshaAllah things will become easier for you too.

@shazawan3226

4 жыл бұрын

@@halemakhatun3506 thank u so much ,yes I have a young daughter to and boys but he is the one who makes decisions for them but for my daughter it's me who stands up for her as he is not good with her and never accepts his mistake as he is getting older going more crazier ,he thinks that's he is the god chosen one so nobody can say or do anything to him while he is entitled to do everything, lying ,affairs,everything.

@SabaFrida

4 жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to ppl like you cause society blames you despite being pious and prayer

@aishanamubiru6930

3 жыл бұрын

And I tell u abusers don't change. The more they grow the more they abuse their victims. I have stayed with such a man hoping for him to change for years but it seems am hitting on a dead rock. I love my children. Just waiting for the last one to grow a little more before I quit. Its a fact people r in in healthy marriages full of suffering but bearing. May Allah make it easy for us

@asiyasparkles

3 жыл бұрын

@@aishanamubiru6930 Ameen.

I am 13 year old girl and I like listening to these, may they be related to my situations or not. But I will surely take consideration in the future and give advice to my other sisters 😊

@gdhplays3166

3 жыл бұрын

Leave Islam. Your prophet had sex with a 6 yr old when he was 40. Trust me, I used to be muslim. Women are oppressed throughout the whole middle east. Men are allowed to freely abuse women in Islam

@wasimmalik8185

3 жыл бұрын

@@gdhplays3166 Improve your knowledge.You have disguisting thought

@gdhplays3166

3 жыл бұрын

@@wasimmalik8185 Lol. Learn to spell, ingot.

@wasimmalik8185

3 жыл бұрын

@@gdhplays3166 spell does not matters.You need to understand the right and wrong.understanding matters, if u dont understand than u have to suffer.

I am so proud of my father who kept my mother and his 4 daughters like a queen and princesses. Unfortunately, my marriage is bang opposite. Hasbi Allahu wa niyamal wakil.

@ann.z24432

4 жыл бұрын

May Allah gives you sabr n strength sister.

@ayishaks6510

3 жыл бұрын

* . * . ° . × *. ° . * . Ameen *. *

And people asking why Im still not married, well this is why.

@yasminali8272

4 жыл бұрын

Not all men are same... believe in Allah with anything that happens. May He bless you with a deeni spouse if youwish to marry.

Really am among the hypocrites, May Allah give me strength n sabr

It's been 24 yrs now still going through it just for the sake of children he is very sweet and well behaved with people outside home at home he is different.. At this age what should I do? 😔

@nigarsultana1194

3 жыл бұрын

Assalamualaikum...it's been 24 years for me in th same situation....sister....with my 4 kids I couldn't go anywhere or do anything...finally I took legal help...he is stuck now nd seems to understand what I couldn't make him understand for last 24 years....alhumdulillah!..we were much better mentally nd physically in last couple of months...he is also sweet as honey for th outsiders

@nextlifedreams8655

3 жыл бұрын

@@nigarsultana1194 narcissist

@nigarsultana1194

3 жыл бұрын

@@nextlifedreams8655 who is narcissist?

@nextlifedreams8655

3 жыл бұрын

@@nigarsultana1194 her husband They show their fake face to the world and real face to their spouse.

@nigarsultana1194

3 жыл бұрын

@@nextlifedreams8655 so true!...they r top to bottom arrogant..

This video is not only for Muslims it is also showing a human what to do in a toxic relationship I am a Muslim

i hv gone through dis nd 2 years wid dis narssisstic person i hv lost myself completely i was about to go into Depression i read a lot nd after i watched dis video i got tremendous courage to fight back nd i ask help from Allah Alhamdullilah i got my divorced after struggle a lott but now im free Allah is the best of sustainer and dats true 💯 indeed

May Allah protect us from getting doomed by such person Ameen

Alhamdulillah for this. Thank you. Women need more on this & men too. Everyone needs to be educated. May Allah bless us all✨ please post more of this & related topics as this. This will help a lot in many ways🙏🏻

This speech is very important and it should be done in mosque and at the time of nikkah

Alhamdulillah May Allah bless you for sharing the most important talk which should be addressed in jummah

My father was alcoholic and he used to hit my mother, he abused verbally and emotionally as well. I have been alcoholic for 10 years. I return to Allah. Because only Allah can have mercy on us. Not the lover, not the alcohol, not the drugs, not even the people around you you call friends. May Allah bless you all. Alhamdulillah. Astaghfirullah. Allahu Akbar. Subhan Allah.

@abelievereverrising283

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you are well sister, alcohol won't solve anything and can lead to depression and death. Health problems are the last thing anyone wants. May Allah help the Ummah,

Masha Allah Good lecture May Allah guide all the spouses to treat them with humanily manner and love or care Ameen jazkaAllah kahir

Thanks Allah I have my good job and my properties. The first day a man ever think he can abuse me, I will be gone miles away from him. Cause I don't take no nonsense from no man.

I literally cried watching this video, cause this is how my father treats my mother

Everyone should follow this

Jazak Allah khair brother for giving khutba regarding this issue

Subhan Allah ,, 1st time i ever listened such type ov khutba , Ma Shaa Allah👏🏻

I wish all abusers who never regret will see what they have done in the Day of Judgment and will get Hell as punishment. Ameen.

May Allah bless us :)

@arejfzoon5873

5 жыл бұрын

Ameen SummAameen InShaaALLAAH 💖

@fatimareveredo4005

5 жыл бұрын

Aameen.

I REALLY ENJOYED THIS LESSON MASHA ALLAH MASHA ALLAH TABARAKALLAH ALHAMDULILLAH FOR THE GIFT OF LIFE

Jazak’Allah khair for this video! I can’t thank you enough for it and it’s so needed dor me right now. I am dealing with emotional and mental and financial abuse since 6 years. I always believed it was all my fault and I deserve this treatment. It’s refreshing to hear that no one’s deserves this but it’s hard to take a step back and reflect on it as the manipulation is going on for so long and i don’t know how to get out of it. I‘ve got 2 young girls. And i can‘t leave him and go back to my country. He must agree on that and i know he never will. I‘ve got no one in this country apart from him and my two daughters.

@promax9159

4 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry for you, Which country you belong to ?

@goldenrain87

4 жыл бұрын

pro max i’m in the uk

Thank you for this message

Thank you brother for this video.

Lots of women get emotionally and physically abused, it’s sad! But remember is true is NOT you, its them, it’s they problem walk away from them, leave in hands on Allah! So many people have a terrible heart don’t make ur heart with hate and fear , live your life because life is short so make the most it! Remember you was born alone for a reason and that reason is that you are strong enough to do what ever you like and what ever makes you happy. Do it today make ur life better! I am not saying is gonna be easy but with time it will be easy and you can be happy. Someone who mentally and physically abuses you doesn’t love you and doesn’t respect you and you way better off alone then living every moment of miserable life! may Allah bless you and protect you all from all the evil and heartless people out there🙏

Very beautiful khutbah,, Maa Shaa Allah TabarakAllah, JazakAllah khair, may Allah guide us Aameen

Subhanallah the last 3 days things were out of my hand I got to the point where I didn’t want live anymore then I prayed I felt ease but still struggling inshaaa allah make Dua for a sister 🙏🏿

My sister has been abused emotionally and physically. She’s not strong enough to leave him. He’s been so abusive that she doesn’t have any self esteem left. She has been on this marriage for 21 years.

@alexawinter9193

3 жыл бұрын

t she has been emotionally drained as a sister you should persuade her Show her the video Help her understand why 21 years she has suffered she has the right to be happy

@petrichor499

3 жыл бұрын

Report him to the police on her behalf. Be the support she needs. Ask Allah for help.

I'm suffering for 14 yrs ..and having 13 yrs only daughter. ..In my X husband doesn't trip me us a wife and mother of her daughter. ..but I heard some hadis say don't leave your salah so you can save your life in haram. ... But after all that yrs I devours him and Alhamdulillah I have a man who trit me a wife and his afraid of Allah. ...sukran. .

Now am very grateful 🙏 of my dad he cooks for my mum and provide our needs everyday ❤️🙏 thanks to Allah i wish i have desame treatment from my own husband in the future Ameen

MashaAllah..great message and reminder

Im going through this in a bad way.

@whisperingwhiskerss4877

4 жыл бұрын

Sister May Allah free you from harm Ameen

Great advice and great video thank you for sharing!

Very powerful points. Reminder is needed.

Very informative talk indeed. I appreciate the truthfulness and sincerity of the speaker. This talk should be shared on massive level to eradicate fakeness from Islam. We need to only fear Allah and base our actions upon true Islamic teachings.